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Hypnosis for Confidence and Luck in Selling and Networking Build Powerful Professional Relationships · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. Now, how would you like to have
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  more confidence and more luck when it comes to influencing
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  other people? That's essentially what this
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  hypnosis session is all about. And I was working with a.
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  Client that was. Very high up politically in a
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  global organization and part of their role was to influence.
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  Some of the. Most influential people on the
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  planet, we're talking very senior people, and that required
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  an element of selling, but not in the conventional way of
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  selling, where you're selling a product or a service.
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  It's selling influence and connection and the ability to.
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  Change. How the world thinks and
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  operates and and works. Now because of that, they felt
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  that they wanted to really feel aligned with that type of
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  selling. So relationship based selling,
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  but they also wanted to feel that they were going to be lucky
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  and have good fortune. Now this is.
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  Taking a couple of different principles, 1 is direct
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  suggestion. This idea that they're unlocking
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  the resources that they already have.
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  They already were very much a people person with excellent.
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  Communication skills. But they felt that they had to
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  be someone different to who they were.
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  So it addresses that, but also an element of law of attracting
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  attraction and manifestation that they were attracting more
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  luck and one of my favorite belief systems.
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  About. Luck is the luckier that you
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  believe that you are, the more luckier you become.
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  And it really has all the ingredients of a self fulfilling
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  prophecy. Because when you believe you are
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  lucky, you tend to act in. Accordance that good.
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  Things are going to happen. It subtly changes.
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  Your body language, Your tonality.
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  And there is. This element that good things
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  will happen, so you tend to notice any of those.
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  Opportunities that. Could go either way, and that is
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  a form of hypnosis that you're doing with other people.
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  Because when you assume good things are going to.
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  Happen. People respond like that
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  presupposition is true. It also has this idea of you
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  reap what you sow and some people believe that sales is you
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  pitch someone and you get an answer straight away.
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  But actually it's more like give and take.
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  And if you try and create value for other people, particularly
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  in relationship building sales, then sooner or later.
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  There is that. Ability to enhance the other
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  person, and it's based on the law of reciprocity.
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  So just imagine like someone's always willing to help you out
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  and then one day they ask for a favour.
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  How likely are you to help them if they've been so generous with
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  their time and energy in the past?
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  And if that would apply to you, it would also apply to other
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  people. So it's this law of.
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  Reciprocity. So if you like the idea of being
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  more influential, of building kind of a big network, of moving
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  on in your career and having more luck, I think you'll get
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  some value from this session. It was created for an
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  individual, so if you like the idea of working with me, have a
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  look in the description on my website, adamcox.co.uk, and
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  you'll see how easy it is to work with me there.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy. The session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of calm relaxation and every time you exhale, just
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  allow yourself to release and sit.
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  Position your body in a way where you can really feel
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  comfortable. That's it, and with your eyes
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  closed, you can become more aware of the sound of my voice.
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  Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper.
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  Relaxed. That's it.
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  You find the rhythm of your breathing and just notice that
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  when you slow down the inward breath, you feel more
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  resourceful, and when you elongate the outward breath you
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  can release. Each breath takes you deeper and
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  deeper. Relaxed eyelids feeling, heavier
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  jaw, looser neck and shoulders more and more relaxed.
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  That's it. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel
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  the deeper you breathe. Each breath can take you deeper
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  to that place, a place of neural plasticity.
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  When new ideas become unconscious thoughts and
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  decisions all by themselves, that's it.
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  Any distractions around you, just allow them to be just like
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  clouds in the sky. That's it, and they can float on
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  by. Don't affect you in any way
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  right now, just connect with the possibility of attracting more
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  of what you desire and releasing anything that impedes it.
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  Pressure dissolves and melts away.
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  Stress is subjective. Stress is simply the contrast
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  between resources and demands. And as you feel more
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  resourceful, stress reduces because you feel that you can
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  handle it. To allow the breath to become
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  more steady and natural, allow the muscles around the eyes to
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  just relax even more, jaw to loosen and shoulders to drop.
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  That's it. And somewhere in your mind,
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  there is a part that works best when it's not trying so hard.
