Latest / Alignment With Jenn / (57) 11 MICRO HABITS TO QUANTUM LEAP THIS SUMMER ✨ Become Her, One Habit at a Time
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- 0:00Hello and welcome to the Alignment with Jen podcast.
- 0:03I'm your host, Jen Ditzesi, and today we're going to be talking
- 0:07about 12 micro habits that you can start doing this summer in
- 0:11order to reinvent yourself by the fall.
- 0:14I did an episode like this last December and it was one of the
- 0:17most popular episodes at the time where it was in preparation
- 0:20for New Year's. But I always like to do like a
- 0:23mini New Year's in the summer, right?
- 0:24It's July right now and I'm recording this.
- 0:26It'll probably be August when I release it to just get set up up
- 0:30for the rest of the year, right? Because we go into the holidays,
- 0:33we have all of this exciting stuff coming up and we want to
- 0:37feel like our best selves, right?
- 0:39And so I have a lot of really cool tools for you that you can
- 0:42really easily implement. And what I recommend is listen
- 0:45to this episode and then listen to it again and actually take
- 0:49some notes on what do you actually want to implement from
- 0:52this, right? What are some of the things that
- 0:54you want to do? So it's something that I'm going
- 0:56to be doing with what I'm teaching you in this episode is
- 0:58I'm starting to do a 30 day challenge for myself where it's
- 1:02kind of like a mini 75 hard, but like not like a more feminine
- 1:06version of that in order to just feel like my best self entering
- 1:10the fall. I love setting myself up for
- 1:13each new season really powerfully.
- 1:15So I'm doing it with a friend. I highly recommend send this
- 1:18episode to a friend so you guys can do this together.
- 1:21And I'm going to give you some of these, but you can come up
- 1:24with whatever you want, right? In order to really just feel
- 1:27like your best self because when you create this momentum, it
- 1:32goes into every area of your life.
- 1:34So the first habit for reinventing yourself is create
- 1:38an ideal avatar of yourself. So your subconscious mind needs
- 1:44clarity on where you want to go or it's not going to know.
- 1:48So what we want to do is, and you can do this in a couple of
- 1:52fun different ways. You can journal about it.
- 1:54You can make a Pinterest board. If you're a more visual person,
- 1:57you can do it in a couple different ways.
- 1:59But what I want it to reflect is who do you want to be, right?
- 2:03And this can be your style, right?
- 2:05Your personal style is such an expression of your soul.
- 2:08It can be how you move through your day, right?
- 2:11What do you believe about yourself?
- 2:13Maybe you put on there some affirmations about what you want
- 2:16to believe about yourself, but I recommend having at least a
- 2:19written paragraph of who do you want to be, right?
- 2:23How do you want to wake up in the morning?
- 2:24How do you want to feel? How do you want to spend your
- 2:27time? Who do you want to spend your
- 2:28time with, right? Imagine that most ideal version
- 2:32of you and just kind of let it flow onto a piece of paper and
- 2:37just allow yourself to really create that ideal version of
- 2:41yourself. And what that's going to do is
- 2:44it's going to show your subconscious mind like, OK,
- 2:47cool, this is where we're going. This is our next level.
- 2:50It directs your arrow of attention, right?
- 2:53I always think of our attention as an arrow that we're pointing
- 2:56in, oftentimes many directions. But if we want to create a
- 3:00change, we've got to point that arrow in One Direction.
- 3:02And that's what this ideal avatar is.
- 3:05So what you can do is take this and you can turn it into a
- 3:09Pinterest board, like a visual board, or you can just have it
- 3:12written out, whatever you choose.
- 3:14But I recommend making it so you can see it every day.
- 3:16So make it the background on your phone, make it the
- 3:19background on your computer. You can print it out if you want
- 3:21to. You can make a little like ideal
- 3:23self vision board that's super fun to do and put on their
- 3:26emotions. You want to feel right, the
- 3:29images that you want to see in your life.
