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AITJs · Two Takes, One Marriage

• In-Person: welcome back, hi Dumbep! It's good. So lots of things have happened since we last recorded. We are officially in our house. Mm-hmm. As you can see, we're filming in a second location right now. This is our living room. we're just recording here temporarily. We might make it permanent. I don't know. We'll see how it goes. we're gonna figure out where we're gonna record going forward. But yeah, we went to I think I already talked about the eye doctor last time. Yeah. So I got my glasses. They're upstairs. And then we went to the dentist. Got a lot of information from the dentist. Yeah. Some work definitely needs to be done on on both of us. So we're gonna get those handled in the new year. that's about it for life that I have. You got anything? Alright, go to sports. their first in franchise history. So Susan was happy about that. I was very happy about that. Cards for ball continues. susan: Can use In-Person: This by week that a bi week this last Saturday, which was much needed. Zer need to get a lot more players back for LSU this this coming Saturday and it's definitely a must win game or you put your fate into the committee's hands, which you never wanna do that. But the first ranking of the college football playoffs came out yesterday and very surprisingly they put Alabama at number five. Where did you think they were gonna rank? think the highest we would have been was eight. okay. so you you got higher than expected. Yeah, it surprised a lot of people and everybody all over social media is talking about how this committee is a joke. But in all reality it doesn't really matter. There's still a lot of games there's four weeks left of the c of the regular season. So a lot of teams are still gonna continue to lose. We're playing LC this weekend, so we can definitely lose that game and a lot of stuff still has to play out. But they're heavily weighing our three wins that we had And two of them are now ranked. Kentucky is right after us and we went on the road to Kentucky and beat them by thirty points. And then we beat South Carolina by thirty points. And we also beat Mississippi State with a fully healthy team. susan: And we also beat Mississippi State with a fully healthy team. now they have some injuries their quarterbacks their start quarterbacks out for the season. So we'll see how it plays out. I'm excited for the game on Saturday. I'm In-Person: now they have some injuries their quarterbacks their start quarterbacks out for the season. So we'll see how it plays out. I'm excited for the game on Saturday. I'm susan: gonna try not to get too aggravated over it. In-Person: gonna try not to get too aggravated over it. I don't see that happening. I just hope that if we do end up losing we make it close and it's not like the Tennessee game all over again. But we're gonna have all of our guys back and we didn't have a lot of our guys through the Tennessee game, so chances are good. and we've also played L Sue very well the last couple of years. so that's it for Alabama. Georgia had that loss to Auburn. but they played a very solid game against Florida this last week. They're continuing to dominate teams. So we'll see what happens the rest of this season. They still gotta play they get still gotta go old miss and play old miss, so we'll see what happens after that game. and The rest of the SEC susan: a lot of two loss teams. So see what happens the rest of the season. That's pretty much the update I have. college basketball just started this week too, so Alabama's teams looking pretty promising. So hopefully get a deep March run this year. So yep. In-Person: lot of two lost teams. So see what happens the rest of the season. That's pretty much the update I have. college basketball just started this week too, so Alabama's team's looking pretty promising. So hopefully you get a deep March run this year. So yeah. March? Yeah, March Madness. The tournament. Okay, March Madness. Got it. sports update so. All right. Awesome. Thanks for the sports update. if you hear any background noises it's just the cats running about and Yes, yes. Especially one who is having zoomies all over the place. Yeah, this is like there's a root. This is what? Yeah, I think so. I think we've recorded one other time this early. But it was on a weekend. Yeah, maybe. So I don't really have anything like major planned for today's episode. there were some ideas that I had that I could either Do kind of a ranked thing like have have us both rank things and then susan: Wings and then In-Person: try to get the same answers. Like I would rank something and then you would have to see if if you could see where I ranked it. Does that make sense? So is that or am I the jerk? So I'm actually gonna let you pick what you wanna do. do some on my dirt. Okay. Alrighty. I think this is gonna be too close to home. Am I the jerk for kicking out, my friend? Huh? I am twenty five I twenty five kicked out my friend twenty-eight mil because he didn't follow four simple rules I had. My best guy friend was moving out of state to New Jersey for school and it was starting three months after his rent ended, so he didn't want to renew his lease just for three more months because it was way more expensive than his original lease. I offered up my space in my living room. I wasn't it wasn't like I wasn't like we haven't stayed somewhere together before. We've been on vacation together several times, so we've definitely shared space before. My four rules were super simple, I thought. Don't leave the lights on, don't susan: date somewhere together before. We've been on vacation together several