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Sister Wives Season 21 Episode 2 “Been There Done That” · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone. Hello, my name is Chris Farah, and this
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  Speaker 1: is Vanity Farah. And today I'm talking Sister Wives. It's
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  Speaker 1: season 21, episode 2. Been there, done that. Honey, let's talk.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, hi, I'm Chris. Either you're listening on
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  Speaker 1: Vanity Farah, which is my podcast, or you're on YouTube,
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  Speaker 1: maybe even looking at me, and that's, you know, a
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  Speaker 1: certain kind of, oh no, I'm wearing no makeup. I'm
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  Speaker 1: still dealing with this dye. Hi. Either way, hello. If
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  Speaker 1: you haven't yet, please comment, subscribe, like, follow the whole situation.
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  Speaker 1: It certainly helps me. I talk about pop culture and
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  Speaker 1: TV recaps like I'm doing today about the dumbest best
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  Speaker 1: show on television, Sister Wives. I, this is my Roman empire.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's the dumbest, best television show that I watch.
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  Speaker 1: And the reason why is nothing happens and everything happens.
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  Speaker 1: It is so small, right? It's the smallest reality show
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  Speaker 1: in the sense that it doesn't feel forced, right? It's
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  Speaker 1: like the slowest burn, but the highest payoff. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to say this, and this is for the most theater
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  Speaker 1: nerd listener I have. To me, Sister Wives is the
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  Speaker 1: closest to checkoff I'll get in a reality show format. Great. OK,
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  Speaker 1: so we're hot in the heels on all three ex-wives
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  Speaker 1: coming together, almost like they're forming a club to meet up,
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  Speaker 1: share pictures and recipes. Mary never wanted this. And here
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  Speaker 1: Mary is. She's walking in and Christine's like, oh, fuck.
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  Speaker 1: Christine had said things like once you burn a bridge,
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  Speaker 1: how do you go over it? So Christine has to
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  Speaker 1: answer the door. She does offer help. Christine is like
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  Speaker 1: people pleasing up a storm. You can really say that
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  Speaker 1: she like falls into that. And Mary, you know, is like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm fine, walks in. I think it's hilarious that Mary
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  Speaker 1: this season, again, is Christine Baranski with like a Reba
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  Speaker 1: 90s haircut. She walks in and the first thing she says,
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  Speaker 1: the first thing she says is literally something verbatim she's
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  Speaker 1: already told us and is negative in a negative tone. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I'm the only one that wanted to take pictures. And
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  Speaker 1: then everyone in the family was mad at me. And
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  Speaker 1: so I stopped. You literally, I feel like feel Janelle
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  Speaker 1: bite her lip and then just breathe and be like,
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  Speaker 1: let this, let this go. Because I think in Mary's mind,
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't understand how she comes across. But like, again,
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  Speaker 1: I want a therapist to be like, bitch, did you
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  Speaker 1: watch this? Look at that. Replay that. What's happening? Why?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you so mean walking in? Why are you
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  Speaker 1: talking about something that happened years ago? You guys have
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  Speaker 1: left this thing. Why are you trying to victimize yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Like they weren't nice enough to you. The woman with
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  Speaker 1: one kid and a camera. Well, they had 40 billion
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  Speaker 1: kids running around them. Okay. Maybe they were like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to post, take a picture all the
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  Speaker 1: time because I'm like busy. I mean, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you were really controlling about it. Can you just
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  Speaker 1: have taken candidates like a journalist or something? Okay. Like
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  Speaker 1: a war journalist, you know, we're just, they're just taking pictures, honey.
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  Speaker 1: You don't even know they're there. Okay. That's not Mary. Okay. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: Mary wants one thing in her life, which is Mary
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  Speaker 1: wants people to get how funny she is. Mary's funny.
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  Speaker 1: And she's pissed. And no one thinks that she's funny.
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  Speaker 1: My whole life, I've just been so funny, just making
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  Speaker 1: up all these jokes. These stupid, dumb, soulless people never laugh.
