Latest / Topeka Bible Church Audio Archive / August 11, 2024 | The Good Life - A Humble Life
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- 0:00SPEAKER_00: Good morning, TBC.
- 0:03SPEAKER_00: My name is Jeremy McGrath.
- 0:04SPEAKER_00: I'm the youth pastor here.
- 0:06SPEAKER_00: Um, and I'm super excited to be preaching this morning with y'all.
- 0:10SPEAKER_00: Um, if you don't know me, I generally like to use these times when I'm up on stage to give you a little bit of insight into my life and the way my brain works.
- 0:19SPEAKER_00: And I gotta tell you, last night I went to my brother-in-law's wedding, and while I was at the wedding, I got super excited to get old.
- 0:25SPEAKER_00: And I'll tell you why.
- 0:26SPEAKER_00: I'll tell you why.
- 0:27SPEAKER_00: The uh there's there were speeches going on, we were all kind of finishing up our meals, and it was right before the cake was cut, okay?
- 0:33SPEAKER_00: Um, and I watch as this little old lady she gets up and she kind of hobbles over to where the cake's at.
- 0:40SPEAKER_00: And then while the speeches are going on, everyone's sitting down and listening, she just takes uh takes a knife and cuts herself off a slice.
- 0:47SPEAKER_00: And no one stopped her or said anything, she just enjoyed her cake a little bit early, and I can't wait for the day that I can do that too.
- 0:54SPEAKER_00: So if you see me at a wedding in 60 years, you know where I'm heading.
- 1:01SPEAKER_00: Um but guys, we are uh we're starting a new series.
- 1:04SPEAKER_00: If this is your first time back with us in a bit, Connor's kicked us off last week with the series called The Good Life.
- 1:10SPEAKER_00: Um, and we're gonna be continuing that this morning.
- 1:13SPEAKER_00: But before we do, if you guys could join me in a quick quick word of prayer.
- 1:17SPEAKER_00: Heavenly Father, uh, Lord, I thank you for bringing us all here this morning.
- 1:21SPEAKER_00: Um Lord, you're a good God, and because of your goodness, you want to transform us to be more like you.
- 1:29SPEAKER_00: But Lord, we can be resistant in a lot of ways.
- 1:32SPEAKER_00: And there's a lot of ways in which we're broken.
- 1:35SPEAKER_00: And so, Lord, I pray that you would allow us this morning to be open and honest with ourselves and to allow your spirit to convict us, uh, but not just to convict us, but to transform us.
- 1:47SPEAKER_00: We pray this in your name.
- 1:48SPEAKER_00: Amen.
- 1:51SPEAKER_00: Alrighty.
- 1:53SPEAKER_00: So, like I said, we start this new series called The Good Life, and last week Connor kicked us off by talking about how the good life, the Christian walk, is the shared life, okay?
- 2:05SPEAKER_00: And he discussed how this idea of Christian or American rather individualism has crept into the church.
- 2:13SPEAKER_00: And that we are, as Christians, individuals, but we also need to be concerned about our identity as a community and communal living with each other, and how sometimes individualism can overshadow that, right?
- 2:27SPEAKER_00: And so his goal was to get us back to a biblical center.
- 2:30SPEAKER_00: And that's what this whole series is on.
- 2:32SPEAKER_00: We're trying to explore the good life, the way as Christians we should walk, and we're gonna try to identify these ways that our culture has crept in and kind of blindsided us, or just blinded us rather, uh, to the way that we should be going.
- 2:48SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 2:48SPEAKER_00: And so we're gonna continue in this topic today.
- 2:51SPEAKER_00: But before we do, I want to tell you guys about chameleons.
- 2:54SPEAKER_00: I love chameleons.
- 2:56SPEAKER_00: Now, you guys probably also love chameleons, and the one thing that you know about chameleons, most likely, is that they change colors in order to blend in with their environment.
- 3:06SPEAKER_00: Can I get some head nods?
- 3:07SPEAKER_00: Do we know this about chameleons?
- 3:08SPEAKER_00: They change colors to blend in with their environment.
- 3:10SPEAKER_00: But what if I told you that entire statement is false?
- 3:13SPEAKER_00: I blew your mind.
- 3:14SPEAKER_00: I know.
- 3:15SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna prove it to you.
- 3:16SPEAKER_00: Everything in that statement is incorrect.
- 3:19SPEAKER_00: The first part that's incorrect is that they change colors to blend in with their environment, to blend in.
- 3:24SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of reasons that chameleons change colors.
- 3:28SPEAKER_00: Blending into their environment isn't really one.
- 3:30SPEAKER_00: In fact, I just learned this yesterday.
- 3:32SPEAKER_00: One of the most interesting reasons they change colors is to attract mates, which works for me.
- 3:37SPEAKER_00: I turned red every time I saw Caroline, and so my Christian, my awkward Christian brothers out there, there is hope for you.
- 3:45SPEAKER_00: But the second part of that statement that's false is that chameleons actually change their color.
- 3:52SPEAKER_00: They don't change their color.
- 3:54SPEAKER_00: In fact, their skin, the cells in their skin, they're crystalline.
- 3:57SPEAKER_00: And so when the light hits it, if depending on whether they're contracting or contracting or releasing, uh, it'll change the way that light gets absorbed or reflected.
- 4:08SPEAKER_00: And so they merely have the appearance of looking a certain color.
- 4:13SPEAKER_00: They don't actually have color pigments that change within their skin.
- 4:16SPEAKER_00: It's just the appearance of changing color.
- 4:19SPEAKER_00: And the reason I bring this up is because we're gonna be talking about pride today.
- 4:24SPEAKER_00: And pride functions in a similar fashion to the chameleon's skin, and that it likes to give the appearance of selflessness or of goodness when it really is nothing of the sort.
- 4:38SPEAKER_00: And so today we're going to be exploring this idea that pride creates a mask for selflessness.
- 4:46SPEAKER_00: Pride creates a mask for selflessness.
- 4:50SPEAKER_00: But before we get into exploring this topic about how pride can make us appear good, appear selfless when really there's some nasty stuff going on inside, I think we need to define biblical pride because it's a pretty convoluted topic and there's no clear definition in scripture.
- 5:06SPEAKER_00: And so I'm gonna try my best to give you a quick overview and then we'll jump into the topic this morning.
- 5:11SPEAKER_00: So biblical pride actually starts with the desire to be free from God.
- 5:17SPEAKER_00: To be free from God.
- 5:18SPEAKER_00: This was Lucifer or Satan's desire.
- 5:21SPEAKER_00: He wanted to be independent from God, he wanted to receive his own glory, his own praise, his own greatness.
- 5:27SPEAKER_00: Right?
- 5:27SPEAKER_00: And this is something we understand.
- 5:29SPEAKER_00: A lot of non-Christians, they'll tell you, I'm not interested in serving a God.
- 5:32SPEAKER_00: I'm not interested in following a God, I want to live my own life, I want to be free.
- 5:37SPEAKER_00: But I argue, as Christians in this room, this is where our pride starts as well.
- 5:43SPEAKER_00: That a lot of us, we we believe there's a God and we believe He's the only way to salvation, but we also want to be self-sufficient.
- 5:51SPEAKER_00: We also want to receive praise for the things that we do.
- 5:55SPEAKER_00: We want to maintain this facade that we are self-sufficient and that we are great on our own.
- 6:03SPEAKER_00: But biblical authors are clear that everything we've received and all good things that we have are from God and not of ourselves.
- 6:10SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 6:10SPEAKER_00: So first it starts with this freedom from God, and then it goes to something we're more, I think, uh familiar with.
- 6:16SPEAKER_00: That pride then turns into an overinflated ego, that after we want, that is a desire to be free from God and to be our own man and our own woman, then we start to think of ourselves in ways that we should not.
- 6:27SPEAKER_00: We think of ourselves as better than others, we think of ourselves as distinct from others, as more important or worthy of honor and praise, and then this leads to self-seeking behavior.
- 6:37SPEAKER_00: Because if we view ourselves as better, if we're prioritizing ourselves, uh, then naturally we're going to seek our good over and above others.
- 6:45SPEAKER_00: And this leads to an inability to love in the way that God calls us to love.
- 6:51SPEAKER_00: Now I'm gonna pause here before we move on.
- 6:54SPEAKER_00: Because, like I said, we're talking about the good life.
- 6:57SPEAKER_00: As Christians, what does it mean to enter into the good life, the life that God has for us, that's the most beautiful, the most precious to us, and the good life requires humility.
- 7:09SPEAKER_00: Because humility is the only way we can properly, as we said, love God and love others.
- 7:14SPEAKER_00: And so this is an important topic.
- 7:16SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be focusing all on pride.
- 7:17SPEAKER_00: We're not gonna really talk about humility, we're focusing all on pride because we must root out pride in order to even begin our journey in humility.
- 7:26SPEAKER_00: We can't start talking about humility until we root out the pride.
- 7:29SPEAKER_00: You with me?
- 7:30SPEAKER_00: So if we want the good life, let's take a look at how we can root out the pride in some of its most deceptive forms.
- 7:36SPEAKER_00: So let's go back to that statement here.
- 7:38SPEAKER_00: Pride creates a mask for selflessness.
- 7:40SPEAKER_00: We got two points as we're exploring this topic.
- 7:42SPEAKER_00: The first point is that many of us in our pride we prioritize looking good over being good.
- 7:52SPEAKER_00: We prioritize looking good over being good.
- 7:54SPEAKER_00: And then number two, pride masks selfishness as self-care.
- 8:00SPEAKER_00: Pride masks selfishness as self-care.
- 8:04SPEAKER_00: Now, I think I've been up here enough for you guys to know the drill.
- 8:07SPEAKER_00: After I give you the points and kind of where we're going, I like to say, are y'all with me?
- 8:11SPEAKER_00: And you guys say, All right, let's do that one more time for those who aren't familiar, you're gonna say, Oh yeah, ready?
- 8:17SPEAKER_00: Are y'all with me?
- 8:19SPEAKER_00: All right, let's give it a shot.
- 8:20SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be here in Philippians chapter 2, verses 3 through 4.
- 8:24SPEAKER_00: Um, these are the only two verses we're looking at.
- 8:27SPEAKER_00: And really, we're kind of just looking at the first, um, which uh you guys might think is good, and you're gonna get out of here early, but you're not.
- 8:34SPEAKER_00: You're not.
- 8:35SPEAKER_00: Um I'm just gonna talk a lot about these three things.
- 8:38SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna prioritize and look at the do nothing, the part that's underlined, the conceit, and then count others as more significant.
- 8:45SPEAKER_00: But let's read the whole thing this morning and then dive in.
- 8:49SPEAKER_00: Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, in other versions, vain conceit, but in humility count others as more significant than yourselves.
- 8:59SPEAKER_00: Let each of you look not only to his own interest, but also to the interests of others.
- 9:05SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 9:06SPEAKER_00: So I want to start again, like I said, by looking at this do nothing phrase, and it's interesting because Paul doesn't say, don't do selfish things or don't do conceited things.
- 9:17SPEAKER_00: He says, don't do anything from a position of selfishness or conceit.
- 9:23SPEAKER_00: And this is important because pride or selfishness or conceit, they're not specific actions.
- 9:31SPEAKER_00: Any action can be pursued with selfishness or conceit if our hearts and motivation are not correct.
- 9:39SPEAKER_00: Let me give you an example here.
- 9:41SPEAKER_00: In Matthew, Jesus is talking with the Pharisees.
- 9:45SPEAKER_00: These are religious leaders in the community.
- 9:47SPEAKER_00: And these guys, if you were to ask a Jew on the street, hey, who's the most godly among you?
- 9:51SPEAKER_00: Who's the most righteous?
- 9:52SPEAKER_00: Who'd they point to?
- 9:54SPEAKER_00: They point to the Pharisees.
