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What do you do when 3 hours into a meeting when you realize that you've been calling someone by the wrong name? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with am saying.
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  Speaker 2: And the club on nine four seven, what happened to
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  Speaker 2: meet last week in a meeting?
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  Speaker 3: So, and also the reason this is so embarrassing is
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  Speaker 3: because this is not the first time I meet this
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  Speaker 3: guy at the meeting.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I thought it was the first.
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  Speaker 3: I'd meet him about a month and a half ago,
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  Speaker 3: and this meeting was now asked like, okay, fine, we're agreeing,
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  Speaker 3: we're signing you.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: So there's three people at this table. It's me and
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  Speaker 3: the two other guys in the meeting. We at a
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  Speaker 3: restaurant signature, Yeah, morning site nice. And I kept on
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  Speaker 3: calling him Coco. And for me, he's always had a
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  Speaker 3: name where I'm just like, well, this is a cute
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  Speaker 3: name for a man, but it's fine, that's what you
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  Speaker 3: introduced this.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Coco is a very strange name.
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  Speaker 3: No, And dude, the way I was like referring to
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  Speaker 3: him like that, Coco was saying the Coco was saying, amen,
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  Speaker 3: I am cooing up.
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  Speaker 2: In there right right two hours into this meeting. Two hours,
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  Speaker 2: two hours into.
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  Speaker 3: This meeting, the other guy in the meeting says, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: like Candy.
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  Speaker 5: So Coco is actually Candy, Yes, And they let you
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  Speaker 5: continue for two hours, and I'm just like, why did
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  Speaker 5: no one say anything?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, okay, so let's just first start. So
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  Speaker 1: his name is Candy, Candy, but that is I d
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  Speaker 1: name Candy.
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  Speaker 2: I mean no position to be.
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  Speaker 1: What I'm trying to say is I can see how
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  Speaker 1: you got to Coco.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, thank you can see it. Come on, say no, no, guys,
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  Speaker 2: come on.
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  Speaker 1: They don't sound the same, but I get it.
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  Speaker 6: But I get it because nobody corrected me. And I
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  Speaker 6: called Timbisa in the Star for Restaurants Neela because once
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  Speaker 6: upon a time somebody told me his name was Sanella
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  Speaker 6: and that was it for you. And so walked up
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  Speaker 6: and went and I was like, uh, you're talking to
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  Speaker 6: Why didn't you correct me?
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  Speaker 4: And appointed?
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  Speaker 2: Why don't you correct me? Why do you allow me
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  Speaker 2: to call you the wrong thing for you? Actually, I'm
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  Speaker 2: so embarrassed.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so mortified. And this is that is what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: Before seven, I said, this is out of character for you,
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  Speaker 1: because you are very good with names, very good.
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  Speaker 3: I take people's names so seriously because it's the one
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  Speaker 3: thing I feel like that's your anchor. And I see
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  Speaker 3: you someone I call you by your name Coco, Coco.
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  Speaker 2: So and in that moment, I.
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  Speaker 3: Was just like, what do you do when you do?
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  Speaker 3: I turn and say, oh, I'm so sorry. I've been
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  Speaker 3: calling you Coco the whole time. You actually Candy? Do
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  Speaker 3: I ignore it?
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  Speaker 2: Do I do I move countries?
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  Speaker 1: Do you burn your house?
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying? What do I stand up?
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  Speaker 1: And you've got to apologize? Surely, surely after two hours
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  Speaker 1: of calling a man Coke, you gotta say sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Set man for him not to be like, it's not Coco,
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  Speaker 3: it's Candy, it's sweet.
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  Speaker 5: So I think you have, like Frankie is saying, you
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  Speaker 5: do have to acknowledge.
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  Speaker 1: It is acknowledge.
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  Speaker 5: And so, guys, why have you let me sit here
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  Speaker 5: for two hours calling this poor man Coco?
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  Speaker 1: Deflect? It's your fault. Yes I am a victim.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, oh one one eight eight thirty eight nine four seven?
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  Speaker 2: What should I have done in that moment?
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  Speaker 3: Let's advise ANNELI here and then also tell us, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like Cindy, did you go in entire year calling someone
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  Speaker 3: the wrong name? Also, I'm laughing because guys, we go
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  Speaker 3: to the stuff Can team every.