times, so we've definitely shared space before. My four rules were super simple, I thought. Don't leave the lights on, don't In-Person: go in my room, unless it's for the bathroom, don't go through my stuff, and don't use the washer at night when I'm sleeping. It started off really great. We would cook together, watch shows, play games. It was overall a good time. until after like three days in. He was three days. It was going good for a while. Three days? What is your definition of a while? Well it they didn't say a while. They said it started off really great. We would cook together, watch shows, play video games. It was overall a good time until after like three days in. That still like implies like it He was staying in my living room slash kitchen area in my apartment on my couch. He would leave my low lights and or the big light in my kitchen on as well as the living room lights on while he slept, as well as the TV on full blast. I brought it up to him on the first morning after and said, Sorry, it's just what I'm used to, I won't do it again. I said, Okay. Then we went about our day. Then the night came. Same thing. I brought it up again. Then he said something that about made me kick him out, then but I'm too nice of a person. He said when did you even make that rule? Then I told him when then he said I'm going to be real. I wasn't even listening to you when you were talking to me. Like you've got to be getting me. I said, Hey, I just don't want a huge electricity bill. He said he understood and And wouldn't do it again. He doesn't understand. Then next he offered to pick me up from work. I agree because we work about two minutes from each other and I usually take the bus. As soon as I get in, he has a goofy look on his face. What's up? I said. He said, You can't be mad, he said. I was like, What did you do? I reorganized your room before I left today. What? Why would you do that? Him I don't know Tim OK. We drove back to my apartment in complete silence. I went in went into my room, moved everything back and locked the door, told him that if he didn't leave. I told him that if he didn't leave until the next morning he offered to drive me. I decided and took the bus. During my shift I get a text. Folded your laundry I needed to use the dryer. I had my underwear and bras in there. That was pretty much the whole load. I just couldn't grasp why he couldn't wait until I got off to dry his stuff when he knows I get off in less than thirty minutes. And my apartment is Is less than two stops away, eight minutes on the bus. I was so angry and also felt violated like we're friends, but not like the bestest of friends. He's like a close friend. But also in general, I wouldn't be cool with any of my male friends touching my underwear. I explained that to him, but he didn't see the big deal. I told him to leave in the morning. I guess I didn't hear the part. Well, it put twenty five F but I think there's a male. No, I'm pretty sure it's a female, but I couldn't tell because there was also some typos in this, like it was hard to read a little bit, so Yeah. That's why I didn't want to assume it was a susan: think that I thought this was a male no male situation female but I couldn't tell because there was also some typos in this, it was hard to read a little bit, so Yeah. That's why I didn't want to assume there was definitely not the jerk, but why in the world would you get yourself in that situation in the first place? Well, it was only for three months. In-Person: Well, it was only for three months. And if you think about it, three months is not that long in the long run to you know, help someone out and they take advantage of it. All right. Okay. Am I the jerk for telling a mom that my sitter is not her sitter? My two sons, eight and ten, have a sitter who has been with us for a few years. Their school is connected to a park, so after checkout, they and the sitter go play for thirty sixty minutes. Yesterday five or six boys, including my kids, all down to this little creekslash forest that runs between the school and park. They played tag a bit with my sitter and then they went to dig in the dirt. My sitter rounded up my kids and went home. I guess after he left the boys started throwing rocks and one kid got plopped by accident. The mom of that boy blamed my sitter for not being there to supervise. She said my sitter shouldn't have started a game of tag that took the boys to the creek area and then left them unsupervised without telling the other moms that their kids were by themselves. I said my sitter isn't the park ranger. I wouldn't expect someone's sitter to be watching my kids unless we agreed to it. susan: sitter for not being there to supervise. She said my sitter shouldn't have started a game of tag that took the boys to the creek area and then left them unsupervised without telling the other moms that their kids were by themselves. I said my sitter isn't the park rang. I wouldn't expect someone sitter to be watching my kids unless we agreed to it. Otherwise I would follow my kids wherever they went. She said that my sitter organized the activity and therefore assumed a sitter role. I In-Person: Otherwise I would follow my kids wherever they went. She said that my sitter organized the activity and therefore assumed a sitter role. I asked her what she wanted and she wanted a hundred dollars for the urgent care deductible. That's not even a lot of money to me, but I'm not paying it. I told her to ask the mom of the kid who threw the rock and she said it was an accident caused by an activity started by my sitter. I texted her no. So are they the jerk? I don't think so. No. But at the same time, maybe the sitters should