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Ay Por Favor: Ask Us Anything · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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  Speaker 1: With Alexia Napola and Marisa Patton an iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hi guys, Hi everyone, Hi Amiga, come with.
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  Speaker 1: Das Yomi Yang. I was so excited to see her face.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't seen it in a few days.
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  Speaker 2: I know I missed your beautiful face too, and talking.
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  Speaker 2: But I know we've been really busy with our lives.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry.
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  Speaker 2: I love that I have this little time with you
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  Speaker 2: and we get to chat. He me out on Boco
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  Speaker 2: and ask each other questions.
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  Speaker 1: We have a bunch of questions from our followers.
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  Speaker 3: I love it, and a lot of answers.
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  Speaker 2: I guess we're going to be answering all those questions
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  Speaker 2: that everybody wants to know.
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  Speaker 1: So I remember the first time I met Todd, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure you remember the first time you met Steve.
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  Speaker 1: And one of the questions was what was our first
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  Speaker 1: impressions of each other's you know, now husbands.
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  Speaker 2: So what was your first impression of Todd to Todd?
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  Speaker 1: Todd I thought was really funny. I was like, this
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  Speaker 1: guy's really funny. He had like this New York vibed
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  Speaker 1: him and he would just like do these like I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, he just he was funny and he was quick,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I like quick, I like funny. He
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  Speaker 1: talked a lot, he was very engaging, he was obviously
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  Speaker 1: not hard on the eyes, and I thought, this guy's
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  Speaker 1: really fun. I hope this is like, this works out
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  Speaker 1: because I liked, you know, hanging out with him and
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  Speaker 1: double dating.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, well that was many years ago, because you obviously
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  Speaker 2: met Todd. Wait before I met Steve. Because when I
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  Speaker 2: met Todd, you were with.
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  Speaker 1: We were double dating with somebody else.
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  Speaker 3: Oh god, Okay, I kind of slipped there, But that's
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  Speaker 3: because you've been my friends.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's life.
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  Speaker 3: That's fine. You know, we all have a past. Yep.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, so I remember that as well. I mean
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  Speaker 3: I remember you having a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Of fun with Todd because you do have that sense
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  Speaker 2: of ye or like he does, and and the joking
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  Speaker 2: and he's really clever.
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  Speaker 3: So you do have those similarities with him. Maybe that's
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  Speaker 3: why I like you so much.
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  Speaker 1: I told you you married Todd because he reminded you
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  Speaker 1: of me. I've been saying it forever.
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  Speaker 3: For sure about Steve. So I heard a lot about
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  Speaker 3: Steve before I actually got.
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  Speaker 2: To meet him, because you were like hugging him up
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  Speaker 2: for yourself.
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  Speaker 3: You were like not sharing him with anybody yet.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I remember when you first met Steve and
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  Speaker 2: you were just like with him, like twenty four seven,
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  Speaker 2: which I loved because, by the way, I think that's
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  Speaker 2: really important before the women actually share the partner they're with,
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  Speaker 2: they need to make sure that he's like shareable, like
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  Speaker 2: that you want other people to meet him.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I had already been burned with sharing beforehand and
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  Speaker 1: announcing and you know, introducing someone to everybody before.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I'm really careful with that, and I think that
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  Speaker 2: that's an advice that I give all my friends, Like
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  Speaker 2: before you bring him out there and introduce him to
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  Speaker 2: the whole group, you know, make sure that you know
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  Speaker 2: he deserves it and that you really like him. And yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you never know about the future at that point,
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  Speaker 2: but like you really need to be excited about him.
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  Speaker 2: And sure, I mean, I just don't like to like
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  Speaker 2: introduce you know, my guy. I agree with a lesson
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  Speaker 2: to something. And of course I've learned that you know,
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  Speaker 2: with age and it was with and with wisdom.
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  Speaker 1: It took us a long time to figure that one out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I think when you're younger, you just
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  Speaker 2: don't know any better. And you're so excited and you
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  Speaker 2: kind of want to, like you introduce him to parents. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: but how I always say, like, make sure that it's
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  Speaker 2: like you know, it's solidified and like you know it's
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  Speaker 2: locked down before you bring him out there.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 2: But nobody asked me for my advice right now, and
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  Speaker 2: you're actually asking me what my first impression about Steve was.
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  Speaker 1: That was the question advice I was. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: me too. I think the song I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Usually like used to that too.
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  Speaker 2: And so when I met Steve, I had heard so
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  Speaker 2: much about him, and I was so excited to meet him,
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  Speaker 2: and he was everything and more that you told me about.
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  Speaker 2: I was really happy for you because he was. He
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  Speaker 2: was great like you and him made the cutest couple.
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  Speaker 2: It was like, you guys look good together, and then
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  Speaker 2: when you were together, you were sewing to each other.
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  Speaker 2: You're sweet and loving. He was sweet and loving. It
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  Speaker 2: was like, you know, do mommy, like your mom put
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  Speaker 2: him there for you to say, like this is the man.
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  Speaker 2: And your dad too, by the way, because your dad
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  Speaker 2: would have loved somebody like seeing Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well I think they were trying to show me
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  Speaker 1: this is what love is supposed to be, like, this
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  Speaker 1: is what a good loving relationship is. Like, I really
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  Speaker 1: hadn't known. I thought I had known many times, but
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know until now. Yeah, what it's supposed to
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  Speaker 1: be never too.
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  Speaker 3: Late, It's never too late.
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  Speaker 2: I thought he came out the perfect time and you
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  Speaker 2: were ready for it, and he was so.
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  Speaker 3: Cute, he was so sweet, and.
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  Speaker 1: That's it.
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  Speaker 2: That's why you ended up like marrying him, And you know,
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  Speaker 2: you guys are good because I felt like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you belong together.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we did. We belong together. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I love that we all get along and
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  Speaker 3: we love to go out and have fun because we
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  Speaker 3: kind of like all like yeah, right, Todd and Steve
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  Speaker 3: they like each other each other from the day they
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  Speaker 3: first met. And it's great, you know, because it's really
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  Speaker 3: good to be able to go out with another couple,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like, oh, so we have things in common,
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  Speaker 3: we like to do the same things. Yeah, and you know,
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  Speaker 3: we just like to have fun.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, though, when did you know that you can spend
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  Speaker 2: the rest of your life with this man?
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  Speaker 3: With Steve?
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  Speaker 1: I actually.
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  Speaker 3: I actually remember.
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  Speaker 2: I want you to answer it because I remember having
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  Speaker 2: this conversation with you, my friend.
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  Speaker 1: So my answer to that is every day that goes by,
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  Speaker 1: it reconfirms for me. So the longer I'm with him,
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  Speaker 1: the more I realize I can't ever be with anybody else,
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  Speaker 1: like this is the person. I'm going to change his diapers,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna you know, clean out his feeding to whatever
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  Speaker 1: I have to do. I'm gonna be with him till
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  Speaker 1: the end because I really like this is it. And
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  Speaker 1: the more I'm with him, the more I feel solidified
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  Speaker 1: in that decision that that's that's it for me.
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  Speaker 3: But I remember, so I'm gonna you know, I'm a
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  Speaker 3: particular date.
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  Speaker 1: You're better with dates than me, but I know that.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to stick to the question and I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to answer it for you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So the question is when did you know that Steve
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  Speaker 2: was like the man you were going to spend the
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  Speaker 2: rest of your life with. So I remember, like talking
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  Speaker 2: to you, I remember you never leaving there, never.
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  Speaker 3: Leaving like Steve's siety.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I remember those days, and I remember like you
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  Speaker 2: talking about him like all the time, every single day,
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  Speaker 2: and you're telling me, oh my god, I'm so happy, Alex, say,
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  Speaker 2: like you don't understand Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, it's so in love. This is like the
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  Speaker 3: best man in the world. Oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: So one day you just said, oh my god, I'm
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  Speaker 2: like in love with this man, like I can feel
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  Speaker 2: like I can marry him and just be with him
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  Speaker 2: for the rest of my life. And I was like,
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  Speaker 2: oh wow, Like okay, that's like it's so tough for
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  Speaker 2: because it was, like I think it wasn't even like
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  Speaker 2: the first three months you were already saying that you knew. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of like you knew.
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  Speaker 1: I always know and then I'm always wrong.
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  Speaker 3: But no, but I think that way because you don't
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  Speaker 3: take the risk.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know I've made exactly, you have to take
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  Speaker 1: the risk. You said it. If you don't take the risk,
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  Speaker 1: you don't you know.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a risk taker. I mean me too. I don't
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  Speaker 3: love a challenge. I love a challenge. With me, I
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  Speaker 3: kind of had the same situation you did. You know,
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  Speaker 3: you know, we're like in love with love and we
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  Speaker 3: know rights, like we know.
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  Speaker 1: What we love putting on a wedding dress, don't we
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  Speaker 1: or not right?
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  Speaker 2: But what I'm trying to say is like, so with Todd,
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  Speaker 2: I felt the same thing when we met, and I
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  Speaker 2: feel like two months later he asked me to go
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  Speaker 2: with him to Los Angeles and we went to LA
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  Speaker 2: and I think like day three or four being there,
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  Speaker 2: like this is so unlike me because I'm not that
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  Speaker 2: expressive emotionally, especially with you know, something relatively new. And
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  Speaker 2: I told him I must have been drunk, by the way,
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  Speaker 2: because I told him last time I felt like this.
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  Speaker 2: Last time I felt like this about a man, I
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  Speaker 2: married him, and I remember him like, like.
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  Speaker 3: No words because it's true.
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  Speaker 2: So you know, I had been like single for a
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  Speaker 2: year and I was, you know, just going out and
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  Speaker 2: having fun.
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  Speaker 3: I threw it out there.
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  Speaker 2: Was so weird, I think because I'm you know, I'm
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  Speaker 2: so real and so genuine, I'll tend to like it
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  Speaker 2: just came out from my heart. So I just told
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  Speaker 2: him like I'm kind of to me like I'm not
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  Speaker 2: trying to marry you, but okay, like I think he
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  Speaker 2: kind of.
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  Speaker 3: Like, bro, He's like, okay, I like you, like, we're
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  Speaker 3: just dating.
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  Speaker 1: But it was weird because we're not just dating.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: What I'm saying is no, I'm but first of all,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not that person. But I don't know, like how
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  Speaker 2: that came out. But what I'm trying to tell you,
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  Speaker 2: it's kind of like you know, like in your gut,
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  Speaker 2: it's obviously not happened to me.
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  Speaker 3: It's happened to me three times.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why I've been married three times, because it's
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  Speaker 2: kind of like you know when you're gonna that this
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  Speaker 2: is the guy you're gonna marry, obviously for different reasons
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  Speaker 2: at different times in your life. But when I'm saying,
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  Speaker 2: like with Todd, I I knew, like I looked at
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  Speaker 2: him and I said, oh my god, because I guess
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  Speaker 2: because being alone for that year that I was on
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  Speaker 2: my own and I was going out and having fun,
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't felt that with any man, so like with
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  Speaker 2: him on this trip, I did and I just kind.
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  Speaker 3: Of like blurred it out and yeah, and the rest
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  Speaker 3: is history. You know.
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  Speaker 2: Three years later we got engaged and we've been married
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  Speaker 2: since then, so we've been together for six and a
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  Speaker 2: half years. Yeah, So, like, what do you think do
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  Speaker 2: you feel like, since like I knew, I felt that
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  Speaker 2: way about Todd, do you think guys also know when
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  Speaker 2: it's like the girl and when they're ready for that,
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  Speaker 2: like you know, when they know that this is the
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  Speaker 2: girl I want to spend the rest of my life with,
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  Speaker 2: and I kid it's her.
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  Speaker 1: I can only speak from different men that I've known
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  Speaker 1: that were like bachelors forever. They have all said to me,
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  Speaker 1: I knew she was the one. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: they knew or how they knew, but they knew she
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  Speaker 1: was the one. There's something that happens, and that happens
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  Speaker 1: to them too, they know.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it's something different.
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  Speaker 2: It's like we have something different than none of the
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  Speaker 2: other ones I've had.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So don't come after us because you're be
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  Speaker 1: in trouble after elected. You don't want to be the
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  Speaker 1: next one.
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  Speaker 3: The next question is a fan question.
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  Speaker 2: I love that our fans are reaching out and asking
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  Speaker 2: those questions because it makes it a lot more fun.
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  Speaker 2: And thank you Marathon for taking the time and reading
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  Speaker 2: through the questions and picking some of the questions. Yea,
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  Speaker 2: So here we have a girl and she says she
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  Speaker 2: and her girlfriend are all married to white American men,
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  Speaker 2: and they're always having.
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  Speaker 3: To explain things relating to our culture.
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  Speaker 2: So what stuff do you, for example, have to explain
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  Speaker 2: to Stephen or like what I have to explain to Todd?
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  Speaker 2: So I want to know what you have to explain
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  Speaker 2: to Stephen about our culture.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you probably have a lot more work in this
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  Speaker 1: department than I do. Because Steve grew up in Miami
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  Speaker 1: and he went to a Cuban Jesuit high school.
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  Speaker 3: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: He was literally the only American guy there. We were
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  Speaker 1: just at the Kibisken Yakab last weekend and he ran
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  Speaker 1: into a bunch of the guys he went to high
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  Speaker 1: school with at Berlin and they're all like talking, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like half English, half Spanish. Steve knows crokeda. He loves
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  Speaker 1: the word cha moza. He gets it.
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  Speaker 3: But he is very he's very land.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, he's he's he's he understands it, and he jives
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  Speaker 1: and and he thrives and he's cool with it and
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  Speaker 1: they love him. It was so cute. They're all telling
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  Speaker 1: me the stories and he was the only gringo in
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  Speaker 1: the entire high school. And then he tells me there
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  Speaker 1: was a cafeteria outside of his high school and the
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  Speaker 1: only thing they had was like so he learned how
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  Speaker 1: to eat all those things because that was the only
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  Speaker 1: place he get it snacked outside of Berlin.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, and so Yami. Anyways, I'm sure he didn't
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  Speaker 2: have a hard time.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, he loves food, yes, but.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to like Cuban foods and snacks are really good.
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  Speaker 1: I think something that because he doesn't understand he hasn't
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  Speaker 1: lost his parents, that I have a couple of pictures
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  Speaker 1: of my parents together in the house and I keep
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  Speaker 1: a little glass of water in front of it, a
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  Speaker 1: clear glass of water for their spirits. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: think he understands that, but he allows it because he
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  Speaker 1: respects my my feelings and you know my traditions. That
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  Speaker 1: that is just clarity for the spirit. Sometimes I put
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  Speaker 1: a little candle, sometimes I put some flowers. It's just
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  Speaker 1: for the spirit of the ones that have passed. So
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  Speaker 1: those are things that I've taught.
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  Speaker 3: I am here.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for Nance.
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  Speaker 3: You said that. For Nancy.
