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Resilience Through Trials (Marriage as a Mission) Pt 2 - 353 · Marriage Life and More and Bible Study

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Daniel Moore: Have you ever noticed how easy it is to trust God's plan when everything is going your way?
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Daniel Moore: The bills are paid, the marriage is humming along, the kids aren't turning the house into a WWE wrestling arena, and your bigger concern is figuring out where to eat after church.
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Daniel Moore: In those seasons, faith feels easy, but then life throws a curveball.
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Daniel Moore: A prayer goes unanswered, a dream gets delayed, a setback appears out of nowhere.
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Daniel Moore: Suddenly, the confidence you had yesterday starts getting replaced by questions today.
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Daniel Moore: You begin wondering if God has forgotten you, if you missed his direction somewhere along the way, or if maybe that dream he placed in your heart was just wishful thinking after all.
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Daniel Moore: Well, the truth is every believer in every marriage will eventually walk through seasons that don't make sense.
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Daniel Moore: Joseph had a dream and ended up in a prison.
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Daniel Moore: Paul followed God's calling and found himself shipwrecked and beaten.
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Daniel Moore: Even Jesus walked through the suffering of the cross before experiencing the victory of the resurrection.
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Daniel Moore: So why are we surprised when our journey becomes difficult in chapters in our life too?
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Daniel Moore: In this week's episode, we're talking about how God uses hardship not to destroy us but to develop us.
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Daniel Moore: We'll explore how trials can either drive a wedge between spouses or become the very thing that strengthens their faith, deepens their love, and refines their purpose.
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Daniel Moore: Sometimes the season that feels like it's falling apart is actually the season that God is putting something greater together.
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Daniel Moore: Welcome to Marriage Life and More.
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Daniel Moore: I'm Daniel Moore, your host.
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Michelle Moore: Hey, hey.
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Daniel Moore: Well, welcome back once again.
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Daniel Moore: This week we're going to continue our discussion that we started last week as we are well on our way into episode 11 in our series on marriage as a mission.
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Daniel Moore: Well, let's go ahead and get into it this week.
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Daniel Moore: We're going to go ahead and continue our episode from last week, which is episode 11, Resilience Through Trials.
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Michelle Moore: When betrayal cuts teeth, when dreams fall apart, or when suffering overstays it's broken, our first instinct is to often pull back.
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Michelle Moore: We retreat emotionally, we become cautious, and we start questioning things we were once confident about.
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Michelle Moore: Maybe you've been there.
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Michelle Moore: Maybe you found yourself thinking, did I hear God wrong?
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Michelle Moore: Maybe I wasn't called to do this after all.
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Michelle Moore: Maybe the dream was too big.
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Michelle Moore: Maybe I should just quit.
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Michelle Moore: Pain has a way of distorting our perspective.
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Michelle Moore: It turns the volume down on God's promises and cranks the volume up on fear, doubt, discouragement, and worst-case scenarios.
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Michelle Moore: And if we're honest, most of us secretly believe that as something is truly God's will, it should come with smooth roads, green lights, and very in very few inconveniences.
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Michelle Moore: We all know that's not right.
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Michelle Moore: But Scripture tells a completely different story.
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Michelle Moore: In fact, some of God's greatest servants walk through some of the life's darkest valleys.
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Michelle Moore: Take Joseph, for example.
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Michelle Moore: God gave him a dream.
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Michelle Moore: But before he even saw that dream fulfilled, he was betrayed by his brothers, thrown into a pit, sold into slavery, falsely accused, and imprisoned.
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Michelle Moore: That's quite a detour.
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Michelle Moore: At several points, Joseph could have easily concluded that the dream was dead.
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Michelle Moore: He could have decided that the hardship meant God had abandoned him.
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Michelle Moore: He could have given up.
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Michelle Moore: Instead, he remained faithful.
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Michelle Moore: Years later, he was able to say to his brothers in Genesis 50, 20, You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.
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Michelle Moore: What looked like death of a dream was actually part of God's preparation for the dream.
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Daniel Moore: And I think that's one thing I love about Bible stories, because there's so many of them that just reaffirms inside of us that, you know, stuff may not look so great right at the moment.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: But look how it turned out for this guy.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: You know?
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Daniel Moore: And I love that because we get ourselves in some crazy messes sometimes, not only just as individuals, but even in our marriages.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, we get ourselves in some real pickles.
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Daniel Moore: And, you know, it's it's always good when uh we can go through those things and then someday we start seeing that light at the end of the tunnel.
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Daniel Moore: And if we do come out on the other side of that and something great comes out of it, uh, it's just so awesome, you know.
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Daniel Moore: And you and you and my example are a perfect example of that.
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Daniel Moore: We've shared over and over about what God's done with our testimony.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: And honestly, you know, Michelle and I, we we wish everybody's testimony would be that, you know.
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Michelle Moore: We wish that you didn't have to go through that.
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Daniel Moore: We wish you didn't have to.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, that would be even better.
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Michelle Moore: If you do, then yes.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, that that definitely would be a better option.
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Michelle Moore: Make sure it stays Christ centered.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: Option A, B, and C where just don't go through it.
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Daniel Moore: But we know that that's not how life works.
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Daniel Moore: It throws us these curveballs all the time.
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Daniel Moore: But, you know, in the middle of those deep dark moments of of all that conflict and that stuff that's going on is when it's easy to really start doubting and and really start thinking, you know, well, did I make the right choice?
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Daniel Moore: Was this really God's plan for my life?
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: Where did I miss it?
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Daniel Moore: You know, what what choice did I make back when that sent me off on the wrong path, you know?
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Daniel Moore: But sometimes it's not really that.
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Daniel Moore: You know, you are on the right path, but maybe it's just a a mistake that we made.
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Daniel Moore: It doesn't mean God can't redeem that.
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Daniel Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: It doesn't mean that he can't take it and make something good out of it.
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Daniel Moore: And I love the story of Joseph because he went through so much.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, that story just one thing after another.
