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Your Life Is Not an Accident (S5) S25:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone, and welcome to Inspirations
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for Your Life.
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I'm so glad that you decided to join
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We have another great show for you.
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It is Saturday.
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It is June 13, 2026, and that means
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that we have a brand new master topic,
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which I'll get to here in just a
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excited to know what is this master topic.
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Well, it's another great one, and that master
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topic for this entire week, which we start
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off on Saturday and we end off on
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Friday, as you know, we do this now,
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it is Answering the Call.
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It is series five, show 25.
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Today is episode one, incidentally.
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So let's kick this show off.
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I can't wait to share this with you.
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Welcome everyone to Inspirations for Your Life, the
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daily motivational show.
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Who am I?
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Great question to ask, and I'm happy to
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tell you, I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, passionate lifelong learner, a graduate student
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at Montclair State University, and I'm so grateful
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to now be a published author.
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Yes.
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Today's episode is part of our weekly theme,
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as I said, Answering the Call.
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And this one is called, quote unquote, You
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Were Not Meant for Average, How to Treat
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Your Life Like It Actually Matters.
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I'm going to give you 30 direct reminders
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that your life is not random, folks.
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Your time is not disposable, and you were
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never meant to just get by, as I
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like to say.
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After each line, I'm going to give you
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basically a sentence to drive it even deeper.
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So let's dive in, all right?
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Here are the 30 points.
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The first one, number one, most people aren't
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stuck.
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Because they lack talent.
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They're stuck because they forgot their life has
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a mission.
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And when you, ladies and gentlemen, when you
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remember, okay, your life has a mission, your
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choices stop being random, and they start becoming
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intentional.
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Think about that for a minute.
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Number two, you are not background character energy.
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Act like you are the main character, okay?
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In your own life, because you are.
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The moment you step into main character energy,
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you stop waiting for scenes and start creating
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them before they even appear.
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Number three, please stop asking if you are
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worthy of big dreams.
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Ask if you're willing to grow into them.
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You see, the real question isn't this.
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Do I deserve this?
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Everyone always asks that question.
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But am I willing to become the person
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this future requires?
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Different question, right?
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Number four, average is a setting on a
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washing machine.
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It's not your destiny.
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Average only becomes your identity if you keep
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acting like it's all you're allowed to have.
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And a lot of people get stuck in
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that trap.
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They don't know what they're supposed to do.
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All they know is that they can't do
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anything because of something that's going on in
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their life.
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And I think that's a problem for, I'm
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going to say, a lot of people.
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They don't necessarily understand what that means and
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why that's happening.
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They just have no idea.
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So they just put themselves into procrastination mode
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to basically doing nothing and hoping.
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Hoping doesn't get anywhere.
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Number five, your time is your life in
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disguise.
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Spend it like it actually matters.
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Every hour you give away to nonsense is
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an hour your future self never gets back.
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Number six, the version of you settling for
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less is not the final draft.
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You can decide today that this chapter is
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a rewrite, not the end of the book.
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Too many people think, oh, well, this happened,
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that happened, and my life's over.
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No.
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Number seven, guys, when you treat your life
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like it's sacred, your standards, well, they level
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up.
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You naturally stop accepting what drains you and
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start choosing what aligns with you and, of
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course, your core values.
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I think a lot of people do this
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first and they don't know what their core
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values are.
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So I want to tell you right now,
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if you don't know what your core values
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are, I invite you to figure that out
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first because you can't go anywhere without knowing
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your core values.
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That is like hands down.
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Number eight, you are allowed to stop living
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on autopilot and start living on assignment.
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The moment you stop drifting and start asking,
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what am I here to do today?
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Everything sharpens.
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It's like all your energy gets diverted into
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a different place, a different place.
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I think that's important to think about, a
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different place, a place that I feel can
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make tremendous difference for you, can make tremendous
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difference for you.
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But it has to first mean something, right?
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It has to first mean something.
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That's a big key.
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Number nine, guys, being chosen is not magic.
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It's choosing yourself daily.
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Most overnight success stories started with years of
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unseen self-selection and drudgery and challenges.
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People only see the final outcome, but they
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don't see what you are going through all
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those hours, all those days, months, and years.
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Number 10, your purpose will never feel safe
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enough to fit inside everyone else's expectations.
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If your purpose never makes anyone uncomfortable, guess
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what?
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It's probably still thinking and playing too small.
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A lot of people think that when somebody
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else knocks us down, that that's probably not
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something we're entitled to having.
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No, those people are petrified by the fact
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that you're becoming something.
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Maybe they're sitting on the bench their whole
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life, and they don't want to be you
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get ahead.
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That's sad, but it is the truth, guys.
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Number 11, the moment you decide, my life
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is not random anymore.
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That's the moment things start to shift.
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That's decision time.
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And it flips your default from whatever happens
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to, I am responsible for who and how
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I show up, not I'll just get whatever
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I get.
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I think that's an important thing that many
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people don't understand.
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They don't understand that.
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And I want to tell you that you
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can make a difference in your life, but
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you have to first believe in it.
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If you don't believe in yourself, even if
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the opportunities unfold, you're going to sabotage them
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before they even manifest.
