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Build Your Life With Discipline, Growth, and Ownership (S5) S23:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone.
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It is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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It's great to be with you on the
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All right, without any further ado, let's get
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into the show.
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So again, a big warm welcome to everyone
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here.
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I really do appreciate that.
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If you can hear my voice right now,
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understand this clearly, your life is not random.
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It is constructed.
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Every result you have today is a reflection
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of what you have been consistently doing, your
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habits, your decisions, and your standards.
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So the real question is not why your
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life is the way it is.
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No, the real question is what patterns created
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it.
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Welcome to Build Your Life with Discipline, Growth,
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and Ownership.
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That's what this week's about.
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Season five, series five, show 23, episode number
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one.
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This is not motivation, guys.
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This is execution.
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All right, we're beyond that.
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And my name, for those of you who
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don't know me, I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student,
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yes, a passionate lifelong learner, and so grateful
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to now be a published author.
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I have built, failed, rebuilt, and pushed forward
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when stopping would have been much easier to
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do.
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Everything I share is grounded in real-world
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execution because, ladies and gentlemen, success is not
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about what you know.
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It's about what you consistently do with that
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knowledge.
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So today's focus, being that today is Saturday,
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is, as I said, basically series five, show
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23, episode one.
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The first thing I want to talk about
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is foundation, self-awareness, and starting strong.
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If your foundation is weak, everything you build
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will eventually crumble and break.
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So today, we need to build it right
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the first time.
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I think that's the first of four things.
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So know your current habits.
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Take a real look at your daily actions.
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What you repeatedly do shapes your outcomes more
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than the intentions ever will.
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Your intentions are good, guys, don't get me
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wrong, but they're not what gets you to
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take the action.
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They're only one part of the equation.
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So I think that's an important thing to
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actually understand for all of us.
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Number two, number two is this, accept where
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you are right now.
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I know that's hard for a lot of
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people.
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I want to be here.
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I want to be there.
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I want that new car, right?
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Stop avoiding reality.
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It's here.
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Honest acceptance gives you a clear and powerful
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starting point.
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That's it.
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Acknowledge where you are right now at this
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point in time.
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You may not like where you are right
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now, but that's okay.
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Just acknowledge it because when you acknowledge it,
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you can move forward.
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Number three, define who you want to be.
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Get specific about your identity.
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Clarity here drives every decision you make.
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So as I said before, if you fail
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to plan, you have planned to fail.
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Number four, guys, take full ownership.
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Your results belong to who?
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You, you.
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When you own them, you gain the power
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to change them.
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But you have to own them.
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That's the key.
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Number five, let's stop making excuses.
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Drop that immediately.
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Excuses may feel comfortable and easygoing, but they
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just block your progress and cause more procrastination.
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And as I said, delay results and give
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you more reasons to say, this is never
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going to happen.
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Stop that.
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Number six, audit your time.
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Honestly, guys, track where your time goes.
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Your calendar tells the truth about your priorities.
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And when you look at your calendar and
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you can say, gee, I did this, I
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did this.
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And that's why using a digital calendar is
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a great way to do this.
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Because you can see what you did during
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the day and say, gee, my day was
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very productive, right?
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Very productive.
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Number seven, identify energy drains.
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Remove or reduce anything that consistently leaves you
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tired, distracted, or unfocused.
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And I think a lot of times we
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push through, but we don't realize what's draining
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us every day.
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We don't understand what's draining us.
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And if now we know what's draining us,
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then we can say, okay, this makes sense
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in our lives.
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Okay?
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This makes sense.
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This makes sense.
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But a lot of times, you know, that
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won't happen.
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It never happens overnight.
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Okay?
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So we have to be vigilant about what
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we're doing.
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We need to be aware of what we're
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doing.
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Number eight, clarify your priorities.
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Focus on what truly matters.
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Trying to do everything will just keep you
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stuck and eventually will burn you out.
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So we need to have an understanding.
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We need to see what's going on.
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And when we see that, we can say,
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oh, wait a minute.
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This is what's causing this result, so I
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can change this.
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Number nine, make the decision now to set
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one clear goal.
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Choose a single meaningful objective to direct your
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effort and keep your attention focused on it.
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Like a laser beam, folks, I want your
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attention drawn to it like a laser beam,
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that precise.
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Number 10, write it down.
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Putting your goal in writing makes it tangible
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and increases commitment.
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Yeah.
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So our brain, right, can comprehend it, but
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when we have our hand writing it, now
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we're transferring it into our nervous system this
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way because our fingers, they're sensing it.
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And that can be encoded into our brain
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even more deeply.
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Number 11, guys, commit publicly or privately.
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Create accountability, regardless of what it is, whether
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it's shared or it's personal.
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Commitment drives follow through.
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A lot of people I know say, oh,
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you know what?
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I'll commit later.
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Well, why are you going to commit now?
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Oh, I don't know.
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I'll do it later.
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But why are you going to do it
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later?
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That's my question.
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Why not do it now?
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Do it now.
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Number 12, guys, start before you feel ready.
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I know a lot of us say, this
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happened with my book a while back, oh,
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John, I'm not ready to write the book
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yet.
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I wasn't ready to write trained and driven.
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I kept coming down, going back, going forth,
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and I kept procrastinating.
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Then I played the game of outlining, okay?
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And I was outlining for a long time,
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like, wait a minute, I'm not writing, I'm
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procrastinating.
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But I recognized the fact that I wasn't
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making progress.
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I just kept taking so much time to
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analyze it.
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Let me stop outlining.
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All right?
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I've got enough done.
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Let me start writing the book.
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Number 12, guys, start before you feel ready
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and waiting for the perfect moment.
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Because you know, guys, there is no perfect
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moment.
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And this, by waiting, causes inaction, procrastination.
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Action creates confidence.
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Action creates confidence.
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Number 13, focus on the progress, not the
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perfection.
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Focus on the progress, not perfection.
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Progress builds momentum.
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Perfection will always slow you down.
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I'm not saying you don't want to get
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better at it.
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But what I want to tell you is
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you don't want to keep holding yourself back,
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okay?
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I think that's an important thing to note.
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That's important to know, that you don't want
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to have yourself held back.
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If you do, you're going to keep regretting,
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why is this going this way, right?
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And then you're going to make excuses, oh,
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it's okay that it's happening this way, because
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you know what?
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I'm just not ready.
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It's not the right time.
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Stop it.
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Stop it.
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Stop it.
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Stop it.
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You're believing the garbage.
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You're telling yourself.
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And that's giving you license, in a bad
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way, to basically not do anything, to not
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do anything.
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And that's the biggest problem people have, is
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that they fall into the trap of not
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doing anything because they think it's okay to
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not do anything, right?
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If I can make an excuse to say,
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you know what?
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It's okay for me to not do anything.
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And suddenly, I guess it's okay to just
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not do anything, because now I've got a
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reason to why I don't have to do
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anything.
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I think that's important to know, very important
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to know.
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Number 14, guys, build a simple routine.
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Keep your system easy to follow, so you
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can stay consistent over time.
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What did I do?
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I wrote my stuff down on paper, and
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then I crossed over.
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Then I realized after a while, that was
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good.
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But I noticed that I was putting a
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lot of time into writing things down.
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It was a very good start.
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But now I've done it digitally.
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And so now I can have it on
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my calendar, repeating automatically certain things I have
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to do every day, or certain weeks, certain
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articles, certain blogs.
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They pop up, and when I cross them
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off, bam, they're done.
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Certain posts I need to get done myself.
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They're on my calendar.
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Keep it easy to follow, so you can
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stay consistent.
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And when you cross it off, either on
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a piece of paper, or you check the
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task off in your Google or electronic calendar,
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you're going to feel good about it.
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You're going to feel good about it.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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us to know, that when you feel good
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about it, it's like you want to do
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more of that.
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You want to do more of that.
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Number 15, guys, just remove those distractions.
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Remove them.
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Limit the interruptions that pull you away.
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Silencing your cell phone, putting it on vibe,
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right?
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Limit the interruptions that pull you away from
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meaningful work, meaningful experiences, meaningful connections.
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I think sometimes, you know, we get impatient
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because we want something to traverse, but because
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it hasn't, we're like, okay, let me just
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fuddle with this pen, or, you know, let
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me fuddle with this over here, or this
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piece of tape, or this sticker, or this
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banner, or maybe even this little key chain
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with a little light on it, right?
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Let me do those things.
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Okay, let me do those things.
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And then we get upset with ourselves because
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we haven't progressed.
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In fact, we've either not gone forward, or
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we've regressed.
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We've actually gone backwards.
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That's a weird thing, right?
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But we go backwards when we change our
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beliefs.
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Okay?
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We go backwards when we change our beliefs.
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It's important, guys.
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Number 16, control your environment.
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Shape your surroundings so they support your goals.
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Instead of working against you, they're going to
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work with you.
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But too many people say, oh, I don't
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have control.
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Yes, you do.
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You have the power.
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You have the ability to change your environment.
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Maybe it's clearing your desk.
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Maybe it's making your environment quieter, right?
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Maybe it's having a less cluttered desk, right?
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You have more power than you think you
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have.
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You're good at making excuses.
