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Married At First Sight UK Review - The Relationship Dynamics #MAFSUK · DidiLawren

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  Hello, and welcome back to my channel.
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  My name is Ronnie, said will defect and this is bunted
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  laurentia. How are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing grades. So, for today's episode, hmm, I
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  want to talk about the series that we've been doing on which
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  is Married at First Sight. UK.
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  Now, I want to talk about this thing because You know, the
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  dating scene today like if you're single and if it would
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  married and you have a single friend that you're trying to
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  matchmake with somebody else, you may like to watch this, you
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  may want to see this. I think one of the eye-openers
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  watching this is regardless of how you think, you know, what
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  you want. Let's say somebody asking what
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  you want in a man. I will be like I want tall, dark
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  handsome, God, fiery love. David hardworking and then this
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  person goes and look for tall, dark handsome, God-fearing
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  loving and hard-working guy and present that guy to you.
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  Now, one of the things is you may not be attracted to this
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  person. Yeah, the person is tall, dark
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  and handsome, but maybe the chemistry's not there and
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  certain things. You cannot force.
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  So there are so many like different couples.
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  I don't even I don't even want to mention their names, but I
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  find, you know, it kind of gives you like an Insight on
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  relationship Dynamics, it kind of give you an Insight on even
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  the best matchmakers can bring the YouTube.
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  Good people together and still have friction between these two
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  people. Not because they were not
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  matched not because they are not good people or just because
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  these are two different people with different backgrounds,
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  grunting different things. My God, my The mission of God
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  fearing might be different from your definition of god.
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  Fairy, maybe I want a God-fearing man, not really a
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  pastor but maybe I want somebody who is spiritual who can you
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  know, hold my hands and pray at night before going to bed.
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  Don't stress me in the morning, just put out my hands.
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  That's my definition of God fearing and somebody else
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  interpreting that a. So she must want somebody who is
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  very Aegis and somebody who possibly is a pastor.
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  So they package it pass on the being a pastor to you.
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  This is what you asked for, but is it too much, sometimes it is.
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  So one of the couple, the guy is about 50.
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  He said he's never been in. Love the lady in her 40s.
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  She's been married twice. She has kids.
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  So these two guys like they really smitten.
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  He was even saying that there's a possibility.
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  He can fall in love with her looking from the outside of
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  judging, from, from what she specifically ones.
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  That is everything She Wants. Like she wants somebody to love
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  her. She wants somebody to be there
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  for her. She wants somebody to care for
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  her, but she is like cringe. Like I don't want to be
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  anybody's first. I don't want to be anybody's,
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  like, all on. All, you know, she's been
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  married twice. She has two children.
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  There are so many things that she has done.
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  She's been in love, She's Got Married.
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  She has two children and he has not done any of those things.
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  She was like, there's so many first year that the pressure on
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  her maybe too much for her to handle and she was like this
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  just going to be too much. Now this is a dynamic or
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  somebody getting everything that she wants.
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  Bots is afraid of taking on the challenge of actually being
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  vulnerable. I mean, I get it.
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  Do you want to call Foo? She is Miss UK or something.
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  I care about what you want. She's beautiful.
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  She is like, you know, beauty queen kind of package.
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  Then the guys, in his 40s, he's been married.
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  He has four kids and during the wedding, she realized that this
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  guy's been married, like he has four children, she literally
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  panicked she freaked out. She was like, how am I going to
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  handle for children? Like Eva she's not be marriage,
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  doesn't have children. So it was kind of a challenge
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  for her to take on and he also has like his own insecurities
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  because according to him, he was married before he's been cheated
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  on and basically a beauty queen is standing in front of me as
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  his wife. And he all those insecurities
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  are creeping back in because he's thinking, would she be
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  faithful like this beautiful specimen in front of me?
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  How can she be faithful to me? With as being married and has
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  four children, how is that going to work?
