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The waiter at Abby’s blind date wasn’t expecting THIS with the check… · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Magic.
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  Speaker 2: Magic. 94.9.
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  Speaker 1: And welcome to a new episode of Scotty and Abby Unfiltered.
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  Speaker 1: It's finally time to hear what the heck went down
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  Speaker 1: on this blind date.
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  Speaker 2: It's finally time. Well, I'm not going to give details
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  Speaker 2: on the date because I don't like to put men
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  Speaker 2: on blast. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: No, I respect that because you've always said, and I
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  Speaker 1: love this rule, and you and your friends have talked
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  Speaker 1: about this. If a guy's willing to either talk to
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  Speaker 1: you at a bar, ask you out, like they don't
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  Speaker 1: deserve to be belittled because that's the thing that we
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  Speaker 1: fear the most.
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  Speaker 2: I stand by that rule.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. That's very valid. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I will say he texted me yesterday and he's like,
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  Speaker 2: did you guys talk about it on air? And I
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  Speaker 2: was like, I haven't personally talked about it.
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  Speaker 1: That's good. I don't know if they talked about it
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  Speaker 1: on the show. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean the bone hasn't talked about it, but
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  Speaker 2: I don't think. The only people that would have something
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  Speaker 2: to say are Patrick and Moe and their part-timers.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so they are going to do probably, when do
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  Speaker 1: they usually go? Saturdays?
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  Speaker 2: They do a show on Saturday, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so then this upcoming Saturday they'll probably talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: Or maybe Spike will talk about it with Drew. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: Spike talked about it yesterday with Drew.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, was he? Okay, was he on the date too?
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  Speaker 2: Spike was there, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I barely ever see Spike. Spike is one of
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  Speaker 1: the guys on the bone. I never see him anymore.
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  Speaker 2: But I don't really know what Spike would say other
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  Speaker 2: than what happened when the date ended and i just
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  Speaker 2: went back over to the table and i gave them
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  Speaker 2: the debrief the only thing i could imagine that they
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  Speaker 2: would talk about is what happened after the date.
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  Speaker 1: Probably whatever you said was probably debriefed.
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  Speaker 2: So i guess i could tell you what happened after
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  Speaker 2: the date so i'll kind of give you the spark
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  Speaker 2: notes version okay one and two five the bone they
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  Speaker 2: wanted me to come give them content so i don't
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  Speaker 2: know why i'm giving them free access to my daily
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  Speaker 2: life i went on um The guy who was filling
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  Speaker 2: in for our afternoon guy. And they basically did this
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  Speaker 2: telethon trying to get me to be on a date.
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  Speaker 2: They're like having guys call in. I chose somebody else.
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  Speaker 2: They chose this guy for me. I was like, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Typical bone taking away women's autonomy.
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  Speaker 1: The one person that I actually maybe have wanted to
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  Speaker 1: go on a date with. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this guy sounds nice. And they're like, no,
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  Speaker 2: not him. So anyway, they set me up on this date.
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  Speaker 2: It's at Noble Crust, one of our clients. I happen
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  Speaker 2: to like Noble Crust.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I'll get a free brunch out of it. So I
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  Speaker 2: show up to the state. He's very nice, handsome dude.
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  Speaker 2: It was a totally fine situation. I end the date
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  Speaker 2: after like an hour and a half. So I go
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  Speaker 2: back over to the table where our sales team and-
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  Speaker 2: spike from 1025 the bone Patrick from 1025 the bone
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  Speaker 2: they're all sitting there and they've been like kind of
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  Speaker 2: peeking in on the date like I was I could
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  Speaker 2: see Patrick over the guy that I was on the
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  Speaker 2: date with shoulder and I didn't really see them making
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  Speaker 2: a big fuss but I will say when he got
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  Speaker 2: up to go to the bathroom about halfway through the
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  Speaker 2: date Scotty came in like not the Scotty Scotty Scotty
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  Speaker 2: came in and went how's it going he seems nice
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  Speaker 2: you seem like you're having a good time and I
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  Speaker 2: was like yeah, what's going on? And she's like, we're
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  Speaker 2: going to bring you over mimosas.
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  Speaker 1: Uh, yeah, it was just funny. Um, it's like your parents,
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  Speaker 1: like chaperoning on a trip. Like, are you okay, sweetie?
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  Speaker 2: She really swooped in out of nowhere. I was like, girl,
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  Speaker 2: she was literally like Houdini. But what was funny was
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  Speaker 2: I went over to Patrick and, um, I'm at the
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  Speaker 2: table with all the people that were watching us. And
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  Speaker 2: I had told Patrick this thing that I just, I
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  Speaker 2: just sometimes want to squish men's cheeks and go, you
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  Speaker 2: guys are so cute and so naive because we were
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  Speaker 2: talking about how he was observing me and trying to
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  Speaker 2: get a vibe whether or not I was having a
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  Speaker 2: good time. And I said, well, Patrick, the thing about
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  Speaker 2: being a woman is you're never going to know if
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  Speaker 2: I'm having a good time or not. Because I'm not
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  Speaker 2: going to put myself in a position to look like
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  Speaker 2: I'm having a bad time if I think I'm in danger.
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  Speaker 1: That's a very valid point.
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  Speaker 2: Or if I just don't want to make it unpleasant
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  Speaker 2: for you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't want to make them sad or uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes I will say there have been one or
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  Speaker 2: two dates in the last year that I've been on
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  Speaker 2: where I have honestly just said I cannot bring myself
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  Speaker 2: to fake it at this moment. Because I think women
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  Speaker 2: spend so much of their life. faking their emotions and
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  Speaker 2: trying to make people comfortable. I'm kind of, as I'm
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  Speaker 2: getting closer to 30, I don't have the energy for
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  Speaker 2: that anymore because I'm trying to preserve the Botox in
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  Speaker 2: my face. I don't want to emote more than I
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  Speaker 2: have to. And so I told Patrick, I said, listen,
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  Speaker 2: if you, if you saw me and I'm not saying
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  Speaker 2: this was my experience on the date, but I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: just cause you see me smiling and laughing on a
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  Speaker 2: date and like engaging with this guy, that doesn't mean
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  Speaker 2: I'm having a good time. It means I'm trying to
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  Speaker 2: make somebody else comfortable. And I said, you could be
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  Speaker 2: sitting in front of a hot girl and she could
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  Speaker 2: be acting like she's having a good time, but she
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  Speaker 2: might not be having a good time. And Patrick goes, well,
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  Speaker 2: that's so funny you say that because every time I've
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  Speaker 2: been in front of a hot girl and they look
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  Speaker 2: like they're having a good time, they're.
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  Speaker 1: Having a good time.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, Patrick, it's almost like that's the point.
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  Speaker 1: That's literally it. I mean, that's so true. And I
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  Speaker 1: could speak for a lot of dudes like that's also
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  Speaker 1: what gets us like. Our brains are like peanuts sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: And we're like, well, I guess she likes me. I
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  Speaker 1: guess she wants me to talk to her. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it's like you all deserve to have more
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  Speaker 1: chances to just. Emote exactly what you're feeling. But I
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  Speaker 1: understand what you're talking about. Like, I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: put myself in danger. I don't want to have a
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  Speaker 1: guy like there's so many instances where a guy will
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  Speaker 1: get all upset if you say no. So you're just
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  Speaker 1: going to play the game.
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  Speaker 4: You got to play the game to keep yourself and
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  Speaker 4: your other safe survival instincts. But it's also just people
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  Speaker 4: pleasing instincts. Women don't want other people to feel uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 4: So I'm going to he he ha ha laugh laugh
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  Speaker 4: and not make you feel weird. And so I was
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  Speaker 4: telling Patrick that and I was like, oh.
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  Speaker 1: You sweet.
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  Speaker 2: Sweet summer child women have been faking everything for years.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's so it's so crazy to think because then
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  Speaker 1: you think back on your past experience you're like how
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  Speaker 1: many of those things were fake how many.
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  Speaker 2: Everything nothing is real nothing is nothing is real this
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  Speaker 2: actually is the matrix this is the matrix so we're
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  Speaker 2: sitting there where i'm rehashing what happened i was telling
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  Speaker 2: them all the things that we talked about blah blah
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  Speaker 2: blah blah blah And he said, well, you're going to
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  Speaker 2: see him again. I said, probably not. And he goes, well,
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  Speaker 2: Patrick goes, I am determined to find you a man today.