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Daniel Moore: If anybody could have had a a reason to doubt God and be mad at God for what was going on in his life, that's probably Joseph.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: Because God gave him those dreams and he was so sure of it.
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Daniel Moore: And yet he had to go through all that trial and hardship just because of dreams that God had given him.
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Daniel Moore: But then look what happened at the end.
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Daniel Moore: I know.
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Daniel Moore: He saved countries.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, doubt, you know, millions of people that he saved.
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Daniel Moore: And so we should never downplay the stuff that we have to go through.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, we we just need to stay focused on Christ as we go through those moments.
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Daniel Moore: And, you know, it's have to remember that just because the road is hard doesn't mean that you're headed in the wrong direction.
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Daniel Moore: And I think that is a lie that the enemy tells us sometimes that if we get into a hardship and we come up against things we don't think we can navigate through, then the first insinuation that we get is, well, that's a huge mistake that we've made.
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Daniel Moore: We need to reroute this.
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Daniel Moore: And a lot of those times we won't pray because we're so upset and aggravated in our minds to begin with.
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Daniel Moore: We leave God out of the equation.
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Daniel Moore: And if we're not careful, we can change that path on our own and walk ourselves out of a bigger blessing or walk ourselves out of a resolution, uh, a Christ, uh, you know, Christ-determined decision or a change in our life because we decided within our own pride that we can do it on our own.
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Daniel Moore: And that's an important truth that we have to apply to our marriages because many couples, you know, they assume that if they're facing difficulties, that something must be terribly wrong.
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Daniel Moore: You know, financial pressure arrives, health challenges emerge, communication becomes difficult, parenting gets exhausting, uh, the unexpected setbacks hit, and suddenly they wonder if their marriage is broken.
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Daniel Moore: They want to blame all that stuff on that relationship, but that's not necessarily what that always means.
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Daniel Moore: Sometimes hardship isn't evidence that God has left the marriage.
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Daniel Moore: Sometimes that hardship is evidence that God is strengthening it, strengthening it.
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Daniel Moore: And you and I are a perfect example of that because we went through a lot of weak moments and the fights and the battles that we had in our marriages.
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Daniel Moore: But yet, look how God has strengthened us at this point.
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Daniel Moore: And I'm so thankful for that.
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Daniel Moore: And you know, as we continue this thought process here, the presence of a storm does not mean the absence of God.
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Daniel Moore: The enemy loves to use painful seasons to convince us that our purpose has expired and our calling has been canceled.
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Daniel Moore: He whispers lies like it's over.
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Daniel Moore: You failed, or you're a failure.
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Daniel Moore: He likes to put those uh those names on us, they're calling that doing that name calling and trying to make us feel like that that's just who we are.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, he'll tell us that you'll never recover or that your best days are behind you.
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Daniel Moore: You have nothing to look forward to in front of you in your future.
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Daniel Moore: But scripture continually reminds us that God does some of his greatest work in the middle of difficulty.
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Daniel Moore: Hardship doesn't disqualify you, it often prepares you.
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Daniel Moore: And disappointment doesn't erase God's promises, it frequently deepens your dependence upon him.
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Daniel Moore: And, you know, back in May of 2025, Michelle and I did an episode on another huge milestone that happened in our life that we really wish we could have avoided.
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Daniel Moore: Um, but we didn't.
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Daniel Moore: It was something that we had to walk our way through.
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Daniel Moore: And if you go back to episode 228, you can hear this whole story, but we're gonna just kind of give a little bit of a highlight here because it really fits with this episode that we're doing right now.
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Daniel Moore: Um, the name of that episode that we did back then in episode 228 was The New Us, Navigating Intimacy After Surgery.
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Daniel Moore: So Michelle and I went through a point here.
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Daniel Moore: How many years ago was that?
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Michelle Moore: Back in 2018.
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Daniel Moore: 18.
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Michelle Moore: So seven, six, oh, eight.
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Michelle Moore: Eight years ago almost.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Michelle Moore: That'd be in August.
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Daniel Moore: Seems like it was yesterday.
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Michelle Moore: Eight years, yeah.
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Michelle Moore: Still feels like it.
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Michelle Moore: Some of it anyway.
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Daniel Moore: Probably more so for you.
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Daniel Moore: Uh just give us a little, just a quick synopsis of kind of what happened to you at that point, just real quickly.
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Daniel Moore: Because what I want to talk about here, especially, is what was going on through your mind when all of this was taking place, because there's times when it looked like there wasn't really an answer and it was getting worse, you know.
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Daniel Moore: So just kind of tell us a little quickly here what yeah.
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Michelle Moore: So pretty much um I had a hysterectomy, um, a full complete hysterectomy because of some issues that I've had previous to other years and everything.
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Michelle Moore: And um in the midst of that, a week later after I come out of surgery and everything was great, um, I had uh a spot in my arm.
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Michelle Moore: Um, it came up that I had a massive blood clot in my jugular that almost killed me.
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Michelle Moore: It was like 99% blocked.
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Michelle Moore: And so I got in the hospital, they pretty much told me you have kidney issues, and we're like, no, we don't have kidney issues.
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Daniel Moore: They speak against that.
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Daniel Moore: Yes.
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Michelle Moore: We went back, like I was still in the hospital, they were pep uh pushing heparin through me, like right and left.
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Michelle Moore: And because I had the blood clot in my arm or my jugular on the right side, everything had to be on my left side.
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Michelle Moore: Well, finally, they just they noticed after all the tests they had done, when I had my hysterectomy, they had nicked my ureter.
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Michelle Moore: So I had a hole in my ureter from the tool.
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Michelle Moore: So I went into surgery, they why I was still in the hospital for a week.
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Michelle Moore: And so my anxiety was extremely high.
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Michelle Moore: Um, I went back into surgery, they placed a stent.
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Michelle Moore: Um, six weeks later, I went back into surgery to remove the stent.
