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- Lucas: So I want to start with something that happened last Thursday. I had this great evening planned — leave at five, make dinner, read for an hour, maybe finally watch the first episode of that show everyone's been talking about. And instead I was on Slack until seven-thirty, 'just finishing one thing' that turned into three things, and by the time I closed my laptop I was too tired to do anything but scroll my phone. Luna: That sounds like pretty much every Thursday of my life for the past two years. What broke the cycle? Lucas: I started doing a weekly time audit. And I know that sounds like the kind of thing a productivity guru would tell you to do — and maybe it is — but it actually worked. The idea is simple: every Sunday evening, I spend fifteen minutes looking at my calendar from the past week and categorizing every block of time into one of three colours on my digital calendar. Luna: What are the three colours? Lucas: Green for deep work — focused, uninterrupted time on a single important task. Yellow for shallow work — meetings, emails, Slack, administrative stuff that has to happen but doesn't move the needle. And red for what I call 'time confetti' — fragmented, low-value tasks that take less than fifteen minutes each but collectively eat up hours. Things like switching tabs, checking notifications, answering a quick question on a thread that didn't need you. Luna: Time confetti is such a perfect term for that. So when you colour-coded your week, what did you see? Lucas: It was honestly embarrassing. My week looked like a Jackson Pollock painting — mostly yellow and red, with tiny islands of green. And I realized that my 'urgent' tasks were almost always shallow work that someone else had framed as urgent. The deep work I care about — the writing, the research, the thinking — was getting squeezed into whatever gaps were left. Luna: That reminds me of a study Cal Newport did a few years ago. He tracked knowledge workers and found that the average professional spends about sixty percent of their day on what he calls 'shallow work' — tasks that don't require much cognitive effort. And the scary part is, most people don't realize it because those tasks feel productive in the moment. Lucas: Exactly. And the audit forces you to see it. Once I saw that I had maybe twelve hours of green in a fifty-hour work week, I couldn't unsee it. So I started asking myself a different question at the end of each day: not 'did I get everything done?' but 'did I protect my green time?' Luna: That's a much better question. Did you change anything about how you schedule your week? Lucas: Yeah, a few things. First, I now block two hours every morning — nine to eleven — as 'deep work only.' No meetings, no Slack, no email. I put it in my calendar as a recurring event and I treat it like a client appointment. If someone tries to book over it, I say 'I have a conflict' — which is true. My conflict is that I'm doing the work I was actually hired to do. Luna: I love that. 'My conflict is my job.' Lucas: And the second thing is the one-hour rule. I set a hard boundary that after seven PM, I'm allowed to check work messages for no more than one hour total per week. That sounds generous, but it really forces me to ask: is this thing actually worth my evening? Most of the time, it's not. Luna: So how do you handle the guilt? Because I imagine at first you felt like you were letting people down or dropping balls. Lucas: Oh, absolutely. The first week, I felt like I was being selfish. But then I looked at the data — the audit showed that the things I was 'dropping' were almost never actually important. They were just noisy. And I realized that the guilt was a learned response, not a reliable signal. The audit gave me permission to let go of things that didn't matter. Luna: You know, I think the real power of the time audit isn't the categorization — it's the shift from reactive to intentional. When you're not tracking, you're just responding to whatever comes in. The audit makes you the editor of your own time. Lucas: That's a great way to put it. And speaking of editing — if this show has helped you think more intentionally about how you spend your time, we'd love it if you considered supporting us. Listener support is what keeps this podcast ad-free and independent. You can find us at buymeacoffee.com/fexingo. No pressure, just a way to keep the conversation going. Luna: Yeah, totally. It's a small way to say 'this matters to me,' and it genuinely helps us keep doing what we do. Alright, back to the audit — what about weekends? Did you audit those too? Lucas: I did, and that was the most eye-opening part. I used to think I was 'relaxing' on weekends, but the audit showed that I was actually doing a lot of low-grade work — checking emails, thinking about Monday, planning my week. It wasn't rest, it was just work with a different soundtrack. So now I have a hard rule: no work-related thinking on Saturdays. If a thought about work pops up, I write it down and let it go. Sunday afternoon I allow myself one hour to plan the week, and that's it. Luna: I'm curious — did you involve your team or manager in this? Or is this purely a personal boundary? Lucas: I did tell my team. I said 'I'm experimenting with a new schedule to protect my focus time. I'll be unavailable from nine to eleven for deep work, but I'll respond to everything in the afternoon.' And you know what? Nobody complained. In fact, a couple of people said they wished they could do the same. I think we overestimate how much others depend on our instant availability. Luna: There's actually research on that too. A study from the University of California Irvine found that it takes an average of twenty-three minutes to refocus after a distraction. So every time you interrupt your deep work to answer a quick question, you're not losing two minutes — you're losing half an hour. Lucas: Twenty-three minutes. That's brutal. And it explains why my days felt so fragmented. So the audit isn't just about time — it's about energy. And I think that's the real lesson here. We treat time as a resource to be managed, but what we actually need to manage is our attention and energy. Luna: So if someone wants to try this, what's the first step? Because fifteen minutes on a Sunday sounds simple, but I bet it's easy to skip. Lucas: Start small. Pick one day this week — maybe Tuesday — and at the end of the day, look at your calendar and colour-code each block. Don't worry about changing anything yet. Just observe. Most people are shocked by how much yellow and red they have. That awareness alone will start to shift your behaviour. Luna: And what about people who don't use a digital calendar? Or whose job is more reactive — like customer support or sales? Lucas: Good question. For reactive roles, the audit is even more important because you have less control. You can still categorize your day into chunks — maybe morning vs afternoon, or by type of interaction. The goal isn't perfect data, it's awareness. And if you're in a role where you truly can't block deep work, then the boundary shifts to your off-hours. Use the audit to see how much after-hours work you're doing, and then negotiate from that data. Luna: That's a smart play — bringing data to a conversation about boundaries. 'Hey boss, I'm doing twelve hours of unpaid overtime a week. Here's the calendar proof. Can we talk about prioritization?' Lucas: Exactly. And I think that's the hidden superpower of the time audit. It turns a vague feeling of being overwhelmed into a concrete set of facts. And once you have facts, you can make decisions. You can say 'I'm going to stop doing X' or 'I'm going to delegate Y' or 'I'm going to ask for help on Z.' Luna: I want to try this. I'm actually going to do a one-week audit starting tomorrow. Can I report back next episode? Lucas: I would love that. And I challenge our listeners to do the same — just one week. See where your time actually goes. You might be surprised. And if you find yourself with more green than you expected, great. If not, you now know what you're working with. Awareness is the first step. Luna: Alright, I'm in. And I'm going to start by blocking nine to eleven tomorrow for deep work. No Slack, no email, just me and my most important project. Lucas: That's the spirit. I'll check in with you next episode and see how it went. For now, I'm going to go enjoy my evening — guilt-free.