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  Speaker 2: I have a picture of my mom right up here.
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  Speaker 2: And you're not going to believe this. I've had this
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  Speaker 2: since Mother's Day. What I mean, I had more. But
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  Speaker 2: look at it. It's perfect and the water. I haven't
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  Speaker 2: even changed the water, my friend, Nay.
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  Speaker 3: It is so strong, it's perfect. Marisol, look at this
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  Speaker 3: two weeks that's incredible. That was two weeks to change
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  Speaker 3: the water. So clear clear, I haven't even changed, you know,
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  Speaker 3: we know.
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  Speaker 1: We know those are signs that there were.
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  Speaker 3: Sure, yes, it's incredible they show us.
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  Speaker 2: But mummy, m O Nancy, So yeah, they think it's weird.
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  Speaker 2: I agree with you that we're so in touch with
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  Speaker 2: our loved ones and with with our with with the
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  Speaker 2: people that have the seas that have been such a
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  Speaker 2: part of our lives, and they're like our guardian angels,
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  Speaker 2: and we maybe communicate with them and we remember them
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  Speaker 2: in such loving memory, and like you said, we have
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  Speaker 2: their pictures. We put a flower, we put the basso
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  Speaker 2: and and I did that for a long time, like
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  Speaker 2: you know, for the spirits, because that's how you elevate
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  Speaker 2: their spirits. And that was the bigs that we were
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  Speaker 2: taught you know, as as young girls in our homes.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, very very good. So I had that one
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  Speaker 2: as well. But I think that with Todd, like you said,
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  Speaker 2: him growing up in Saten Island and you know, definitely
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  Speaker 2: being more American whole other animal, right, He's he's definitely
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  Speaker 2: you know, not as you know Latinisau or like Cubanized
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  Speaker 2: as Steves. So I don't know I mean, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know that this has so much to do with our
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  Speaker 2: culture or maybe the person, but I've had to explain
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  Speaker 2: how the Latinos are always late, not always, I mean
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  Speaker 2: there's everything, but we have a problem with on time.
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  Speaker 1: So you're not bad at that.
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  Speaker 2: You're good because I'm with Todd. Yeah, like I used
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  Speaker 2: to not be so good. Look with Todd, I have
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  Speaker 2: to like I have worked on it because I know
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  Speaker 2: it bothers him.
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  Speaker 1: But I hate to interrupt you, but you're not grossly late.
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  Speaker 1: Some people are an hour hour and a half late.
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  Speaker 1: You're usually ten to fifteen minutes. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm early.
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  Speaker 1: You're ten fifteen minutes. But that's not yeah, grossly.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, we have that problem in our group
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  Speaker 2: right now. But anyways, so yeah, so but with him,
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  Speaker 2: I've gone better. But it is a Latino thing. And
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  Speaker 2: like the thing is, we don't even get mad about it.
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  Speaker 2: Like we have a party and we put a knee
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  Speaker 2: and by eight o'clock and we don't nobody's going to
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  Speaker 2: show up till nine.
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  Speaker 1: So it's so funny.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: So Todd and I have had parties here at home,
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: and all of his friends that are all American they're
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: all on time, sipon the're right there at seven ding tho.
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh god, for sure it's your friends. Yeah,
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: all his friends show up on time. And then my
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: friends are for sure an hour late. You know, if
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: I put seven, they'll be by eight. So it's definitely
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: a cultural Latino thing. And I think another thing that
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: that I've had to explain to Todd is the fact
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: that we talked to our mom, to our parents and
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: to our kids like ten times a day. Like, I mean,
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: I obviously don't have my mom now, but when she
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: was like I just like you were EDZN, I used
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: to talk to your mom on the phone for hours.
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: I love talking to her. Like my mom took on
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: the phone, so did your mom. And we would like
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: and they would call us. How many times would your
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: mom call you? I remember, and she couldn't find you.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: She would call me and.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: She was like everybody anybody that could find me, right,
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: and my brother and my father, like she never stopped
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: the cleaning.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: So if I wouldn't answer the same thing, my mother
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: would call my sister or you eat doing mana.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: So it's it's just like a cultures. Yeah, so and
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: you know, so I guess we got that from my parents,
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: and now I do the same thing to my kids.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: You know, I caught Peter twenty times a day and
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: I call it Frankie. Well, Frankie calls me a lot
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: to Actually, Frankie loves to call me, and I love that,
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: you know that.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: Like I'll text him. I'm like, where's und your worst car?
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: What are they doing? Are they coming home today? What
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: are they doing? Are they staying with us? What's for dinner?
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: What's happening? Like I ask him a million questions.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: It was so funny with my stepdaughters and talks like bro,
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: like like he doesn't call me bro, but that was
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: just me happening.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: He was liked yeah, and I was like, babe, like
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: what and he's like, listen, it's okay.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: I don't call the girls twenty times a day like
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: we communicate, but like I trust.
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: Them they're good. I don't have to be calling them
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: the whole day.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: I was like no, but like you need to text
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: them and are they coming and where are they And
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: I was like, say, helio, me too.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: He's so calm about it, and I'm like, but wait,
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: but what Yeah, yeah, it's weird.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: So definitely. That's another one that's been but like it's
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: been like in a fun way. You know, I've learned
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: from him, he's learned from me, and you know, I
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: don't know whose way is better, but it's just like
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: my way in his way.
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: And again like the way that we were raised in
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: our culture.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: And I think the other thing is like talking with
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: our hands and talking loud.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: He's like, he'll he'll get home and.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: I'll be like maybe even talking to you or talking
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: to one of my girlfriends, and he'll be like, who
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: are you screaming at like in Spanish? And I'll be like, babe,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: like this is that we talk like. It's not argumentative,
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: like we're not arguing. We're just like yell and I'm
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: like talking all over with my hands and he's like, oh, okay,
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: because like you know, they don't speak like that.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: You know, it's different. So I think that's also like cultural.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: Steve gets it. He's never once said to me being loud.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: He's yeah, he's.
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: Been around and he went to Berlin. Yeah, and all
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: his friends were like Cuban America like us. I'm sure
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: he would visit their homes and.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: They were used to that, like if there's no screaming,
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: there's like no communication going on.
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: That was when a community.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: When I was on Saturday when we were with ran
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: into all of his friends from high school at the
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: yacht club. Every other word out of their mouth was
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: O battle, battle, And he just listens and talks like
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: that's nothing. And I'm thinking of myself.
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: He does it, Milburt him. He does it well. And
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: he when his friends is always.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Oh he says that.
