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Why do people support the narcissist no matter what they do · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be answering the question, why do
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  people consistently support the narcissist regardless of what
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  they do, regardless of what they've been accused of or
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  regardless of what evidence they have presented in front of them?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Coat. So boom, welcome back folks,
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  welcome back, welcome back. Yes, I'm still on vacation, but
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  I got a new background. So let's get it.
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  I bought my back. I bought my background with me.
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  I ain't know if it was going to if it's going to pop out and
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  make this trip, but I mean pop out and make an appearance, but
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  it did. So it's covering up the old, the
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  old wallpaper in here in this room.
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  But yes y'all, what the hell? Why the hell do people
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  consistently, no matter what they do?
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  Why the hell are people consistently supporting this
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  toxic narcissistic bass? Why?
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  Why do they consistently do it? Y'all like why are the the
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  operative term is flying monkeys, right?
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  But I like to call them blind supporters or, you know, they
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  just support the narcissist no matter what.
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  Why the hell do people who even know, like some people don't
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  know and support the narcissist, right?
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  Or some people just don't believe you, right?
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  But there are people who see what's going on, who know it,
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  who see it, who witnessed it, but they still stay in the
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  narcissist corner. Why do they do this?
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  Why? Like, why the hell do they do
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  this? Like I said, like I said before,
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  there are a few different reasons.
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  So the first reason is they don't believe me.
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  I mean, they they see it happening, but they blame you
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  for it. It's somehow your fault.
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  They don't care if the narcissist then snapped off and
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  just busted your lip wide over, busted your lip, cracked your
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  nose, swirl your eyes, swirl both of your eyes shut, put a
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  obliquy to your Dome and threaten to take your life.
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  They will blame somehow find a way that it was just your fault.
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  Y'all could be having a good night and that narcissist is
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  getting started welling off on you, hitting you, beating you up
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  in front of everybody. You be like what the hell
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  doesn't happen? You mean what the hell going on?
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  What what what I do? You don't even know what you
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  did. They didn't beat you up and hurt
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  you lied to you. They look it's not even just a
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  physical abuse type stuff. They can see this narcissist
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  cheating on you. They can see them cheating on
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  you out in public and somehow it would still be your fault man.
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  You know what I'm cheating on her bro.
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  Like she ain't getting to me at home, I ain't getting it at
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  home. The truth of the matter is y'all
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  sleep together 7 * 819 times a week.
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  He, your partner wanted to hit us an even 20 man.
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  She left me on an odd number bro.
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  You know I like even numbers. I like to even out the cheeks
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  that I get. I like, I don't like odd, an odd
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  number of cheeks, an odd number of buns.
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  I need even buds. I like, I need 2 even buds.
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  Let me stop, Let me stop. But that's the mindset that some
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  narcissists will go into, y'all. They will consistently blame you
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  for this, for what they have going on.
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  Like they'll put it on to you like the other person, the blind
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  supporter, the flying monkey bat.
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  They just believe. They just believe it's your
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  fault. You see what I'm saying?
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  They really do believe it's your fault.
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  So they put it on to you. You know what I mean?
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  That's what happens. That's what this really does.
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  What happens another reason why y'all some some some people are
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  just both sides. They like the both sides of the
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  situation. They just like hey, I I don't
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  want to get in between y'all two.
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  I saw what happened. I see what's going on, but I am
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  like an innocent. I'm I'm I'm just I'm not
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  conflicted. What's the the country of Switz,
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  I'm Switzerland, I'm neutral. No matter who go to war AI see
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  both sides. I see why you I see, I see why
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  you shoot nukes and I see why you shoot nukes.
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  Just don't nuke me. You know, I'm friends with both
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  of y'all. You know, I'm, I've been, we, I
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  grew up with both of y'all. I introduce look, I introduce
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  y'all. I'm the reason y'all together is
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  because of me. So I kind of take blame for the
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  look bit, but I'm just both sides in it.
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  Hey, I see your perspective and hey, I see your perspective.