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Michelle Moore: And because normally you can do that in the office, but because of my history with the blood clot and everything that they had to do it in the hospital.
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Michelle Moore: Um within that was October, all of October, I was super sick and I couldn't figure out.
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Michelle Moore: I thought this is a new me.
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Michelle Moore: You and I just kept walking.
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Michelle Moore: We were like, okay, this is normal.
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Michelle Moore: We're just gonna have to deal with it.
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Michelle Moore: Um, thought maybe it was the blood thinner medication.
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Michelle Moore: Um, then I got really sick and um come to find out, went and had a ultrasound.
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Michelle Moore: My kidney he took the stent out too early.
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Michelle Moore: Let's just we'll just put it that way.
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Michelle Moore: It blocked my kidney completely off.
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Michelle Moore: My kidney was dying.
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Michelle Moore: So they rushed me back into emergency surgery.
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Michelle Moore: Um and they went to put the stent in it.
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Michelle Moore: Needless to say, the stint would not go through.
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Michelle Moore: I came out of surgery hearing two nurses saying it didn't work.
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Michelle Moore: Of course, then my anxiety was ten times higher.
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Michelle Moore: Um, then we got up to KU with a specialist and visited with him right before Thanksgiving.
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Daniel Moore: What's crazy about this though, during this time is if anybody's ever had kidney issues, once it starts failing, you're like a ticking clock.
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Daniel Moore: You've got to really if you don't get to lose your care, you lose it.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: And things just were not falling into place like they should have been.
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Michelle Moore: Multiple things was going wrong.
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Michelle Moore: And so that day was a Monday.
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Michelle Moore: Um, no.
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Michelle Moore: It was a Thursday, wasn't it?
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Michelle Moore: It was a Thursday, it was prior to Thanksgiving week.
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Michelle Moore: It was a Thursday or Friday.
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Michelle Moore: He wanted to go ahead and just puck a hole in my back and release the pressure from my kidney um and just wear a drain till January because they could not get me in.
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Michelle Moore: Once he heard that I was a blood thinner, he was like, Oh gosh, you know.
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Michelle Moore: So um they scrambled.
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Michelle Moore: Um, the following next week, I got off my blood thinner enough.
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Michelle Moore: Thanksgiving was Thursday.
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Michelle Moore: He told us he would fit us in.
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Michelle Moore: It was a four-hour surgery, would fit us in on that Wednesday um just to get up there because he couldn't believe I was even walking.
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Michelle Moore: He couldn't even believe I was talking.
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Michelle Moore: He was shocked because he was just like, What do you have going on?
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Michelle Moore: Most people would be crawling in here or already in the hospital.
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Michelle Moore: But I'm very thankful I have a high tolerance for pain.
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Michelle Moore: Pretty much I went through the surgery.
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Michelle Moore: It was end up being what five hours, five and a half hours.
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Daniel Moore: Almost six, yeah.
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Michelle Moore: And I'm so thankful he didn't tell me ahead of time of everything that was gonna take because a week later I came home with a stent for seven weeks.
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Michelle Moore: I had a catheter for three weeks, and um I came back with a lot of anxiety.
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Michelle Moore: Um, a lot of anxiety.
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Michelle Moore: I did not expect any of that to happen.
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Michelle Moore: And I felt like every time I went to the doctor, one doctor would say this, another doctor would say that.
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Michelle Moore: It was so confusing because they were opposite of each other, and I was so frustrated, and I felt like I was never moving forward, and it just kept going backwards.
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Michelle Moore: Every time we went to the doctor, we kept getting bad news.
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Michelle Moore: And um pretty much after that, went back to the doctor to Katie multiple different times.
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Michelle Moore: And uh thank the Lord I'm at a stage two kidney disease, and he's and and then the crazy thing, it was not even something that my body did.
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Michelle Moore: It was medically induced to a stage two, it was higher than that.
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Michelle Moore: But I went through so many doctors, so many specialists, was on my blood thinner off and on.
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Michelle Moore: I kept getting blood clots for no reason.
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Michelle Moore: They could not figure it out.
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Michelle Moore: And it wasn't like your lower extremities, it was the high the the upper extremities, which is not normal for people.
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Michelle Moore: So come to find out I was gonna end up being on a blood thinner for the rest of my life.
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Michelle Moore: And pretty much I was until the Lord healed me.
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Michelle Moore: And um finally my doctor agreed to not make me take it anymore because I I know the Lord healed me.
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Michelle Moore: And so it was very, very difficult and an unknown season of life of what was gonna happen.
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Michelle Moore: But because of all that, I still have issues.
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Michelle Moore: Um, I have lymphedema from the blood clot.
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Michelle Moore: Um, the hysterectomy has changed my whole life.
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Michelle Moore: Um, and Dan's life.
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Michelle Moore: I mean, it has totally I can't handle the things that I used to.
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Michelle Moore: Um, I'm definitely not the same person.
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Michelle Moore: Uh so it was that's a that's a small snapshot of the multiple times we went to the doctor.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: And as we look back through the story, every time we just reminisce about this and kind of realize and understand what all that you went through, we really can now look back and see where God's hand was in different stages through that whole thing.
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Daniel Moore: Because, like you were saying, the doctors were shocked about a lot of stuff, the hospitals were shocked about a lot of stuff, but we we knew uh-huh what it was.
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Daniel Moore: We knew God was sustaining you.
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Michelle Moore: And I couldn't, I I was one of those people that can't take certain things because I had a precancer um tumor removed out of my breast.
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Michelle Moore: So I couldn't take what most normal people could.
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Michelle Moore: And then I couldn't do a lot of things because of the blood clot and my lymphedema.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Michelle Moore: It was very I you learn a lot about your body.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: So the odds are totally against you in a lot of different ways.
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Daniel Moore: So as you navigated through that, what I want to talk about a little bit now is that mind frame.
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Daniel Moore: When all this stuff was going on, I don't know how many times I can remember you telling me that if this is gonna happen to anybody, it's gonna happen to me.