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: Now, yeah he does because that's where I want. Oh,
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: you know, we go like how we speak. So he's
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: I picked up a couple of things from me.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: It's his favorite word is j molsa. Every time I
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: say it, he giggles and he screams gi molsa and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: takes a sip of wine. Chee molsa.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: He's so cute.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Well, I love that he's embraced you know, he's embraced
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: you know, you and and your culture.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: And he's a lover not a fighter. Yeah.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: I love that. Well.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: Speaking of families and blended families, how have you been
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: able to I mean, in this case, you didn't come
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: with any children into the marriage, but you came with
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: two dogs with Tupac and Poppy.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: Oh god, oh.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: Blend. How were you able to blend your two spoiled dogs.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: And the boys? Yeah, because his boys are easy. I
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: think your dogs are harder than his than the boys.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, Steve has a problem with my dogs.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: I look, they're not table.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Your dogs are not trainable, and his kids are fine.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: Perfect.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: So a lot of people have told me, like Tupac
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: is hapchuaap dogs, and those dogs are untrainable. They pepe everywhere.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what Poppy is. He Pepe's everywhere too.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: They he loves to run away. They men at each other.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: So if one's knotty, the other one does the same thing.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: It's very hard to train them. I paid a trainer,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: it's like kids, several thousands of dollars, a lot of thousands,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: and I've been busy. I never had them come here.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I paid them like a year ago. That flushed it
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: down the toilet basically, So you know, he's not.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: Way I would have done with your kids, if you
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: would have had kids. No, that's obviously not.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: You know, because the dogs can't respond to me, you know,
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: they can't speak back to that.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: That's a great thing. That's a great thing. By the way, well.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: That's why people love animals more than people, because you know,
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: they don't get any lip. But uh, it's been you know,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: for him, it's been difficult because of my dogs. But
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: his kids are great. They're really easy, and I think
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: you they're they're amazing, Like I couldn't have been knock
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: on wood. I don't want to say I like youving
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: because I'm just I don't even want to use that word.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I feel very grateful. I'm blessed, and I always wanted
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: to have my own kids, and then I got some
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: that somebody else raised and they're perfect. So that's it,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: done and done. Your situation is a little more complicated.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: You have like the Brady Bunch going on over there.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: It is because I came with two boys. And even
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: though you know Overage, you know, Peter is still a
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: very big part of my life. And and Frankie, you know,
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: you know, being you know, unique and having unique abilities,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: he you know, he also comes with like special directions.
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: You know, it's not like you know, your average, you know,
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: independent child that you know can do a lot of
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: things on his own, Like he needs you know, a
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: lot of my attention, so you know, Todd's learned to
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: you know, to to realize it, to be aware of it,
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: and and.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Actually just add you know, support to it.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: But you know, the girls are really loving, and you
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: know they get along with Peter and Frankie fine. Peter
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: doesn't live here, so it's been easy. You know, I
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: think that when they're older, it's easier in some ways
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: and it's harder in other ways, right, because it's kind
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: of like Peter's a man, so it's kind of like okay,
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: like to your husband, but it's like he doesn't live here,
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: so you know, the relationship is different. It's like a friend,
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: which is actually great because you know he sees Todd
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: as a friend. And Frankie is very loving. You know,
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: there's nobody that's not going to love Frankie. Frankie all
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: he has is love and happiness to share, so it's
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: very easy to love him too. And and you know,
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: my stepdaughters are.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Really independent and they're really great.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: Honestly, like I'm really blessed that way because they've given
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: us zero problems. So that's been easy as far as
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: you know, managing that. But the best advice I can
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: say is kind of like respect your boundaries and just
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: don't try to be their mom or don't try to
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: be their dad. Just try to be their friend. You know,
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: that's all you can do, you know, because they don't
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: have a mom. You know, they already have the real
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: you know, the biology mom, the biological dad. And you know,
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: we're not here competing. First of all, there's enough love
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: for everybody. I have love for my children, from my stepdaughters,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: from my husband, for everyone.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: So it's like there's enough of love.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: So it's kind of like just respect each other, you know,
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: just be good listeners and be friends and and really
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: don't butt in in like important things, you know what
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: I mean. I've learned a lot from Todd's parenting skills, which,
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: by the way, were very different from mine, maybe because
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: of his background, you know, different from mine, the way
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: he was raised, you know, so he definitely had a
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: different parenting scot style.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: But it's worked out for him really, really well.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: So I've actually learned a lot of things from him
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: that I've applied to my relationships with my sons. And
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: I think he's learned a lot of things from me
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: and my boys.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: He always says that he learned to love and be affectionate,
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: like because me, Peter and Frank and I were so affectionate,
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: you know, like you see, as well as.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: Like touching each other.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Oh that's another thing about Latinos that we're always touching
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: each other.
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're always like.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: That's how you end up getting married too many times touching, touchy.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: So anyway, so we I think we both you know,
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: came in to like the marriage or into our relationship.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: Also like later on in life, right, you know, more mature,
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: with more wisdom, so like things that didn't work out before,
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: you know, work out now because we really wanted to
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: work out. And like I said, you know, it's it's
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: different when the kids are small. Everybody's situation is different,
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: you know. Luckily for me mine we're older, but then
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: I have you know, special needs on so it's it's
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: been an adjustment. It is an adjustment. And then just
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: don't give up. You know, you have to be patient,
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: you have to be tolerant. And I mean that's all
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I can I can really say. Yeah, and you really
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: have to love each other because.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Oh they only see us happy and laughing, and you know,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: these kids are so well brought up. They had two
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: good parents. I'm just like a big sister over here,
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: so you.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Know, well, you know what that but that's a great thing.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: I mean, we're two boys. Wouldn't love to have a
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: big sister like you?
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, oh. I'm all giggles and fun
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: and they love it, you know.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: And you know what, that's all you're really supposed to
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: be because and they have their mother, and besides that,
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: you don't want to be that step mother that's going
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: to I mean it's different because, like I said, when
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: they're little, there's you know, different like responsibilities and that
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: you would have as a stepmother. Right, But I think
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: that you getting them at teenage, you know, late teenage years,
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: just like I did, changes everything. So every situation is different.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: And I had enough employees that were young to know
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: how to handle them and know, you know the things
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: are going to bring up and don't get involved. I'm
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: literally just a rescue. If you need me, I'm there.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: You need a sandwich, you need an emotional place, you
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: need to drive, you need some money, whatever, you know,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: big sister, that's it. You know. I'm not here to
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: teach them anything new, maybe just how to deal with
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: the pains right now. My step son just broke up
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: with his girlfriend and he's hurting.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: No way, you hadn't told me.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's yeah, he's hurting. But she's about to leave
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: for college, and you know she's said.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Oh, everybody's going through that. Although my stepdaughter has has
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: a boyfriend. But you know they're good and they're going
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: to spend the summer together. But it's hard. It's their
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: first love. Never know how to handle it.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: You know. You know what I did. I brought him
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: a Jill's Aaron candle. He loved it. I put it
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: on the room, I made it dark. I'm like, you
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: want any food, you want to hot cocoa, you want
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: a tequila? What do you need?
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: Just you want girlfriend?
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: Well I know I told Steve that afterwards, but it's
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: a little soon, and you know, it's only in a
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: couple of days. He loved the candle. He slept. You
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: want to play poker with his friends. He's getting through it.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: We broke up with him.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: It was kind of like a mutual was kind of mutual,
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: kind of mutual, but not so much. It was just
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: kind of forced. You know, someone always checks out a
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: little bit and you someone else takes the reins and
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: you feel it coming and you're like, okay, well we
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: need a break, and then you hope feel like.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: You know, this will be a life lesson for him,
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: you know. And that's how we can say it hurts,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: and it's going to hurt, but you.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Kind of have to go through this. No, you can
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: be ready for.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: The next Are we ever really ready? Like it hurts
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: the first time? Well, now it's starts. It's super painful,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, hopefully you don't
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: have to go through it again. You meet someone and
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: that who you're with forever, but you won't be the
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: first and you won't be the last.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: It happens going everybody college.
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and obviously he's staying here, so that's a problem exactly.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that's like the first heartbreak right
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: when you when you graduate from high school.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, and you have to make that decision mm hmm.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: But hopefully you're there, like you, like you said, like
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: a big sister and like a friend. He has a
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: shoulder you know, to cry on or you.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: To Like anyone can give experience on bad breakups, it's me,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: You're an I'm an expert.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: So MATI.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: I know how much you're like a cocky. I don't
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: like when you call it the other word without the
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: I E.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: But you know what, I'm lazy, so I cut some
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: you know, a shortened every day.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: Don't cut that one off.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: It sounds like it's very fun. No, it's not cocky,
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: is cue but the other one without the ie nomeusta.
