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Field Notes: What Do H.A.R.D. Things Actually Means - A Framework to Dominate Life · Do Hard Things™ with Siegfried Tiegs

• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: All right.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Do Hard Things podcast.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: This is a Field Notes episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, most people I talk to are doing fine in one area of their life, or maybe multiple areas of their life.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: I think most people are doing pretty good in most areas of their life, but there might be one area where there might just be getting crushed or maybe struggling a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, the guy who's killing it at work and highly successful hasn't been to the gym in two years.
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  SPEAKER_00: The woman who's in the best shape of her life is drowning in credit card debt.
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  SPEAKER_00: The couple with a nice house, they haven't had a real conversation in months.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's just a life arena that could be dragging down.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I wrote the book Life on Offense, came up with the uh do hard things framework.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one to go through today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what does the H A R D mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does the phrase do hard things mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, do means taking action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hard is the four life arenas of your life: health and wellness, affluence and wealth, relationships and development.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll break those down a little bit further.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the things, the things are the things that matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you focused on the things that matter?
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  SPEAKER_00: The 20%, we're thinking Pareto principle here, 20% of the things that really make a difference in your life, because 80% is doesn't, it's pretty irrelevant or it's busy work.
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  SPEAKER_00: So do take action in alignment with the four main life arenas: health and wellness, affluence and wealth, relationships, development, and focusing on the things that matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we're kicking off the daily hard questions, H A R D in the Do Hard Things Nation Facebook page.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're not involved in that, go in the show notes, click on that, get connected in the Do Hard Things Facebook page.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every day for the next 365 days, there's gonna be a journal prompt to give yourself a level of awareness in these various life arenas of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of them will make you think, some might make you uncomfortable, some might just help you get to know someone else in the uh community, a like-minded individual.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ideally, hopefully, some of them spark some level of a change that will improve your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the reason we're doing this is look, because most people are living in reaction, they're living in defense, they are living in the comfort zone, they're just simply trying to get by, trying to make ends meet, and they're not paying close attention, and we're trying to give some level of awareness on these things in your life that are important.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, there's there's many people that have lived their life, they live the same year over and over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: They've got responsibilities, they've got things they've got to do, and they just simply get, they just they just kind of get in this, I call it looping, where they're living the same year over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then finally, they wake up one day and like, man, how did I how did I get here?
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  SPEAKER_00: And a good question will stop you in your tracks to to maybe make some adjustments in uh in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the army, we would do an after-action review after every mission, and it was comprised of four things.
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  SPEAKER_00: What was supposed to happen, what actually happened, and why, and then how do we do different uh how do we do things differently next time?
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  SPEAKER_00: Both pluses and minuses, like what went well, what didn't go so well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every time, four questions every time.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how units get better.
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  SPEAKER_00: But many people don't do that with their own life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we're gonna do it together with a daily question.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's break down what the the hard framework is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hard is the four arenas of your life health, affluence, relationships, development.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do is taking action, things or the things that matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want a life that is peaceful, powerful, and productive, then these are the four areas, four arenas that you've got to show up with deliberately every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you neglect one of them, it can ultimately drag the other areas down with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's talk about health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Health and wellness.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I personally think of health and wellness, I think of energy management.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think of chronological age, and I also think so health span and lifespan.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life span is your chronological age.
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  SPEAKER_00: The health span is the quality of your energy in that age.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, in the time of this recording, I am 48 years old.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am different than I was 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as I have gotten older chronologically, you know, my life is different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like things are not operating the same as they used to.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I am trying to make the most and have the highest level of energy possible as long as I possibly can.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hence health span.
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  SPEAKER_00: And being healthy means managing your system.
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  SPEAKER_00: I truly feel in my soul that we are a spirit having a human experience and this human body that God has given us that is an amazing thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like my heart beats, I don't have to think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can breathe naturally, I don't have to think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I can grab things, I have opposable thumb, thumbs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Humans are the ultimate endurance animal.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is like the this is the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what we have to navigate this life.
