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All right, so today, ladies and gentlemen, yes,
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today is another great show, another great topic.
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And I think those are some interesting things
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that a lot of us don't realize is
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that these changes that we have in our
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Without any further ado, guys, let's kick this
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Hello, everyone.
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Once again, welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I am your host, John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a passionate lifelong learner.
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And pretty soon, I will be a published
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author.
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This week, we are talking all about seeing
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clearly.
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We're exploring a powerful life skill that shapes
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relationships, leadership, and opportunity.
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The ability to speak clearly is something that
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a lot of people miss, but it's something
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that we have to understand, because if we
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don't understand it, well, then we're going to
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get caught in the loop, and we're going
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to be wondering why things don't work.
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Communication, guys, is more than words.
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It's how ideas move, how trust is built,
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and how leadership develops.
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People often believe influence comes from status or
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authority, but real influence, guys, comes from something
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much simpler, clear communication.
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When your voice is clear, people understand you.
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When your words are honest, people trust you.
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When your message is calm and confident, people
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listen to you.
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Many conflicts, misunderstandings, and lost opportunities in life
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come from poor communication.
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When we rush our words, hide behind vague
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language, or speak without clarity, we weaken our
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influence.
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But when we learn to speak with confidence
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and clarity, our communication becomes powerful.
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Today, I'm going to explore some powerful ideas
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about speaking clearly, and how strengthening your voice
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strengthens your leadership, your relationships, and, of course,
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your overall life.
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So, if you're ready, guys, let's begin.
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Speak clearly.
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Yes.
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Number one, confidence grows through honesty.
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When your words reflect truth instead of performance,
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people sense authenticity.
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That's a real important one for us to
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gather.
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Authentic voices naturally carry confidence.
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They do.
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Clear voices earn respect.
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People respect individuals who communicate directly and avoid
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unnecessary confusion.
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In case you guys are wondering, this is
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Wednesday.
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It is March 18, 2026.
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And yes, guys, this is series five, and
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it is show number 12.
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And today is show number 12, and episode
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number five, all right?
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So communicate directly, right?
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And avoid unnecessary confusion.
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I think that's the name of the game.
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Number three, honest words build credibility.
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Credibility forms when people know your words can
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be trusted.
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Number four, authentic communication builds trust.
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Trust grows when communication feels genuine rather than
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it's scripted.
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Number five, calm speech carries power.
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Strong communicators do not need to shout.
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Calm confidence often speaks louder.
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Clear expression strengthens influence.
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The clearer your message, the easier it is
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for others to understand and follow your ideas.
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Number seven, guys, honest voices inspire confidence.
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When leaders speak truthfully, people feel safe believing
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in their direction.
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Number eight, guys, calm conviction builds authority.
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Authority grows from clarity and conviction, not volume.
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Number nine, confidence grows through truth.
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Truth removes the stress of pretending and allows
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your voice to strengthen.
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Number 10, guys, authentic voices lead change.
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Real change begins when people communicate honestly about
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what matters in their lives.
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Number 11, clear communication strengthens leadership.
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Leaders who communicate clearly remove confusion and create
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direction.
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Number 12, courage supports expression.
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Sometimes the hardest part of communication is simply
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having the courage to speak honestly.
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Number 13, guys, calm confidence builds trust.
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People trust individuals who remain steady and composed
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while communicating.
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They're not trying to put a pitch on.
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They're not trying to impress somebody.
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They are just working to be authentic.
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And they're not working at it.
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They are authentic.
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So I think that's a very important thing
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to greatly understand.
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Number 14, honest speech inspires respect.
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Integrity in communication naturally earns respect.
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Yeah.
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Number 15, guys, clarity improves communication.
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Complicated language often hides weak thinking.
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You know, people that want to talk in
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jargon to lose you are not doing it
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because they're smart.
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They're doing it because they're not really clear,
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and they're hoping they're going to lose you
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and then make you go the way they
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tell you.
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Clear ideas are easier to express.
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When something is more complicated, it's not just
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harder for you to understand.
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It's also hard to execute.