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And one thing I've learned is that once
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you get in the habit of making excuses,
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you just keep making like, well, this is
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why I'm not successful.
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Anybody can make excuses, right?
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That's a poor thing.
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Don't make excuses.
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Number 17, track your actions.
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Measure what you do so you can improve
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it consistently.
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Ladies and gentlemen, what we can't measure, we
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cannot change.
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What we can't measure, we cannot change.
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What we can't measure, we cannot change.
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So we need to be able to measure
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things, right?
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That goes for lots of stuff, whether it's
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marketing, advertising, technology.
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What I did, did I make it better?
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Did it improve?
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Did it get worse?
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Did it stay the same?
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Number 18, learn, guys, from yesterday.
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Reflect on what worked and what did not.
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Then adjust.
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So if you had a bad experience yesterday,
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I get that.
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Don't harp on the experience.
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Harp on what you learned.
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Number 19, I learned that I can't do
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this stuff quickly, or my desk's going to
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be all lopsided.
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Or I learned that when I do the
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answers quickly, I don't learn.
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I might get the homework right, but I
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really don't own and learn the material.
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Reflect on what worked and what did not.
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And then pivot, adjust.
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I'm not saying to completely revamp, just pivot
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a little bit.
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A lot of times you're very close to
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success, it's just that you need to pivot
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just a tiny bit.
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And by going at that pace, you will
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reach your goals.
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That's important, guys.
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Number 19, I talk about this one all
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the time.
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Stay present, be aware.
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Focus on what you are doing right now.
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Not five minutes ago, not a minute ago,
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not an hour ago, not a week ago,
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not a month ago, not a year ago.
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Not what you're going to be doing in
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five minutes later or ten minutes later or
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an hour later.
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Stay present and focus on what you are
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doing right now at this given moment.
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Ladies and gentlemen, that is where results are
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created.
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That's where they're created.
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I think some people, they don't understand that
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now means something very valuable.
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Now means something very valuable.
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Now means to own the present moment.
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To be aware of things you hear, you
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see, you touch, you taste, you smell.
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Even the proprioception position of your body.
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We've talked about that before.
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Number 20, avoid comparison.
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Your journey is your own.
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Comparing yourself to others will weaken focus and
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it's also going to lower your confidence level.
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Everyone grows at a different level, right?
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There's nothing wrong with that.
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Some people find things out later on in
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life, right?
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I think that's an important thing to notice
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is that they do things later on in
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life.
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And so when you recognize that, you're going
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to be like, oh, wait a minute.
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Now I get this.
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Now I understand.
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Number 21, this is a hard one.
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You ready?
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Be honest with yourself.
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Let me say that again.
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It's so easy, but yet people don't want
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to do this.
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Be honest with yourself.
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Be honest with yourself.
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Truth builds awareness, guys, and awareness creates change.
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So truth builds awareness, okay?
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Awareness also builds truth, by the way.
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And that awareness will create a change in
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us, how we operate, how we learn, how
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we experience life.
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Number 22, choose discipline over comfort.
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I know we all want comfort.
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I get that, right?
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But I think it's important to understand what
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it means when I say this.
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And what I'm coming into is the point
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of everyone wants things to be comfort and
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easy, right?
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Comfortable, I should say.
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But growth comes from what is necessary, not
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what is easy.
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I said before, guys, that success comes from
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where things get difficult, where things get a
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little bit uncomfortable.
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We have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable,
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okay?
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Growth comes from doing what is necessary, not
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what's easy.
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And that's what a lot of people don't
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do because like, oh, you know, I don't
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want to do that.
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It's hard.
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It's uncomfortable.
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I get it.
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I get it, okay?
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That's important to understand.
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That's important to note.
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That when you understand this thing, your life
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will take a different turn.
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It will take a different turn.
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And that turn that it takes might just
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surprise you.
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You might think it's going to happen all
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at once, but I'm here to tell you
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that it doesn't happen all at once.
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It doesn't happen all at once.
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And there is a very good reason for
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that.
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It's because our internal world, right, might be
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one place.
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That our external world might have to catch
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up with it, might have to sync with
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it.
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So that's a challenge for some people.
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Like, I'm sensing this, I'm feeling this, but
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it's not in the outside world yet.
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That's okay.
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It will show up.
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I promise you.
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But there can be a delay to the
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internal and the external.
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Number 23, keep your promises to yourself.
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You don't need to promise anybody about what
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you're doing.
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Every kept promise that you make to yourself
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and others will build confidence and self-respect.
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You promise yourself you're going to do something.
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You do it.
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You don't let yourself down.
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Your body is like, okay, you're treating me
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right.
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I'm going to keep performing for you.
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Right?
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But I think a lot of people just
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don't get the fact of it's okay to
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just disappoint ourselves.
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It's okay to disappoint ourselves.
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It's not.
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And I think if we understand that, people
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will be better.
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And I say this to you because it's
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an awareness that you need to have in
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life.
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And that awareness will change how you respond,
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including the actions that you take or not
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take.
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Because not reacting is reacting.
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Number 24, guys.
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Reduce overthinking.
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I know we all want to overthink.
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Reduce it.
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Take action.
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Clarity comes from doing, not just thinking.
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Like when I was doing my book.
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I could have been outlining for days, for
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months, even years.
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I'm like, this isn't going anywhere.
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I need to stop procrastinating.
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I need to stop outlining.
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Because it's not going anywhere.
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It's just wasting my time.
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And it was robbing my time.
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I'm like, I recognized it after a few
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days.
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I'm like, okay, this is not working.
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Number 25.
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Start small, guys.
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But start now.
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Small, consistent actions lead to long-term success.
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They don't have to be big actions.
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They need to be consistent.
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They need to be consistent.
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When we have consistency and we have structure,
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we get success.
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C plus S equals success.
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C plus S equals success.
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Consistency plus structure equals success.
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Many people have, let's say, a structure.
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But they're not consistent.
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They'll work out.
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And they have the structure.
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But they might do it this week.
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Maybe next week.
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Maybe the following week.
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Some people will do it every day.
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But they won't have a structure in how
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they work out.
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Number 26.
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Momentum is key.
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So build it early.
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Early wins create energy and make it easier
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to continue.
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When we start early, our mind and body
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is like, okay, I get this now.
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This makes a lot of sense.
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I'm laying a foundation that I didn't have
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before.
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I'm laying a foundation I did not have
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before.
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Number 27, guys.
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Show up consistently.
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Consistency creates results.
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Even when your motivation fades.
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Your motivation is going to fade.
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It's your discipline that's going to keep your
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consistency and structure together.
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Motivation will wane and fade back and forth.
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But you've got to have the discipline to
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do it even when you don't want to.
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It's cold outside.
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You've still got to take that exercise even
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when you don't want to.
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Number 28, guys.
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Accept discomfort.
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Discomfort is part of growth.
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Don't try to go around it or avoid
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it or look for a shortcut.
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Use it as the tool that it is
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to teach you how to be better.
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Number 29, stay grounded.
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Keep your focus steady and avoid unnecessary chaos
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or distractions.
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I have found that when distractions are in
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your life, there's lots of chaos.
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When you are calm, clear, and collected, you
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may appear to move slower.
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But you actually are faster because you don't
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make mistakes.
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That's a very important thing.
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And I think a lot of people just
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feel that I need to get things done
25:16
fast.
25:16
But then they don't realize how many things
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they did wrong.
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You've probably been on a job before where
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you were training somebody how to do something.
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And then suddenly you left.
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You came back.
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And they got it done twice as fast
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as you.
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And you're like, oh, that's great.
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And you look.
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I'm like, oh, wait a minute.
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These aren't done right.
25:34
This isn't done right.
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And before you know it, every other one
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is not done right.
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And they did 100 things like, oh, my
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gosh.
25:41
I've got to go back and do 50
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things over again because these weren't done right.
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Number 30, guys.
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End the day with reflection.
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Review your actions.
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Learn from them.
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And prepare to improve tomorrow.
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No one says you need to be perfect.
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But what I am saying is that you
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need to be aware of what's happening in
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your life.
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Think about how you can do that again
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later better.
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It's not to beat yourself up.
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It's to learn how these little changes can
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make you better.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is your foundation.
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Not ideas.
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Not theory.
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It's pure execution.
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That's an important one, guys.
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It's not just ideas that are just coming
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to me that I'm sharing with you.
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It's not theory.
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It's how I've lived.
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It's how I've learned.
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But I didn't get that the first time
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I did it.
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You, ladies and gentlemen, do not need more
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information.
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You might think you do.
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You don't.
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What you need is this.
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You need to act on what you already
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know.
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Let me say that again.
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You need to act on what you already
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know.
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You need to act on what you already
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know.
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Because your next level is built upon what
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you do next.
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The foundation later will fall if you don't
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keep it steady and structured.
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Not later, guys.
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Now.
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No procrastination.
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No excuses.
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No waiting.
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Act now.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, graduate student, passionate lifelong learner,
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grateful published author.
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And this has been, this is Building Your
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Life with Discipline, Growth, and Ownership this week.
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Let's get to work, guys, right now.
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Have yourself a good one, everyone.
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I'll catch you real soon.
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And be well.