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Number 12, stop, stop, stop waiting for a
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sign.
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You woke up today.
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Be grateful to be alive.
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That's the sign.
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If you're still breathing, life has not finished
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making use of you yet, okay?
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You've got to figure out what you can
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do with your life.
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First thing I do in the morning, I'm
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so grateful to be alive.
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So grateful to be alive.
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Number 13, every time you lower your standards,
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and people do, you teach your future self
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to expect less from you.
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Your future is built on the minimums.
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You're willing to enforce today.
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And a lot of people, I think, get
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stuck in that whole conundrum, right?
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I think that's an important thing to understand,
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is that when you program yourself that way,
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you're never going to look for anything better.
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You're never going to expect anything better because
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you don't deserve anything better.
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That's what you believe.
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That's what you believe.
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You got to change that.
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Number 14, your calling is often hiding behind
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the things you're scared to admit you want.
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That's truth, guys.
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The desire you keep downplaying might be the
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most honest thing about you.
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And I said, we got to practice getting
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comfortable, ladies and gentlemen, being uncomfortable.
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Let me say that again.
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We got to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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We have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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That is the key, guys, okay?
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That is the key.
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying, that can't be right.
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And maybe you're going to say, well, you
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know, I'll do it later.
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I'll do it another time.
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Maybe I'll do it another time.
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Maybe, right?
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But then do you do it another time?
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Or do you just kind of wait?
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That's the question I want to ask all
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of you.
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Do you do it another time?
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Or do you just wait?
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Most of you wait, then you lose the
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energy or the enthusiasm to even do anything.
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And I think that's a problem with a
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lot of people is that they have so
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much energy bottled up that they could use.
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But because somebody, let's say, says the wrong
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thing to them or discourages them with a
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bad comment, they feel they're not worthy to
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pursue their dreams.
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And ladies and gentlemen, that is the saddest
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thing when I hear that somebody doesn't want
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to go after their dreams because someone else,
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let's say less educated, tells them that they
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can't do that.
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Who is someone else?
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How dare them to tell you that you
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can't do something?
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This is your life, not their life, all
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right?
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And I think the sooner we learn that,
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the sooner we can appreciate our lives, the
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sooner we can appreciate that we can grow
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more each day.
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Like I said, we had to practice being
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uncomfortable.
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If we can do that, then I feel
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our life will take off.
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It will take off because we have the
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potential to do it.
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And that trust, that confidence in ourselves builds
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more and more each day because of the
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dopamine.
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And it becomes this process that compounds our
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energy and the confidence that we started with.
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It was nothing.
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Number 15, you are not just here to
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consume content.
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Nope, you're here to create, to impact, to
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love.
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At some point, scrolling has to stop and
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contribution has to start.
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I'm not saying I can't follow and listen
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to content, but it's important that you understand.
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You have to understand.
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And the more you understand, I think the
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more that you can change life.
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But a lot of people don't change life
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because of what somebody said.
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Why?
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And that why is a question some people
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go their entire lives with, and they never
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have an answer.
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And here's why.
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They believe that somebody else's judgment or comment
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about them is right.
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Even somebody they just met a minute ago,
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they'll believe them more than they believe themselves.
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There's a problem with that, folks.
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You are the only ones in your life
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that have the right to make yourself feel
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inferior.
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No one else has that right.
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You don't deserve to give that right to
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anybody else.
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Number 16, if your life feels small right
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now, check your vision, not your value.
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Feeling cramped is often a sign your picture
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of what's possible hasn't caught up with who
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you are inside.
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People get discouraged because they're not where they
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want to be.
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That doesn't mean give up, guys.
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That means think about who you are and
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what's going on.
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Think about who you are and what is
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going on.
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If you think about who you are and
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what's going on, you're going to realize that
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there's a lot of potential in your life.
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There's a lot of potential in your life.
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But you can't even explore any of that
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if your belief level is at a zero.
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I'm just being honest.
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Number 17, your potential doesn't disappear just because
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you've been ignoring it.
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It waits quietly in the background until you
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finally say, okay, I'm ready to use this
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now.
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But it won't dare call you out to
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the field until you are ready.
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Until you are ready.
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That's an important thing to understand.
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You must be ready.
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You must be ready.
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When you're ready, you can grow.
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Not before that.
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When you're ready, you can grow.
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I think that's an important thing to us
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to pay attention to, to realize.
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But it comes from you.
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Number 18, a life that matters is built
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upon not delivered.
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It starts laying bricks today.
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You don't stumble into a meaningful life.
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Whoops, oh, I just fell into something great.
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No, you assemble it.
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Block by block, piece by piece.
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One deliberate decision at a time.
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Putting one deliberate foot in front of the
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other, taking deliberate steps.
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Consistently, all right?
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Every single day, consistently with structure.
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Number 19, accountability is not control.
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It's a compliment to your potential.
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The people who hold you to a higher
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standard are the ones who believe you have
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more in you than you're currently using.
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I mean, that's the most important thing.
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People that know that you have potential will
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cheer you on.
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But there are going to be some people
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that are going to try to hold you
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back.