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  Speaker 1: They never laugh. I think that is... I am doing
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  Speaker 1: a character, obviously, based upon that. I think it's so funny.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's such a weird... Yeah, it's just such
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  Speaker 1: a fun, weird marriage. To be mad that people don't
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  Speaker 1: think you're funny and you're not funny is hilarious. It's
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  Speaker 1: actually hilarious. Isn't that weird? Okay, I'll stop talking about it. So,
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  Speaker 1: and it's funny because, like, Mary... if she could just
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  Speaker 1: not be passive aggressive or petty like what if mary
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  Speaker 1: was like i have the pictures i have uh obviously
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  Speaker 1: i wish i took more but i know that it
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  Speaker 1: was annoying like i don't know how mary could like
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  Speaker 1: rectify what she feels which is extreme anger or something
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  Speaker 1: or victimhood but it's funny to me because again like
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  Speaker 1: i already said she could just still take pictures but
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  Speaker 1: she knows she's controlling. And so I'm assuming she just
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  Speaker 1: was constantly wanting people to pose. Okay. So Janelle said
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  Speaker 1: in a very passing comment, but I guess everything is
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  Speaker 1: small and passing. So we'll make a big meal out
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  Speaker 1: of it. Don't worry about it. Janelle says that Maddie
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  Speaker 1: once told her that growing up, that Cody's kids were
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  Speaker 1: his soulmates. Like sure. He loved his wives. Not really.
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  Speaker 1: And definitely not Christine, you know, but he was obsessed
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  Speaker 1: with his kids and he was a great dad. It's
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  Speaker 1: interesting because, you know, surely now the Cody now, like,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't seem to have any sort of relationship or obligation
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  Speaker 1: or responsibility to anyone in the family, seemingly besides Robin,
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  Speaker 1: maybe Robin's kids. And, you know, we saw this kind
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  Speaker 1: of good dad Cody, like, in the early seasons. And...
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  Speaker 1: It must feel so confusing to have that kind of
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  Speaker 1: relationship with a parent where it's so strong and you
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  Speaker 1: feel so loved by this person and it changes. Now,
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  Speaker 1: one thing they have said before, which they didn't bring
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  Speaker 1: up in this one micro moment, was that Cody's also
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  Speaker 1: love of children seemed to stop at a certain age,
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  Speaker 1: like the age of opinion, the age of questioning. Something
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  Speaker 1: about that age or whatever it is for kids, and
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  Speaker 1: it definitely depends, you know, on the personality and probably
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  Speaker 1: like the gender or whatnot of like a certain 12, 14,
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  Speaker 1: 16 kind of person. And I don't think Aurora or
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  Speaker 1: Brianna is ever going to be there. Where they... are
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  Speaker 1: confident in the opinions that they are forming based upon
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  Speaker 1: their own life experiences. And then when they start to
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  Speaker 1: be like, well, this feels right for me and it's
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  Speaker 1: not right for you. Yeah, like a parent, especially a
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  Speaker 1: narcissist who can't wrap their mind or give grace to
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  Speaker 1: a whole other person or many people sharing space with them. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I would just be like, I'm done with you. Let
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  Speaker 1: me go on to the unfortunate baby factory I live
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  Speaker 1: in so that there's always someone younger just like Hollywood
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  Speaker 1: to take your place, you know, anyway. So, but it's
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  Speaker 1: also interesting because on the flip side, he could have
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  Speaker 1: always been a shitty father the whole time, but he was,
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  Speaker 1: he wasn't, there was something that he got from the kids. They,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like he played with them. He obviously played
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  Speaker 1: airplane and they loved him. And like, they all looked
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  Speaker 1: like him. There must've been like, it must be weird.
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  Speaker 1: and I'll never know this. And it must be weird
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  Speaker 1: to be surrounded by a bunch of kids that all
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  Speaker 1: look just like you. Like if you have a parent,
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  Speaker 1: if you're a parent right now, you have, I'm assuming
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  Speaker 1: one to four kids. If you have more, God bless you. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And then I would have to assume that your one
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  Speaker 1: to four kids were all young at, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: two years or younger, maybe. But to think that Cody
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  Speaker 1: at one point just had like 14 kids with like
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  Speaker 1: two to six months apart of each and they all
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  Speaker 1: had his exact face is like so weird. Like sure,
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  Speaker 1: some of them look like their moms, but like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: when they're kids, it's like, what a weird, trippy, like
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  Speaker 1: ego thing. Because then you have a bunch of Faces
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  Speaker 1: that look like you that are just looking up at
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  Speaker 1: adoration for you. I wonder what that does to a psyche. Okay, great. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: so these are like the psychiatric experiments you would have
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  Speaker 1: to do like with polygamous people over years. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how you would do them, but like, would that
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  Speaker 1: kind of years long situation make you And it's like
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  Speaker 1: a deep ego of yourself. You've just... I don't know. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'll stop talking about it. Anyway, literally nothing could happen
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  Speaker 1: in a 45-minute episode. I'll talk endlessly about one moment. They,
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  Speaker 1: the ladies... find a picture of them all doing like
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  Speaker 1: what they call the plague pose. And the plague pose
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  Speaker 1: is hierarchy. Mary's on top as the first wife and
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  Speaker 1: then Janelle's there. And then Christine, honey is sitting on
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  Speaker 1: the very bottom, that basement wife, honey. Now Mary's like, yeah, Christine,
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  Speaker 1: I really took it personally over this picture, but at
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  Speaker 1: the time she was just pregnant. So we made her
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  Speaker 1: sit down and Christine, honey, like, you know, this is
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  Speaker 1: the picture of trauma that represents her entire life. Janelle's like, look, Sure.
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  Speaker 1: We had long sleeves, but we weren't those other FDLS
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  Speaker 1: people with the braids and the Perry dresses. So, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the long hair, the big, big bangs. Yeah. Yeah. One
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  Speaker 1: thing that is interesting that they all can agree on,
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  Speaker 1: that they all like stand in together is that they
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  Speaker 1: can celebrate they are adults now and we get to
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  Speaker 1: say no. This is something Mary says because Christine, you know,
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  Speaker 1: is going to say no about not wanting to cook
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  Speaker 1: in the same kitchen as everyone and, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: having that boundary and then not feeling weird about it
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  Speaker 1: and being able to be like, that makes me uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: And Mary certainly doesn't want to do certain things with
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  Speaker 1: all of them. And so they all can kind of
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  Speaker 1: agree that they are happy to have an opinion and
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  Speaker 1: be able to live in it. And conversely, they also
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  Speaker 1: talk about the fact that everything that happened pre-Robin was
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  Speaker 1: this team-like effort to never think of each to individuals or,
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  Speaker 1: you know, their own selves, but to work on the family,
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  Speaker 1: to like give to the family. And that is one
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  Speaker 1: reason why they say that they were successful because they
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  Speaker 1: worked as a unit. And in a lot of ways,
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  Speaker 1: they were happy to showcase a, I guess, working unit
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  Speaker 1: plague family, right? And they all felt like they had
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  Speaker 1: a place. it's just crazy that they decide to do
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  Speaker 1: a reality show. They move, Robin comes in and it
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  Speaker 1: all falls apart because I can see how seemingly they
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  Speaker 1: were cogs in a machine. And yes, you have to
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  Speaker 1: just bite your tongue and say, you know, and just
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  Speaker 1: keep on, keep on and never really have, you know,
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  Speaker 1: your own say of what you want to do because
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  Speaker 1: of this. Right. Like all of that is true. So
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  Speaker 1: it's just, yeah, it's, It's part, I guess, of them
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  Speaker 1: all understanding the journey that they are taking separately, but
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  Speaker 1: as well as like together. They're obviously going to always
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  Speaker 1: be this understanding between these three women that no one
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  Speaker 1: else in the world gets. Not other polyg families because
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  Speaker 1: they've been on TV. Like, you know, not their friends
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  Speaker 1: that they like better. Christine and Janelle hate Mary. but
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  Speaker 1: Mary was there and was a part of it. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I would love, and they don't do it, like I
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  Speaker 1: really would love to watch them be in therapy and
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  Speaker 1: talk about this because they have been, they talk about
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  Speaker 1: it and you can hear the verbiage, but it's just
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  Speaker 1: so crazy. So this is where Christine, I guess, proposes
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  Speaker 1: an RV trip. And we talk about camping. We know
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  Speaker 1: Christine hated camping with the family. We know why. It's because...