- 9:55SPEAKER_00: They'd say that guy, those guys.
- 9:57SPEAKER_00: They're the most righteous.
- 9:59SPEAKER_00: They're the most godly, right?
- 10:01SPEAKER_00: But then in Matthew, Jesus is having a conversation with them, and he says this.
- 10:07SPEAKER_00: Let me move here.
- 10:08SPEAKER_00: He says, Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites.
- 10:13SPEAKER_00: You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside, but on the inside are full of bones of the dead and every unclean thing.
- 10:22SPEAKER_00: By the way, I know we like hype Jesus up for being all kind and gentle, but he'd drop a pretty dope diss track if he was around today.
- 10:29SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying.
- 10:30SPEAKER_00: He goes hard at the Pharisees here.
- 10:32SPEAKER_00: He's calling them whitewashed tombs.
- 10:34SPEAKER_00: What he's saying is, man, you look so good on the outside.
- 10:37SPEAKER_00: You do all of the right things, you help the poor, you give the good sermons, you give encouraging words, but none of it is from good motivation.
- 10:46SPEAKER_00: You don't care about the people you're serving, you care about your own glory and looking good.
- 10:52SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 10:53SPEAKER_00: And just as an aside, this is interesting, I love looking at Christianity versus other world religions.
- 10:59SPEAKER_00: And one of the big things that distinguishes Christianity from Islam is that in Islam there is no sin of the mind or of the heart.
- 11:07SPEAKER_00: If you think something bad or you have a desire to do something bad, Allah's okay with that.
- 11:12SPEAKER_00: As long as it doesn't manifest in a bad action.
- 11:16SPEAKER_00: But in Christianity, we know that God doesn't just care about the outside or the appearance.
- 11:23SPEAKER_00: God cares about transforming us from the inside out.
- 11:27SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 11:27SPEAKER_00: And that's where we why we see Jesus going after the Pharisees here.
- 11:30SPEAKER_00: But I want to explore this a little bit more because this is so important that we understand that our motivation is everything to God.
- 11:39SPEAKER_00: It's not about doing the good thing, it's about being a truly good person who's motivated by good things.
- 11:45SPEAKER_00: In 1 Corinthians chapter 13, Paul's talking about love.
- 11:48SPEAKER_00: This is the famous love chapter where he talks about what love is and what love isn't and how we should pursue and perceive love.
- 11:54SPEAKER_00: And he says this in verse 3 he says, If I give away everything that I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but I do not have love, I gain nothing.
- 12:03SPEAKER_00: I actually preached on this maybe six, seven months ago.
- 12:07SPEAKER_00: But but I want to I want to talk about how fantastical this idea is.
- 12:12SPEAKER_00: If someone in this congregation, someone at TBC right now, gave up everything.
- 12:17SPEAKER_00: You sold your house, you sold your cars, you sold all of your stocks and bonds, and you and you just gave it all away, we would we would applaud you like no one else.
- 12:29SPEAKER_00: Right?
- 12:29SPEAKER_00: We would probably raise this person up as a paragon of Christian virtue, as someone that should be modeled, as someone who is just totally Christ-like and selfless.
- 12:38SPEAKER_00: But Paul says not only is it not all that great, but it is worth nothing.
- 12:47SPEAKER_00: It is not even a little bit commendable if they don't do it from a place of love.
- 12:54SPEAKER_00: Wild.
- 12:55SPEAKER_00: In the end, guys, God is clear.
- 12:58SPEAKER_00: You could perform all of the good actions of the quote-unquote good actions in your life, but if it's not motivated for from the right place, from a good heart, God counts it as nothing.
- 13:11SPEAKER_00: How many of your good actions to this day actually count as nothing?
- 13:18SPEAKER_00: How many of my actions?
- 13:21SPEAKER_00: I submit to you that a scary amount of the good things we have done count as nothing.
- 13:28SPEAKER_00: Because they didn't actually come from a motive of love.
- 13:32SPEAKER_00: And some of you guys are saying, well, Jeremy, if we're talking about love here, there pride is not the opposite of love, surely.
- 13:40SPEAKER_00: How does this connect to this idea of pride?
- 13:42SPEAKER_00: If we go a little bit further in 1 Corinthians, Paul starts listing what love is not, and three of the words he uses to describe what love is not all have to do with pride.
- 13:52SPEAKER_00: Love is not arrogant, love does not boast, love is not self-seeking.
- 13:57SPEAKER_00: So if you have pride in your life and you are motivated by a desire to seek honor and glory, to be perceived well, to look good, you gain nothing.
- 14:13SPEAKER_00: I had this group project in college.
- 14:16SPEAKER_00: Um you guys have done group projects before in college, raise of hands, okay.
- 14:21SPEAKER_00: All right, all of you are raising your hands.
- 14:23SPEAKER_00: I know you've also been to therapy.
- 14:24SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 14:25SPEAKER_00: Group projects, they stink.
- 14:27SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 14:28SPEAKER_00: And if if you don't know why they stink, it's because you're working on all of this, all of this project, like all this material with all of these other people that's on a deadline, and half of them don't seem to understand there's a deadline.
- 14:39SPEAKER_00: Uh and so there was this one time I was working with uh a team, and one of the girls was really struggling.
- 14:45SPEAKER_00: She was trying, she was trying to get her work in, but she was just struggling to do so.
- 14:48SPEAKER_00: And so I offered to meet up with her right before it was due, um, and I helped her complete it.
- 14:53SPEAKER_00: And then I collated all of the work that everyone had done, and I put it into a document, and I sent it out.
- 14:59SPEAKER_00: That was pretty late at that point, and I'd been working with her for a while, and she told me, she's like, Man, Jeremy, thank you.
- 15:07SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
- 15:08SPEAKER_00: You are acting so Christ-like right now.
- 15:10SPEAKER_00: You're being so selfless.
- 15:12SPEAKER_00: Thank you for doing this.
- 15:14SPEAKER_00: But the reality is I wasn't acting selfless at all.