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  Speaker 2: Like you came here expecting true love. We're going to
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  Speaker 2: find you true love.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, actually, I came for a brunch.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I was like, Patrick, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: how to tell you this. I came because I'm a
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  Speaker 2: team player. I came because I am open to love.
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  Speaker 2: And also I love free alcohol. So I was like
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  Speaker 2: willing to get a free brunch. So he goes, well,
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  Speaker 2: what about the waiter? Like, are you, the waiter sounds
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  Speaker 2: like he's your type. And I'm not going to talk
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  Speaker 2: about the waiter at all. But I was like, Patrick, like,
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  Speaker 2: let's just, sometimes we've just got to accept defeat.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Like, sometimes we don't have to force something. He goes, no, no,
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  Speaker 2: you don't understand.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to find you, love.
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  Speaker 2: I think the waiter's into you. And he goes.
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  Speaker 1: Waiter.
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  Speaker 2: And he goes, me and the waiter were in the
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  Speaker 2: same fraternity. And I was like, well, how did you
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  Speaker 2: find that out?
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  Speaker 1: What the hell? How did that come up?
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  Speaker 2: And he goes, I'm going to go. I'm just going
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  Speaker 2: to go check in with him. So I'm like, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sitting there with Scotty and Spike. And we're just like,
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  Speaker 2: we're continuing our conversation.
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  Speaker 1: You're a hell of a team player.
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  Speaker 2: About five minutes later. Well, you know, I'm a team
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  Speaker 2: player after about one and a half glasses of rosé.
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  Speaker 1: That's true. And you're like, hey, fine.
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  Speaker 2: So Patrick leaves at some point. He goes to find
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  Speaker 2: wherever the waiter went. And he comes back over with
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  Speaker 2: a napkin that has the name of the waiter and
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  Speaker 2: his number on it. I'm like, Patrick, we're still having brunch.
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  Speaker 2: I've got to see this man. Like, what am I
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  Speaker 2: going to do now? Say no to this guy? Because
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  Speaker 2: I will say the one thing I will tell you
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  Speaker 2: about the date that I went on. is he asked
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  Speaker 2: me out like three different times during the date. And
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  Speaker 2: I was like, well, let's say I was going to,
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  Speaker 2: regardless of what my answer was going to be, this
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  Speaker 2: is just awkward no matter what.
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  Speaker 1: There's no win there.
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  Speaker 2: If I say no and it's halfway through the date,
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  Speaker 2: we're just going to sit here and be like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I'm fucking leaving. It's a waste of time. And so
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  Speaker 2: that's how I felt about the waiter or whatever. giving
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  Speaker 2: him or giving me his number because I'm like, now
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  Speaker 2: what am I supposed to do with this? Now I
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  Speaker 2: have to act like I'm interested in him. Now I've
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  Speaker 2: got to be like, ha ha, laugh, good time because
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  Speaker 2: I don't want him to spit in my food or
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  Speaker 2: the Aperol Spritz that I just ordered.
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  Speaker 1: That's so funny because that's the game that the waiters
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  Speaker 1: and waitresses are playing too. Yeah. I'm going to be
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  Speaker 1: overly happy. And overly supportive and loving.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, do you think I got played? Do you think
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  Speaker 2: he just gave me his number?
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  Speaker 1: I don't... Well, maybe. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well.
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  Speaker 1: You know, what is he supposed to say?
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  Speaker 2: That's what I mean. No. So Patrick, I guess, went
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  Speaker 2: over and these were Patrick's exact words. He goes, in
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  Speaker 2: the fraternity, we would say the same thing over and over.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, Patrick, you're like 60. I feel like the
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  Speaker 2: lingo's changed since then.
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  Speaker 1: But a great head of hair. That man's got a
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  Speaker 1: hell of a head of hair.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Man's has the flow that you're after.
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  Speaker 1: Ah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So he goes over to the waiter and I guess...
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  Speaker 2: Just said, so Abby. So Abby. And the waiter goes, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And then Patrick goes, I can't even say it with
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  Speaker 2: a straight face. He goes, are you bout it, bout it? Oh, no.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, who says that? And then I guess the
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  Speaker 2: waiter goes, I'm bout it, bout it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 2: They're just grunting. And so then he put his number
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  Speaker 2: on the napkin and then brought it back over to me.
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  Speaker 2: And I was just like, Patrick, what am I supposed
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  Speaker 2: to do with this now? And so then the waiter
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  Speaker 2: comes back over. I'm like, I'm just going to pretend
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  Speaker 2: that this is not sitting in front of me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Let's just crumble this up really quick.
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  Speaker 2: I can't remember if the waiter said something, but the
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  Speaker 2: waiter then came back over and was like, yeah, like,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 1: Bout it, bout it. Bout it, bout it.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, can you be bout bout bringing
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  Speaker 2: me another drink? Please, sir.
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  Speaker 1: How uncomfortable. It's so similar to like family gatherings too.
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  Speaker 1: Like when you're the one single person in your family
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  Speaker 1: and everywhere you go is now a dating experience. It's
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  Speaker 1: like when you say like when your family comes to
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  Speaker 1: town and you all gallivant throughout the different areas of
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  Speaker 1: Tampa because you're looking for somebody off. I don't even know.
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  Speaker 1: Not Wall Street, but like a finance bro. Yeah. Finding
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  Speaker 1: the best finance person.
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  Speaker 2: Off Water Street.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like guys, I don't always need to be on
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  Speaker 1: the prowl. I'm good. I'm good. We're making this weird.
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  Speaker 2: Well, because here's the thing. They put all their effort
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  Speaker 2: in the wrong areas. Like put your effort in when
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  Speaker 2: I want to make a move, but I'm like nervous
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  Speaker 2: about making a move.
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  Speaker 1: That's right.
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  Speaker 2: Whereas don't just go approach some random man across the
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  Speaker 2: bar because we just want to make something happen today.
• 9:45
  Speaker 2: For example, like an example of where there could be
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  Speaker 2: some effort. My mom will text me every now and
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: then and she'll be like, This has happened several times
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  Speaker 2: at this point. She'll be like, oh, I'm at DI
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  Speaker 2: Coffee right now. There's the most beautiful man with long
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  Speaker 2: brown hair and backwards hat. it's you know my type
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  Speaker 2: or whatever and i'm like okay that's that's so great
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  Speaker 2: can can you say something like what am i supposed
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  Speaker 2: to i'm in bed right now i'm hungover i'm not
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  Speaker 2: getting out of bed right now For a man who's
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  Speaker 2: going to be gone in 10 minutes.
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  Speaker 1: Right here, right now. Put on some pants and get
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  Speaker 1: over here.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, do you want me to get married or not?
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  Speaker 2: Say something.
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  Speaker 1: I have this amazing daughter. She would love to get
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  Speaker 1: coffee with you sometime. I like that as a wing woman.
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  Speaker 1: I could see that being a great play and just
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  Speaker 1: kind of getting a little intel because you have to
• 10:27
  Speaker 1: have that person that's just fearless to start conversations.
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  Speaker 2: If you see a guy, you know he's my type.
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  Speaker 2: If you want to put yourself on the line for
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  Speaker 2: me when I'm not in the room, I so appreciate that.
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  Speaker 2: But let's not force things.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, not with a waiter in the room.
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  Speaker 2: Don't put me in an uncomfortable situation. Don't approach the
• 10:43
  Speaker 2: whole half of the XYZ Tampa Bay blank team at
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  Speaker 2: this dive bar and be like, do you want to
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  Speaker 2: date my daughter?
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  Speaker 1: That's so funny. It's kind of like what I did
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  Speaker 1: when we first started going out when you got here,
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  Speaker 1: when we went out to the pool party.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, you have to know somebody's wing woman language.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, all right, I'm just going to
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  Speaker 1: step on it.
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  Speaker 2: Alright, you're like the third string pitcher. You're like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: just gonna step up to the plate here.
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  Speaker 1: Alright, you guy, girl, you guys, don't come. Hey, bada bada.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go head over here. Enjoy.
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  Speaker 2: Scotty's just like, you're a boy, you're a girl.