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  SPEAKER_00: It enables me to do things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want it to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want this, I want this body to be like that, that, that Toyota Corolla that's got the million miles and just keeps ticking.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is what I want for this thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so uh Jim Rohn says, you've got to take care of your body because it's the only place you have to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is absolutely true.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is it, this is what you get.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything, everything runs on this.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're tired, overweight, stressed out, running on caffeine, well, that's gonna impact how you show up in this world.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be difficult to be a great leader, a great spouse, great parents if you're a tired one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I think about energy management.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think there are four energy centers.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have your physical energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your movement, your nutrition, your sleep, your stress management, hydration, all of the physical things.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the quantity of your energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next level, it directly impacts your emotional energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Isn't it true that when you are tired, that your emotional vibrancy is much lower?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if I don't get a good night's sleep, it directly impacts my mood the next day.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I have high levels of emotion, I tend to have a lot of energy with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your emotional energy is the quality of your energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That directly impacts your mental energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are tired, your the reason that you feel fogginess is because your body is sending energy, cognitive energy that would be used for thinking or critical thinking or to like help you like, you know, help your heartbeat and help you breathe and help you digest other functions of your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you're lower on energy, your body is just preserving that energy and sending it in other locations.
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  SPEAKER_00: So having high levels of physical energy directly impacts your emotional energy, directly impacts your mental energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then your spiritual energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Spiritual energy is that connection to source, to God.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you have unlimited amounts of spiritual energy, like it just makes your life feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is when you get in that true flow state.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I think of health, it aligns with these various energy centers.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how I think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, when and I think the uh the critical things when it comes to health is going to be your sleep movement and food and what's going on in your head.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so let's talk about sleep for a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: About one in three American adults do not get enough sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I recall, you know, when I was in the Army that uh we would brag about how little sleep that we got.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know I personally still have some challenges with sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sleep hygiene is uh something that I'm personally working on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And oftentimes we just do not give sleep the reverence.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we're gonna make a shortcut, because we have so many things to do, we'll oftentimes shortcut our sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: But our sleep is where we repair, this is where you process emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is really, really important to make sure that you get enough sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when your sleep goes, it affects every other aspect of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you can only fix one thing, it's been recommended over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like instead of working out, it's better to sleep versus working out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think Huberman has said that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've heard other gurus say that, and it makes a lot of sense because it's the sleep that you recover and repair.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, so the next thing is movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you don't have to go train for an Iron Man, but you do have to move every day, and it doesn't have to be anything grandiose, just simply getting steps in, like getting 10,000 steps in a day, lifting something heavy a couple times a week, getting your heart rate up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only about a quarter of American adults are hitting the basic guidelines for cardio and strength training.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these basic guidelines are from our government, so the the guidelines are pretty low.
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  SPEAKER_00: And only a quarter of people are doing that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're working out, like you're one of the you're an anomaly, uh, because many people aren't even doing that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comfort is just the, man, it is just it the comfort crisis is a great read.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't read it, go read the comfort crisis.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we're designed to move, we're designed to people chalk it up to like old age.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, we're designed to feel good even as we age.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just forgot how good it is to feel because you are not getting enough sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not moving the body, you're not getting enough nutrition.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we need to move.
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  SPEAKER_00: And on that topic of nutrition, you know, look, we all know what we should be eating, and we're simply not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it doesn't help that there's drive-throughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once again, comfort is causing us to be lazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, we're not meal prepping like we're supposed to.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going through drive-throughs and everything has sugar in it, and we say that we're confused with it, but it's you know what you should be eating and what you shouldn't be eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just a matter of making time and having the discipline for meal planning.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it doesn't help that everything is laden with sugar and there's drive-throughs everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now you got people you can get an app, and by the time I am done, you know, with this podcast, you could have, you know, burgers and a shake.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could have 3,000 calories delivered to you before you're even, before this podcast is over if you wanted to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you know what to eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: You simply don't do it, but asking you to bring your level of awareness to your nutrition.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we just talk about sleep, movement, nutrition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Final thing is your just mental health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your mental health is health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stress, anxiety, the stuff that no one talks about, men especially especially, we'll push through a torn muscle and call it tough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, we'll push through depression the same way alone for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask me how I know, because I did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you blow up one day.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we need to have someone to talk to, therapist, coach, buddy, a group of people, and getting out of getting those things out of your head and out into the moment, into the open.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so many people, the the number one excuse that I hear for not taking care of our overall health is I simply don't have time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when a client tells me that, the first thing I'm gonna ask is let's open up your phone and look at your screen time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: You think of that right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Open up your phone right now and look at your screen time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because there's your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just spending it elsewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you don't have is clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you don't have is it's just not a priority.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so do one thing, deliberate thing each day for your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is what the H stands for.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's talk about A.