- 3:32That's a really cool way to do this.
- 3:34Then what I want you to do with this is once you do it, create a
- 3:38becoming her playlist. So it can be like A5 song
- 3:42playlist. It can be 10 songs.
- 3:43If you're a playlist girly, like make it big, whatever you want,
- 3:46but it's a playlist that you are going to play at different
- 3:49points throughout your day. So maybe you play it when you
- 3:51wake up, maybe you play it when you're driving, maybe you play
- 3:54it in the evening when you're cooking dinner.
- 3:57But music is an extremely powerful anchor for our nervous
- 4:01system, right? Think about there's a song that
- 4:03you used to listen to in middle school, right?
- 4:05For me, it was like, I think it was Good Charlotte, like, and
- 4:09every time I hear that song, I'm drawn back to middle school.
- 4:12So what you're doing is the opposite.
- 4:14You're picking these songs and you're going to play them
- 4:17consistently throughout this next month.
- 4:20And maybe you play it while you're reading your avatar.
- 4:22That could be a cool way to do it.
- 4:24And you're going to anchor that new version of you into your
- 4:28life. But I don't want you to just
- 4:30listen to it all day long. I want you to listen to it in
- 4:33moments when you feel like you're really embodying that new
- 4:36version, right? When you're getting ready for
- 4:38the day, when you're driving somewhere exciting.
- 4:41You're trying to make it so your mind associates these songs with
- 4:44that new version of you. Because what's gonna happen is
- 4:47eventually, when you hear those songs, you're gonna start to
- 4:50embody the Physiology of that new version of you, right?
- 4:53And for some of you, you're gonna wanna do a lot of songs.
- 4:56Some of you all wanna just do a few.
- 4:58What I know is I've been to a lot of Tony Robbins events and
- 5:01he plays the same songs at every single event.
- 5:03And every time I listen to those songs, I'm pulled back into that
- 5:06Physiology that I developed at that his events, right?
- 5:10Which is empowered, strong, powerful, confident, right?
- 5:14I feel those things when I listen to his songs.
- 5:16So now I can listen to them before I do things that I find
- 5:19challenging to get me into that Physiology.
- 5:22That's what I want you to create with this is I want you to get
- 5:24some songs that really pull you to being that that new version
- 5:28of you Second is upgrading your wardrobe.
- 5:32And this doesn't mean you need to go on a full new shopping
- 5:35spree. It literally could be going in
- 5:37your closet and finding new outfit combinations that match
- 5:42this new version of you right. Get resourceful with what you
- 5:45already have. Maybe it means investing in some
- 5:48different new items that feel really good for you.
- 5:51But I really believe that a huge part of the feminine is creating
- 5:56beauty. And we do that a lot through our
- 5:58physical expression, right through our hair, through our
- 6:00nails, through our makeup, through all of those sorts of
- 6:03things. Shifting your physical
- 6:06aesthetic. And this is this is actually the
- 6:08second and Third Point, and also your environment, your
- 6:11environment as well, because those are extensions of us,
- 6:14right? They're extensions of our
- 6:16energetic field. They're extensions of our own
- 6:19internal beliefs and when you enter a new level, a new
- 6:22identity, often times we want to create a new expression in the
- 6:26physical world. That's what your wardrobe is,
- 6:29right? It's not about looking like a
- 6:30certain person. It's about expressing yourself,
- 6:33expressing your creativity. So what are some of the things
- 6:37that you want to express, right? I'm doing this right now and I
- 6:40literally on my computer, I have like 10 tabs of little stores
- 6:44that I want to shop in online because I want to shift my
- 6:47physical aesthetic to match more of who I feel like I'm becoming.
- 6:50Doing right. That's such a feminine thing to
- 6:52do to just create this physical expression.
- 6:55It's so, so, so, so, so fun. And you can create a Pinterest
- 7:00board as well if you want to, right?