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  I see both y'all's perspectives, perspectives, perspectives,
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  perspectives. What to say?
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  I see both of y'all perspectives.
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  I'm just I don't, I don't want to get between y'all.
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  I don't want, I don't want no drama.
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  Don't bring no drama to me. So you do get the person, the
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  blind supporter, the flying monkey back.
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  They're just both sides things, but they really, they both sides
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  things, but they really don't, you know, they, they don't care.
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  Some of them just don't care. You know, they both sides it,
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  but some of them at the end of the day, they really just don't
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  care what's happening to you. You know, they really, really
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  don't. And the next reason y'all that
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  people will blindly support the narcissist.
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  How do I say this? They get a benefit from it.
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  There are benefits directly attached to supporting that
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  narcissist still toxic person like they get like it's it's
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  more beneficial to keep the narcissist in their life than it
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  is to out them and support the the the abuse victim or victims.
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  It benefits me to keep you around because maybe you'll.
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  But if this is the job situation, if this happened at
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  work with a narcissist is the boss and they go around
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  harassing people and firing people.
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  Like if I'm known a boss inside like this job, this company gave
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  me everything. And maybe if I support the boss
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  or I pretend like I didn't see nothing, guess what?
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  I might get a promotion. Everybody else get fired.
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  I might get a promotion because I'm loyal.
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  There's a benefit to keeping that narcissist in their life,
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  so they keep them in their life. There's a direct benefit for me
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  to have like for that, for that person to have that narcissistic
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  person around. There's a benefit from it.
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  Like I said, I used a job, I used the the job example, but
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  like I said, that's the easy example to talk about in the
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  workplace. Another example is like said
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  when y'all, the narcissist has money, like the narcissist or
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  the tax person has money, they pay for everything, so you don't
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  pay for nothing. So if I cut this person out, if
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  I out them, if I expose them or have a word with them, then I
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  ain't need to go out for free no more.
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  We ain't we popping bottles no more.
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  We're not even popping. We're not popping nothing.
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  There's nothing to pop anymore. There's no popping.
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  There's nothing. So I'm mad as hell now.
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  So you see what I'm saying? There's a benefit to keeping
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  this person around because they got money.
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  They pay for everything they like.
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  They're, you know, there's the other benefits, like they're fun
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  to be around. Yeah.
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  I had a very, very, I used to have a very, very malignant
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  narcissistic friend. And I know how to sound.
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  I don't know how this is going to sound.
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  I had a very malignant friend and most people hated this dude.
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  I'm being real. You have a malignant overt
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  narcissist, right? You have a malignant overt
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  narcissist in your life. Most people either really like
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  this person or they really cannot stand their ass.
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  Like most people really like this person or they cannot stand
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  their ass. And the people who really like
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  this person or don't have an opinion on this person get a
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  benefit from it. Man, I hate this.
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  I hate his ass like man, he cool.
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  I really, really cool, man cool me because it's fun to have this
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  person around their life at the party.
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  They get the girls over. They just so loud and they so
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  loud and obnoxious that there's a benefit for me to be around.
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  If I'm cool, calm and collected and this person is an asshole
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  and loud, obnoxious. I even it out so I can get I can
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  get girls off of this person just because they're loud and
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  obnoxious and I'm the quieter version of that.
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  You know what I'm saying? Well, I have the same go.
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  I can use this person as a tool of my manipulation, right?
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  I can I can use this person as a tool of my manipulation.
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  So there's a benefit to for me to have this person in my life.
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  You see what I'm saying? Because that's going to be one
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  another reason I'm touching right here.
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  What's this reason before right here is that the other person,
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  the blind supporter, the person who is can see no evil, hear no
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  evil. The person who's going to
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  support the narcissist no matter what they do to you, no matter
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  what evidence that that's in front of that is presented in
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  front of them. Of course, the fourth reason and
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  my mom went blank out my mind legit with like, OK, the fourth
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  reason is this could be that parent, right?
