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- 2:21Damn, are you serious? When I was young I found out I
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- 2:43people in the United States have sickle cell trait?
- 2:45300 million people globally. I didn't find out I had sickle
- 2:48cell trait till I was in the army 10 years.
- 2:51Next thing you know I had a sickle cell trait exertion site.
- 2:53A simple cell. I thought that was a black gene
- 2:56or something. Nah, man, the black community is
- 2:58number 21 out of 36,000 babies are being born with sickle cell
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- 7:08It is World Sickle Cell Day, so we're going to be talking about
- 7:11Juneteenth, but it is World Sickle Cell Day as well, June
- 7:1519th. So yes, if you look behind me
- 7:17over there, that is my 'cause I advocate for sickle cell
- 7:22training, sickle cell disease mainly for myself, sickle cell
- 7:25trait because I have the trait collapse in the military from
- 7:27sickle cell trait exertion with rhabdomyolysis.
- 7:30If you've seen athletes, military personnel, people
- 7:33exercising, hanging out in Denver, Co, skiing, places where
- 7:37the oxygen is thin. People have had complications
- 7:41with sickle cell trait hasn't really been addressed over these
- 7:44years. The main conversation has been
- 7:46just make sure you don't make with another person with sickle
- 7:48cell trait because you can have a baby with sickle cell disease
- 7:51and then that creates sickle cell disease conversations.
- 7:53However, with sickle cell trait, there are risk factors, some
- 7:57known risk factors around sickle cell trait and I experienced two
- 8:01of those. I've had pain in my left arm
- 8:04since I was two years old. And then also I collapsed in
- 8:072006, which ended my military career around sickle cell trait
- 8:12exertion. So that is very important is it
- 8:15is a global conversation. United States, about 3.5 to 4
- 8:20million people have sickle cell trait and millions still don't
- 8:23know in this country. But also globally 300 million
- 8:26people plus have sickle cell trait and those numbers are
- 8:29million more still don't know that they're trait carriers.
- 8:32And again, they're not aware of the risk factors because of what
- 8:37we've been told by the medical community.
- 8:39So there are known symptoms and complications and things that
- 8:44can lead to sudden death, even the rare kidney cancer that's
- 8:47connected to sickle cell trade as well.
- 8:49So I didn't want to focus on all that today.
- 8:54I, I did some stuff on Saturday, me and Jody went to an event.
- 8:57We did the Battle of the Gene song, shared our stories, and
- 9:00then promoted shouts out to Trudy for long enough to be a
- 9:02part of that Saturday. But yes, today is the official
- 9:05day of World Sickle Cell Day. So I got to give shouts out for
- 9:08that. However, however, it is
- 9:12Juneteenth and that's the title of this episode.
- 9:16I have my guy Caldwell Williams here.
- 9:21I met Caldwell in 2018 interviewing the World War 2
- 9:23veteran. He's a Korean era veteran.
- 9:26And after I got done with the interview, we connected and I've
- 9:30been working with him ever since with his curriculum around
- 9:33goals, tend, goaltenders. And I'm just learning his
- 9:36conversation, such a powerful dialogue because most of the
- 9:42time we focus on, you know, communication, talking to one
- 9:47another. But do you ever focus on the
- 9:49listening of one another and how important is that?
- 9:51We think we are good listeners, but if you're listening to
- 9:55defend or you're speaking to offend, do you recognize that?
- 9:59And maybe you don't. As far as veterans, we deal with
- 10:04some type of identity crisis. But however, that is a human
- 10:07being flaw. We're all looking for our
- 10:10purpose, our passion, our gifts. What's next?
- 10:12Why am I here? Why am I born like we're all
- 10:14looking for that. So in this particular
- 10:18conversation for Juneteenth, Caldwell's 90 years old, and
- 10:24he's going to tell you about his family coming from Texas.
- 10:27I believe this is a very fitting discussion for today because
- 10:32there's celebrations all over the country today.
- 10:35But what's next? What's next in this Juneteenth
- 10:38conversation? You know, I think about when I
- 10:42looked at the Bible passages about Moses and the Israelites
- 10:46and how they walk that wilderness for 40 years.
- 10:49A, a, a 30 day walk took them 40 years because of what?
- 10:55Because they were enslaved for over 400 years.
- 10:58And then coming into the desert, the wilderness, with Moses,
- 11:02attempting to show them that God was going to take care of them,
- 11:09miracles every day, but their mindsets were still in Egypt.
- 11:13They were complaining that they would rather be in Egypt.
- 11:16Why are we out here, Moses? So what happened if you read
- 11:21that passage, that generation died off, right?
- 11:26God didn't just destroy them. He let that generation die off.
- 11:29And the next generation that was born, guess what?
- 11:32They weren't born in Egypt. They were born in the
- 11:35wilderness. So they had a different mindset
- 11:38than their ancestors who were born in Egypt that was enslaved.
- 11:43So that generation 40 years later was able to go into the
- 11:47promised land because of why? Because their mindset didn't
- 11:52have the emotional charges, the emotional wounds, as Caldwell
- 11:56says, the fractures of our integrity.
- 11:59They didn't have that. They acknowledged their
- 12:01ancestors that died in those forty years, but they were able
- 12:06to listen, have the confidence and courage to move on into the
- 12:10wilderness. I mean out of the wilderness to
- 12:12the promised land. But why though?
- 12:14Because even when they got to the promised land, Canaan, they
- 12:19still had things that they had to come up against.
- 12:22Now, Can you imagine that first generation, the 40 years going
- 12:26into the promised land with the upset and the frustrations of
- 12:29why they out in the wilderness? Why we doing this?
- 12:31Why, why we this Moses, why we doing this and then had to then
- 12:34take on all the other stuff that they were had to create.
- 12:38You know, they had to to go through, they had to be able to
- 12:42be have a new mindset because they had to create their own way
- 12:45when they got to that land. And I relate that to our
- 12:49community as blacks, because I believe that sometimes there's
- 12:53some of us not right or wrong, but we still have this mentality
- 12:56that we're upset about what happened in our to our
- 12:59ancestors. And it's not wrong that you're
- 13:03you could be upset, but then what's next?
- 13:05It's our turn. I don't have that mindset called
- 13:10Caldwell right now is the closest that I could get to
- 13:12someone who had their parents, who was first generation free of
- 13:16slaves. So he has some direct connection
- 13:19to slavery from his parents. And you're going to hear that
- 13:22from him today. But also you're going to hear
- 13:24about how can we move this conversation forward?
- 13:29There's nothing wrong with being upset and frustrated and
- 13:31whatever that is. But then it's our turn and he's
- 13:35going to share with you what it looks like for us to take that
- 13:39next step, right, to move that conversation forward so that my
- 13:45grandson and my granddaughter is not going to have to deal with
- 13:48this when they get my age at 50. They don't have their own things
- 13:52to deal with for their generation, but I don't want
- 13:54them to have to deal with the stuff that we're dealing with
- 13:56today. I can tell you that my
- 13:59grandfather on my my dad's side and my grandfather on my mom's
- 14:02side, two different conversations.
- 14:04My grandfather on my dad's side was a child post slavery and he
- 14:08taught his children. I'm going to teach you how to be
- 14:12independent so you don't depend on the white man.
- 14:16My mom's dad, my grandfather, he put that stuff behind him and he
- 14:21created his own way for his family, got into the church and
- 14:25taught us. And you find you make your own
- 14:27way. Don't worry about what happened
- 14:29about that. Make create your own, top your
- 14:31own path. What that did for my dad?
- 14:36My dad thought that he was racist.
- 14:40For 60 plus years, my dad thought he was racist.
- 14:43Why? Because what we don't realize as
- 14:45parents that sometimes when we talk to our children about these
- 14:49things in the world, we're also planting that seed in their
- 14:52subconscious mind to look out for those things.
