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When Life Gets Hard, Keep Going: Overcome with Strength · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Let me teach you the real life how it really is,
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  Speaker 1: the reason why you're a loser, and the reason why
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  Speaker 1: you're not making it, and the reason why you're trying
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  Speaker 1: to go through all these I go to all these conventions,
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  Speaker 1: speak all the time. I'm looking at an audience, and
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  Speaker 1: these people sign up, sign up, sign up every year
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  Speaker 1: to go to convention, thinking they're gonna learn something different. No,
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  Speaker 1: you're lazy. You know exactly what to do, exactly what
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  Speaker 1: to do. Because even me, in my state of I
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  Speaker 1: can't read or write, I knew exactly what to do.
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  Speaker 1: It just sucks doing it. It sucks to do it.
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  Speaker 1: It sucks to wake up every morning of your life
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  Speaker 1: and say, god, man, I'm I'm not smart. So guess
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  Speaker 1: what I gotta do. I gotta I gotta study the
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  Speaker 1: same shit. I get one of the highest scores in
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  Speaker 1: the nation on and do it again, do it again,
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  Speaker 1: do it again. It's not just there, it's not just
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  Speaker 1: there permanently for me. So yeah, it's all stick. It's
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  Speaker 1: all stick. The only care that you have is like
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  Speaker 1: maybe maybe, because whenever I take these tests that are
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  Speaker 1: real hard, in the back of my brain is like
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  Speaker 1: the good chance you're not gonna make it. Goggins. This
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  Speaker 1: ain't you, bro, This ain't you. You weren't born like this,
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  Speaker 1: This ain't you the real you, bro? Study all you
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  Speaker 1: want you, But the second that fuck computer comes on
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  Speaker 1: with one hundred and fifty questions, this ain't you, man,
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  Speaker 1: somehow comes back. I passed, passed again, passed again, but
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  Speaker 1: that ruled me back here every time it's saying that
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  Speaker 1: ain't you, bro, that ain't you? And I have to
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  Speaker 1: outwork that voice. When I'm taking that test and I
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  Speaker 1: get to a question I don't know the answer, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: fuck man, and then says I told you, man, that
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  Speaker 1: ain't you. Here's three hundred pounds. Man. You sit at homeie,
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  Speaker 1: figure out how to do your hair, that's what you do.
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  Speaker 1: How to come to school with the reverse baldness when
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  Speaker 1: you're sixteen. That's you. So there is no get out
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  Speaker 1: of your free card. This is why I say stay hard,
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  Speaker 1: because when you weren't given the gifts, the only thing
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  Speaker 1: you can do in life is stay hard. And I
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  Speaker 1: know people cannot stand me, they can't stand this talk.
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  Speaker 1: This is all you can do. There's no magic pill
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  Speaker 1: or a magic potion. All you can do is out
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  Speaker 1: work the man that God created or woman in you,
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  Speaker 1: and what that looks like is unfun. That's why I said,
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  Speaker 1: do not do a documentary on me, because people will
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  Speaker 1: not see the truth. They will see what they want
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  Speaker 1: to see. Is I don't want to live like that.
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  Speaker 1: Good good, and you will live exactly the way you
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  Speaker 1: live now, questioning who you are, wondering what is possible,
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  Speaker 1: wondering what you.
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  Speaker 2: Are capable of doing.
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  Speaker 1: That's how that looks what we obtain too cheap, we
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  Speaker 1: esteem too lightly. Easy successes may be pleasant, but if
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  Speaker 1: they're the only successes you achieve, you'll come to expect quick,
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  Speaker 1: effortless results. Then when life hits you hard with a
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  Speaker 1: difficult challenge, you'll lack the mental toughness to overcome it. Moreover,
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  Speaker 1: you'll never appreciate the easy successes as much as the
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  Speaker 1: ones that require blood, sweat and tears. Does it mean
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  Speaker 1: that you should reject easy successes and seek the most
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  Speaker 1: difficult ways to accomplish your goals. Of course not. However,
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  Speaker 1: you should make sure that you don't deliberately avoid hardships,
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  Speaker 1: resist the temptation to set your aims low. Scoring exclusively.