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  Speaker 1: Do something. Now fuck.
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  Speaker 2: No, no smash.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny to see it played out from other people,
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  Speaker 1: because now I can recognize it in myself.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because, see, like, when I wing-woman'd you,
• 11:28
  Speaker 2: I was like, you're interested. Brianna's interested. Okay, I just
• 11:32
  Speaker 2: need to just, you know, connect the dots. And then
• 11:35
  Speaker 2: once you guys connect the dots, you guys can connect
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  Speaker 2: whatever else.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right. You know?
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  Speaker 2: Like, that's on you now.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's like that game Connect Four. So it's
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  Speaker 1: like everything goes at that point. I don't mind what happens.
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  Speaker 1: You know what?
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  Speaker 2: Usually in Florida, it's just Connect Three. Well.
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  Speaker 1: Depends where you're at.
• 11:52
  Speaker 2: Depends what city you're in.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's, I mean, I'm sure everyone has good intentions.
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: I love that they did that for you with the
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  Speaker 1: sales team. That's funny.
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  Speaker 2: They're very nice. They're very sweet. They're trying.
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  Speaker 1: They love you. Like, they truly love you.
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  Speaker 2: Well, they need to love me more. They're not selling
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  Speaker 2: me enough.
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  Speaker 1: Well, they love you for love. They don't love you
• 12:07
  Speaker 1: for finances.
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  Speaker 2: They don't love me for finance. So I appreciate that
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  Speaker 2: they like my company.
• 12:12
  Speaker 1: But yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Start putting your money where your heart is.
• 12:16
  Speaker 1: Where do you want them to sell you to? Anywhere.
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: We had a team happy hour yesterday that you missed again.
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  Speaker 2: So did Alexia. I wasn't going to go to this one,
• 12:25
  Speaker 2: but I was like, fuck it, I'll go. And Strawberry John,
• 12:29
  Speaker 2: who's our big boy manager, who's in charge of all
• 12:31
  Speaker 2: the stations, he was telling all the sales team, he's like, yeah, Abby,
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: I was just doing some intel on all of our
• 12:37
  Speaker 2: social platforms and we had to submit something to corporate
• 12:41
  Speaker 2: or whatever. We were trying to see who has the
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: most social reach. And do you know who had the
• 12:44
  Speaker 2: most social reach? And I was like, Alexia? And he's like, no,
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: it was you. And I just looked at all the
• 12:49
  Speaker 2: salespeople and I said, wow, that's crazy.
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: Imagine what I could do for your clients.
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: Imagine what could happen.
• 12:56
  Speaker 2: With all the reach that I have.
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: I know. On social. It's so hard because I feel
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: like they're spread so thin.
• 13:03
  Speaker 2: I know. I get it. It's tough. Their jobs are hard.
• 13:05
  Speaker 2: They've got bills to pay, just like I have bills
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: to pay.
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: You do. And a nice client partnership would be fantastic.
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: Like would do.
• 13:11
  Speaker 2: Anything for money. No, literally. Like, I mean, I'm approaching
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: that age to where I'm like, man, fuck dreams. I
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: just want to be financially independent.
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: It's an interesting thought because I have so many dreams,
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: but I also recognize that money does help those dreams
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: like flourish. Like a little extra cash takes a little
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: bit of the stress off so now you can focus
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: on the dream.
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: I know. Think of all the dreams I could accomplish
• 13:33
  Speaker 2: if I could just settle for some dude.
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: Oh, well, I guess. Yeah.
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm thinking.
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'd get bored. I'd be like, ah, well,
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: I'm here on my yacht. In, I don't know, name
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: a fancy place.
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: Saint-Tropez?
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: That place. I don't even know where that is.
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: Saint-Tropez, a place I may or may not be going
• 13:49
  Speaker 2: to next year. Oh. Girls Gone Getaway.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: Girls Gone Getaway. Lean in. Lean in. Be all rich,
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: sitting in your house. Yeah. It would be nice for
• 13:57
  Speaker 1: a little bit.
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: I think it'd be fun for like a year, and
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: then I would have FOMO. I'd be like, dang, I
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: just want to be with someone hot.
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Somewhere hot. Doing something hot.
• 14:05
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: That hot people do.
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: That's why I'm like, dang, do I have to be rich,
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: funny- And interesting, just so I can date someone I'm
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: sexually interested in.
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, now you have to do it all. You have
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: to do it all this day of age.
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: So annoying.
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: You've done a good job supporting yourself so far.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm having a little help from the parents right now.
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: Shout out to the house that I'm trying not to
• 14:23
  Speaker 2: get kicked out of.
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: How's the camera situation at the house?
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, I never really talked about this.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's your call.
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, we're kind of out of the woods,
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: so I think people will find this funny.
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: I think so, too.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to get into the weeds.
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Um, but your actions are funny.
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: While I was in Italy, we had a kerfuffle and
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: I kind of snapped with my living situation just because
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: I feel a little bit like I'm living in the
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: Truman show because there's cameras all over the house and
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: my parents will say, we don't watch the cameras. I'm like,
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: I know you watch the cameras because you mentioned to me,
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I like the outfit that you're wearing.
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: You mean like it's getting to the point or like,
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: you know, they'll send me, they'll send, you know, our
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: family therapist clips of what's on the ring camera.
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: You can't tell me you don't watch.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: You can't tell me that you're not looking at the
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: ring camera. If you're screen recording what's on the blink camera. Yeah.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: And so I kind of just snapped on my light
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: went out. Hang on.
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: Now that we're, oh, I guess this would be a
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: good time to mention that we're on YouTube now.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to Abby getting us up on YouTube.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: I'm just going to start linking the general YouTube thing
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: because I don't know what the schedule is going to
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: look like with how things are posted just because my
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: internet's really slow. And so if I don't post it here.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: Your internet at home?
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm using my phone hotspot on my laptop.
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: That's a whole other story. It's boring technical issues. So
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: I've got to upload things with my hotspot. It's a
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: whole thing. Anyway, what was I talking about?
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: We're on YouTube.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: I'm going to link it in the episode description for
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: all of the podcast episodes. So you'll just see all
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: of them. And whatever the most recent podcast episode.
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: Will be, the one that's up.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: There you go. Okay, that's awesome.
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: If you would like to watch us, which I would
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: prefer that you didn't, because I feel like everybody's watching
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: me everywhere.
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: Which kind of goes into it to where I kind
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: of snapped because I was in a kerfuffle with my family.
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: And I was like, and I live in their house
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: and they have all this leverage over me to where
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: they can just kind of do whatever because I live
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: in their house and they're watching me and they can
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: listen to me at work and they can watch me
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: on the podcast where I was just kind of like,
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: I have nothing. I just, you know, I'm approaching 30
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: and I just feel like everybody's in my fucking business.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: And to be fair, some of that is voluntary. Like
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: a lot of my life is whoring out my personal
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: details for entertainment and that's on me. But then it
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: gets to the point where like there's sort of nothing
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: that's mine. I have no I don't have the luxury
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: of having like a lot of secrets or privacy because
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: everything is just for public consumption. Not everything. And I
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: don't mean that, but like it. There's certain things that
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: I make the cognizant choice to share. Sort of like
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: an artist writing a song or whatever. Me telling a
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: story on a podcast. But then when it got to
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: like my living space and just sort of feeling like
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: everybody's everywhere all at once, I just kind of freaked out.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: Hit your threshold.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: And so I covered up the ring cameras with duct tape.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: I love this. I mean, it's literally you like that's
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: a moment like we all have a snap moment.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: I snapped that I can't. I reached the depths of
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: my soul. You don't even understand. Like I was at
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: the bottom of the barrel. And I don't know if
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: you you listening at home have ever just had a
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: bottom of the barrel moment where you just want. When
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: I tell you I wanted to take a sledgehammer to
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: the ring camera. I went I literally lost my mind.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Were you like running around the house? Are you like
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: screaming in this moment of like? What the fuck?
