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The Seed of Truth · The Daily Writer

• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Hey my friend, welcome to this episode of the Daily Writer Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's episode is the first in a seven-part series on dealing with rejection.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: As writers, we deal with rejection in a lot of different forms.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be rejected by a reader, a publisher, a literary agent, a podcaster, a beta reader, a book reviewer, a peer, and so many other ways to be rejected.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: And this rejection can be formal or it can be informal.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be big or it can be small.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be direct and aggressive, or it can also be indirect and passive.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever form rejection takes, one thing is for certain, it hurts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when it happens, when you feel rejected, we always ask the inevitable questions like these.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: Why don't they like my writing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have I done something wrong?
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: Why do they have to be so mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I move forward now when I feel so hurt and criticized?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does everybody else think?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they just as displeased as this one critic or this one person who rejected me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, of course, these are normal questions, but when you feel rejected, make sure and ask the most important question of all.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is this where is the seed of truth in that person's rejection?
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  SPEAKER_00: Most of the time, in most cases, there's a kernel of truth in somebody's rejection or criticism.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: The person who hurt your feelings, they might be over the top or maybe they went too far, but oftentimes there is a little bit of truth in every rejection or criticism.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: So look for that kernel of truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if the criticism or rejection is delivered in a hurtful way, it doesn't mean that the person was wrong.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: It just means that they were wrong in their delivery of what they said.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we have to separate the message from how it was delivered.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: So with as much humility as you can possibly muster, and I know this is really difficult, stop and check in with yourself for a minute and see if there's any truth in what that person said, and then adjust accordingly.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: You and your writing will be all the better for it.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: Here's today's question.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of the most recent time you've been rejected or criticized.
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  SPEAKER_00: And was there any truth to it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks so much for listening to today's episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: For more, you can visit us at dailywriterlife.com.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks, and I'll see you tomorrow.