have been clear that hey, I am leaving with the children that I babysit. So your kids are down there by themselves. Yeah. that's the only thing the kids are saying your eyes. He started the whole rock throwing thing in the first place. I don't think he did. I think the kids probably started it. Yeah. The the activity was tag and they were running around and they ran down towards the creek. And then tag probably ceased once we got to the creek and we're like, that's for rocks. Yeah. Hm. Okay. Let's see. Okay. Am I the jerk for telling my sister in law to leave the group chat if she can't handle seeing pictures of my kids? This has been going on for five years and I feel like crap. My sister in law has been struggling with infertility. Before people get on my butt for saying she struggles with infertility, she has an actual diagnosis. She's known for a long time that having kids naturally would be difficult. I believe she found out in high school or college. Whaaaa my whole thing just fell. My brother has been been tested and doesn't have this issue. She is married to my brother and they both want children. Unfortunately it has not happened. Around three years ago she had a miscarriage around four months in. This has been very hard for her. The issue is that she doesn't want to see anything related to kids. I understand why, but it can be frustrating. For example, she thought it was cruel of me to post photos of my newborn daughter in the family group chat. I told her I'd be more mindful because at that time she had just experienced a miscarriage around the same time my daughter was born. My daughter is the only kid of the family so far. At family events, she ignores my kid. My brother says she just can't since it's a painful reminder. She's being a brat about it. If I walked over with my daughter, she will straight up walk away. She refused to go to any of my kids' milestones, so for her birthday my brother came and she didn't come. She asked me last year if I could not bring my daughter to Christmas. I talked to her once about this. Because she is treating my kid like the plague. She ended up crying and my brother was mad at me. I've talked to my brother more times than I can count and it comes down to she is having a hard time. It's fall. People have been doing fall activities this whole month. Yesterday people in the family group chat were giving pictures of what they did, like pictures of apple picking, susan: is having a hard time. It's fall. People have been doing fall to views this whole month. Yesterday people in the family group chat were giving pictures of what they did, like pictures of Apple picky. In-Person: pumpkin carving and so on. Everyone was doing it. Pictures when they went to a local farm. I sent a three picture of my family and I at a pumpkin patch, my daughter was in the pictures. I got a call from my sister-in-law asking not to post pictures of my kid in the family group chat. I had enough and told her no, that if she has too much trouble seeing picture of my kid, then she can leave the family group chat. She hung up and my brothers pissed at me. He told me I made her cry. And I told him that isn't my problem. another brother's trying to support his wife. Gotta realize Yeah. I ha struggle with it, but you gotta you gotta be supportive of people around Well, I have I have I have I feel for the sister in law. Yeah. Though I don't think it's right to censor someone else to stop doing and sharing and doing what they do for their family. don't bring your kid to Christmas. That's like me saying, Hey, don't bring don't bring your mom to Christmas. Or don't bring your dad to Christmas because I don't do good with dads or something. it's just it's wild to ask somebody to not bring their child to Christmas when it's a family gathering. And that child is part of the family. It's like susan: when a s younger sibling gets married In-Person: when a younger sibling gets married susan: before you and you're like you want nothing to do with your in law. It's like 'cause my sister got married before me. My younger sister got married before me and it's like In-Person: It's like 'cause my sister got married before me. My younger sister got married before me and it's like You were happy. It's not like even though you also wanted to be married. But you didn't say I'm going to ignore my brother in law in every aspect. Because happy. you can't Yeah. Happiness you can't Yeah. No. I think that's that's crazy to to censor someone and also, yeah, the group chat. It's a family group chat. You don't have to be a part of it. And it doesn't seem like they Just hasn't happened for them yet. Well, she has a diagnosis, so it is probably something if I and this is just speculation. Yes. There there are other options, however, it might just be that they're really trying for this one option and it's not working out for them and they're just I don't know. I I can only speculate, but I'm assuming that the diagnosis is like something severe in which it can't it it there's there's a high probability it won't happen. And she's known about it. And it's like yeah, it sucks to see children and to think that you're never gonna have that. However, you should still be supportive of, you know, the the person that you married to, their family. Like, it's not even her sister. It's her sister in law. And so susan: that you married to their family. it's not even her sister. It's her sister in law. And so In-Person: That's what's also crazy is it's not even the brother. The brother is just The brothers just taking the wife's side and everything. And to an extent, yeah, take your wife's side. At the same time maybe have a conversation with your wife. Mm. That