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That is right after this show is over.
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But without any further ado, let's get into
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So this is our brand-new master topic
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this week.
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It is Series 5, Show 31, and it
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is master your choices before they master you.
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Today's granular topic is how tiny decisions shape
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your future, Series 5, Show 31, Episode 1.
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Welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life.
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I'm happy you're here.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner, and
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now so grateful to be a published author.
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People often believe one big decision changes a
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life.
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More often, it's hundreds of small decisions made
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every day.
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You see, your habits, character, and future are
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built one choice at a time.
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Today, I'm going to help you explore how
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tiny decisions quietly shape extraordinary lives.
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Number one, every decision has consequences.
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Every choice moves you toward or away from
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the future you want.
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Think before deciding because today's actions create tomorrow's
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results.
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That's the truth, guys.
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Number two, small choices create big results.
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Small improvements, repeated consistently, create extraordinary outcomes.
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Never, never, never, never, never underestimate the power
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of simple daily decisions.
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Number three, habits begin with one decision.
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Every positive habit starts with a single choice.
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Repeat it often enough and it becomes part
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of who you are.
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Number four, think before you react.
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Pause before responding, take a breath.
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Thoughtful decisions usually produce better outcomes than emotional
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reactions.
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Number five, consistency beats intensity.
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A little progress every day will outperform occasional
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bursts of effort.
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Stay steady and trust the process.
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Number six, choose long-term over short-term.
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Temporary comfort often costs more success.
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Make choices your future self will appreciate.
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Number seven, every action builds momentum.
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Positive actions encourage more positive actions.
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Momentum grows one decision at a time.
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Number eight, discipline starts with choices.
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Discipline isn't a talent.
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It's built every time you choose responsibility over
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convenience.
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And I know a lot of people wanna
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choose convenience because, again, it's easy and it
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feels good and comfortable.
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But we've said before that success does not
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start happening when things are comfortable.
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It happens when we become uncomfortable.
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I didn't say painful, I said uncomfortable.
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Number nine, guys, protect your priorities.
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Don't let distractions steal your best time.
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Focus on what truly matters.
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Success is built daily.
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Yeah, success isn't an event.
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It's the result of consistent decisions repeated every
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day.
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That's important, guys.
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Learn from every decision.
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Good decisions bring results.
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Poor decisions, well, bring lessons that hopefully we
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learn.
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Both help us grow.
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However, the lessons are not as pleasant of
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a situation, okay?
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying, John, you know, this is kind of
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crazy, I don't get it.
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Well, see, when we don't get a lesson,
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we keep repeating it over and over and
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over again.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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we keep repeating it over and over again.
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Because if we don't learn it, we have
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to eventually learn it, right?
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Number 12, avoid unnecessary distractions.
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I know that's easier said than done.
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You know, the sip of the water.
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Not every thing deserves your attention.
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Protect your focus by eliminating what adds little
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value.
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Number 13, build better routines.
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Strong routines reduce wasted energy and make success
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easier to repeat.
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Number 14, focus on progress.
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Don't chase perfection.
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Celebrate becoming a little better each day.
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Number 15, keep your promises, okay?
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Keeping promises to yourself builds confidence and strengthens
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self-respect.
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I think a lot of people out today
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wanna be respectful, but somehow they fall off
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the wagon.
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They feel that maybe they should do something
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else because they don't see things moving quick
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enough, okay?
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And that's really, I think, an important thing.
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When people don't realize that things are happening
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quick enough for them, they don't understand, like,
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what's going on.
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And it's big.
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But most people don't take the time to
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understand what these things mean.
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They go for what the masses are doing.
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But we've learned in the past that what
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the masses are doing isn't always right for
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them and it isn't always right for us.
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So I think those are very, very important
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things.
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I'll tell you, ladies and gentlemen, that when
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we get that strength and we build that
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self-respect, we move the needle in our
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lives.
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People are like, hey, you're somebody I wanna
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talk with.
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You're somebody I wanna be part of in
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your life, right?
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People that see those who make changes, they
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wanna latch onto them.
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They wanna get to know them.
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Some in a good way.
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Some wanna help those people and others just
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wanna leech and not do anything.
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So I think when we talk about tiny
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decisions in our life, that can be something
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simple as, you know, getting up in the
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morning, right?
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What time you get up.
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I think those are very important things, okay?
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It could be something as simple as what
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you choose to eat.
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Okay?
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I think that's a very important thing.
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And maybe you're gonna say to me, you
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know, John, well, if I make one decision,
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what does it matter?
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Okay?
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I think these are important things.
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And when we start to understand that we
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make these small decisions, that we're able to
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change the direction.
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You know what I like to think about
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this as, if you think about potentiometer, right?
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And if you have a potentiometer, let's say
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on a laser, or you have a potentiometer
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on maybe something that's very precise, and you
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turn that potentiometer just a tiny, even a
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fraction, it makes a big move on that
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device's output.
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Now we say a tiny, like a fraction
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turn, quarter of a turn, a fraction of
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a turn.
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That little difference makes a difference.
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Now we see it almost immediately.
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In our lives, when we make tiny changes,
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they don't show up right away.
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But when our life starts to feel good,
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it starts to feel like, hey, I'm on
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the right path, that's a good sign that
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you're doing the right thing.
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Now, I know a lot of people out
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there, they get discouraged because things are not
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working the way they want them to.
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Okay?
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That's a challenge for people because they don't
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think that they can go anywhere.
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But I'm here to tell you that you
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can go a lot of places if you
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make tiny changes.
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So what are the tiny changes could you
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make?
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So you could make things like what you
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eat, you can make decisions on what you're
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gonna do.
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For example, you got up today, you're in
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business, maybe you work for yourself, maybe you
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work for a company, what are you gonna
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do first in the morning?
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You have a good breakfast, maybe you exercise
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first, then you have a good breakfast, take
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a shower, maybe you take a walk, right?
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Maybe you decide that your office or you're
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meeting a client maybe the tiny move is
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saying, hey, really appreciate working with you.
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And just wondering what two or three other
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people you think would benefit from the services
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we've provided you all these years, I would
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appreciate that.
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That's the stick, guys.
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When you can get a connection, I was
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talking to somebody the other day, people love
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to connect when there are stories.
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There was a guy one time and he
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said, when you're someone you wanna make a
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friend, you basically start out and say, hey,
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anybody sitting here?
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No one's sitting.
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Oh, great, what brought you to this wedding
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or what brought you to this event?
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And people will start talking, just you shut
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up, okay?
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They will start talking.
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The people that don't wanna tell you their
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story, I had somebody the other day, I
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shared a little bit, they shared a little
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bit, but the one person didn't share much.
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They either meant A, they weren't comfortable, that
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wasn't the key, or B, they were trying
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to push me somewhere and they were nervous
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about doing it, so they stayed quiet, okay?
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I had the same person actually ask me
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for feedback on basically, well, actually they asked
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me, what did you think of my presentation?
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And what I should have said is, do
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you want encouragement or do you actually want
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me to give you some constructive feedback and
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notes?
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So I took the premise that they wanna
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constructive feedback because most people asking do.
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When I started giving the premise of what
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they could do, I was getting attacked.
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So from now on, when somebody asks me
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for how'd I do, I say, well, are
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you looking for just some encouragement or do
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you actually want me to give you honest
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notes of what you could do to improve?
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And some people are gonna freeze in that
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moment.
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Well, I guess encouragement, but then what didn't
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you like about it?
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Well, it wasn't that I didn't like anything
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about it, it was that I thought it
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could have been, let's say better if you
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did this and this.
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And as soon as I started to give
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a little bit of my feedback, nothing crazy,
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just a few little things, I got attacked.
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Well, you obviously weren't listening.
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Well, I was listening.
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And what I heard and what I saw
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was this, and I'm telling you how it
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made me feel.
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Now you don't have to take my advice,
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professional speaker and keynote author, I'm telling you
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how people respond.
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Number 16, guys, stay intentional.
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I can't say this enough.
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Choose your actions with purpose instead of reacting
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to whatever comes your way.
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Intentional decisions create intentional results, that's key.
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And so when we live an intentional life,
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the pieces come together better, okay?
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I think those are important things that a
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lot of us don't understand, okay?
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I think sometimes people don't know what that
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means.
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I think sometimes people say, hey, this is
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great.
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But I think another time people say, this
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isn't where we're going.
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We're trying to figure out what's the right
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path in our life.
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And sometimes people will say, hey, I wanna
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be here, but then they aren't, okay?
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I can tell you that a lot of
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times in life, people go for the easy.
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They'll say things like, do you know who
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I am?
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Why don't we just let our actions speak
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for it?
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You're lucky I even helped you.
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No, I'm here because I wanna do the
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right thing, whether somebody is watching or not.
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I'm better than everyone here.
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No, I focus on helping myself become a
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better version of myself and helping others that
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wanna become better.
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I told you so.
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Let's learn from this and move forward.
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I'm always right.
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I may not always be right.
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I'm open to other perspectives and I'm always
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here to learn.
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They should be grateful for me and what
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I did.
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No, I lead with humility and not expectations.
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Okay, that's important.
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I don't care what others think.
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I respect people's opinions.
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It doesn't mean I have to agree with
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them, okay?
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Number 17, value your time.
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Time is your most valuable resource and asset.
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Spend it on, it helps you grow instead
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of what simply keeps you busy.
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A lot of people I know, they wanna
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just stay busy, but they don't wanna actually
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improve their time.
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Number 18, invest in yourself.
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The more you learn and improve, the greater
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your opportunities become.
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You are your best investment, okay?
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Number 19, think before acting.
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A few extra moments of thought can prevent
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hours of regret.
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Wise decisions begin with careful thinking.
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Own your decisions, accept responsibility for your choices.
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Accountability gives you the power to improve.
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Instead of making excuses.
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And I think what we all wanna do
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is we all want to improve.
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We all wanna improve.
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Not because we have to, but because we
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want to.
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I think sometimes people give the wrong vibe.
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People that appear to be genuine aren't, okay?
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And is it because they wanna be ungenuine?
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I don't think that's the reason, okay?
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I think it comes down to the fact
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that some people don't understand.
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Some people realize that they're the most important
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thing, but they're not, okay?
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I think a lot of times we're looking
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for an answer, but we don't have it.
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So we try to create what we think
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makes sense, but sometimes we're wrong.
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Sometimes we're wrong.
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And we have to admit that maybe we're
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not right.
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I know I was younger, that was the
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hardest thing to do, but now I'm realizing
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if I'm wrong, I'm wrong.
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But I'm happy to share.
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I'm happy to be humble, okay?
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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I think we need to understand the hardest
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thing, which is to be intentional in every
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step in our lives.
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Okay?
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To be intentional with every step in our
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life.
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And I think that's a very important thing.
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And hopefully you can appreciate where that comes
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from.
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Number 21, please build self-discipline.
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Discipline is strengthened every time you choose what
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matters most over what feels easiest or simplest,
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right, or convenient.
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Number 22, please stay accountable.
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Review your progress.
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Honestly, accountability helps you stay focused and continue
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on your journey to help you move forward.
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And I know sometimes you may not be
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where you wanna be, but it's not a
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time to say, oh my gosh, I didn't
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get where I wanted to be.
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It's time to say, well, how can I
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improve?
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I think that's a very important thing, but
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a lot of people don't appreciate that, right?
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They care about themselves.
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Now, you might think you're the most important
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thing.
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I'm not.
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So to someone else, I'm not the most
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important thing.
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They are.
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Let the other person talk.
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Let the other person tell their story and
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shut up.
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That's the most important thing I can tell
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you.
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Very important.
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Make wise choices.
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That's important, right?
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Very important.
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But some people don't do it.
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Why?
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I think people are looking for another answer.
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People are looking for a shortcut.
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So they said, oh, I'll just do this
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instead.
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Choose action that supports your values, your core
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values, your goals in the future that you
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wanna create and manifest.
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Number 24, keep improving, guys.
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Never become satisfied with standing still.
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Small improvements each day create remarkable progress.
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Number 25, growth follows action.
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Growth begins the moment you take action.
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Every positive step creates another opportunity to improve.
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That's key.
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Number 26, stay committed.
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Motivation comes and it goes, right?
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But commitment keeps you moving if you have
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discipline.
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Continue even when progress feels slow.
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Do it anyway.
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Now, there are times I've had this happen
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too.
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Maybe you're having a long track and maybe
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you can't do exercises one night or two.
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No problem.
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Get back on the track when you feel
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ready.
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Okay, maybe it's a day or two off.
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Don't chastise yourself.
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Maybe you did a lot of exercise or
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running that day.
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Don't burn yourself out by having to force
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yourself to exercise.
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Go to bed, that rest is more important.
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Number 27, success is earned, it's not given.
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Success is built through preparation, consistency, and countless
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wise decisions repeat over time.
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And number 28, guys, build your future today.
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Your future isn't created someday.
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It's created by the choices you make before
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today ends.
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Your choices today affect where you're going tomorrow,
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okay?
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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Number 29, every decision matters.
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No choice is too small to matter.
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Daily decisions eventually become your habits, your character,
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and your life.
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Number 30, your future reflects today's choices.
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The life you live tomorrow is built by
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decisions you make today.
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The life you have today is because of
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decisions you made yesterday, the days before.
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Choose wisely because your future is watching, and
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so is the universe.
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And the life you get may not be
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the life you want.
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You get the life that you are, the
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life that you act.
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As we begin together this new series this
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week, remember that extraordinary lives aren't created through
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one remarkable moment.
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No, guys.
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They are built through thousands of small decisions
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made with purpose and consistency.
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What'd I tell you you need?
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Structure and consistency are what you need for
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success.
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Every choice is an opportunity to become a
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little stronger than you were before, wiser, closer
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to the future you want.
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That's important, guys.
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I thank you so much for joining me
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for another amazing episode of Inspirations For Your
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Life.
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If you don't know me by now, I'm
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John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Until next time, ladies and gentlemen, I ask
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you and I invite you to choose wisely,
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to stay intentional with everything you do, to
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keep growing, and remember that the smallest decisions
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you make today have the power to shape
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the biggest opportunities you'll experience tomorrow.
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And I know that's hard for a lot
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of people to breathe and to, let's say,
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process because it seems like gibberish, but it's
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not.
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Our small steps create our success.
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Success didn't happen from one big action we
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took.
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It happened from an accumulation of efforts and
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steps, a sum, a compoundingness of our efforts,
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similar to compoundingness of a bank account, right?
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I also wanna invite everyone here to understand
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this is not something you just do today.
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It's not something you just do when your
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day isn't going well.
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It's something you live, breathe, and act every
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single day of your life.
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So that means it's based on discipline.
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It's not based on anything else.
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It's based on discipline.
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And that discipline is coming from your own
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core values.
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People ask this all the time, John, my
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core values, they're changing.
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Well, they might change once or twice, like
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when you're younger and you get older and
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then they might adopt again, but the core
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should stay there, okay?
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Sometimes things drop out of your life that
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don't make sense anymore.
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And that's fine, that's growing.
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The core values you had when you were
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six or seven are probably not the same
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core values you have now when you're older.
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It's not bad, it's growing.
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And I think when we know we're growing,
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it gets scared.
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Most people are fearful of being a failure.
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You know what a lot of people are
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fearful of?
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I know you're gonna laugh at this, becoming
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a success.
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Oh my gosh, my life's gonna change.
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Like, what do I do?
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How does this happen?
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How does this work?
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That's the truth, guys.
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People think they can operate their life like
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a show.
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Well, today I don't wanna run the show.
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Or today I don't wanna suit up and
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be ready for clients.
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Or I don't wanna have that great attitude.
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I'm having a lousy day, so I'm not
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gonna be friendly to people.
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Well, that's not gonna get you anywhere, guys.
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In fact, you know what it's gonna do?
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It's gonna get you in more trouble.
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I ask those gentlemen to keep building your
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future one choice at a time.
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And I know one choice doesn't seem like
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much in our lives, but one thought is
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all it takes.
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One thought that could get us to take
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inspired action.
26:32
Inspired action that allows us to make a
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difference in our own lives and people's lives.
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When you interact with people every day, whether
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it's personal relationships, networking, business, whatever it is,
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the most important thing is for you to
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be genuinely interested in their story.
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Not because you have to, but because you
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want to.
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Dale Carnegie said this a while back, and
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I took one of his courses many years
27:05
ago.
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When we strive to become genuinely interested in
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another person, the person naturally becomes interested in
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us.
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The first thing we have to do, and
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I've said this many times, learn how to
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say their name correctly.
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And if you don't know how to say
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their name, that looks like a beautiful name.
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I'm gonna botch it up.
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Well, just try.
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And then they'll try to help you.
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When people know you're taking an effort to
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learn how to say their name, oh my
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gosh, that's a very big level of respect.
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I know some people that just take liberty
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to call you different things.
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Like my name is John.
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Some people just say, you know, Johnny.
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And only my family calls me that, a
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few people.
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So that doesn't give people liberty to just
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change your name or call you whatever they
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want.
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I hope you guys have a great rest
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of your evening or day.
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And please check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for more
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of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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Make the tiny decisions carefully.
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Be mindful of them.
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Take care, everyone.