238. Decentering Men, Centering Yourself

Your Extraordinary Life & Dating After Divorce · Nov 3, 2025 · 20m

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.

In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"

This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.

Here's what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don't beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists…