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Why Awareness Never Changed Anything For You · Afzal's Reset Entropy Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Today's podcast is going to be very important because it addresses a very frequently asked question which is generally asked within.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to say something that goes against most of the personal growth world itself, and that is awareness is overrated and it's very weird.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Not useless, overrated.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: We treat it like the destination, like the moment you finally understand why you're the way you are.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: Something is supposed to change, and for most people, nothing does, to be honest.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: They understand their patterns perfectly and keep living them exactly the same.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: I have met people who can describe their wounds with the precision of a therapist and are still completely run by them.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: So they can say, you know, I procrastinate, they can say that I lash out, they can say that I go numb, but none of these is under their control.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: Even though they know it, they will repeat it.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: As simple as that.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: So they know what to do also at times.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: They can't do it.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: So today I want to take awareness of the pedestrial and tell you that it actually is and what has to happen after it.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's the part nobody sells you, or nobody talks to you also about it's they will be always like, Okay, let me help you.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: Why don't you pay this amount first?
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: And that is the part which I hate the most.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_00: That means you're never in the industry of helping people, any which ways.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: So here's my awareness, and on take off it, why awareness gets worshipped to be honest, it feels like progress for many people, and the inside lands, you get the click of understanding, and genuinely feel like something shifted.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: You know, okay, now I know why I do this.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Now I know when I do this, but a feeling of moment is in moment.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: Understanding why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: Simple as that.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: Knowing your fear of abandonment came from your childhood, does not stop the fear from firing the next time someone pulls away, even though awareness many times gives us the insight, or it does give us the way of changing or way of understanding, but a book can give you also an awareness.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: Remember that a feeling of movement isn't the moment understand why you shut down in conflict does not stop you from shutting down in conflict.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_00: So because the understanding lives in one part of you, the thinking, explaining part is completely different, and the pattern lives somewhere else entirely.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: Most of the time, it lives in your body, in your nervous system, in a place that doesn't care how well you can explain, you cannot think your way out of something that isn't stored as a thought.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: So when you get awareness also, many times you might be able to change your thoughts.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: That is when few people get results also because they are changing their thoughts.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: If the pattern is in their thought only, simple as that.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: If it's stored in their body, in their nervous system, then forget it.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: That requires a different kind of training in itself.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: So, why does so much of self-hair world stops at awareness?
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because it technically you're not showcasing the other part, the main part, because awareness is easy to sell and very easy to consume.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: We are talking logical mind to logical brain with the help of feelings a bit here and there, and it's a perfect dish to be sold.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: A book can give you an awareness, like I said, a podcast can give you an awareness, like we are doing right now.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: You can get an inside, feel the click, feel like you did the work, and buy the next book next week for the next click.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: Awareness that never turns into a change is a great business model, and you must have noticed abundance of people who have abundance of knowledge without any application, and that knowledge is nothing but in the end a poison game then until that trigger comes again, until you lash out again, until you go numb again, until you start cursing.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: Then no, I know it.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I still doing it?
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: That feeling is even worst, and I wouldn't want any of my people, my home, my community, none of these people to even get this half information on basis of which there is not a procedure of complete transformation.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: Because that will be like a cheat factor to be honest, rather than making them come out of it, it's more like telling them to dig deep inside and awareness that never turns into change is a great business model, and people are just using it left, right, and center.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: But remember that it's a huge terrible transformation model.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: We want transformation, we want real change, and real change is quieter and harder, and doesn't give you that dopamine hit of the insight which we get normally from awareness.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I believe that it should happen all together.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: You get the dopamine hit, also, you get the transformation, also, you get the complete package together.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: It happens in the body over time, though, regulation and reputation.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: That is, it's you know difficult path.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: You can say you have to climb that ladder to reach there, not through one more brilliant resiliation, no, or oh fuck, I got this awareness now.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: I know that realization is going to last for like the next five minutes, and you will be thinking about it more than you're implementing it.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: Simple, that's why it doesn't sell as well, and that exactly why it works to be honest.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: The real self-help is difficult to do, and because of which many people generally don't feel like doing it either, but that is the real work that is needed.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to be simple over here.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: How about you take it as this example?
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: You have lived for n numbers of years till long, let's say 28 years, and you're expecting a simple 3R awareness workshop to give you the whole inside and the change for the full rest of your life and rewire everything from the last 28 years and help you remove all the issues which are in your life generating in this full lifetime of 28 years till now.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's just insane, man.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: That that feels stupid to be honest.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: That if you think that I know the world is fast-paced, but something, especially things which are related to your own personal growth, requires time.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: So, what has to happen between understanding a pattern and being free of it?
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_00: Three things, and none of them are more inside to be honest.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: First is regulation, your nervous system has to actually be able to stay calm when the trigger hits.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: Simple because you can't choose a new response from inside a threat state.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you feel like someone is attacking you, not physically, verbally also, you will abruptly defend yourself as usual also.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: But what if that attack doesn't feel like attack anymore?
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Then what will you do?
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_00: Then you will have a response chance.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: And how do you make sure you don't feel this trigger as trigger?
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: You have to go deep down, we have to understand where the trigger is coming from, what meaning is associated with you.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: We have to understand all of it.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: What response would you generally give?
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: Why you would give?
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: Will you feel what you will feel after that response?
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: Everything needs to be studied.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: I know the initial procedure takes time.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: Consider it like a diagnostic, it will take time.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: If you want the doctor to give the best result, you would want the doctor to check thoroughly, isn't it?
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: Or else you will be ending up eating wrong medicines for wrong amount of time causing different issues rather than curating for the one which is already existing.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: Simple.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's the whole thing is a trainable thing through breath, through the body, not through thinking alone.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: If you're going to put someone into awareness zone, there's a high chance they will go in an overthinking zone later rather than curing themselves.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Second, you have to catch the pattern at real time, especially before it starts.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: Not analyze it afterwards, but feel it rising in the moment in your chest, your throat, wherever it lives for you before it completes.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: Third, you have to choose differently in that exact gap over and over until the new response becomes the automatic one.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: See your brain, your body, everything is designed in a very beautiful manner by whoever the superpower, so not superpower, but whoever is the ultimate thing who has designed it.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: So, over like I said, 28 years, you must have learned something in a particular manner.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: We have to rewrite the response a bit more for it to come in that automatic zone now for it to hit automatically instead of lashing out.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: You understand, okay, this guy stops talking stupid.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: Why should I bother my energy on it?
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_00: That's simple as that.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: Regulate, catch it live, choose different repeat, and that's it.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: The whole cycle is done.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: I hate when someone just gives the awareness and lets you go in the spiral of overthinking about it rather than implementing anything from there.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: So if you are done all the reading and all the understanding and you're still stuck, I don't want you to conclude you are broken or doesn't work for you, and especially in that lower times when we are vulnerable, don't blame yourself even more intensely.
• 12:25
  SPEAKER_00: And worse time, that is, don't go in overthinking zone time by time.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to see that you were sold half the process and told it was the whole thing.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: You have the awareness, you had it for years now.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: What you were never given is what comes after the actual work, and that's the part I care about the most.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to see what it looks like, there's a free video at the link.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: Break the loop, reset reality.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you on Thursday.