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Season 2 - Episode 203 - Our addiction to chaos · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Oh, look at him on the money
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  with that one. So today we are talking about
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  our addiction to chaos. And I know this is going to be a
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  hard conversation for some people to listen to and admit
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  that they have this problem, but some people are addicted to
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  chaos. So what does that look like?
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  What do I mean when I say that? Well, if you know, let's say you
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  have a household and that household is chaotic every
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  single morning. You wake up and it's just hell
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  getting your kids out the door and you just can't find your
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  keys and the dogs are annoying you.
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  The kids can't get their stuff together.
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  You know this is this and this is a regular occurrence.
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  Now this is not a one off, this is a regular occurrence because
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  we all have these one off chaotic days, right?
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  But I'm talking about this being a regular occurrence for you.
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  There is a great chance. That this chaos has become part
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  of a pattern, which is a pattern of addiction to having it
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  happen. And we get something from it,
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  because if we hang on to things, we get something from them.
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  And that could be the story we get to tell about it, how
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  terrible our mornings are. It could be the.
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  Feeling that we get from it of being able to go to our partners
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  and complain that Oh my gosh, you're not doing enough and you
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  don't understand how crazy it is and I can't do this all by
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  myself, blah blah blah. There is an addiction to that
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  and we need to stop the madness because the chaos is real and it
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  is put out there all around us all the time if you're taking a
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  news. You know how chaotic it is.
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  I mean, if if you've been a human being and been alive over
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  the last three years, you understand the craziness that
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  has been put upon us, whether you know you believe it
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  politically, you don't believe it politically.
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  Whatever it is, the chaos that has been thrown our way through
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  the pandemic, through just hearing about Monkey Pox,
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  whatever it might be. Everything has been so amped up,
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  so high level and so chaotic that we have become desensitized
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  to even recognizing it in ourselves.
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  And if we jump back to the example I was using about your
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  own house in the morning and the chaos that you experience, if
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  that's happening for you on some level, you have to look and say,
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  wait, I'm in control. It's my house.
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  It's your house. It's your morning.
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  And I'm letting this happen now. I can assure you, if there's one
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  thing that I am rigid about, it's my non chaotic mornings
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  because it sets the tone for the day.
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  If you can get a handle on the mornings, you have a better
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  chance of managing the chaos throughout your day.
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  It's just a benchmark. If you go into it in the right
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  mindset, you're going to be able to come through it with the
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  right mindset. But you've got to.
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  Start at the beginning. You got to start and look at
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  your morning and say, OK, am I creating this chaos as a habit?
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  Have I become addicted to it? Have I just been allowing it?
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  Have I been ditching the the information giving to me because
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  I don't want to deal with it? So what's so important is for
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  you to look at the whole morning as a baseline and say where is
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  it coming from, what's happening?
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  Where? Where are the downfalls?
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  Where are the things that that are my glitches?
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  Where are the things that give me issues?
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  And I don't care if it's small, tiny things like in my world, if
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  we don't have the, you know, dishwashers turned on the night
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  before, or at least set on so that it will wash overnight,
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  then you wake up in the morning. You don't.
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  You have dirty dishes. You don't have enough of what
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  you need. You don't have enough
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  silverware. You don't have somebody's
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  favorite cup. That causes chaos.
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  That's something that can start the downhill slide immediately.
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  So the prep work for a great morning does start the night
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  before. So you have to look and see, OK,
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  where, well, where are my hiccups?
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  Because if you don't look at where the problems are from a
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  very neutral standpoint, And what do I mean by that?
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  If you're in the heat of the moment, it's very hard.
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  To discern what has to happen because you'll just start
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  blaming other people. But if you sit down today when
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  you were in a very non immediate emotional state about it, let's
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  say you're outside your house and you're thinking about, OK,
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  let me let me go through a normal morning Now you're not in
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  the chaos right now. So you can actually think about
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  the chaos and come back with a pretty solid, definitive line of
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  how it works in your morning, and you can lay it out and say
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  without emotion being triggered. That's the way to look at it and
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  then figure out where can I take these these hiccups and get rid
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  of them. You know, I want, I want them
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  gone. I don't want to have this chaos
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  be part of my life anymore, but it has to start somewhere and
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  that benchmark is you identifying it.
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  So my suggestion would be that today when you were in a neutral
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  place when you are non emotional.
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  Start thinking about your chaos. Start thinking about, and it
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  might be that you know, as you're going through this,
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  you're like, it's not really my mornings, it's my evenings.
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  It's when I come home, or it might be when I get to the
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  office. That's when all hell breaks
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  loose. Sure, this is, this can happen
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  anywhere, but typically it all starts in the morning, waking up
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  late, not having the clothes you wanted.
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  Somebody can't find a shoe and it sets the tone of the entire
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  day. Sometimes it sets the tone for
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  the entire week. So I challenge you today to take
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  that on, look at it, see if you can figure out those pieces and
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  then set yourself up to win. I will talk to you tomorrow.
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  Bye.