- 14:56So Can you imagine? My dad's 8 years old going
- 14:58through life being independent. Yeah, he was independent, but
- 15:02also in the background listening and looking for, not to depend
- 15:06on the white man. And that 60 year span had my dad
- 15:11thinking he was racist until he and I had a conversation.
- 15:16I'm like, man, you are not racist.
- 15:17You might be prejudice, but you're not racist.
- 15:20And he and I had a heart to heart talk before he passed.
- 15:24And I asked him why are you racist?
- 15:27And he gave me this whole story, a bunch of reasons, and I can
- 15:31tell you that how I learned about if you're racist or not.
- 15:35If you ask a person if they're racist and they give you a
- 15:37reason, I'm willing to bet that we can have a conversation long
- 15:41enough that that reason will disappear because that reason is
- 15:44not their own influence. Sometimes these conversations
- 15:48are influenced by our bloodline, by our families, by
- 15:51conversations wanting to belong, being connected to people, like
- 15:56whatever that is. And so my dad wasn't racist
- 16:00because he gave me a reason. When I heard his reason, where
- 16:03it came from, it was like, no wonder.
- 16:06But my grandfather influenced that.
- 16:09Not purposely. I mean, that was a talk that he
- 16:12had with his children. But sometimes as parents, we put
- 16:16things into our children's lives to protect them from what we
- 16:19went through. And that's not even their worry
- 16:21or their concern. And then they grew up with that
- 16:24in the background of their mind trying to figure out and pay
- 16:27attention to that survival thing.
- 16:29So it doesn't happen to them. And it's not right or wrong.
- 16:33We need those skills to survive, but what skills do we need to
- 16:37live life? And it's different.
- 16:41So I appreciate you for listening and tuning in.
- 16:44I'm going to get right into it because my guy right here, man,
- 16:49he is no joke. He has a curriculum that he's
- 16:52been using for 60 plus years. I'm going to let him talk for a
- 16:56little bit. Actually, we have his trailer
- 16:59for his documentary that's going to be coming out shortly.
- 17:02So let me introduce him and then we're going to play the trailer
- 17:06and then we're going to go from there.
- 17:10What's happening to Caldwell? I like what you had to say,
- 17:14thanks. Appreciate you man.
- 17:17Thank you. Thank you for taking time out
- 17:19this afternoon to have this conversation about Juneteenth
- 17:24and and what's next. I like to talk about what's
- 17:26next, so introduce yourself, give give them a little bit.
- 17:30I'm going to play the trailer and then we're going to just
- 17:32dive right into June Juneteenth and how this conversation
- 17:36relates to you. And then we'll get into what's
- 17:38next, the second part of the show.
- 17:40Let's do it. All right, so you do you want to
- 17:42say who you are? You want to introduce, you want
- 17:44to say something about the trailer.
- 17:45What do you want to say? I'm number 10:50, Children born
- 17:50to a first generation free couple in East Texas, a county
- 17:56called Cass County. CASSI think it's one of the
- 18:01largest counties in Texas and abuts the Louisiana border.
- 18:08Our farm, which my parents were buying, was 25 miles from
- 18:14Shreveport, LA and an equilateral triangle.
- 18:18We're also 25 miles from Texarkana, and that now our farm
- 18:23is the other point of that triangle.
- 18:27And Juneteenth was in the whole county, every black in the
- 18:36county, and we were all farmers. There were no cities in that
- 18:40part of Texas. Juneteenth was a big event of
- 18:44the year. In a gigantic open pasture,
- 18:50people would congregate more than 1000 to to celebrate and
- 18:57all the stuff that goes on during celebration.
- 19:00And I remember we left Texas when I was 10 years old.
- 19:03So this is my first ten years was a part of that environment.
- 19:08And I remember they would truck, a truck would come with gigantic
- 19:14blocks of ice because, you know, there was no refrigerator foams
- 19:19or anything of that in the 30s, gigantic blocks of ice.
- 19:25And at age approaching 60, I'm now 90, I found myself dealing
- 19:33with a trauma that I experienced at the Juneteenth celebration.
- 19:41Apparently I was, I had enough personality or intelligence or
- 19:46something attractive that the teenager who was charged with
- 19:51taking an ice pick and breaking the ice down chose me to help
- 19:57him. Al, my brother, two years older
- 20:03than me, felt he should have been chosen.
- 20:08And so we struggle over the ice pick and I couldn't understand.
- 20:14And I often had that kind of conflict with that brother.
- 20:18You know, why are you so mean to me?
- 20:20You know, I haven't done anything.
- 20:22So with Sterling over the ice pick, my brother yanked it from
- 20:26me and they wouldn't handle, hid him in his mouth and broke off
- 20:33his two front teeth. We had no money for dentists, so
- 20:43he went without dental care to those broken front teeth until
- 20:47he joined the Air Force in 19, 50 I think it was.
- 20:54And I suffered the guilt of that without it was so painful I
- 21:04suppressed it and forgot about it and, and thought I was rid of
- 21:09it. And when I finally got in touch
- 21:12with it, I realized it was a source of a whole series of
- 21:16pathological struggles in my life because I was suppressing
- 21:22the guilt. And what I did in suppressing
- 21:26the guilt was I projected it on him because I didn't feel, I
- 21:33didn't want to feel the guilt. So what I created in my head
- 21:37was, oh, he was mean. He was mean to me.
- 21:41And so he deserved what he got. So that's how I that's how I
- 21:46survived for 50 years until, until I got confronted by one of
- 21:51my students who said, Caldwell, apply your own data to yourself.
- 21:59And when he said that, I immediately recalled the the
- 22:03incident that my mom. Did That's how powerful the
- 22:06brain is. First step I had to do was and
- 22:09what I did was forgave that young Caldwell who who did that
- 22:15and and the pain was lifted. Wow.
- 22:23And the nightmares ceased. I had been having nightmares all
- 22:26of my life about my brother being mean to me to justify what
- 22:31I did to him. And there's more.
- 22:34There's more. So, so, so we're going to play
- 22:37the trailer. It's a few minutes long, ladies
- 22:39and gentlemen. And then we're going to come
- 22:41right back and get into some of this Juneteenth.
- 22:44And again, we're going to talk about what's next.
- 22:46If you heard that story of what he shared about him and the
- 22:50sibling, imagine that we all have some version of that in our
- 22:54life that we haven't dealt with. Absolutely.
- 22:57And that some of our behaviors are coming from some of those
- 23:01guilts and shames and embarrassments and
- 23:04disappointments in our self first, not just in the people,
- 23:08but in our self. And self forgiveness is so
- 23:11important. All right, so let's get right
- 23:13into the trailer. This is going to be a Caldwell's
- 23:17trailer of his documentary, and the document is almost finished
- 23:22too. So, but this is the trailer that
- 23:23we have. Check this out.
- 23:29The most compelling social need of humans.
- 23:33Is to belong all. Four of my grandparents were
- 23:40born slaves, my father's father. He was seven years.
- 23:44Old and sold away from everything and everybody he
- 23:49knew, he never again saw any member of his family.
- 23:56My father, he was born in 1884. His mother had died in
- 24:02childbirth and he raised himself from age 8.
- 24:09The sheriff came with his posse, took my father and my oldest
- 24:13brother and beat them. My father died with scars on his
- 24:17back from that beating. If the sheriff puts you in jail
- 24:22in a Jim Crow S, where do you turn to seek justice?
- 24:30I love school. I, I it became a source of me
- 24:35finding myself when I'd graduated from UCLA in 1957 and
- 24:40was never even able to get an interview.
- 24:42No Jews, no Negroes, no Hispanics, no Orientals need
- 24:49apply now. What do I do?
- 24:56Boy, you add color to our faculty.
- 24:59That's, that's all we're interested in.
- 25:01All the other counselors were instructed to give me their
- 25:05failing seniors, dopers, rebels, suicidals, listening to 12th
- 25:11graders who were not going to graduate.
- 25:14They told me what was going on in their lives.
- 25:16I discovered that I had something to offer people that I
- 25:20thought had everything. Wood was already out on the
- 25:24campus, that the skinny black dude was cool.