- 15:18SPEAKER_00: I just did that because I knew if I didn't, I wouldn't get a good grade.
- 15:23SPEAKER_00: And not only that, we had a presentation the next day, and then I knew if they didn't know what they were talking about and they looked stupid, then I'd look stupid.
- 15:31SPEAKER_00: And then on top of that, I knew I was gonna get praise.
- 15:36SPEAKER_00: I knew she was going to think, wow, Jeremy's really selfless.
- 15:40SPEAKER_00: He's a good guy.
- 15:41SPEAKER_00: And even if she didn't say it, I'd think that about myself.
- 15:46SPEAKER_00: And so there are three, in that story, there's three motivations that all come from pride, a desire to be seen as great, a desire to look good, not to actually be good.
- 15:56SPEAKER_00: And how many of us have desires like this?
- 15:59SPEAKER_00: Let's let's list a couple.
- 16:00SPEAKER_00: Because man, I want this, I want this to be convicting.
- 16:02SPEAKER_00: I want you guys to sit in the pews right now and think, how am I motivated from a sense of pride and entitlement and a desire to be known and to be seen and to be loved and appreciated?
- 16:12SPEAKER_00: Man, what about what about you who say yes to everything?
- 16:16SPEAKER_00: Man, if someone needs help, you're yes, I'll do it, no matter what's going on.
- 16:22SPEAKER_00: And I bet many people in your life say, yeah, you're you're a selfless person.
- 16:25SPEAKER_00: You're great.
- 16:26SPEAKER_00: You always say yes, you're so selfless.
- 16:29SPEAKER_00: But what if you just do, what if you just say yes because you're scared of how that person will view you if you say no?
- 16:36SPEAKER_00: What if the primary reason we say yes all the time is not because we really love and care for the people around us, but man, we just don't want them thinking poorly of us.
- 16:47SPEAKER_00: What about you who work tirelessly tirelessly as a parent?
- 16:51SPEAKER_00: You're a superparent, you're a super mom, you're a super dad.
- 16:55SPEAKER_00: You do all of these things for your kids and you work tirelessly to get it done.
- 17:01SPEAKER_00: But the reason you put all of this weight on your shoulders is because you have a standard for yourself, and if you don't meet that standard, well then you're not gonna feel like you're a good person.
- 17:11SPEAKER_00: So you do it because you just want to feel like you're a good parent and you find you're worth being a good parent.
- 17:21SPEAKER_00: What about those of us like the example that I gave who you're working hard on that meal, on that speech, on that party, on that project, because you want people to be impressed with your ability, or you want people to be impressed with how much you care.
- 17:35SPEAKER_00: The reason I'm bringing all of these up is because I want you guys to see how far-reaching these motivations are.
- 17:45SPEAKER_00: I think all of us, every single person in this room, have done something today, have done something yesterday, have done something the day before that was good, but that wasn't totally motivated by a good thing.
- 18:00SPEAKER_00: And the tricky thing about this is that it can be mixed up.
- 18:03SPEAKER_00: We can have like actual love for people, we can have a motivation to truly love people that can be mixed in with this yucky, evil desire to receive recognition and praise and to feel like a great individual.
- 18:16SPEAKER_00: It can all be mixed together, so it's hard to untangle sometimes, but guys, we need to untangle it.
- 18:23SPEAKER_00: We need our love, as Christ's love was to be free from all corruption.
- 18:30SPEAKER_00: And so the question I have for you guys is do we mask selfishness with good actions?
- 18:38SPEAKER_00: Do we mask selfishness with good actions?
- 18:44SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about another way as we move along in Philippians 2, that as Christians we care more about looking good than actually being good.
- 18:57SPEAKER_00: If we continue on in Philippians, we see that Paul says, do nothing from conceit.
- 19:03SPEAKER_00: Do nothing from conceit.
- 19:05SPEAKER_00: We're gonna talk about that word in a second, but before I have an illustration.
- 19:10SPEAKER_00: Back in the 1920s to about the 1970s, this is the average NFL football player you'd see on the field.
- 19:18SPEAKER_00: They all kind of look like this.
- 19:20SPEAKER_00: Um, not, they're all balding, even though a lot of these guys are.
- 19:24SPEAKER_00: Uh but they were all about the same height, between this like 5'11, 6'2, about 200 pounds.
- 19:29SPEAKER_00: And there were many reasons for this.
- 19:32SPEAKER_00: There were many reasons for this.
- 19:34SPEAKER_00: Um, but one of the reasons is that coaches believed that this was the ideal athlete.
- 19:41SPEAKER_00: This this body type was the ideal athlete, the ideal figure.
- 19:45SPEAKER_00: And so much so that the linemen, the linemen in 1950, their average size was 6'2, 230 pounds.
- 19:53SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 19:54SPEAKER_00: The average size of our linemen today, about the size of an elephant.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: Um, big disparity.
- 20:01SPEAKER_00: So so what happened?
- 20:03SPEAKER_00: Why did it take so long for us to specialize the positions and get the big dudes up front and get the tall, thin, fast, you know, guys on the outside catching the ball?
- 20:12SPEAKER_00: Why did it take so long?
- 20:14SPEAKER_00: Well, it's because they had a wrong standard of what made an elite athlete.
- 20:18SPEAKER_00: They were using the wrong standard, right?
- 20:22SPEAKER_00: And something we don't have time to go into today, but I actually preached about this downstairs with the students.
- 20:28SPEAKER_00: Um, we, as Christians, should desire to receive glory.
- 20:32SPEAKER_00: In fact, we're gonna be glorified with Christ.
- 20:35SPEAKER_00: We're gonna share in Christ's glory one day.
- 20:37SPEAKER_00: We get to share in Christ's glory.
- 20:39SPEAKER_00: That's awesome.
- 20:41SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 20:42SPEAKER_00: And so we should desire to receive glory, but but the problem is that sometimes our desire, our standard for what we should receive glory for, is twisted.