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It's your life.
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Number 20, guys.
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The things that break your heart might be
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the exact places you're meant to build.
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What you can't stand to see stay the
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same is usually where your work will have
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the most power.
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Most people don't want to do something they
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feel they can't change, but that might be
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exactly where they need to put their energy.
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All right?
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I'm not saying it's going to be easy.
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We have to practice getting comfortable, ladies and
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gentlemen, being uncomfortable.
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That's a key.
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Ladies and gentlemen, you are all not too
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late.
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You're not too late.
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You're just finally starting to pay attention.
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The only story that truly happens, that really
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begins, is the moment you decide inside you're
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done sleepwalking through it.
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You're done accepting what life has to throw
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you.
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From this point on, you know what you
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want and you're ready to go get it.
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If that ship does not come into the
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harbor, then you go swim out and get
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it.
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Don't wait for the iron to get hot.
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Strike the iron to get it hot.
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Number 22, guys.
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I want everyone here to start treating your
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name like a signature, not a scribble.
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Attach it to work you're proud of.
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Everything you do, sign your name somewhere.
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So make sure it reads like something you
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respect.
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Your signature might not be great.
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Mine was at the beginning.
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But the more you do it, the more
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you'll develop a penmanship that's pretty amazing.
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Number 23, guys.
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We're talking about comfort again.
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Your comfort zone, unfortunately, can't hold your calling.
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I know you want to sit with that
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warm blanket or that nice air-conditioned room
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or that comfy chair, okay?
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Your comfort can't hold it.
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Something has to give either your comfort stretches
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or your calling shrinks to fit inside it.
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Now, since we're trying to grow here, we
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don't want to shrink our calling or our
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desires or our goals.
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No, no, no.
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As I said before, when you're sharing them
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and it doesn't bother anybody, it probably means
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they're not big enough.
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Number 24, guys.
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Living with purpose isn't louder.
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Now, some people may not even know you're
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here.
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It just becomes clearer.
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Purpose doesn't always shout over a megaphone.
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But it does make your yes and your
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no very specific.
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And that, I feel, ladies and gentlemen, will
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get people to recognize you because your no
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will be different.
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Your yes will be different.
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There will be no quandary over whether you
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mean yes or no.
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That's important.
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Very important.
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I think a lot of people today want
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to drive forward.
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But you know what happens?
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They get tired.
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They don't know what to do.
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And they feel that because they're so frustrated,
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they can just, well, give up.
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They can just give up.
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I feel that's a very bad thing.
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Because when you give up, you're no longer
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pursuing your goals.
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It's okay to pause.
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It's okay to break.
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But don't you dare give up.
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Number 25, guys.
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This one I want you to pay very
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particular attention to.
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You do not need everyone's approval to live
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a life you're proud of.
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You don't need everyone's approval to live a
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life you're proud of.
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You don't need everyone's approval to live a
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life you're proud of.
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Approval feels good.
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However, respect for yourself will carry you much
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further than any approval you could ever get
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from anyone.
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Respect means more than approval.
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Number 26, guys.
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The longer you go on in life and
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pretend you don't care, the heavier your real
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desires become and feel.
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And ignoring what you truly want doesn't just
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make it go away.
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You can't just shove it under a carpet.
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It just turns into restlessness and resentment the
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more you try.
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And you just keep asking, when is this
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going to be over?
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When can I stop this?
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My question is, when you start living life.
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When you start living life.
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But you may not be ready to live
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life yet.
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Maybe you just want to sit around and
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let other people tell you that you can't
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do things.
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When is it going to be enough that
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you're going to respond?
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What's going to be the tipping point?
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I can't tell you.
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That's to be you.
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That's to figure that out.
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Number 27, guys.
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Your gifts are not accidents.
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They're assignments.
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Use them.
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The things you do well with ease are
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not random.
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They're clues to where you're meant to contribute.
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Number 28.
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You're allowed to demand more from your life
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than it's fine.
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It's fine is a phrase we hear all
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the time.
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People use it when they've decided to tolerate
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what secretly hurts them.
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And just go on and pretend like they
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don't care.
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But it really digs at them inside.
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Number 29.
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Imagine if you treated your goals like non
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-negotiable appointments.
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If you showed up for your dreams the
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way you show up for everyone else's demands,
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your life would not look the same in
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a year.
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Heck, it wouldn't look the same in a
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month.
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Number 30.
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You're not waiting on destiny, guys.
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Destiny is waiting on your decision.
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Life can't move into the next chapter until
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you decide you're done re-reading the old
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ones and acting them out.
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If even one of these lines or ideas
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resonated with you or hit you in some
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way or made you feel different, don't brush
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it off.
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This is your life tapping on the shoulder
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and saying, hey, I'm still here.
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Don't waste me.
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You were not meant for average.
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That's a washing machine.
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You are not put here just to grind
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through the week and call that a life.
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Your time, your story, and your gifts are
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meant to matter now.
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If this helped you, please send it to
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someone else who needs this reminder.
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And check out believemeachieve.com for more of
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my amazing, inspiring creations.
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We'll see you real soon, everyone.