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  SPEAKER_00: A is for affluence.
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  SPEAKER_00: When most people hear that, they're thinking, rich, lifestyles of the rich and famous.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, that's part of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I personally look at money as freedom, freedom of choice, and having enough that money isn't making your decisions for you and creating that level of financial freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Free man creates his own economy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So money is the number one source of stress for most adults.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one of the top things couples fight about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And most people don't talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: They'll talk about workouts, diets, kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when someone asks how much debt they're carrying, that's taboo.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't talk about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't talk about different strategies for wealth management.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a problem because what you don't talk about is you don't fix and you feel like you're alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a great verse in Proverbs that says the borrower is slave to the lender.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was written thousands of years ago and it still uh reigns true today.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've got a car payment, credit card balances, and a mortgage that you can barely cover, you're not free, and that stress is real.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there are different mindsets when it comes to money.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's the poverty mindset, middle class mindset, and the mindset of the wealthy, which I talk about in Life on Offense.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, you know, the just you know, creating wealth and having a strategy for yourself is critically important to living a free and abundant life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ultimately, it's about becoming free.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: I think the things that we desire in our life is tied to freedom, freedom of good health, freedom, financial freedom to make decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna talk more about this more, but freedom of development, freedom of experiences, freedom of choice, all of these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So are you making decisions, you know, that that are that are enabling you to achieve financial freedom and abundance so you can give, so you can grow, and so you can gain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships are great as human desires to feel loved and appreciated and heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we have different buckets of our relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And how are those going?
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got your significant other, your kids, your family, your friends, the team at work, people you do business with.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many people do you have where you can call them at two o'clock in the morning and they would drop everything to be there with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I know about relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't stay the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, either every day you're either building them up or wearing them down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you look back at your life, you're probably not close with the people you graduated high school from.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many of us put a lot of energy into work.
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  SPEAKER_00: We throw ourselves into work, and our family gets the leftovers, the breadcrumbs, and we wonder why we feel distant at home.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you look, I've I've been through a divorce and I know what it cost when you let that slide.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's very, very painful for everyone involved.
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  SPEAKER_00: Harvard's been running a long study on adult life for more than 80 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one of the longest studies ever done on happiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the biggest finding wasn't that money or fame or career success led to happiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was directly tied to relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
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  SPEAKER_00: Period.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is at the end of life, you're not going to be concerned with your success.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not going to be concerned with the things that you uh accomplish as much as you will, the contributions that you made to other people and your connections to the people that you love.
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  SPEAKER_00: That has been chronicled over and over and over again in like hospice care.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think of the book by uh Bonnie Ware, The Regrets of the Dying.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was the one thing that was talked about over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're an introvert and you don't have a large friend pool, it's okay.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to have a large pool of friends.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: Just instead of like we have breadth of connections, but not the depth that we that we need.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so although we are probably more connected online than ever, we just don't have the depth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And everyone is putting their best foot forward and feeling inadequate.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the relationships aren't, I don't know, they're kind of fickle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when I work with clients, we look at three circles: partner, family, and friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your partner, when was the last time you went on a real date?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not running errands, not going to the kids' softball game, baseball game, soccer, just the two of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you're staring at each other out of the eyes, not into your cell phones.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ever go out and see two couples sitting there at the table and they're both gazing into their cell phones?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not a real date.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not a real connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, you gotta be deliberate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even you gotta continue to date your partner even after the kids and all the responsibilities.
