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How to irritate a narcissist in a few different ways · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So how do you irritate or get on the nerves of a narcissistic
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  person? Use discretion, of course.
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  And if you new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  So welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back, folks. Yes, Yes, yes.
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  How do you irritate A narcissistic person?
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  Yeah. So like I said in the beginning,
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  like I said in the beginning, use discretion.
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  OK? Because use it because that.
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  Yeah. If you, some narcissistic people
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  will become irate if you use these tactics on them.
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  They just will. They will become irate.
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  They they might actually try to harm you or do harm to you or
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  something along those lines. So you have to be careful in
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  these situations when you're doing these techniques on
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  narcissistic people, Talk to people, whoever you know.
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  So one way to irritate a narcissistic person or to get on
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  their nerves a little bit to to razz them a little bit, again,
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  use discretion is to just become super agreeable with them.
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  Yeah, if they're insulting you, if they're trying to put you
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  down, if they're just calling you names consistently or trying
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  to hurt your fillers, just say yeah, OK, cool.
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  Anything else That's all you got.
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  No, no, don't say that's all you got.
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  That one might that might be a trigger point right there to
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  make them get super, super angry but just become super agreeable
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  with them. Just like if they call you
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  crazy. Yep, The craziest.
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  Because call you the B word. Yep.
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  The the, the, the IST, the B stitchiest, you know what I
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  mean? So in that situation right
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  there, so just it's just become agreeable with them, you know,
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  because that strips away them, that's typically strips them of
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  their power. Because if there's not hurting
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  your feelings, if it's not, if you're not giving them the
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  reaction that they're looking for, they tend to not They tend
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  to back down again. Some of them will become irate
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  and try to get angry at you and things of that nature, you know,
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  because that because when you become agreeable with them, it
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  just it it's not hurting your feelings.
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  It might actually hurt your feelings, but you're not giving
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  giving them the reaction that they want.
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  You're not crying. There's not a tear.
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  You're not saying OK, yeah, cool, that's what it is.
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  And there's not a tear or two running down the side of your
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  face because they can say some extremely mean things to you.
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  Because when you become agreeable with them, y'all.
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  When they don't see, you give. When you're not giving them the
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  reaction that they want, they tend to escalate the insults.
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  You know, instead of just calling you, you know, calling
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  you fat or something like that. Body shaming you too skinny,
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  whatever it is, you know, talking about your your
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  sexuality, whatever it is. If that doesn't work, they might
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  start talking about your childhood trauma.
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  That's why your daddy left. That's why your Mama wasn't
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  around. That's why they used to beat
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  your ass as a kid. That's why they abandoned you.
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  You see what I'm saying? They'll they'll start saying
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  things like that. Be like, yeah, cool, that's what
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  they did. Y'all it strips them of their
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  power. It just does.
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  Because you right here, not only does it irritate them, it
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  actually gives you the if you haven't seen them for who they
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  are yet, this is when you get to see them for who they actually
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  are in this situation. Yes, you can.
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  You can take this as an opportunity to get to know who
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  you're actually dealing with because they will show.
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  They will show you how they really feel and what they really
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  think. When you become agreeable with
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  them, they'll just start becoming meaner and meaner and
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  meaner. And I said, sometimes you have
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  to use discretion in these places because they might talk,
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  some of them might get outright and put their hands on you.
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  You know, I posted a short video about this and a lot of people
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  in the comment section said, oh they they used to be my favorite
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  tactic to get them to leave me alone and then something because
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  they would they would get so irritated and become so
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  frustrated that they weren't, they would not get the reaction
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  they wanted. They would just leave me alone.
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  But then other people in the comment section said I would do
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  the same thing. They will come become irritated,
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  but then I will get I got a black eye or then I ended up in
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  the hospital or something along those lines.
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  This is the opportunity for you to they they will show you who
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  they really are right here. Y'all, if they put the, you
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  know, they absolutely will Because the reason this
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  technique works right here, Y'all because narcissistic
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  people love getting reactions from you.
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  They're like, like, that's one of the things that they just
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  gives them a high. Like they love the reactions
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  from you. They love it when you are
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  yelling and screaming at them. They love it when you are
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  throwing things at them. They love it when you are crying
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  and boohoo crying and trying to hit them or something like that.
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  They love it when you're calling your friends and family because
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  they hurt yourself. They love, yeah, they love the
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  reactions from you. So your goal here is to strip
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  their power from them by not giving them the reactions.
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  They hate it when you just agree with everything because they if
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  you if they are used to this technique, if they are used to
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  trying to hurt your feelings by just saying mean things to you
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  and then you crying and you going to sleep or you running
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  away, they're used to that right there, right?
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  They're used to it, you know? So they'll keep doing it over
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  and over again. There's one technique to
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  irritate a narcissist, another one y'all.
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  Another technique to irritate a narcissist is great rocking.
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  When grey rocking is not becoming super agreeable to
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  them, it's just removing your emotional reactions to anything
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  that they are doing. You know, even the good stuff
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  that they do. Grey rocking works on a lot of
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  narcissistic people. Again, y'all use discretion
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  because when you if you grey rock narcissistic people the
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  wrong one, they'll get mad at you because grey rocking is
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  becoming. It's like think of a thinking of
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  a rock gal, a rock that might be out in your driveway.
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  It's boring, it's a grave rock. It's just all it is.
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  It's a rock. That's what you do.
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  Rocks don't have emotions. Rocks are stiff.
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  Rocks don't move right. Rocks don't fight back unless
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  you unless they throw they. Unless they are thrown and
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  whatnot. Or or Jessen or shot shot at
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  somebody you know or put in a slingshot and slingshot at
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  somebody. So grey rocking can irritate A
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  narcissist as well. Y'all it just will you you.
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  This is how you help. This can help you survive right
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  here. Because grey rocking you remove
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  your emotional reactions to even the good stuff.
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  Y'all, you know, even the good stuff because the good stuff
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  that they do, they trying, they are trying to get you to connect
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  to them. They're trying to get you to re
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  establish a connection with them.
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  They're trying to get you to be happy and let your guard down
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  because boom, they got you. Grey rocking is you know you
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  become you are you are you are somewhat agreeable to them.
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  You just treated them like anybody else.
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  You know just oh OK, that's cool that works.
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  You know just send basic sentences.
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  You're pretty much becoming boring.
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  But be careful again, because when you become boring, they're
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  like, what the hell is wrong with you?
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  Why you? Why you talking like that?
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  Why you acting like that? Why you like a robot you like.
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  It's called a grey robot, you know, because you were like, now
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  you're a robot. I'm an empathetic robot here to
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  remove my emotional reactions to you.
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  You see, that's how you can survive right there.
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  They help. Grey Rocket is not supposed to
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  be used over a long period of time.
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  Maybe because they can start to have effects on you, because you
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  want to be human and have human interactions.
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  It was not with people. But like, none of these should
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  be used for a long period of time.
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  They're just survival techniques to irritate a narcissistic
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  person, to get them, to get pretty much to get them to leave
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  you alone. You know, they just rattle their
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  soul a little bit to make them just, you know, to bug them, you
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  know, just to razz them a little bit because you want to razz
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  them. Razz and jazz.
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  Razz and jazz. You know what I mean?
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  Razzy jazzy. That's what you want to do.
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  That's the type of stuff you want to do.
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  The narcissistic people. Another thing.
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  Yeah. And I'll just say this right
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  here before I hop to the next one.
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  Just be careful. Just be careful because like,
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  you just never know how this person is going to react, how
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  these people are going to react to you, you know.
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  But the main thing that irritates A narcissist, toxic
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  person, a hole's soul is drumroll.
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  What is your guess? What is your guess?
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  Put your guess in the conversation.
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  No contact going, no contact. Cutting off access to you,
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  cutting their access off, severing communication, ending,
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  you know, ending their trial run.
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  Your free trial is over. You got to pay for the rest.
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  You know, that's what it is. No contact is the greatest way
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  to irritate a narcissistic person's soul.
