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Season 3 - Episode 116 - Seeing contrast shapes us. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop
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  podcast with Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and
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  master mindset coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives and possibilities, we help
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  you to cultivate a mindset that leads you to create
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  the best version of yourself you could ever
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  imagine. Join Kim every morning from one
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  of her favorite happy places, her Chicken Coop,
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  along with all her chickens. Hey
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  everybody, good morning from the Chicken Coop. So
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  I'd like to talk to you about contrast and how
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  contrast affects us as human beings. You
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  know, having crappy things happen, having things that
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  are not what we want show up in our life, not even
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  just crappy, but just things that we don't
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  necessarily want show up in our life, is actually a
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  powerful tool that's given to us so that we can
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  recognize contrast. And you know, I often will
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  hear people talk to me about how the most painful
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  experiences have shaped them the most and in the best
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  ways. And I myself can say that is
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  the truth. You know, losing my father, he
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  was so young, he was 57 when he passed away, was
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  the most difficult experience I have ever gone
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  through in my life. And words can't explain when
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  you lose a parent that's also your best friend. And
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  I can say without question that it was the hardest
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  thing that I've ever gone through. And
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  at the same time, it was one of the most profound
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  experiences that shaped my life in positive ways. And
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  the contrast of life with him and without him and
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  the contrast of recognizing how valuable life is has
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  definitely without a question shaped my entire
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  life because it changed the way I functioned, it
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  changed what I was willing to do, it changed how I
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  showed up, the roles I took, the jobs I took, it
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  took everything because I had a different point of
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  reference to go from. And when you use contrast to
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  your benefit and you start to say, okay, this is here
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  to help me instead of hurting me, it's kind of
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  like the difference between night and day. You
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  know, if we just had night all the time, we'd be
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  miserable. How many of us even realize
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  that when we think about, oh, yeah, I could never
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  live in Alaska or I could never live in countries
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  where it's dark for half the year? Like
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  that would make me crazy. Well,
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  of course it would because the contrast of, you know,
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  thinking of it all the time shifts you into a
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  deep awareness. Yet we go through this every
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  day, night, day, night, day, and because we're used
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  to it and the contrast is not grand for us, we don't
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  even notice it. We just go through our lives,
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  not even noticing it. But think about what happens
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  when it rains every day for, you know, two weeks
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  straight. We just went through one of
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  those phases. When it rained every day for
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  two weeks straight, you kind of become like, oh my
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  gosh, where's the sun? We're
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  on a normal day. You know, we may appreciate the
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  sun, but we don't even notice it. We
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  just go about our day. Oh, it's a nice day, blah,
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  blah, whatever. But it's a quick, it's not
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  even, you know, thought of or appreciated until it's
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  gone. You know, you don't appreciate
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  what you have until it's gone, as the old saying.
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  Well, isn't that the truth? But
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  that's really the root of that comes from
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  understanding contrast and how it shows up in your
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  life. Or you look at yourself and
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  you say, my relationship sucks. And
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  I don't like how this person treats me. Or
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  my boss is this way. And then you meet somebody that
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  actually has a problem that's really out of
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  control. And you say, wow, I guess my
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  situation is not so bad at all. But
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  we become accustomed to sitting in this will of,
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  you know, complaining about it. And
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  we don't use contrast to our benefit. We
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  don't say, okay, if this is going to be painful,
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  then I'm going to do everything I can to work
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  through and around this. I'm
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  going to get to the other side of this. This
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  is here to teach me. So when you think of the
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  situations as if they're teaching you something,
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  giving you information, which they are, helping you
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  shape and move, then all of a sudden you become a
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  much better person. You become much more beneficial
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  to yourself. You don't react. You're
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  not in a high reactive mode. All
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  you're doing at that point is taking in the
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  information and shifting and not being reactive. So
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  I think that when you start to look for contrast
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  in your day, start with the most simple things.
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  Start to look for the things
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  that say, you know, where is this showing up to
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  teach me something? Where can I look outside of
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  myself and say, okay, this is something that I
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  recognize. I hear other people talk
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  about this. And for sure, I know this is
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  a place where I can look at my own life and be
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  grateful. I know I can look at my own
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  life and say, okay, I can learn from this other
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  person's experience and I can say, wow, that's
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  happened for them. I definitely don't want that
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  to happen for me. So I'm going to benefit from
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  their experience, their contrast. I'm
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  going to look and I'm going to say, okay, I know
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  this isn't something I want to entertain and use it to
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  your benefit. Don't be the person that has to
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  run into every wall in order to learn something
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  and understand contrast is here to teach us so you
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  can learn from yourself in your own situations with
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  contrast. You can learn from others, but
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  just look and learn. And I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.