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  This could be the parent of the narcissist and parents could be
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  the worst of enablers. The parent of a narcissist or
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  toxic person can be the absolute worst enabler on this planet.
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  They just absolutely can the worst enabler on the damn
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  planet. Like they're so ashamed.
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  There's a lot of shame associated with having this
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  person around, right? There's a lot of shame
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  associated with this being your child.
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  So you don't want anybody to know?
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  Hell no, nobody know. This is my I don't want, I don't
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  want to put this out here. My kid be this is super toxic.
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  In fact, there's something going on on Facebook right now.
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  In my real life. I saw a dude I grew up with.
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  I really grow up with he younger than me, his girlfriend or wife
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  or whatever posted a picture of her bruised up face and the
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  dude's Mama is like don't, don't.
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  You don't have to listen to people like well, what the hell
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  happened? Why you do that today woman?
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  His Mama like y'all haters don't know the real story.
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  And duh, duh, duh. Don't respond to that.
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  Like it's enabling behavior, no accountability, no nothing.
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  You see what I'm saying? It's crazy.
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  It's wow. How did it be happening?
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  Like the parents can be the worst of a neighbors.
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  The parents can be horrible, horrible ass people.
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  They absolutely can. A narcissist's parent could be
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  one of some of the worst people on this planet.
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  They just don't want Oh my baby didn't do nothing.
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  My son is not an abusive person. They all need to talk to her.
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  She's a horrible person. My daughter is the best person
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  in the world. If she did cheat on him or file,
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  you know, fault File file file a false report on this person,
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  then something must have happened.
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  He must have did it first, she must have did it first blah blah
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  blah Boo Boo BB. They they, they like, no matter
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  what they do, the narcissist parents or their family are
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  going to be neighblers for them. Not all the time.
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  So now they have actually have decent family members that that,
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  you know, try to hold them accountable.
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  But some people will never try to hold them accountable because
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  they fear getting cut off. They will cut me off if I hold
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  them accountable, they're going to cut me off.
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  Or they just ashamed of their kids and they don't want to
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  admit to the truth that their kids are horrible people, which
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  happens. This happens too.
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  This is part of dealing with a narcissist.
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  It's part of dealing with a coxa person.
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  Like people don't want to actually admit what the hell
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  going on. So this is a part of it.
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  This is a piece of it. This people have to understand
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  you know? And the last reason y'all I will
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  go over which is possibly the reason, which is possibly reason
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  than before but I forgot it just came up with a parent on top of
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  my head. I thought about the parent.
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  But the last reason why people just consistently support the
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  narcissist other than they just think you're a liar, is that
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  they are also narcissist themselves.
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  Narcissist will completely blindly support other narcissist
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  because they see themselves in the narcissist.
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  They justify they they justify the narcissist behavior.
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  There's always trying to find a reason to justify and validate
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  the narcissist that's being abusive because they themselves
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  are also abusive. You see, narcissists sometimes
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  support other narcissists. Sometimes narcissists be friends
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  with each other. You know, there's a lot of
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  narcissism and in politics and stuff like that.
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  They befriend each other. Political narcissism, political
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  narcissism, political political, toxic relationships, or an
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  actual or an actual thing. Y'all, It's real.
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  So people who blindly support narcissists and no matter what
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  don't turn on them could also be narcissists themselves.
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  So it could absolutely be true in those circumstances, in those
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  situations that happens so much like the narcissist could be
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  blindly supporting another narcissist and this could apply
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  for the parents to the parents could also be narcissists.
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  You just said the boss could be a narcissist.
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  You know, situations narcissists been narcissists tried to
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  benefit other narcissists. A lot of narcissistic people had
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  these weird like symbiotic relationships where's a lot of
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  toxicity going around and things of that nature.
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  So this what happens. I was like a lot of people keep
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  blindly supporting the narcissist no matter what.
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  I hope these five reasons brought you some clarity.
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  Hope they bought you some peace of your life.
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