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#1928 Just What The Doctor Ordered - Dr. Dinesh Palipana · The You Project

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Speaker 1: And welcome to the two hundred and ninety ninth installment
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Speaker 1: of this your Favorite podcast. He says that with some
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Speaker 1: sense of confidence, not knowing at all that you project hullo, Melissa, Hello,
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Speaker 1: Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday to you champion. Have you had
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Speaker 1: a great day? I have had a great day so far.
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Speaker 1: Thank you. I think our day sorry for that. I
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Speaker 1: think our day's about to get a little bit better.
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Speaker 1: What why has your day been good so far? What
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Speaker 1: have you done? Because I know you're a box ticker,
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Speaker 1: you're a list doer, you love your very type A.
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Speaker 1: You push the button before you finished wing? Or is
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Speaker 1: that just me? What's been the what's been the pinnacle
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Speaker 1: so far? Well, actually it's got to do with this episode,
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Speaker 1: because you sent me a video earlier of our guests
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Speaker 1: and it was fascinating. I did, Yeah, I watched the
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Speaker 1: whole thing because it was so interesting. I normally do
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Speaker 1: I normally don't. I've never done that, in fact before,
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Speaker 1: because you don't really need to do too much research
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Speaker 1: on our guests, because you don't need to ask too
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Speaker 1: many questions. But as I say, you can be as
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Speaker 1: evolved or uninvolved as you want. But I watched so
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Speaker 1: last night, I went, I'm going to have a look
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Speaker 1: at this dude, and he's because Russ, one of our
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Speaker 1: mutual friends, told me listen to the podcast and went,
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Speaker 1: so I had to listen. That was great, and I went,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to have a look at it. He did
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Speaker 1: a ted talk and then look at that, I'm like,
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Speaker 1: well that was good. And then I'm just had a
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Speaker 1: look at a few others. And then this morning I
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Speaker 1: woke up at six ish and which is about nine
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Speaker 1: hours after Dnash gets up, and I watched I don't
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Speaker 1: know who produced it, he'll tell me in a moment,
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Speaker 1: but it was about a half hour VID, which well
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Speaker 1: will pass on to you folks. It is really, really fascinating.
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Speaker 1: And I knew that once because you're busy, like you've
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Speaker 1: got no free time, and I sent this to you
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Speaker 1: and I said, because it's thirty odd minutes, I said,
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Speaker 1: just watch ten twelve minutes so you get a sense
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Speaker 1: of who we're chatting with. And I knew that once
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Speaker 1: you watched it, you wouldn't you wouldn't stop, and you
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Speaker 1: watch the whole thing, didn't you. Yeah, you can't just
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Speaker 1: watch ten twelve minutes of that, like imriguing You've got
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Speaker 1: to watch the whole thing. I know. It's like, here,
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Speaker 1: just have a bite of this cheesecake. Just you don't
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Speaker 1: have to have the whole piece. I'm like, God, give
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Speaker 1: me the whole piece.
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Speaker 2: Which video this was?
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Speaker 1: What's the hat?
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Speaker 2: Now I'm concerned about which video this was?
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Speaker 1: It was one of you at that swinger's party with
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Speaker 1: the cocaine and the plastic sheets. That one.
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Speaker 2: See. I knew you didn't come back to bite me.
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Speaker 1: I knew, well, there it is. There it is, dude,
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Speaker 1: that's what happens. Hey, you're not on yet. Just wait now.
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Speaker 1: Our guest name is Denise Palapana Palipanna. He is this
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Speaker 1: is There's way too much stuff and I'm terrible in
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Speaker 1: intros when I read things, so I'm not going to
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Speaker 1: read too much. But born in Sri Lanka nine eighty four.
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Speaker 1: Here's a doctor, he's a lawyer. Here's a disability the advocate.
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Speaker 1: He's the first quadriplegic medical intern. He was in Queensland,
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Speaker 1: second one in Australia, second person with quadriplegia to graduate
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Speaker 1: as a doctor in Australia, and the first wispinal cord injury.
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Speaker 1: There's just way too much stuff. He's been on the
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Speaker 1: ABC Radio, ABC TV, BBC, The Today Show, Vice Magazine.
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Speaker 1: He's got a Medal of the Order of Australia for
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Speaker 1: Service to Medicine Junior Doctor of the Year at Gold
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Speaker 1: Coast University. His actual do you know why? I know? Now?
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Speaker 1: Denesse Versusly, Hello, my friend, how are you?
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Speaker 2: I'm great, I'm having a beautiful morning in the gold
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Speaker 2: Course once afternoon.
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Speaker 1: Now of course you are, now, I want to I
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Speaker 1: bet you've never been asked this question before. This is
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Speaker 1: a question you've never been asked in an interview. Did
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Speaker 1: you write or contribute to your own Wikipedia page.
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Speaker 2: I've had a look at it. I've had to look
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Speaker 2: at it.
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Speaker 1: I tell you why, because whoever wrote it is clearly
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Speaker 1: an academic Melissa, do you know why why? Because there's
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Speaker 1: one hundred and eight citations? I'm like, who wrote this?
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Speaker 1: You know?
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Speaker 2: I was at a job interview last year and that
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Speaker 2: actually came up and they're like, there are one hundred
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Speaker 2: references to this or something like that. I'm like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: I didn't. I didn't. I didn't really check. But it's
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Speaker 2: good that it's so well referenced.
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Speaker 1: It is very well referenced and it is very thorough.
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Speaker 1: So mate, where so you're based on the Gold Coast, yes,
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Speaker 1: and you work at Gold Coast Hospital, Yeah, and you also,
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Speaker 1: So we'll jump around a little bit and you feel
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Speaker 1: free to go where it And also whatever ideas and
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Speaker 1: thoughts and messages you want to share with our audience,
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Speaker 1: we would love you to do that. We don't need
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Speaker 1: to go in any particular direction. But so the quick snapshot,
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Speaker 1: everybody correct me if I'm wrong, is you were twenty
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Speaker 1: five ISHU. You were midway through your medical degree. You
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Speaker 1: were driving home to see your folks who lived too
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Speaker 1: and two ish hours away, which was a regular thing
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Speaker 1: for you. You hit a big patch of water in
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Speaker 1: the road, Your car went out of control and flipped
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Speaker 1: end to end, and you ended up a quadriplegic. You
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Speaker 1: ended up you're in hospital for seven months or so
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Speaker 1: and spent another four years recovering and doing bits and
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Speaker 1: pieces fill in the gaps for me and you all
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Speaker 1: that while we're thinking about can I ever be a doctor?
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Speaker 1: I'm halfway through my medical degree? Can I do it?
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Speaker 1: Is it possible? And you ended up obviously going back
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Speaker 1: qualifying as a doctor. A lot of speed bumps along
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Speaker 1: the way, a lot of hurdles and barriers, probably ones
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Speaker 1: that we wouldn't think. But you did law before you
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Speaker 1: did what you did the law, and then what happened
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Speaker 1: with that? Did you go? Hang? What was that about?
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Speaker 1: It was?
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Speaker 2: You know that there was a that was a really
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Speaker 2: interesting process for me. And yesterday someone asked me, did
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Speaker 2: you ever get depressed after the accident? And I don't
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Speaker 2: think I actually, you know, I don't think I felt
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Speaker 2: low like I was distressed and it was an adjustment period,
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Speaker 2: but I don't think I was extremely depressed after the accident.
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Speaker 2: But I was before and that was before medical school.
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Speaker 2: So when I was in law school and studying law,
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Speaker 2: I think, you know, I think depression and whatever what,
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Speaker 2: whatever our thought process are, there's there's an organic component
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Speaker 2: to it, and there's a neuropsychological component to it, and
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Speaker 2: there's a very scientific components to it, for sure. But
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Speaker 2: I also think that certain life events and new path
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Speaker 2: in life can lead you into that as well. I
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Speaker 2: think the reasons for me choosing, or the reasons for
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Speaker 2: me studying or then we're not, we're not. Something that
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Speaker 2: was close to my heart. I just finished school. I
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Speaker 2: was trying to figure out what to do, and I thought, hey,
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Speaker 2: you know, I'll get paid well, I have a well
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Speaker 2: respected job, and this would be a nice thing to
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Speaker 2: be doing, which really aren't which probably aren't that good
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Speaker 2: reasons to be doing something in all honesty. But over
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Speaker 2: a period of time, I just became really really depressed,
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Speaker 2: like I was in the pits. I was anxious all
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Speaker 2: the time, I had handic attacks, I got at a guaaphobia.
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Speaker 2: After a period of time, I locked myself when house
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Speaker 2: for weeks, and it was that experience they got me
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Speaker 2: thinking about, you know, maybe I need to just rethink life.
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Speaker 2: And you know, it was really hard going through that period.
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Speaker 2: It was probably actually one of the hardest things I've
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Speaker 2: gone through. The spine card injury has been difficult, but
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Speaker 2: that was an experience where you become stuck inside your head,
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Speaker 2: and I think when you're a prisoner of your thoughts,
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Speaker 2: it's a much more difficult thing than being you know,
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Speaker 2: I wouldn't even say limited, but having a different body
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Speaker 2: now that I do. You know, I use a wheelchair
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Speaker 2: and don't use my fingers anymore. But I feel that
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Speaker 2: I'll be much more productive after this significant physical injury
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Speaker 2: than I was with that. It was a really good
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Speaker 2: turning point in my life because I started thinking about
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Speaker 2: what I want to do. And I interacted with so
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Speaker 2: many people then, because you know, you're struggling, and I
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Speaker 2: was talking to friends, and I was talking to doctors,
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Speaker 2: and I was talking to all these people, and I
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Speaker 2: realized that, you know, people make a big difference in
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Speaker 2: your life, and people are really important, and I wanted
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Speaker 2: to I started thinking about doing something with people because
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Speaker 2: I thought, wow, you know, just having a good conversation
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Speaker 2: and having some help really change my world. And that's
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Speaker 2: why I wanted to be a doctor. And as soon
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Speaker 2: as I made that decision, my life actually just changed
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Speaker 2: very rapidly, and I came out of that depression and
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Speaker 2: I was a new person.
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Speaker 1: It's amazing how when we find our thing, oh our
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Speaker 1: you know, all these cliches get chucked around, but our
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Speaker 1: purpose or our path or our reason or whatever you
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Speaker 1: call it, but if it's a it's amazing how things
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Speaker 1: change on a multitude of level psychological, emotional, practical, physiological,
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Speaker 1: even I kind of talk about this construct with when
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Speaker 1: I'm doing some of my speaking and coaching called I
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Speaker 1: call it the duality of the human experience. The duality
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Speaker 1: of the human experience, which is the fact that we
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Speaker 1: kind of live in these two worlds, the external and
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Speaker 1: the internal. Obviously, the practical physical, three dimensional world where
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Speaker 1: things happen, people have accidents, you know, pandemics come, whether happens,
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Speaker 1: government happens, bills to pay, jobs, to go to roles,
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Speaker 1: to play, situation, circumstance environment. That's the external world that
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Speaker 1: we inhabit. But the world that we live in is
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Speaker 1: more that inner place of thought and feeling, emotion, idea
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Speaker 1: and passion and love and hate and terror and joy
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Speaker 1: and pain and excite and purpose and goals and beliefs
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Speaker 1: and faith. And you know, isn't it interesting how like
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Speaker 1: your life from the outside. From the outside looking in,
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Speaker 1: people would automatically assume many people, well, his life just
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Speaker 1: got a whole lot worse, right, which would not be
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Speaker 1: an unreasonable assumption based on the fact that, wow, you
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Speaker 1: went from where you were to now you're in a wheelchair,
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Speaker 1: to all these things. But almost illogically, it's like your life.
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Speaker 1: And I'm sure there are things about your life that
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Speaker 1: of course are challenges, of course, but in terms of
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Speaker 1: your life as an experience, your lived experience of life
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Speaker 1: now is better, Like it's just so interesting. But we
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Speaker 1: are such an externally focused world where everything that when
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Speaker 1: we talk about success, generally we're talking about stuff, you know,
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Speaker 1: we're talking about you know, when we talk about success,
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Speaker 1: we're normally talking about, you know, what we have, what
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Speaker 1: we earn, what we own, what we drive, where we live,
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Speaker 1: what we look like, what people think of us, our qualifications,
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Speaker 1: our position, our title. And none of those things are bad.
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Speaker 1: But definitely when you go, wow, that that girl or
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Speaker 1: that guy they're super successful, you're not talking about the
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Speaker 1: fact that they've got no anxiety, or the fact that
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Speaker 1: they're calm, or the fact that they've you know, they've
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Speaker 1: got a joyful existence despite the fact that they live
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Speaker 1: in a one bedroom flat, do you know what I mean?
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Speaker 2: Absolutely? Absolutely, I think. And it's like a drug too,
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Speaker 2: you know, when you get caught up in that thing.
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Speaker 2: You want the next best thing, or you want the
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Speaker 2: next best car, or you want the more money or
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Speaker 2: the bigger house or whatever. And I think I was
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Speaker 2: a big part of that where I was really attached
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Speaker 2: to these things. I was. Actually it's an interesting thing
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Speaker 2: to reflect on because just before I had my accident,
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Speaker 2: I had all these things that I liked, Like I
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Speaker 2: had this nice apartment overlooking the ocean and the city,
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Speaker 2: and I had this car and whatever else, and you
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Speaker 2: know those things, Like I was very attached to those things,
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Speaker 2: was attached to my belongings. But when the accident happened,
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Speaker 2: I lost every single thing, like because money became a
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Speaker 2: challenge and I just had to give it all up
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Speaker 2: because I was in the hospital for seven or eight months,
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Speaker 2: had to move around, and I think I was really
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Speaker 2: stripped down from all that as well, Like I lost
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Speaker 2: all the belongings and I lost all those things, and
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Speaker 2: I just had to start again from the basics. And
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Speaker 2: that was a really good thing because again I got
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Speaker 2: the opportunity to just strip down to the core and
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Speaker 2: figure out what's important. So I totally agree that having
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Speaker 2: that internal world that that that is that is important
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Speaker 2: because you know, I use a wheelchair now, I don't
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Speaker 2: use my fingers. I have all sorts of differences in
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Speaker 2: my life from what it was before. You know, I
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Speaker 2: love life, Like I wake up every day, I'm grateful
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Speaker 2: for a bunch of stuff. I look out the window
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Speaker 2: and I see the sun and the ocean and gold
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Speaker 2: courst and that that it's it. That's an awesome thing.
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Speaker 2: I get to see here and talk to you today.
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Speaker 2: That's pretty damn cool. And that wouldn't happen if my
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Speaker 2: life was different. So I think, I think you've got
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Speaker 2: to look at look at what you have in a
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Speaker 2: different lens, and that really helps to shape shape the
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Speaker 2: world that you've seen. There's a book called The Diamond Cutter,
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Speaker 2: which I don't if you've ever come across.
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Speaker 1: But I'm going to write it down right now.
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Speaker 2: Essentially, it was I read it a long time ago,
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Speaker 2: but it was written by a guy who was a
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Speaker 2: monk somewhere in Nepal or India, and he wanted to
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Speaker 2: learn a bit more about the world and understand it
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Speaker 2: a bit better. So he went to New York and
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Speaker 2: became a diamond trader, and he looks at business and
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Speaker 2: that world in a bit of a spiritual and philosophical light. Well,
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Speaker 2: one of the things that he says is that when
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Speaker 2: you get a diamond out of the ground, it's actually
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Speaker 2: a fairly ugly things. It's not shiny, he doesn't have
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Speaker 2: a shape. But we have the ability to cut that
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Speaker 2: diamond into whatever we want, and if we cut it right,
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Speaker 2: you see it shine and you see all these different
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Speaker 2: colors come through it, and that's like life. You have
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Speaker 2: the ability to turn this rock into whatever you want.