- 7:02Or you can go in your closet and just mix and match new things so
- 7:06that way you feel like this is exciting, this feels like fresh,
- 7:09this feels new. Same with your environment.
- 7:13So cleaning out your environment.
- 7:15I might have shared this story before on the podcast, but I had
- 7:17a client and we were doing a lot of like deep, deep worthiness
- 7:21work. And one day she comes into our
- 7:22session and she's like, you know what?
- 7:24I was like, what? And she's like, I just ordered a
- 7:27massive dumpster to be delivered to my house and she's like, I'm
- 7:31going to clear out my entire house.
- 7:33And she spent the next two weeks like clearing out her attic,
- 7:36clearing out her house. She's lived there for many years
- 7:39and she just cleared out all of this stuff.
- 7:40And she's like, I've never been able to do that before.
- 7:43And she's like, but I feel like this new person and I feel like
- 7:46I want my space to reflect my new energy.
- 7:49And that's why we changed our physical space, right?
- 7:52Right now, my office in my home feels like not quite like how I
- 7:56want it to feel. So I'm going to update it.
- 7:58I'm going to change it. I might get, you know, some new
- 8:01things. And this can be very small.
- 8:03It can be literally you just buy yourself a new nice candle or a
- 8:07new, you know, blanket something.
- 8:10It can be really, really simple or it can simply be just
- 8:13clearing out the old, right? But allowing This is why we do
- 8:17spring cleaning because it creates this energetic space
- 8:21when we get get rid of things in the physical.
- 8:24Marie Kondo talks about this in her book, the Tidying Up book
- 8:28about how the things that we have hold energy, you know, and
- 8:31so when we get rid of old things or things that we don't
- 8:34absolutely love, we create more alignment.
- 8:38I don't think she says it like that, but that's how my brain
- 8:40read it, right? But we create more alignment
- 8:43when we let go of the old things that no longer fit for us.
- 8:47Then another extension of this is something called scent
- 8:50anchoring. So when you are doing things,
- 8:53this is a lot of anchoring. This is a lot of using
- 8:57neuroscience essentially to become this new version of you
- 9:00scent anchoring. So this is something where you
- 9:03pick a signature scent that you have.
- 9:05It could be something that you already have, or it could be you
- 9:07could buy yourself a new scent. It can be a perfume, it can be
- 9:10an essential oil, whatever you want it to be, or it can
- 9:13literally be something that you just smell if you don't want to
- 9:16wear perfume. Scent is one of the strongest
- 9:19senses tied to memory. It's very, very strongly tied to
- 9:22memory. And so you're going to smell
- 9:25this scent or wear the scent when you are being that version
- 9:29of you. So say you want to start
- 9:30creating content and you haven't been doing it.
- 9:33You're going to spray this scent on you when you're doing that.
- 9:36It's almost like this little micro reward and what you're
- 9:39doing is you're creating this anchor to pull you back to that
- 9:43version of you when you do things you feel proud of, when
- 9:45you do things that mirror this version of you that you want to
- 9:49be. The 5th is starting to take
- 9:52breaks every 90 minutes. So our brain naturally goes into
- 9:57trance state, into the alpha brain wave state every 90
- 10:02minutes. And so when we push ourselves to
- 10:04work for three hours or even 2 hours instead of taking breaks
- 10:08every 90 minutes, what's happening is we are less
- 10:11productive, but we also are basically putting off our brains
- 10:16need to go into that state. And so this can create those
- 10:19afternoon slumps. So what you want to do is just
- 10:22every 90 minutes, take 15 minute break, go for a walk, go, you
- 10:26know, do a little meditation, do something that just allows your
- 10:29brain to not do anything, right. Don't go and listen to another
- 10:32podcast because that's keeping your brain more in beta.
- 10:36But allow your brain to just be. And what that's going to do is
- 10:39it's going to allow you to be more productive, more creative,
- 10:42more focused, have more energy. It's a really, really powerful
- 10:46thing to do. So that is the fifth one.