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  Speaker 1: Easy wins might feel good, but you're limiting your potential
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  Speaker 1: that way over the long term, make sure that you
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  Speaker 1: always have at least one big, ambitious, and demanding goal
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  Speaker 1: in life, as that's where the power of self discipline shines,
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  Speaker 1: where most personal growth happens, and which delivers the greatest
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  Speaker 1: feeling of having accomplished something worth doing. Receive wealth or
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  Speaker 1: prosperity without arrogance, and be ready to let it go.
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  Speaker 1: Never take self discipline for granted or assume that if
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  Speaker 1: you can control your urges, you're now invincible. Humility plays
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  Speaker 1: an important role in helping you maintain self control. An
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  Speaker 1: arrogant person will be more likely to unnecessarily test their willpower,
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  Speaker 1: which will eventually lead to their downfall. This happens because
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  Speaker 1: of the restraint bias, the tendency for people to overestimate
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  Speaker 1: how capable they are of controlling impulsive behaviors. Research shows
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  Speaker 1: that people who had an inflated belief in their self
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  Speaker 1: control over expose themselves to temptations such as recovering smokers,
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  Speaker 1: putting themselves in situations tempting them to smoke, which increase
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  Speaker 1: the risk of a relapse. Assume that your self discipline
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  Speaker 1: is like prosperity It's possible that it will stay with
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  Speaker 1: you for a long time, but it's also possible that
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  Speaker 1: it will disappear. Consequently, you'll work harder to keep it
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  Speaker 1: in your life. If it does go away when you
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  Speaker 1: make some mistakes, you'll accept it with more tranquility and
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  Speaker 1: be more likely to regain it quickly. You gain strength, courage,
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  Speaker 1: and confidence by every experience in which you really stop
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  Speaker 1: to look fear in the face. You are able to
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  Speaker 1: say to yourself, I live through this horror. I can
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  Speaker 1: take the next thing that comes along. You must do
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  Speaker 1: the thing you think you cannot do. Self discipline is
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  Speaker 1: a lot like dealing with fear. When you face temptations,
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  Speaker 1: look them straight in the eye and send them packing.
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  Speaker 1: The next time they appear in your life, you'll be
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  Speaker 1: able to say to yourself, I managed to overcome them once,
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  Speaker 1: I can handle them this time as well. The more
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  Speaker 1: times you successfully overcome the temptations, the easier it will
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  Speaker 1: be to handle them again. Regular practice will make you
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  Speaker 1: less susceptible to temptations and even more likely to ignore them,
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  Speaker 1: just like looking fear in the face will make you
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  Speaker 1: more likely to act in spite of it. Granted, it's
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  Speaker 1: not that with enough experience, you'll become unconditionally self disciplined,
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  Speaker 1: just like you won't one day stop being afraid of anything.
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  Speaker 1: Just remember that each situation that tests you resolve is
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  Speaker 1: another experience from which you can draw inspiration to overcome
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  Speaker 1: future challenging circumstances when they occur. Never pick the easy road,
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  Speaker 1: never never, and it always goes back to kind of
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  Speaker 1: the hero mentality. Never pick the easy road ever in
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  Speaker 1: your life. That is the one road that is doom
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  Speaker 1: It is doomed if you want something like six minute
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  Speaker 1: abs all these different things, if you want it so fast,
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  Speaker 1: you may achieve what you want it, but you want
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  Speaker 1: the permanent fix. The permanent fix comes from the hard road.
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  Speaker 1: The hard road gives you permanent results. The easy road
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  Speaker 1: gives you the quick fix. You will go back to
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  Speaker 1: where you started on the easy route.
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  Speaker 2: That hard route is so permanent that it ends up
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  Speaker 2: caallessing you everywhere everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: You keep a six pack forever, Keep it because you
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  Speaker 1: know the work that goes into it. Knowledge has to
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  Speaker 1: be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or advanishes. Just like knowledge,
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  Speaker 1: you can't take self discipline for granted. Unfortunately, being a
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  Speaker 1: self disciplined person isn't a one and done kind of thing.
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  Speaker 1: Once you have learned how to live that way, you
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  Speaker 1: can still lose it if you don't consistently strengthen it
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  Speaker 1: by setting new challenges and rejecting instant gratification in favor
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  Speaker 1: of bigger future rewards. Never assume that you're disciplined enough.