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  Speaker 6: Day, every day, every day from him, I met it
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  Speaker 6: his fault you allowed me.
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  Speaker 5: And then because he speaks a bit the one wanting
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  Speaker 5: as a Tobela just to greet to as hello, Cindy said,
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  Speaker 5: wait is your name Tomda?
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  Speaker 4: Now?
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  Speaker 1: What is your name? What is your name?
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  Speaker 2: What is your name? You're not going to need name tags?
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  Speaker 3: Zero eight four a double zero double zero nine four seven.
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  Speaker 2: What do you do when it tricks mid.
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  Speaker 3: Relationship that you have been calling someone.
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  Speaker 2: By the wrong name? Do you just carry on ignoring it?
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  Speaker 3: And then just from just make a note that from
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  Speaker 3: here onwards I'll call them the right name.
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  Speaker 2: Do you change it there and there? Has this ever
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  Speaker 2: happened to you? Has this?
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  Speaker 3: Have you ever been on the receiving end of this
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  Speaker 3: where somebody's been calling you the wrong name for years
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  Speaker 3: and you're.
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  Speaker 2: Like, you know what, it's right.
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  Speaker 1: You just didn't have the heart to correct them.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, okay, fine, this.
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  Speaker 1: Is the worst. If it's in an office and you're
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  Speaker 1: in a meeting, you were in a meeting with two people,
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  Speaker 1: you were lucky. But if it was a boardroom full
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  Speaker 1: of people, witnesses everywhere, I think before the big it's
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  Speaker 1: a huge table.
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  Speaker 2: No, guys, we were sitting right next to each other. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: like we.
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  Speaker 3: Were yours right there, right there in my face, and
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  Speaker 3: I was calling him Coco.
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  Speaker 2: Coops, go away.
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  Speaker 5: Cocoa and candy might not sound the same, but they
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  Speaker 5: feel the same, so I get it.
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  Speaker 1: My name is Prishan, and I called Prishan all the time.
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  Speaker 7: I have a friend through a friend, and when we
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  Speaker 7: met for about six months, they kept calling me Jared
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  Speaker 7: and my name is Jason. I may have gone to
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  Speaker 7: four ways high, but I'll be damned if somebody calls
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  Speaker 7: me Jared.
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  Speaker 3: And Jared is such a four ways high name? Eh,
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  Speaker 3: the concentration of Jared's and four ways high because.
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  Speaker 1: When he speaks, you hear Jared. But also Jason and
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  Speaker 1: Jared is not far from each other. Yeah, no, yay.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 5: Actually, by the way, that is the most offensive thing
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  Speaker 5: you can do to someone.
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  Speaker 8: Will.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, there's a letter, the E and the A make
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  Speaker 5: the difference. Like a friend of mine, lebo hang. If
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  Speaker 5: you really want to upset her, call her lebo hang.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I guess Sandy La, good morning. You approte a
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  Speaker 2: clean morning. Guys, are you We're great?
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  Speaker 3: We sure your name is Andy Lennays.
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  Speaker 9: And my neighbors saying what that called why not because
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  Speaker 9: they call me Balley and I've never said I'm Bali.
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  Speaker 10: And now it was just a wife.
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  Speaker 9: But now that husband does it, I'm like, you know what,
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  Speaker 9: they probably spoke about it on the dinner table for
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  Speaker 9: it's fine.
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  Speaker 10: I'm not collecting them.
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  Speaker 1: You're not why not?
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  Speaker 3: That is not the funny thing.
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  Speaker 10: And my wife is written Zandi, like I'll say, Hi,
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  Speaker 10: this is Zandile.
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  Speaker 5: I've got it. That's doing or whatever?
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  Speaker 9: Do you do?
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  Speaker 2: They're standing on business. Do you look like a Ballei?
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  Speaker 2: I do look like yeah, do.
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  Speaker 1: You act like balt No, she's a baldly. That's what
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  Speaker 1: the name sounds too. Conservatives.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's it's ballet or that. That's what you
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  Speaker 2: sound like to me.
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  Speaker 3: It's fine, take your name, girl, take your name. But
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  Speaker 3: also that's another thing. So because I'm pretty sure that
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  Speaker 3: that couple other one said that my name is Sandy Liston,
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  Speaker 3: then they both decided, you know what, let's just carry.
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  Speaker 2: On calling them back.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just now we're wrong.
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  Speaker 2: As a family.
