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139 // My 4-Step ADHD Confidence Framework · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

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  If you have ever wondered, how do I live confidently with ADHD?
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  What does it take to build confidence? Stick around till the end of today's
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  episode as I am going to walk you through step by step of my four-step ADHD confidence framework.
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  Heart that you do belong. You are enough and you are made on purpose and with a purpose.
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  Hey, I'm Kelsey Spronk, fellow ADHD mom and entrepreneur.
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  Join me in building confidence so you can experience success with ADHD in all areas of your life.
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  So go grab yesterday's coffee from the microwave and let's get started.
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  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast. I'm your host,
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  Kelsey, and today we're going to talk about my four-step ADHD confidence framework.
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  Now I have put a lot of work, a lot of thought, a lot of prayer into this and
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  I'm excited to share it with you.
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  I also wanted to let you know before I dive into it, this is the same framework
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  that is going to be in the 30-day ADHD confidence course that I'm creating for you.
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  So if you want to be on the wait list for that so you don't miss out,
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  head to ADHDwithconfidence.com forward slash ADHD course.
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  Now if you want to get a bit of a head start, you want to start sooner,
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  I highly suggest signing up for one-on-one coaching on my website.
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  ADHDwithconfidence.com. All right, and with that being said,
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  the course will still be a few months out, but I will let you know as soon as
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  that is launched. Into today's episode.
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  So there are four steps that I have here and each step has some sub-steps,
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  but I just kind of want to give you a general idea of what we're looking at.
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  The first step is that we need to be able to overcome our self-doubt.
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  When we are living in a place of doubting ourselves, you know, doubting.
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  Who we are, doubting our worth,
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  whether we have worth or what our worth is dependent on,
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  and if it's dependent on something that fluctuates
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  then we will feel like our worth fluctuates at the
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  same time we can doubt our decisions we can
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  doubt our relationships living in a place of self-doubt
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  can crush us and so we want to be
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  able to overcome self-doubt and how we're
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  going to do that is we are going to learn about who
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  we are about our identity and about
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  our worth now there are various steps and
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  I won't go through all of them here but essentially what I want to be
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  able to help you to do is I want you to understand that your
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  worth and your identity are in Christ and
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  they are unchanging and you know
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  as I've gone through the past year and a half with this podcasting and working
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  on this course for the last few months it has been incredibly freeing and I
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  hope for this for you as well freeing to genuinely understand and believe that
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  our worth does not change.
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  No matter what we do, no matter what we don't do, our worth is.
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  Is centered on, if it's centered on Christ, it does not change.
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  And, you know, even as I've gone through seasons of grief recently,
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  or seasons where I've been sick for a long time,
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  and I haven't been as productive as I'd like to be, or I haven't maybe accomplished
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  things on the timeline that I want to.
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  Remembering that my worth doesn't change has been incredibly comforting.
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  It doesn't mean that I don't then want to go and you know set goals and strive
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  for things and live with purpose and intentionality but it means that I'm not
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  doing so out of a place of guilt or of shame or of feeling not good enough.
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  Some other areas that we're going to talk about as far as overcoming self-doubt
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  is understanding your unique ADHD brain, understanding the beauty of how your brain works,
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  understanding that you have these differences but
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  they are not deficiencies and understanding how to work
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  with those instead of trying to change them
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  instead of working against them or trying to turn you
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  into somebody that you're not i want to i want to help you come to a place where
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  you see the beauty of who you are sincerely authentically as who you are some
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  of that as well though is that we're going to have you know roadblocks things
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  that get in our way so learning how to work past those also looking at how you learn best.
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  How do you process information in your environment? We are each unique and it's
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  important that we understand who we are.
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  If we're going to overcome our self-doubt and we're going to be confident in who we are,
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  that confidence comes from that certainty of knowing our worth is unchanging
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  and knowing who we are, you know, knowing what brings us life.
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  What are we good at? What are our strengths?
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  Strengths is another thing that we're going to What are your strengths?
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  What are the gifts that God has given you that you can bless others with?
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  And I think so often as women with ADHD, we have been told...
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  You know, you're doing it wrong or, oh, why didn't you live up to those expectations?
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  You have so much potential and things like that.
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  And so I think a lot of times we can be left with these lies,
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  these lies that we believe.
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  And so that's something else that we want to work through in order to overcome
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  that self-doubt and get to a point of living with confidence.
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  The second step is I want to help you avoid burnout and overwhelm.
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  I don't know about you, but that sounds pretty amazing and
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  now this is not you know just one one simple change
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  but there's a lot of different things that we can incorporate and
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  it starts with awareness right awareness of what are the things that you even
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  need in your life what are the things that are going to give you life things
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  that are going to give you rest and peace contentment balance you know to the
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  extent that balance is possible maybe not every moment of every day but.