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: I think internally I had like my little Lizzie McGuire
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: cartoon running around my head where I was just like,
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: fuck everybody. I'm going to light this place on fire.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: And so I covered up the ring cameras with duct tape.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: And this is what really sent me over the edge.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: I covered up the ring camera with duct tape. And
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: then I went to work and I came back from
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: work and the duct tape had been removed because my
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: family lives in Tampa. So I'm assuming somebody got the
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: message that, um, the duct tape needed.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: To be removed yeah it's not a neighbor coming by thinking.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: That felt so violating because it felt like drawing a
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: boundary and your parents just going like no fuck you
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: like you're our kid we're gonna do whatever you want
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: and i understand it's their house i understand like there's
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: a level of like cerebral understanding but also like give
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: me just like a little bit give me give me
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: a week of you just not fucking staring.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: At me all the time try to understand where i'm
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: coming from.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: So then i did what any self-respecting human being would
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: do And I didn't take it laying down, and I
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: got another piece of duct tape. And I wrapped it
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: around the ring camera. And I left for a walk
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: the next day or whatever, came back from work, and
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: the duct tape was gone.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sure you're losing your freaking mind at this point.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: I can't even tell you, the colors I saw weren't
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: even human at that. I didn't see red. I didn't
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: see blue. I saw some kind of third world UFO thing.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: color that has never been seen by humans before like
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: that's how livid I was I'm like just give me
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: some space for the love of God and so for
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: the third and final time I go into the house
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: I get my duct tape and I go to the
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: ring camera and I look that ring camera dead in
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: the eye because I know they're watching me we don't
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: like the ring camera I know you're watching me and
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I said I swear to God if you remove this
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: piece of duct tape one more fucking time I will
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: take a hammer to the ring camera and you will
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: literally never see me again until somebody comes and installs
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: it or whatever. And so then I put the duct
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: tape back over it, and that duct tape stood until
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: our next therapy session.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: That's good, though. God dang, but it only took three times.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: It's just kind of like what... What bothered me is
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: your daughter's clearly, like, going through something.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, not well in this moment.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: Maybe now's not the time to, like, push another button.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, let's just take a
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: step back. Just deep breath.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Our daughter seems really upset. Like, let's just consider for
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: a fact that maybe watching her on the ring camera,
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: not the most important thing right now.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's actually kind of pushing her over the edge
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: a little bit.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so then what pissed me off is they sent
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: that video to our family therapist, and they're like, look
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: at how crazy our daughter is. She thinks we watch
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: her on the ring camera, and clearly we don't, even
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: though we found.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: This video for her. Even though here's the video of
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: it happening. Here's the video of it happening.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: And so, you know what? One day I will get
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: that ring footage.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: And to be able to share.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing. I just know that I probably look
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: like there's a demon behind my eyes in there, just
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: because I really felt like a caged animal. That's the
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: best way for me to describe it.
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: 100%.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I felt like you raised me, you caged me, you
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: called me crazy. That's how I felt.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: And there's no escape.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: And there's no escape.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: Where am I supposed to go?
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Where am I supposed to go?
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: That's the question. I think that's the part that it's like,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: it's so hard. It's like, we're doing it because we
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: love you. We're doing it because we want to know.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: But it's also like, I just need a second. Just
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: let me breathe.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Let me get myself back together. Yes. And then we
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: can have this conversation.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: That's not love. That's control.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: Correct.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: That's not respecting boundaries. And I just think, even though
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: I live in your house, I do deserve some boundaries.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: And cut this if you need or don't answer if
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: you need. But like when, that video gets shown to
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: your therapist. Does your therapist go, she's at her limit?
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: Does she like kind of see where you're coming from?
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: So I don't want to talk about what we've spoken
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: about because my parents, again, listen to everything. So I
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: don't want to talk about what has specifically gone in
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: our sessions or what my therapist has said. But there
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: were definitely moments in the conversations we were having where
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: I'm like, just, what was really painful in one of
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: the conversations we were having was I'm like, I'm clearly
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: like emotionally yelling, not like physically yelling, sometimes physically yelling.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: I'm clearly like shouting with my emotions right now. And
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: I feel like no one's listening. Like, I feel like
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: you're hearing me, but I feel like nobody is even
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: attempting to understand me because you're so blinded by your
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: justification for things and not even just giving me the
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: consideration of, we understand why she's this emotional about something.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: And I think that's what really bothers me. Cause if
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: your parents at the people who gave, who like created
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: you and raised you, aren't even taking the time to
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: understand you or even just remotely go, you know, I
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: do understand where you're coming from. That doesn't mean I
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: agree with you, but I understand, but it just, it
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: just felt like, I'm yelling, yelling, yelling, yelling, yelling, and
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: everyone's going, okay, but.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: You're like, you're not hearing me!
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: And I think everybody has had one of those arguments
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: or fights where it's just kind of like, I feel
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: like I'm in a glass cage of emotion, and I'm
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: trapped in the glass cage, and no one wants to
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: open up the glass cage and go, I see how
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: it feels in your glass cage. Just know how... Why
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: does no one care how it feels in my glass cage?
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Just because it doesn't make sense to you doesn't mean
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: that it's not very real to me.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like looking at your situation and realizing, wait a second, okay.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: It's like you said, I'm going through a lot. Somebody
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: just give me a second.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: And so that's what bothered me was I'm being called
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: crazy instead of going, how did we get to this reaction?
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: The narrative is always painted around my reaction because I'm
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: so emotive. And I have such strong feelings and I'm,
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: I'm just not someone who, I mean, I will shut
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: the door and like, you know, cry when I, when
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: I need to and go away when I feel like
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: that's appropriate. But sometimes I'm like, if I just feel
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: like I'm not being heard, you're going to hear me.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I think that's a, that's the biggest thing that we
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: see from people. It's like just trying to understand, trying
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: to like just do a little more of Intel of, Hmm,
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: we didn't just get it. Like this moment didn't just happen.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: It didn't just happen.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: The eruption didn't just happen.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: And nobody ever wants to talk about how we got
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: to the happen. Like that's what bothers me is like,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: I've always felt like just because I'm the kid, I'm
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: not taken seriously. And that's really frustrating because I'm like,
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: I'm not 15 or, you know what? I was, I
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: loved who I was at 15. I'm not nine anymore.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: You know, I like, I am at a place where
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: I'm able to articulate how I'm feeling, why I'm feeling,
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: how I got here. And I'm not just lashing out
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: like I'm some 12 year old who got told they
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: can't go to the sleepover.
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: You know? Like you don't, and I say this very
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: on purpose, like you don't feel crazy, right? For having
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: those emotions.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: I do feel crazy.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: You still do.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Sometimes I, um, okay. I'm going to get really emotional. Sorry.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: It's okay.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: I'm going to get really emotional. I feel so crazy.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: because um when i have people who can bear witness
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: to what i experience i don't feel crazy and i've
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: been i've been in situations where like i brought in
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: friends to like be like hey like here's what happened
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: or like i'll bring them to certain environments where i'm
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: like i feel this way am i wrong am i
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: am i gaslighting myself into feeling this way and That's
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: when I feel the most emotionally articulate because I'm like, okay,
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not crazy. And I feel like I can articulate
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: this well.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Like somebody else could see it. Yes.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: And so I'm really grateful for my friends who have
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: been in my life who have witnessed or felt certain.
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: Things that I'm like, yes, that's exactly how I feel.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: Thank you for telling me that I'm not crazy. And
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: I think has kind of launched me to being a
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: little bit more vocal about articulating my emotions in certain scenarios.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: But what I was talking about with my therapist yesterday,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: which I will talk about, is despite feeling like everybody
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: is everywhere all at once watching me, whether it's at
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: work or at home, I am always by myself emotionally.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Like there's no one to just kind of like, like, sorry,
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: I'm going to get really upset. Like I go to
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: bed alone. I wake up alone on the weekends. I'm
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: fingers crossed hoping there's someone I can hang out with.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: When I'm upset, hopefully there's someone to answer my calls.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: And my family, I feel especially alone because my brother
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: and I aren't close and my parents are a team.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: And so I think part of me feeling really crazy
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: sometimes just comes from a place of never feeling like
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: there's anybody in my corner. And I'm really struggling with
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: that because it's just been, I just spent my whole
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: life and it's just not changing anytime soon. And I'm
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: so lonely because I'm constantly moving that it's hard for
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: me to keep friends. Um, because distance, I think makes
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: it very easy for people to cut you off and
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: not saying that's anyone listening. That's not like a dick
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: at anyone in Atlanta.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's harder to keep that like it
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: was when you were right there.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, your friendships are just different when you don't live
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: in the same city. Like, even people that I consider
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: to be my best, best friends. Like, my best friend
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: who lives in Miami, I love her. She'll be in
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: my wedding, all the things. I feel, you know, she's
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: so close to me, but I also don't see her
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: every day. And, you know, to some extent, you feel
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: sometimes emotionally closer to people you just see on a
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: daily basis, even if you wouldn't consider them, like, a
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: best friend, if that makes sense.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because when you see friends that are at a distance,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: it's like, It's been even like, let's say, a couple months.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: There's so much to unpack in a couple months. When
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: you see somebody every day, it's like, oh no, this
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: is how I am today. Let's just focus on right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: I can't even remember where I was going with this.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: But where was I going with this?
