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[EP45] What to Do When Life Feels Impossible Right Now · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  What to do when life feels impossible right now.
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  If you woke up this morning already exhausted, if you've been holding it together on the outside but falling apart on the inside,
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  if you're doing everything right but everything still feels or life still feels empty,
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  then my message for you is that you're not broken.
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  What you're feeling right now is not a weakness.
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  It's your soul, it's life, calling out, screaming out perhaps at you to stop.
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  abandoning yourself. And what I'm about to share may completely change how you move through the
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  hard seasons, not by bypassing the pain, but by using it as your greatest catalyst for your
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  transformation. So stay with me as I go through the message. The truth that no one tells us, or
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  a truth. Here's what they in our life don't tell us. Tell you about why life feels so heavy. It's
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  not because you're not strong enough. It's not because you're not positive enough. It's not
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  because you haven't manifested hard enough. Life feels sometimes unbearable when you've been living
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  for everyone else's version of you, when you've been performing or pleasing or producing and
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  carrying emotional weight that was never yours to carry. Perhaps you've been so busy being who
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  you think you need to be that you forgot to ask, who am I when no one's watching? That disconnection,
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  that's what perhaps is suffocating you. And here's the truth that will set you free.
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  You can't heal what you keep pretending is fine. Rumi said it perfectly. The wound is the place
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  this hard season, it's not your breakdown. It's your breakthrough trying to happen.
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  And I find that to be true. Anytime when I felt like I'm having some kind of a breakdown,
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  it's normally not, if I'm willing to look at it, a greater perspective of it.
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  It's that perhaps it's not a breakdown, but that a breakthrough is trying to happen for me,
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  not to me why do people stay stuck when i think back to just the beginning of last year when i
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  lost my mom at the beginning of the year it was quite this monumental loss that basically just
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  kind of broke me and those are not words that i would just use lightly and probably not use often
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  or ever and there were many days but i just felt like i couldn't function and every time i tried
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  to get up on my feet, metaphorically speaking, I felt like I just fell flat on my face, so to speak.
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  And just like metaphorically, if something knocks you down, like something happens and
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  suddenly you can't walk, you've got to try. And if you want to heal that thing, one of the ways is
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  to try and keep standing up and putting one foot in front of the other and trying to walk again.
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  and that initial process might seem really difficult and challenging and you have to be
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  willing if you want to heal to perhaps start to keep getting up to keep putting one foot in front
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  of the other and to keep trying to walk trying to stand first and then to walk and soon you'll be
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  able to stand so far you'll be able to stand and you'll be able to walk and then soon you can walk
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  and soon you can run. And before you know it, perhaps soon you can fly. And you can fly perhaps
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  higher than you ever thought you could before, before all of whatever happened. Because perhaps
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  that experience had made you wiser. If nothing else, you're more experienced. So there's a wisdom
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  that comes with that. And when life gets hard, we've taught ourselves to push through it, to stay
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  to manifest a fessor wear out of it, to distract ourselves until things pass.
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  But here's what actually happens when we do that.
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  The pain doesn't leave.
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  It tends to go under the layers underground.
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  And it shows up as anxiety you can't shake, relationships that drain you,
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  or you get into those, life that looks good on paper but feels empty on the inside.
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  And Robert Frost said, the only way out is through.
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  And I found that sometimes in my yoga practice and so much of what we experience in our practice and find it's a metaphor for life as well.
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  Not over it, not around it, through it.
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  To actually walk those terrains.
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  And I found I can't outrun myself.
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  And perhaps the part of you that you've been avoiding, they're the parts that are begging to be seen, to be heard, to be loved, to guide you to your growth, your expansion, your transformation, your evolution.
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  Which brings me to the framework that we use in our body of work that perhaps could change
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  everything or at least has changed everything for many people.
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  There's a framework which I teach in our body of work.
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  It's 18 years of my own transformation journey and then facilitating literally thousands
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  of people's lives through it in many different settings, online, in person.
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  The framework of Feel Heal Manifests.
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  and the feel part is to stop treating your emotions like it's something to fix.
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  Pain isn't your enemy, it's your teacher, if you would allow it to be.
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  And I was on a podcast a couple of weeks ago and a mentor was interviewing me asked,
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  does everyone have to go, do we have to go through the pain?
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  And I said, we don't have to go through the pain, we can start to look within and that's a choice.
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  and that looking within begins with choosing to feel.
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  So when you give yourself permission to actually feel what's real,
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  whether it's grief or rage or whatever is going on, loneliness,
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  something miraculous can happen.
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  It starts to move through you instead of staying stuck inside of you.
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  And as the saying goes, you can't heal what you won't feel.
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  What we don't allow ourselves to feel, we cannot heal it.
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  whatever it is, your sadness, whatever it is, it is in your weakness.
