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Stop copying other people's morning routines (for Christian moms) · The Christian Homemaking Podcast: Simply Convivial with Mystie Winckler

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  Speaker: So you want to make over your mornings.
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  You want to become unrecognizable, and you're going to do it by having
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  the very best morning routine.
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  After all
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  The way you begin is how you keep going, right?
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  If every day feels like it's always falling apart, then clearly you
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  need a better morning routine.
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  And what better way to find the perfect morning routine that's
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  gonna fix everything than to watch an hour or more of YouTube
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  videos all about morning routines?
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  Sorry
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  Well, here you go.
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  This is the last video you need on morning routines because the
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  reality is you do not need to copy anyone else's morning routine.
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  You don't need more information
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  And you don't really need more motivation either
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  You need to let go of your perfectionism
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  Hi, I'm Misty Winkler, and you've found the Christian homemaking
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  podcast, Simply Convivial.
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  Convivial means enjoying life together, and that's the kind of home atmosphere
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  that we want to create as Christian moms
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  I've been married for 25 years, have five kids, two grandkids, and homeschool
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  I'm also author of the book Home Is for Hospitality: Why
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  Your Home and Homemaking Matter
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  Now, grab a basket of laundry to fold and let's talk about morning routines
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  I know it feels like if your day gets off to a rough start, then the whole
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  rest of the day is going to be shot.
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  Or if it feels like all your days are falling apart by lunch,
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  it makes sense to look to the mornings and try to iron that out.
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  But the truth is, mornings are not magic
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  If your morning gets off track or doesn't start the way that you hope,
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  you are not stuck with a bad day for the rest of the day And it's also true
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  if you execute your morning routine flawlessly and have an awesome quiet
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  time an hour before the kids get up and get your exercise in and your coffee
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  just right, that's no guarantee that the rest of the day is gonna go your way.
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  Mornings are not magic
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  Figuring out the perfect morning routine, one that works for your friend or your
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  favorite YouTube personality, is not going to make all the difference in your life
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  In fact, when we do get our morning routine dialed in and it's working really
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  well for us, it's really not that we have the ideal morning routine, but it's
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  usually an indication that we are willing to do what we are supposed to do and we
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  persist in doing that until persistence becomes normal and therefore easier.
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  But we need that kind of persistence and willingness to do the right
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  next thing at all times of the day
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  And when we practice that skill first thing in the morning
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  We're then better able to do it the next morning, but also throughout the day.
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  Because every time you practice persistence at any time of the day, you're
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  going to continue to improve that skill.
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  You're putting in the reps, but every rep counts, not just morning.
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  Morning reps don't even count double They are the same weight as any other time that
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  you choose to do the right next thing.
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  So that means no matter how your morning went this morning, today, you can do the
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  right next thing No matter how fussy the kids were or how messy your house is,
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  today you can do the right next thing
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  Today, you can turn it around.
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  You don't have to wait for tomorrow.
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  You don't have to wait for the next Monday
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  You can turn things around right now Smile and start is one of my
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  favorite little mottos, and I have two ways that you can do that.
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  The more you persist in doing the right next thing, the better any morning
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  routine will work and the better your day will go at any point of the day
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  So here are my two tips for turning around your day and getting the day off to a good
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  start, whether it's morning or lunchtime or afternoon or even after dinner.
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  No matter what time of the day it is, you can start off on a better foot right
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  now So the first thing you need to do when you realize that your day has gone
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  off track and you need to reset and realign is to use an alignment card.
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  This is my term for a Bible verse or a motto or a quote that brings
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  you back into line with truth
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  Truth is a reality outside of us.
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  We don't find it by looking inward, and whatever pops into our head is
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  more likely than not to not be true.
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  We can't necessarily trust it.
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  We have to take whatever thoughts or feelings that we have, especially thoughts
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  or feelings about being stuck, and match them up to what God's word says
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  If they don't match, if they don't align, we change our thoughts We
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  take in the scripture, we take in the truth, and let that determine our next
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  thoughts We let that be the interpretive grid that we filter our life through
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  So take a minute, grab a, an index card or a Post-it note and write a scripture
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  that has been speaking to you lately
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  Maybe just write smile on an index card or Post-it Note.