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  Speaker 1: She says there was three wives, one Cody. And so
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  Speaker 1: Cody would just help set up the tent of whoever
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  Speaker 1: wife he was with. And it wasn't Christine usually. And Christine,
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  Speaker 1: you know, had all them kids and couldn't set things
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  Speaker 1: up and she has ADHD and she would just have
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  Speaker 1: to like set up, cook, clean, put away. And it
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  Speaker 1: was just a constant work, not being in your space
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  Speaker 1: for absolutely no glory. And that's why when Robin came
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  Speaker 1: and Robin wouldn't be doing any of that because she'd
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  Speaker 1: be like, sorry, Christine, I can't do breakfast. I'm braiding
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  Speaker 1: my hair. She'd be livid. And meanwhile, Cody's like, I
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  Speaker 1: love a hot woman. Thanks for taking the time to
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  Speaker 1: make yourself look good for me. You know, like Christine,
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  Speaker 1: it was a nightmare for Christine. And Christine doesn't have
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  Speaker 1: to share money with everyone now. So Christine could do
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  Speaker 1: things like buy a mobile home and be like, I
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  Speaker 1: live in a room now with my husband. Fake fireplace.
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  Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about a tent. It's funny,
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  Speaker 1: both Janelle and Christine have made mention, and Janelle in
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  Speaker 1: this episode, over never wanting to deal with a man
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  Speaker 1: that's vain ever again. Or that's into aesthetics. Because I think, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think there was, because of that, a pressure he
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  Speaker 1: put on them, as well as a priority where he
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't deliver on things that had to happen for the
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  Speaker 1: family because he was prioritizing his own looks or the
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  Speaker 1: looks of like certain toys, like cars and stuff. And
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  Speaker 1: we knew that early on because one of the first things,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe the clockiest clock where I knew this
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  Speaker 1: was going to be a weird fucking thing was season one,
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  Speaker 1: like episode, I mean, one. Cody has a family. with
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  Speaker 1: all these kids, three wives getting a fourth, and somehow
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  Speaker 1: his brain thought it'd be okay to spend an obscene
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  Speaker 1: amount of money on some two-seater, was it a Lexus convertible?
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  Speaker 1: What was that? It was like that Lexus convertible. I
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  Speaker 1: remember my cousin and I looked at that and we
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  Speaker 1: were like, what? What? Because it was obvious just like
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  Speaker 1: by the day-to-day life that these people aren't super wealthy.
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  Speaker 1: That's one of like, what, three cars? You can't have
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  Speaker 1: that car. That makes no logical sense. It means you're
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  Speaker 1: prioritizing shit. That's like not it. Janelle also hates Cody
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  Speaker 1: for the fact that Cody would, I guess, never do things.
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  Speaker 1: She is very passive aggressive about what she does now
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  Speaker 1: in her life, sans Cody, and I guess in relationship
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  Speaker 1: to her daughter. that in Caleb, which is that they're doers.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's so interesting the way that she can
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  Speaker 1: talk about that. So anyway, when Christine proposes them all
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  Speaker 1: going on a camping trip, Mary's like, what the fuck
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  Speaker 1: are you talking about? Are you crazy? Bitch, we're just
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  Speaker 1: seeing each other for the first time and you didn't
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  Speaker 1: even want to see me. So why would I, or
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  Speaker 1: why would you think it'd be okay? Or how are
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  Speaker 1: we going to even navigate going on a camping trip?