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  But balance and contentment in your life in general. So this includes things
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  like looking into your faith, your nutrition, your hydration,
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  your sleep, all these different kind of basics.
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  And then beyond that, as well as what is unique to you that is going to light you up?
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  What are the things that are life-giving for you? I think often we get this backwards.
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  We feel like we have to do the to-do list of responsibilities and musts first,
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  and then as a reward, we can take care of ourselves. We can do things that feel fulfilling.
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  And I think often this is backwards, or it's not that linear.
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  We need to have these things that give us life, that give us joy,
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  and they're going to give us energy in order to do some of those more mundane and boring things.
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  So in this step we're going to talk about how to avoid burnout and overwhelm
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  with that awareness that self-care piece and then learning to understand who
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  you are who you've been created to be the fact that your unique way of experiencing
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  the world and what is life-giving for you,
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  is what you need to focus on it doesn't need to look like it does for somebody else.
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  The third step is learning how to live with purpose.
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  Purpose has been a word that has come up a lot lately in conversations with
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  friends and conversations with clients.
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  And I get it. We want to have a purpose. We are created with this desire to
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  do something more, to do something that feels purposeful.
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  We want to feel like we have a purpose. And now, you know, as a greater kind of purpose.
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  We are here to glorify God, to love others.
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  But how does that look for you? And in this step here, we're going to look through
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  all sorts of different components and how, you know, from step one and step two,
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  who you are and what works best for you to thrive in your life.
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  How does that fit in then when you are setting goals to live intentionally,
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  to become the woman that you want to become?
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  What does that look like? And
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  what kind of purpose and calling do you feel like God is calling you to?
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  And now this can, you know, look differently for different people,
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  but there are all sorts of different areas of our life.
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  You know, we have your faith, your family, your friendships,
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  you have personal goals, you have well-being, maybe physical.
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  Mental, emotional goals, goals for your home, goals for parenting.
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  There are all sorts of different ways that we will break this
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  down within the course or if you want to get a head
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  start like I said we can start on these types of things in
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  one-on-one coaching just go to ADHDwithconfidence.com and
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  select that free coaching intake call all right the last step here once we've
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  done steps one two and three so overcoming our self-doubt by knowing your worth
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  and identity number two avoiding burnout and overwhelmed by learning what helps you thrive.
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  And then number three, living with purpose by setting realistic goals.
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  Number four is going to be to set healthy boundaries.
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  Now, this is super important because these healthy boundaries are going to protect
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  those first three steps. These are the things...
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  The boundaries that we're going to put in place because the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy.
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  He doesn't want you to grow closer to God. He doesn't want you to do well.
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  He doesn't want you to feel contentment and peace and balance.
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  He wants to keep you in chaos.
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  And our God is not a God of chaos. And so it's really important with this step,
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  don't skip out on this step when you do the course, but to set healthy boundaries.
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  Now these boundaries can, you know, be the typical ones
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  that you think of of boundaries with other people as far
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  as who you spend time with but we're also going
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  to dig a little deeper we need to set healthy boundaries on
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  our thoughts on what we
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  allow ourselves to ruminate on on things
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  like catastrophizing on you
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  know perfectionism and comparison there are so many
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  different areas in our lives where boundaries can
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  be incredibly helpful this can
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  also be a time during this step of
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  thinking about reflection reflection of what
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  is working for you what is not working and understanding that
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  this road to confidence is not linear
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  it's not going to be you know just one size fits all you will find your unique
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  way of getting there and learning how to reflect on what is happening for you
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  and having a curiosity is going to be really helpful in this journey.
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  Part of this as well is that growth mindset of understanding that intelligence
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  is not fixed, that you can change, that you can learn, that you can adapt,
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  and that a big part of this journey is the learning you will do along the way.
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  It's not going to be you know one one sit down one perfect experience that leads
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  you from self-doubt to confidence but it is going to be a beautiful journey
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  a journey that if you are willing to step into it and you're willing to give it your best.
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  I do believe that you will move forward and you will move towards confidence.
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  All right, I hope that this made sense.
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  I want this to be something that can help you now as thinking about what kinds
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  of steps you need in order to build confidence.
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  I have lots of this information on the podcast, so don't forget to scroll down
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  and click that follow button as I give lots and lots and lots of information
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  out for free just as part of the podcast.
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  If you are wanting more support I highly
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  recommend one-on-one coaching I've had clients recently
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  talk about how much it has helped them in areas where they have felt stuck for
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  years and now they are able to process work through those things and move towards
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  the goals that they have set for themselves so head to ADHDwithconfidence.com
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  and book a free intake coaching call,
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  thank you as always for being here with me today it's always an honor I look
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  forward to the next one. Until then, God bless.