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Speaker 1: Such a beautiful metaphor. Do you think that, you know,
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Speaker 1: one of the things that everybody is saying, especially in
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Speaker 1: Melbourne right now, you know, is more Jews. I'd love
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Speaker 1: just to be able to go on bloody shit and
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Speaker 1: have a cup of coffee with someone. And me too,
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Speaker 1: I've said it too. You know, there's all that normal stuff,
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Speaker 1: right and so when you know it, this is no
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Speaker 1: revelation when I say that we don't appreciate some things
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Speaker 1: often until we don't have those things, and then the
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Speaker 1: thing that we didn't really value is the thing that
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Speaker 1: that's all we want right now? Do you think that,
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Speaker 1: like when I watched your story, and I'm not just
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Speaker 1: saying this insincerely because you're here it firstly, thank you
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Speaker 1: for thank you really from the bottom of my heart
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Speaker 1: for what you do, because just watching you and watching you,
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Speaker 1: you know, so to give there's some context everyone. If
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Speaker 1: Denessh's got to be at work at seven point thirty,
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Speaker 1: he's getting up at three thirty or four for all
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Speaker 1: the stuff he's got to go through to be at work,
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Speaker 1: so he's not rolling out of bed at six thirty
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Speaker 1: and you know, having a dart in the car on
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Speaker 1: the way to work, in a coffee and shaving it
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Speaker 1: at the lights, and you know, putting on yesterday's jocks.
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Speaker 1: He's getting up. Okay, that's my life, all right. He's
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Speaker 1: getting up four hours and taking hours to do what
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Speaker 1: would take us to do minutes. But and I was
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Speaker 1: watching you, and I'm thinking what I really thought, because
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Speaker 1: I always tell myself how busy I am, right, and
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Speaker 1: I don't think I'm a marter. I think I cope
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Speaker 1: with it well. But I have this in a dialogue,
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Speaker 1: and I am busy, but because I'm doing full time
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Speaker 1: work and full time study. But my busy compared to
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Speaker 1: your busy is nothing, and my adversity compared to it.
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Speaker 1: And I know that you don't look for sympathy or accolades.
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Speaker 1: I get that. So I know you're going to deflect,
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Speaker 1: but don't fucking deflect, right, as you've been told. Right,
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Speaker 1: I was looking at you when I was going I
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Speaker 1: need to work harder, because I'm kidding myself. I was
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Speaker 1: watching what you do, and it just I found it
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Speaker 1: truly inspiring. My question to you, is, how can people
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Speaker 1: find that like a significant shift in perspective and thinking
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Speaker 1: without going through a catastrophe. Do you think that's possible?
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Speaker 1: Do you think it's because when your life changes, the
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Speaker 1: way that your life changed once it or not, your
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Speaker 1: perspective is different. It's like it's involuntary. You now have
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Speaker 1: to have a different mindset and thought process of just
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Speaker 1: for navigating life and the world. And you know, we
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Speaker 1: hear of so many people who have been through something
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Speaker 1: like you, who not only do you perform, but you
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Speaker 1: like like new Denesh is out performing Olddnesh. I know
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Speaker 1: that's not the right to did you know what I mean? Yeah? Like,
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Speaker 1: is can we get that perspective without the drama and
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Speaker 1: the trauma and the tragedy.
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Speaker 2: I think you have to look for it, right because
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Speaker 2: I heard another good metaphor a while ago is that
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Speaker 2: you can't tell a fish that it's wet.
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Speaker 1: So oh fuck, I love that is that is just
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Speaker 1: so simple and so funny.
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Speaker 2: So unless the fish is able to see like what
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Speaker 2: it's is not to be wet, you can't really explain
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Speaker 2: it to him or her. So I think you have
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Speaker 2: to really look for different experiences and be consciously looking
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Speaker 2: for that others perspective to find it. And it takes
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Speaker 2: a choice to do that. It takes a choice to think, Okay,
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Speaker 2: you know, I'm struggling right now, I'm struggling with these thoughts,
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Speaker 2: or I'm challenged by these thoughts. Maybe I need to
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Speaker 2: look outside, or maybe there's a better way to deal
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Speaker 2: with it, or maybe there's a different way to think
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Speaker 2: about it. But you have to go looking for that,
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Speaker 2: and I think it's a process. I'm also lucky in
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Speaker 2: that I grew up in Sri Lanka until I was
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Speaker 2: ten years old, and Sri Lanka went through a war
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Speaker 2: which just finished in the late two thousands, and it
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Speaker 2: was a really difficult thing for people. So when I
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Speaker 2: was growing up there, I actually had this memory which
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Speaker 2: I talked to my mom about just recently, and because
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Speaker 2: I didn't really think about it, was in the back
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Speaker 2: of my mind. It popped up every now and again.
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Speaker 2: But it was this when we were driving around Sri
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Speaker 2: Lanka one day to me mom and dad, and there
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Speaker 2: was a bunch of there are all these columns of
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Speaker 2: smoke in the horizon, just black corns of smoke, and
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Speaker 2: then when we drove up to it, we saw people
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Speaker 2: being burnt alive in piles of tires, and there were
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Speaker 2: suicide bombings, there were people dying, like my uncles died
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Speaker 2: in the war, and people are living in fear. I remember,
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Speaker 2: you know, we had times where people were hiding out
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Speaker 2: in our house during their life, and parents really catch
21:41
Speaker 2: different buses to work because if one of them gets
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Speaker 2: blown up, the other one would make it home for
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Speaker 2: the kids. So people through a really hard time. And
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Speaker 2: when after the accident, I also went back and I saw,
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Speaker 2: you know it, we're so lucky in Australia, like this
21:59
Speaker 2: is truly the country, I think, because I went back
22:02
Speaker 2: there and I saw what happens to a lot of
22:04
Speaker 2: people with spinal cord injury. There. There's no social support systems,
22:09
Speaker 2: there's no in theis, there's nothing like that, and a
22:12
Speaker 2: lot of people just go home and die. They don't
22:15
Speaker 2: have the opportunity to work, they don't have wheelchairs whatever else.
22:19
Speaker 2: So just seeing that different perspectives, many thinks, you know,
22:24
Speaker 2: I am so damn lucky to have this opportunity to
22:30
Speaker 2: live the way I do, to be to seek education,
22:33
Speaker 2: to seek employment, to be able to hopefully spread a
22:37
Speaker 2: good message so that that's really mean a driving force
22:43
Speaker 2: for me as well, just to think about how lucky
22:45
Speaker 2: I am to be greatful for the things that I have.
22:48
Speaker 2: So that perspective has been really important.
22:52
Speaker 1: Could you maybe give us, for the people who are
22:57
Speaker 1: meeting you for the first time, which is the majority
22:59
Speaker 1: of my audience right now, how could you maybe give
23:01
Speaker 1: us a snapshot of and I know it varies, but
23:04
Speaker 1: a kind of a typical snapshot of a day in
23:07
Speaker 1: the life of you, where you work, what you do,
23:10
Speaker 1: some of the challenges around getting ready for that, and
23:13
Speaker 1: some of the practical stuff around, you know, just getting dressed,
23:17
Speaker 1: getting out of bed, eating, getting to work, to and from.
23:21
Speaker 1: Can you give us a snapshot of you know, I
23:23
Speaker 1: know your days vary, and I know you're a doctor
23:26
Speaker 1: and a lawyer now over retriever that you are, but
23:29
Speaker 1: give us kind of a snapshot of a day.