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: The trouble of being alone in your corner.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just don't ever feel like there's anybody in
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: my corner and moving here has been tough because you
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: have to, again, rebuild your relationships again and You know,
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: it's just incredibly isolating to constantly feel like you're the
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: only person truly advocating for yourself or looking out for you,
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: for yourself. And I'm just sick of it. I'm just
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: over it. And it makes everything else feel so much
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: harder because you don't have somebody in your corner who
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: can help bring you back down to earth when life
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: feels like you're in a glass cage of emotion. Like
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: there's nobody who wants to be in the glass cage
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: of emotion with me because I'm not. Because there's nobody who.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: Like, I don't have a best friend here that has
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: known me for years who understands my history or my
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: past or whatever. All my close friends are sort of
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: scattered throughout the country. And I'm not dating anybody who would,
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: I guess, kind of take that place. And it takes
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: time for close girl friendships to build to that. So
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: it's just tough. And I'm just struggling. Yeah.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's very understandable, especially... In those intense emotions. Yeah.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: And you just want someone to say, I see you,
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: I hear you, I understand you. Yeah. You're not crazy
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: for feeling this way. That validation. But also someone just
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: to decompress with. Yeah. Like, who do you go to
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: if everybody else has somebody in their corner and you're
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: over here like, okay, yeah, but what about me?
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Everybody has their default person. And it's not that I
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: don't have people that I enjoy hanging out with, but
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: there's a different kind of isolation that comes when you
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: text a group chat and go, hey, I have a
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: spare lightning ticket. Does anyone want to come to the
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: lightning gate with me? And going, oh my God, if
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: no one can go with me, do I even get
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: to go to this thing that I want to go
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: to or am I going to have to go by myself?
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: You know, it's just, it sucks. You know, like Saturday,
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: for example, I went on the date and then, you know,
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I go home to my empty apartment and I go,
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: I kind of want to watch the Gator game somewhere,
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: but like, I don't really want to go sit by myself,
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: but I did go sit by myself. And instead of
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: me sitting with friends watching the Gator game at the
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: dive bar down the street, it's me crashing a 40-year-old's
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: birthday party watching the Gator game.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Was it a 40-year-old that you knew?
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: No.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I literally sat down at a bar. I was like, damn,
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: there's a lot of old people here.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: Happy birthday, Dave.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: 40 is not old. No, it was some 40-year-old named
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Brandon celebrating their birthday.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: Well, first off, thank you for being vulnerable with that
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: because I think a lot of people go through that
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: and they don't express it. It's hard.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: To like go and you've done it so many times now,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: moving to a new location, having to readjust, having to
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: go through these same struggles. And every time I feel
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: like it gets a little more exhausting because you're like,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: how many times do I have to do this? Because
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: you do build those connections. When you were in Atlanta,
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: how was your living situation there? Did you just have
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: like your own place? Was it like something that that
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: you really could tell the difference? Versus like where you
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: live now versus where you live there. Yeah.
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: You know, I really didn't feel that lonely in Atlanta.
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: I think because I worked on such a big team
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: that like, I mean, half of my day was having.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Not forced conversation, but you're like literally forced to have
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: a conversation every single day. So I never really felt
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: lonely in Atlanta. There were things that I struggled with
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: when I moved to Atlanta where I lost friends. a
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: big friend group back in my hometown when I moved there.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: And I was in a pretty deep depression after that.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: That was a big struggle for me. Um, cause I
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: got this two bedroom apartment thinking, you know, I, for
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: the first time in my life, I have a really
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: close friend group that I, I really feel connected to everybody.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: I'm going to get a guest bedroom. They can come
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: visit me. And you know how many times they came
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: to visit me? Well, before like I got cut off
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: zero times. My best friend in Virginia came and visited.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: My mom came to visit. But, like, those were the
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: only two people that would come and stay in that
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: guest room. And every single month that I paid rent,
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: I was like, are you fucking kidding me?
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, I have this whole freaking room here.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Which I don't regret it. I love that apartment. Like,
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: it gave me great space to be able to, like,
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: get a second cat. Like, no regrets. But I remember thinking...
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: I've built this place. I've built this physical space for
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: people that I really care about and no one wanted
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: to come up and use it. Those were moments that
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: I felt really lonely, but now I just like had,
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: I felt like I've just blended in in Atlanta very easily. Yeah.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: Like there's still people even that you just could connect
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: with quicker.
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: And this is just tougher too, because again, we don't
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: work on a big team. Like that's why I go
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: to the big, the happy hours because I miss working
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: on a big team and I miss having all those connections.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: But also like, I think It feels even more isolating
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: coming to a place where like my whole family's here.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Like it almost makes you feel.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: More alone when everyone else is doing their own thing
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: with their people. I texted my brother that if he
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: wanted to go to a Zac Brown band concert a
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: couple weeks ago.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: And he goes, well, my wife's working. And I was like,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: just because your wife's working doesn't mean you can't.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you and I could go.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah. He's like, well, I'm in Clearwater. I'm like, well,
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: you can leave Clearwater. It's your favorite fucking band.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: Are you kidding me?
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: Not that I, you know, I'm dying to hang out
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: with my brother, but, you know.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: You're throwing it out there. You're doing your part.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You're constantly making the ask for people or you're
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: constantly surrounded by people, but at the same time, not. Yeah.
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: It's like you said, it makes you feel even lonelier. Yeah.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: Because you're like. All right, guys. But then in these cases,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: it even makes it, I guess, more forced because you're like,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: nobody's seeing my perspective in these moments. And that sucks because. Somebody,
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: please just see my side. I know. That's why, I mean,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: I don't think, one, you're crazy at all.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: I'm not crazy.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Like, I know, I know. But I know in those moments, like,
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: especially if you're like, who do I decompress to? I
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: have all these thoughts. And then you say it out loud.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: You're like, I hope somebody understands. Us listening, we know
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: that none of that sounds crazy at all. I think
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: we'd all react a very similar way.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: Because you don't have the other side, which is their
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: justification for it. Do you know what I mean? Like,
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: their side, where you just hear... an albeit biased side
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: of just my emotions and my opinion, whereas everybody always
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: has a counter to it. It's like, well, this is
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: why we do blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Or this
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: is why blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: And so I'm sure if the other side was here,
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: you would maybe side with them. I don't know.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Well, welcome into the studio. No, that'd be so.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Mr. and Mrs. Murphy calling in from Napa, California.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: Is that where they are right now? They're going to
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: do a little wine tour?
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: They're currently in Napa, so shout out to them having
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: the time of their lives.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: Enjoy... We do have such a weird position. And my family,
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: it took a long time to understand, like, you like
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: putting your life out there like that. You enjoy sharing everything.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: And honestly, yes, because there's so many things that vary
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: in very similar circles. You want to either feel validated
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: for feeling good. Or maybe you just want to express
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: and this has become their way of expression. But that
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: does make it hard in your position because you're like,
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: a lot of the things that I'm going on in
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: life are deeply personal.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: There's so much I would love to talk to you about.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: Not necessarily you, but you listening. But it's just not,
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: you got to have some boundaries. Oh, yeah. I got
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: to keep some boundaries in my life or it's not
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: even boundaries. Like I think if I could put people
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: in like a geo fence and they would never know
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: that I was going to talk about it or they
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: wouldn't have to hear, I'd be happy to talk about it.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: But there's also just some things that I think you
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: need to work through before you can give the purpose
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: behind why you're sharing it. Yeah.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: You know, right.