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  Speaker 1: You don't even want to cook in the same kitchen
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  Speaker 1: as me. Camping is more than one hour, more than
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  Speaker 1: one day stuck in the with not even your own
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  Speaker 1: comforts that can at least like relieve you. And I
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  Speaker 1: get it. Like Mary's right. And Mary, the funny thing
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  Speaker 1: is Mary is like, Christine's crazy for that. So Mary
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  Speaker 1: can't wrap her mind around the fact that Christine never
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  Speaker 1: wants to cook with her again. And Mary goes back
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  Speaker 1: and forth to being like, maybe I was controlling. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: I was. I just, Mary certainly feels like Christine, it
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  Speaker 1: was a slob. And that's weird because Cody also was like,
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  Speaker 1: she ate so sloppily. And Mary, to me, and this
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  Speaker 1: is my interpretation, is like, look, when you share a
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  Speaker 1: kitchen with someone, some people want to clean the dishes
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  Speaker 1: right after they're done eating. And some people will wait
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  Speaker 1: till the end of the day. And then some people
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  Speaker 1: think it's okay to wait till the next day. And
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  Speaker 1: that's Christine. Disgusting, sloppy Christine. And so I, and it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I want to be like two things. First of all, Mary,
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  Speaker 1: if the dishes needed to be cleaned, could you not
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  Speaker 1: just clean them? Were you controlling because you thought it
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  Speaker 1: was your bossy boss boss first wife hat to like
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  Speaker 1: tell people what to do? It's like, I'm assuming, and
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  Speaker 1: I've never been in like a multi-person household like that,
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  Speaker 1: that if something you want needs to be done, you
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  Speaker 1: have the option of, if you have someone that's really
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  Speaker 1: great at doing it, asking them and then maybe doing
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  Speaker 1: something for their behalf. But if not, just get it done.
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  Speaker 1: Just do it then. What was Mary doing besides washing
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  Speaker 1: dishes to like be mad at someone for not washing dishes? Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So it's funny because Mary really is like, is it
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  Speaker 1: cooking that she doesn't want to do with us is
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  Speaker 1: it the space just being in this small space is
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  Speaker 1: it me and i'm gonna be like girl it's you
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  Speaker 1: it's surely you because christine's friend with janelle they've already
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  Speaker 1: cooked together there's only one other person like left in
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  Speaker 1: this room and yeah she doesn't want to cook with
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  Speaker 1: robin but we all feel like robin didn't cook so
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: moot point Mary says something also small and interesting. At
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  Speaker 1: one point, she's like, you know what? This meeting is
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  Speaker 1: illuminating the fact that I need to do more work
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  Speaker 1: on myself because I'm sure it's triggering for her. And
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  Speaker 1: you might think, and it's funny because like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: mental health is a journey, right? And there's so many
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  Speaker 1: different aspects of it. Some people get on medication and
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  Speaker 1: have therapy and, you know, things are going well. And
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  Speaker 1: then they start to be like, oh, I got this.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need the medication. And sometimes they're right. And
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  Speaker 1: sometimes they're not right. You just never, it's hard to
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  Speaker 1: judge yourself. It's hard to see how you're doing because,
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  Speaker 1: you know, there's so many, you know, factors. The mind-body
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  Speaker 1: connection is hard. Okay, so basically Christine says Janelle was chill, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: but Mary wasn't. Christine's like, Mary was hard, really hard
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  Speaker 1: to live with. Really hard. I mean, it takes her
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  Speaker 1: 45 years to get through that sentence, and we really
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  Speaker 1: can feel it. It certainly does feel like it was hard.
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  Speaker 1: They talk about Cody and Robin not filming, and Christine's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: it's their way of doing their own thing. And Janelle's like, woohoo!