23:32
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean, I'll talk about some of the
23:36
Speaker 2: things that happen actually before the day even starts. Sleep
23:41
Speaker 2: is a really big issue for people with spinal cord injury.
23:44
Speaker 2: And I haven't slept a full night since I've had
23:47
Speaker 2: the injury, and the reasons for that is you get
23:49
Speaker 2: spasms and also reading problems I use. I've been trying
23:54
Speaker 2: to fix that and we've been trialing a seatpap machine
24:00
Speaker 2: at night. But we did a sleep study a little
24:02
Speaker 2: while ago, and I found that, you know, my oxygen
24:06
Speaker 2: saturations dropping huge, and I was waking up about four
24:09
Speaker 2: times per hour. So this sleep was really poor, and
24:15
Speaker 2: so sleep is a challenge. But I wake up and
24:21
Speaker 2: then my mom, who's been around all my life, she's
24:25
Speaker 2: been a big positive force. She helps me have some breakfast.
24:33
Speaker 2: The first thing I do when I open my eyes
24:36
Speaker 2: is to think about a couple of things that I'm
24:37
Speaker 2: grateful for, three to five things, and it could be like,
24:43
Speaker 2: you know, I'm grateful for the job that I have,
24:46
Speaker 2: and grateful for where I live, and grateful for being alive. Whatever.
24:51
Speaker 2: I think of five things that pop into my head
24:54
Speaker 2: and I put on something positive to listen to. I
24:59
Speaker 2: have breakfast, and while I do that, I get the
25:04
Speaker 2: day started. So I reply to the emails I reply to.
25:10
Speaker 2: I go through my calendar and set up whatever I
25:12
Speaker 2: have for the day or the week. So I try
25:19
Speaker 2: to be really efficient and I try to be reliable
25:24
Speaker 2: with what I do as well. Someone shoots me an
25:26
Speaker 2: email and trying to make sure that it's replied to
25:29
Speaker 2: within twenty four hours and that sort of thing. So
25:32
Speaker 2: just still things because I think those little things matter
25:35
Speaker 2: for life, because big things are built on a collection
25:38
Speaker 2: of small things done well. So we do that, and
25:44
Speaker 2: then I got a team of a great bunch of guys,
25:49
Speaker 2: so one of them will turn up in that hour
25:54
Speaker 2: and then we get the day started. So they will
25:56
Speaker 2: help me get into the shower on a wheelchair built
26:00
Speaker 2: for that, and that that whole morning process with the
26:05
Speaker 2: showering and the personal case is quite It can be
26:09
Speaker 2: quite painful. It can be you know, like pressure fluctuates,
26:17
Speaker 2: like it's actually a bit of a challenging process. And
26:22
Speaker 2: I have a shower, I got some music going on
26:26
Speaker 2: by this point, and I get out of the shower,
26:31
Speaker 2: so by then another hour, hour and a half might
26:35
Speaker 2: be gone. Yeah, And then we get back into the
26:38
Speaker 2: bed and we start getting dressed. Before we get dressed,
26:42
Speaker 2: we're going to go through the skin. Because another thing
26:45
Speaker 2: is fine and corny is that you get wounds. You
26:48
Speaker 2: can't feel the rest of your body. Sometimes there are
26:52
Speaker 2: pressure points that you get. If there's prolonged pressure, your
26:55
Speaker 2: skin just starts to break down. Then you get a wound.
26:58
Speaker 2: So I've got a very superficient woden at the moment
27:02
Speaker 2: that we need to get under control. So you do
27:05
Speaker 2: the skin check, you dress that, and then you start
27:10
Speaker 2: to get you know, put your clothing on, whatever else.
27:14
Speaker 2: I wear a brace around my belly because my lung function.
27:21
Speaker 2: I don't have any lung excellent muscles to support that
27:25
Speaker 2: lung function. So it helps me breathe, It helps me
27:28
Speaker 2: maintain good blood pressure, and it helps me sit upright.
27:32
Speaker 2: And it also helps helps me speak because when I
27:35
Speaker 2: first had the accident, I couldn't speak a full sentence
27:38
Speaker 2: like I am now wow. It took a while to
27:41
Speaker 2: get that going again. So that supports all that. So
27:44
Speaker 2: we put the brace on, we put the shorts on,
27:48
Speaker 2: and that that involves a lot of rolling back and
27:50
Speaker 2: forth and get up, put the shirt on, and you know,
27:54
Speaker 2: I'm a pretty vain guy. I like to look as
27:57
Speaker 2: good as I can, So do the hair, to do
28:00
Speaker 2: the moisturized daily, all that other junk, and then we
28:06
Speaker 2: get out the door. So I go to work and
28:10
Speaker 2: the shifts, you know, I get to work. So typically,
28:20
Speaker 2: you know, the eaty has been pretty good in that
28:23
Speaker 2: they put they've started putting me on evening and night
28:26
Speaker 2: shifts just so I don't have to get up at
28:28
Speaker 2: four am as much. Oh god, because my boss actually
28:32
Speaker 2: so one of those videos that I don't know you're
28:33
Speaker 2: getting up at four to get to work. We could
28:35
Speaker 2: just put you on more evening shifts if you like.
28:38
Speaker 2: And I'm like, well, yeah, I mean they'll be helpful
28:44
Speaker 2: so that they're being awesome. And so I generally start
28:49
Speaker 2: work at one pm or ten pm if I'm doing
28:52
Speaker 2: a night shift, and then I'll get home at about
28:56
Speaker 2: anywhere between. It varies. I'll get anywhere in between eleven
29:02
Speaker 2: thirty pm. Just sometimes, you know, the latest would be
29:06
Speaker 2: like one ish. If something's significantly dragging on, then the
29:12
Speaker 2: bed process will take an hour or two. Grab some dinner,
29:17
Speaker 2: get some sleep, start the press again.
29:19
Speaker 1: Man, man, now feel guilty for taking your time, dude,
29:23
Speaker 1: I know. Yeah, so yeah, I'm honest. Oh dude, we are.
29:32
Speaker 1: So you're in You work in the emergency department at
29:35
Speaker 1: Gold Coast Hospital. Is that correct? And how are people
29:40
Speaker 1: when the bloke in the wheelchair rocks up and goes
29:44
Speaker 1: But I'm the doctor, you.
29:46
Speaker 2: Know that's a.
29:49
Speaker 1: Yeah.
29:49
Speaker 2: The Gold Coast ed is actually well it was, at
29:53
Speaker 2: least in twenty eighteen and maybe twenty nineteen, the busiest
29:56
Speaker 2: eat in the country. It's it is a really interesting
30:00
Speaker 2: place to work. But so I've been a doctor now
30:05
Speaker 2: for nearly five years, or coming up to my fifth year,
30:12
Speaker 2: and in all those years and my years as a
30:15
Speaker 2: medical student, not one patient has looked at that as
30:20
Speaker 2: a weird thing. In fact, I don't even know if
30:22
Speaker 2: some notice it, because it's just such an all interaction.
30:25
Speaker 1: Yeah.
30:26
Speaker 2: Yeah, And if it's anything out of the ordinary, I
30:30
Speaker 2: mean sure people might be thinking, oh, they might think, wow,
30:33
Speaker 2: it's goin a wheelchair. But the out of the ordinary
30:40
Speaker 2: interactions that I've had have been really positive. I remember
30:47
Speaker 2: seeing this patient who had a significant physical challenge themselves
30:58
Speaker 2: and when I after, after I saw them, they said,
31:03
Speaker 2: you know, I was so glad that you came to
31:05
Speaker 2: my bedside because I knew you'd understand what I was
31:09
Speaker 2: going through. And I've I've talked with parents whose kids
31:17
Speaker 2: have been significantly injured or going through things, and they
31:20
Speaker 2: just said that it gave them a lot of hope
31:24
Speaker 2: to then see someone coming out of that recurring. So,
31:28
Speaker 2: you know, I think the medical care is one aspect
31:36
Speaker 2: of it and I try to be the best doctor
31:38
Speaker 2: as I can, but I think it's what you it's
31:42
Speaker 2: the other stuff that you do with people. And there
31:46
Speaker 2: was a doctor, you know, I who sadly passed away,
31:50
Speaker 2: but I think he likes to quote it was Maya
31:53
Speaker 2: Angelou who said, people remember how you made them feel
31:58
Speaker 2: mm hmm, and that's what they're left.