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  So, sometimes, regardless of how you want to see, two, Perfect
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  People come together, their insecurities, my drive, a wedge
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  in between them. Like, it's interesting.
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  I really like getting my popcorn, every, you know,
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  episode and just enjoying the whole thing, then there is a
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  guardian and I think she's Jamaican but I don't know Bo the
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  guy's Guardian his Kwame. He's in his forties, I think 42
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  he's been married before and the lady is 37, and she has no
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  memory just like I need somebody, I need to start a
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  family and all that. These are two beautiful people
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  like Beyonce and Jay-Z kind of level if they actually work
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  together. So, let me just talk with the
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  lady. She was meeting, she was
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  attracted to him, she just wanted.
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  Boom, boom, boom, let's go together.
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  Let's get another sheets. Let's get this down, you know.
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  It is attracted to a man like forget it, she would risk it,
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  all whether on camera or not and she was ready to go there, but I
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  I think he knew like that wasn't going to go anywhere.
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  So he was like holding that intimacy card up to his chest.
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  He was saying, let's just get to know each other, you know,
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  properly before we get on the sheets, we don't have to do this
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  that he would like to Take things slow that.
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  He's a slow burner. His this is that he was just
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  making all the excuses and she was like, let us get it done,
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  let us get freaky, let us, you know, all these things.
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  So I think also, I think the dynamic of that one is that you
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  can get two perfect people and chemistry's, not there.
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  Let's say, I think the guy. She is no historical.
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  Like, she has, like the Kim Kardashian bom.
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  Bom, she has like, the Anyways and everything, but I think she
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  was his because she's on a plus-size kind of person.
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  He may be go for, but it's so it's I think the whole thing
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  just was like looks she is not what he would like to go for and
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  that kind of put a wedge in our relationship or that marriage as
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  the case may be. So there's too many Dynamics in
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  the whole thing. Then we have The gay couple.
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  So two ladies got married, fancied each other.
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  The families, we are happy for them.
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  He wore she one of them. She will soothe while the other
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  one were in a wedding dress and it looked so beautiful.
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  Everybody thought this is a match made in heaven.
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  Yes, the problem. She's a vegan and he lost a leg.
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  It's so ridiculous, like you kind of make these things up and
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  that is a problem because she is trying to get him to not to eat
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  meat. I mean, if you are vegan and
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  you're married to somebody and go out to a restaurant, and that
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  person is ordering stick. Also seeing during the
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  honeymoon, they went out to eat and then he was punishing like,
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  it doesn't know maybe before he orders where stake but now he
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  was like contemplating on On what to order because he doesn't
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  got for being, you know, the knees are arrived and this blood
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  in it and she's going to panic. So he was trying to put her into
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  consideration and ordered medium rare but even at that she was
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  kind of freaking out. Like I am vegan and somebody all
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  my wife is literally sitting in front of me and eating meat.
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  How is that going to work? So they had a conversation, a
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  lot. So these are the guy She is a
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  stripper. He is 13 in his thirties and he
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  is a stripper. She's also in our thirties, but
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  she is kind of well, established as a job.
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  She, he has a job too, so it's not like it's jobless, but she
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  works in an office. Let me put it that way.
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  He has a white collar job, and she owned a house.
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  So, when she heard that, He is a stripper.
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  She just started bawling. You would like crying that.
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  She just wants somebody to take care of her.
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  Now, that is a different thing. They see when they tell you, I
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  want somebody who is caring. Sometimes people think Karen is
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  emotion. Sometimes carrying has to do
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  with taking care of me financially.
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  I think that was our own definition of you know I knew I
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  need somebody that is caring so she was like crying and the That
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  was kind of asking him. Where do you see yourself in the
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  next five years? So he couldn't come up with an
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  answer. Although he fancies her, like he
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  really likes her, he wants like get on with the whole marriage.
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  As this case maybe button, she was holding back, she likes him.
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  I think she was not allowing herself to even get to know him.