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  Speaker 1: Christine says Robin you know, not going on the apology
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  Speaker 1: tour was telling that she sort of like assumed that
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  Speaker 1: Robin would because David did. Now, both Janelle and Mary
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh, thank fucking God. Janelle was like. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want fucking Robin there. Robin wasn't there for the
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  Speaker 1: majority of our relationship. Why would she have to be
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  Speaker 1: there now? Now, Mary says something that I also love.
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  Speaker 1: Mary is like, oh my God, I'm so happy that
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  Speaker 1: fucking Robin wasn't there. Because every time Robin is around,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: she feels the need to interpret, sorry, interpret Cody to me. Bitch,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I met Cody when Cody was 17. I had been
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: hearing that person's voice for the entirety of my life. What,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: you think I just fucking landed here? You think I
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: don't understand the language this asshole speaks? What are you
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: talking about? I think that is so wildly entitled that
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Robin had done that and continued to do that. And
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I think that in Robin's mind, she's like, no, no, no, no.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: It's just that Cody and I are soulmates. I speak Cody.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: She says that a bunch. I speak Cody. So crazy
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: because before I got here, Cody didn't understand how to
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: communicate with any of these women. They didn't have any
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: sort of working unit that ever worked. I'm glad I'm
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: here because what I do is I take Cody's words
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: and I soften them. I make them palatable for you
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: while also making sure Cody's true motives, the fact that
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: he hates all of you and only wants to be
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: with me and we're just lying to you guys in
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: order to spend every moment and money of you guys,
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: every moment together and all the money of this family together.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I want to make sure, because I'm smarter than him,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: that I can keep that up by interpreting all of
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: him to you. Like that is what Robin did. And
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Mary was like, what the fuck? Because the truth of
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: the matter is there was no need for Robin to
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: interpret Cody to Mary. Cody couldn't even talk to Mary
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: because he hated her. So all Robin did is lie
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: to Mary. Oh no, he wants to, you know, just
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: keep on, keep on, just staying, staying. Like Robin wanted
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: to keep the family together. So Robin's whole agenda was that,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: despite the fact that Cody was a mean asshole to
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: everyone else in the family and they didn't deserve that. Fuck,
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: fuck Robin. Okay. So anyway, okay. So... That's just interesting
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: to me. Christine supposes to them, well, what would happen?
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: What would have happened if then when Robin came into
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: the family, if Cody had just had the confidence, the
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: strength to realize that he surely had fallen in love
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: with this person who, and he had never experienced love
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: like this before. And, um, he never wanted to ever
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: have to deal with anyone else again. Why he couldn't
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: just come to us in that moment and acknowledge the
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: fact that he's now in love And let us all
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: go like on our merry ways. No pun intended, Mary,
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: because you're literally the most anti-Mary. You are literally anti-Mary. Happy, whatever,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: not being beholden to some asshole for 10 more years
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: watching this happen. Why couldn't that have happened? And, you know,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Janelle's like, well, I don't think he would be willing
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: to admit that. And Mary was like, honey, he didn't know.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: And then this kind of ends with Mary being like,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: I need to have a conversation with Christine before anything happens.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Because like if we're going to hang out again and
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: she said she hates me, like what the fuck am
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: I supposed to do around her? Which I get. So
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: then we kind of break up and we get all
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: this women having their own like, you know, rest of
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: the episode solo scenes. Mary's the next scene. Mary and Ron,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: we remember him. Ron's been lifting weights on me and
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: he's definitely tan. Go floating down a river. She makes
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: a sex joke because now Mary is ready to fucking
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: put it in, right? She's lost some LBs and she,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: you know, is horny. She makes a sex joke about
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: going all the way down the river, and he doesn't
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: pick up on it. He's a little daft. He says
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: he wants to go slow, and surely I feel like
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: he is. I don't think I could have the patience
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: for this person. But Mary's a different person, so good
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: for her. She keeps saying that he's really nice, and
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: therefore a romantic relationship is a possibility. She also says
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: that he's a really chill guy. That's why she likes
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: him because she's that as well. And I feel like
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I wish Christine could just pop up and be like,
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: what did you just say? Bitch, you ain't chill. I
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: didn't see you chill in that kitchen. Does Mary know herself?