- 25:27I've got all these kids who want to talk to me and I don't have
- 25:29the time to see them. I think I might be able to see
- 25:32everybody if I saw them in groups.
- 25:35Individual psychotherapy on a couch was the only method.
- 25:38Skinny black dude want to do groups?
- 25:41You can't do that because it doesn't exist.
- 25:45To hell with them, let's do it anyway.
- 25:48Parents want to know what are you doing to bring about this
- 25:52reaction to my kid? I've been sending my kids to the
- 25:54best psychiatrist in Southern California and this hasn't
- 25:56happened. This shit works.
- 26:03Developing adolescence without narcotics.
- 26:05Is a radical. New national idea.
- 26:09Oh, you know you can't do that. Alternative school that includes
- 26:14the sensitivity to the mental health needs of our students.
- 26:18This is too big for you. Would you be willing to?
- 26:22Train my managers, yeah. Who's called Williams?
- 26:27He hasn't published anything 22. Iraq, Afghan veterans committing
- 26:33suicide every day. I think I know who these young
- 26:38people are. Mr. Williams, you don't want to
- 26:41touch this. You don't know who we are, Mr.
- 26:47Williams. And I said, yes, I know who you
- 26:51are. Maybe you don't know who you
- 26:53are. Did your parents encounter
- 26:55racism? Oh, my gosh, yes.
- 26:59How about your grandparents? Oh my, even worse.
- 27:03Then how did we get here? Someone persisted and prevailed
- 27:08in spite of. I would assert that no less is
- 27:13required of us. I don't know, Caldwell, man,
- 27:38every time we watch that man, it's just more and more
- 27:41emotional just to get it to understand where, where our, our
- 27:47country has come from, right. So what do you want to say about
- 27:56Juneteenth before we get into some of these deeper levels of
- 27:59this topic? First off is that after 300
- 28:09years or so enslavement we who are descendants of those people
- 28:15like I am were re enslaved for another 100 years.
- 28:21They call it Jim Crow, but it was another form of slavery.
- 28:25And today, in 2024, people who look like you and me, who
- 28:34immigrated after being freed of slavery in the Caribbean and
- 28:40Central and South America and Africa, are way ahead of us in
- 28:47healing and being liberated and assimilating into the American
- 28:53economic machine. And I came out of retirement to
- 29:00deal with kids who were committing suicide from
- 29:03Afghanistan and Iraq and thought that my process of healing,
- 29:11which we can talk about a little bit later on, was related to me
- 29:16mastering standard English. Only recently, since I've been
- 29:22working with you did I realize, oh heck no, I'm not just
- 29:28standard English. Long time ago when I left
- 29:30elementary school, they programmed me for journalism as
- 29:33I went to junior high school. I didn't even know what
- 29:35journalism was, but that was a statement of the system.
- 29:39Well, this boy's got the English thing down, he said, right?
- 29:44They didn't say that to me. It might have affected my career
- 29:46if if I had known that, but that's a child and error.
- 29:51What I discovered was that it took me two years at UCLA, two
- 29:57years of college, before I had enough confidence to
- 30:02participate. I felt so inferior to the kids
- 30:07who surrounded me in the UCLA classrooms, whose father was
- 30:11teaching the class. My dad didn't look like that.
- 30:16My dad, born in 1884, whose mother died in childbirth when
- 30:21he was three. First generation 3 and I was
- 30:28healing from the genes that had were passed on to me, injured by
- 30:40the enslavement. And so in on this journey and
- 30:47the latter part of this journey, have I realized and identified
- 30:52the mindful injuries that exclusion inflicts on all of us.
- 30:59And it's generationally goes on. That's enough for me to say.
- 31:05So Juneteenth, that large pasture that the whole county
- 31:12would would gather in celebration and, and all kinds
- 31:15of things went on. Looking back, I could see
- 31:20teenagers and young people were looking for corners to to to
- 31:26pursue romance. Preachers were preaching and
- 31:30baseball players were playing baseball.
- 31:32All this was going on simultaneously and I remember
- 31:37there was a a a value placed on the farmer whose watermelon for
- 31:43ripe in time for Juneteenth. Oh my gosh.
- 31:46And and. So there's a planting season
- 31:49usually around Good Friday in April.
- 31:51And then the the anxiety was, you know, grow, grow, grow, get
- 31:57right, get right. So they'll be ready for
- 31:58Juneteenth. So that's my memory of
- 32:02Juneteenth was a celebration. Now in in the process of of your
- 32:0990 years and your and you developing your own curriculum
- 32:14and principles, your first statement about the sensible
- 32:20longing for human beings. Let's touch on that because that
- 32:24really is the core of. Your.
- 32:26Conversation so touch on how important the sense of belonging
- 32:30is for us as human beings. No matter what part of the point
- 32:36what track track comes from, exclusion is the basis for all
- 32:49punishment. Our fear of exclusion is greater
- 32:56than our fear of death itself. As a matter of fact, fear of
- 32:59death itself, when investigated, is related to us.
- 33:05Am I going to be in the right place or am I going to be in
- 33:09that group that, you know, that that's not treated so well?
- 33:17Fear of eternal exclusion from the, you know, from the good
- 33:22stuff. And we evolved cultures.
- 33:31They already formed. The culture was the tribe to
- 33:37which we could earn membership either by the way we look or by
- 33:44our participation in the in the work.
- 33:49When I was in my 30s, we, we bought a house just West of the
- 33:52UCLA campus in, in Westwood and we could walk to the campus for
- 33:57free lectures and, and, and and and they're like, and one
- 34:01evening and a lecture, a, an anthropological lecture, the
- 34:06lecturer said. When I was a young man, I
- 34:09apprenticed under an anthropologist who was doing
- 34:12research in in Peru in the high in the Andes Mountains.
- 34:18And I got to travel to Peru with this anthropologist and he said
- 34:24we he was dealing with a village on a plateau high in the Andes
- 34:29Mountains. There's a plateau at the end of
- 34:34which was a large building, and then little huts along the way
- 34:39where people lived. And the guides answered when we
- 34:46asked, what's that bigger building?
- 34:48What is it? That's our sacred space, you
- 34:51know, like a church, apparently. And he said on the facing, on
- 34:59each side of the opening to the sacred space was a large piece
- 35:04of wood with some carvings on it.
- 35:05That was clearly some statement. Well, what's the statement?
- 35:08Oh, those are our rules. What are the rules translated
- 35:16tell the truth on one side and the other side don't be lazy.
- 35:24And I got and I was was about, you know, 30 something years old
- 35:28at the time. But that impacted me both my
- 35:32head and my heart. I said, oh, that's our 10
- 35:36commandments stated in two sentences.
- 35:41Because it comes it all. It is the lazy man who covets
- 35:47somebody else's stuff instead of being.
- 35:52And it is to our detriment, a tendency to not tell the truth,
- 36:01to protect our behinds, which ultimately.
- 36:08So let's let's let's get into because I want to touch on the
- 36:11Jim Crow era because that is so significant before we get to how
- 36:15how we move on from that. But let's talk about that
- 36:21fracture of integrity that that you saw your family and even you
- 36:26had to heal with. We, we did an interview.
- 36:28We did an interview together and, and and the lady asked you
- 36:31how come you're not mad at the white people?
- 36:33Like she asked you like, why you're not mad, but talk about
- 36:36that. Like, yeah, coming from that
- 36:38part. They we're told we're supposed
- 36:44to be mad and predators who want to recruit us to their game or
- 36:51their game encourage that. I was working with a group of
- 36:57black 70 year old Vietnam Veterans, all of whom were
- 37:04seeking to rehabilitate their time in California prisons.
- 37:11Summary of that story. We were workers on plantation,
- 37:17Jim Crow plantations, cane fields in Louisiana, cotton
- 37:22fields in Mississippi when we were drafted into the military
- 37:26service and sent to Vietnam. At first we celebrated our
- 37:34upgrade in the standard of limit.