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Daniel Moore: And I still say that to this.
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Michelle Moore: I still say that to this.
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Michelle Moore: Because I never had the best luck.
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Michelle Moore: I say, I'm sorry, Lord, but if you can ask my best friend Paula, she'll tell you if something's gonna happen, it's gonna happen to Michelle.
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Michelle Moore: And I'm like, I know that's the reason why I don't want nothing to go wrong.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: But you know, it takes a lot to get somebody to that frame of mind.
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Michelle Moore: Uh-huh.
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Daniel Moore: It takes a lot of things happening in your life, those unexpected emergencies and the different things that we never want to walk through.
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Daniel Moore: It takes a lot of that to get you to that point.
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Daniel Moore: And so I know that during that time, that was hard on both of us, not only because of the physical problems you were dealing with and the pain, uh, the unknowns.
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Daniel Moore: Am I going to lose this organ or is it going to make it?
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Daniel Moore: What's it going to be like after the surgeries are done?
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Daniel Moore: Am I going to have to be on dialysis the rest of my life?
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Daniel Moore: You're still in your, you know, 40s at that point, early 40s.
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Daniel Moore: Uh so it's like there's so many questions uh this navigating through everything.
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Daniel Moore: I'm wanting to be your your moral support.
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Michelle Moore: And I was going to school.
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Daniel Moore: And oh yeah, you were going to school at that time.
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Michelle Moore: I was doing college at that time too.
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Michelle Moore: So I was working full-time and I was going back to get my associate's degree.
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Daniel Moore: So that was a crazy, crazy few years there.
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Daniel Moore: And my thing is, I want to fix it all.
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Daniel Moore: I'm your husband.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, the nights that you sit there in pain just doubled over and nothing phased it.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, you were popping pills like crazy, just painkillers and that kind of thing, trying to just make it through the night.
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Daniel Moore: And that killed me.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, I just I wanted to fix it so bad, but I couldn't.
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Daniel Moore: And then every time you would make another negative comment about it, it made me feel that much worse because I knew you were going through so much to even be making those comments.
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Daniel Moore: And but there wasn't nothing I could do except for just be there with you and try to help navigate the hospital stuff and the doctor stuff and you know, try to push things forward the best I could to get it all fixed.
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Daniel Moore: And but just share a little bit about what your mind frame was during all of that, um, whenever all that was taking place and the battles that you fought in your mind.
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Michelle Moore: There were several times that, you know, I wasn't too bad at first, but then I can remember getting anxiety.
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Michelle Moore: I had never had anxiety.
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Michelle Moore: I never was in a place to allow myself um fear.
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Michelle Moore: I mean, I've had fear, you know, it comes and goes, but this was to the point where if I got in a car, I'd cry.
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Michelle Moore: I'd feel sick, and I'm like, I I can't do this.
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Michelle Moore: I I mean, I'd get to where I literally was scared to do anything and I couldn't hardly breathe.
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Michelle Moore: Um, but I I do know there was multiple different times though that the Lord kept me in an a mind frame of knowing that he was going to take care of it.
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Michelle Moore: And I am a big worship person, and so there was multiple times.
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Michelle Moore: Um, one night in the hospital, Dan couldn't say if me and my mom was there.
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Michelle Moore: Um, she encamped around.
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Michelle Moore: My bed.
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Michelle Moore: And literally, this is how I fight my battles.
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Michelle Moore: Literally, we played that song over and over, and we just prayed.
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Michelle Moore: I mean, I know our nurses thought we were nuts.
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Michelle Moore: But there were times that I'd allow the enemy to just come in and be like, this is just my luck.
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Michelle Moore: My mind framed was I was down and depressed.
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Michelle Moore: Like, you know, you deserve this.
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Michelle Moore: This is how it's going to go.
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Michelle Moore: Um, but there were other times that I was very high.
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Michelle Moore: And, you know, I think every time I was faced with something, I was like, why God?
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Michelle Moore: You know, why why is this happening?
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Michelle Moore: Instead of saying, you know, father, this is this is happening to me.
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Michelle Moore: Whatever is going to happen, you're in front of me.
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Michelle Moore: You're before me.
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Michelle Moore: And I'm going to walk through this and be, you're going to carry me through it.
22:46
Michelle Moore: And, you know, instead, there was a lot of times that I'd cry a lot.
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Michelle Moore: And Dan knows that I'd just cry because I was sick.
22:55
Michelle Moore: I I was very down.
22:57
Michelle Moore: Um it was very hard.
22:59
Michelle Moore: And that's not a place that I was used to.
23:02
Michelle Moore: So it was definitely a season of life that I I don't ever want to go back to.
23:10
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
23:10
Daniel Moore: I don't want to go back there.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
23:16
Michelle Moore: I I don't I look at it now and I'm just I mean, I'm thankful I went through it because it's it's a season of life that has taught me a lot of things.
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Michelle Moore: Um and I've watched some of my other friends go through things and where they've taken it head on and be like, praise the Lord, I'm alive.
23:32
Michelle Moore: You know, this I'm used for the God's glory.
23:35
Michelle Moore: And here I was totally opposite at times, not all the time, but it was very, I was very scared a lot because I never knew what was gonna happen.
23:45
Michelle Moore: And it every time I went, some it was something not good.
23:49
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
23:49
Michelle Moore: And so I was.
23:51
Michelle Moore: I I let anxiety come in.
23:53
Michelle Moore: And let me tell you, did I not every time I got in a car to go to Kansas City, I just I cried.
23:58
Michelle Moore: I was like, I can't do this, I don't want to do this.
24:00
Michelle Moore: And I mean, it was tough.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah.
24:03
Daniel Moore: And you know, the times that I had to sit there and watch you, you know, cry through things and not necessarily always from pain.
24:10
Daniel Moore: It was just sometimes from frustration.
24:12
Daniel Moore: Yep.
24:13
Daniel Moore: Or like you said, the anxiety or the fear of what's coming up, the unknown.
24:18
Daniel Moore: Uh, I myself didn't even know what all that income passed because I wasn't the one in that.
24:24
Daniel Moore: You know, I'm I'm the outsider here looking in.
24:27
Michelle Moore: And he was my advocate because there were times that things were not right.
24:32
Michelle Moore: Yeah uh that we we I mean, we could have had one several different malpractice suits on a couple of things.
24:40
Michelle Moore: And of course, that's not who we are, but at the same time Dan had to be my advocate.
24:46
Michelle Moore: I mean, he point blank had to sit there and ask that doctor.
24:49
Michelle Moore: If this and he did, if this was your wife or your daughter, what would you do?
24:54
Michelle Moore: You know, because we weren't getting anywhere.
24:57
Daniel Moore: Yeah, because it wasn't getting fixed where we were, and we had other choices, but how what's the best choice?
25:03
Daniel Moore: You know, it's like this is could be a life or death situation.
25:06
Daniel Moore: And the last thing you want to do is make the wrong choice.
25:09
Daniel Moore: And that pressure was put on me a little bit because you were in you were in no state of mind to be making that choice and that decision.
25:17
Daniel Moore: And so that was something that I had to pray about and and hopefully get the right direction.
25:21
Daniel Moore: And thank the Lord, he directed that path for us, and we went to I mean, the doctor at K U was phenomenal.
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Michelle Moore: He was, he was godsent.
25:30
Daniel Moore: Yeah, I mean he your life is owed to him, I guess the best way to put that.
25:34
Michelle Moore: He he truly he gave up his Thanksgiving plans.
25:37
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
25:38
Michelle Moore: I mean, he flew out pa later.
25:40
Michelle Moore: Yeah.
25:40
Michelle Moore: His family left without him so that I could have that surgery.
25:44
Daniel Moore: Yeah, he was a godsend.
25:45
Daniel Moore: Yeah, no doubt about it.
25:47
Daniel Moore: And but you know, one thing that you know I struggled with all through that thing was I was I wish there was something I could have done.
25:55
Daniel Moore: You know, and some some of you guys out there that's listening right now, you might be navigating a season like this right now.
26:01
Daniel Moore: Uh it it may be something coming up on your radar that you don't know about.
26:04
Daniel Moore: You know, we just don't know what's in our future sometimes.
26:08
Daniel Moore: Uh so that's one reason, you know, we wanted to share this story is because even if it's all roses right now for you and nothing's wrong, everything's great, you've got the best life ever.
26:19
Daniel Moore: Uh, you do have to make sure that you stay grounded in Christ because Satan is out there and he loves to create turmoil.
26:28
Daniel Moore: And there are some times that some bad things can happen to people, and we're never prepared for it.
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Daniel Moore: I'm not going to say that we are because we're not, because we always hope that nothing's going to happen.
26:40
Daniel Moore: But we can be better prepared if we make sure that we keep Christ in the center of everything because there's just some things that we can't handle on our own.
26:49
Daniel Moore: And you and I have been through a couple of scenarios like that.
26:52
Daniel Moore: We've had to keep God in the middle and rely on him and lean on him in so many ways.
26:56
Daniel Moore: And so, again, if you'd like to hear that whole story in depth, you can go back to episode 228 and listen to that because that also affected our intimacy.
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Daniel Moore: And there's a lot of things that that's affected in our actual life situation and will from this going forward.
27:12
Michelle Moore: I was going to say still to this day.
27:13
Daniel Moore: And so there's a lot more to that story if you'd like to go listen to that.
27:16
Daniel Moore: But you know, sometimes what feels like a setback to us is often a setup for God's greater purpose.
27:21
Daniel Moore: And you can look at different examples in the Bible, like the Apostle Paul and Jesus.
27:26
Daniel Moore: You know, both of them went through so much being beaten, imprisoned.
27:30
Daniel Moore: Uh, you know, Paul was shipwrecked and rejected, and he was constantly opposed.
27:34
Daniel Moore: Jesus went to the cross.
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Daniel Moore: He literally gave his life for us.
27:39
Daniel Moore: And he had to do that before he saw the victory of the resurrection.
27:43
Daniel Moore: He had to go through all of that.
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Daniel Moore: And, you know, that reminds us that God's greatest victories are often hid inside of our hardest seasons.
27:52
Daniel Moore: And that truth applies not only to our calling, but it can also apply to our marriages.
27:58
Daniel Moore: When trials enter a marriage, they often expose weaknesses that we didn't know existed.
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Daniel Moore: And it really quickly you can tell where your weak spots are when Satan starts attacking.
28:08
Daniel Moore: And if something happens, you know, drastically, like what's happened to us, it could have been real easy for us to just crash and burn because it takes a strength there that sometimes I don't think people understand to get through stuff like that unless you actually experience it.
28:24
Michelle Moore: Right.
28:25
Daniel Moore: And I still look at you and think, you know, how strong of a person you were.
28:29
Daniel Moore: And I know through that whole thing you felt like you weren't strong, but I look at it from the outside seeing what all I think myself, what if I had to have gone through that?
28:38
Daniel Moore: You know, it's like I wouldn't have wanted to go through that.
28:41
Daniel Moore: You know, it's just like I look at you as a very strong person to have made it through where you are now to the person that you are now, and that you still love God.
28:51
Daniel Moore: You know, you still keep Him first in your life.
28:54
Daniel Moore: And I I've seen you grow because of all of this stuff.
28:57
Daniel Moore: And so, you know, it's amazing sometimes how quickly stress can turn two teammates into amateur attorneys building cases against one another when bad things start happening.
29:08
Daniel Moore: And that's why trials do matter, uh, because they reveal areas where God wants to grow us.
29:13
Daniel Moore: And I think that through both of the things that happened with you and I, I think that it did bring us to a place where he did help us to grow.
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Daniel Moore: And I'm so thankful for the fact that he did help us grow.
29:26
Daniel Moore: There's a scripture in James chapter one, and it's verses two through four.