32:01
Speaker 1: So it's so true, and it's really easy in some professions,
32:06
Speaker 1: and medicine is one where you know, at the end
32:10
Speaker 1: of the day, at the end of the day, every patient,
32:12
Speaker 1: of course is a human with emotions and feelings and
32:14
Speaker 1: challenges and personality, and every doctor and every nurse and
32:18
Speaker 1: every person in that setting is also has brings all
32:22
Speaker 1: their own stuff to every moment in time.
32:24
Speaker 3: And I think it's really easy to get desensitized when
32:31
Speaker 3: you do a lot of stuff in understress with a
32:33
Speaker 3: lot of humans with a lot of problems, and so
32:36
Speaker 3: for you to actually be there in that moment and
32:41
Speaker 3: be fully present.
32:43
Speaker 1: Which you know, the stuff I've seen of you sitting
32:46
Speaker 1: with patients on the videos I've watched, and I can
32:48
Speaker 1: imagine because I think I get a bit of an
32:51
Speaker 1: idea about how you are. But yeah, you bring all
32:54
Speaker 1: your knowledge and skills and medical brain to the table,
32:57
Speaker 1: and of course, you know, which is a necessity. But
33:01
Speaker 1: then on top of that, when you bring empathy and
33:03
Speaker 1: awareness and kindness and presence where I'm actually here and
33:07
Speaker 1: I'm with you and I present, I'm not thinking about
33:10
Speaker 1: my lunch, I'm not looking at my watch, I'm not
33:12
Speaker 1: I'm not in a hurry. You know, that's such a
33:15
Speaker 1: gift to people. And you know, I think that's when
33:19
Speaker 1: people love their doctor. That's what they love about their doctor.
33:23
Speaker 1: What they love about their doctor is how that doctor
33:26
Speaker 1: makes them feel or how they how connected they feel
33:30
Speaker 1: to that person. Of course, you're want someone with knowledge
33:32
Speaker 1: and skills, but that's a given. But you know, so
33:35
Speaker 1: that's Do you think that just to me doing a
33:39
Speaker 1: bloody monologue, shut up, ups. Do you think that pre accident,
33:44
Speaker 1: post accident, your level of empathy changed?
33:48
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think pre accident, you don't know, I was
33:54
Speaker 2: never a patient, like I mean, I told you about
33:57
Speaker 2: the depression and all those things, but I was never
33:59
Speaker 2: a patient in a hospital going through this type of experience,
34:04
Speaker 2: so I didn't understand what it was like. And I
34:08
Speaker 2: had this really crystallizing moment about this because there was
34:15
Speaker 2: this guy who gave us a lecture once before that accident,
34:19
Speaker 2: and he was an emergency physician who worked with Queensland Ambulance.
34:24
Speaker 2: I looked at his lecture, I'm like, fire, this guy
34:27
Speaker 2: is awesome. I want to I want to be like
34:28
Speaker 2: you know, I want to do what he's doing and
34:31
Speaker 2: whatever else. And then he happened to be in the
34:34
Speaker 2: ambulance when I had that accident.
34:36
Speaker 1: Oh one of the trances.
34:39
Speaker 2: Yeah.
34:39
Speaker 1: Wow.
34:40
Speaker 2: So the thing though about that is, you know, I
34:45
Speaker 2: knew I was a doctor, I knew all that was
34:47
Speaker 2: under control. But it's now ten years later and I
34:51
Speaker 2: remember how he made me feel hmm, and that has
34:56
Speaker 2: informed how I try to with my patients. And imagine
35:02
Speaker 2: making that impact on someone where they remember it ten
35:06
Speaker 2: years later, that's that. I think that's pretty powerful. I
35:10
Speaker 2: was within for maybe fifteen, twenty, maybe thirty minutes, and
35:16
Speaker 2: he made that impact on me, which has been life
35:20
Speaker 2: probably gonna be lifelong, and has a flow and effect
35:22
Speaker 2: to my own patients.
35:24
Speaker 1: Isn't that incredible when you maybe can't even remember what
35:28
Speaker 1: someone said specifically or the specifics of that moment in time,
35:33
Speaker 1: but you just feel that being around that person had
35:37
Speaker 1: an energetic impact on you and an emotional and a
35:40
Speaker 1: psychological I like in a really positive way. But don't
35:45
Speaker 1: you think that Melissa too, that there are people that
35:48
Speaker 1: and you don't even know why there are people that.
35:51
Speaker 1: It's just there's something about their energy where you like
35:54
Speaker 1: being around that person definitely, you know. And then there
35:58
Speaker 1: are other people converts sleep and you go, oh boy, oh,
36:03
Speaker 1: this is a struggle. I try not to be the latter.
36:06
Speaker 1: I'm sure sometimes I am unless I apologize. I apologize.
36:12
Speaker 1: So so you so you finished law mate, and you
36:15
Speaker 1: kind of went not for the moment, and but you
36:20
Speaker 1: correct me if I'm wrong. You went back with not recently,
36:23
Speaker 1: not went back, but you qualified as a lawyer recently.
36:26
Speaker 1: Is that right?
36:27
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you have to do that when you finish
36:29
Speaker 2: your law degree. There's you get the law degree, but
36:33
Speaker 2: there's a process. We have to be admitted as a
36:37
Speaker 2: lawyer and then you do some coursework and work experience
36:41
Speaker 2: and that sort of thing. Once you take that off,
36:44
Speaker 2: you get to turn up at the court and you know,
36:47
Speaker 2: they get to sign the role of lawyers. And I
36:55
Speaker 2: did that recently, and really the idea behind that was
36:59
Speaker 2: to inform some of that advocacy work and inclusivity stuff
37:04
Speaker 2: that I've been doing. So that that was a nice moment.
37:09
Speaker 1: Now, I know that when you came out of when
37:11
Speaker 1: you finished your degree and you got your cap and
37:15
Speaker 1: your gown and thumbs up and high fives and you
37:18
Speaker 1: know all that stuff, that that the challenges didn't stop. Then,
37:23
Speaker 1: So tell us a little bit about getting an actual job,
37:27
Speaker 1: because that was not that was not smooth sailing. Give
37:31
Speaker 1: us tell us a little bit about how that went down,
37:34
Speaker 1: and yeah, what happened.
37:36
Speaker 2: No, it wasn't a huge it wasn't a smooth sailing,
37:38
Speaker 2: and it was a very frustrating experience because I did
37:43
Speaker 2: well in medical school. I spent time in the hospital
37:46
Speaker 2: as a student. I proved myself as much as I could.
37:51
Speaker 2: I given spend some time at the Harvard Medical School
37:55
Speaker 2: and you did well there. So did all that stuff
38:00
Speaker 2: and had letters of recommendation from doctors and whatever else.
38:06
Speaker 2: So when you graduate as a doctor in Australia, you
38:09
Speaker 2: you you're guaranteed a job if you're a domestic student
38:13
Speaker 2: and you put your name into this ballot and you
38:17
Speaker 2: put down where you want to work, and then you're
38:20
Speaker 2: the ballot system sort of. You know, get you a job.