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Mary's just like, I'm just a chill, funny girl. Okay.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: So then she's like, well, okay, maybe I have my
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: moments of not being chill. I'm like, girl, pick a lane.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: You just know yourself. He then says, Mary, they're like
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: floating down a river, honey, lazy river, but you know,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: it's not one in a hotel. He's like, I like
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: spending time with you. You're easy to spend time with
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: and you're funny. And they hold hands. Now he's of
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: course says the two things that I say that she's not,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: and she has always wanted to be. So when he
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: says that she is ecstatic, she squeals. She's like, you
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: see the joy leave her, like having to leave her body.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: She can't even deal with it. She's like, thank you.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: Thank you for thinking that I'm funny. I love when
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: people think I'm funny because I am. they go to
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: dinner and then he's like, well, how's dating? And she's like, good.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: She doesn't know how to act around people. And I
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: get it. Sometimes she's like, I don't know how to
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: act around Christine. I don't know how to act around him.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: Are we dating? What do you mean? Dating you? Am
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I supposed to act how you, am I supposed to
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: also ask how's dating life for you? And then what
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: do you tell me about the women you're not sleeping with.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. And then
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: just sit here and listen to that. So I'm not
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: one of them. Like, it's a very weird respect thing, right?
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Maybe he's just trying to break the ice. He's like,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I want to move slow because women often want to
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: jump into a relationship after the second or third day
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: with me. Have you seen me? I own a business
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: and I'm tall. Mary's like, yeah, you do own a
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: business and you're tall. Check, check. And you think I'm funny.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I'll never find that ever again. And Mary's like, oh,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: are you slow? You move slow? I didn't notice. Tell
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: me more. Then he says that he has avoidant tendencies.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: He almost starts to cry talking about this. Like he
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: can avoid people because the thought of getting hurt is
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: too much. He certainly is avoidant. If you are one,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: if you could turn around and be like, I'm avoidant
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: and also be like, I'm, I'm, I go really slow.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: Like I just, sometimes I'm like, if you really like
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: someone though. wouldn't you want to see them? Like, wouldn't
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: you want to have sex with them a little bit?
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know. It's like, how big, they've been like,
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: this is two seasons. We know that there's like four
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: years between seasons of sister wives. They've been hanging out
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: for a long time. Okay. Christine. Oh my God. Christmas.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Christine bought a motor home. God bless honey. Cause she
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: gets to now have a separate bedroom with her man, honey,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: her monogamous man. And I said, there was a fake fireplace.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: So do I, um, And she's telling David, who never
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: wants to hear about her past ever again, about her past,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: but most notably recent past, about the weekend that she
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: spent with Mary, you know, and they were happy and
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: they had photos and they switched. And then she's like, yeah,
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: I just don't know what to do. I asked them,
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with my ring or
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: their rings. He's like, oh, I think you should all
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: melt them down. She's like, yes, yes. And he's like,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: and then make one big ring. And she's like, what?