- 37:36One man said lunch in the cane fields was a tin bucket with
- 37:43syrup at the bottom and a biscuit.
- 37:50Three meals a day in the military, clean underwear,
- 37:52showers. Boy, this is better life.
- 37:58Until realizing that because we had no education, we were thrown
- 38:05in the front lines in the killing fields of the jungle.
- 38:11Now, this is not a better life. Popcorn was as I mean, heroin
- 38:18was as accessible as popcorn. They all became addicted to
- 38:24heroin because it emboldened them to do the killing of Goose.
- 38:32The leadership looked the other way.
- 38:35The leadership was predominantly white, young white man who had
- 38:43gotten there commissions in southern colleges and we're
- 38:53supporting and defending Jim Crow by carrying their stars and
- 38:59bars flagged with them even in the jungle.
- 39:01So beside their sleeping quarters, they would post their
- 39:06flag, right? And these 70 year old black men
- 39:11said we came to as addicted emboldened persons when we were
- 39:21offended by one of those crackers which they call these
- 39:24guys to slob a grenade. And the word fragging was
- 39:32invented and Washington Defense Department didn't want the
- 39:38public to know, but they experience these activities as
- 39:45losing control of their military.
- 39:48Went to Congress and said we need to get regain control of
- 39:51our troops. Cause in the streets parents are
- 39:56marching against the war, screaming against our
- 40:00participation. And in the jungle, our kids are
- 40:06killing one another and. Congress passed a law in 1973
- 40:14converting to an all volunteer service and since then a very
- 40:20thin sliver of the population among the non commissioned
- 40:28troops are kids from uneducated families.
- 40:33They're the matter of the race and and Department of Defense
- 40:39can do anything they want with them because their parents don't
- 40:43complain. In your documentary, you know,
- 40:47you mentioned about all the things that our ancestors went
- 40:50through, and now, you know, it's our turn.
- 40:54Yeah. Leading up to what it being our
- 40:58turn, what are what are some of the healing pieces of that past
- 41:04history? Do you think that we need to
- 41:06start? Thank you.
- 41:09I we've identified 3 skill sets crucial to one being able to
- 41:18navigate their own inclusion, their own assimilation in in the
- 41:23culture. And those skill sets include, I
- 41:30call it an organized, systematic approach to thinking and
- 41:35planning and executing. The broad term that I got
- 41:43exposed to growing up and in college was critical thinking.
- 41:51But the definition of critical thinking was so amorphous that
- 41:54every person I talked to had a different definition.
- 41:58I need something clearer. And, and that's how we came up
- 42:03with, I called it a road map, an organized systematic thinking
- 42:08and planning approach that applies universally, starting
- 42:13with turn that gives you a chance to look inside and see
- 42:22what path you're on and what do you want to do something about
- 42:25it. And the scriptures, the John the
- 42:35Baptist said repent synonym for turn OK.
- 42:44And I intentionally used turn because of the experience that
- 42:51many Americans have of being forced to participate and and to
- 43:03testify to get adults off their back to stuff that they didn't
- 43:08really experience. So there's a resistance to the
- 43:13presentation of religion to a lot of our.
- 43:16People. Sure.
- 43:17Yeah, for sure. And and so when you turn, you
- 43:25nobody externally is telling you which way to turn.
- 43:29And when you turn, you see, you see something, you see
- 43:33something. What do you want to do about it?
- 43:36And you get to make choices whether or not you do it and
- 43:44what what it is you do. Because when you take that step,
- 43:48trust yourself enough to take that step, another door opens up
- 43:53for you. You see options there.
- 43:59Pick one. Now we're talking about goal
- 44:03setting, 'cause you pick one and you pursue that, you'll get a
- 44:12result. You just you get the next
- 44:14picture and you're able to tell whether you are making progress
- 44:22toward that direction, which you turn.
- 44:25I'm moving. This is happening, and so the
- 44:32road map to achievement is a kind of a template.
- 44:41No matter what you're working on.
- 44:45You can go back to the second skill set is empowering
- 44:49dialogue, which I think is most important of all because it is
- 44:55language that identifies the tribe and that creates the
- 44:59culture. Culture.
- 45:01Language. Yes, language, language.
- 45:04And I say empowering dialogue because dialogue that empowers
- 45:14is dialogue that includes both the very word dialogue that
- 45:19means to speaking and listening. And we are deficient in our
- 45:30training, in our listening skills training.
- 45:35Nobody listening to this voice and private or public schools
- 45:43from kindergarten through graduate degree had a course in
- 45:49listening. That is a new phenomenon that's
- 45:53now emerging at the same level that mindfulness is finally
- 45:57emerging a century later. I don't want to diminish the
- 46:05importance of speaking because the way we speak creates a
- 46:11condition for the other person to feel safe enough to listen to
- 46:16you. You offend me.
- 46:19You just shut me off because I'm going to retreat, forming my
- 46:24rebuttal so I can come back at you.
- 46:27Yeah, and in our excluded culture as slaves and then Jim
- 46:34Crow victims, we developed a culture that young people
- 46:41embrace trash talking talk so fast and so well.
- 46:51You shut the other guy up. Who?
- 46:54Who? And and that only value that is
- 47:00acceptable there is winning. And so the guy who never loses
- 47:05is top of the pyramid in that in that culture and the we are at
- 47:15the present time in touch with young people who assist.
- 47:21We had good backgrounds from middle class families, but they
- 47:25chose a path to be a part of the trash talking the culture.
- 47:31No wonder why? Well, without investigating what
- 47:39the pain or injury was to that person who caused him to make
- 47:45that choice. This is the community in which
- 47:51he feels most comfortable, no matter his background.
- 47:55And. And that suggests that there's
- 47:57something going on, unidentified, undiagnosed in
- 48:00that child's background that you're missing when you're
- 48:03saying why is this boy doing acting so crazy?
- 48:08And the third skill set is, I call it assertive management of
- 48:15change in transition. Change threatens us if it's
- 48:21change on which we feel no control.
- 48:26We seek change we take, and we have the ability to go out and
- 48:31look for it for ourselves. As a matter of fact, it's how we
- 48:35grow. Learning to be the one, taking
- 48:43the initiative, learning to be assertive.
- 48:46So you, you are pursuing the change rather than change.
- 48:50Pursuing you makes all the difference and when we know when
- 48:56we feel no control, we are threatened and we resist change
- 49:01or we get drug, gun stolen, anything that's suppressed so we
- 49:04don't have to feel. I I want to touch on this part
- 49:08of the conversation as as us, as blacks and and the other
- 49:13cultures who ancestors came to this country right as as second
- 49:19class citizens. We were.
- 49:20We were when we were all hyphenated.
- 49:22Yes. Let's talk about that so that we
- 49:25can address what it's going to take for us as a Black culture
- 49:32to move forward beyond just the celebrations.
- 49:35When we think and and are caught up in feeling sorry for
- 49:40ourselves and giving a broad burst to those white folk is
- 49:46just that's one monolithic group.
- 49:51We block off our ability just to recognize opportunity when it
- 49:55emerges. So we got a mindset and we know
- 49:58what you know, we know it's the man, the the predator who had
- 50:08impact on our on our community, including those boys in Vietnam
- 50:12was Elijah Muhammad who said, don't you see the enemy is he's
- 50:16a white man. He objectified the white man the
- 50:21way the white man had objectified the Vietnamese.
- 50:25Those are goofs. You're not killing people,
- 50:26you're killing goofs. And in today's culture, you're
- 50:29not killing people, you're killing terrorists.
- 50:32Well, Elijah picked up on that and said by any means necessary
- 50:38to do whatever you need to do to to the white man, he's the
- 50:40devil. And a whole bunch of our boys,
- 50:47absent any other guidance, bought in and during his game,
- 50:55only to find it that he was not as he represented himself to be.
- 51:00And many of them still pursued that religion, but not Elijah's
- 51:07version of it. But there's considerable group
- 51:11that is still caught up in Elijah's game.