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: Like I think some things, if I shared them right now,
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: it'd be too messy. Whereas this is the stuff, this
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: is kind of like my, my current temperature check on
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: where I'm at emotionally, where like, it's so funny. I'll
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: get so many DMs. People will be like, you look
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: so much happier now that you're in Tampa. I'm like,
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: you guys have no idea like how many nights I'm
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: just like in my house and just like fucking not miserable.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: I don't want to say I'm miserable as I'm like,
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: everything's awful. But you probably question everything when you're like,
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: when you're like crying on the inside and people are like,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: you look so happy. I'm like, no, I'm not.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: Oh my God. The amount of times that that happened
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: in like, just like past relationships. Yes. That was hard.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: You guys look so happy.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: Oh my God. Where's the ring? All these things. And
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: inside I'm like, We, we hate each other. What the, what?
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: That was honestly so scary in the past and I'm
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: not going to specify on anybody or any situation, but
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: it's like people say that and you're like, well, this
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: is going to shatter some people's concepts when I actually
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: open up and tell how I really am feeling. Like
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: that perception is crazy, but it's also, it's hard because
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: then people paint you in a certain light. You're like, huh?
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: How do I tell you the truth? How are you
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: going to react to... Like, are you going to be mad?
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: Are you going to feel like I lied? Like, what
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: is that truth going to look like?
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: Like, you think because you.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: Went through a breakup, people are going to think something
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: about you? I.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I remember in past breakups, I remember
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: thinking people were going to be so upset. And I
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: think upset at me.
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: Like, your audience?
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like my audience. Like, I don't think my people... Well, actually,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I think some friend groups, yeah.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: Why do you think your audience would be upset with you?
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: Because they... They hate change. They hate things coming to
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: an end. It's heartbreaking for them to see. Gotcha.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: So, like, if a favorite celeb couple breaks up, you're like, no,
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: I loved you two together.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, you fit so perfectly. Or also, like, that
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: somebody needed to be blamed for the reason. That was
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: also a big fear in the past. Yeah. Like, are
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: people going to, like, just all of a sudden point
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: the finger at me and be like, how dare you?
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, what?
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: You stole her youth. I'm like, what do you want? Ah!
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: But I think that's a story that we tell ourselves
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: and didn't happen like that. And I'm so grateful that
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: people are so understanding and could see both sides very mature.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: But it's like that same situation where it's like, you're
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: so happy here. And you're like, I mean, yeah, there's moments,
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: moments of happiness, but also a lot of moments of
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: just like deep realization of life and just figuring it
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: out and navigating. But also it's like, how do you
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: share that without being like, wah, wah.
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm really trying not to be the wah, wah girl.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: This is a chapter.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: It's a chapter and I was trying to reflect I'm
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: like when was the last I don't think this has
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: probably been the hardest year of my life and I
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: think I kind of had this blind up um blind
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: optimism that I'm like after a year because it's coming
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: up I think this is basically a year since I've
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: known since I was gonna have to move I was
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: like after a year I feel like it'll be like
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: pressing the reset button and I think when I got
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: back from Italy and it wasn't the reset button I
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: was like okay here we go but my first year
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: um in Atlanta was tough too but it was tough
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: because of health reasons and friend reasons and all things
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: like felt like I couldn't really get under control, to
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: where I'm like, I feel like this is a little
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: bit more in my control, and so I'm like, am
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: I not doing enough to, I don't know, is it
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: my own fault? I don't know.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you also, you don't want to burn yourself
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: out trying to do everything, because that's so easy, because
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be like, go to this, and go to that,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: and do this, and try this, but at the same time,
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: you're like, am I doing that? Nope.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: Have you ever been depressed, and someone just says, just
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: try harder.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: Just try harder. Be happy.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: I'm trying.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: I'm depressed. Guys, I am trying. Yeah, and that's, it's
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: literally a daily battle. It's like, today, I will do
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: one step. And this will be the step. I might
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: try this. I will go on a walk for this
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: because you are doing all those things. You do go
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: out to a lot of events. You have friends that
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: you're now starting to build stronger relationships with. That's awesome.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: And it just takes time.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: We are getting on the other side. And I do
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: remember my first year in Atlanta was tough. But then
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: like after about a year and a half, I would
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: have stayed in Atlanta forever. So I'm just trying to
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: like cross my fingers that. I just have six months
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: left of depression.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: There you go.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: We'll put a time cap on it. Six months until
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: it's over.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: No, it'll probably be fine. And the fall is going
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: to be super fun. Like, I'm already having a great
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: time doing all the events and going to all the games.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: I like living in a city where, like, you have football.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: And we're going to have such a good football season. Florida.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: That's crazy. Like, to just take that in a different direction.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I said it to Brianna. I was like, you guys
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: are back.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: We're so bad.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: Florida has kind of like, I mean, we beat y'all.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: USF beat y'all last year. I was like, hell yeah.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: But y'all. y'all have like serious it's fun to be
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: a fan now again.
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: It's so much more fun it's it's fun to be
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: a fan in general so that's helping me get out
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: of my depression the fact that like uf is having
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: such a good season that'll be so fun to go
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: to those tailgates and then like The Bucks tailgates have
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: been fun. The open part, the lightning games have been fun.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: I think we're doing like a taste test tomorrow. Are
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: you coming to that?
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: I'm glad you reminded me. I will be at that. Yeah.
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: Tomorrow we're like eating all their concession food.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: That's right. And it's good though. Like that's the thing
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: about the lightning. It's like every single concession, they have
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: like fancy Italian, they have sushi, they have steak, like everything.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: yeah everything's nice.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: I was like don't bring us the peasant food bring
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: us the club food we're accustomed.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: To i'm telling you right now they ain't bringing you
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: just like lizzie to throw down and if it is
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: it's gonna be like remember we're sitting there at the
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: game they brought over it was like a crazy cone
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: of like i don't know like meatballs yeah but like
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: crafted from like top chefs and sprinkled with the finest
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: parmesan i was like damn Y'all took something ordinary, and
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: you made it extraordinary.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: They're like, this cheese is from the Highland Cows in
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: Plant City.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: In Plant City. Our bangs cows. Have you gone there yet?
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: No. I really want to, though. I need to.
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: I was looking at their pictures, and I was like,
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: that's super cute. Because now we're getting to a temperature
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: where it's like, you could be outside. It'll be fun
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: to actually do the activity.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: But here's the thing. Who do I go to see
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: Highland Cows with?
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: That's a good question.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? That's the kind of thing
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: I would drag some guy named Jared to. You know
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: what I mean? Like, I need to find some... I
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: got back on hinge.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: No, you're not getting back on hinge.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: No, I did. I'm talking to a guy. I think
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: he might be. No, there's always something wrong with them. No.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: Well, there's always something wrong with everybody. I have plenty
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: of things wrong with me that I'm sure like Brianna's like,
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Oh look, you know what I did yesterday? It was,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: Oh my God. Cause I don't want to give my
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: girlfriend the ick. So like she was working at my
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: apartment and she works for a news station. So she's
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: cutting videos and like listening very intently. But I just
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: got home and I was super hungry and had some
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: chicken in the fridge. And I know when I eat chicken,
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I'm like a caveman with it. I go in with
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: my hands, and I'm just throwing it in my mouth.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: And so I go to the corner of the kitchen.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: I have a very small apartment. So the living room
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: is about three feet from the kitchen. You have a curtain.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: You close the curtain. I was hurled over the counter,
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: and I'm just ingesting all this chicken. And she looks
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: at me, and she's like, what the hell are you doing?
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm eating. I don't want to sit next
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: to you. And what, you're hearing all the.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: Giving me all this food. I'm like, I'm not trying
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: to give the egg.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: You do have the weirdest food habits.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: I do. I admittedly, like if there's something wrong with people,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: it's the way I eat. I eat very like plain,
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: just plain. I don't know, I guess gross at times.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: You know, I bought yesterday, I bought a turkey leg
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: from Publix just so I could heat that sucker up.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: And I'm going to call it caveman meals. Every now
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: and then, or every week, I'm going to do a
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: caveman meal.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: That's a good series for people who are trying to
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: do the carnivore diet.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I'm just going to heat up this turkey
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: leg and I'm just going to sit there and I'm
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: just going to gnaw on a bone. Everyone has something
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: wrong with them. That's mine.
