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Staying Aligned with our Authentic Self · Lavender Mind

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  Hey. Welcome to Lavender Mind podcast.
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  A podcast to help anyone remember
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  how to live only in this moment because
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  you know what? It's the only one we
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  have. Hey. Welcome to Lavender Mind. I'm your
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  host, Katie Blanco.
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  If you're new here, welcome to the show.
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  And if you've been here before, welcome back.
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  As always, it helps my show to grow.
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  If awesome people like you share it with
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  a friend, press that check above, or leave
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  a review. I have been very busy lately
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  moving my kiddos and
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  doing some cleaning
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  of houses
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  so that they can move on to the
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  next location for college. I've been cleaning a
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  lot of windows, and one thing I've noticed
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  is in South Louisiana, we have this black
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  film that kinda builds on the windows. And
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  when you clean them really well
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  with your rag, you'll see that black on
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  your on your rag, but then it's so
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  nice when you look through the window because
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  the light can really come through, and it
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  really shines through and makes those windows look
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  nice. And the point to this is I
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  think that we all have access
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  to shine up our windows
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  and to have that really beautiful light that
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  is able to shine through
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  when we
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  access our authentic self. And that's what I
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  wanna talk about today. I think that we
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  all have 2 dimensions to who we are.
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  We have, like, our personal personality level, and
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  then we all have this deeper level inside,
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  the side, the inside that is always there,
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  that we always have access to.
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  It's that authentic self that
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  is accessible,
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  and I wanna talk to you about some
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  ways to access
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  that authentic self today.
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  Our authentic self is that peace inside
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  of us that is available, and it offers
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  peace, a calm, and a joy. And sometimes
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  we notice it when we're in nature, when
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  we're really not doing anything. Maybe we're at
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  the beach,
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  and we just notice that calm
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  sense of self that is there when we
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  are just noticing
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  and paying attention to just our senses and
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  we're out of our thinking mind. We we
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  do this naturally a lot of times in
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  nature. Maybe you're in the mountains
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  and you do the same thing. You just
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  breathe in the air and your thinking mind
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  is
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  not really there anymore. We're not really
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  in doing mode, but we're more in
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  this being type of mode, and we are
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  not using labels to perceive what's around us,
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  but it's kind of this inner stillness
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  that we have inside this peaceful feeling and
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  this peaceful part of us, this
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  authentic self, really, whatever you wanna call it.
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  There are ways to develop that piece of
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  us so that when we have interactions with
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  others others or when our outer circumstances
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  are not super amazing
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  and we
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  sometimes wanna crawl out of our skin, when
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  we have access
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  or we develop this
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  authentic self a little bit more, it helps
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  us to stay calm in the storms.
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  A few practical ways that we can have
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  access to this authentic self inside
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  is to observe ourself, maybe objectively notice
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  how you act and react, especially in challenging
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  situations.
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  Just like an orange, when it's squeezed, it's
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  got orange juice inside, and this is to
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  say that when things hit the fan,
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  are you
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  squeezing orange juice, or are you squeezing stress,
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  or what's coming out of you when things
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  don't go
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  your way? Because our circumstances
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  are not controllable, but the inside of us
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  is. And so when we also are in
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  more alignment with our values,
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  then we have
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  better access
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  to this
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  authentic self. When we think about what is
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  important to us and
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  we are in alignment with that and we
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  keep our core values intact, that also helps
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  for us to stay closer to this authentic
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  self.
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  Another way to access this is to
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  have self acceptance
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  and acceptance of others, loving our flaws and
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  recognizing that we're a work in progress.
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  And then there's also a non doing way
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  to access this. There is that space that
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  we speak about. There is a space
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  when we get quiet and when we are
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  in nature and we don't label and we
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  just observe. That quiet space
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  when we stop and we take in life
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  with a pause and just quiet space,
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  When all the noise
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  goes away and we just look around a
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  room or maybe you're in a subway and
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  you just look around at everyone without judging
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  and without labels,
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  This also gives us access to that quiet
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  space that's always available inside. And like I
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  said earlier,
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  the sounds of the ocean
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  give us that type of space.
