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Love Styles & God-Given Boundaries: Choosing Love Wisely ❤️‍🕊️🧭 · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, what's up, all you beautiful people? It's Ashley here,
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  Speaker 1: and today's topic is all about... Today's subject is all
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  Speaker 1: about love, the sweetest and warmest feeling known to mankind.
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  Speaker 1: Needless to say, I love love. I write one too
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  Speaker 1: many romantic fan fictions. I received a Tumblr ask to
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  Speaker 1: do a video on love or relationships, so here we go.
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  Speaker 1: Now this video is going to be broken down into
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  Speaker 1: two parts. First, we're going to talk about love styles,
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  Speaker 1: and then we're going to talk about the triangular theory
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  Speaker 1: of love. So let's start with love styles. Now, they
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  Speaker 1: are modes of operation of how people love. It was
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  Speaker 1: originally developed by John Allen Lee. He identified six basic
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  Speaker 1: love styles, or colors of love. And these are what
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  Speaker 1: people use in their interpersonal relationships. Real quick, interpersonal, that
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  Speaker 1: is of or relating to relationships or communication between people.
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  Speaker 1: Love style number one, eros. Now this is a passionate, physical,
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  Speaker 1: and emotional love of wanting to satisfy, create sexual contentment, security,
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  Speaker 1: and aesthetic enjoyment for each other. This also includes creating
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  Speaker 1: sexual security for the other by striving to forsake options
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  Speaker 1: of sharing one's intimate and sexual self with outsiders. The
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  Speaker 1: next one is Laudis. Now, this style is used by
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  Speaker 1: those who see love as a desiring to want to
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  Speaker 1: have fun with each other, to do outdoor and indoor activities,
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  Speaker 1: a teasing indulge, and playing harmless pranks on each other.
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  Speaker 1: The acquisition of love and attention itself may be part
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  Speaker 1: of the game. This style is used by those who
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  Speaker 1: see love as a game and want to win as
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  Speaker 1: many partners as possible. The focus is on having fun
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  Speaker 1: in the moment and therefore relationships of this sort tend
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  Speaker 1: to be very short. The third one is storage. This
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  Speaker 1: style of love grows slowly out of friendship and is
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  Speaker 1: based more on similar interests and a commitment to one
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  Speaker 1: another rather than on passion. Number four is pragma. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this love style is based on the perceptions of practicality
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  Speaker 1: and realism. People who prefer this style approach their relationship
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  Speaker 1: in a business-like fashion and look for partners with whom
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  Speaker 1: they can share common goals. The next one is Mania.
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  Speaker 1: This love style usually flows out of low self-esteem and
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  Speaker 1: a need to be loved by one's partner. Lovers of
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  Speaker 1: this sort usually become very possessive and jealous. And the
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  Speaker 1: last one is Agape. In this style of love, the
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  Speaker 1: person is willing to sacrifice anything for their partner. It
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  Speaker 1: is based on an unbreakable commitment and unconditional selfless love.
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  Speaker 1: Alright that was love styles. Now we're gonna go on
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  Speaker 1: to the next part of the video which is called
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  Speaker 1: the triangular theory of love. This theory was developed by
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  Speaker 1: psychologist Robert Sternberg. Love has three components intimacy, passion, and commitment.
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  Speaker 1: Intimacy encompasses the feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
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  Speaker 1: Is that such a word? Oh yeah, there is. Passion
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  Speaker 1: encompasses drives connected to both limerence and sexual attraction, and commitment,
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  Speaker 1: which encompasses, in short term, the decision to remain with
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  Speaker 1: one another, and in the long term, plans made with
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  Speaker 1: the other. So, based on these three components of love,
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  Speaker 1: You can actually have seven different varieties of love. Well,
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  Speaker 1: there's actually eight, but the first one is not included.
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  Speaker 1: The first one is non-love. It consists of none of
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  Speaker 1: the components. Non-love categorizes the large majority of our personal relationships,
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  Speaker 1: which are simply casual interactions. The second one is liking
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  Speaker 1: or friendship. This consists of the intimacy component of love.
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  Speaker 1: It refers to the set of feelings one experiences in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship that can truly be categorized as friendship. One
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  Speaker 1: feels closeness, bondness, and warmth towards the other without the
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  Speaker 1: feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment. Infatuated love consists
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  Speaker 1: of the passion component. Romantic relationships often start out as
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  Speaker 1: infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time.
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  Speaker 1: but without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
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  Speaker 1: Romantic love? What do I mean by romantic love? Well,
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  Speaker 1: romantic love consists of passion and intimacy. Romantic lovers are
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  Speaker 1: not only drawn physically to each other, but they're also
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  Speaker 1: bonded emotionally. But it's without sustaining commitment. The next one
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  Speaker 1: is empty love. Now this one categorized by commitment only
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  Speaker 1: and there is no intimacy or passion. For example, in
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  Speaker 1: an arranged marriage, the spouse's relationship may begin as empty
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  Speaker 1: love and develop into another form, indicating how empty love
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  Speaker 1: need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Companionate love. Now this is an intimate, non-passionate type of
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  Speaker 1: love that is stronger than friendship and because of the
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  Speaker 1: element of long-term commitment. This type of love is observed
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  Speaker 1: in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present, but
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  Speaker 1: where a deep affection and commitment remain. This love, ideally
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  Speaker 1: shared between family members, is a form of compassionate love,
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  Speaker 1: as is the love between close friends who have a
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  Speaker 1: platonic but strong friendship. The next one is Factuous Love.
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  Speaker 1: This is passion and commitment. Factuous love in the sense
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  Speaker 1: that a commitment is made on the basis of passion
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  Speaker 1: without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement. And the very
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  Speaker 1: last form of love is consummate love. Now this has
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  Speaker 1: all three components of love. Intimacy, passion, and commitment. It
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  Speaker 1: is the complete form of love representing an ideal relationship
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  Speaker 1: which people strive towards. Of the seven varieties of love,
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  Speaker 1: consulate love is theorized to be the love that is
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  Speaker 1: associated with the perfect couple. And there you have it,
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  Speaker 1: the triangular theory of love. And there you have it, love.
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  Speaker 1: Who said it wasn't complicated? Obviously, love is a very,
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  Speaker 1: very wide topic In this case, I only talked about
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  Speaker 1: inner personal love. So I hope you guys enjoyed it nonetheless. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that is my time. Thank you so much for watching
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  Speaker 1: this video. The links to all of my sources are
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  Speaker 1: in the description box below.