38:25
Speaker 2: But I've just got a letter saying that, hey, you've
38:28
Speaker 2: got you you know, because of your spine cort injury,
38:30
Speaker 2: we need to take your name out of the ballot
38:32
Speaker 2: more consider it separately. But this just turned into this massive,
38:38
Speaker 2: long process and they wouldn't really tell me what what
38:42
Speaker 2: this what the details of this process was. They all
38:45
Speaker 2: these delays. They wanted me to get medical medical reports,
38:51
Speaker 2: and I got registration as well, so I've got registration
38:57
Speaker 2: whatever else I mean, then there were saying, you know,
39:00
Speaker 2: you're probably not going to start work with your with
39:02
Speaker 2: your colleagues, and so it took a lot of advocacine.
39:13
Speaker 2: It took a lot of support as well, you know,
39:14
Speaker 2: from the community, from the media, from other doctors and
39:19
Speaker 2: some politicians as well. Like it took a lot of
39:22
Speaker 2: work and advocacy to get the job initially and even
39:28
Speaker 2: since then, like in twenty eighteen, I was called coos
39:32
Speaker 2: Helts Junior Doctor of the Year. But even after that,
39:36
Speaker 2: I've you know, it's become a lot smooth sailing. Like
39:39
Speaker 2: I work in the ED and it's a great team
39:43
Speaker 2: and a great set of bosses that I work on it.
39:45
Speaker 2: But along the way I've still had some challenges where
39:49
Speaker 2: you know, no matter how hard you work and no
39:50
Speaker 2: matter how well you try to do, the people still
39:54
Speaker 2: ask questions. So I had a few bumps along the way,
39:58
Speaker 2: but I think now now I'm in a great spots
40:02
Speaker 2: and work works going smoothly. But it certainly took a
40:04
Speaker 2: lot of fighting to get here. But it's been worth it,
40:11
Speaker 2: you know. Like like I said, it's worth it for
40:13
Speaker 2: the patients. It's worth it for the people that I
40:16
Speaker 2: get to do things for, even though they're establishment wasn't
40:20
Speaker 2: as supportive.
40:25
Speaker 1: So here's my red herring question from left field. Do
40:30
Speaker 1: you have Is there a spiritual component to who you
40:33
Speaker 1: are and how you are? And if so, what does
40:36
Speaker 1: that look like you?
40:38
Speaker 2: If I had to put a label on it, I
40:40
Speaker 2: would say that I'm agnostic, but I often think about things,
40:44
Speaker 2: you know, like I often think about I think I'm
40:49
Speaker 2: still trying to find meaning in that whether there's something
40:54
Speaker 2: larger than me. But what gets me through is just
40:57
Speaker 2: trying to be a good person, you know, And it's
40:59
Speaker 2: really it's just the basics. Like you know, I was
41:06
Speaker 2: still going to have a friend the other week and
41:08
Speaker 2: she said, oh, you can tell a white life, like
41:12
Speaker 2: a white life is still a lie, right, So it's
41:14
Speaker 2: just about those basic qualities. And I'm trying to always
41:18
Speaker 2: try to make sure that a person of integrity, that
41:21
Speaker 2: I'm always giving back and I'm always trying to do
41:25
Speaker 2: good for the world, because I think that that's important. Spiritually,
41:31
Speaker 2: I think it's it's still a search because I also
41:35
Speaker 2: don't want to do something, you know, whether it be
41:37
Speaker 2: like a formalized faith system or whether it's something I
41:42
Speaker 2: don't want to do something just because to do it,
41:45
Speaker 2: like I really want to feel it, you know, if I.
41:47
Speaker 1: Was that And I think one of that, sorry, I
41:52
Speaker 1: think one of the compromises of I'm not saying people
41:58
Speaker 1: shouldn't be religious or they and belong to a faith
42:01
Speaker 1: or a church or a synagogue or a fill in
42:03
Speaker 1: the blank, but is that once you belong to that,
42:06
Speaker 1: then you kind of have to align on everything because
42:10
Speaker 1: you go, I'm a I practice this, you know, and
42:13
Speaker 1: then there's an element of freedom of thinking that goes
42:18
Speaker 1: out the window, because you know, your ideology and philosophy
42:22
Speaker 1: and thought process need to align with that particular theology
42:27
Speaker 1: or philosophy or way of being. I guess, but yeah,
42:29
Speaker 1: it's it just interested me because I think when I
42:36
Speaker 1: was training you might find this interesting. But I was
42:39
Speaker 1: training a year ago and a year ago and a
42:42
Speaker 1: week with my training partner. So it was literally about,
42:46
Speaker 1: you know, fifty three weeks ago. I was in the
42:48
Speaker 1: gym with my training partner, who's cutlety, is younger than me,
42:53
Speaker 1: very fit, very strong, very lean, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke,
42:56
Speaker 1: healthy lifestyle, all that stuff. Did a set of thirty
43:00
Speaker 1: chin ups the neesh, and because he's a journeyus, he
43:04
Speaker 1: held his breath the whole time. So held his breath
43:07
Speaker 1: for thirty chins, came down, had a cardiac arrest. Yeah,
43:12
Speaker 1: dude died on the gym floor. Dead. They're dead dead.
43:17
Speaker 1: So I started working on him, you know, straight instantly,
43:23
Speaker 1: Like there's like twenty seconds maybe within from when he exhaled,
43:28
Speaker 1: and you know, it was a bit there's a few
43:31
Speaker 1: things going on that we won't go into, but so
43:34
Speaker 1: I started working on him, and he was The paramedics
43:37
Speaker 1: got their ten minutes later, and he was dead for
43:39
Speaker 1: seventeen minutes. But it's just interesting how people go like
43:45
Speaker 1: when anyway, he's fine, now he's got a pacemaker, and
43:49
Speaker 1: they don't even know why because he didn't have a
43:50
Speaker 1: heart attack. He just arrested, and I think it could
43:56
Speaker 1: have been. He also had before training this progressing from
44:00
Speaker 1: your story, sorry but you might find it interesting. But
44:02
Speaker 1: before he trained, So this is the guy that doesn't drink,
44:06
Speaker 1: doesn't do drugs, all this, he used to have this
44:08
Speaker 1: pre workout kind of you know how some of the
44:12
Speaker 1: the groovers have pre workout stuff, right. And I looked
44:16
Speaker 1: at it, and he had a double dose. And I
44:19
Speaker 1: did the I did the calculations, and my best guess
44:23
Speaker 1: is and remember it's in about I don't know, one
44:27
Speaker 1: hundred mil of liquid, about the same as ten coffees.
44:31
Speaker 2: So that's insane.
44:33
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's you know, he's fifty three or whatever,
44:36
Speaker 1: fifty two, a moron, a lovable moron, but a moron.
44:41
Speaker 1: He's having ten coffees or the equivalent in one hundred
44:44
Speaker 1: mil of liquid and then holding his breath for thirty reps.
44:47
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, no, wonder you died, You fuck an idiot,
44:50
Speaker 1: And thank goodness you didn't do that when you're at
44:53
Speaker 1: home working under the car or something, you know. So,
44:57
Speaker 1: but it's funny because in that moment he Some people
45:00
Speaker 1: have these really life changing encounters or moments or and
45:05
Speaker 1: he's like, nah, it's like when to sleep for half
45:09
Speaker 1: an hour whatever. Absolutely, the people that you've worked with
45:14
Speaker 1: that have had you know, I just watched this weird
45:18
Speaker 1: show called The OA two seasons on Netflix. Don't watch
45:22
Speaker 1: it anyone, but it's a whole show about near death
45:25
Speaker 1: experiences and interdimensional travel. Clearly, I've got too much time
45:32
Speaker 1: on my hands, and this is why I'm struggling with
45:34
Speaker 1: my research. That just came to me. But anyway, you know,
45:40
Speaker 1: the people. Do you have much of this around people
45:44
Speaker 1: who have died or nearly died, or where there's some awakening,
45:48
Speaker 1: some big moment or revelation or spiritual wake up.