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: So anyways, I know all your favorite cockies. But because
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: I know you're working on your cockies, I know that
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: you're discovering different flavors. So tell me what's the latest
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: on your list that you love.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: My latest favorite cockie is the porn Star Martinis.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: Right, okay, so tell me.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's vodka. You know, one of my favorites
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: passion fruit lemon, and I think it's like a vanilla
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: syrup in it. You shake it up, it's delicious. Oh
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: my god, yeah, it's really good.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: I can't wait till you prepare one of those for me.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: I had a margarita the other day. We always order
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: the other day, no, every day, So you know what
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: it was called the orange marmalade.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: It was a pastise. It was so good because besides
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: the lemon. They put orange on it and like the
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: orange syrup with the lemon and the spice.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: It was delicious.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: That sounds really I'm like, oh, I have to give
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: this idea from my to my friend because it was
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: really really good.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: That sounds really good, Alex, Yeah, yeah, Do we have
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: to get it at pasties? Are we going to make
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: them at home?
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: No, let's try them at home. I'm sure yours are
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: going to come out better. You're really good shaking up
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: a drink, my friend.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: You know what, there's something in the hands. My first
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: husband used to tell me he'd make himself a sandwich
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: and I'd make.
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: Sandwiching else, you're like something in my hands. My first.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was was like you, there's something in your hands.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: He'd make a sandwich. I'd make the same exact sandwich,
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: and he said mine tasted better. But some people have
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: something in the they know how to cook and make things.
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: Yo, tell me. And that's why I'm so afraid of
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: using my hands because.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: The world will explode.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Yes, no, no, for real, I get that a lot too.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: But the drinks, you know, I don't really like it,
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: but I feel like you really do. How to prepare
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: a cocktail. And you know that because in the group,
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: everybody always wants you to prepare the cocktail.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: Some of the girls like, huh, I can't drink them? What,
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Oh my.
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: God, I do get to you sometimes. I mean, I'm like,
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: it's for me, not for you.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: Well, you know, my trick to a good cocktail is
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: I pour myself one first so that you know, then
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: I get creative and I make a good one, and
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: then sometimes sendalo like you say, I do a little extra,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: and then everyone's gay. I'm like, it's fine, what's wrong
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: with you? Drink it puts hair on your chest, like
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: my dad would say.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: So, since we're giving kind of like advice to each other,
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: what's someonody?
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: Well, like, what advice have you given me? I feel
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: like we're always giving advice to each other.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: I know that that's one of the next questions, and
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: that's why I was looking at it and kind of thinking, like,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like all of our conversations
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: we kind of have advice for you the same.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: Well, we think the same very much so, and I
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: find that you and I think the same and feel
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: the same about don't sweat the small stuff, don't let
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: the little things stress you out. It's very easy to
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: get caught up in the You're sitting in traffic, someone
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: cuts you off, you get pissed off, you start cursing,
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: and then you're living in that negative energy. Like you
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: and I are very much about, don't let the little
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: things bother you. Look at the big picture. This is small,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: it's not a big deal. Focus on the good. Like
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: we talked about this last time about not letting you know,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: even a breakup or you know, just not focusing on
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: the negative, focusing on the positive and all the good
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: around you. I think that that's something I learned from you,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: and we constantly talk about that.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: No, I mean I agree with you.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I mean I love that I have, you know, a
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: friend that can give me good advice. You know, it's
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: always great, especially now that I don't have my mom.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: And my mom used to always give me good advice.
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: I would never really do anything with it. I mean
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I would kind of like I feel like as I
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: got older, I did start listening to her advice. And
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: what I do now a lot is think about the
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: advice that she chose to give me. Right, Oh my god,
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: and like if my mom was here, like what would
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: she be telling me or I start thinking, do la
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: cosa get in the past, you know, throughout my life
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: she had told me like all the time, I've been
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: doing that lately.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Yep, me too, or no, angry at little things of
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: like Okay, it's not a big deal. Yeah I do
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: that to Alex.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah no, But I mean it's great because I
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: feel like every girl needs a friend to get good advice.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: And I feel like I have different friends. They give
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: me different kinds of advices. You know, if I already
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: like financial advice, like I know one of my friends
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: was really good with that, so I would ask her,
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: you know, if I need advice on relationships, you know,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: and everything. But I feel like you and I we
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: can talk about everything and anything and be honest with
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: each other and really, you know, give advice to each
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: other like like sisters, and you know, really talk like raw,
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: you know, like say things and maybe you don't want
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: to hear, but you have to be open and honest.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: And you know, I don't always want to hear things.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: I know you don't, I know, but oh my god,
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: I know, Like yeah, I'm.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: Very and I'm a good listener and you.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: Are, but I tell you those things because like I
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: love you and I care for you, Like if if
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: I don't, then I don't do that. But when I
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: give advice, it's usually like good advice, and especially if
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: you're my friend and I love you, because it's like
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: I would only do that if you're my friend and
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: I love you.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: So I feel like people give each other really good advice.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, I always have you know, your best
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: interest at heart. I always want you to end up
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: happy and winning at the end of whatever the situation is.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean I think like sometimes people do
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: have a hard time taking in the advice and it's like, well,
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: why are you even like.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: Because we're stuck in our own thoughts in our own heads.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: It's normal. You know, you have a thought process and
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: someone's giving you a different angle and you can't process
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: it because you're stuck in your own situation. It's normal.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: But you know what I do, listen and I do.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, So we've been beating out on the bush. We've
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: been being around the bush. Remember I'm the teacher. They
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: want to know specifically, what is the best advice you
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: think you've given me?
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: And the best advice I've given you.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Well, I just said it before and I and it's
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: the same.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: It was the same in general, No, I thought, but
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: I could think of like one thing okay again my
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: words with you, but with a relationship, okay, with like
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: in the past.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: So it was some advice you gave me.
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm about your Yeah, about like somebody that was
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: in your life, you know, in the past, and you
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: know you you finally listened and you know I gave
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: you a lot of advice and you reacted.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's when you really you know, I'm
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: just trying to be like a little bit more specific
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: because I mean, in general, we give each other great advice,
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: you know, and that's what good friends do. I feel
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: like you and I have both been through a lot
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: of things in our life that were on a level
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: that you know that you you could give me good advice,
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: and I could give you good advice because you know,
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: you're not going to ask like a thirty year old
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: and maybe hasn't gone through something like that or hasn't
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: lived the experiences we have, you know, for advice. So
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: with that being said, I remember giving you specifically good
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: advice and a particular relationship you were in and you
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: finally like accepting it and realizing it and listening to it.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: And I'm happy about that because you know, I got
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: thank you.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, thank you. And I think a lot of
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: what you were saying is what I was saying before.
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: You know, Yeah, this is going to you've given me
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: and you've given me good advice too, Like with my relationships,
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: like with my kids, with with my.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: Limited capassibility, I do the best that I can and
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: I possibility capassibility.
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: Okay, when you see you teach me your words, I
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: was like, capassibility.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: I love when an English lesson, it's so good. We
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: got to do one of those.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: And one of our podcasters do an English lesson please.
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, a Spanglish lesson.
