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Diva Mia: Manifest Your Dreams and Transform with the Power of a Morning Routine for Optimum Success · The Diva Details

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Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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Well, hello, this is Diva Mia, and today I want to talk to you a little bit
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about making every year great.
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I think there's several secrets that you need to think about when you're thinking
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about making your year great.
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And it doesn't matter when you're starting. It could be the middle of the year.
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ISO, maybe you're starting halfway through the year and you're planning for the rest of the year.
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Making every year great really does start with just something very simple,
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and that's your mornings.
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I think people work too hard thinking that they have to make every minute of
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every day count, and it's not true.
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Mornings are so important. Scientifically and psychologically,
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the morning routine, as soon as you get it started, will set the pace for your entire day.
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A consistent morning can make you have a good day. It'll improve your mood,
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your focus, your productivity, and it creates long-term habits that you can
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develop for the rest of your life.
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They always say if you're working out to work out in the mornings because that
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way you make sure you get it done.
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Anything that's very important for you to do, even if you don't really want
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to do it, you should do it in the morning.
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And great mornings lead to great days, and great days compound into great years.
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So if you can focus on making your mornings spectacular, you'll do better.
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Now, there's a book out there. It's called The Miracle Morning Framework.
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And I highly, highly recommend it if you really want to have a successful life.
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And there's a tip in it. It's called the Savers Method.
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And every morning, it's a routine that you can do, and it starts with silence
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or meditation and prayer.
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And meditation, they've proven to actually reset your whole nervous system.
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So if you can start each morning with silence or,
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And if you're a religious person, if you pray or if you just meditate,
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it's going to really start your morning off.
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Now, I do not recommend doing this in bed because if you're like me and you
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go silent and you try to meditate, you might fall right back to sleep.
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So when you meditate and you have silence and prayer, you need to do it somewhere.
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If you're waking up in the morning and the sun's coming up, it's great to meditate
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outside if the climate allows.
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If not you should have a place in your house that you can meditate at every
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morning that way you consistently do it and you know where to go next in the
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savers method is to have affirmations.
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And affirmations are things that you can say most of the time people recommend
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saying it to themselves in the mirror like i am successful or i make seven figures
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there whatever it is for you whatever affirmation that you need,
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but it needs to be consistent.
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And you say it every day. And it's great self-talk. It'll help your self-talk.
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It'll help your mindset.
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It'll help your self-image. And never say nasty things to yourself.
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Say you've got this. Say you can do it. Always encourage yourself whenever you're talking to yourself.
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And then you should visualize. So if you have a goal or a dream in mind.
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I recommend having a vision board. The vision board is wonderful.
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You can take a look at it, then you can close your eyes. Now don't do it on the bed again.
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You might fall back to sleep or in a lazy boy chair. But visualize and rehearse
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your goals as if they've already existed.
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This is kind of the law of attraction tied in here too.
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If you can visualize you already having what you want or you already being the
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person that you want to be, that's half the battle.
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This will help you get to your goals faster. I am one for attracting things
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and manifesting things.
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And I will tell you, when I do
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this process, things tend to just fall into place for me. Things work out.
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Like I never expected them to. And then after you've done, so you've done your
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silence, you've done your affirmation, and you've done your visualization,
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the next thing is exercise. So you're going to exercise in the morning.
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I like to walk, personally. I like to walk on an empty stomach.
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Before you've had anything to eat, you can have some water if you need to,
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but exercising in the morning and getting a nice little walk-in,
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especially if you can do it outside as the sun's coming up.
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That morning helps you reset your internal clock, your sleep cycle.
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It makes you feel empowered to walk outside in the morning.
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You could lift weights, but going from visualization to lifting weights may be a lot on your body.
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Personally, I think even just a 15-20 minute walk in the morning is a wonderful thing to start.
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I like to walk for at least an hour, but exercising every morning gives you
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energy, gives you health, and you'll just feel so successful that you've already accomplished this.
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I exercise on the treadmill, and I will do personal development, which is the R.