- 20:53SPEAKER_00: It's not quite right.
- 20:55SPEAKER_00: And that's what vain glory or empty glory in the Greek, that's what it's referring to.
- 21:01SPEAKER_00: It's attempting to pursue glory that you don't deserve or that is not actually glorious, that you should not receive credit or accolades or praise for.
- 21:11SPEAKER_00: It's empty.
- 21:13SPEAKER_00: And there are three kinds of empty glory that we're gonna just briefly go through.
- 21:17SPEAKER_00: And I want you to just be thinking to yourself, are do I put value in myself?
- 21:22SPEAKER_00: Do I try to receive glory and recognition for any of these three?
- 21:27SPEAKER_00: The first one is superficial glory.
- 21:30SPEAKER_00: And this one, this one I think we're all familiar with, but it's the idea that your intelligence, your wealth, your influence, your popularity, your beauty all count for something.
- 21:40SPEAKER_00: That somehow they make you a little bit better, a little bit more important, a little more valuable as a person.
- 21:48SPEAKER_00: Second is evil things.
- 21:51SPEAKER_00: They're not good, they're not neutral, they're just straight up evil.
- 21:54SPEAKER_00: And guys, let me tell you, as Christians, we do seek glory for these things as well, all of us.
- 22:01SPEAKER_00: Maybe you are the gossip girl in your group.
- 22:04SPEAKER_00: And man, you know that when you show up to church and you have the juicy gossip, your friends start to listen, and that makes you feel good.
- 22:10SPEAKER_00: They look to you, they look up to you because you got the info.
- 22:15SPEAKER_00: And so you pat yourself on the back for that.
- 22:19SPEAKER_00: Connor talked about this a couple weeks ago, but some of some of us are Facebook keyboard warriors who like to slander and demean and make fun of political figures we don't like.
- 22:31SPEAKER_00: And man, we receive a lot of praise from our friends.
- 22:34SPEAKER_00: That was a good joke.
- 22:35SPEAKER_00: You really got him.
- 22:36SPEAKER_00: You showed how stupid he is.
- 22:40SPEAKER_00: And we receive glory for something that's just wrong.
- 22:46SPEAKER_00: How about this one?
- 22:51SPEAKER_00: In America, it can be really easy to overvalue wealth.
- 22:55SPEAKER_00: In a couple weeks, Connor's gonna talk about generosity, the good life and generosity.
- 23:01SPEAKER_00: But as Americans, man, we love our wealth.
- 23:04SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we confuse good stewardship with hoarding.
- 23:11SPEAKER_00: We confuse good stewardship with selfishness.
- 23:16SPEAKER_00: And man, there's a lot of individuals I know in the church who got praised for how well they used their money, but all of their money was just an account for themselves, and they very rarely used it for anyone else.
- 23:28SPEAKER_00: That's not praiseworthy or glorious.
- 23:31SPEAKER_00: But sometimes we receive glory for it.
- 23:34SPEAKER_00: Finally, and the most important one that I want to spend some time on is glory we seek for ourselves that is just not true about us.
- 23:44SPEAKER_00: Essentially, this is trying to look better than you really are.
- 23:47SPEAKER_00: Raise a hand, let's be honest.
- 23:49SPEAKER_00: How many of us try to look better than we really are?
- 23:52SPEAKER_00: Come on.
- 23:52SPEAKER_00: Yeah, all our hands should be raised.
- 23:54SPEAKER_00: I'll put both hands up.
- 23:55SPEAKER_00: Um we all try to do this.
- 23:57SPEAKER_00: We all try to do this.
- 23:58SPEAKER_00: I want to give you an example here.
- 24:00SPEAKER_00: I um a church I went to growing up, um, we had a fantastic elder.
- 24:08SPEAKER_00: He was revered among all of the congregants.
- 24:11SPEAKER_00: He'd show up and he was so kind and he was so charismatic and he would go out of his way to talk to everybody.
- 24:17SPEAKER_00: Um he was often known for helping people out when they needed it.
- 24:21SPEAKER_00: And one of the coolest things about him is when he was at church and he's talking with other people, he would just praise his wife.
- 24:29SPEAKER_00: He was so good at just being a good husband and talking her up, at encouraging her, at honoring her among the other people.
- 24:38SPEAKER_00: But we found out years later he was abusing her at home.
- 24:42SPEAKER_00: And in fact, I got the chance to hear her story and to talk with her, and she said she would try desperately to stay at church as long as possible because it was the only place that he treated her well.
- 24:56SPEAKER_00: Now, I don't think many of us are in that kind of extreme.
- 25:04SPEAKER_00: But all of us, like this man, try to look better than we really are.
- 25:09SPEAKER_00: We turn on the charm, we turn on the godliness, we turn on the good works when people are watching.
- 25:15SPEAKER_00: We talk ourselves up and pretend that we serve more, pretend that we care more than we do, pretend we love God more than we do with the words that we say.
- 25:24SPEAKER_00: But when no one's watching, or the people we don't care about are watching.
- 25:29SPEAKER_00: You get to see who really we really are.
- 25:32SPEAKER_00: And guys, why are we trying to receive praise for something that we aren't?
- 25:38SPEAKER_00: Why does this I I'm it's a genuine question because it happens to me too.
- 25:43SPEAKER_00: Why do we feel good when people compliment us or think highly of us when it's not who we are?
- 25:53SPEAKER_00: And the more important question is what do we do about it?
- 25:57SPEAKER_00: Because it's my contention that every single one of you in this room, including myself, is more evil and less good than the people around you think.
- 26:09SPEAKER_00: So what do we do about it?
- 26:11SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give you guys three suggestions.
- 26:17SPEAKER_00: The first is I think I just know this to be true in my own life and the people I've talked with, but man, we need to judge our motivations and our heart more often.
- 26:26SPEAKER_00: I've gone days before without thinking about why I did certain things.
- 26:31SPEAKER_00: I I would do good things and I'd pat myself on the back for it almost daily, but I wouldn't really think, where is this coming from?