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  It's available, and once you realize how to
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  access it, you have it at any time.
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  You can go within when you're feeling a
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  little out of control. You can just take
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  a minute to take a pause and not
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  react or not say the words that are
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  coming to your mind, but just to give
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  that pause before you have that reaction.
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  And when we do this, it allows for
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  so much peace. It's like we're, like, a
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  lampshade. This is analogy that I read or
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  listened to from Eckhart Tolle, and he says
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  that we become more like a lampshade with
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  the light able to pass through us. The
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  light is more available when we have access
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  to our more authentic self. So
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  I know that I wanna be more like
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  a lampshade
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  and allow that light to shine through. We
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  still have our personality.
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  It's just that the light is allowed to
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  come through because
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  we allow ourselves to go beyond our history,
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  and we go beyond our life situations,
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  and we access that authentic self that is
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  deep inside. It's inside you. It's inside me,
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  and it allows us to unpeel all that
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  heavy stuff and allows us to feel a
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  lightness
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  and a joy and a freedom. This type
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  of authentic self is available to you, and
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  it allows us to unpeel those conditions that
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  we're taught. It allows us to unpeel the
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  fears that we pick up along the way
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  as we grow up from childhood. And it's
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  never too late too late to develop it.
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  That illumination
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  is possible, and we all have access to
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  this authentic self. It's less affected
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  by the outer circumstances
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  in our lives. We live true to what
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  is important to our heart and soul, and
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  we live
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  less worried about what the world thinks.
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  Not to say that we don't live a
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  normal everyday life, but we just live that
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  life with a light that is able to
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  shine through.
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  Because we all have our personalities,
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  but then we all have this deeper authentic
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  self, this presence,
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  this stillness, this essence,
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  whatever you wanna call it, your soul. And
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  when we show up with our authentic self,
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  we're able to shine our light a lot
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  brighter on a world that sometimes feels a
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  little bit dim. So, again, some practical ways
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  to
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  access that are to observe yourself. Just notice
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  your reactions.
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  Take an inventory of them without judgment, but
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  just notice how you react to certain things,
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  and maybe next time have a bit of
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  a redo. And another way is just to
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  stay in alignment with your values.
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  Sometimes our stress comes from when we are
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  not doing things
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  that align with the values that we have
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  deep inside.
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  And then a third way is just that
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  self acceptance,
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  not only of ourselves, but of others, just
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  loving our flaws and
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  knowing that we're all a work in progress.
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  And then, again, that non doing way is
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  just taking time to have that space,
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  that quiet time
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  that we can all access when we're in
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  nature,
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  that quiet time
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  when we
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  look around in nature or wherever we are,
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  maybe it's your living room,
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  looking around and just not labeling, not judging,
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  but just
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  being in the space quietly
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  and having that calm sense that's deep inside.
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  Today was kind of a deeper concept. I
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  hope I made
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  sense, and I hope that together we can
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  all access
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  this lampshade,
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  this part of us that has the ability
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  to have that light pass through us, that
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  authentic self that we all have available. It
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  just kinda gets
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  hard to see just like the windows
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  at my daughter's house. You know, we just
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  have to find the ways to
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  wipe off all the judgment and wipe off
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  all the
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  things that are not in alignment with our
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  values
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  and just notice
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  without judging
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  that
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  we are a work in progress and that
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  we all have
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  this piece deep inside.
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  We all have access to it.
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  Sometimes we just have to slow down
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  and just take time to notice that it's
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  there.
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  And sometimes
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  it is also available
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  when we're not doing things all the time,
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  but we are just being,
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  which is sometimes easier said than done because
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  I know we all have those large to
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  do lists, and there are so many things
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  to be accomplished in a day. But sometimes,
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  maybe when you're just walking to your car,
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  just taking that minute to
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  access that calm inside
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  or just noticing the breeze
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  when you are heading into the house,
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  that quiet space that's available inside, that authentic
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  self that you have inside so that you
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  can share it with the world. I hope
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  this helps. I hope together we can plant
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  some seeds of resilience and joy. Have an
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  amazing day.