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: But I mean, like, for example, the last date that
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: I went on that got me off hinge, I was like,
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: this is a gay man.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: So it's not like, oh, he eats really sloppily. Like,
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: when you're in love, you can look over that. I
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: can't look over the fact that this man has better...
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: Has better nail polish on.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: Than I do.
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: He smells better. He looks better. His hair is better. Yeah,
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: he's not for me. Yeah. Who's the guy that then, like,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: you haven't seen anything wrong with him. Yet. Yeah.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: I saw, I liked his profile picture. I can't tell
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: how old the photo is. That's my one concern. I
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: feel like we're getting to that age where people start
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: posting old photos. And I'm, I'm always, I'm always getting hotter.
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: So I'm constantly always posting new photos of myself.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: That's right. You know what? At least that's going up.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: This guy is cute. Here's the possible pitfall.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: Oh, my God.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: He says he's 5'11. And there's nothing wrong. Listen, I'm
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: into 5'11. The problem is if you say you're 5'11,
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: you're not 5'11.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: With how much is this talked about, I hope every
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: guy has it ingrained in their head not to lie
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: about it. You would think. It's like the hat thing. Guys,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: if you're going to wear a hat all the time,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: be honest. Do you have hair under that thing?
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: Don't be a hat fish. But he looks relatively normal.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: And his photos, like, I mean, do like the scale
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: to proportion. Is he standing next to a car or
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: a building?
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: Well, here's him standing next to his mom.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: He looks tall next to his mom, but his mom
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: could be like four feet tall.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: No, he doesn't look short. I'm saying he's probably. Here's
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: the thing. As long as he's taller than you, does
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: that matter?
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: As long as he's, listen, it's less about height.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: He looks like a very nice young man.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: He looks like a job standing gentleman.
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: This is what I want to ingrain in men's mind.
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: It's kind of less about the height and more about
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: the feeling that women have when they're with you. And
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: so you don't need to be six foot seven to
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: make a woman feel kind of like dainty and, um,
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's the right word. Like we just
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: kind of want to feel like you, You're a dude.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I know what you mean. You know what
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: I mean?
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: Because I've dated guys who are 6'5, but they're, like, scrawny.
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: And so, like, don't get me wrong, I like that
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: they're tall, but at the same time, I'm like.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: I remember I was dating a guy who's tall, not scrawny,
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: but he was definitely, like, thin. And he tried to, like,
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: lift me up on the kitchen counter. And he struggled.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, no. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: And so, like, I had to, like, lifted myself up.
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: And so then I was like, it's not that that
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: gave me the ick, but in the back of your mind,
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: it's kind of like, okay.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: No, I get it, because I'm, like, for a guy, I'm...
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I know my height. So I've always done the opposite.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I'm going to be as strong and
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: as big as I can be.
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: If you can't grow vertically, grow horizontally.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: That was always my method. I was like, you're going
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: to know that I'm a powerful man around you. Like,
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: that's my favorite thing that I will look over and
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not tall, but I like when I have a
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: moment I could just look over Brianna and I'm like,
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: I got you.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I mean. So girls want to feel
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: that way. Like this guy could get me if he
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: needed to. Like if I, if I fell, if I
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: fell down, he's not going to like fall down with me.
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: He's going to be like, Oh God, I got you.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I got you. He's probably going to carry you. Like
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: have you ever seen that video? Oh, I don't know.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: There's a guy that picks on people on Instagram, but
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: it was a guy like, He couldn't carry his wife
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: after the wedding and he had to have his best
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: man carrier. Yes.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: No, nobody.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Yes. I know.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: I know that's horrible, but like, yes.
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: I want to, I want to feel like you can
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: carry me and I'm not going to be like, Oh God,
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: I need to loosen.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: No. Yeah. It's like, Oh my God. To have your
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: best man do it or have somebody else do it.
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: I'm like, that's, that's a sign right there. So anyway,
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: it looks like he works out. He looks normal. The
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: only thing that kind of gave me the ick and
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: I know this sounds dumb. This, I know this sounds dumb.
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: That's valid.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: He used the smiley face with the semicolon and the parentheses.
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: He said, hello, parentheses, colon. And he did it backwards, too.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: It's not even the right way.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: Oh, so it's like parentheses?
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: It wasn't even the correct way, colon, parentheses.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: It was parentheses, colon. He was like, hello, who?
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I guess everyone has their thing.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: So then I responded, hello, hello. And then, oh, here's
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: the other thing. I liked him first.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: That's fine. Yeah, because he might not have seen you.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: He might not have seen me. So then he responded,
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: because I don't know what it is. I think my worst... Okay,
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: here's a survey for you. This will be a good
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: clip for the Instagram. Abby, clip this. You, as a
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: heterosexual man, I would like for you to give me
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: your prediction. Which do you think is the photo that men...
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: Double-tap the most on my hinge.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: On your hinge that they double tap the most bring
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: it Which one do you.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: Think is getting the most likes and comments because it's
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: I think my worst photo The I think it's my
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: worst photo. This is the one that gets the most traction, okay?
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: That's the one that gets the most traction.
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: No. I'm giving you my profile Oh, you're giving your
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: permission to take my phone and scroll through okay.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: Let's see. That's a really nice.
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: Photo the first one Yeah, my friend Tay Tay mm-hmm.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: Wow, that's a good photo at the... Am I allowed
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: to say where they're at? Yeah, yeah, you can describe it.
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: You can literally show it to the camera.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, so there's Abby at the Rays game. Go Rays.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: That's very sporty. It's very fun. You in the dress. Ooh,
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: very chic.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: Very chic. It's my new profile picture.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: Very rich.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: Me in front of the Italian sunset.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, look at you on a boat. Is that a
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: recent one in Italy?
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: Uh-huh. Me and Capri. See, I'm giving you new photos
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: so when I show up to the date, you're like, oh,
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: this is what she looks like.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like all angles. You're going to get me at
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: all angles.
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: That's nice. This is me in Nantucket with my margarita.
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: A little glass of wine. You... Your eyes are popping
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: in that photo.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: I feel like me and my cousin look really good
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: in that photo.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: That is a great photo. I'm going to say the
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: one that gets the most likes and attention has to be...
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: For sure, you at the Raze game.
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, that is it. I think that's my worst photo.
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: That's crazy. It's not your worst photo.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: Can you describe the male psychology of that?
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: That's a tough one.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: I will give you my female psychology to why I
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: think this photo is my worst photo. So here's my psychology.
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: All I see when I see this photo is how
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: fried my hair looks.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: That's what you, oh God, we would have never seen that.
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: That's so funny to me because I'm like, damn, my
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: flat iron was on level 500.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: No, we don't see any of that.
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: I see that. I don't think my, this isn't me
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: trying to be like sexual, but like I don't look
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: like I have like a chest in this photo. And
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: then my arms don't look as toned as they are now.
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: Like the photo right below it, like I looked more,
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: I look more like I lived. And then I'm not
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: really smiling. My smile looks kind of weird. I got, like,
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: a scrunchie on. Like, it just, I don't know. It
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: doesn't make sense to me. So, like, what's, give me
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: the psychology.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I would say that it's that, one, the colors of
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: the photo are absolutely popping.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, so it's, like, the vibrancy of the photo.
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: The aesthetic immediately grabs our attention. Two, you're showing, and
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: this is this guy brain, like, you're showing a lot
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: of skin. Really? All your arms are out. You're even, like,
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: your tank tops, like. kind of showing a little bit
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: of your belly, like, here I am. I'm at a
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: sporting event. I don't have to smile.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: So I guess with that psychology, I would have said that.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: This photo would have gotten more traction. That would be
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: number two.
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, because this, to me, is the sexiest photo. Because it's, like, lace, black, legs,
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: and then... alcohol whereas I'm like I'm wearing jeans and
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: a tank top.
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah but that look for guys I don't know what
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: it is it's just.
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: That really okay I get that because there are certain
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: things that men will wear that it doesn't make sense
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: but like in your lady lizard brain you're like what's
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: the noise oh lord I'm so sorry to people with misophonia.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah no um yeah I would say those probably
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: are the top.