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  Connect with that idea. Remember a memory where you
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  tried very little and you were able to effortlessly accomplish,
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  And when the mind begins to quiet, the deeper, wiser part of
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  you becomes receptive because there is a part within the
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  desires break luck, good fortune.
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  I want you to think of a place, maybe from your childhood or
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  just a place outside in nature, with a path, a specific path
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  you've walked down many times before, only this time, this
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  path, now represents your professional journey.
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  And maybe that path is solid. Feel the stability beneath your
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  feet. And I want you to get a sense
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  that although you recognise the path, you don't know for sure
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  the destination. And that doesn't matter, because
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  even when the destination ahead isn't fully visible yet, the
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  ground beneath you is still steady.
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  And as you walk forward, I want you to connect with an insight
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  or an idea. Every step forward reveals more
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  of the path, and you don't need to see the entire journey, just
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  the next step. And with each next step, you can
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  feel a little more comfortable, a little more capable, a little
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  more certain. There's different types of
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  confidence, but real, solid confidence doesn't come from
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  knowing everything. It comes from trusting in your
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  ability to handle what life throws your way and to respond
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  to what needs to be responded to.
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  And sometimes people hesitate to ask for help, and sometimes it's
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  because there's a belief hidden behind the curtain.
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  If I ask, it means I should already know.
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  If I ask, I might inconvenience someone.
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  But I want you to consider something different.
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  Asking is simply knocking on a door, and every door can be
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  answered in one of two ways, yes or no.
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  The door opens or the door remain closed, and both are
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  completely acceptable because asking is not demanding.
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  Asking is not entitlement. It's simply an invitation, an
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  opportunity, a moment of connection.
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  And many people get their significance from being able to
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  help. They enjoy helping.
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  It makes them feel helpful, Useful.
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  They enjoy sharing knowledge, they enjoy contributing to
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  someone else's success. And therefore, when someone
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  cannot help or just doesn't want to, they know it's simply
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  information. It's nothing more and certainly
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  nothing personal, just information that guides the next
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  step. And you don't even need to know
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  why they can't help or don't want to.
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  You just accept it. And when you consider every ask
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  for help, there's an opportunity to either win or learn to
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  benefit or stay the same. Asking becomes easy, simple,
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  natural, just another form of communication.
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  And just think of 1 memory, just one with someone that you'd lost
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  touch with, reached out and asked for help and maybe you
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  could help. And maybe that revitalized that
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  connection. As you continue walking down the
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  path, I want you to Daydream. Imagine yourself in a
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  professional environment. Maybe it's high level meetings
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  or working at that place that you normally send emails from,
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  or maybe it's meeting someone new.
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  Observe yourself first, but notice how calm and comfortable
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  that version of you looks. How easy it is for you to
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  introduce yourself to someone that you've never met before.
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  I want you to get a sense that you can manifest connections,
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  and connections can become relationships, and relationships
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  could even become friends and then step into that version of
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  you. That is fine, asking,
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  introducing, connecting, because relationship building is
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  something you do naturally. You listen, you observe, you
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  understand people and people can feel that from you.
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  You are not here right now due to luck.
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  You were chosen because you are capable.
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  And what if every conversation becomes an opportunity?
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  An opportunity to understand someone better, an opportunity
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  to strengthen connection. And the more you think of that
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  progression, the truer it becomes.
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  Good friendships before that were trusted relationships, and
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  at one point it was a connection, and before that it
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  was a stranger. And if that's true for all of
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  your friendships, it works the other way round.
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  Strangers become connections. Connections become
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  relationships. Relationships become trusted
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  relationships, and trusted relationships can become
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  friendships, and those friendships create networks of
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  goodwill because people remember how you make them feel
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  Respected, valued, understood. And what if, because of that,
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  people are wanting to help you succeed?
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  And not because you demand it, but because they enjoy being
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  part of your journey? When most people think of
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  selling, they think of car salespeople or pushy insurance
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  salespeople. But that idea of selling isn't
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  true. All communication that involves
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  influence is selling. A politician influencing through
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  a speech or a television appearance is selling a policy
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  or an idea. A trial lawyer is selling
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  arguments to a jury. Selling is not pressure, and
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  selling is not convincing someone to do something they
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  don't want. Selling is simply helping
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  someone see value, to help someone in some way.