hey, you really can't tell. How are you making the kid feel mean Yes, you ignored the kid and you I don't know if the kid's old enough to understand Well, it's five years and going. Five years yeah. The kid's gonna start the kid walks up to her and she walks away. She does not talk to the kid. it's it truly is sad. Yeah. Yeah. Can't shut people out at times. Yeah. No, that was an interesting one. Okay. I have not read this one, but I'm gonna read it anyway. And this will probably be the last one. Okay. Yeah, it's been a pretty good episode. Short and sweet. Am I the jerk for telling my parents that having children was probably the most selfish decision they ever made? I gonna just say Honestly, I've not read it. I only read the title and was like, my gosh, I have to read that. Okay. My parents always make it a point to make me realize how they have sacrificed their youth on our behalf. Any fight ultimately results in a lecture that they have sacrificed everything that is worth anything in order to bring children into the world. Now finally I've snapped and told them susan: always make it to make me realize their youth on our behalf. Any fight the world. Now finally I have sat and told them In-Person: That it is their own decision to have children. They wanted a family and hence they opted for kids. And it is they who are legally and morally bound to raise us. Why should I feel guilty for the rest of my life for something over which I had no say at all? I told them that if they had children because they expected them to take care of them financially and otherwise in the future, then maybe they don't have such a great love for kids as they think they have. I don't know what to do. I twenty four female felt like crying and plus I'm a recent graduate and unemployed. It probably is. But but have y has your Okay? I don't I don't think so. Cause how would you feel if your parents told you that they sacrificed everything? Like, take your dad for example, all the hours that he works to be able to make it possible for your family to, you know, grow and and be the family. And then he used that To manipulate you and to guilt you into feeling like Well that would be when I distance myself. You never would snap at them and and say something in the heat of an argument that you didn't mean? I mean I would say probably say things in the heat of an argument, but I wouldn't never Well that's what they said. I ha I have snapped and told them that it is their own decision to have children. Because they they always say in the fight it's a lecture that they have sacrificed everything that is worth anything in order to bring children into the world. So it sounds like the parents are guilt tripping. Yeah, they're guilt tripping. And for someone who they're a recent graduate and unemployed, so they're not contributing financially and they don't know what their next move is because they're still young and trying to figure out what they want to do and stuff. And the parents might see that as wasteful. You're being wasteful because you're not pursuing a career, you don't have a job, I didn't sacrifice my youth bringing you into this world and da da da. I can see where they would they would snap. I don't know. I don't I think they're using it as a guilt trip and they're and they're making the person feel bad about being born. Yeah. They're they're trying to make them feel bad for being born and they snapped and said, You're the one who decided to have kids. I had no say in it. Like you know? Because it's not like they had a choice. And they're being so I think I think that's I don't I think there's a lot more and there's probably jerks on both sides. No. But that was there's a lot more that I've just skimmed and I'm like curious. Yeah. what they are. Am I the jerk my neighbor stole my package and gave it away? What? Wow. Am I the jerk for asking a coworker to pay for tickets he w won from me in a contest? What? Crazy. People people are crazy. Am I the jerk for ordering what I want at a restaurant? No? That's what it's for. I don't know what that one says, but I that one might be one to come later. But yeah, short and sweet. We've had a lot going on. I was sick last week. we were both I his mouth was in pain. Yeah, his his mouth was in pain. We that's why we didn't have any anything planned last week, just Yeah. We've had a lot going on. Let it go every other week the past month, it seems like. So yeah, October has not been our month. Yeah. There's just been a lot going on in November. We'll try to stay consistent. For those few of you that watch us. That listen. More people listen, I think. Listen, yeah. But Yeah, we'll we'll try to stay a little bit more consistent. with the holidays. Can't guarantee anything. We'll we'll try to have something, but there will be holidays coming up, so enjoy those. we did vote. Didn't matter though. It did. It did matter. See, that's the thing. People who have that mindset of my vote doesn't It might vote doesn't matter. Those are the people who need to go out and vote because then we might have saw a different election than what we did. Georgia has a new governor and it's a woman who quit. She was supposed to serve a four year term as Atlanta's mayor, but she quit from it. Yeah. We'll we'll see. And the Democrats goes on though. The Democrats rule the Senate. Mm-hmm. 'Cause they have more seats. So if they want bills passed, they'll probably get their win because they have more. I just feel like it's being much more the same. Prices are gonna continue to go up. yeah. No. We'll see what happens the next two years. Yeah, we'll see. Alright. Alright. See ya next time. Bye everyone. Bye. susan: Alright. Bye everyone.