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: So anyways, Amiga, for all your advice and.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. I'm only I'm only healthy in
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: alive because of you and all the good people around me.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: So we know that you had a very successful PR
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: firm here in Miami, and I had the privilege and
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: honor to work with you and together.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I had full locations around the country. By the way,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I just want to throw that plug in there.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: Oh that's right. You did have in different cities. You
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: had presents there, so I apologize for that, thank you
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: for But I mean you were really known in Miami
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: for you know, for the events you know, and the
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: and the brands that you represent here and for all
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: of your PR work that you did here. So and
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: I had the honor and privilege to attend all these
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: events and to work with you and to publish all
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: those great events in the magazine.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Thank you for your support the magazine.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: You know, how can I not?
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: You were like, had the best parties and the best
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: of everything. So you did that for many years, and
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: I know it was a big part of your life
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: and it assumed your life as well. Yes, you know
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: your friend back then as well. And by the way,
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: the question is like what made you close the firm?
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: I already know any.
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: Answer, but I would like for you to explain it
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: to people that are interested that are listening.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: Right, So, I think that for people that don't know,
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: PR is a it's it. It sucks the life out
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: of you. It's a really really really hard job. A
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: lot of people burn out really young, really quickly change careers.
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: It's a special type of person that can do this
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: and do it for the rest of their lives until
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: they're you know, until they expire. It was taking a
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: big toll on me. My personal relationships, my families were
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: My mother and father were very ill. They needed me.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: And I met a man at the time that said
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: to me, you know what, you're not fun. You know,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: you're super stressed all the time. Don't worry about work.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: I'm going to take care of everything. And I called
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: I remember calling my father and thinking this is crazy,
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Like I need to ask my dad because he's always
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: supported me my whole life. And my dad was like,
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: you know what, your mother and I really need you.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: And and I hate that job. You're always stressed, you're unhappy,
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: and you know, you know, go with this man, close it.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Do whatever you're going to do. Go live a life,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: go travel, do whatever. And you know what, I was
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: just waiting for just someone to rescue me and get
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: me out of there. I was so stressed.
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: Oh I remember, I remember that part of your life vividing.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: I was very happy that person.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you were so it consumed you and you
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: were so good at it, and it absorbed you so
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: like you want everything to be perfect, and you had
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: so much pressure with your employees, with the brands, with
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: with just I was.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: The one man show with a big monkey on my back,
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: and the opportunity to escape was there. And one of
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: the girls that was my vice president at the time,
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: I've been telling her for two years, I'm going to
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: get out of this. I don't know how, but I'm
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: going to get out, and I'm either going to close
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: it or you can have it. We're gonna, you know,
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: just start thinking about it. And then when I met,
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: you know, my ex, I remember calling her like with
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: the two months notice. I said, I'm out. You want it?
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: Or am I closing it? She's like, I don't know
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: what to do. I'm nervous. What do I do? And
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: I said, open a bank account. Oh, you can have
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: the furniture, you can have the employees, you gonna have
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: the clients, you gonna have the computers, the phones, you
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: can have it all. You just need your own bank
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: account and your own corporation. It's all yours. And that's
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: what we did. We transferred everything over. And she's still
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: in business now and she's killing it. She's doing a
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: great job. She wants to get out. She hates it.
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: Well, the thing is like for a single woman.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: Well, the only reason why you were able to do
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: it for so many years was because you single, Because
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: if you would have had a family or a real
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: relationship at that time in your life, you wouldn't have
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: I mean, any man would have made you pick because
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: I remember it was that you could never have fun,
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: like even like at the event, I would see you
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: and you were like completely disconnected and stressed out.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: And you know that.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: I was very happy when you made that decision because
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: I was your friend at that time and you told
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: me as well, and I was like, oh, you know, finally,
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: like finally we're gonna be able to go out and
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: have fun and you're gonna you know, So it worked.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: And there's a point, did I I We've been having
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: fun ever since, like.
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: A different person since then.
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: People asked me, and I said, well, you really can't
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: judge by that because she was working, Like that's not
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: like how she really is.
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: She was working.
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: She's a professional and and and it gets stressful, and
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: it gets stressful.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: So I was very happy by your decision.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: I think that's one of the best things you've done
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: in your life, because if not, you would have been
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: there like, oh my god, for nothing, because you know.
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: A person in the world. And I just want to
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: give kudos to all those people that are MPR and
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: have a family or run to own a business and
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: have a family. It's a lot of stress, it's fine,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: very difficult.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: I really applaud all those women because you know, women
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: have even more responsibility in that case. You know, when
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: they have families that they go home and their children
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: and homework and after school activities and then events on night,
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: and then they have to make their husband happy and
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: they have to look good, and it's a lot. Honestly,
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: it's a really it's a glamorous career. It's actually a
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: really pretty profession for a woman. I always loved it
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: myself too.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: But it's not so glamorous exactly.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: Well, like a lot of careers and professions, but it's
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: one that you really have to dedicate your heart and
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: soul and so many hours and at the end, you know,
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it was worth it. It was
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: worth it for you for all those years that you
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: did it, obviously because you liked it, but it's a
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: lot of sacrifice.
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: Well, as you said, I.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: Checked that box off of running a really big company
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: from scratch, and growing it and becoming in your national
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: and you know what I mean, that was huge and
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: I didn't even study that, so I you know, I
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: have to pat myself on the backboard. I gave it
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: the college try. I did great. It was top business
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: in my city at least, so you know, I did it,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: done it, and I'm out. My father always said, if
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: you're going to do something, be the best, and I
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: did it to be the best until I myself.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: Still the best.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: My friend, your starter. Oh favorite Cuban traditions. I can
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: talk about this all.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: Day hours, right, there's so many.
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: Well, I feel like one of the biggest Cuban traditions
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: I think is like our family.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: I feel like we were we were like born.
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: And raised Gila Familia is like everything everything is a
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: family and food, right, everything is like food. My house, well,
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: you guys were like weird Cubans and that because father.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: You know, my mom didn't want to eat either.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: I know, you know it's true. You know I didn't
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: have that typical house. It was luckily for me, I
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: had my grandmother that cooked so good and she was
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: like so Cuban and she was the one that raised
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: us so like every day it was like food, Like.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: I was all like that kind of food. I was likeda.
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: So, which, by the way, is like another tradition is
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: like the Cubans that we call like terms of endearment
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: to like the people we love, Like we call like
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: I call boy. He's like, what do you mean Boppy.
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: It's like, isn't Poppy like your dad?
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm like, well yeah, but it's also like
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: my guy. It's also like my man, right, like a
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: mimacho like Bobby, things like that. So that's like another
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: Cuban tradition that we have that we call each other
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: in terms of endearments and we put like ETA on everything,
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: like I like say aa or like Gordida, you know,
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: and not to you know, like English speakers.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: I think we'll look at us weird, like we call
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: somebody skinny like Gordida. But it's kind of but like
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: sometimes you say, like Meorda, you know, and it's not
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: because you're Gorda, it's not because you're.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: Fat's just you love endment yeah right, yeah, So I
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: think that that's like another Cuban tradition.
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: Like I really like, by.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: The way, I made free from scratch for the first
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: time in my life on Sunday.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: No, maybe.
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: No, I used the regular pot. Yeah, and they tasted
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: just like in the restaurant. It took seven hours. I'll
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: buy them at the restaurant.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: Seven hours, bro, How can it take you seven hours? Negro?
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: Because they had to cook for my friend Peter.
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: You need a pressure cooker. Oh yeah, the bersion, yeah faster.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because I took I said, Steve, we can just
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: go by it around the corner. I want to spend
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: making good.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: And I made him super clean. No, just water and
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: herbs and that was it.
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: And that's seven hours or like.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: No, I made it perfect, but it wasn't boiling. Peter
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: told me to boil it and then lower the heat
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: and then it took too long, and then I had
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: to boil it again. Then it finished, So it took
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: like a good close to seven hours.