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: And he's like, give it to Cody. And she's like,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Why did I marry you? Dumbass, dumbass suggestions like this.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Then David says that this doesn't feel like his home.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: And Christine has to deal with the fact that Cody
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: said the same thing. And that Christine, I guess, has
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: her own, you know, moments of controlling this. Where I
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: guess that she just like takes over spaces. I'm like,
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: is it because he can't decorate? What? Listen, I'm not
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: saying Christine has the best style, but I know David's
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: decorations are going to be horrible. Is it just that
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: he doesn't know where things are? Does he ask her
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: where things are all the time? He doesn't want to
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: figure it out? Anyway. She's like, I'm still figuring out
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: how to, you know, deal with being married to one person.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: A partner. Someone I have to create a life with
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: instead of just dealing with the life that I'm given.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: And that is interesting. Okay, Janelle, honey, Janelle says she's
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: going to meet with dating coach Elizabeth Overstreet. And she's
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: not really a dating coach. She says relationship strategist, which
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: I found interesting. Because that's a new set of words.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: I was like, what does that mean? And it basically
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: felt like Janelle was like, paid some woman or not,
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: just to stand in front of her and be like,
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to date. I don't
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: even know if I'm open to it, but I'll tell
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: you what I'm not going to do. The major easy
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: way people usually date now, which is sites. I'm not
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: going to have people swipe on me. Like, girl, you
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: don't even know what happens. She brings up being married
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: to Mary's brother, Adam, which happened before, of course, she
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: married Cody, which I guess Mary has some sort of way,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: but Janelle almost wants to be like, well, we were
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: married to I was married to Mary's brother, Adam, but
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: it was basically for like three to four months we
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: lived together and it was done 11 months after. And
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: then I had my aha moment with Cody and then
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: somehow two or three years later I married him and
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I never understood why Mary was weird with me. I
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: did a deep dive of like why people think that
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: Cody married everyone. People think that Cody was in love
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: with Mary and or young and wanted to bone. People
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: think that, you know, after a couple of years that
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: Mary wasn't producing the kids and then Janelle came along
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: and Janelle was like obsessed with him and he was like, okay, Janelle.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: And then people think that, you know, he got influenced
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: to marry Christine because her dad was like polygamous royalty.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: And her dad was like, you better marry my daughter.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I guess Christine was older than at 23 than Janelle
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: and Mary were when he got married. So I think
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: it was like a little bit like, oh, no, we
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: have to get married. We have to marry off this daughter.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: And so I think the overwhelming theory, and this is
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: from Reddit that I read, not me, was that Cody's
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: all of Cody's like sacrifice. I had to sacrifice. Was
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: him being like, I sacrificed to marry you. Christina never
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: loved you. Your dad made me do this. And you
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: were the one that left first. Which I think is
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: so weird. Janelle though said Cody and her never really
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: had an identity as a couple and that he never
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: would take accountability when things went wrong. She said he
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: started to control like the kids. And that's like when
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: she was like over it. Because at one point, you know,
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: she was like, sure, I'll let you control me. But
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: now that my adult kids are grown, I'm not letting
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: you fucking boss them around. And ultimately, it was a
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: burden to stay married. She wants a deep guy, not
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: just someone who cares about his looks. I'm like, she
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: wants to have like philosophical, philosophical, philosophical, philosophy. Philosophy. philosophical. Yeah.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: You know, here's the thing. I have to really talk
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: myself into words and you hear me do it all
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: the time. It's because I like can hear something and
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: then when my mouth gets around it, it certainly doesn't
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: sound the same. Anyway, she just wants a kind and
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: normal person. But she's really close-minded. So basically, she won't
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: let this relationship strategist give her any real good strategies
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: that are active about dating. She's basically like, I don't
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: know if I want to do this. I'm trying to
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: think if I'm open to it, but I know what
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: I don't want. And so the strategist is like, okay, well,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: thanks for wasting my time. Just if you ever decide
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: to open anything, your heart, your mind to anything, I just...
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Good luck out there. You know, but you know, obviously,
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: as we know, the season's going to go on and
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: we're going to meet Janelle's new boo, honey. And Janelle
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: has to get over the fact that she's like, I
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: never want to live with someone again, but I also
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: kind of want companionship like three days a week, sometime
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: like every other weekend, which I get, I get. All right,
• 32:33
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• 33:01
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• 33:09
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• 33:13
  Speaker 1: ourselves go honey We want love, and we know that
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: love exists in many different ways, and love should be
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: multiplied and not divided. Cody was right. Two breaths, little
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: present breaths to kind of bring us all together. Just
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: give yourself this gift of this present moment. Don't think
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: about the past. That's what David hates. Don't think about
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: the future. Just be here with us. Me. Okay, my babes,
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: take care of yourselves and one another. Stand up for
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: what you believe and make art. Bye.