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  SPEAKER_00: About your family.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kids don't need more stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't need your presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need your presence with the C, not the T.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they're never they're not gonna remember what you bought them in the moment they will, and they always want things, but they're gonna remember whether or not you showed up, whether or not you were there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one's big for men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Surveys show the number of men who say they have no close friends has gone up five times since 1990.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five times.
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  SPEAKER_00: We get married, we have the kids, we build the careers, and then we slowly let our friendships die.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then we wonder why we feel alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you need people in your corner who will tell you the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: People that will clap when you win, that will hold you accountable and lift you up when you're when you feel like you're falling short.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you got to be careful for the people that you let in because you're the average of the five people that you are closest with.
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  SPEAKER_00: So developing that rope team of like close-knit people really, really important.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your closest people right now the five.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they dragging you down or are they pulling you up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are the five people that matter the most to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And when was the last time you showed them some appreciation as well?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so every day when it comes to relationships, do one deliberate thing for someone who matters to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Call them, put your phone down at dinner, and just do something and invest in that relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Call the old friend that you haven't done.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's that's what we do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So do something every day in your health, do something that's gonna lead you to financial freedom, do something that's going to pour into a relationship.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: D, D is for development.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is how you keep growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're not growing, you're dying.
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  SPEAKER_00: So learning a new skill, reading, listening to a podcast, getting coached, taking on a hard challenge, doing a Masogee, putting yourself in rooms where you're not the smartest person in the room.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people stop growing once they get comfortable.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: They hit a certain job, certain income, certain age, and then they take their foot off the throttle and begin to coast.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: And coasting feels fine for a while until it doesn't.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: People I see doing the best in their 40s, 50s, and beyond are the ones who never stop becoming they never stopped being a student.
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  SPEAKER_00: They were curious.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: Jim Rohn said that a formal education will make you a living, self-education will make you a fortune.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: And most of us have stopped our education the day that we got the diploma.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: Most people never pick up a book after high school or college.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: And that's a long time without learning.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: And so when I work with clients and we talk about development, you know, we look at four things.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: What are you what are you learning?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who is coaching and mentoring you?
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: What hard thing are you training for?
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: And this surprises people.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: Who are you teaching and mentoring?
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because you will learn when you teach and mentor others.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: So what are you learning?
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: Like, do you have a curriculum for yourself?
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: Like what skill do you develop?
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Are you doing randomized learning?
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's what a lot of people do that are in the growth and development space.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: Just whatever book comes up, someone recommends it, you grab it.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: And there's there's a use case for that.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: But true mastery is like having and developing your own curriculum.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so, what are you learning?
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: What are you listening to?
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_00: What podcast?
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: What skills are you developing?
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: What subject?
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_00: Who's coaching you?
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: Coaching and mentorship is powerful because it closes in that skill gap much faster than just listening to an audiobook or listening to a podcast or listen reading a book.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_00: So, and and you don't need to, when it comes to like reading, like you don't need to do the reading a book a week.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: I think you can overdo it.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: I think 10 pages a day is great.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's what really set the tone for me.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: I did a program called 75 Hard, and the requirement was 10 pages a day, which is about a book a month.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: One book can change your life.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: And if you just read 10 pages a day, that's 12 books.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: And that's far more than most people read.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: So 10 pages only takes maybe 10 minutes.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's really quick.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: So it's not even that uh that big of an ask, but a lot of people don't do it.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: Easy to do, easier not to do.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: Who's coaching you?
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: Every top athlete, every C-suite executive I know has a coach or a mentor of some type.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: Most people in business and life are trying to figure it out alone.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe life coach sounds like silly.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: Joining a mastermind, paying to be a part of a group, paying to go to a conference.
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_00: For some people, they can't even fathom that.