45:52
Speaker 2: See working in the ED.
45:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm getting yeah, because you're not with it
46:00
Speaker 1: that long out.
46:01
Speaker 2: But I think I've certainly had some thoughts because after
46:09
Speaker 2: this spine courting drug, the initial phases of such an injury,
46:14
Speaker 2: it's involved in so many complications. So I've been in
46:17
Speaker 2: the ICU a couple of times and I've been very,
46:19
Speaker 2: very sick from it. And those moments really do those
46:26
Speaker 2: moments really do make you think about life again a
46:29
Speaker 2: bit more and make you I think it's about going
46:33
Speaker 2: back to the basics, right and then doing that. But
46:36
Speaker 2: it's up. Certainly. There was a one time where I
46:41
Speaker 2: had an issue with my lung and they thought that
46:44
Speaker 2: it was cancer initially and waiting for that result, and
46:49
Speaker 2: you're just sitting there and going, oh my gosh, if yeah,
46:53
Speaker 2: please let this not be cancer and I will live
46:56
Speaker 2: an amazing life. Yes, So you do have those moments
47:01
Speaker 2: where things you start to think about things different, or
47:05
Speaker 2: you kind of reground yourself.
47:08
Speaker 1: And did you do you ever think who am I
47:10
Speaker 1: saying please to?
47:12
Speaker 2: Exactly?
47:13
Speaker 1: To whom is this? To? Whom is this person that
47:16
Speaker 1: I'm requesting this from? Yeah, I think that's Tom Cruise,
47:22
Speaker 1: Oprah Cruise. Definitely not Tom Cruise. Mate. Tell us about
47:30
Speaker 1: as I went through your series of interviews and you know,
47:35
Speaker 1: jumping from podcasts to videos and things. So you've you've
47:41
Speaker 1: got a partner, now, you've got a fiance. Now tell
47:43
Speaker 1: us about her relationships.
47:47
Speaker 2: I mean, that's another challenging thing, and I was I
47:52
Speaker 2: was thinking about this yesterday. I'm still in someone because
47:54
Speaker 2: it's not a it's not normal you know, inverted comments,
48:00
Speaker 2: it's not a normal thing. Like I can't I don't
48:05
Speaker 2: do some of the normal things like dance or hold
48:10
Speaker 2: hands and walk on the beach, for example, or whatever else.
48:13
Speaker 2: So it's it's very different. But I think you also
48:21
Speaker 2: start to realize maybe normal isn't so important, you know,
48:27
Speaker 2: maybe maybe it's about building a deeper connection and it's
48:32
Speaker 2: more about I think you start to value the fundamentals
48:36
Speaker 2: a bit more about that, like even physically, you know,
48:39
Speaker 2: and how long does that physical thing ask in a normal?
48:44
Speaker 1: And also and also what's normal? Dude, Like let's get
48:47
Speaker 1: let's get weird and philosophicalor what's normal? Normal is completely
48:51
Speaker 1: subjective because my normal would be your complete fucking madness.
48:55
Speaker 1: Your your normal would be my completely weird. Melissa's normal,
49:00
Speaker 1: Let's not even go there, because she's a whole project, right.
49:04
Speaker 1: That's she looks like Mary Poppins. It's a facade.
49:11
Speaker 2: Mary Proppins was probably freaky behind the scenes.
49:15
Speaker 1: She got crazy. Don't worry about that. But so has
49:19
Speaker 1: it been interesting for you too?
49:23
Speaker 2: You know?
49:24
Speaker 1: And as much or as little as you want to share,
49:26
Speaker 1: but I'm just talking about general relationship stuff. Has that
49:29
Speaker 1: been an interesting challenge? Navigating how do we do this?
49:33
Speaker 1: How do we do life together? How do we do relationship?
49:36
Speaker 1: How do we do marriage? How is that going to
49:38
Speaker 1: practically work? And yeah, we won't be walking on the
49:43
Speaker 1: beach anytime soon holding hands or dancing or you know,
49:47
Speaker 1: ten pin bowling.
49:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it is. And I was very reluctant to
49:52
Speaker 2: get into it actually, so for you know, ten years,
49:55
Speaker 2: I didn't really need anyone or engage in that. Of
50:00
Speaker 2: that is because I was, you know, consumed in my
50:04
Speaker 2: own things otherwise, but part of that is because I
50:07
Speaker 2: was thinking, how do I do this? Do I want
50:08
Speaker 2: to do it? Like what will it look like? And
50:12
Speaker 2: I guess the other aspect of that is I always
50:17
Speaker 2: have a lot of people in my close proximity, whether
50:20
Speaker 2: it be you know, my mom or my the boys
50:24
Speaker 2: that helped me out, whatever else. So a lot of
50:27
Speaker 2: it is very visible now, so that adds another dimension
50:33
Speaker 2: to the relationship. But I think you just take it
50:39
Speaker 2: one step at a time and and I think a
50:43
Speaker 2: lot of it is also in your own head. It
50:47
Speaker 2: was in my own head. You know, you're scared about
50:49
Speaker 2: a lot of things, You fear a lot of things,
50:51
Speaker 2: but then they're like, oh hey, actually this is okay
50:53
Speaker 2: and it works. So relationships were like that, but it's
50:57
Speaker 2: definitely not straightforward, and I think that's OK.
51:02
Speaker 1: Melissa, you watched the docco that I sent you. How
51:05
Speaker 1: much do you love? How much do you love Danesha's mom? Ah,
51:08
Speaker 1: she's gorgeous. Can you tell us maybe a bit about
51:11
Speaker 1: that relationship that you have with her because she seems
51:14
Speaker 1: so special.
51:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's an incredible woman. And you know, she's been
51:21
Speaker 2: a big part of my life since I was a kid.
51:25
Speaker 2: She's always been one that taught me that anything is possible.
51:33
Speaker 2: And other people around me when I was growing up.
51:36
Speaker 2: You know, I remember this conversation once where I wonder
51:41
Speaker 2: if I could be an astronaut and the responsors all, no,
51:44
Speaker 2: being an astronauts really hard, and only a couple of
51:46
Speaker 2: people get to that point, and you know, like that
51:51
Speaker 2: sort of response, and you do. I think you do
51:55
Speaker 2: so much damaged at kids thinking back, but it's really
51:59
Speaker 2: not what we need today. We need kids to be
52:02
Speaker 2: able to feel that they can do anything, be anything.
52:06
Speaker 2: So my mom was actually fortunately the opposite of that,
52:08
Speaker 2: and she always encouraged me to She helped me start
52:13
Speaker 2: my own business when I was in high school. I
52:20
Speaker 2: got flying lessons when I was in high school, she
52:24
Speaker 2: taught me how to drive She told me how to shave,
52:26
Speaker 2: She taught me how to do all this stuff, taught me,
52:29
Speaker 2: you know, how to look after my bank account, all that,
52:34
Speaker 2: and all these ideas like medical school, being a lawyer
52:38
Speaker 2: like she's she's made a big influence and even today,
52:42
Speaker 2: you know, my dad, their marriage didn't survive this accident,
52:47
Speaker 2: but she's been there every single day. I'm taking this
52:51
Speaker 2: journey with me, So we're really close and it's just
52:56
Speaker 2: a different relationship and I'm very grateful to have her
53:00
Speaker 2: in mamma, and it's just been an awesome thing, you know.
53:05
Speaker 2: But I guess that's another thing that it adds another
53:12
Speaker 2: unique dimension to another interpersonal relationship, because there's that as
53:17
Speaker 2: well amazing.
53:19
Speaker 1: She's gorgeous. I love my mom a lot. Your Mum's right.
53:25
Speaker 1: I brag about my mum and I saw your mom
53:27
Speaker 1: and I went, Mary, you've got some competition. Because bloody Belta.