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  Speaker 3: We are sticking to Bali, Joe, you and Bogbur good morning, Hi.
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  Speaker 10: Good morning guys. How's everybody.
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  Speaker 7: We're I'm good.
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  Speaker 10: My first time on radio.
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  Speaker 3: Walk, Welcome snice the side. Okay, Joe, what's your story here?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: My full name is Joe Charm Joe Charm.
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  Speaker 9: Yes, I'm half Asian, Okay, And for.
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  Speaker 10: Eight years I've worked to F and D and I've
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  Speaker 10: always shortened it because people always struggle to call me
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  Speaker 10: Joe Charm. I will say, what what what's your name?
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  Speaker 10: So I shortened it to Joe And for ats people
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  Speaker 10: have called me Joe.
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  Speaker 1: And I just listened. You thought you were helping everyone, man,
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  Speaker 1: then you realize no.
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  Speaker 3: But also, guys, when somebody introduced themselves as Joe then
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  Speaker 3: and they now, you can now relax your legs in
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  Speaker 3: business class, Joe lead, Joe m not.
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  Speaker 5: We're at work, guys. So I sometimes I feel like
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  Speaker 5: you like calling you Joe's a little too familiar. I'm
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  Speaker 5: trying to use your government name because I don't know
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  Speaker 5: you like that.
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  Speaker 1: What is your surname, Joe Charm.
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  Speaker 10: My married surname is Lie Joe Charm L Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, okay, and you're married married to name Schuman. Joe.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry, babe, take it. You are your instrument.
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  Speaker 4: No, No, leave those alone, leave those Google and V
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  Speaker 4: and B back off Joe, charm back off Joe and Schumann.
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  Speaker 9: My name is Taylor spelled t a y l A.
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  Speaker 2: Why the tyler? Why the tyler?
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  Speaker 11: There's an a there.
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  Speaker 5: I think the most embarrassing one it happened to me
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  Speaker 5: during adult gymnastics.
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  Speaker 1: Someone called me with the wrong name.
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  Speaker 2: Of their ex.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That's very embarrassing.
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  Speaker 11: I am just so tired of creating people when it
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  Speaker 11: comes to my name, Like I get to appointed, sometimes
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  Speaker 11: I just let them call me whatever my name is.
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  Speaker 12: No ya, people who call me Noma, no himia.
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  Speaker 2: My name is Mandy, but people want to call me Mandy. No,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't say a Mandy, s Mandy.
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  Speaker 1: For I said a Mandy, Mandy. I agree with right.
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  Speaker 1: If I say a Mandy, you call me Mandy.
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  Speaker 2: You can't go and call me Mandy.
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  Speaker 3: That your assumptions are way, way way past your jurisdiction.
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  Speaker 1: But the other lady, I don't think.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't repeat her name now.
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  Speaker 2: Knowing ya, knowing ya, knowing you let again.
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  Speaker 12: That's very embarrassing.
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  Speaker 11: They say a tide of correcting people when it comes
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  Speaker 11: to my name, Like I get up point. Sometimes I
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  Speaker 11: just let them call me whatever.
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  Speaker 12: My name is. Noemia. People will call me Noumia, no himia,
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  Speaker 12: no m Yah.
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  Speaker 3: Knowing yeah.
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  Speaker 12: People will call me Noma no no m Ya.
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  Speaker 1: No Amia, knowing ya, knowing ya, knowing ya, no Ya.
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  Speaker 2: Danielle, Good morning, welcome to it in the club, Good morning.
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  Speaker 1: How are you great?
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  Speaker 2: Are we saying your name right? Yes? Danielle? Now now yea.
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  Speaker 2: And your father in law has called you what for
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  Speaker 2: ten years?
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  Speaker 1: Wow?
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  Speaker 9: For ten years long? My father in law.
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  Speaker 5: You used to call me Dahlian, Darlian, Dahlia, no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 5: he's crazy wow.
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  Speaker 9: And you used to correct him.
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  Speaker 8: And try, it's not Dali, and it's done now, and
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  Speaker 8: then he'll be like, oh, yeah, okay, okay, and then
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  Speaker 8: when he talks to me again, he'll just go back
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  Speaker 8: to Dulia.