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: Two okay well those are my top two so thank
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: god yeah you got the right order now that I'm
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: back on hinge um but to me like If I'm
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: a girl, or if I'm going with this and thinking
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: what my most liked photo would be, I put this
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: one because I feel like it's sexy, but you can
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: also see me.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you look like a badass there.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: Also, I'm like, look, I have friends.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: And then, to me, my best photo is my new
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: profile picture, me in the blue dress.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, they're all good photos.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm like, this is the photo I want you
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: to see when you're on your deathbed and you're like.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: My wife, my wife. I miss her so much.
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: I miss her so much. That to me is like, yeah.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: It's very interesting because guys' brains are like, we don't
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: need a lot. We just need enough. We're like, nice.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: It's fun.
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: Nice.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: So anyway, he didn't comment on that photo, but he
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: just said, are you a baseball girl? And I just said,
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: I'm just kind of a sports in general girl.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, that is also a good point because it's
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: the one thing that we could relate to immediately.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: Sports?
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: Sports.
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: And that's why I keep it in there, even though
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: I don't think I necessarily look great in that photo,
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: even though everybody else thinks I look great in that photo. Um,
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: I'm just like, oh, you can, if anything, just talk
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: to me about the Rays.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you look like a sportsy, badass chick.
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so anyway, then he asked me out to a
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: playoff game. I was like, well, hell yeah, I'm getting
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: playoff tickets, bitch.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: Hell yeah. Oh, so he already asked you out.
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: He already asked me out. Thank God. I can't do
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: the pen pal thing. I can't do the pen pal thing.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: I was looking at my old messages because I was
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: talking about this on the show, but I did the
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: trend where it's like screenshot. You know, the first messages
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: that you have to your partner than the latest ones.
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: And I remember y'all giving me so much crap for
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: how long it took me to ask out Brianda. I
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: messaged her on, like, the 22nd.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: Of February? Yeah.
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: And I asked her out on, like, the 24th. It was, like,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: two days.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: Two days feels like forever, though, when you're just, like, gabbing.
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: I give a guy 24 hours to ask me out.
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: 24 hours. I stepped by that. 48 sounded solid.
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing. She, she knew she was into you. Like,
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: and you guys have mutual friends. So she wasn't going
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: to bounce. But the thing is, is your vibe is just,
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: you can just tell instantly when you're, when you're next
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: to someone, whether or not there's chemistry.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: You don't need to that point.
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: First, you really don't need more than five minutes to know.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: And that's why I got off the apps because I'm like,
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: I'm spending so much of my time meeting these guys
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: are not so much, but I mean, that's like, two
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: or three hours on a weeknight probably.
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: Just to meet some guy who's going to make me
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: feel worse about myself.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: You're like, wait, actually I feel like more shit. So
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: how long did he take? Was it 24 hours? No.
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: I mean, I, I think we matched, I liked him yesterday. Um, wow.
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: And then, or no, I liked him Sunday night and
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: then he responded Sunday night and then I responded Monday
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: morning and then we weren't really talking yesterday. He like,
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: He didn't respond until we went back.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: I'll just give you the play by way. Yeah. Um,
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: you liked his photo Sunday night and then I was
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: in bed. So he responded while I was sleeping. And
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: then the next morning I said, hello. And then he said,
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: baseball girl. And that was cute. Like five minutes after that.
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: And then like five minutes after that, I said, just
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: sports in general, girl. And then last night he responded,
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: love that. I like going to games, need a date
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: for them. And I said, same here. So that works
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: pretty well. give me your playoff tickets, bitch. And then
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: he said, Ray's playoff game. And I said, I could
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: be persuaded. Maybe meet just for drinks first, just to
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: make sure we don't hate each other.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: That's funny, but that's so real though.
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: But that's exactly how I feel. Cause I'm, I think
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: if you've gone on enough hinge dates, you know, five minutes, like,
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: So I don't want to sit next to you at
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: a baseball game.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: I know, it's already boring. For six hours. And now
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: we're going to sit next to each other for the
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: whole time?
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: I know. But if this works out, it would be cute.
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: My parents met at a baseball game.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: I know, I'm just joking. But you can get drinks
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: at Ferg's. It's almost like The Bachelor. It's like you
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: get drinks at Ferg's, and the rose is a ticket
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: to the game. That's actually so funny. I'm worried that's
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: what he thinks I mean, though.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: If the playoff gate, when's the next playoff game?
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: I have no idea. I don't think the playoffs have
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: started yet. I could be speaking out my butt right now. Yeah.
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: Just look up the Rays schedule.
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: When are the Rays playing in the playoffs? That's a
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: lot of pressure, though, because what if they.
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: Oh, this Saturday.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: This Saturday?
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: They kick it off.
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: Fuck, it's a Gator game. First... It's a Gator game
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: and the Lightning home opener this Saturday.
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: So you go to the Fergs. Go to the Fergs.
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: You go to Fergs. You get a drink. You watch
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: a little bit of Lightning. I don't know. They don't
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: have the time yet.
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: Do we not get Lightning tickets?
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: I think we are. Mike just messaged me.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: What did he say?
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: He said, can I swing by Re-Lightning? I don't know
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: what that means. Can you swing by Re-Lightning?
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's like when you respond to an email,
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: Re colon Lightning. He's replying about the Lightning thing. But he....
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay. In response to the Lightning.
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: So go to his office. Yeah, yeah. Okay, yeah. I
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: think we'll be good then. I don't think he's about
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: to bring me over to his office and tell me, no.
• 54:54
  Speaker 3: He's probably going to tell us no, but that's probably
• 54:56
  Speaker 3: what it is.
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: I don't maybe it's not that we just we don't
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: might not get the fanciest.
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: Girl, that's fine.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: They could so okay.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: They have a playoff game this Saturday They'll win that though,
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: so we could go on Monday or Wednesday.
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: Go on Monday No, or bleep. Let's find out what's.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: Going on Wednesday I could do Wednesday like I'd like
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: to get drinks this weekend while I'm already doing something
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: So I don't have to go out of my way
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: to see this man But I would like to just
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: meet him immediately like I hate doing.
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: The oh you're talking about getting drinks like this week Wednesday.
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: Oh Oh, well, no, the next scheduled playoff games are Saturday,
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: next Monday, next Wednesday.
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: But I think the next Wednesday is away. Yeah.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: Becoming a hockey fan is really.
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: I know, it's tough. Wait, did you say you're going
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: to the game Monday, too?
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: I kind of want to go to the one. I
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: haven't asked for tickets yet, but I kind of want
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: to go to that one.
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: I kind of do. Playing the Flyers.
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: That'd be sweet.
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: Have you seen the drama? Side note, we do have
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: to wrap this up. Have you seen the drama with
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: the Flyers reporter dating one of the players?
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: No.
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to show you everything afterwards we can
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: discuss tomorrow. And then what do we have to talk
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: about tomorrow? So tomorrow on the pod, they talked about.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: They had Warren Sapp on.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so Warren Sapp joined our coworkers. Like, the Mike
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: Calta show is one of the big shows here. It's
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: next door on 102.5 The Bone.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: Someone that called me a four.
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that whole situation. But, like, we're friends now, family.
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: And they did end up talking about me to Warren Sapp.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: Because it was originally going to be about the whole
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: case that he has with the city.
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: And then I definitely heard my name and situation mentioned
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: in there.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: We don't know what they talked about yet.
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know the full extent of it.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: Here's where I will say... It might be looking up
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: based off because I did hear the end of the
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: conversation and where I was like re-brought up into the conversation.
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: It didn't sound like you wanted to punch me. I
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: don't think.
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: It's like your biggest fear. This man's not going to
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: hit you.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: I don't think he's going to hit me.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: He hit enough people during his NFL career. I think
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: he's hit out.
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: You know what it is, though? I think what's deep
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: down is like I hate not being liked. Like it
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: just bothers me where I'm like, the hell?
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: What?
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: I don't want beef.
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: I don't think this man likes anybody though.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: It's valid.
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: It's not like a personal thing.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: But now it's like in me, you know what it is?
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: Now it's like, I want to win him over. I
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: want to now be like, I'm just going to stop
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: giving a shit.
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: Anyway.
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: We got to go see Mike and then we got
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: to go see Jenna.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: There it is. All right. Well, we'll be back tomorrow
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: and I'll give you the update on that because I
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: got to listen through and see what's waiting for me
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: at the Sunday tailgate.