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how to nurture your inner child · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  One of the best things I've ever done for my mental health is
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  embracing my inner child not taking anything too.
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  Seriously and allowing myself to Simply let go and have fun.
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  So, let's talk about how to do that and why it's beneficial to
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  our mental health. Hey there, and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel your feelings with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a podcast.
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  I started all about mental health, and mental health
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  awareness. I'm not a doctor, a psychiatrist
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  or a professional in the mental health industry.
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  Whatsoever. I'm just a normal guy who has
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  felt some big feelings and wants to start the conversation on
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  mental health. So thank you so much for being
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  here. And as always, let's feel some
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  feelings. Now, I've spent a fair amount of
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  time, struggling with depression, anxiety, and other
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  mental health issues. It's very difficult.
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  In one thing that mental illness, makes you do, is it
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  make you take everything really, really seriously, and it forces
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  you to grow up, it forces you to become independent and figure
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  things out. For example, when I started
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  struggling with depression, I realized it was up to me to deal
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  with this depression. Yes, other people can help and
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  it's important to reach out to Are people in lean on them but
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  ultimately it comes down to you and that is a heavy burden to
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  wear and it really, really wore me down for a few years.
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  And I found myself getting way too, serious.
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  I mean, friends would come to me asking if I wanted to do fun
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  things and I'd shut them down. I wouldn't let myself get silly.
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  I found myself getting annoyed at people who were simply having
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  fun. I mean, it was awful.
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  I was so grouchy and grumpy, I would see people out in public,
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  like laughing. Being and having fun and sure
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  being slightly obnoxious, but just letting their inner child
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  shine and I would get so annoyed mental illness.
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  Just wears you down and it tries to make you so serious.
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  And so hardened to the world, of course you are struggling.
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  You're hurting, of course, you are going to feel less friendly
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  towards other people. And of course, you're not going
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  to want to simply be silly and have fun.
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  But one thing that I've been practicing Very recent, I only
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  just started doing it is really embracing my inner child over
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  the past six months I have been fully embracing my inner child
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  as much as possible and it has done wonders for my mental
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  health. So that is exactly what I want
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  to talk about today because I think embracing our inner child
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  can benefit everybody. Whether it's with your mental
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  health or overall with how much you enjoy life.
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  Let me give you an example of how I've been embracing my inner
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  child. Old about a week ago.
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  It stormed really, really bad where I live.
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  I'm talking, it was hailing, it was, there was lightning and
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  everything after the storm ended.
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  I went outside and I saw that there was hail all over the
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  ground, they're like, big pieces of hail and I spent the next
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  like 20 minutes, just renting around trying to find the
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  biggest piece of hail that I could.
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  And I was like, I was literally skipping between pieces of hail
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  and then I looked up and there was a rainbow and I audibly
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  went, wow, a rainbow and I just kept running around I mean, I'm
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  I turned 21 and a few days and I was literally skipping through
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  this field, like giggling to myself picking up pieces of hail
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  and it sounds ridiculous. And so many people, I think my
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  age would make fun of me for that, but it felt amazing.
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  I mean, I felt this weight lifted off of me in that moment.
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  I felt so truly happy and so joyful.
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  So let's talk about the inner child.
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  Let's talk about how we can erase the inner child and let's
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  talk about how it can benefit your mental health.
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  So first, let's talk about the benefits of embracing your inner
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  child. I'm going to start with my own
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  experience and then talk about some of the actual science and
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  what psychologists and mental health professionals have to say
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  on the matter. So I have seen a big impact just
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  from my day-to-day quality of life previously, I was, I was
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  really serious all the time and I woke up every morning with
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  this kind of heavy feeling over me, but by embracing this like
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  childlike wonder and treating everything.
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  Kind of like a game and like, it's like it's fun and allowing
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  myself to just make myself look like an idiot sometimes by, you
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  know, dancing in public and singing off key and all this
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  different stuff. It just makes life way more.
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  Bearable, it's one of those things.
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  You gotta dry it to really understand it.
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  Yes, at times, it can, it can be embarrassing and I find people
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  staring at me or giving me weird looks, but I just feel so good
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  allowing myself to let go and embrace that inner child.
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  And it brings me back to that sense of childhood, freedom, and
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  weightlessness, and just Joyce over the smallest things.
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  I go outside, and I hear the birds chirping and I think, wow,
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  I'm so glad these birds are here and I get to to hear this in
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  witness this and I'm alive today.
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  What a beautiful thing. It's so silly and it's so
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  simplistic and it doesn't make a lot of sense but it works.
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  It makes me feel so good. So let's turn that.
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  Will science and see what's in professionals?