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Number 16, guys, confidence strengthens your voice.
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The more you believe in your message, the
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stronger your voice becomes.
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Belief, right?
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Belief is the key for success.
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Number 17, authentic communication builds connection.
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People connect emotionally with messages that feel real
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and sincere.
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You know, you're always going to get people
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out there that are going to say, you
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know what, you did it this way, you
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did it that way.
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And you're going to be the leader.
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But they're going to try to take you
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down a peg, a two or three or
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10, because they think by putting you down
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is going to get you to stop.
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But the real problem isn't you.
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The problem is them being jealous of your
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leadership, of your success.
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Number 18, guys, calm speech builds credibility.
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Steady communication reflects control and maturity.
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You've been to seminars before, and you've probably
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even been in classrooms before.
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When a professor or a teacher talks with
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a certain quality being slow or just being
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very mindful to make sure you understand, that's
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mature communication.
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Those that come out there and try to
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talk and don't care if you get lost,
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they do what I call babbling.
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Number 19, guys, honest voices influence others.
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Honest voices, truth carries weight.
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People respond to voices they believe in.
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The catch, guys, is you can't always believe
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somebody immediately.
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No, it takes time for them to build
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credibility or trust with you.
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All right?
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That's something a lot of people have to
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understand.
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I think that's an important thing that most
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people miss.
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And the reason they miss it is because
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of the challenges going on, because of the
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fact that you can make that difference.
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But because of the outside environment or your
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internal environment and your current thoughts, you're not.
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And that doesn't mean you can't.
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It just means that because of the environment,
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internal, external, you're choosing to act a certain
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way.
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Number 20, guys, clear words strengthen leadership.
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Now, I said this once before, guys.
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Leadership is not born.
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It is made.
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You learn how to become a leader.
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You don't become a leader to impress people.
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You become a leader to make change for
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the greater good of all concerned.
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Leadership is not dictatorship.
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A lot of you might think that.
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That's not what leaders do.
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Leaders inspire others to want to follow.
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Clear words strengthen leadership.
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Great leaders simplify complex ideas so others can
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act on them, not to knock them off
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their peg, not to discourage them.
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No, that's not what leadership is about.
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It's not what leadership is about.
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Leadership is about taking your skills that you
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were born with or the ones that you've
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honed or made better and using them in
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action so other people can benefit from them.
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Maybe you're a great reader or speaker.
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Maybe you want to give time to some
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communities where you can sit and do a
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reading hour.
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There was a National Read Across America Day.
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Your skills to you are meaningful, but your
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skills to other people are priceless.
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Just don't take those skills and make it
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like you're the best in the world.
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You're good, okay?
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But don't let that go to your head.
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Even if you're very good, it's okay.
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Don't let it go to your head.
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Don't let it change your attitude of being
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this conceited person that nobody wants to work
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with or talk to.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people wrestle with in life, and it's the
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concept that we as people believe something for
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the way we're doing it.
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But sometimes the way we're doing it is
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not the best way.
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So we always should be open to change.
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Number 21, guys, courage improves communication.
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Speaking honestly often requires stepping outside comfort zones.
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I've said this before, guys.
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Success happens when you're starting to become uncomfortable.
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I didn't say painful.
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I said uncomfortable, and I think that's something
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that a lot of people miss in their
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lives.
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They think they've got to be a pain.
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They think they've got to be working 100
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million hours a day.
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That's burnout.
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That's not working smart.
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That's sapping your energy.
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Number 22, guys, authentic speech builds impact.
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Authenticity multiplies the power of every message.
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If it is authentic.
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If it's not authentic, then it's going to
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be like, well, it's just like any other
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message.
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It doesn't have really any strong importance to
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it, and I think that's something that a
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lot of people here, I think a lot
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of people miss.
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Number three, guys, calm expression builds trust.
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People listen longer when communication feels grounded and
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thoughtful, and it's personalized.
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You got an extra bonus.
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Let's take sending emails for a moment or
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sending connections.
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Say, hey, you know, I thought your profile
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was great, and I want to connect with
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you.