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Daniel Moore: It says, consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
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Daniel Moore: Now, isn't that a backward scripture?
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Daniel Moore: I mean, when you was going through all of your stuff, was that the first thing you thought was, I'm gonna be joyful in all of this?
29:48
Michelle Moore: No.
29:50
Daniel Moore: Not at all.
29:50
Daniel Moore: I don't think any of us think of it that way, you know.
29:54
Daniel Moore: But Paul or or James here, I guess I should say, it's not Paul.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, you know, James, he he seems kind of twisted-minded here when he says this, you know, that we're supposed to consider it joy.
30:04
Daniel Moore: But you know, there's there's a reason behind that.
30:07
Daniel Moore: You know, James didn't say that the trial was enjoyable.
30:11
Daniel Moore: That's not what he's saying there.
30:12
Daniel Moore: What he's saying is that they are productive.
30:14
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
30:15
Daniel Moore: God uses those and he works through them, and God accomplishes things in us that that comfort and that convenience sometimes never will.
30:24
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
30:24
Daniel Moore: If we stay comfortable all the time and we have all the conveniences of life, all the answers are constantly there.
30:31
Daniel Moore: There's a a lot of times that we're probably not going to learn some of those deep life lessons that we need to.
30:38
Daniel Moore: And so it takes us going through those trials.
30:40
Daniel Moore: That's why we should be joyful about it.
30:43
Daniel Moore: So when you look at the scripture that way, it becomes a little bit more understandable.
30:48
Daniel Moore: Because if we truly want to grow in Christ and become a better person and who Christ wants us to be, then all those bad things that come up in those trials, we have to look at them with a little bit different perspective.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Michelle Moore: Um, God rarely wastes a trial.
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Michelle Moore: He uses it to build something internal inside us.
31:28
Michelle Moore: One of the most encouraging truths in all of the scripture is this God does not waste pain, not a single tear, a single disappointment, not a single season of waiting, a single heartbreak.
31:42
Michelle Moore: He uses every part of it.
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Michelle Moore: He uses pain to shape our character, to deepen our faith.
31:50
Michelle Moore: He uses adversity to strengthen our marriages.
31:53
Michelle Moore: He uses difficulties to prepare us for our future assignments.
31:57
Michelle Moore: Romans 5, 3 through 5 explains the suffering produces perseverance, perseverance produces character, and character produces hope.
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Michelle Moore: In other words, God is accomplishing something even when we can't see it.
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Daniel Moore: And sometimes when we go through that stuff, what's the first thought we have is God, why have you left me?
32:18
Daniel Moore: Where are you at?
32:20
Daniel Moore: You know?
32:20
Michelle Moore: I did.
32:21
Michelle Moore: Why me?
32:22
Daniel Moore: Yeah, why me?
32:23
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
32:23
Michelle Moore: So that's what I was like, why me?
32:25
Michelle Moore: Why did I have to go through this?
32:27
Michelle Moore: Why couldn't it be normal?
32:28
Daniel Moore: Exactly.
32:29
Daniel Moore: You know, all these questions that we ask as people, because in our infinite minds, we can't wrap our minds around what God's doing in that moment.
32:37
Daniel Moore: But what we have to remember is that our pain may have entered our life uninvited, but it never entered without God's awareness.
32:44
Daniel Moore: God does not forget who and where we are at any moment in our life.
32:49
Daniel Moore: And you know, a good example of that is Job.
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Daniel Moore: You know, he understood this truth because after losing his wealth, his health, and much of what he held dear, what did he declare in Job 23 10?
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Daniel Moore: He said, But he knows the way that I take.
33:04
Daniel Moore: When he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.
33:08
Daniel Moore: And that is such a powerful image.
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Daniel Moore: Yes.
33:11
Daniel Moore: Because if you think about it, gold becomes more valuable when it passes through the fire.
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Daniel Moore: It passes through the fire, it gets purified.
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Daniel Moore: And it's not because the fire destroys it, the fire refines it.
33:23
Daniel Moore: And the same is true of us.
33:25
Daniel Moore: The same is true in marriage.
33:27
Daniel Moore: You know, financial stress can deepen trust.
33:30
Daniel Moore: Illness can strengthen compassion.
33:32
Daniel Moore: Loss can increase appreciation.
33:35
Daniel Moore: Trials can teach couples to depend upon God and each other in ways that they never would have otherwise.
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Daniel Moore: And I think some of the strongest couples that you'll probably ever find are probably some of those couples that's been through a lot of trials together.
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Daniel Moore: They've weathered the storms and they realize that not only is having God in their life a good strengthening point for them, but the fact that they have a good strong spouse standing next to them to help them through that fire as well, uh, that really strengthens their marriage and causes them more to rely on each other and to stand by each other's side whenever they go through these things.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, because you know, one thing we have to remember is that the fire was never sent to destroy your marriage.
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Daniel Moore: It can become the very thing that God uses to refine it.
34:22
Daniel Moore: And that also doesn't mean, though, that the process feels good.
34:26
Daniel Moore: And there's moments that we're probably gonna cry ourselves to sleep.
34:29
Daniel Moore: You know, Michelle's had plenty of those, and I've had some myself.
34:33
Daniel Moore: There's moments when prayers seem unanswered.
34:35
Daniel Moore: There's lots of times that we prayed about your situation and just crossed our fingers, you know, just it's real easy to that for that faith to waver when you're going through so much to think that if God's gonna answer that prayer or not, you know, it's it everything's hinging on a prayer.
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Daniel Moore: There's also moments when dreams appear shattered beyond repair.
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Daniel Moore: And there's moments when we wonder where God is.
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Daniel Moore: But if you look at Isaiah chapter 43, verse 2, it provides one of the most comforting promises in Scripture.
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Daniel Moore: It says, When you pass through the waters, I will be with you.
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Daniel Moore: When you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.
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Daniel Moore: When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned.
35:14
Daniel Moore: Notice that God again, he doesn't say if, he says when.