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  Have to say on the matter, Jackie Tas yellow.
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  A license board certified. Art therapist talks about
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  embracing our inner child and how it can help us.
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  She states that embracing our inner child creates space for
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  our feelings, thoughts and behaviors which creates new
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  self-awareness. We learn how our inner child is
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  still active in showing up in our adult life.
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  Using this knowledge. We can start to integrate what
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  our inner child truly needs. And work towards healing.
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  It we are all just a grownup version of our childlike selves.
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  If we have experienced pain or trauma in childhood, it is
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  important and necessary to work towards healing that inner child
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  and you can't heal without awareness.
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  You can't heal without space and embracing that inner child opens
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  up space to feel those big feelings and try to heal the
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  inner child test yellow continues in States.
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  Our inner child often wants us to keep Difficult emotions.
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  Shame, guilt anger, worry hidden and have us reenact the same old
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  patterns in an effort to keep us safe, but this can negatively
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  impact our mental health over time.
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  You see, when we are children and we experienced difficult
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  situations. We often cope.
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  However, we can. And sometimes that means,
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  engaging in unhealthy patterns and unhealthy behaviors and that
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  can spill over into our adult lives.
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  So, if there is unprocessed As demotions if there are
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  unprocessed traumas, shame guilt anger sadness hidden from our
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  childhood allowing our inner child to come out and allowing
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  it space to feel and have fun. And relearn Andre parent is
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  incredibly important in healing that trauma healing that inner
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  child can benefit us in our adult lives as we grow.
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  And we learn, and we understand more about ourselves test yellow
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  finishes off by saying by doing the work of embracing our Child.
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  We also find what we love, what brings us, joy, and happiness,
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  and engage more authentically with our lives.
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  I have found this to be so true, as I have engaged.
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  With my inner child allowed myself to be silly, allowed
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  myself to have fun to run around.
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  After a hail storm, giggling to myself.
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  It has made me understand how much life there is to enjoy.
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  It makes me realize what I love. It makes me realize that I love
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  talking about these feelings. Things that I love sharing them
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  with you that I love to stand outside and feel the Sun and
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  touch the grass. It makes me realize there is so
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  much Beauty out there and I desperately want my inner child
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  to experience all of it. And you should too healing and
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  protecting and nourishing, our inner child is incredibly
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  beneficial, it can help us so much to become more mature
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  people to understand our It's in needs in life and to heal past
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  traumas and hurts. So how exactly can we bring our
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  inner child out? How can we nurture this part of
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  us? How can we help heal and, and
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  have fun and be silly and embrace.
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  That childlike Wonder to improve our mental health and improve
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  our life. One thing is to Simply have fun.
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  Make time to play and engage in fun activities.
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  So often we think of playing as something that only children
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  should do, but I think that adults should be able to play
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  and run around and engage in silly and fun things.
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  Just as much as children go ride a bike skip around, listen to
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  music and dance in public, finger paint, explore the
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  outdoors, do whatever you can to have fun and nourish that inner
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  child. Another thing you could do is
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  revisit your childhood interests.
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  The things that you enjoyed try to reconnect to.
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  That sense of wonder that you once felt it.
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  Be rinsing new things. As a child, you can be
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  spontaneous live in the moment children aren't worried about
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  the future or stuck in the past. They often live in the present,
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  they go Moment by moment enjoying, what is in front of
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  them? And that is something that we
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  can all learn from and that is something that we can, all
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  nourish. I have seen so many benefits.
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  Engaging with my inner child, allowing it to come out and
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  allowing myself to heal, and relearn and engage in new
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  patterns. It is helps so much.
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  It has helped me. We take life less seriously have
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  more fun and it has benefited my mental health so much.
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  I strongly encourage you to seek out your inner child.
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  I strongly encourage you to let go of the seriousness of life
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  and allow yourself to have fun, and be silly and look like an
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  idiot in public and allow your inner child to grow.
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  Give them room to feel big feelings.
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  I know it may sound ridiculous. I know it may be a foreign
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  concept. It will help your mental health
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  tremendously. I am very confident about that
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  it has done. So for me and it could do.
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  So for you, you deserve that space to heal your inner child,
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  you deserve to have fun, you deserve to be spontaneous, you
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  deserve to heal. That's going to wrap it up for
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  today's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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  If you need help feeling these big feelings.
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  Go check out my music on all platforms, under the name of
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  Ethan Jewel and I almost guarantee.
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  It'll make you cry. Also shoot me a message on my
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  Instagram at Jewel, boy underscore.
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  And let me know what you thought about today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  Thank you for understanding that we all could learn something
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  from our inner child. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.
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  I'm