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  Speaker 9: And the base part of all is mamas in law's
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  Speaker 9: sister until the day she paused away. I was Dallian
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  Speaker 9: to who and I was already in the family for
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  Speaker 9: about fourteen years then, and then she was just oh, Dahlia.
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  Speaker 3: Because but because they really are those people who just
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  Speaker 3: stick to like a name and they can't call you
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  Speaker 3: anything else, and they try and and you know what
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  Speaker 3: I'm telling you is like I promise you the next
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  Speaker 3: time I see it, I'm gonna call her, right, I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna call her danew danw you arrive, Dallian.
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  Speaker 2: It's your brain short circuits.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I disagree. No, that man must try harder.
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  Speaker 3: You do try, and you give yourself a pep talk
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  Speaker 3: in the mirror, like you're not gonna get their name wrong.
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  Speaker 2: You're gonna call her that.
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  Speaker 12: What is it?
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  Speaker 3: And then sometimes when you sing this person come, you're like, okay, fine,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna get her and wait, hang on which one
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  Speaker 3: is the right one?
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  Speaker 1: Again?
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  Speaker 2: Then you confunce yourself in your head that actually.
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  Speaker 3: Daniel is the wrong one, and then Dalian is the
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  Speaker 3: one that's writing in you go there No, But.
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  Speaker 1: If it's friends or friends, that's the difference. This is
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  Speaker 1: her father in law.
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  Speaker 4: I get it.
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  Speaker 2: I know it's bad, but I get it. So now, Delian,
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  Speaker 2: what do you do? What do you do?
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  Speaker 4: Do?
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  Speaker 2: You then correct him every time?
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  Speaker 8: Now I was just like, well, I'm Dahlia now for
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  Speaker 8: the foreseeable future, and then eventually about here we live,
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  Speaker 8: and my father in law was like, okay, it's done.
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  Speaker 8: Now it's not Dalian. But my mother in law sayster
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  Speaker 8: up until the day she passed away, I was Dalian.
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  Speaker 3: When she gets to heaven, she's like yeah, and God,
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  Speaker 3: this place than Delian. And then God's like, who's that,
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  Speaker 3: who's that? There's not Dalian in your family. From Daniel
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  Speaker 3: to Sandra and Malrose, good morning, Sandra.
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  Speaker 10: Good morning, guys.
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  Speaker 2: Hoell you, Gregan, how are you good?
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  Speaker 4: Good us?
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  Speaker 10: So I go to local Seattle and they all call
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  Speaker 10: me Sandra. They know my name now, so they call
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  Speaker 10: me Sandra. So I went the one time there was
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  Speaker 10: a guy and I thought it was just a temp
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  Speaker 10: and he heard Sammy and then he said hi, Sammy,
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  Speaker 10: and then I just said hello, and then I thought
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  Speaker 10: I'm not gonna correct him. It's not going to be around.
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  Speaker 10: And he came back again and again and again, and
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  Speaker 10: he kept saying Sammy until one of the girls said, hey,
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  Speaker 10: her name is not Sammy, it's Sandra. And they were
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  Speaker 10: right next to each other, but he insisted on calling
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  Speaker 10: me Sammy, and then and then they said to me,
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  Speaker 10: that is and then he said, no, no, no, her
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  Speaker 10: name is Sandra.
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  Speaker 3: She told me.
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  Speaker 10: I mean Sammy, she told me, And the girl says,
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  Speaker 10: is your other name Sammy? And I said yeah, she
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  Speaker 10: said I was embarrassed with the guy, and then they said, okay,
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  Speaker 10: so if your name other name is Sammy, we're going
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  Speaker 10: to stop calling you Sandra.
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  Speaker 8: So you know you just calling Oh.
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  Speaker 3: No, you've changed your own name because you just couldn't
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  Speaker 3: correct someone.
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  Speaker 10: You feeling so bad, you know, I said, my husband,
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  Speaker 10: actually don't mind being in Sammy.
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  Speaker 8: I think I could be.
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  Speaker 1: I just love I just love Sandra. I love how
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  Speaker 1: there's one pocket in the universe, like a four by
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  Speaker 1: four square meter space, where you are called Sammy, and the.
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  Speaker 2: Rest of the world everywhere else is Sandra.
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  Speaker 3: But in that little corner, in that multile multiple universe,
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  Speaker 3: that's where you're sam Sammy.
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  Speaker 8: It is sad to making your morning and the club
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  Speaker 8: on nine four seven