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Daniel Moore: Trials, they are a part of life, but so is God's presence.
35:24
Daniel Moore: The promise isn't that we'll avoid hardship, the promise is that we'll never face it alone.
35:30
Michelle Moore: Thank the Lord.
35:30
Daniel Moore: We've always got God on our side and we've got each other.
35:33
Daniel Moore: You know, if both of us are good grounded Christians, that's just an extra strength uh support post there that we can hang on to and know that we're gonna win this fight together.
35:45
Daniel Moore: Yeah, we're gonna stick through it through thick and thin.
35:47
Michelle Moore: Right.
35:48
Michelle Moore: God's presence in the fire is greater than our desire to escape it.
35:52
Michelle Moore: So if you're walking through a difficult season right now, personally, spiritually, or in your marriage, don't press the eject button.
36:01
Michelle Moore: Don't abandon your calling.
36:03
Michelle Moore: Don't give up on your spouse.
36:05
Michelle Moore: Don't surrender the dream God planted in your heart.
36:09
Michelle Moore: Instead, let the trial do its work.
36:12
Michelle Moore: Let it strengthen your faith.
36:14
Michelle Moore: Let it deepen your dependence on God.
36:17
Michelle Moore: Let it grow your compassion, let it refine your character and let it strengthen your marriage.
36:25
Michelle Moore: Galatians 6 9 reminds us let us not become weary in doing good, for the proper time we'll reap a harvest if we do not give up.
36:36
Michelle Moore: That's not just a promise for ministry, that's a promise for marriage, it's a promise for families, it's a promise for anyone who feels exhausted from fighting battles they never expected to face.
36:49
Michelle Moore: Keep showing up, keep praying, keep trusting, keep loving, keep believing, because painful seasons may be a part of your story, but they are not the end of your story.
37:04
Daniel Moore: And I'm so thankful for that.
37:06
Daniel Moore: Yes.
37:06
Daniel Moore: Because look where you're at now.
37:09
Michelle Moore: Yes.
37:10
Daniel Moore: I mean, I'm so thankful that regardless of what you've been through and the things that I've had to stand by your side through, uh, here we stand.
37:20
Daniel Moore: You know, um we've got testimony that we can share out of this, and it's only because of but God.
37:29
Daniel Moore: Right.
37:30
Daniel Moore: Those two words, you know.
37:32
Daniel Moore: I love that phrase because you you hear that so often as you know, people be talking about their testimony and they'll they'll tell about something bad in their life that happened or whatever, and then they get to that point where they say, but God.
37:44
Michelle Moore: Yeah.
37:44
Daniel Moore: God intervened, God changed things, God made a way, God answered prayer.
37:50
Daniel Moore: And we have to keep our eyes focused on that.
37:53
Daniel Moore: If we if we continue to focus, you know, like you, if you'd sit there and just focused on your pain, focused on the kidney, focused on the fact that we was having a hard time finding the right doctor, getting to the right hospital, uh, that will literally just that'll eat you alive.
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Michelle Moore: Well, finances on top of all that.
38:10
Daniel Moore: Yeah, yeah.
38:11
Michelle Moore: It it can.
38:13
Daniel Moore: Yes, it can destroy you if you're not careful.
38:15
Daniel Moore: And the only way that you can get through all of that is we have to lean on God.
38:20
Michelle Moore: Yeah.
38:20
Daniel Moore: And but I'm so thankful that of all of this stuff that we've been through between, you know, last week's episode and this week's episode, um, it's it's unfortunate that we have examples that we can share for that because you always wish that the bad stuff doesn't happen to you, but you know it did happen.
38:37
Daniel Moore: We can't go back and change any of that.
38:39
Daniel Moore: All we can do now is look forward and thank God for the miracles that he worked and the prayers that he did answer.
38:45
Daniel Moore: And that we're where we are at now, stronger in him, growing in faith together and accomplishing what God's called us to do.
38:53
Daniel Moore: And I'm so thankful for that.
38:55
Daniel Moore: Is there anything that you'd like to add to this episode before we close it this week?
38:58
Michelle Moore: No, I would just say there was a scripture and I was trying to look for it on my phone and I can't I couldn't find it because I have it underlined in my Bible.
39:05
Michelle Moore: But um one of the things I want to say is if you're going through like doctor appointments and stuff like that, any for you know, anything that you're being challenged with on any of that, cling to the Lord.
39:18
Michelle Moore: Also, your husband or your spouse, whatever it may be, husband, wife, is there right along with you.
39:25
Michelle Moore: Let them help fight that battle as well.
39:28
Michelle Moore: Let them walk beside you, you know, and be honest, be open with them.
39:35
Michelle Moore: Um, I don't know how many times I told Dan I was just like, I'm sick and tired of this, I don't want to do this.
39:40
Michelle Moore: And he would encourage me, you know, you've got this.
39:44
Michelle Moore: God's got you, you know, and I'd be like, I can't do this, you know.
39:48
Michelle Moore: There was d different kinds of testing that I was going through that I literally would have a panic attack.
39:54
Michelle Moore: Um so make sure you're communicating with your spouse.
39:59
Michelle Moore: I don't know what communication, but communication comes up all the time.
40:03
Daniel Moore: It does.
40:05
Michelle Moore: But cling to the Lord and let Him be your guide.
40:09
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
40:10
Daniel Moore: And don't push your spouse away.
40:12
Michelle Moore: No.
40:12
Daniel Moore: If they are truly having good intentional purposes to help you get through things, they grow in this also.
40:22
Michelle Moore: And don't think you're a burden to them.
40:25
Daniel Moore: Yes.
40:25
Daniel Moore: Don't don't think that and those those of the spouses that are the supporting spouses don't make them feel like they're a burden.
40:32
Michelle Moore: Well, and I think sometimes the enemy makes the person going through it feel like they're a burden to the one that's normal.
40:40
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
40:40
Daniel Moore: But what it comes down to is all the stuff that you've been through has helped me grow.