• 21:10
  SPEAKER_00: But there are people that that can see what you can't, and that knowledge and and and skill development can save you a lot of heartache and really close in quickly.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's why that's why some of the top performing people talk about coaching and mentoring.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: So, what is your budget for personal growth and development?
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have one?
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: Is it a priority for you?
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because the people that are at the top, they make their personal growth and development a priority and their life reflects it.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: What hard thing are you training for?
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: When was the last time you signed up for something that scares you a little bit?
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_00: A race, a climb, a certification, a big goal with a date on it that changes how you live every other day living up to it.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_00: So I love the concept of a Masogi.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: You change in the pursuit of the goal.
• 21:58
  SPEAKER_00: So having something like that is really, really important.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: And in training, you know, what a blessing it is to be able to do a hard thing on your day-to-day life.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like that enables you to be more resilient.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: And when life gets hard and it will, like you are prepared for it.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I love training for something difficult.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: And it makes it just makes you have more gratitude for comfort.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: And finally, who are you teaching?
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: Who are you teaching?
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_00: The fastest way to learn something is to teach it to others.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: So coaching a kids' team, mentoring someone maybe a little bit behind you or someone younger than you, sharing what you know.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's incredibly, incredibly rewarding and fulfilling to share your knowledge with someone else.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: All of this.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: Adds up if you get 1% better every day for a year, you end up with about 37 times better.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: Small, deliberate every day.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: Just swing singles.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people want to hit a home run, just up every day, swinging singles with that daily development habit.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: So doing one deliberate thing each day to grow.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: Read 10 pages, sign up for the race, ask somebody for feedback, give back by coaching and mentoring someone.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: That is D for development.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: So health and wellness, affluence and wealth, relationships, development.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: Why every day?
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_00: Well, because that's how change works.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: One workout doesn't get you in shape.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: One conversation doesn't fix the marriage.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: Doing a budget, you know, saving, you know, for one day doesn't get you out of debt.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: And so James Clear says in the top and cabbage, you don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the levels of your systems.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: So the daily question is a system to ensure that you're on track.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: And that daily action in each one of those buckets is something that is going to add up.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: You swing singles every day, day in, day out.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna you're gonna get some uh movement.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: Slow, smooth, smooth is fast.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: What we say, climbing Mount Comanjar was poly poly, one foot in front of the other.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: Slow, deliberate movement.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: Be the tortoise, not the hare.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: And so the system is that.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so this is a free system in the Facebook community, just a daily prompt and daily action to write down in journal something that you're gonna do, take action daily in one of those buckets, and then a daily prompt to remind you and maybe have some level of awareness within that life arena.
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_00: So the first prompt in the group is what does healthy actually mean to you?
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: Is it strength?
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: Is it energy, peace of mind, being able to keep up with your kids, still having adventures at 75?
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: There's no right answer to that.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: Just asking you what your answer is to it.
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't know what healthy means to you, well, how do you know if you're getting there?
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_00: So defining what that is for you.
• 24:42
  SPEAKER_00: So here's what I want you to do.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to go to Do Our Things Nation, the Facebook group, answer the day one question, and make it a habit to log in there daily and get the daily journal prompt, make it part of your daily routine.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's a great way to connect with other like-minded people because if you're listening to the podcast, you're someone that values growth.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: And what great way then then to connect with other like-minded people.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: There's accountability on there, people cheering you on.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, that is that is your uh that is your challenge.
• 25:11
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• 25:18
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• 25:24
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• 25:32
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• 25:51
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• 25:55
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• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: And we'll see you in the Facebook group.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: So thank you so much for taking the time to uh be here to focus on yourself.
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_00: Just encourage you to continue to be a lighthouse to others out there by leading by example.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, keep doing hard things every day.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Health, affluence, relationships, development.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_00: If you want a deeper dive on that, go grab the copy of Life on Offense, where we share some details of my own life and some tactical things that you can do to improve those areas of your life so you can crush it, be a lighthouse to live a purposeful, peaceful, powerful life.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: In the meantime, keep doing hard things, and we will see you in the next episode.
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_00: Let's go.