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  Speaker 1: There's always a new area in which you can improve
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  Speaker 1: your self control and further expand your comfort zone. For example,
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  Speaker 1: regular exercise poses no challenge for my self discipline. In
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  Speaker 1: order to strengthen it, I need to set bigger exercise
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  Speaker 1: related challenges for myself Instead of focusing on fitness. I
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  Speaker 1: can also find a new area in which my discipline
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  Speaker 1: is lacking, such as developing more patients when dealing with
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  Speaker 1: other people, and focus on improving it until it's no
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  Speaker 1: longer a test for my resolve. Such consistent practice ensures
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  Speaker 1: that you're at least maintaining your level of self control
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  Speaker 1: and ideally always getting better at it. Hold yourself responsible
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  Speaker 1: for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you.
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  Speaker 1: Never excuse yourself, never pity yourself, Be a hard master
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  Speaker 1: to yourself, and be lenient to everybody else. The only
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  Speaker 1: standards that should concern you are your own standards. If
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  Speaker 1: you act in accordance with the standards of the majority
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  Speaker 1: of people, you'll be overweight, unfit, unhealthy, lazy, hating your job,
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  Speaker 1: not having enough time for your family, and in debt.
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  Speaker 1: I sometimes get flat from my goals. You're already slim.
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  Speaker 1: Why do you still watch your diet? Why do you
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  Speaker 1: save so much money? You should live it up. Can't
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  Speaker 1: you live like a normal person instead of waking up
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  Speaker 1: at five am and going to sleep as early as
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  Speaker 1: eight pm. According to my standards, the growth should never end.
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  Speaker 1: I always hold myself responsible for a higher standard, and
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  Speaker 1: this allows me to maintain success friendly habits in my
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  Speaker 1: life and achieve even more success. If you allow yourself
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  Speaker 1: to have low standards, how are you opposed to ever
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  Speaker 1: achieve excellence. Exhibiting self control is one of the most
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  Speaker 1: powerful demonstrations of having high standards. Letting fleeting emotions and
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  Speaker 1: urges control your life as most people do is a
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  Speaker 1: sure fire path to mediocrity. The important thing in the
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  Speaker 1: Olympic Games is not to win, but to take part.
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  Speaker 1: The important thing in life is not triumph, but the struggle.
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  Speaker 1: The essential thing is not to have conquered, but to
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  Speaker 1: have fought well. Nobody will ever give you any grades
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  Speaker 1: for your level of self discipline. There's no finish line,
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  Speaker 1: and there's no podium for the winners. The only purpose
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  Speaker 1: of building self discipline is to conquer yourself, your own urges,
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  Speaker 1: your own weaknesses, and your own self sabotaging behaviors. It's
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  Speaker 1: easy to forget this fact and assume that when you
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  Speaker 1: reach your goals, you're done. In fact, the moment you
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  Speaker 1: make your dreams come true isn't the most important moment.
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  Speaker 1: It's important, no doubt, but without the leading to it
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  Speaker 1: in itself, it means little. The most important moments are
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  Speaker 1: the moments of struggle, when you're striving to fight, even
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  Speaker 1: when you can barely stand and the whole world is
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  Speaker 1: spinning around you. It's this very act that proves your
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  Speaker 1: metal and showers you with life encompassing benefits, not the
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  Speaker 1: act of winning in itself. Whenever you find yourself frustrated
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  Speaker 1: that you're still a long way from the finish line,
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  Speaker 1: remember that it's right now, at this very moment, that
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  Speaker 1: you're collecting the biggest rewards. It's the struggle in itself
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  Speaker 1: that improves you and makes you a more successful person. Anybody,
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  Speaker 1: not just Navy.
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  Speaker 2: Says, but anybody that can accomplish anything that is hard.
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  Speaker 2: The only separator is is that they really want to
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  Speaker 2: be there. There's some people that get inspired and that
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  Speaker 2: inspiration moves them to try to do something. But the
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  Speaker 2: inspiration is very high right now in this nice environment.
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  Speaker 1: We're in a nice environment. The ocean's out there. I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking to you. If I want to go to the
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  Speaker 1: refrigerator and.