- 51:18Yeah, so, so, so let's talk about the because sometimes in
- 51:22our, in our enslaved conversation of, of our healing
- 51:26process, we say that our our culture was treated the worst,
- 51:30you know? Yes.
- 51:32Because once you compare to someone else's, you're always
- 51:35going to find someone who was worst off than you are, right?
- 51:38But go ahead, let. Me recall some terms and you and
- 51:46your own experience. Whoever is listening will
- 51:51recognize Wops, sphicks, crackers, Hoosiers.
- 52:04Oreanos. Wet, wetbacks.
- 52:07I remember. Oreanos.
- 52:08Rag heads. Yeah, there there are.
- 52:14I'm not thinking of the terms that were used was used for the
- 52:17Chinese, but yeah, but Orientals, yes.
- 52:22And Orientals prefer apparently Asian, but they were Orientals.
- 52:32All tribes coming to the United States were balkanized and
- 52:38settled off to ghettos. I said to a person is a friend
- 52:47of mine whose ancestors arrived in 1629 and he was 12
- 52:53generations Yale Wall Street, Yale Wall Street.
- 52:57And he mentioned that in in their Connecticut community, the
- 53:07Jane Turney's or John Turney's son was his neighbor and friend
- 53:14and attorney was an Irishman who was a World Boxing champion.
- 53:19And I said, oh, did he was he able to move into your English
- 53:24elite community because he was rich?
- 53:30And Peter said no, he moved into our community because he got a
- 53:40an English girl in our community pregnant and that got him in.
- 53:48And so therein is an explanation for what also evolved in our
- 53:55culture, boys improving their social circumstances like
- 54:02opportunities for for their family by impregnation.
- 54:07Let. Let me take a break real quick.
- 54:09Call will be all. Right, real quick.
- 54:12All right, you're tuned into the Frondo they show right here on
- 54:15NBR radio. As you can see, this is live.
- 54:18You got people doing the lawn over there.
- 54:21It's it's the holiday. So people do it, cut their
- 54:23grass, whatever they're doing over there.
- 54:24But this is real life right here.
- 54:25This is what happens when you go live.
- 54:27You have no idea what's possible, what can happen.
- 54:29You just and you deal with it, right?
- 54:32So again, we're listening and sharing from Carl Wolf's
- 54:34perspective on Juneteenth. But more so, what is it going to
- 54:38take? What's next for us to heal right
- 54:41and that's what we're going to dive into next and and start
- 54:44some of this healing process. Shouts out for those that are
- 54:46listening and watching See we got some comments.
- 54:51Dexter said yes to land eyes. That was definitely one of them
- 54:55that that they used back in the day.
- 54:57Caldwell likes that Mr. Turner good afternoon.
- 55:03He calls me a A Ron shouts out. That's my buddy out there.
- 55:06What else let's go, Dexter said let's go.
- 55:08Let's get it. Matthew has the fire emojis.
- 55:12That means the conversation was hot.
- 55:14And so we appreciate you all for listening again.
- 55:17We're going to come right back and get more in depth of what
- 55:21this healing conversation is, and then we'll let you go.
- 55:23All right, Won't be too much longer, but I really want to
- 55:26focus on the process of what it's going to take.
- 55:28It's not right or wrong or good or bad to celebrate.
- 55:31We have to, we want to acknowledge our ancestors.
- 55:34We want to acknowledge, you know, our past.
- 55:37You don't want to dwell in it, but you want to reference it
- 55:41because those when you reference, you can learn from
- 55:44things. You know, some people only focus
- 55:47on the negative of slavery, but we're talking about the strength
- 55:52and what they went through in your culture.
- 55:54This is not just African Americans.
- 55:56We're talking about all of those who came to this country as
- 56:01second class citizens. And we're going to talk about
- 56:03this on the after the break that were hyphenated.
- 56:05All deal with some type of emotional fracture of their
- 56:10bloodline. A lot of families came here
- 56:13fleeing other countries, their own home countries to come here
- 56:16for a better opportunity. But then they get here and
- 56:19they're still dealing with inclusion as an emotional
- 56:25portion of it. See the world the society talks
- 56:28about inclusion and exclusion from what you can.
- 56:31Oh, I'm I'm. While I did this for you, I
- 56:33opened up these doors for you. You should be fine.
- 56:35You should be happy. You're included.
- 56:37Yeah, but you can open up all the doors that you want.
- 56:40But if I don't experience myself being included to walk through
- 56:44that door with confidence and courage, then I'm not going to
- 56:46take that. I'm not going to go through that
- 56:48door. It sounds good, but it sounds
- 56:50good for him, not for me because of what my culture, what my
- 56:54answers has have talked about what it is to be in the United
- 56:58States as a as a person or even maybe as an object.
- 57:02Because we label one another so much from our skin color to
- 57:07wearing glasses to a beard or whatever.
- 57:09However you identify and label people, it disconnects you from
- 57:13that human connection. So some of these labels on how
- 57:16we even talk. That's why he said the
- 57:18communication dialogue is so important because how we talk to
- 57:21one another and listen to one another from the labels is
- 57:25enough to keep us from being connected.
- 57:29So we're gonna play just a couple PSAS here and then, yeah,
- 57:33just come right back to the conversation.
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- 1:00:10Frondo's issue right here. Special edition Juneteenth
- 1:00:13episode with my guy Caldwell Williams.
- 1:00:16They're still doing that. They're still cutting grass over
- 1:00:18there. That's real life over there,
- 1:00:25huh? All right.
- 1:00:28So man, may I say something about I want to introduce the
- 1:00:33word Lee Atwater. Yeah, please.
- 1:00:35Yeah, touch that please, because that's key.
- 1:00:40In pursuit of making his Republican Party the majority
- 1:00:45party, which Nixon wanted to do, Lee Atwater, who was a political
- 1:00:52strategist for Reagan, came up with the idea.
- 1:00:58He didn't use the same language as we, but my translation of
- 1:01:01what he turned in on was Southerners who've been
- 1:01:11Democrats since the Civil War belong over here with us.
- 1:01:19And he approached Southerners using the N word.
- 1:01:26You're in the party with them, get your butt over here where
- 1:01:30you belong. So he introduced inclusion by
- 1:01:38race and they flooded to him like flies to Sir in less than a
- 1:01:54generation during just during Reagan's first term.
- 1:01:59By the end of his first term, the slaveholding segregationist
- 1:02:05S was virtually 100% Republican. And because they provided the
- 1:02:13foot soldiers, they took over the Republican Party.
- 1:02:18The Republican Party of Trump is identical to the slave holding
- 1:02:28Jim Crow South and they have expanded that group to include
- 1:02:35the Midwest bigots who were never outed in the 1st place
- 1:02:42during Jim Crow. Every Midwestern state,
- 1:02:47Illinois, in Indiana, Michigan, Minnesota had sunset laws.
- 1:02:54If you were black, you had to be out of town by sunset.
- 1:02:58And so their sympathy was with the slaveholding, the Jim Crow
- 1:03:01South, and their sympathies were with Hitler because on our farm
- 1:03:08in 1939, my older brothers and my dad had this long poles that
- 1:03:15they carried from our land and stretched the wires for an
- 1:03:19antenna. And my dad had a radio, and you
- 1:03:23could hear Hitler's speeches at night.
- 1:03:26And my white neighbors were celebrating Hitler.
- 1:03:31And the media, national media lied about it.
- 1:03:37Oh, they were just conservative and they America First was not
- 1:03:40about supporting Hitler. It was just like we didn't want
- 1:03:44to be involved in foreign entanglements.
- 1:03:47DS more than Charles Lindbergh and Henry Ford were pro Nazis.
- 1:03:55And so Fast forward to Lee Atwater.
- 1:04:00Reagan's first campaign speech after he got the nomination was
- 1:04:05in Philadelphia Ms. We know that name only because Philadelphia
- 1:04:10Ms. lynched 3 civil rights workers.