- 26:36SPEAKER_00: Is this coming from a good place?
- 26:39SPEAKER_00: And so, as pride so often does, I'm just I'm deceived.
- 26:42SPEAKER_00: I don't even see the issue because I'm not analyzing my heart.
- 26:45SPEAKER_00: So analyze your heart daily.
- 26:46SPEAKER_00: But then there's two things I think we can do together that will change the environment and change this constant desire to look good in front of each other.
- 26:55SPEAKER_00: Two things.
- 26:56SPEAKER_00: First, James 5.16, if we followed this, it says, therefore, confess your sins to one another.
- 27:03SPEAKER_00: Confess your sins to one another.
- 27:05SPEAKER_00: I did this during first service, but I want to do it again.
- 27:06SPEAKER_00: I need you to actually raise your hands that this is true for you.
- 27:10SPEAKER_00: How many of you confess your sin to someone else daily?
- 27:14SPEAKER_00: Raise your hand.
- 27:15SPEAKER_00: You confess your sin to someone else daily.
- 27:22SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm saying this for the people in cab, I don't see a single hand.
- 27:25SPEAKER_00: My hand should be down too.
- 27:29SPEAKER_00: That is a tragedy.
- 27:32SPEAKER_00: Because if we say as Christians our one desire is to become more like Christ and that we're not gonna reach it this side of eternity, why are we wasting our time?
- 27:43SPEAKER_00: Why are we wasting our time by hiding our sin and not transforming and rooting out the thing that is keeping us from the sanctification?
- 27:56SPEAKER_00: So, this is what I want from you guys.
- 27:58SPEAKER_00: I want you to confess your sin daily.
- 28:00SPEAKER_00: I want to qualify this a little bit for you guys because you need to find someone that's safe and that's appropriate to confess to.
- 28:07SPEAKER_00: Okay?
- 28:08SPEAKER_00: There are some relationships and situations it's not appropriate to confess your sin to that person or in that situation.
- 28:13SPEAKER_00: But if you guys don't have someone that you can confess to, man, find someone.
- 28:18SPEAKER_00: Here's the second thing, though.
- 28:20SPEAKER_00: I think one of the reasons we don't confess our sins daily in this kind of setting in church is because Christians aren't super duper known for their graciousness when it comes to sin, right?
- 28:35SPEAKER_00: For years, uh, Christians have responded with disgust, with judgment, with hatred, with malignment over people whose sin was exposed.
- 28:45SPEAKER_00: And so this is the final thing I would encourage all of us to do.
- 28:49SPEAKER_00: Galatians 6, 1 through 2, Paul says, if someone is caught in sin, restore him gently.
- 28:54SPEAKER_00: Guys, if we confessed our sin daily to one another, and we knew that when we did with the person that we were confessing to, or the group that we were confessing to, that they would respond with gentleness in order to restore us, man, how much different would this church look?
- 29:11SPEAKER_00: How much more like Christ?
- 29:14SPEAKER_00: I'd be willing to bet an immense amount.
- 29:20SPEAKER_00: And so let's stop hiding our sin.
- 29:22SPEAKER_00: Let's stop pretending that we look better than we really are.
- 29:26SPEAKER_00: And let's cultivate a culture of transparency.
- 29:32SPEAKER_00: So the question for you guys right before we move on is do you care more about looking like a good person or being a good person?
- 29:39SPEAKER_00: That's what we've been talking about.
- 29:41SPEAKER_00: Do you guys care more about looking like a good person or actually being a good person?
- 29:48SPEAKER_00: And I'd say, unfortunately, for many of us, we care a whole lot about looking good.
- 30:01SPEAKER_00: I want to move on to the final point here.
- 30:04SPEAKER_00: That pride allows selfishness to be masked by self-care.
- 30:10SPEAKER_00: We have a little bit of time, so I'm gonna include something I had to cut from the first sermon.
- 30:16SPEAKER_00: Um, if we go back to Philippians 2, 3, it it after Paul says, don't do anything from this selfish ambition, from this conceit, he says, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves.
- 30:29SPEAKER_00: More significant.
- 30:30SPEAKER_00: Okay, what does it mean to count others as more significant than yourself?
- 30:33SPEAKER_00: I cut this because last week Connor talked about how we should be pursuing the communal good, right?
- 30:41SPEAKER_00: We should be pursuing kingdom work and not just being focused on our own individual lives.
- 30:45SPEAKER_00: And I think when it comes to pursuing other people as more significant than ourselves, we have this duty to do it at a communal level and also an individual level.
- 30:54SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna spend just a second on the communal level.
- 30:56SPEAKER_00: And I just want to give you an analogy or a story just to show you how this is done at TBC.
- 31:02SPEAKER_00: I want to shout out Pastor Jason and Pastor Jeremiah real quick.
- 31:07SPEAKER_00: One of the things that I have to do, that all the pastoral staff have to do, is an end-of-year review.
- 31:12SPEAKER_00: And one of the questions that is asked every year is how have you helped the other ministries?
- 31:20SPEAKER_00: And I love this question.
- 31:22SPEAKER_00: Because it can be so easy for all of us, no matter what we're doing, to be focused on our purview and our mission and what our responsibility is, and for me to just make sure that the youth ministry flourishes, and I'm just trying as hard as I can to make sure that we succeed because that's my responsibility.
- 31:41SPEAKER_00: But ultimately, as Christians, we're called to think not just about what God has given us, but about his kingdom's work and allowing and pursuing that to flourish, right?
- 31:53SPEAKER_00: And Jason and Jeremiah consistently every year, I can name multiple ways that they have sacrificed and given up time to help us on the worship team.
- 32:03SPEAKER_00: Jeremiah went to Sky Ranch as a volunteer with us just because.
- 32:22SPEAKER_00: If you want to treat others as more significant than yourself, treat the community work as more significant than your work.
- 32:29SPEAKER_00: But second, let's talk about the individual.
- 32:33SPEAKER_00: How can we treat individuals as more significant than ourselves?