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I thought this is ridiculous.
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: I can't wait seven hours to eat, bro.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: Well, they're telling me, oh, women make it in the morning.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: They go to work and come back. I'm like, who's
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: going to leave the stove on all day? You're gonna
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: burn the house.
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: Down for free?
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: How did the house get on fire?
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: I was making free? Holy that's funny, I was.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: Making it's not that necessary.
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: I a lot of good Cuban restaurants, so yeah, we gotta.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna spend seven hours on something you better like
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: over the top and different.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, so well, speaking of food, that's another tradition
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: that I love, Like.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: That's my favorite.
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: But yeah, yeah, get the pig at the farm. I
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: don't like the part of the slaughtering and all that.
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never gone to the farm. Usually just shows
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: up at my house in the box and someone makes
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: it right.
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: But I feel like that's like a real Cuban or
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: Latin thing, you know, where we celebrate whenna and it's
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: like a whole ceremony picking up the pig, seasoning it
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: the night before watching it, you know, and like a
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: Gina churning it, doing the whole thing.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: It's like we serend the pig.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: If I if I did the beginning to end process
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: like that, I'm like I could eat it. And you
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: know I love bacon and pig.
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I love it. I know you love it. Remember
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: remember the little here.
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: There was there was this we filmed the scene. I
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: think it was season one two. I don't remember one.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: Season one one at your house, and you guys went
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: to get the pig and you cooked it. And remember
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: we were we were filming, and they did this thing
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: for the audience. There's something called ring tone where everyone
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: has to be silent. And I had just put a
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: piece of crunchy pig skin in my mouth and I
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: was crunching it, and everyone screamed at me because it
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: was ring tone. When I was you could hear the
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: crunching of the pork skin.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: In my mouth, and you know, and you didn't want
• 47:20
  Speaker 3: to stop. You're like, it's so good, I'm not going
• 47:22
  Speaker 3: to stop. They have to wait, so you I had
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: to wait for you to get room, Tom. And by
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: the way, it had the hairs of the pig.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, thing.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, cool, Like it literally had those
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: hairs of the animals. Still I can't but I'm happy
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: you enjoyed it.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: I enjoyed it. I'm not enjoying it now, reflecting on
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: hair in my mouth.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: When the guys are serenading the pig, they are like
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: smoking cigars, which is another really cool Cuban tradition which
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: I don't like either because I don't like the smell
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: of it. But it's like pretty hot, like the guys
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: like smoking the cigar.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: Have you ever put a suitcase by your front door
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: before on New Year's Eve? So you travel represtitious.
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: I'm not there yet, Remember I I follow my questions.
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: I was amazing.
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: Is there another one? Is there that's a tradition?
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: No, Cuban traditions?
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: Oh, I thought you were talking about Cuban superstitious, which
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: is another which is all it's superstitious.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Tradition for me is tradition, but it's also bornerline.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: You're right, because Cuban superstitions are Cuban traditions.
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: So let's talk about that one marathon. Tell me that's
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: So I like to put a suitcase in front of
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: the door, front door every year, so that you know
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: I'm sure to travel plenty.
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: Really yeah, I like, you know, I even heard about that.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: You know what I want I put behind the door
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: after a party, And I'm kidding.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: I don't do that. I've never that one, but I've
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: heard of that one. Yeah.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: What about.
• 48:51
  Speaker 3: That means.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: Money is coming? Right?
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: Yes? Yes?
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: Or now, since we're talking about superstitious and super stitions,
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: let's talk about it. Superstitions I feel like since the
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: day were born, like we we grow up in superstitions,
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: at least like in our culture with the Cubans.
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: Because did you even have the saba the little ones
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: gemp stone.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: No, I had diamond earrings?
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, well I had those two. I had those two
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: dibine earrings. My parents put a big asaba.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: Oh well, guess what I told you if you would
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: have had that bro I was an infant. Well, I
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: wasn't in.
• 49:36
  Speaker 3: Or in the necklace, but I think that's so cute,
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: you know, like a lot of baby on the pin, yeah,
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: the pins, or like in the necklace or in the bracelets.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: So I felt like the day I was born, I
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: was already brought up like it's a superstition.
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: Of course because of the asabach thing.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, well I believe in good luck charms. I
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: just never had an asabachi.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: What about another superstition that I love? And I know
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: that I love it.
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: When you know that somebody is being mean to you
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: and like, you know, trying to like ruin your life,
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: you like put their name, you write their name, and
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: you wet it and you put it in the freezer
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: and you kind of just like freeze them, you know what, Like.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: I did that. I did I did that once like
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: thirteen years ago. Not sure if it worked.
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: They're still talking about your being mean.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Huh yeah, I think so. You see it didn't work.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: Well, there's superstitions, That's how there are. It's not like
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: you know, there's any proof to them. And these things work,
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: but you know, you want to believe that the work
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: when you're doing them.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: And I kind of just set it and forget it.
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: And it was that right. Another one is the milha
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: or like the sugar, like you want when you want
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: to attract somebody like romantically, or you know, you want
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: like a job interview to go well or something to
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: go good.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: It's kind of like you sweeten them up. Yeah, and
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: you use honey or use sugar like water with sugar.
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: And there's so many out there.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like as Latina in a culture
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: that we have so many of these superstitions, you know,
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: and they're all fun, you know, they're all like fun
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: and funny and.
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that the the mental energy you
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: put into it is actually what makes it happen, you know,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: just not just the act of a little sugar and
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: a honey and here. The fact that you believe that
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: it's going to give you a result is what makes
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: it work. If it works, it all. But they are
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: certainly fun folklore, that's for sure.
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: I love let a candle's yeah, the candle like the flowers,
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: the water.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: That's the first thing I did when Garrett came home,
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: the candle still sitting there, the Jills Ren candle. He
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: was like, like, you want a candle and me put
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: a candle.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: Why does it have to be Jills Darren's candle. Why
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: can't it just be diptique.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: No, Well, because that's what.
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: Have any like special superstitious qualities.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: Actually, so her candles have stones and gems in them
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: for energy. They actually have real gemstones in them for healing. Yeah.
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: And I had a fresh one in there and it's
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: and the candle said be happy on the outside, and
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: I thought, me.
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: Like happy, yeah, And.
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: He loved it smelled like vanilla. He was relaxed. It
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: was good. Yeah, candles beautiful.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: It's all medic and all you need at home are
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: flowers and candles. To me, that just changes like the
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: whole mood and vibe of the house.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: It smells like Vanilla so much.
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: It's right here, be happy, Okay, Lena, I like it.
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: So everybody wants to know about our fitness and beauty routine.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: Hypo forward. There's nothing I can talk about here. So
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: we have a do we have.
• 52:58
  Speaker 3: The I put forward? Was I'm really really fit?
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: In context? Because I put forward for you? Like, so
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: what did you? Obviously don't do anything for fitness?
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you?
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: No, no, I don't know.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: So no I'm so I'm saying yes, thank you for
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: that entre No I I unfortunately I'm a poor example
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: of fitness. I don't like to perspire. I don't like
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: to be hot. I don't Yeah, I don't like any
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: of that. I've tried a few, like to move.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: I've seen you play tennis. You can play tennis, I mean,
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: but it's less routine.
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: If someone puts me in some sort of a game
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: where I have to win, I will. I will to
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: win because I like to win. But I'm not athletic
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: at all, super competitive, zero athleticism.
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: So nothing for fitness. Okay, what about for beauty?