- 10:51The 6th 1 is when you're getting ready in the morning as you're
- 10:56looking in the mirror. There can be a tendency, I know,
- 10:58for people to be very judgmental of themselves, you know, oh, I
- 11:02should look like this. I should do this differently.
- 11:04My hair doesn't look that good. And something I have started
- 11:07doing is I've started two things.
- 11:10Whenever I'm doing my hair, I always say to myself, I'm going
- 11:12to have a really good hair day today.
- 11:14I'm going to have a really good hair day today.
- 11:16And then I've have shockingly way better hair days.
- 11:19But I also will always just say I am beautiful inside and out.
- 11:23And I'll just repeat that to myself as I'm getting ready.
- 11:26And what's wild is you start to notice all of these things that
- 11:30you feel beautiful about rather than noticing all the things
- 11:34that you want to fix, right? I think with social media and
- 11:37the day and age that we're in, it's so easy to notice
- 11:39everything we want to fix. So what you're doing is you're
- 11:42giving your mind a focus, focusing on beauty, focusing on
- 11:46noticing your own beauty. You're going to get a very
- 11:49different result if you only do this one.
- 11:52You're going to feel like significantly better, and people
- 11:55are gonna start reflecting that back to you, right?
- 11:58When you feel beautiful, people tell you you're beautiful.
- 12:01It's the wildest thing. And when you don't feel
- 12:05beautiful, people don't tell you you're beautiful as much.
- 12:07It is so wild. The next one is something called
- 12:12the Freedom app. So this is an app that allows
- 12:15you to block other apps on your phone.
- 12:18I love this app and what it does is it basically allows you to
- 12:22choose which apps you want to block and then set a time of
- 12:26when they're blocked. And it's really, really cool
- 12:29because you what I recommend doing is blocking social media
- 12:33in the morning and blocking social media at night.
- 12:35This is going to keep your subconscious mind a lot
- 12:38healthier because you're not during those times.
- 12:41Your brain is more open to suggestion and so you're going
- 12:45to prevent yourself from just letting in Willy nilly whatever
- 12:49is on social media. OK, so I highly recommend the
- 12:52freedom app. Just search like freedom focus
- 12:54app and it will come up for you. It's really, really amazing.
- 12:58You can also take this to another level and have one day a
- 13:01week, either Saturday or Sunday is a good day to choose where
- 13:05you block all of your social media apps and you just don't
- 13:08let yourself go on social media for a day.
- 13:10Your mental health will improve after just one day of doing
- 13:14that. It is so powerful.
- 13:15Block your e-mail, right? I block everything in the
- 13:17morning and everything at night and it really, really, really
- 13:20helps me. And I took the app off my phone
- 13:23for a little while because I was like, oh, I don't need this.
- 13:25I do need it. It really helps me.
- 13:27It's so easy, even if you have the best intentions to kind of
- 13:30slip into scrolling or slip into checking your e-mail.
- 13:34And it creates space. It creates mental space.
- 13:38And it might be hard at first if you're addicted, but it will get
- 13:41easier, I promise. Then the 8th 1 is taking special
- 13:46care of the 1st 30 minutes of your day.
- 13:49So the first 30 minutes of your day, as I said, is when your
- 13:52subconscious mind is more suggestible.
- 13:54It's more open to being programmed so you can use this
- 13:59time. It's also an amazing time to
- 14:02really deepen your spiritual connection.
- 14:04So what I recommend, even if it's the 1st 10 minutes, is just
- 14:09either meditation or prayer or having a conversation with the
- 14:12universe, but setting your focus for the day, right?
- 14:16Setting your intention. Because when you have that
- 14:18prayer or that conversation, you're also communicating with
- 14:21your subconscious and it is going to help you direct your
- 14:25day, right? I've talked before about how
- 14:27your subconscious needs a direction, right?
- 14:30It needs you to point your arrow in a certain direction.