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So, so far we've done SAVER R, or SAVE R, and personal development can be some type of education,
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self-help book, something that's going to motivate you, something that you need
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to maybe learn about, but reading is a wonderful way to do it.
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You can read, you can also listen to audible books if your eyes aren't the best,
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but some type of way to do personal development.
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And the s in savers is
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scribing now this is is journaling i know
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if you've listened to my podcast i'm huge about writing
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things down but journaling should also
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you know write down what you're grateful for and your
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intentions for the day if you don't have a list of things you're going to get
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done today make your priority list and then journal and write your thoughts
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down and be grateful for everything you have i am big at doing gratitude at
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night as well because when you go to bed thinking how grateful you are and then
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you wake up in the morning grateful that you woke up.
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I mean, you gotta be grateful about that because some people didn't.
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So every day, just be grateful for what you have, write it down,
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and that's the saver method. So that's a great way to do a morning routine.
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I also like to expand upon this is the best time to wake up,
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I think, is between five and six, but I've been finding myself lately waking
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up even earlier at four so that I can get everything done in around the house,
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as well as my exercise in before my children even wake up.
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So if you have children, it's a great way to be accomplished in the morning.
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Now, I will say sometimes when I wake up at four o'clock and I get a lot of
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work done first thing in the morning, sometimes I do need a nap later in the
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day. So I do warn you about that.
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So if you don't have time for that, four o'clock might be a little early for
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you, but who knows? Four o'clock might be great depending on what time you go to bed.
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You should also come up with a sequence of activities that help you focus and
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regulate your emotions. I think the meditation is great.
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I also like doing yoga in the morning. If I can get yoga in after I walk,
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it's wonderful because then I feel stretched and alive.
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And if you're able to, doing yoga outside is even better.
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And then I have a morning playlist. It lets me dance around the house.
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Honestly, it gets me pumped and ready to go and makes me happy for the day.
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I also have natural lights installed in my living room and my kitchen so that
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it's a sunlight, natural sunlight, kind of.
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It's about as close as you can get without the real thing. And that helps as
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well. It gives you like an energy boost.
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Some people jump in cold plunges in the morning. Some people do breath work
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in the morning. it depends on what works for you.
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Some people even do saunas in the morning. I like to do saunas personally at
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night because then I sleep better.
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But if you want to do some type of energizing ritual in the morning, you can do that.
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And then of course, the journal essential oils also wake me up.
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So if you have any essential oils like eucalyptus or things like that,
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they might be able to help you wake up.
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And then don't shock yourself out of sleep.
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First thing in the morning, you need to have a calm alarm wake you up,
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but only if you can't actually wake up to it.
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I tend to sleep with an eye mask at night so that I sleep soundly and there's
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no light coming into my eyes.
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So any type of alarm in the morning will tend to wake me up.
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It's just I have to make sure not to go back to sleep. So that's my big thing.
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I don't know how it is for you, but you got to do what works for you.
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So some of the affirmations that you might want to tell yourself in the morning,
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it helps to rewire your brain.
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If you've been overweight, maybe you need to say, I'm in shape,
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I'm fit, I'm getting healthier every day.
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Or I am in the best shape of my life. And maybe you are.
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And you can't say something that's lying, but I feel like I'm in the best shape
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of my life and getting better every day.
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And so as soon as you get to that point, you're like, wow, this is really great.
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Or maybe you want to compete in something.
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I'm a competitor in a bodybuilding competition or I'm a power lifter or I'm
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a marathoner or a triathlete, whatever you'd like to say, those are positive
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affirmations. And I win first place. How about that?
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And whatever your goals are, have them in line. Okay.
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And then for like money, you can say I make six figures or I make seven figures every single year.
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Money comes to me easily and frequently. All those are positive affirmations.
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If you want to watch the movie, The Secret, that kind of goes over the self-talk
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mornings that will help you get through the day and make you stronger and better.