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  Or my favorite, smile and start
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  Rejoice always.
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  Again, I will say rejoice
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  Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all for the glory of God.
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  Pick a scripture, any scripture, write it down, and then read it
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  several times throughout the day.
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  Put it up in a very visible spot in your house, your bathroom mirror,
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  or in front of your kitchen sink, or right above your coffee maker, on your
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  fridge, on your planner, on your phone.
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  Maybe put a different one in all of these places or even the same one if you
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  really want to double down on applying that scripture to your life right now
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  When your thoughts are then aligned to truth and you are repeating truth to
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  yourself throughout the day, then you need to get started doing the right next thing
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  But I know it's hard to tell what the right next thing to do is because you
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  have a million things you could be doing.
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  So here's my little trick.
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  Get a timer
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  Maybe a literal timer?
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  That you set?
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  Or your watch, or the oven, or the microwave, an actual timer for 10
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  minutes Spend that 10 minutes doing something, anything, taking care of an
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  area of your house that's bothering you.
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  Wash the dishes by hand for 10 minutes.
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  Fold the laundry for 10 minutes.
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  Something that's been piling up and you feel bad about, but you don't know
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  when you're gonna get around to it, and so it just accumulates, and you keep
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  feeling guilty about it, but it just sits there because it feels like it's
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  gonna take for forever, and you don't know when you'll be able to deal with it.
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  You definitely don't know when you'll have time to finish it.
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  You don't need to deal with it.
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  You don't need to finish it.
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  You just need to put some time and attention there.
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  Do it for 10 minutes
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  And you will be amazed at the change
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  You will notice how effective your time and attention is because you will
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  get farther than you thought you could
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  You will find it easier to get started and stay focused because you're only
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  doing it for 10 minutes instead of dreading a full, complete Job It doesn't
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  matter how many dishes there are or how long it will take to do them all.
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  Just wash some of the dishes.
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  See how many you can wash within 10 minutes.
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  It's just a little experiment you're running
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  Spend 10 minutes clearing and washing your dining room table
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  or tidying up the living room, or sorting through that paper
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  pile that you're dreading
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  If you've been going around looking for the perfect morning routine to
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  copy so that your days can get started just right and therefore continue
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  on just right, then I know you struggle with perfectionism like I do
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  And perfectionism prevents us from even getting started because we don't wanna get
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  started unless we're going to do it right and unless we're going to get it done.
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  And that is why we have so many undone piles and jobs and tasks and cleaning
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  things to do accumulating all around us
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  The perfectionism is a problem, not a virtue.
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  It's an obstacle that we can learn how to jump over and avoid and overcome
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  It's not a pet that we should be keeping and treating as an essential
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  part of us If you are a perfectionist, you don't have to stay that way.
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  That is not an essential part of your person And you're going to be better
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  off if you let that part of you go.
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  Trust me.
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  Been there and done that.
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  And the 10-minute timer
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  Is one of my secret weapons against perfectionism because it
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  completely removes that option of knowing exactly the right thing
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  to do and doing it till it's done.
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  You're just doing something, anything for 10 minutes, noticing how it went.
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  It's an experiment.
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  It's only 10 minutes.
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  It's low stakes, and yet you will get so much more done.
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  You'll see so much more progress than you thought possible, and you can do a
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  10-minute timer at any point of the day First thing in the morning, lunchtime,
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  afternoon during kids' naps, after dinner
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  And when you put 10 minutes of focused work time into anything, your mood lifts.
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  Your mood lifts and your motivation lifts And you feel capable of doing more.
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  Whereas listening to the perfectionist story in your head makes you
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  feel capable of less, makes you feel more and more uncertain
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  But you don't need certainty.
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  You just need 10 minutes doing something good right in front of you After that
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  10 minutes, you'll have more clarity about what you should do after that.
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  And those 10-minute increments just build, even if they are
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  not one right after the other
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  You don't need a slow morning.
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  You don't need an ideal morning
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  The morning is not magic that you can sprinkle on the rest of your day
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  Every day, all throughout the day, we are simply continuing to
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  persistently do the right next thing.
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  And every time we practice doing the right next thing, we continue
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  to get better and better at doing so
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  If you need help identifying your perfectionism and getting out
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