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  I promise you, narcissist, How does narcissist feel?
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  You go no contact. They go lose their damn minds.
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  Because if they're not ready for the relationship relationship to
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  end and you go no contact their minds, they are losing their
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  minds because they think you're with somebody else.
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  Again, y'all, I hate the fact that I have to say use
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  discretion when you go no contact, because you should be
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  able to go no contact just freely because you just you can.
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  You should be able to cut off access to you freely because
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  you're a human being who you know you're.
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  You have autonomy over your own self, but a narcissistic person
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  doesn't want you to have autonomy.
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  They want to, they want to control you.
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  Right. So the fact that they want to
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  control you says a lot. They don't want you.
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  Like when you go no contact. They're thinking you all here,
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  getting you clapping cheeks or getting your cheeks clapped by
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  somebody else. They think you are here messing
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  around. They think you moving on or you
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  finally somebody better than them.
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  No contact activates the shame center.
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  In a narcissistic person, shame grows in the dark.
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  That's one thing a lot of people have to realize, that shame
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  grow. Shame absolutely grows in the
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  dark. So when you cut narcissistic
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  people off, you take your light away from them.
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  So they're now in the darkness of themselves.
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  And they this shame is growing in the dark.
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  Insecurities are bubbling over. You see then the darkness by
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  themselves. The insecurities are bubbling
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  over. They can't handle it.
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  They don't know what comes next. They don't know what to do.
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  They don't know what you're doing.
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  That's why you see this a lot of times in this stage right here
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  where you got no contact. They started to beg and plead
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  and cry and want to. I'll come back and things like
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  that. Please, I'll change.
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  I'll change for you. Please just come back.
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  Home, baby. Please.
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  I'll change myself. I'll change the stuff that I
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  did. I'll do all this stuff.
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  I'll. I'll do all this stuff
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  correctly. Please.
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  I'll go to therapy. Please, baby, please come home.
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  Please, please, please, please please.
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  You know, because some people can't handle it.
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  I'm just telling you, of course you have to be careful because
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  this when they when you go to no contact, you block them on
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  everything. They might start stalking you.
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  They might start trying to pop up at your job, They might start
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  trying to pop up at your house. They might start emailing you
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  constantly. They might change e-mail
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  addresses, they might do fake emails, they might do fake phone
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  numbers. They might call your friends and
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  family. They might threaten to unlock
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  themselves. They might do, they might end up
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  in the hospital and try to get you to come see them in the
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  hospital. Yeah, they no holds barred.
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  If I say you have to use discretion and using all of
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  these methods to irritate their soul, but no contact is their
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  greatest way. Yeah, you can become super
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  agreeable with them and that irritates their soul.
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  That messes with them. You know, you can.
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  What did I say? You can, you can grey rock them
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  because grey rocking is grey rock is typically used when
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  you're in preparation to leave because you don't want to be
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  grey rocking for 2-3 years y'all or those 10 years.
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  Grey rocking is just like they don't rock.
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  They don't have, they don't do they probably can do some mental
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  stuff to you because you removing your emotional
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  reactions to this person and if this is this person is the
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  person you see the most you communicate with the most you
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  see how they can affect you greatly you know.
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  So in these spaces right here you have to be careful take some
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  time for yourself be careful you know and love you love you love
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  you you know because you have to you have to take the this is you
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  taking a stand you know. Again, y'all.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist. And I, like, I know people might
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  react negatively to the title and to this video.
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  They're like, well, Lee, trying to get people hurt.
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  No, I'm not trying to get people hurt.
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  That's not what I'm trying to do.
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  That's why I say use discretion. You know, use discretion
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  because, like, when you start to use these, when you start to use
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  these methods, they might start to switch methods up.
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  They might get irritated, and then they might try to love bomb
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  you. Right.
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  They might try to love bomb you. They might try to appeal to your
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  other senses. They might try to threaten to
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  leave you. They might do a whole bunch of
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  different stuff. But this is how you just mess
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  with them a little bit. Yeah, they mess with you right
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