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: For beauty so you know, for me, like I think
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: we talked about this a little bit before, a little
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: bit less for me as less. It's more. I do
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: my boat talk. I've all as all the time without
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: moisturizer on my face. I used to be better about it.
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: I try not to.
• 54:04
  Speaker 3: You don't want to give people your no, no, no.
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well I actually switch on your to aquafor
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: I put it because I have very dry skin, though,
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: so my skin soaks everything up, plus the pillow picks
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: it up. So I use something very thick because I
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: have dry skin. I do my aquafor. I do my boatox.
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: I get a couple of strings once a year just
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: to help with you know, lift the underneath my neck.
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: And you don't have to say so much.
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: Beauty could be like you know, nutrigena and oil oble
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: like I was just talking about creams.
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: I take no vitamins. I'm a hot mess, but you
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: know here I am clean.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty good, my friend, I don't think so. You're
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: very healthy and you look good, you know, you know it.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: Must be some good jeans, because I don't think I
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: really take care of myself.
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: Jeans.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: You're good doctors, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, or doctor both.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: What's your cigarette a?
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: I was born that way and I'm kidding.
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I woke up like this, right, never sleep with kidding?
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: Well, you know, I know I do that. All you
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: girls get mad at me because sometimes I do that.
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: But the only reason why I sleep with makeup sometimes
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: is because the next day I need my makeup done
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: and I don't feel like sitting in a chair for
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: another hour and a half. So I say, you know what,
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: let me just keep my makeup on and just sleep
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: on it, and then the next day I use it
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: and then I take it off.
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: But luckily for me, I do have good skin.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: Doesn't that make you feel tired? I feel exhausted. If
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: I wake up with my making.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: I feel exhausted. I feel like I have to sleep
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: the same. My sleep is not as good because I
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: think I'm a little bit cautious about it, like am
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: I going to get my pillow dirty? Which the answer
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: is yes, by the way, for something well minor extensions.
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: I don't have the strip the last strip, so I
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: don't do that. But it's worth it.
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: It's worth it because the fact that I have to
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: wake up the next day earlier and just in the
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: chair for an hour for makeup.
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: Save a couple of hundred recycle it.
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: And save two or three hundred dollars. So yes, but
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: I do watch my face every day, you know. I
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: think my secret has been, like I've never really worn
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: a lot of makeup. And with that being said, foundation.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: I never used foundation to like an older adult like
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: into like my late thirties. Truthfully, I never wore like
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: My makeup regimen was very simple. It was only like,
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: you know, mascara, lip gloss, maybe a little bit of blush.
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: I never really young, no, but not really because the
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: other young ones now are the ones that do.
• 56:36
  Speaker 3: Their face like a lot. I've seeing the young girls
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: amount of makeup that they wear all the what is that?
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: So that's what I'm telling you.
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: I never really did anything to like my late thirties.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: And with that being said, even like makeup and I
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: did both talks for the first time in my early forties,
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: and sporadically I would do it. So I think I
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: had like a late start, you know, as far as
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: like beauty, you know, beauty products and all that. I
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: do love to change up like the brands like so
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: I'll use Lamer, I'll buy Lamur, and once I'm done
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: with the whole Lamer thing, I'll change feel like Babor
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: when I'm done with like Babor, you know, I'll change
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: to Nutrigina.
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: So I know it's crazy, but I like to try
• 57:16
  Speaker 3: different things.
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: I say, it's good to do that, to change the
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: brands and the cosmetics and not to do the same routine.
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: Just like with your hair, you have to mix it up.
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So I love to do that.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: And for fitness, for me, I I've always had to
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: kind of work out because I have the body, that
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: kind of body or like again the Latino body where
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: I have the big legs and the button the whole thing.
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: So I need to be working out, especially now at
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: our age.
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: I feel like you don't miss a workout, you don't
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: miss the work you're pretty good.
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: I think it's all mental. Like for me, that's how
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: I start my day, like I don't even think about it.
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: I put on my workout clothes. I have the gym
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: here downstairs, so that's a plus. I don't have to
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: drive to the gym, and I have a trainer three
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: times a week, so for me, it's like automatic.
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: I brush my teeth, washed my face, I have my
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: coffee actually before I write the gym and then I
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: just work out of the gym and it gets me,
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: it wakes me up.
• 58:06
  Speaker 3: It makes me feel good about myself. You know.
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: It kind of like starts my day. I think about
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: all the things that I need to do and get done. Yeah,
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: and from there I'm ready to like shower or not shower,
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: depends how much I sweat, and then I just you know,
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: keep onto the beauty bar or like go on with
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: my day whatever it is that I need to do.
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: But for me, fitness is very important. I mean, fitness
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: is part of my beauty routine for me.
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: Well done. You. I wish I could be like that, Honestly,
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: I wish I could. I wish I loved it. If
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: I did, I know, I'd be like ripped and fabulous.
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: I mean I don't want to be ripped because you know,
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: at our age some book, I'm trying to be ripped.
• 58:42
  Speaker 3: But you know, I like my clothes to look good.
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: And like I said, I've really noticed, like in this
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: time in our lives that you start getting flabby.
• 58:50
  Speaker 3: I mean, it is what it is. Okay.
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: So who is your style inspiration? Do you have any
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: like anybody you look to for like a style inspell.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of do I say that I always.
• 59:01
  Speaker 3: Like somebody, oh, Zerra Burn, Coco Chanel.
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: I love Audrey Hepburn, But you know, I always like
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: what she wears. What's that blonde? Kate Blanchet. I love
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: the way Kate Blanchet dresses. She always dresses on point
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: for me, you know, I like her style.
• 59:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you my inspose is.
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: I knew, but you know what, she could be sexy,
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: she could also be conservative and elegant.
• 59:32
  Speaker 3: She just for me. She's always on point. She always
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: kills it and.
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: She saw well we said it at the same time.
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, of course I knew who yours would be too.
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: I mean, I didn't know Kate Blanchet, but she does
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: have great style. But I feel like Jlo always dresses
• 59:47
  Speaker 2: like appropriate for the occasion, And to me, that's part
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: of yeah, you know, knowing knowing how to dress.
• 59:54
  Speaker 3: It's not like, oh, she had a beautiful dress, but like.
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: She's definitely gotten better over time.
• 59:59
  Speaker 3: Definitely feel like she else it.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: If she goes to a Good Morning America, she's wearing
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 2: like a sue or she's wearing like a turtleneck. You know,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: she knows how to dress for the occasion for me.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: Turtle neck signature.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: Excited.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I hear turtleneck and I get lady would it's
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: my signature.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: Bro. But we live in Miami. When do I wear
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 3: a turtle like when I go to New York?
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: Now, Lamas, I can I wear turtle like in all weather?
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah? I know, Yeah, I feel like you just wore
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: one recently.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: I did. You were visiting, Yeah, and it was blazing high.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: It was like ninety degrees and it was black, I
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 3: mean not even white. You could have worn a white turtleneck.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: Oh no, because my nipples would show throw on that. No, no, no,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: no, no no. When you around a bunch of ladies. Okay,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: why do anyone get in the wrong idea? Well, my love,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love when we do personal questions.
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  Speaker 1: That's my favorite. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Well, you know what, maybe next week we can
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  Speaker 2: continue because we're leaving a few questions out and we
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  Speaker 2: are being asked about our mommies and how our moms
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  Speaker 2: came to the US. So maybe that's something we can
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  Speaker 2: talk about and start off our next podcast with.
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  Speaker 1: That absolutely, that would be great. Okay, love you bye everyone.
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