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  Speaker 2: Get something to drink, eat, I can I watch a
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  Speaker 2: movie bout some badasses. You're inspired, But the second you're
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  Speaker 2: not in this environment and you're actually doing what inspired you,
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  Speaker 2: that suck factor is now real. You can't just get
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  Speaker 2: off your couch and get a shake, or get a
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  Speaker 2: box of donuts or turn the TV. You're now there,
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  Speaker 2: and only those people who have been there a million
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  Speaker 2: times in their minds and have lived in that water
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  Speaker 2: and have suffered a million times and realized my legs.
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  Speaker 1: May break, my knee may break, my bones will hurt,
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  Speaker 1: I will be the coldest I've been in my life.
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  Speaker 2: I will be miserable and accept that.
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  Speaker 1: Because what happens is when you get in a horrible
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  Speaker 1: situation in life, your mind, I caught my one second decision.
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  Speaker 1: When you get a horrible situation in life, your mind
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  Speaker 1: immediately says, get out of here.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody does, even if you want to be there. But
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  Speaker 2: it starts to have all these different.
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  Speaker 1: Questions in your mind that one second, and it says, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: why are you here?
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  Speaker 2: Why you do this?
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  Speaker 1: Why this?
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  Speaker 2: Why that?
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  Speaker 1: And then you start to say yourself, if you don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be there, that bad, I'm a beautiful wife
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  Speaker 1: at home. Man, Why am I doing this?
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  Speaker 2: Like? This is stupid? This is gonna get these guys injured,
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  Speaker 2: like they're going to pay for this for the rest
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  Speaker 2: of their lives.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna break my body up to do this.
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  Speaker 2: Your mind starts to say, yeah, this is stupid. But
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  Speaker 2: if you have, if you are already knowing that this
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  Speaker 2: is going to happen to you, you have all the
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  Speaker 2: answers to these questions that your mind starts to give
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  Speaker 2: you when you're in suffer mode.
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  Speaker 1: To succeed, you must fail. In failure and in suffering,
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  Speaker 1: all the answers are in there, all the answers to
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  Speaker 1: all the test questions. The test is your life. All
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  Speaker 1: the answers are in there. You don't have to live
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  Speaker 1: and suffering, pain and failure all the time. You have
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  Speaker 1: to learn. Like people hate working out, you're only going
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  Speaker 1: to visit working out maybe an hour a day, twenty
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  Speaker 1: three other hours of the day you're not in it.
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  Speaker 1: But how you become in shape is you must visit suffering.
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  Speaker 1: Visit working out one hour a day. Visit suffering one
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  Speaker 1: hour a day. Visit your past failures one hour a day.
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  Speaker 1: The relationship with it is the answers are in there.
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  Speaker 1: They are in there, within the suffering. Go in there.
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  Speaker 1: I call it the live autopsy. The live autopsy how
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  Speaker 1: you find out They crack you open after you're dead.
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  Speaker 1: How you can live is do it while you're alive.
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  Speaker 1: Go back in your brain, crack it open while you're alive.
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  Speaker 1: Don't wait until you're freaking dead to figure out why
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  Speaker 1: you died. Do it while you are living. Go in there,
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  Speaker 1: go into the suffering, go into the pain of your life,
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  Speaker 1: and say, why does this suck for me so bad?
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  Speaker 1: Why am I afraid of all this stuff? Why have
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  Speaker 1: I shut down the whole world? I guarantee I'll tell
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  Speaker 1: you why you shut down the whole world. It's in
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  Speaker 1: these nooks of the suffering within your brain and the
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  Speaker 1: scarring are all the answers to why you are on
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  Speaker 1: the couch feeling sorry for yourself. They lie within the scars.
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  Speaker 1: Visit them for at least an hour a day, Study them,
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  Speaker 1: and then you'll find out more about yourself. You will
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  Speaker 1: then grow. So don't look at it as every day
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  Speaker 1: I suffer. Go into it an hour a day. Learn
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  Speaker 1: from yourself, learn from life, learn from me, Learn from
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  Speaker 1: your failures, learn from your insecurities, learn from your self doubt.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you say I'm afraid to jump off an airplane?
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  Speaker 1: What makes you afraid of it? Study it. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I studied my mind. Why I became so powerful in
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  Speaker 1: the mind because I realized I was weak. So instead
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  Speaker 1: of running away from the mind, I dove into it
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  Speaker 1: and said, what is making me weak?