- 14:33And what you're doing when you start your day like that is
- 14:36you're helping it point its arrow in a certain direction so
- 14:39it knows what you want from that day, right?
- 14:41It wants to serve you. That's the craziest thing, is
- 14:45your subconscious actually wants to do whatever you want it to
- 14:48do. It literally loves that.
- 14:50It just needs guidance, right? So give it guidance every day.
- 14:53You know, I thank you so much for helping me feel so confident
- 14:57today, feel so powerful, feel so focused to create an amazing
- 15:01podcast episode for my audience, right?
- 15:03Those kinds of things, same thing in the evening.
- 15:06So this is the ninth one. This is another one that I
- 15:08recommend is having a little audio that you listen to each
- 15:13evening and it make it about 5 or 7 minutes.
- 15:16And you can make it a hypnosis style audio if you know how to
- 15:19do that. Or you can just make it a series
- 15:21of positive affirmations or positive suggestions for
- 15:25yourself. And you're going to listen to
- 15:27this as you fall asleep. And it can be very, very, very
- 15:30short, but you're going to make these positive suggestions.
- 15:34And as you do that each day, you're going to notice that
- 15:37you're starting to implement those suggestions more.
- 15:40So you want to keep them pretty simple, pretty general.
- 15:44So things like every day when I wake up, I feel focused and
- 15:48energized for the day, right? Every day when I go to sleep, I
- 15:52sleep so soundly and my body heals.
- 15:55A good book you can look at to help you with this as well is
- 15:58The Power of the Subconscious Mind.
- 15:59He has a lot of really good little prayers written out.
- 16:02But listening to something like that is going to give you higher
- 16:06energy levels. It's going to help you focus
- 16:08better because you're giving your subconscious mind that
- 16:11direction on what to do #10 is clean up your inputs.
- 16:16So what I mean by that is clean up your social media feed,
- 16:21right? Stop clicking on or following
- 16:23content that doesn't make you feel good, right?
- 16:26Get your feed filled with puppies and positive
- 16:28affirmations and, you know, funny stories or things like
- 16:32that. For a while, I started following
- 16:35someone on social media who tells these really, really good
- 16:37truth crime stories. So not something that I should
- 16:41have done, something that I actively shouldn't have done.
- 16:44But I got into it, right? It caught me and I noticed I
- 16:48would watch it like in the evening and then I would go do
- 16:51my thing and I'd go to sleep and I would have scarier dreams.
- 16:55I'd just sleep less well. I wouldn't feel as good.
- 16:58So social media can impact you when you're sleeping or when
- 17:03you're waking, even if you're not listening, watching it right
- 17:06before you go to bed, right? It's still impacting your
- 17:08subconscious. So cleaning up those inputs,
- 17:11what TV shows are you watching? Are you watching TV shows where
- 17:14people are judging one another a lot like a lot of the reality TV
- 17:17shows where it's like all of this gossip, that's not healthy
- 17:20for your subconscious. Your subconscious thinks
- 17:23everything's about it. It thinks everything is about
- 17:26you. So when it's watching gossip,
- 17:28when it's watching these things, it's going to cause you to
- 17:31gossip more and it's also going to apply those negative things
- 17:34to you. So you want to just keep your
- 17:37inputs very clean, right? The people that you're talking
- 17:40to, the people that you're hanging out with.
- 17:42Notice if you feel drained when you spend time with someone, Why
- 17:45might that be, right? Why might that be the
- 17:49environments that you put yourself in?
- 17:51Clean up these things to align with the person that you want to
- 17:55be, right? You're constantly being
- 17:57programmed, so choose the inputs in which that are coming into
- 18:02your mind, right? Jim Rohn always said stand guard
- 18:04at the door of your mind. That's what you're doing when
- 18:07you're cleaning up your inputs. The next one is getting more
- 18:11movement in every single day. So movement is great, right, for
- 18:17your physical body. We know that.