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  And when you believe in something, sharing it becomes
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  natural. It becomes a conversation, an
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  exploration. You simply present opportunities
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  and it's the other person who decides if it's right for them.
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  Then you might be selling the idea of a meeting, the idea of
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  some membership or connection, and quite often whatever you're
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  selling has something before it. You're selling first.
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  Before you sell the agreement, you sell the conversation that
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  leads to the agreement. And before you sell the
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  conversation, you're selling your credentials, relevancy.
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  You feel comfortable influencing.
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  And sometimes when people think of selling as influencing, it
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  feels more palatable, more comfortable, and there is
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  freedom. There is freedom in intending to
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  influence but respecting the other person's desire.
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  Or decision to be influenced or not.
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  No pressure, just clarity. You offer and they choose.
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  And one of the secret weapons and influence is being genuine.
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  And because you communicate with sincerity and authenticity, your
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  confidence becomes persuasive without force or coercion.
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  It's not needed. Continue on that path, the path
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  from your memory solid beneath your feet.
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  And as you continue forward, I want you to imagine seeing the
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  very scenarios on that path that would represent good fortune.
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  Just imagine opportunities begin to appear.
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  Conversations, introductions, unexpected insights, helpful
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  people appearing at exactly the right moment.
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  This is what some people call luck.
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  But often luck is simply the awareness to see where
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  opportunity and capability collide.
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  And the more relaxed and confident you feel, the more you
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  notice opportunities around you, the more when you become to
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  possibility, and when you are open to possibility, serendipity
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  begins to work for you. I want you to imagine that
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  serendipity is a personal assistant looking for good
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  fortune to bring your way. And you might meet someone
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  unexpectedly who becomes important later.
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  He might have a conversation that leads somewhere valuable,
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  and you might notice a connection others would miss.
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  Because when your mind is calm and confident, your awareness
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  expands. And when awareness expands,
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  fortune often follows. I want you to imagine that if
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  you were walking down that path, sprinkling flower seeds wherever
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  you walked either side of the path, you would see nothing
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  immediately. But if you were to return to
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  that path, you would see all of the blooming flowers, but only
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  because you scattered the seeds before.
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  And I want you to think of the many skills you already possess.
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  Your ability to connect with people, your curiosity, your
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  willingness to learn. Feel gratitude for, your ability
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  to build trust. Because all of these are
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  powerful qualities, and the more you use them, the stronger they
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  become. Confidence grows through
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  experience and every conversation, every interaction,
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  every connection strengthens your belief in yourself and that
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  voice. That may be said before, I'm out
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  of my depth. I don't know how to do this is
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  now being replaced with a voice that says I can handle this.
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  I know how to connect with people, I can build
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  relationships, I can utilize my connections.
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  Opportunities appear when I'm open to them and as that self
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  belief and confidence expands, there's a feeling that good luck
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  is heading your way. I want you to imagine yourself
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  further down the path and that might represent three or six
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  months into your future, and just notice how different things
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  would feel then. When your network has grown,
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  when people have already seen you shine, they've seen your
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  skills. When micromanagement isn't
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  necessary because they know that you have the ability to do what
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  you need to do. Imagine conversations feeling
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  easier. Asking for help galvanizes,
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  amplifies relationships, doesn't dilute them.
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  You want to help others, and very soon more and more people
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  want to help you, and in doing so, the network has become
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  stronger. Feel all of that goodwill.
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  Feel that there is not a need to force anything.
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  You're just benefiting from the flowers that were planted months
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  before. That's it.
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  So just connect with that idea. Open up receptivity to luck,
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  good fortune, feel your confidence rising, and give
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  yourself permission to ask without expectation.
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  It's liberating, and now it's time to leave that path.
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  Float back to the present with a new feeling of positivity,
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  optimism, and a deep sense that something wonderful is going to
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  happen very, very soon. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 78. Open your.
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  Eyes open Your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The
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