- 1:04:14And it was Reagan's way of saying under Lee Atwater's
- 1:04:19direction to the South, I am your boy.
- 1:04:23The same way Trump is doing that now.
- 1:04:27And so the wait entitlement as vehicle for inclusion is what
- 1:04:42must be combated. And the way to combat that is to
- 1:04:47create the space of people being able to tell the truth.
- 1:04:52And the people who are not telling the truth and are
- 1:04:57suffering over there from their exclusion injuries are no
- 1:05:01different from you and me. And the lie that's told to them
- 1:05:07that they bought in just to get into the game is blacks and, or
- 1:05:16people of color, the newly hyphenated people of color.
- 1:05:20We became African American Indians became Native American,
- 1:05:26Asians became Asian American, Asian Pacific Island American.
- 1:05:30And. His and Hispanic Americans as
- 1:05:31well. Yes, all hyphenated, but no
- 1:05:35white people are hyphenated anymore.
- 1:05:38It's just all white. White and Spaniards are white
- 1:05:42and it's it's. And one last thing.
- 1:05:48I'm saying that at the moment, as we evolved, we stopped
- 1:05:54beating our children. At the present time, June 19th,
- 1:06:012024, every slave state plus Arizona still allows kids to be
- 1:06:13beaten in school. Everybody else is forbidden
- 1:06:22physical punishment of children and those people in our tribe
- 1:06:27who look like you and me who are behind in their evolution are
- 1:06:33still getting in trouble. And you have you for on shared
- 1:06:38an anecdote with me recently where a person's sensibly hired
- 1:06:43to help children grow said to you, don't let them talk about
- 1:06:52being hit at home because we have to.
- 1:06:56And So what is that doing to that child?
- 1:06:59Yeah, the suffer in silence for sure.
- 1:07:02Suffer in silence. So what before we end this, what
- 1:07:06do you want to say to the point of the objectification?
- 1:07:12I, I, I believe you know, in, in my conversation with you these
- 1:07:15last five, almost six years now, what's what stick out to me most
- 1:07:21in the beginning was the objectification, right?
- 1:07:24The labeling because as a soldier, as a veteran, you know,
- 1:07:29looking back after talking to you that I, I was, was, was able
- 1:07:33to objectify another human being to a terrorist.
- 1:07:36And then you trained to kill the terrorist, right?
- 1:07:39And then one day that brain's going to remember, your mind's
- 1:07:42going to remember that that was not a terrorist.
- 1:07:43It was a human being, right? And then you got to, then you
- 1:07:47got to live with that of whatever you've done to, for,
- 1:07:50for, for our brothers and sisters who was in combat and,
- 1:07:53and, and experienced that in that fashion.
- 1:07:56You got to live with that now. But even in today's society, if
- 1:08:00you a Laker fan and a Clipper fan, I will kill you in the
- 1:08:02parking lot because you got on a Lakers jersey or a Clippers
- 1:08:06jersey, right? So.
- 1:08:09In, in, in peeling off these these labels.
- 1:08:13How can this help us heal from our own right?
- 1:08:17Because we're not talking about the second class citizens who
- 1:08:21the Irish, because the Irish were treated just as bad, right?
- 1:08:25Polish, like so every, every culture has their experience of
- 1:08:30how they were treated coming to this country or what or, or
- 1:08:32leaving their own country to come here is why they came to
- 1:08:35the United States. But for you, what is that first
- 1:08:38layer of that labeling that we have to peel off as a black
- 1:08:42culture so that we can start to do the self, the the
- 1:08:48interpersonal relationship with our self first?
- 1:08:51Two thoughts submerged. First, I want to acknowledge
- 1:08:55what has already evolved was get money by any means necessary.
- 1:09:05And then with that money you can give your children a chance for
- 1:09:11liberation. You can send your children to
- 1:09:13Harvard and Yale and Princeton. And that's what Joe Kennedy did
- 1:09:19for the Kennedy boys. And it not only worked put him
- 1:09:24in the White House. John F Joe Kennedy had cornered
- 1:09:31the market on during prohibition on on Scotch and Irish whiskies.
- 1:09:41And so he was a a essentially a drug dealer.
- 1:09:45He said it was a liquid drug. And the Ken gave money to the
- 1:09:50Roosevelt campaign. Roosevelt appointed him
- 1:09:53ambassador to England and so this Roman Catholic Irishman got
- 1:10:01in, his family got in and our generation, Jay-Z, drug dealer
- 1:10:09Jay-Z simply follow the the the equation that was long
- 1:10:16established and then married a pretty girl and the their
- 1:10:27daughter can go and do anything she wants.
- 1:10:33Oh yeah. The city of Los Angeles allowed
- 1:10:36him to create a, a, a big event on the mall downtown and a an
- 1:10:46elderly person who was in the facility where my wife was, was
- 1:10:51with our Alzheimer's confined was furious as a black man,
- 1:10:59educated black man, he was head of the engineering department at
- 1:11:02Cal State Northridge. And he was furious that the city
- 1:11:06of Los Angeles allowed this black former drug dealer to be
- 1:11:13have that kind of publicity to put on an event.
- 1:11:17So that that's one model doing what has always been done.
- 1:11:23I assert that a way to reach more people in a healthier way
- 1:11:30is teach the three foundation skills that are already
- 1:11:37mentioned in this that empowers our children to navigate that
- 1:11:46assimilation journey themselves and not just black children, all
- 1:11:52children. And so the education arena is
- 1:11:59the potential solution. One word on on that.
- 1:12:06We got a model for it at the dawn of the industrial
- 1:12:11revolution in the late 1800s. We were farmers.
- 1:12:17We're in that great agricultural nation and boys worked alongside
- 1:12:20their dad on the farm. The brand new in the world,
- 1:12:25brand new industries said we need workers went to Congress.
- 1:12:35We need workers on the boys are farmers.
- 1:12:39Congress passed the laws, put the money in the pot, and
- 1:12:42mandated every male child in secondary schools, in public
- 1:12:49schools all across the United States must take shops, wood
- 1:12:53shop, metal shop, electric shop, print shop, and that speed up
- 1:13:03the transition from farm to industry.
- 1:13:09Mental health has been the deficiency and absence from our
- 1:13:15culture up until this point. Mindfulness just broke.
- 1:13:19It broke out in the last decade. Instead of having out, seek it
- 1:13:30out on your own. Government is the one that has
- 1:13:37all of our resources. These concepts about which you
- 1:13:43and I are speaking, taught in every school, every public
- 1:13:50school in the nation, creates a generation better able to
- 1:13:57navigate the idealized society that we're seeking, but that
- 1:14:02we'll never achieve until we make the commitment to doing it.
- 1:14:07And all of us trying, struggling to heal from our injuries.
- 1:14:13White, black, brown, yellow. Our children, our grandchildren
- 1:14:22would move, would race toward that more perfect union rather
- 1:14:29than struggling than crawling toward it.
- 1:14:32Yeah. And so lastly, you know, again,
- 1:14:35it's Juneteenth. The celebrations have been going
- 1:14:39on since Saturday. What would be the first step to
- 1:14:50start that healing journey, right?
- 1:14:52So for me, I've, I've learned from myself, from the work that
- 1:14:55I've done the last 14 years I had, I had to, I had to turn
- 1:15:01within myself, right? Because a lot of the, a lot of
- 1:15:05the things that I dealt with, I, I, I, I grew up because of how
- 1:15:10my parents were, right? And so as children, you blame
- 1:15:13your parents, right? Silently, sometimes not, we
- 1:15:16won't say it, you know, it takes a lot of, a lot of courage for
- 1:15:19somebody to say, I can't stand my mom or dad, right?
- 1:15:22Because that looks bad. But, but silently we suffer and
- 1:15:25we say those things to ourselves, right?