53:35
Speaker 1: Where are we at for time? Melessa, We're about fifty
53:37
Speaker 1: five minutes in, all right, let's start to wind up.
53:42
Speaker 1: May tell us a little bit about doctors with disabilities Australia.
53:46
Speaker 2: That came about from you know, it was the issues
53:51
Speaker 2: that I had going through employment and there were some
53:55
Speaker 2: barriers that would put up for medical students with disabilities
53:58
Speaker 2: after it came back from me well as well. So
54:01
Speaker 2: Australia had this national policy that specified different physical capabilities
54:08
Speaker 2: that a medical student should have very explicitly and some
54:12
Speaker 2: even some interpersonal things, and it would have excluded me
54:17
Speaker 2: as a medical student if that was applied. So we
54:22
Speaker 2: me and this guy called Harry Emon, who is a
54:26
Speaker 2: guy a person preceded me. He got Gillan Barre syndrome
54:30
Speaker 2: and he was in medical school and used a wheelchair.
54:34
Speaker 2: And Hannah Jackson who's a GP in Tasmania. She has osteogenesism.
54:41
Speaker 2: Perfecto music will just so we got together and said,
54:44
Speaker 2: you know what, we need to start changing some of
54:45
Speaker 2: these things and sharing our experiences with people who want
54:49
Speaker 2: to navigate this maze that we have. That's how it
54:53
Speaker 2: came about, and it's been an awesome journey because those
54:57
Speaker 2: policies are being rewritten. Now we've done We've managed to
55:00
Speaker 2: chieve quite a few things in Australia around making medicine
55:06
Speaker 2: more inclusive. So it's been a really cool journey. Now
55:11
Speaker 2: we're looking at jeez, what's next.
55:15
Speaker 1: I saw you in one of the videos with some
55:18
Speaker 1: some Italian research dude who look like a bit of
55:22
Speaker 1: a journey us also putting some weird looking thing on
55:25
Speaker 1: your head which looked like a helmet with a bunch
55:28
Speaker 1: of wires and stuff. And you're on a bike and
55:33
Speaker 1: he is, and you are I think involved in some capacity.
55:37
Speaker 1: I'm fucking this up, so correct me. But with are
55:41
Speaker 1: they're looking at technology now that will kind of almost
55:45
Speaker 1: the electrical impulses will bypass the injury site to innovate
55:49
Speaker 1: the muscles to be able to walk or ride or like.
55:53
Speaker 1: Is that what they're looking at.
55:54
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, there's a bunch of studies going on in
55:59
Speaker 2: that area. The cool thing is we found there's so
56:04
Speaker 2: in about in or around twenty thirteen, there was a
56:07
Speaker 2: study in some rats or mice in Switzerland and they
56:11
Speaker 2: used electrical stimulation and drug therapy in mice with spinal
56:18
Speaker 2: cord injury, and using those therapies and after training them
56:21
Speaker 2: to walk again, these mice were able to voluntarily move
56:26
Speaker 2: their hind limbs again. After me, wow, So then they
56:31
Speaker 2: did autopsy on these mice and they found that after
56:34
Speaker 2: the lesion that they caused in the spinal cord injury,
56:37
Speaker 2: new neurons had grown back, so the board had pickened
56:40
Speaker 2: out again by about twenty five percent. So this is
56:44
Speaker 2: really exciting. And they've applied some of these therapies to
56:49
Speaker 2: humans with electrical stimulation drugs and also thought control using EG,
56:55
Speaker 2: which is what we're doing. So we put all these
56:57
Speaker 2: things together. In early human trials, they're found that the
57:00
Speaker 2: people are able to voluntarily move their things again for
57:03
Speaker 2: the first time in history. So it is happening. It's
57:06
Speaker 2: been shown to be possible, and we're building all this
57:09
Speaker 2: science here. So that's my that's what I do outside
57:12
Speaker 2: of clinical work, and you know, a part of that
57:17
Speaker 2: is actually engaging the mind and train you know, because
57:20
Speaker 2: with traditional rehab, people aren't actually engaged. They're not thinking
57:24
Speaker 2: about walking, they're not thinking that, but here you're forced
57:27
Speaker 2: to do that. And the drug therapy is actually an
57:31
Speaker 2: anti anxiety drug that's been around for ages. That's what's
57:35
Speaker 2: been used in a lot of these trials, and we
57:39
Speaker 2: you know, the hypothesis is that because if you use antidepressant,
57:43
Speaker 2: it doesn't really work that well without psychotherapy, right, you
57:47
Speaker 2: need and that's that's probably that's a training mechanism. So
57:51
Speaker 2: these drugs probably prime the nervous system for change and
57:55
Speaker 2: then you have to train it to change. So that's
57:59
Speaker 2: what we're doing and it's really exciting. We've got two
58:03
Speaker 2: million dollars from the Murtor Accident Insurance Commission the Queensland
58:07
Speaker 2: Government late last year and we're just plowing on with
58:10
Speaker 2: this work. And you know, I want to stand.
58:14
Speaker 1: Again one day.
58:15
Speaker 2: The last thing I did standing up voluntarily, the very
58:20
Speaker 2: last thing was hug my mom. Wow, And that was
58:23
Speaker 2: a super cool thing. I'm glad I did that. So
58:28
Speaker 2: who was listening, Guys, Hug your mom, Hug whoever you
58:30
Speaker 2: love every day. You never know it might be the
58:34
Speaker 2: last thing that you do. And I want to do
58:36
Speaker 2: that again.
58:38
Speaker 1: Well that'll be the first thing you do when you
58:40
Speaker 1: stand next time. Now, I definitely don't make me crime
58:43
Speaker 1: on podcast. I'll have to come up and kick you
58:45
Speaker 1: in the fucking wheelchair. You would, Yeah, of course I would.
58:51
Speaker 2: I'm heartless.
58:54
Speaker 1: Tell us if people want to connect with you or
58:58
Speaker 1: I know who's done in undating with a million questions
59:02
Speaker 1: and all that, But if people want you, are you
59:04
Speaker 1: available for speaking gigs and all that kind of stuff
59:07
Speaker 1: for what's the deal? Or if people want to follow
59:09
Speaker 1: you on social media? Or how does that work?
59:13
Speaker 2: So I have no social media except LinkedIn, so call
59:17
Speaker 2: me on LinkedIn. I'm also I think on the Griffith
59:22
Speaker 2: University website you should be able to contact me as well,
59:27
Speaker 2: so I feel free to get in touch, love to chat, yeah,
59:33
Speaker 2: and moreays available to talk about any cool things that
59:38
Speaker 2: you want to do.
59:39
Speaker 1: Well. You are an inspiring human and I don't say
59:41
Speaker 1: that lightly. You're amazing, and I'm sure we can't but
59:45
Speaker 1: if there's anything we can do in our tiny, humble
59:47
Speaker 1: little podcast down here to support you, or if you
59:52
Speaker 1: know we can my my family of listeners can support
59:56
Speaker 1: you or help you or help our cause in some way,
59:59
Speaker 1: let us know and hopefully we can have you back
1:00:02
Speaker 1: again and go deeper on a few things. But we
1:00:04
Speaker 1: really appreciate your time today, mate.
1:00:06
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, thanks for having me and vice versa. If
1:00:10
Speaker 2: that can be of help to you or any of
1:00:13
Speaker 2: your listeners, reach.
1:00:14
Speaker 1: Out, stop it stopp being such a good human now.
1:00:17
Speaker 1: I feel you're amazing. Listen, do you want to say
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Speaker 1: goodbye to our friends? Stay on the call, mate, We'll
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1:00:24
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Denesh.
1:00:26
Speaker 1: That was absolutely fascinating, So thank you so much for
1:00:30
Speaker 1: taking the time. We really do appreciate it. Thanks for
1:00:33
Speaker 1: having me guys, Thanks mate, Thanks everyone, Love you, Gut
1:00:36
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