- 18:18We know it moves our lymph. We know it improves our heart
- 18:21health, our muscles. It's amazing for all of those
- 18:23reasons. And it's also amazing for moving
- 18:26stuck and stagnant energy in our body.
- 18:29So I'm sure you've heard of the Shocker system right there.
- 18:32Energy centers within our body and science can actually show
- 18:36them now they can see that there's nerves in those areas
- 18:39and additional blood flow. And it's, it's pretty
- 18:41interesting stuff that science is finally catching up with what
- 18:45spirituality has known for thousands of years.
- 18:48But what happens when you move is you actually move your
- 18:51chakras as well. And when you do squats, like
- 18:54you're compressing and expanding your chakras.
- 18:57So you're especially your root chakra.
- 19:00And what's happening is you're allowing old energy to exit and
- 19:03new energy to come in. Think of like ringing out a
- 19:05sponge. So This is why when you're
- 19:08feeling kind of crummy and you go on a walk, yes, it's
- 19:11improving. You know the blood flow in your
- 19:13brain and they do brain scans and it shows that after you
- 19:16walk, like your brain shows a closer imprint to being happy
- 19:21than before, right? Your neurochemicals reflect
- 19:23that. But the same is true for your
- 19:25chakras, right? You're, you're able to move
- 19:28energy more. Think about someone who's really
- 19:31depressed, right? You don't have to think of
- 19:32someone specific, but think about like the Physiology of
- 19:35that, what they're doing with their time.
- 19:37Usually they're like curled up on the couch, curled up in bed.
- 19:40That's probably the image that you got and they're not moving
- 19:43their energy, right? The more that we move our
- 19:46energy, the better that we're going to feel.
- 19:48So this could be little walks you do throughout the day.
- 19:50This could be adding more workouts to your week, be adding
- 19:54in a new type of workout that gets you excited to move in a
- 19:57new way. So just adding in more movement.
- 20:00These are all so insanely simple, so insanely simple.
- 20:04And then the last one that I want you to do is an energy
- 20:07audit. So you can do this for a couple
- 20:09of days, like two or three days. And what you're going to do is
- 20:13you're going to make a note on your phone and you're going to
- 20:16write what you do throughout the day.
- 20:18So you're going to write woke up, you know, meditated, ate
- 20:22breakfast, those sorts of things.
- 20:24But I also want you to put how you felt afterward felt better,
- 20:28felt more focused, felt happy, felt, felt, felt, felt, felt,
- 20:31felt right. What you're doing is you're
- 20:33noticing what things do I do give that give me energy and
- 20:36what things do I do that don't give me energy.
- 20:38And the more detailed you are with this, the more that you're
- 20:41going to be able to unlock really subtle things that you're
- 20:44doing that are negatively impacting your energy.
- 20:47OK. So it could be really small
- 20:48things. I started to notice that there
- 20:51were certain projects that I was working on within my business
- 20:55that every time I'd work on them, I like, felt like not good
- 20:58afterward, right? And I want my business to feel
- 21:01really good. That's important for me.
- 21:02That's a value for me. So I stopped doing those things,
- 21:06right? And surprisingly, not really
- 21:08surprisingly, my business did better, right?
- 21:10Because I wasn't siphoning my energy to things that didn't
- 21:13feel good. Or you can change your
- 21:15perspective around it. But that's the last thing that I
- 21:18want you to think about doing. There's so many other micro
- 21:21habits that you can do. But what I recommend for the 30
- 21:24day challenge is pick some of these habits and then add in
- 21:27other habits of what you want to cultivate for yourself.
- 21:30Create a little tracker for yourself.
- 21:32Get a friend and you're going to feel so, so, so good in 30 days.
- 21:36So I hope that you loved this. If you are interested in working
- 21:40with me and connecting over coaching, you can send me the
- 21:43word podcast on Instagram and we'll dive deeper into all of my
- 21:48programs and we can chat about what might be right for you.
- 21:50All right, I will see you in the next episode.