- 32:38SPEAKER_00: How many of you guys have heard the phrase, uh, you can't pour from an empty cup?
- 32:43SPEAKER_00: Have you heard this?
- 32:43SPEAKER_00: You can't pour from an empty cup.
- 32:45SPEAKER_00: Okay.
- 32:46SPEAKER_00: Now, this is a common saying.
- 32:47SPEAKER_00: If you don't know what it means, essentially it's saying, man, if you're not full, if your needs aren't met, well then you can't serve anyone else.
- 32:55SPEAKER_00: You can't pour into anyone else.
- 32:56SPEAKER_00: And this seems to make good common sense.
- 32:58SPEAKER_00: This is kind of the mantra of our culture today.
- 33:01SPEAKER_00: Self-care first, everyone else second.
- 33:06SPEAKER_00: But I'm gonna argue this is a cultural idea that it makes a lot of sense, but it's completely contrary to the biblical idea.
- 33:18SPEAKER_00: There was an ad uh year or two ago, some of you guys might have seen it.
- 33:22SPEAKER_00: It was for like a cold and flu uh medicine of some kind.
- 33:26SPEAKER_00: And it it started with this man or woman who seemed to be like in this office space and and they had this cold, and they were like, I'm sorry, I need a sick day.
- 33:34SPEAKER_00: I can't, I can't come in today, I need a sick day.
- 33:37SPEAKER_00: And then it would zoom out and they wouldn't be talking to their boss, they'd be talking to their kid.
- 33:42SPEAKER_00: Now, parents, do you ever get sick days with your kid?
- 33:46SPEAKER_00: Can you ever just be like, just go do your thing, like mom's gotta take a 10-hour nap?
- 33:51SPEAKER_00: No, we can't do that.
- 33:53SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter if you're at 75%, if you're at 50%, if you're at 25%, if you're at 5%, you are giving your kid what you have.
- 34:02SPEAKER_00: But this same idea of how we give to our kids even when we're not full, doesn't seem to translate all the time to the other people around us.
- 34:12SPEAKER_00: But again, Paul doesn't say treat the people just like put yourself first and then and then put people first.
- 34:20SPEAKER_00: He doesn't even say, treat people in the exact same way, like give yourselves the same, he says, treat them as more significant.
- 34:27SPEAKER_00: And so I'd argue there are a lot more opportunities for us to give when we're feeling a little empty, when we're not feeling at our best.
- 34:36SPEAKER_00: But instead, selfishly, because we care more about ourselves and it's uncomfortable to serve when we're a little empty, we prioritize ourselves.
- 34:47SPEAKER_00: But I, you know, I want to be clear, I don't think it's wrong to take care of yourself.
- 34:53SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we need to eat, sometimes we need to sleep, sometimes we need to rest.
- 34:59SPEAKER_00: But there is one thing you do always need to be full of.
- 35:01SPEAKER_00: You don't always need to be full with those things.
- 35:04SPEAKER_00: But the one thing you cannot serve others without is the Spirit of God.
- 35:09SPEAKER_00: The one thing we see Jesus consistently disappearing for, the one thing we see Jesus leaving the people, leaving the ministry for, is to be with God.
- 35:18SPEAKER_00: Because he recognizes if he's empty there, then he's not gonna serve well.
- 35:22SPEAKER_00: But unfortunately, guys, I again I just know this is true in my life.
- 35:26SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of us we're much more okay serving people when we're empty on our God front, and we're less okay doing it if we're empty on our physical front.
- 35:38SPEAKER_00: And that should not be.
- 35:42SPEAKER_00: So I want to end here, guys, with some specific ways that we can attempt to put others first as more significant than ourselves in order to starve our pride.
- 35:53SPEAKER_00: Because, guys, our pride needs to be starved.
- 35:55SPEAKER_00: If it's constantly fed, it's gonna constantly grow and it's gonna constantly be with us, and so we need to look for opportunities to starve it.
- 36:01SPEAKER_00: Here are six ways.
- 36:02SPEAKER_00: There's so many more, but I'm just gonna go through six.
- 36:05SPEAKER_00: First is serve unprompted.
- 36:08SPEAKER_00: This is one I am horrible at.
- 36:10SPEAKER_00: As a youth pastor, I have so many opportunities to serve.
- 36:14SPEAKER_00: All right, I'm here on Sundays, I'm preaching, I'm discipling kids, I'm leading Bible studies, I'm taking them on service projects, we're going and evangelizing.
- 36:21SPEAKER_00: But these are all things that I have to do.
- 36:24SPEAKER_00: I have set a date, people are counting on me.
- 36:28SPEAKER_00: And so, in a way, my image is on the line.
- 36:32SPEAKER_00: And guys, we all know when our image is on the line, we tend to do it.
- 36:37SPEAKER_00: We tend to follow through a lot more readily.
- 36:40SPEAKER_00: And so I encourage you guys to find opportunities to serve when no one's counting on you.
- 36:45SPEAKER_00: When no one's thinking, man, where's she at?
- 36:47SPEAKER_00: Where's she?
- 36:47SPEAKER_00: He's supposed to be doing this right now.
- 36:49SPEAKER_00: When no one's asked something of you, when no one's expecting you to come through, just find opportunities.
- 36:57SPEAKER_00: Because then we're not feeding this fear of maintaining our image.
- 37:02SPEAKER_00: So serve unprompted.
- 37:04SPEAKER_00: Second, serve in secret.
- 37:05SPEAKER_00: This one we all know.
- 37:06SPEAKER_00: If we've grown up in church, Jesus says, when uh when your right hand does something, don't even let your left hand know what it's doing.
- 37:13SPEAKER_00: And essentially he's saying, when you serve, serve in such a way that people can't see it.
- 37:18SPEAKER_00: So you're not constantly receiving praise and oh, he's such a good person.
- 37:22SPEAKER_00: She's she's so kind, so selfless.
- 37:26SPEAKER_00: Just serve because you love people, even if you get nothing in return.