- 1:15:28And we, we don't get an opportunity to self reflect,
- 1:15:32take a step back and look and see what my parents went through
- 1:15:35when they were children, what my grandparents was like when they
- 1:15:38were growing up, what this culture was like, where they
- 1:15:40came from, where they great, great.
- 1:15:42Like we don't, we don't take a look at that sometimes.
- 1:15:44But I think I, I not that I think, but I've learned from
- 1:15:47myself. Like I had to do that to free
- 1:15:50myself from all those generations.
- 1:15:53My mom calls them generational curses.
- 1:15:55I call them generational consequences because the
- 1:15:58behaviors right, gets passed on and gets passed on.
- 1:16:02And then these we're dealing with today's consequences of,
- 1:16:05of, of our culture from not being able to reconcile those
- 1:16:10relationships to not to understand how important self
- 1:16:13forgiveness, forgiveness is not just to other people, but to
- 1:16:16yourself, right? So is is that important for the
- 1:16:22what's next? Self, The self reflection, the
- 1:16:25self? I think it is.
- 1:16:27I think it is for all of us. The school today operated for
- 1:16:30eight years was majority Caucasian.
- 1:16:39And that experience underscored for me the point that we make
- 1:16:45that it's not a racial struggle. Everybody's struggling.
- 1:16:52And Paul Leonhardt, 40 years later, I got a phone call from
- 1:16:59him. Do you Remember Me?
- 1:17:00And I said, of course I remember you, Paul.
- 1:17:02And he was delighted that I had not forgotten him.
- 1:17:05The last the previous conversation I'd had with him
- 1:17:08was 1976. And he said, I want to thank you
- 1:17:17for what you did for me when I was in high school.
- 1:17:21And I want to apologize for not participating in your groups at
- 1:17:24a level that I should have. But my mother was an alcoholic
- 1:17:31and I was afraid of being exposed and he said, But I was
- 1:17:38learning. I now know I was learning, and I
- 1:17:41went because I was in your school.
- 1:17:45I was able to get into Berkeley out of high school, but I didn't
- 1:17:49have the confidence that I was as prepared as other students
- 1:17:54because your approach was different.
- 1:17:57You focused on mental health, he said.
- 1:18:00But I did well at Berkeley, but I still wasn't convinced.
- 1:18:05So I went to Graduate School at MIT and I was successful there.
- 1:18:12And so I'm calling you to to apologize and to thank you and
- 1:18:18the intake person. I was just checking into the VA
- 1:18:24for the first time in my life. And I, you know, I, because of
- 1:18:28my hand, I used speakerphone and, and the intake officer had
- 1:18:33heard the conversation. He said, who was that?
- 1:18:35I said he was a former student, it sounded like your son and
- 1:18:41said it was a continuation of a last conversation from 1976.
- 1:18:46And he said no shit. I said no shit.
- 1:18:50Well, in, in summary, Paul has continued his dialogue with me.
- 1:18:57He's successful in the IT industry, et cetera.
- 1:19:01And through our current dialogue, he has come to forgive
- 1:19:08his mother, whom he blamed and was ashamed of and tried to keep
- 1:19:16her out of his life, and now realizes that he was, he
- 1:19:20shortchanged himself with that. And and also importantly, to
- 1:19:24forgive himself for not learning earlier that forgiveness.
- 1:19:30What he'd learned about his mother is she was a Holocaust
- 1:19:37survivor as a she was an infant and a small toddler, but she had
- 1:19:48injuries that she didn't even know about.
- 1:19:52And alcohol was her way. Suppressor.
- 1:19:56Yes, yes, yes. All right.
- 1:19:59I'm saying everybody has a story, and our stories are the
- 1:20:02same. We're all injured by the
- 1:20:06evolution of the culture, and the people who are leading the
- 1:20:09culture are doing it by trial and error or they learn, OK, So
- 1:20:14we all have a role to play in getting this information out
- 1:20:19because the people that we either blame or look up to are
- 1:20:25struggling as. Indeed, you and I are.
- 1:20:29I, I, I got it. I got to touch on this before we
- 1:20:32go this last piece, because this is MBR radio military broadcast
- 1:20:38radio network and 99% of these listeners are either military,
- 1:20:46they're family members, law enforcement.
- 1:20:50What, what do you want to say to the to the military community
- 1:20:55about your curriculum? And thank you for for trusting
- 1:21:00me to work with you and and to allow me to take this on with
- 1:21:05you. But what do you want to say to
- 1:21:08our military community around the work that you've done with
- 1:21:13this? Now this education was was has
- 1:21:16been used in from children to businesses, corporate office,
- 1:21:26veterans, schools, middle schools and veterans most
- 1:21:29recently. What do you want to say to the
- 1:21:33veterans about your curriculum and how we're going to be able
- 1:21:35to use this to help our own? I am seeking further dialogue
- 1:21:48with the psychiatrist who got a large grant from the Veterans
- 1:21:52Administration to introduce mindfulness to the West LA
- 1:21:56Veterans facility. The that is proceeding
- 1:22:06successfully untold you and I sat on on one of the classes
- 1:22:12that that came out of that and every veteran, although they
- 1:22:16were seniors, every veteran in that class.
- 1:22:19We're intrigued by you and me and I.
- 1:22:21I now have their phone numbers. They said whatever you do next,
- 1:22:26please notify me. So that suggested that we have
- 1:22:32the potential for either under the umbrella of Doctor Suzaki or
- 1:22:38applying for our own VA grant, because every county in the
- 1:22:44United States has veterans who are struggling to make the
- 1:22:49transition to the kind of life we're talking about here.
- 1:22:53And and so you know my Matt Mantra, I'm 90 years old and
- 1:22:58young people like you and those of you who are in your age
- 1:23:03category out there are listening to this.
- 1:23:05There's a role for you to play in bringing this about.
- 1:23:09And I'm counting on you, Fran, to carry the torch.
- 1:23:14Guys, you'll hear from us. We're working on it, yeah.
- 1:23:20All right, Caldwell, any last words before I let you get out
- 1:23:22of here, man? Thank you.
- 1:23:26Thank you for your time, man. I really appreciate you for
- 1:23:29taking some time out. You know, we spend almost 90
- 1:23:31minutes here going over just Juneteenth, like I said, is
- 1:23:36there's not, this is, these are not right or wrong, good or bad
- 1:23:39conversations, right? It's, it's, it's always great to
- 1:23:43celebrate our culture, to celebrate what happened, the
- 1:23:47breakthroughs, but we also got to be able to celebrate those,
- 1:23:51those breakdowns and those weaknesses.
- 1:23:53So those weaknesses can become strength, right?
- 1:23:55So we're, we're, we're looking to strengthen those weaknesses
- 1:23:58and the, the mindset, like you said, mindfulness is such a
- 1:24:03powerful, you know, popular conversation now.
- 1:24:08But really, when you look in the word, the Bible talks about
- 1:24:11repenting, renewing your heart, renewing your mind, like that's,
- 1:24:14that's where the work is. You know, that's where the work
- 1:24:18is for us as human beings. And is, is being able to
- 1:24:21reconcile those differences and deal with those emotions.
- 1:24:24Emotional intelligence is such a big conversation now.
- 1:24:28And so you play a part with your curriculum and a lot of these
- 1:24:31healings and we talk about starting with our children.
- 1:24:36What do you want to point to as far as starting with our
- 1:24:40children? The We are seeking to approach
- 1:24:48Steve Ballmer, who's just built a $2 billion arena in Inglewood,
- 1:24:56whose school has lost 40% of his enrollment in the last 10 years,
- 1:25:02and who desperately need healing and correcting.
- 1:25:07Or his the Ballmer $2 billion or the Cronke $7 billion investment
- 1:25:13in arenas will not be fulfilled in terms of the potential for
- 1:25:20that city to rise from the ashes.
- 1:25:25Schools are the place that families look to as they
- 1:25:30determine where they want to live, and there's no shortage of
- 1:25:34resources among the Balmers and the Krunkies.