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  It's, I would say, information on what and how to heal if you let yourself start to feel it.
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  And then the second part of our framework, which is heal, healing doesn't just happen through
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  affirmations. It can help a little bit. It happens when you stop running from yourself and start
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  looking within and asking what part of me needs my love right now, my attention right now.
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  And as we know from our work, when we bring love, it is the frequency that heals pretty much
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  anything. So it comes from looking within when we have someone who in this body of work, obviously
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  I play this role. If you've got someone who can guide you, who've done this, who's done this many,
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  many times. And in our work, we do intervention work, we do healing work and guiding people through
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  terrains of the internal world, the story world, how it's configured internally and how it then
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  tends to run their lives. And it's not just sitting there journaling. It's not about doing
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  some affirmations or some kumbaya. It's actually going to the depths of it, dealing with things at
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  the root cause. And from that place, when a shift can happen on a very deep place, then it can ripple
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  out into all areas of our lives.
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  And therefore, transformation, healing can happen in a short amount of time.
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  Healing isn't about fixing yourself.
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  It's about coming home to yourself.
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  The version of you that perhaps you've buried under everyone else's expectation or your own.
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  And she or he is still there.
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  And they're waiting for you.
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  Manifest part of the framework.
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  Here's what no one tells us about manifestation.
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  You can't call in your next level while carrying the emotional weights.
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  of the old layer or the level.
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  So much of the work is actually releasing, clearing.
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  And if you know our body work, the framework,
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  it's the belief work.
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  It's clearing the beliefs that are blocking us from that,
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  which actually is what kind of runs our operating system,
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  which is where we manifest from.
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  So when you release what's been blocking you,
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  whether it's the guilt, the shame, the fear,
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  you don't have to chase anymore.
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  You start to become the magnet.
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  You become magnetic.
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  you become the magnet for the reality that you're calling for.
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  Viktor Frankl said, when we're no longer able to change a situation,
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  we are challenged to change ourselves.
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  Three simple, practical things from not just the depth of the framework.
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  If you're in your hard season right now, here's what could actually help.
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  So the first is, stop before you sprint.
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  And when you feel overwhelmed, when your instinct is to do more, take a few deep breaths and start asking yourself some empowering questions, some useful questions.
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  And it can actually start first with you and what you need.
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  So what do I need right now?
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  Now, sometimes in amidst this kind of what feels like a storm or like a tornado, I find that a lot of times when there's chaos in my life and I'm trying to deal with it, if I step out into the storm, then I get swept away.
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  But my work is always stepping into the center, the eye of the storm, where there is calm and peace.
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  And I can actually connect back to myself.
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  and from this place I can think much clearer, I've got perspective and I can actually start to
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  bring solutions to the table. The second part is to ask some questions. What's this season
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  trying to teach me? So if you're in a difficult season, a phase that you're going through, a time
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  that you're going through, what is this trying to teach me? And so often when I've asked this
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  question, it starts to open up my mind to more than just being blinkered by the problem in front
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  of me or what seems like the problem. And the problem then becomes an opportunity. Maybe the
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  situation is teaching you boundaries. Maybe it's teaching you to stop abandoning yourself.
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  Maybe it's reminding you that you never meant to actually carry it all on your own and do it alone.
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  and as Pema Chodron said,
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  nothing ever goes away
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  until it has taught us
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  what we need to know.
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  And then it's creating space to feel.
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  So in our body of work,
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  obviously we use meditation,
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  we use yoga practice
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  or conscious movement.
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  And actually it doesn't have to just be
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  in our movement practice.
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  That's what we practice
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  in our movement practice.
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  It's just a space for us to then
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  bring it into the rest of our lives
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  as we move through our days.
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  to move consciously through our day.
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  And if you're not in this body of work
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  and something in you is whispered,
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  I need this,
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  or it's piquing your interest
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  and it's speaking to you,
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  then I've created something for you
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  and it's coming up very soon,
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  which is the Elevate Inner Work Challenge,
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  where you have guided practices
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  that help you release
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  what's been weighing you down,
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  tools to reconnect with your energy,
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  with clarity and your power,
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  not by bypassing the pain,
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  but moving through it and transforming.
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  So the link will be below this video somewhere.
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  My closing thoughts on this message,
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  the hard seasons I found certainly in my life,
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  they don't break you.
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  They haven't broken me.
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  They reveal something about you
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  and they strip away everything that isn't real
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  or is not needed
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  and they start to reveal certain truths.
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  you are and that you can actually finally rise up to.
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  And it starts to bring forth a version of you that perhaps you've been calling forth
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  or wanting to call forth or just never knew was there within you.
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  And perhaps you're here to become who you've always meant to be.
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  That's already within you, that potential, that infinite potential.
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  And it's time to bring them out.
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  So your pain isn't punishment.
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  could be your portal for healing and your future you to emerge