Latest / Just Us Sisters / Episode 33: The Lone Son-in-Law
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- speaker-0: Welcome to the Just speaker-1: The G speaker-0: Us Sisters Podcast. Life doesn't come with a manual, so we made a podcast. speaker-1: Welcome to episode 33, the lone son-in-law, nephew-in-law. I want to introduce my sisters, Susan, who's the oldest, Cheryl, who's the oldest middle, Shelly, who's number three, and I'm Stacy, your host today for the Just Us Sisters podcast. Cheryl, I'm gonna hand it over to you to introduce Jacob to us. speaker-2: Thank you, Stacy. I'm honored today to introduce my son in law, Jacob, who's been around the family for way over twenty years. Dating and all of it. But I also want him to stand up a little bit and sh show off his t shirt, which is pretty true. That's cute. speaker-0: That cu speaker-2: Yeah. I love it. Stacy, I'm gonna give it back to you. speaker-1: So hey, let's dig into it. Out of fourteen grandkids that Mamma and Papa have, Jacob is the only son in law. So that says a lot. Out of four granddaughters or four nieces, however you wanna look at it, we have one son in law. So it's a big deal. He's a big deal in our family and in our lives. And we're very thankful for Jacob. But we're gonna put him through the ringer tonight. so Jacob, I hope you're ready for this. Yeah, speaker-2: It might have put us through the ring of speaker-1: that's true. So Jacob, what did you think when you first realized you were marrying into a family with three aunts? You know, Cheryl and then three sisters who are pretty protective, I think, especially of Sandy, of our girls. speaker-3: I came from a big family. So speaker-4: So speaker-3: I had five aunts just on one side. Being around a bunch of women was nothing new. speaker-4: Maybe. speaker-0: So you could handle us. speaker-4: Yeah, well I I think so. speaker-3: Thought so anyway. speaker-5: Which sister intimidated you the most when you first met the family? speaker-4: Sure. speaker-3: She c at the time she was a coach, stern, tough, hard speaker-4: Just hard hard coaching and but now just the soft grandma. speaker-1: Soft grandma. I don't know if I've ever heard you described that way, Cheryl. speaker-2: You might not know me very well. speaker-1: I might not. I might not. So what did you learn pretty quickly about surviving in a family full of ants? speaker-3: There's no secrets. speaker-1: Okay. speaker-3: Can't keep no secrets. If if I didn't want y'all to know I couldn't tell Sandy as he would tell Cheryl. speaker-0: And then we all know. Yeah. speaker-1: And then it's on Facebook. speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-2: Hey, are your are your ants like that too, or are they pretty g w good about keeping secrets? speaker-4: I mean they're pretty good, I guess. speaker-3: Yeah, I I I think they're yes. I d I don't really talk with them really like that. speaker-4: Yes. So speaker-2: Probably good if you don't want it all your business out there. We're speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-2: all like that. speaker-1: Yeah. Yeah. I've been holding a secret, y'all, for a long time. So I can't wait to share that with y'all. Not tonight though. speaker-3: you could tell me, Stacy. speaker-1: I'll tell you, Zedka, what we'll tell you. speaker-0: What is something, Jacob, about our family that makes you laugh? speaker-3: You guys love to do things that you're not good at like sing and dance. speaker-5: You know that. speaker-1: Like what? speaker-2: Right Susan. We're the only ones that think we're good at it. speaker-3: Yeah. That's why I don't do it 'cause I'm not good at it. But y'all speaker-1: We don't care. speaker-3: Yeah. speaker-0: Hey Jacob, that's what Tom says. He says, I'm not dancing 'cause I'm not like who cares? speaker-2: Yeah. Yeah. Well Jacob, is there anything that being in our family that has taught you about family? speaker-3: guys always find a way to support each other, to come together. speaker-4: Whether it's for you personally or for their kids or whatever it may be, always find a way to support each other. So I like that. speaker-0: What do you think makes the f our family stay close, in your opinion? speaker-3: Probably th on on the lines of that that you guys always make it a point to find time to spend together to talk with each other. I mean, kinda like this podcast, it's I feel like it bringing y'all close just in supporting speaker-4: Maybe closer together each other. speaker-1: So what ha is something that you have learned from watching the sisters relationship, if anything? speaker-3: Really on the same line. Support speaker-4: I mean just the speaker-3: supporting each other. I mean like Cheryl and everybody going to to Cooper's Yes game last night and just just family over everything. speaker-1: Hey, on that, I shared the picture that you posted, Cheryl, with some colleagues and they just were blown away that Cooper had that many family members at his game. So I that's that's not normal. speaker-2: And that's not very many people. We can bring the numbers. Yeah. You know, I see you and Sandy doing that too. Yeah. You know, supporting Rachel and her children and Becky's kids. I think our families are similar in a lot of ways in supporting each other in