- 1:25:39We're trying to tap back to create a pilot program that
- 1:25:43demonstrates how to fix the school, which has implication
- 1:25:48for the whole nation because every professional sports
- 1:25:51franchise is in a city that has struggling schools.
- 1:25:56Yeah, I've got big. We from that have big vision.
- 1:26:00There's a road for you guys to play.
- 1:26:02Stay tuned. You'll hear from us.
- 1:26:05And we're doing that at a, at a, at a, at another level with the
- 1:26:08ABA. So with the Ventura Orcas coming
- 1:26:12soon out there in the Oxonard Ventura County area, we're
- 1:26:16partnered with the Rio School District to demonstrate
- 1:26:18something similar even in the Ventura County.
- 1:26:21So again, Caldwell, thank you for your time and I really
- 1:26:24appreciate you. Thank you.
- 1:26:26All right, take care. All right, I appreciate you for
- 1:26:32hanging in in 90 minutes. I've had talk shows for two
- 1:26:36hours. So this is 90 minutes is nothing
- 1:26:40very important conversations. If you have any questions for
- 1:26:44rond.com for sure to hit me up. I will share with you where we
- 1:26:51are, where we're up to what else?
- 1:26:55Yeah, shouts out to MBR Radio for allowing me to do this short
- 1:26:59notice of a broadcast for Juneteenth.
- 1:27:02I really wasn't going to do anything today to be honest.
- 1:27:05I was just going to kind of chill out.
- 1:27:08Of course, support my sickle cell conversation around World
- 1:27:11Sickle Cell Day. Juneteenth is World Sickle Cell
- 1:27:13Day. If you want information about
- 1:27:15sickle cell trait, WDCON set.org.
- 1:27:18That is my main 'cause that's what you see up here, over
- 1:27:21there. Yeah, this way, that way.
- 1:27:24My cause, very important. I'll be coming to the city of
- 1:27:27Ventura, Oxnard, Ventura County, bringing some sickle cell trait
- 1:27:33awareness. That's my plan with the ABA
- 1:27:35basketball team. Orcas aba.com or WDCON sct.org
- 1:27:41yeah, important. So enjoy your Juneteenth.
- 1:27:45Those of you who have the day off, it's more than just a
- 1:27:49holiday. It's more than just barbecues
- 1:27:51and and hanging out drinking beers.
- 1:27:55There's, there's a conversation out here that people are
- 1:27:59suffering. If you just look at the suicide
- 1:28:02rate for all levels, all ages levels, that suicide rate has
- 1:28:11increased drastically, unfortunately.
- 1:28:14And what is it? Some of us suffer in silence,
- 1:28:19but we're all dealing with something.
- 1:28:23And whether you're a veteran, an athlete, parent, student, police
- 1:28:32officer, we're human beings first, right?
- 1:28:36And we're spiritual beings before that.
- 1:28:38So it's important for us to figure out how do we start to
- 1:28:42heal these kind of conversations within.
- 1:28:44I call them the interpersonal relationships.
- 1:28:47That's self forgiveness. As all of my shows, the context
- 1:28:53returns itself back to that, points back to that conversation
- 1:28:56of self forgiveness. Very important.
- 1:29:00So I appreciate y'all for tuning in like we're.
- 1:29:02But is this Wednesday? Yeah.
- 1:29:03So I'll be back Sunday night, 8:00 PM KCA radio and MBER radio
- 1:29:11dot US. Sunday night, 8:00 PM.
- 1:29:13Shouts out to the Sports Collective crew.
- 1:29:16We'll be back in the building. Shouts out to Alan Emanuel for
- 1:29:19helping me out this month. It is mental.
- 1:29:22It is men's mental health month. And so we've been doing shows,
- 1:29:27topics around that on the Frondose Show.
- 1:29:29I actually have an event to speak at this Saturday from
- 1:29:3312:00 to 5:00 to be on this mental health men's panel.
- 1:29:37Very important conversation for me.
- 1:29:39So if you care about those conversations, hit us up
- 1:29:42lbisolutions.com or goaltenders.org for Caldwell's
- 1:29:48platform. You'll see all of your
- 1:29:50information on there. I'm the curricular trainer for
- 1:29:52that. Shouts out to Project 50.
- 1:29:54Dexter was here tuning in and listening in.
- 1:29:57I'm working with Project 50. I am his youth mentor counselor
- 1:30:03for the Project 50 in Ventura County.
- 1:30:05So again, very important topics for me at all levels, son to
- 1:30:13parent, parent to child, veterans, youth, men especially,
- 1:30:21but don't don't second guess the conversation because women
- 1:30:26they're people too, right? And so I didn't realize that
- 1:30:30even in my inspirational reads that I wrote that it could
- 1:30:34impact the the women that came to that event that I did.
- 1:30:38And, and I shared that first one was the son to father
- 1:30:41relationship, the life of a 5 year old.
- 1:30:44And it was majority women, if not all women.
- 1:30:47And they all walked away with a level of self reflection and
- 1:30:51self forgiveness, self understanding, even a better
- 1:30:53understanding about their own father or their boyfriend or
- 1:30:57their husband because of the conversations of how I was able
- 1:31:01to tell the truth about myself. And then they were able to look
- 1:31:03in their own life as women. But I do have one for women.
- 1:31:08That's the son to mother relationship because I feel that
- 1:31:10that son to mother, mother to son relationship is so
- 1:31:13important. They say that the father, the
- 1:31:16daughter is hard wired to the father and then the son is hard
- 1:31:19wired to the mother. And so that's why both parents
- 1:31:24are so important to be in the lives of those students, of
- 1:31:26those children. All right, so I'm going to get
- 1:31:29out of here. It's already 90 minutes plus, so
- 1:31:31I'm done. Again, I appreciate you all for
- 1:31:33listening and I'll be back Sunday.
- 1:31:37The Frondo's show on NBR radio and KCA Radio. 106.5 FM and
- 1:31:4110:50 AM get the apps. Both stations have the apps, so
- 1:31:45go pick up the apps. You can listen to us from all
- 1:31:47over the place if you download the app or go to the websites as
- 1:31:51well. Shouts out to my sickle cell
- 1:31:54community. I'm always holding it down.
- 1:31:57Very important conversation. Globally, 300 million people
- 1:32:00have sickle cell trade and many don't know and there are risk
- 1:32:03factors and complications connected to sickle cell tray
- 1:32:06peace. Hey man, how you doing?
- 1:32:25Hey, did you see the game last? Night.
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- 1:32:49asthmatic issues, unexpected sickle cell trait crises.
- 1:32:53Damn, are you serious? When I was young I found out I
- 1:32:57had sickle cell trait. My mom's told me but I ain't had
- 1:33:00no knowledge of it. But when I got older I had a
- 1:33:02child. The doctor told me my daughter
- 1:33:03has sickle cell trait. Do.
- 1:33:05You know, the fact that both parents have sickle cell trait,
- 1:33:07there's a 50% chance the child may have the trait and 25%
- 1:33:11chance the child may have the disease.
- 1:33:13And that's what's the count do you?
- 1:33:14Know that 2.5 million people in the United States have sickle
- 1:33:17cell trait. 300 million people globally.
- 1:33:19I didn't find out I had sickle cell trait till I was in the
- 1:33:22army 10 years. Next thing you know I had a
- 1:33:24sickle cell trait exertion site. I thought that was a black gene
- 1:33:28or something. Nah man, the black community is
- 1:33:30number 21 out of 36,000 babies are being born with sickle cell
- 1:33:34disease. You could be Caucasian,
- 1:33:35Mediterranean, European. You got rid of your bloodline,
- 1:33:38right? There is an inherited gene in
- 1:33:42our community. That.
- 1:33:43Has been forgotten. The name is Sickle Cell trade.
- 1:33:46WDCONSCT, also known as What's the Count, is out to bring
- 1:33:51awareness, education and prevention to people all over
- 1:33:54the globe. Want more information?
- 1:33:57Call us now at 323-215-5384 or visit www.wdconsct.org.