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Making a great year can start at any time. And I do want to preface this as
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people go through a lot of stuff. And,
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When you're down and out, if you can make your mornings amazing,
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you will find that your days get better, your weeks get better,
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your months get better, and it really does turn the tide into a successful life.
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So let's work focused on our mornings. And then after your morning power hour
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or your morning two hour power hour, however long it takes you to complete.
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Then you to have a schedule and your mornings have to be fully scheduled to
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about one or two o'clock.
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Because if you can get your mornings done and you
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can work diligently until one or two o'clock minimum and you can stay focused
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and you have everything planned out the night before you're going to have a
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successful day because what tends to happen is if you don't have things planned
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out by the time stuff starts happening everybody else is going to take your time,
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and other projects at work will take over or other things that maybe aren't
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as high priority as you need them to be in order to feel successful for the year.
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So let's focus on only the things that matter to make us successful.
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Once you do that, the other stuff falls away. Now, I'm not saying don't pay
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your bills because everybody's got to pay bills, but maybe consolidate it into
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one day a month that you're looking at bills or two days a month that you're looking at bills.
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Get them all paid twice a month, and that way you don't have to worry about them on a daily basis.
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I know some people, they'll open up their email. they have a bill,
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they go into their bank account, they don't have auto pay set up,
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they should, and then they process the payment and every single day they spend
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an hour on bills. That's not a good way to go.
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Let's focus on the things that really matter, the things that will get you to
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your goals and your mindset.
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There's another couple apps that you might want to look into.
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There's an app called Calm, which will help you as well as meditation.
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There's some motivational quote apps, Insight Timer, there's Motivate.
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There's actually an app called Motivate.
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Those types of apps will help you stay on target.
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You can also set up reminders. If you need a reminder to stand up and walk for
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five minutes every hour, set up a reminder on your phone.
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But make sure you do it. And meditation, a minimum of five minutes,
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that's not too much to ask.
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I highly recommend it. Again, just don't do it in bed. You'll fall back to sleep.
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And then make sure that you are happy with your goals because I think sometimes
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people set goals and they're not the ones that people actually want.
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They're the ones that society has told them that they need or their partner
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has told them that they need.
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But if that's not what you want, make a shift and make a change now because
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you're the only one that can determine exactly what you want and exactly what
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you need and you're the one that needs to transform your life.
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No one else can do that for you. It's all up to you.
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If you have a plan and you have goals and you have your vision board,
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the next step is then just to get your miracle morning down,
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get all the steps down that you need to for the day, write your task list,
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and then you're going to be successful.
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You're going to come out of the morning and you're going to say,
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oh my gosh, I got everything done. I needed it done and it's not even noon because
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I found, honestly, I overestimate the amount of time some things take for me to do.
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If you can get better at estimation on time, you're going to find that you'll
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get more done in the morning.
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And then what you'll do is you'll have the afternoon to just take a breath,
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plan for the next day, and then you can hit the other projects that maybe are
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secondary that need to also get done, but you didn't have time to get done in the morning.
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Your morning has to be your high priority stuff. If health is important to you,
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you got to get your workouts done in the morning.
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Now, I know some people, they say that, well, they'll do it in the evening.
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But what tends to happen is, oh, you've had a long day at work.
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And now what do you do? You go home and you're like, oh, I'm too tired to work out.
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In the morning, I think that if you can get that morning workout in and done,
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you're going to be so much more successful.
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Because if you're going to skip, a lot of people skip the evening.
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Because what happens is things happen. Work gets exhausting.
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The children have an emergency. or you're just tired and you come home and you're
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like, oh, I can't do it. I've been working all day.
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But if it's already done in your morning, you're gonna have more energy.
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You're gonna feel healthy and it's gonna give you more energy long-term.
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So just remember that you have the ability to do anything you want.
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And if you can fix your mornings, you can fix your year.
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If you can fix your mornings, you fix your days and your days compound into successful year.
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So my challenge for you is to make a morning routine that you don't miss.
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Find a time that you can wake up, make that morning routine.
