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Still caring about what other people think? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so Today, I want to talk to
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  you a little bit about why we care so much about what other
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  people think about us. This is been coming up a lot and
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  not in my personal life, but with my clients and I thought it
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  would be worth it to address it with all of you since it seems
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  to be something that's out there floating in the world right now,
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  worrying about what other people are going to think.
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  And I know this is something that's we are hard-wired since
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  you. If you went to middle school,
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  you actually. We understand this sort of such
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  a deep level because anybody who's gone to Middle School,
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  which is all of us. Hopefully get to the fact that
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  you worry about what other people think.
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  You don't want to be that kid. That has that any way to stand
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  out? That isn't in a great way and
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  even the ones who are you know, the ones, the popular kids, they
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  still worried about it, they just didn't do it in the same
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  way. It's Middle School is probably
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  the breeding ground of all true. Rama as far as I'm concerned for
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  so many people because they'll all come back and they'll say,
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  well, when I was in Middle School and I always like note to
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  myself. Gosh, middle school, and my
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  middle school experience was no better.
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  Believe me. I did not enjoy Middle School at
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  all. There's a chunk of time that I
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  could technically say, let's do redo that.
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  It would be middle school for sure.
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  But in any event, we digress, I don't want to go down.
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  Let's go back to the fact of you have to let yourself understand.
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  That there's a part of you, that you, it's hardwired into us to
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  have social behaviors and social cues from other people, because
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  they're important, right? You do want other people to as a
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  society as a thriving species, we look to others to shape us.
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  And part of that can be healthy part of it is healthy but not at
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  the detriment of yourself. Again, this comes back to always
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  being self-aware and really looking at How your processing
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  stuff. There's a really awesome quote
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  from loud Sue who says care what other people think and you will
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  always be their prisoner and boy.
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  Isn't that the truth? I mean, go back even to middle
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  school. I mean I can tell you how many
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  times I heard my father say why do you care what they think?
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  But you know, it's really easy for someone who's in their 40s
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  to be telling somebody who's 10 11 and 12, not to care what
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  other people think and not knowing where that person is in
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  their little mine and Little development.
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  So we all have these issues with this showing up at some point in
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  our life, we become prisoners of other people by giving them the
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  power and allowing what they think to become our reality.
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  So, I'll give you a great example when I was going to
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  shoot when I was going to begin the process of, you know,
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  recording out in the chicken coop, and possibly shooting
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  videos and things out here. I had this whole thing in my
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  head about, well, I wonder what people are going to.
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  I think as a professional who's recording from her chicken coop,
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  and I had to go through this process now.
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  Did it take me a long time? No, it didn't take me a long
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  time because I recognize the information.
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  It was trying to give me, and then I use that information and
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  I came to the conclusion, which is why you're listening to me
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  out in my chicken coop, because this is one of my most happy
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  places I love hanging out with my chickens and granted right
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  now, some of them are here, but a lot of them are far away out
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  free-ranging, having fun, doing, whatever.
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  Doing looking for bugs, but it's nonetheless.
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  I'm still happy to be here with the ones that I have.
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  And this is one of my I have to look at myself.
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  How do I want to say this? I want to look at myself and
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  say, just because this is not the same as what other people
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  like. It doesn't mean that I can't
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  bring it forward and share it with people and let people know
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  that I like it. It's that originality of saying,
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  you know what people are Entitled to their opinions and
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  they can keep their opinions, they can share their opinions
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  but I don't have to keep their opinion.
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  I can decide just like I don't have to keep the garbage in the
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  house every night. If I want to take it out, I can
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  take it out. I don't have to hang on to
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  things, I don't have to make everything a collection and
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  curate, it and least off somebody else's opinions about
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  things and I think where we have become so sensitive to what
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  other people think right now in society we don't To accept
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  ourselves for who we are and where we are.
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  Because we're worried about what other people are going to think.
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  So a lot of us have retreated and just said, well, I'm going
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  to, I'm going to just go down this other Road and isolate
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  myself or I'm going to not truly share who I am and that's fine
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  if you're doing it for the right reason.
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  But if you're doing it to hide, it's never the right reason and
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  it's important to say. No, I'm going to stand in the
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  truth of who I am. I'm going to accept myself for
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  who I am. I'm going to love myself for who
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  I am and I'm going to give myself the grace and the space
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  to cultivate that person into the greatest version of myself
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  that I can be, and not according to what other people think.
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  According to you, you've got to liberate yourself from the
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  thoughts that it matters what anyone else thinks, and maybe
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  you have, you know, that close person in your life like, Have a
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  few close people in my life and I will go to them for their
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  opinions on things. Doesn't mean I'll take them, but
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  I trust them and I'll go to them.
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  And I'll say, okay, what are your thoughts on this?
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  And, you know, my husband being one of them and sometimes he'll
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  say to me, you know, I don't know how that would go.
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  Or I'm not sure about that or he'll give me his opinion,
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  doesn't mean I have to take. It just means that I've checked
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  in. I've gotten some information
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  again, but I don't have to hold on to it.
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  I don't have I've to keep it. So the lesson today, all about
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  accepting yourself for who you are, where you are and giving
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  yourself the freedom that the, the just the peace of mind that
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  I don't care what other people think.
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  And I am no longer going to be a prisoner of anyone is just
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  absolutely freeing. So hopefully today, this is
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  going to be helpful to you and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a great day guys. Bye.
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  I've to keep it. So the lesson today, all about
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  accepting yourself for who you are, where you are and giving
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  yourself the freedom that the, the just the peace of mind that
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  I don't care what other people think.
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  And I am no longer going to be a prisoner of anyone is just
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  absolutely freeing. So hopefully today, this is
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  going to be helpful to you and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a great day guys. Bye.