our lovers. And I don't see that w in a lot of families. I mean, I see it in a lot, but I wish I'd see it in more is what I guess I was trying to say. speaker-3: Yeah, I feel the same. I feel like my family is is a lot like house family. speaker-4: With the supporting of each other. speaker-5: So as Cheryl mentioned, you're you're probably coming up on twenty five years of at least being around our family. Yeah. And so how has the family changed over the years? speaker-3: I don't think the family has changed a whole lot. I mean it's still a lot of the same traditions that have always been around. Really the only thing that's changed is size. speaker-4: A lot more than speaker-2: Hey. speaker-0: Wait, what kind of signs? speaker-3: lot more kid No, yeah. Yeah. Kids. There's a lot more kids. Especially on the Allen side. speaker-0: Save. speaker-1: Yeah. speaker-5: What family tradition means the most to you? speaker-3: The rotating of Christmas, Thanksgiving, whether it whatever it is that year, how everybody commits to really good to see the whole family, speaker-4: to coming to it. I think it's really the whole family. speaker-3: even though everybody's busy. speaker-4: lot of have little kids or high schoolers or whatever it may be. They really commit to showing up for it. I like that. speaker-2: Yeah, when you filled out that application to marry Sandy, do you remember that being on there? speaker-3: Yeah, I do. It was the number one question on it. speaker-2: Yeah. One number one or two. speaker-0: So what do you hope the next generation, like your kids and our kids' kids, what do you hope that they remember about our family? Just speaker-3: That to speaker-4: support that the family the community support support of the church just that they see that and they continue that on as well whatever community that's there in speaker-3: I feel like that's a big deal. And y w when y'all were in jail. speaker-4: so to Leander to Ralph the the Houston group. I know y'all very big in the community there and support it and I hope that continues as well through my kids. speaker-1: I see that happening, Jacob. So have you ever felt like you needed an interpreter when you're around us for? speaker-3: No, I come from a big family, like I said speaker-4: It's speaker-3: chaotic at times and similar speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-1: No. No. Yeah, it helps that you weren't an only child, right? speaker-3: Yeah, for sure. speaker-2: So we want you to be honest on this next one. And you can pick one or two. So out of let's say out of these three, who do you feel like you could call for advice? speaker-3: Probably speaker-4: Daisy because she's really closest in proximity and she's the closest as far as like boy mom recently off of raising teenagers. I feel like she would probably be the one. Yeah, you speaker-3: I feel like I have to buy calling anyway. speaker-4: have so speaker-1: Yeah. You'd probably get the same advice from all of us. Yeah. So apart speaker-2: Except speaker-5: For the boy speaker-1: from me. Yeah. That's fine. speaker-2: Me too. Probably not. speaker-0: So if you had to keep a secret, who would you call, Jacob? speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-3: I no, I probably if I had to pick one of you, it'd probably be you, Susan, 'cause you're the farthest away. speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-3: Yeah. It would take longer to get back here. speaker-0: Well, and usually I'm the last to know. Like I didn't even know about Sandy's little award. I didn't know that. See? I don't speaker-1: I feel about her award because I follow her school on Facebook. Just so I can see things like that and cheer her on. Jacob. It's kind of rapid fire. We always do a rapid fire in our podcast or try to. So just first thought out of your head and I'll start and others y'all fill in, okay? Who is the most opinionated sister? speaker-3: Shelley. speaker-1: That's true. And I speaker-2: And anybody's still gonna love you if if you pick them. speaker-0: Yes, we will, Jacob. speaker-1: But you're right. Shelley is the most important thing speaker-0: Is the most opinionated. speaker-2: I mean that's not a secret. speaker-1: wait, here's the next one. Who's likely to be late? speaker-3: Sorry, Shelley. speaker-1: No one missed her with red. speaker-3: It's not it won't be Cheryl because she'll tell you five o'clock and she'll be there at four o'clock. speaker-4: Might speaker-3: Where are you at? I you said five. speaker-5: Yeah, we're talking about pet peas next episode. Ding ding ding. speaker-3: Got it. All right. speaker-2: Hey. Who's most likely to call and just talk to you? Yeah, speaker-4: Yeah. Sure. speaker-2: or Papa, but he's not in on this. Yeah. Won't you ever once in a while just get a random call from Papa? speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-3: I do. He's even text me recently, which is surprising. speaker-2: What's the figure is what you're looking for? speaker-4: Yeah. speaker-5: Well, since I know it's not me, who is the best cook? speaker-3: Stozen. speaker-2: We all need speaker-0: It's competitive. speaker-3: It don't even have to be her. It could be one of her grandkids competing whatever and she's like scratching at the table. speaker-4: I'm speaker-1: being competitive just now in her face that you would say her name. What do you speaker-3: I saw it. speaker-1: mean? speaker-2: Still love you if you said somebody else. speaker-1: Who is the speaker-0: Peacemaker. speaker-3: I think that might be Cheryl as well. speaker-1: Hello? speaker-0: Trying to get on the good side. speaker-2: He doesn't have to get on my good side. He's already on my good side. So who's most likely to organize the whole family? Definitely. speaker-1: Who would survive the longest on a desert island? speaker-3: Yeah, she can fish, she can she yeah, it's speaker-1: Be by chip. speaker-2: Yourself doesn't say that you're by yourself. Island is deserted. Be like, Where's Johnny? And he can shoot, I can fiddle sh. We might have somebody speaker-1: with me. speaker-2: to cook it up. speaker-0: you can't sleep on the sand or anything. You have to have a mattress that and a pillow speaker-2: I like speaker-3: I feel like y'all don't agree with me on this one. speaker-5: Appreciate your opinion, Jack. speaker-2: Yeah. speaker-3: Y who do y y'all y'all each think it's y'all? speaker-1: No speaker-2: I think it's me. You do? speaker-5: yeah. speaker-2: I think speaker-1: Just go to sleep. speaker-2: Yeah. speaker-0: Stacey would Stacey's mind would go speaker-2: Jason would be speaker-0: to get off that island. speaker-2: Hilton. speaker-1: Build my own place. I'd be like, let's just build a new place. speaker-0: Mm-hmm. speaker-1: Who would you trust planning your vacation? speaker-4: Shelley. speaker-1: yeah, we're all like that. speaker-5: I think I have planned a few of y'all's vacations. speaker-3: Yeah. speaker-2: Yeah, and when you don't plan on vacations, sometimes th they get a little different. speaker-1: That that's true. We're gonna close out with Jacob. He's gonna stay on with us and we're gonna go into different topics, same thing of what we wish for our daughters. That's why I'm leading this episode because I don't have a daughter, but you know, what we wish for in son in law's Jacob. If you could tell your wife and her aunts one thing about what they mean to you and what this family has meant to you, what would you say? speaker-3: Family speaker-4: From the first time I met anybody, Papa introduced himself and then he hugged me right away. I think he maybe does that with everybody, but it just it made me feel welcome. All speaker-3: And all speaker-4: of y'all are the same way. You're very, very nice and welcoming. It's just you're you're all special people to me. You're saying speaker-2: They're special to us too. You are. And I'm not just saying that. speaker-1: No, I remember Casey coming home when he coached you, I think even before you and Sandy were dating, talking about your drive and you know, if you if the coaches told you to go knock that wall down, you were gonna go knock that wall down. speaker-5: Really couldn't think of a better person for Sandy than you. And I know that y'all worked hard on your marriage and the boys are a prime example of the work that y'all put in and a and raising them. And we appreciate it because we love you guys and we love to see you guys succeeding in life. speaker-1: So cloud, y'all. So claim. speaker-0: Very much so. speaker-2: Thank you. She for being a great role model. speaker-1: That's true. Yeah. speaker-0: I'll tell you what, you've made it hard for the future son in laws. They're gonna have some big shoes to fill. speaker-1: Yes, agreed. Ladies with daughters who are not married yet, what are the most important qualities you hope your daughters future husbands will have? speaker-0: Honestly like Jacob would hope that he would love Jesus, that he would love her, and that he would prioritize family. Those those things are important to my daughter and I feel like Jacob's done an amazing job at doing that. And that's what I'd want. speaker-2: I agree. We've talked a whole lot about of course number one, a Christian man that puts a priority on on leaving his family in God. But also, I mean, and number two is just keeping the family close to the extended family because it would be very easy. Like for Jacob, it would have been very easy, you know, because if you think our family's big, his is double. It'd be so easy for them to just say, you know what? Our family lives here, y'all's is a little bit spread out. And I think it's great that they prioritize. So I would want a man that prioritizes Christ, prioritizes of course his wife and their family. And I pray for that daily. And it is gonna be you know, we joke about it's gonna be hard to find someone like Jacob, but it is. Well J speaker-5: Well just like Susan and Sherrol said, first and foremost a Jesus follower. Being that Cherokee's an only child, it is gonna be important that he embrace Andy and I, or we're just gonna be left out in the cold. And speaker-2: And then speaker-5: just treats my daughter with respect. That's what's most important to us. speaker-2: I do need to say that they don't have to be an awesome athlete, but they do need to have a little bit of knowledge of sports. I mean, now we're getting a little bit on the more surface level once. but we do it a lot in sports and I would hate for somebody not to know anything and have to be asking all the women around. speaker-1: Well there is math leaks too, Cheryl. Yeah. We have one at speaker-2: Yeah. How many of your kids are math leads? speaker-1: Not mine, but Shelley's husband is a methleet. speaker-2: I didn't know that. speaker-0: But Andy is very up on football knowledge and sport. He speaker-2: Yeah about the people in all the sports. speaker-1: Character traits matter more to you than career, money, or status. speaker-5: I think as long as he embraces Cherokee's quirkiness, is kind, honest, with a sense of humor and speaker-0: I would hope that he would be full of grace and not take himself too serious and be able to laugh at himself and have humor, but full of grace, easy to forgive, move on, because in in families things happen and you have to be able to take things with a grain of salt and just move on. But I think that those would would be my majors. speaker-2: think mine would be laughter and great sense of humor and a hard work ethic. No matter how much money they make, they'd be passionate about their job and have a great work ethic. Mm-hmm. speaker-5: That's good way to put it, Cheryl. That that is important. speaker-0: Yeah. speaker-1: Yeah, 'cause you have coaches or teachers who may not make a lot, but make a difference in people's lives, right? Mm-hmm. Hey, what's one red flag that you would have a hard time overlooking? speaker-0: If they don't get along with our family or don't want to be around our family, that would be very difficult. speaker-5: Mine would be disrespecting Cherokee. That's a huge red flag for us. speaker-1: I don't think Cherokee would take that. No. I don't think any of the girls would take that. speaker-2: I think being a narcissist and I guess that kinda goes along with what everybody just said, only thinking about yourself, not caring about like what Susan said, our family. So that would be speaker-1: My next questions were about like how does he have to be able to handle a big family dinner or how important is it for him to get along with the extended family? Which I've already pretty much answered. It's extremely important to all of us for our in laws to enjoy or at least let their spouses enjoy being with our families, right? And you know speaker-0: But he doesn't have to be the center of the attention. I mean, he can be a quiet Jacob, you're a quiet guy. And you kind of sit over on the side, but you're a part of the family. Mm-hmm. And so I don't think he has to be an extrovert and, you know, be able to feel like he can run the family, but I've you know, just being there and being present and being a part. It's okay if he sits in the corner. There's some of our husbands like to sit in the corner. So I think that would be fine. speaker-5: those same lines, just pointing out that Jacob showing up is much more important than him being, like Susan said, the center of attention. We do have nephews that are already that, so it's a it's a small stage. speaker-1: So I'm gonna put y'all on the spot. I'm gonna have you finish this sentence and I'm gonna start with Susan, go to Cheryl, and then Shelley. Finish this sentence. Dear future son in law, before you marry into this family, there are three things you need to know. Susan. speaker-0: A that we love you, but we are a crazy family and we are crazy in the way we love each other and we are crazy in the way we love Jesus. So just hang in there 'cause you're gonna be going on a ride of your life. So I don't know if that's three things, but it all involves crazy. That's all I know. speaker-1: That's true. Cheryl speaker-2: So our family is very sarcastic and so so you've gotta make sure you have your big girl or big boy panties on at all times so that you can handle papa the ones that you know Sure. You just gotta be able to handle it. speaker-1: What about you, Shelley? speaker-5: Before I answer that I would be curious what advice and I know we're throwing this at you unexpected, but what advice would you give future son in laws which would be cousin in laws for you for our daughters? Right. I'm talking to Jacob. What speaker-2: No. speaker-5: advice would you give potential husbands for Cherokee, Michaela, and Caitlin? speaker-3: Sometimes you're just gonna have to go with you you speaker-4: flow you speaker-3: may not speaker-4: want to do everything but doing it'll end up being fun most of the time. speaker-2: No stand. speaker-0: Especially the Christmas hay rides. speaker-4: Hey. speaker-3: Everybody mixed in together. speaker-4: So yeah, it's good. speaker-5: Three are we're loud, we big speaker-2: Love bit. speaker-5: and we crazy. speaker-1: We crazy. There's a lot of crazy there, y'all. speaker-2: Yeah. speaker-1: Yeah. Hey, we want to hear from you, our listeners, about your future son in laws, what you're looking for, what you hope for your daughters, and you know, what you're praying for for your in your son in law. Jacob speaker-2: Appreciate you being here. Thank you very much. speaker-1: Thank you, Jacob. Next week on episode thirty-four, we'll be discussing pet peeves. What are your biggest pet peeves? What do you do that may be somebody's pet peeves? But until then, life is messy, meaningful, and better when shared. Thanks for listening. speaker-0: And don't forget to like us. speaker-2: She hears. speaker-1: Comment and subscribe. Bye.