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What the heck is that about?
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I notice that we have some connections in
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such and such area, and I also realize
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you're in this field, which I greatly enjoy
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doing, and I thought it would be great
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that we connected.
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No agenda, no pitch.
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A lot of people coming to LinkedIn, they
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connect, and then bam, gee, I'm an expert
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in such and such.
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I had a guy, I think it was
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just last week, and he sent me a
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connection request, and I accepted the connection request.
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Seemed pretty genuine.
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And then he became a typical salesman.
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At first, he was like, you know, very
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nice and very laid back.
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Then he's like, well, you know, I help
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people do this, this is okay.
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And so what are you looking to do
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that?
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I'm not, block.
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Sales has always been a numbers game, right?
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You get enough no's, you'll eventually get some
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yes's.
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But it's not a game where we try
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to intimidate people, because if we do that,
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even if we win the sale, I don't
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care.
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All right?
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Your reputation has just tanked.
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And if it has at that moment, trust
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me, it will very soon.
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So I wrote back to this guy on
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LinkedIn, explained to him that what you're doing
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is great reaching out.
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However, your tactic in your second follow-up
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is much too aggressive.
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He didn't listen to me.
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He just figured that somebody would probably listen
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to him.
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And I think that's the wrong philosophy, the
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way they come across.
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Or, you know, I looked at your resume,
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and I was very impressed, and that's where
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I want to connect with you.
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Why?
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What were you impressed about?
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So I'm like, I'm glad you read my
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resume.
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What areas in particular drew your interest?
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And then they fall off the table.
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They fall off the map like they've never
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even been there before.
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Honest voices, guys, strengthen influence.
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Honest voices.
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Those are not voices yelling at the top
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of their lungs.
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Those are not voices that are trying to
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be deceitful.
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No, they're voices that are here to share
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the truth.
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Integrity strengthens long-term influence, guys.
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It does.
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But many people don't stay in that mode
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long.
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Maybe they start with integrity, and then they
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get disappointed in a week or two that
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it's not happening, so they become this sly
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salesperson, deceitful, cunning, you know, the kind just
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looking for the sale.
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You've heard the phrase before, you can get
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more with honey than you can with vinegar.
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So when you're sweet to these people, don't
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do it with a false pretense.
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Actually be sweet.
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Be caring, okay?
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Don't try to be a chameleon and then
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go for their heart.
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See, that's what a lot of salespeople do.
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They reel them in.
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They talk to them.
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And then, bam, they hit them.
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They got them in that vulnerable state, right?
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And they figure this person is their greatest
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friend.
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And there are techniques to get people to
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bond with you.
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But if you do this stuff with bad
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intention, it's going to boomerang back and hurt
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you.
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It's going to hurt the other person first,
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but it's going to come back and kick
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you.
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And you know what?
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Because you really are doing a disservice to
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you and the other person.
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And it might take them some time before
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they wake up.
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But trust me, once they wake up, you
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are gone.
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You're out of here.
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Number 25, guys, clear communication supports leadership.
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Strong teams depend on transparent communication.
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That's things like accountability, right?
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That's things like ownership.
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That's things like not playing the blame game.
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Well, it wasn't me.
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Maybe it was you.
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It was this person.
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It's not about the blame game, guys.
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We're not in high school.
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Number 26, confidence strengthens expression.
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Confidence removes hesitation and strengthens delivery, almost effortlessly.
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When someone operates from an authentic core backbone,
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other people around them are like, huh, that
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person's pretty much something, right?
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I'll give you an example.
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I told you how I grew pretty big
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in a group.
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Now, I'm not sharing that to boast, but
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I'm sharing it for a reason.
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So I had a tactic to become one
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of the top leaders in a couple of
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these groups, not to sell to them, but
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to establish credibility.
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So this one group, there's a post on
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a Sunday you do, which is like I
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do it like a nostalgic memory post.
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Any day but Wednesday, well, only Wednesday is
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the only day you can post business stuff.
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So other days you could be, and I
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didn't want it too close, so I made
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it far apart.