40:45
Daniel Moore: It's created a stronger person relying on Christ and relying on my faith, just like you've been the one that went through it all.
40:53
Daniel Moore: So you're stronger because you seen God work, absolutely.
40:57
Daniel Moore: Gave you a whole new, you know, look, outlook on life.
41:01
Daniel Moore: And he's given you a calling, some testimony now that can be shared to other people that's going through things to help them to realize that there is a light at the end of that tunnel.
41:10
Daniel Moore: Yeah.
41:10
Daniel Moore: Just rely on Christ and He'll get you through that.
41:13
Daniel Moore: That's right.
41:13
Daniel Moore: That's right.
41:14
Daniel Moore: So make sure as spouses, you know, don't push each other away during those moments of trial.
41:19
Daniel Moore: Come together and pray about things and figure out what's it gonna take for both of us to get through this.
41:24
Daniel Moore: And what are the good things we're seeing in it?
41:26
Daniel Moore: As that scripture says, count it joy because you know that tomorrow morning that, you know, the joy comes in the morning, things are gonna change.
41:33
Daniel Moore: God's gonna make something good out of something bad, and you're gonna have a good testimony, and God's gonna make it work for the better in your relationship.
41:42
Daniel Moore: So as we close this week, your testimony is often being written in the chapters that you wish you could skip.
41:49
Daniel Moore: I know there's lots of things as we look back, we wish we'd never went through any of those.
41:53
Daniel Moore: But God doesn't merely bring you through the fire, he brings you out stronger than when you entered it.
41:59
Daniel Moore: And when God finishes what he's doing, you'll look back and realize that the season you thought would destroy you became the season that developed you.
42:07
Daniel Moore: The season that almost broke your marriage became the season that strengthened it.
42:11
Daniel Moore: The season that challenged your faith became the season that deepened it.
42:15
Daniel Moore: Because that's what God does.
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Daniel Moore: He takes ashes and creates beauty, he takes pain and creates purpose.
42:22
Daniel Moore: He takes trials and produces testimony.
42:25
Daniel Moore: He takes ordinary marriages that trust him through the storm and turns them into powerful examples of his faithfulness.
42:33
Daniel Moore: With God, the fire is never the final chapter.
42:37
Daniel Moore: Refinement is so to finish up this episode, don't forget you can go to our website at marriagelifeandmore.com.
43:04
Daniel Moore: All of our resources are there.
43:05
Daniel Moore: You can reach out to us with the contact page and make sure that you follow us on social media, uh, like our pages.
43:12
Daniel Moore: We try to post something every day there, some encouragement.
43:15
Daniel Moore: Our episodes, just different things has to do with the ministry.
43:18
Daniel Moore: So follow us there on Instagram, Facebook, and X.
43:22
Daniel Moore: And then also share these episodes to people that need to hear them.
43:26
Daniel Moore: Uh, there's a lot of people going through a lot of battles, and the stuff that we cover here might help.
43:30
Daniel Moore: So please feel free to share, and we thank you for doing that.
43:35
Daniel Moore: Also, if you purchased the book uh that this study is based on, this chapter has some examples in it of some biblical couples and some modern day couples that have gone through trials and tribulations.
43:47
Daniel Moore: We're not going to share those on the episode, uh, give you another reason that you can purchase the book and check that out.
43:52
Daniel Moore: And you can go to our resources page on our website, marriagelifeandmore.com, to find out about that and all the resources that we offer here at Marriage Life and More.
44:02
Daniel Moore: Well, as we wrap up this week, remember this powerful truth.
44:05
Daniel Moore: The trials you're facing today are not proof that God has abandoned you.
44:09
Daniel Moore: They may be evidence that he's still working in you.
44:12
Daniel Moore: The enemy wants hardship to make you quit, shrink back, and question everything that God has spoken over your life.
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Daniel Moore: But throughout Scripture, we see a different story.
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Daniel Moore: Joseph's prison became the pathway to the palace.
44:25
Daniel Moore: Paul's chains became the means through which God delivered some of the most influential letters ever written.
44:31
Daniel Moore: Even the cross, which looked like defeat in the moment, became the greatest victory in history.
44:37
Daniel Moore: The same God who worked through their suffering is still at work in yours.
44:41
Daniel Moore: What feels like a setback may actually be God's setup.
44:45
Daniel Moore: What feels like a detour may actually be the preparation.
44:49
Daniel Moore: And what feels like the end of the story may simply be the beginning of a chapter you can't see yet.
44:55
Daniel Moore: So, what do we do when life gets hard?
44:57
Daniel Moore: Well, we keep showing up.
44:59
Daniel Moore: We keep trusting, we keep praying, we keep loving our spouse when it's easier to withdraw.
45:05
Daniel Moore: We keep believing God's promises when our circumstances seem to argue otherwise.
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Daniel Moore: So this week, take a few moments and ask yourself, what trial am I trying to escape that God may be trying to use?
45:16
Daniel Moore: Then invite your spouse into that conversation.
45:19
Daniel Moore: Pray together, share your hearts honestly, encourage one another with God's faithfulness.
45:25
Daniel Moore: Don't waste your pain by running from it.
45:28
Daniel Moore: Let God use it to strengthen your faith, refine your character, and deepen your marriage.
45:34
Daniel Moore: Because one day you'll look back and realize that the season you wanted God to remove was the very season that He used to transform you.
45:41
Daniel Moore: The fire wasn't sent to consume you, it was sent to refine you.
45:46
Daniel Moore: And when God is finished, you'll discover that the trial you thought would break you became the testimony that revealed his faithfulness.
45:54
Daniel Moore: Well, that's all for this week.
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Daniel Moore: We pray that your marriage is stronger and your walk with God is closer after this episode.
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Daniel Moore: This episode's recorded in the upper room at our Connecting the Gap Studios.
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Daniel Moore: This is an extension of Connecting the Gap Ministries.
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Daniel Moore: We pray that you have a blessed week.