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What if you don’t feel grateful? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So what are you do? If you just don't feel grateful
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  big question this week since we have Thanksgiving coming up and
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  we're talking about all these things about gratitude and
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  everybody's professing, you know, go out and be grateful and
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  show your gratitude. What do you do?
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  If you just don't feel grateful. What if you're struggling with
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  that aspect of your life right now?
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  What if you feel like you're just overwhelmed with everything
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  that's going on? Well, first of all, let me tell
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  you, it's totally okay. Not feel grateful.
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  I think every single one of us at some points in time, feel
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  overwhelmed and feel like, you know, I'm not grateful right?
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  This minute. In fact, I feel pretty angry or
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  I feel pretty frustrated. That is completely normal.
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  And remember, one of the big things that we talk here about
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  constantly is how our emotions affect everything in there.
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  Just information, you know, people want to make themselves
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  wrong for having these emotions, but their reality is emotions
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  are Ian, they are here to help guide us and move us into better
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  places, for whatever it is, that we are about to create or want
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  to create. So if you don't feel grateful
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  for something, or you're struggling to find anything to
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  be grateful about, the first thing is no being mad at
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  yourself. Let It Go, you do not need to be
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  frustrated or Matt or irritated or any of the above with
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  yourself. What you first need to do is
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  take a deep breath. And say, you know what, this is
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  just information. This is where I am, and I'm
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  going to start right here. Because that is the best place
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  to start, right where you are. Second you've got to find
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  something small. You've got to find like teeny
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  tiny things to start to be grateful for again, to
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  recondition your brain to seeing in a way that is positive, and
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  not just seeing all the things that are going wrong.
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  So, let me give you an example. There have been times in my life
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  where I've gone through so many different things and I just
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  could not figure out. To be grateful for In This
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  Moment, these moments. So this one particular time that
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  I'm thinking about was a miscarriage and then that you're
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  trying so hard to understand why, which is the most unreal
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  Source will question we can ask ourselves.
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  Why why why? Because we're never going to be
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  able to figure it out and we'll bring early.
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  Are we going to be able to put the dots together and I had to
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  pull back and say okay give me something that I can focus on,
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  that's different Let me find just the small things and I
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  remember lying in my bed and my dog, who at the time Chloe, she
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  was a boxer pitbull mix and probably one of the sweetest
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  dogs that you could ever meet in the world.
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  She was snuggled up next to me and she was the one thing that I
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  could be grateful for her because she wouldn't leave my
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  side because she knew I was a mess.
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  She just stayed with me. Stuck to me like glue.
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  So I started with Khloe, I'm grateful for Khloe.
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  And every few minutes, I would just say I'm grateful for Chloe,
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  I'm grateful for Chloe. I'm grateful for Khloe.
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  And then before you knew it, okay?
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  I'm grateful for this bed. I'm grateful for soft sheets.
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  And then I could start to go from there.
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  I'm grateful for pillows. I'm grateful that the room is
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  warm. I'm grateful for books that were
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  around me. I'm grateful for I remember
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  thinking to myself how much I was grateful for Netflix because
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  it was Able to like, just consumed me and I could just
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  binge watch anything. At the time.
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  Point is, these are the little places that you have to start.
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  So, don't try to make a leap into this Vortex of saying, I've
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  got to be astronomically grateful, I've got to feel
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  overwhelmingly positive about this.
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  It's okay if you're not there, it's just not.
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  Okay to stay in that dark place so you have to just start
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  looking for the crumbs. For the path, outlook for the
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  little flickers of light. And sometimes those lights are
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  like fireflies. They just light up for a second
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  and then they're gone and they extinguish, but your job is to
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  seek out just like when we were kids and we see flyer fireflies
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  out in the woods and if you've ever chase them they're there
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  and then they're gone, they're there and then they're gone.
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  But you know they're there see that's the funny part about
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  them. You know they're there and
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  they're going to light up a little further away from you.
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  Like they want you to follow them like you're chasing them so
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  it's important to Chase. Ice them and, and keep after it,
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  don't let yourself go into the place of saying, well, the light
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  went out there for, I can walk away because just like the
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  fireflies, they're there. So look for that in yourself.
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  And look for that around. You, find those small things.
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  I mean, I've talked before about how I can be grateful for a
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  paper clip and I kid you not just the other day, it happened.
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  I had to reset all the Wi-Fi and the only thing, the guy on
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  Verizon could tell me was told you have a paperclip.
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  Ma'am. And I started laughing and I was
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  like, yes, as a matter Matter of fact, I do and I'm very
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  grateful, I had it. So go back to basics, get to
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  that place. And hopefully, you will be able
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  to find those miniscule little things that light you up,
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  because I'm positive, they're around you, I'm positive.
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  You can find one thing. And let me start by saying
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  again, I'm grateful for you listening and hopefully this was
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  helpful to you today and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day everybody. Bye.