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And I also have a checklist of things I have to do each day that's for the full week.
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And each day is different. And every day I actually just check it off.
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I don't know why that's so rewarding to me to actually check off things that
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I accomplished. But then at the end of the week, I can look back and say,
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you know, I didn't hit my goal. And here's why.
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I missed this day, this day and this day. I can't do that. So you're like your
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own self accountability partner at that point.
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If you're not hitting your health goals, are you getting to the gym what you
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said you were going to do?
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Because people have a short memory sometimes. They're like, oh,
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no matter what I do, I just don't hit my health goals or I don't lose the weight
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I want or I'm not bulking or building the way I want.
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And then you look at their schedule and they're like, oh, well,
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I only made it to the gym once this week or I only made it to them twice this week.
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And I walked for 5,000 steps. I mean, come on.
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If you're barely getting off the couch, you can't expect to get in good shape.
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If you're that much of a couch potato, good luck losing the weight you want.
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If you're not hitting your financial goals, well, maybe it's because,
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oh, you were supposed to make 100 calls on Monday and you made five.
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So track what needs to be tracked in order for you to succeed at the level you need to succeed.
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And only you can write that down. I always recommend working backwards from
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your goals. So set your goals.
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And I take my goal, and what I end up doing is what I think I need to do for
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the year is I double it, and then I divide it by four.
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So let's say I wanted to make $400,000 this year.
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I could double it to eight, and then I'd say, okay, let's shoot for $200,000
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a quarter, and let's do everything we can to make that $200,000 in a quarter.
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The reason why I do things quarterly instead of annually is It's easier to keep track of.
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And if you get off target, it's easier to adjust.
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And this allows me for half the year, if I get to $400,000 and that's all I
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needed, I have a choice. I can keep going after the first two quarters and get
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to my $800,000 for the year.
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Or I might even take a month off if I wanted to.
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See how things can be adjusted. You then have freedom of your schedule.
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You then are free. you have power over you.
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So remember that if you want whatever your goals are, you can do more because
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there are other people out there doing more.
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Just always have a growth mindset. Always try to do more.
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Always encourage yourself to do more. And just because it hasn't been done yet,
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it just means you haven't been the one to do it yet.
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So you can achieve anything you want.
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Because you're you, and you're unique, and if you want something bad enough, you will find a way.
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Now, the last thing I have to say about this is, I think sometimes we as women
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will multitask too much.
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We take on 10 or 15 or 20 goals simultaneously, and we try to get them all done,
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and they all kind of, they fizzle.
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Or they're done halfway, and they're not done to that level that we need to
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get them done to actually truly succeed.
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So I recommend not doing more than a couple goals at a time.
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You can work on your health, you can work on your finances, but you need to
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have one or two priorities.
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Don't have 10 because what will happen is none of them will get done.
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So scale it back, do a quarterly year.
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That way, if maybe the first quarter you're working on your health,
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the second quarter you're working on your finances, the third quarter you're
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working on something else.
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Now, it doesn't mean you can't do little bits in each area,
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but your primary focus has to get done in
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the morning your primary focus has to get done
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every single day no excuses and you
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need to know what it's going to take to achieve that in a quarter and
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then do it so i hope this helped a little bit i'm a person that really thinks
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that you have to dream big i think you have to set high goals i think that you
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have to shoot for those goals And I think it's important to do until the day
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we die Because if we're not growing,
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we're dying as far as I'm concerned So go out there,
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dream big, achieve more And heal, all of this will help you heal If you're going
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through any struggles, job loss Your kids have gone off to college You got through
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a divorce or a bad relationship.
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All of this will help you heal So dream big, become you So,
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And love yourself because you're an amazing person. There's only one of you
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in the entire world. God made you super special and made you for a purpose.
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I do hope this helped. I hope that you will grow and change and be the very best that you can be.
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And that no one will be able to stop you because you're amazing. I wish you all the best.
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Have a wonderful week. Take care. Bye-bye.
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