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When you start getting people to interact and
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respond with you because of a true commonality,
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a history in a town, a funny story,
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right?
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When you do that or, hey, where was
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I in this picture?
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You get people that are going to communicate
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with you, that are going to collaborate with
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you.
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They know, number one, you're not trying to
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sell them.
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They know that you actually are probably a
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good person, but it takes time to build
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that.
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Now you could destroy it by posting all
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this other crap, and then you'll just go
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right down the hamper, right?
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So realize that by you building that credibility,
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other people are going to be like, oh,
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wait a minute.
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I remember that guy.
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So on my Wednesday, if I post a
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public service announcement about technology, oh, I remember
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that guy.
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He's the one that shared that story about
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that road, that it's an optical illusion, and
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people were basically on the road and taking
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their break off, and the car was rolling
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backward.
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It was an optical illusion, and many people
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were getting tickets.
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You get my point.
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When you put together stuff because of a
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commonality, and you're not trying to sidestep, maybe
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you want to build rapport for other things,
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that's fine, but you're not trying to do
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something to harm people.
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You're generally interested.
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And salespeople that are not genuinely interested might
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not show up clearly the first time, but
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trust me, you will recognize them, and you
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will say, there's the door.
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Number 27, guys, authentic voices earn respect.
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Earn respect.
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I didn't say they get paid to respect.
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I didn't say they're forced respect.
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They earn respect.
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I talked about media lots of times.
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I talked about paid media and owned media.
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Paid media is media you pay for the
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media to say something about you.
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Owned media is media you already have.
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Nonpaid media is media that will endorse you,
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not because you told them to, but because
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of your merit, because of your value.
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People respect individuals who communicate honestly, even when
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it's difficult, right?
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It's difficult.
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People respect that.
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Calm conviction, number 28, builds authority.
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Calm conviction builds authority.
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Authority grows when your words reflect clarity and
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purpose.
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When they reflect clarity and purpose, that's when
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it happens for you guys.
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That's when things change for you.
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That's when, number 29, guys, honest communication builds
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credibility.
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Credibility forms through consistent truth in communication.
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That's somebody who is telling the truth, not
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because they have to, but because they want
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to.
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And these kinds of people establish patterns.
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They hang in there for the long game.
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They're not there for just today or just
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tomorrow.
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They're there for the long game.
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In other words, they're not there for, let's
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say, the immediate gratification.
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They're there for the long-term gratification.
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All right, that's important.
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Number 30, guys, speak with confidence.
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Your voice carries value.
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Learn to speak clearly and use it wisely.
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For when you do, it's like learning to
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use that tool that's been in your toolbox
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for a long time, the proper way, the
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proper way.
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Speaking clearly, guys, is not just about the
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presentation skills you have.
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No, it's more than that.
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It's about your integrity, your courage, your clarity,
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and your confidence.
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So they all kind of go hand in
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hand.
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And they do take time to build.
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I'm not going to lie to you about
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that.
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But when you build the core correctly, it
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lasts.
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When you build a good foundation on a
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building, it lasts.
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When you build a good reputation, you've got
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an earmark for life.
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When you learn to speak clearly, you remove
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the doubt and the confusion that people would
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see.
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When you speak honestly, you build trust.
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When you speak confidently, you inspire action.
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Your voice, ladies and gentlemen, has the power
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to shape ideas, strengthen relationships, and create change.
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The world does not need more noise, okay?
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It needs more clear voices speaking with authentic
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purpose.
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So ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to tell
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you this, and it's really important.
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Please choose your words carefully.
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And even though I said to you the
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most important thing is what you don't say,
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the second most important thing is how you
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say it.
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The words are the least important thing, but
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what you don't say and how you say
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them matter.
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So the delivery matters.
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And allow your voice to reflect the clarity
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of your vision.
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Thank you so much for joining me for
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another episode of Inspirations for Your Life.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, reminding you that when you
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see clearly, think clearly, speak clearly, your life
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begins to move with direction, confidence, and purpose.
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Until next time, keep learning, keep growing, and
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keep inspiring.
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Be well, everyone.