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  So I think that was kind of driving a wedge in between them
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  because she was like how do I explain to my children?
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  And that their father is a stripper, so he was liking her
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  and she was not liking him because of traffic toe, because
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  she's thinking, I have mixed up lished.
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  I have a good job. I have a house.
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  I have a steady stream of income and I asked for somebody to take
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  care of me and this guy, this guy does not have like a steady
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  job. How does that go into?
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  How is that going to work? So that One of the dynamic there
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  is so lazy. She met a guy in The Altar and
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  she did not like him, because what she listed everything she
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  wanted was like physical attributes.
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  She wanted somebody with beds, she wanted poldark handsome.
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  She was she just listed everything.
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  She listed was physical and the guy she had.
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  She had bids body according to her the beds and of fool enough.
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  I'm here. And I think she's used to having
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  relationship with people who may be abusive because he appeared
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  to be calm. He appeared to be nice or she
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  said he had two sides to him. So like what we see on camera is
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  different from what she's seen of camera.
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  I mean, that was one of the things that she was hammering on
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  board. Only surely have a problem with
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  the fact that massive he is not getting fat on the author.
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  She Ephesians to say to keep the groom's basically short.
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  Like she does not want this wedding to go ahead because I'm
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  on his shocker number two. He is not told that handsome, so
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  it's, it's a very interesting Dynamic to see in refund people,
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  wanting relationship or how people react to, what do they
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  want in a relationship. But I can relate 100%, because
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  Sometimes you think, okay, this is what I want and then you meet
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  the person and what happens is because we live in a society
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  where the ring finger, with the olden days where it's more of
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  introduction. It's not like you're going back
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  coming in, you know, you meet somebody on the description
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  because people are now married. I think my day, what happens is
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  that people meeting The one lady fall in love, get married
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  immediately, my love. No, that is decent delayed
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  commitment, kind of thing because people want to be
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  extinguished before they get into relationships or marriages,
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  which is understandable because the cost of living is way of the
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  roof. So you need to get married to.
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  Somebody who can if your mind having children is important
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  that you get married to somebody that can cater for those
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  children. Those little humans are very
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  expensive. Consider all these things before
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  they get married to somebody. And I think we're trying to
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  settle with financially before you get married, has brought in
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  a different layer or just to lay lightly, maybe your meats or the
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  person you like is already married.
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  And then you're thinking, where do I start from?
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  What do you do? You go on Tinder?
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  What do you You have family and friends who tries to matchmake
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  you with people. I think what I've learnt in the
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  whole thing is sometimes we talk about one sport being presented
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  with what we ask for our reactions are sometimes
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  cringe-worthy, but sometimes we just want to run, so let me know
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  in the comment section. Have you been introduced to
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  somebody? Show you what was your reaction?
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  Let's say you just list it. Somebody asked me, this is your
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  ideal partner or what? The ideal husband, what is the
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  ideal wife and let's say your gladion.
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  So you want to tall dark, handsome, caring, loving, God
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  fearing and somebody presented. It was all over, there was no
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  chemistry. Would you going to speak
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  English? Forget about chemistry and go
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  for the person just because this is exactly what you asked for
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  all the. Do you think because there's no
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  chemistry and just throw the whole person and we Keep
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  searching. If you are somebody who you're
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  single, you're not married and then you need somebody who's
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  been married for drink with us. KU so I think he presented a
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  very different Dynamics in relationship in the world today.
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  And this is why I find it interesting because it kind of
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  dealing with issues that otherwise we wouldn't see in a
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  normal day relationship. So thank you very much for
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  watching today's episode. So what I want you to put down
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  in the comments section. If you'll be introduced to
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  somebody before house it was your reaction.
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  Do you immediately feel that connection or do you like crazy
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  and be like, this is not for me. What was your reaction?
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  I'd like to know. So thank you very much for
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  watching. Today's episode by mind.