- 37:31SPEAKER_00: Three, outdo and showing honor.
- 37:34SPEAKER_00: Um in Romans it talks about this honor others above yourself.
- 37:40SPEAKER_00: And so here, just look for opportunities to praise people, to give people encouragement.
- 37:44SPEAKER_00: Um, small little ways that you can show honor.
- 37:46SPEAKER_00: Why why don't you be the last person in line to get food?
- 37:49SPEAKER_00: Why don't you ask how you can set the table at the beginning of dinner and then you're the first one to clean up afterwards?
- 37:55SPEAKER_00: Look for small little ways you can show people I'm concerned more about you than I'm concerned with my own needs right now.
- 38:01SPEAKER_00: Look for little ways you can do that.
- 38:04SPEAKER_00: Uh, four and five are really big for me, and these are all things we've talked about with the students a lot the last couple months.
- 38:11SPEAKER_00: Four and five.
- 38:12SPEAKER_00: First, change how you enter church.
- 38:15SPEAKER_00: If we're being honest, a lot of us enter church, and our first thought is where are my friends at?
- 38:20SPEAKER_00: Where are the people that I know?
- 38:21SPEAKER_00: Where's my family?
- 38:22SPEAKER_00: Uh if you're me, it's where are the donuts?
- 38:25SPEAKER_00: Um, where are the donuts?
- 38:27SPEAKER_00: Where's the coffee, right?
- 38:29SPEAKER_00: But man, we come to church because we are gathering as a body that's meant to build each other up and strengthen the body.
- 38:41SPEAKER_00: But when we show up and we're just concerned with ourselves and shoot in the breeze with the people that we like, we're not being the church.
- 38:49SPEAKER_00: And so change how you enter church.
- 38:52SPEAKER_00: Look for the person who needs to be heard, who needs to be seen, instead of where are my friends at.
- 38:58SPEAKER_00: And the fifth one is very similar to it.
- 39:00SPEAKER_00: Choose godly conversations first.
- 39:02SPEAKER_00: I don't know about you guys, but it's easy when I show up to be like, hey, did you seen the game last night?
- 39:07SPEAKER_00: Oh, let me let me tell you about this cool thing that happened yesterday.
- 39:11SPEAKER_00: And we just talk about normal, everyday things, which is okay, but we find that often the godly conversations, the conversations that would encourage and spur each other on to be more like Christ, just don't ever happen.
- 39:25SPEAKER_00: And we're at church.
- 39:27SPEAKER_00: Why is that not happening?
- 39:29SPEAKER_00: And so I'd encourage you guys, just one simple thing you can do is the first question you ask someone, the first thing you do, so simple, ask them a spiritual question.
- 39:40SPEAKER_00: And ask them, how can I encourage you?
- 39:43SPEAKER_00: What is God teaching you?
- 39:44SPEAKER_00: How are you being the church?
- 39:46SPEAKER_00: This is another question we've had the students try to integrate.
- 39:49SPEAKER_00: How am I showing up and being the church today?
- 39:51SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna ask you the same question we're gonna share.
- 39:54SPEAKER_00: What's a sin that you're struggling with right now?
- 39:57SPEAKER_00: Guys, choose that first, not last, because we tend to not get to it.
- 40:02SPEAKER_00: And then finally, speak highly of others when they're not there.
- 40:05SPEAKER_00: It can be easy to praise people and to talk highly of them when they're right there, because you get gratification from seeing the smile on their face, and now you know that they think you're a good person, right?
- 40:15SPEAKER_00: And so we have this little motivation, again, this desire to be glorified, to be thought of well, to only praise people when they're around.
- 40:22SPEAKER_00: So praise people, honor people, talk well of people even when they're not there.
- 40:27SPEAKER_00: Because you care more about their reputation than you do yours.
- 40:30SPEAKER_00: Let's starve our pride.
- 40:34SPEAKER_00: Man, there's so many more we could go through, but we gotta wrap up for the sake of time.
- 40:38SPEAKER_00: But I just want to end with this, guys.
- 40:41SPEAKER_00: We don't want to just get rid of pride because it's the right thing to do.
- 40:46SPEAKER_00: I feel like so many sermons, it's like this is sin, we don't sin, end of story.
- 40:51SPEAKER_00: But as I tried to share at the beginning, if we do not get rid of pride, we cannot achieve true humility.
- 40:59SPEAKER_00: And without humility, we can't enter into this loving relationship with God and with others that is arguably the most beautiful, the most wonderful, the most fulfilling thing that we could ever do.
- 41:13SPEAKER_00: And so if you want to enter the good life, reject the cultural ways that pride hides our selflessness, rip off the mask and start attacking your pride.
- 41:26SPEAKER_00: Let's pray.
- 41:28SPEAKER_00: Heavenly Father, Lord, it is so, so, so, so hard to identify all of the selfish motivations and prideful motivations that are running through our heart on a daily basis.
- 41:42SPEAKER_00: And not only that, Lord, it's uncomfortable.
- 41:46SPEAKER_00: It's uncomfortable to look at, it's uncomfortable to admit to ourselves, let alone to other people.
- 41:52SPEAKER_00: But Lord, we know that if we keep it in the dark, that if we continue to ignore it, or even pretend that it's okay, that Lord, we're gonna stagnate as your people.
- 42:03SPEAKER_00: We wanna be a people that are entirely humble, entirely reliant on you, and recognizing that our only goodness and our only value ever comes from your love for us and your declaration that we're righteous.
- 42:20SPEAKER_00: And so, Lord, I just pray for all of us as we enter into this journey of trying to eradicate our pride and replace it with humility, that you would give us strength and fortitude, and that you would allow us as brothers and sisters to come alongside one another and help root it out.
- 42:36SPEAKER_00: We pray this in your name, Lord.
- 42:38SPEAKER_00: Amen.
- 42:39SPEAKER_00: That's all I got for you guys.
- 42:40SPEAKER_00: You can go in peace.
- 42:42SPEAKER_00: Thank you.