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Return to Sender — Protect Your Peace This Monday · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Motivational Monday episode, Return to Sender.
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  Listen, child, it's Monday. School has started back up.
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  My last child is officially in his sophomore year of high school.
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  Schedules are scheduling Responsibilities are Responsibility Life is lifeing,
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  And one thing I know for sure.
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  I do not have time For unnecessary drama So this week If the energy is off,
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  If the vibes are wrong If the foolishness shows up at your doorstep Baby Write
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  three little words Across that package Return to sender.
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  Because everything delivered to you does not belong to you.
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  Let me say that again. Everything delivered to you does not belong to you.
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  Somebody else's bad attitude, return to sender.
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  Somebody else's assumptions about you, return to sender.
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  There are projections, insecurities, bitterness, chaos, confusion,
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  criticism, and unsolicited opinions.
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  Baby, I didn't order that. Return to sender.
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  And listen, I have told y'all before that everything does not deserve your energy or your attention.
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  But sometimes we understand that intellectually and still pick up the package.
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  We open it. We inspect it. We carry it around. We call somebody and talk about it.
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  Then we call somebody else and talk about it again.
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  Now, something that wasn't ours in the first place has taken up residence in
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  our mind, interrupted our mood, disturbed our peace, and distracted us from our purpose.
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  Why are you paying storage fees for somebody else's baggage?
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  No, ma'am, not this Monday.
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  Stop accepting unauthorized deliveries.
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  Some of us have become entirely too accessible.
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  Somebody calls with drama and we answer. Somebody sends a slick text and we respond.
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  Somebody posts something we think is about us and suddenly we're FBI agents
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  analyzing punctuation, timestamps, and emojis.
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  Girl return to sender because one of the greatest signs of growth is learning
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  that you don't have to attend every argument you're invited to
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  you don't have to correct every misunderstanding you don't have to defend yourself
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  against every opinion you don't have to prove your heart to people committed to misunderstanding it,
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  and you certainly don't have to sacrifice your peace just because somebody else
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  has decided to disturb theirs.
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  Check the address. Before you accept something emotionally, ask yourself,
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  is this even addressed to me?
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  Because sometimes people are reacting to wounds you didn't create.
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  Sometimes they're angry about situations you didn't cause.
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  Sometimes they're projecting an experience with somebody else onto you.
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  Sometimes their expectations were never communicated, but somehow you've been handed the invoice.
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  Uh-uh. Wrong address. Return it.
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  And here's another one. Sometimes, people will try to assign you a version of
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  yourself that you have already outgrown.
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  They'll say things like, you're always, you never, that's just how you are.
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  No, that's who I was. You are attempting delivery to an old address.
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  I don't live there anymore. Listen, don't open every package.
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  This is where discernment comes in, because sometimes the enemy doesn't need to destroy you.
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  He just needs to distract you. And some of us are losing valuable time fighting
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  battles that were never assigned to us.
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  You're explaining when you should be executing, arguing when you should be advancing,
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  proving when you should be producing, responding when you should be resting,
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  and defending when you should be developing.
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  Every reaction costs something.
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  It costs time. It costs attention. It costs emotional energy. It can cost focus.
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  And sometimes it costs peace.
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  So before you react this week, ask yourself, what will responding to this cost me?
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  And then ask, is it worth the postage? Because sometimes silence isn't weakness.
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  Sometimes silence is simply delivery, refuse.
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  Return the things you've been carrying too. And child, I can't let us get out
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  of here thinking everybody else is the sender.
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  Because sometimes we keep re-delivering things to ourselves.
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  That mistake from five years ago. that relationship that didn't work,
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  that opportunity you missed, that decision you wish you had made differently,
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  that guilt, that embarrassment, that version of yourself you're ashamed of.
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  Baby, why is that package still sitting in your house?
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  You learned from it, you grew from it, you survived it, you've prayed about
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  it, you've worked through it, Stop reopening something God has already given
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  you permission to close.
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  Return to sender.
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  Return the shame. Return the guilt. Return the fear.
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  Return the belief that you have to have everybody's approval.
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  Return the pressure to be everything to everybody.
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  And while you're at it, return that imaginary deadline telling you that you're
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  behind in life because we're not carrying unnecessary weight into places we're praying to reach.
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  Here's your forwarding address. Purpose. I need you moving differently this week.
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  Your forwarding address is purpose.
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  Your forwarding address is peace.
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  Your forwarding address is progress. So if it cannot be delivered there,
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  maybe it doesn't need to follow you.
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  I'm not telling you to ignore responsibilities.
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  I'm not telling you to avoid accountability. And I'm definitely not telling
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  you that every uncomfortable conversation is bad energy.
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  Sometimes correction is necessary.
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  Sometimes communication is necessary. Sometimes accountability is necessary.
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  But there is a difference between something that requires your attention,
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  and something that is simply demanding your reaction,
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  learn the difference because mature boundaries don't say nobody can tell me
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  anything mature boundaries say i will receive what helps me grow,
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  address what requires my attention,
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  and return what was never mine to carry that is the energy,
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  This week, protect your peace without becoming petty.
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  Protect your energy without becoming unavailable to accountability.
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  Protect your progress without constantly stopping to explain it.
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  And protect your purpose from distractions disguised as emergencies.
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  Because everybody does not get a response. Every opinion does not get consideration.
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  Every accusation does not get a defense Every invitation does not get an RSVP.
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  And every package does not get open Sometimes you look at the label Recognize
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  exactly where it came from And say, nope, return to sender,
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, identify three things you have been
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  carrying that do not belong to you.
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  Maybe it's somebody's opinion. Maybe it's guilt.
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  Maybe it's pressure. Maybe it's an expectation. Maybe it's somebody else's mood.
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  Maybe it's a conflict you keep replaying.
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  Write each one down. Beside it, write, return to sender.
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  I will not carry blank into my next.
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  Then identify one thing that actually does require your attention.
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  Because fearless living isn't avoiding everything uncomfortable.
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  It's developing the wisdom to know what to address, what to accept,
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  what to release, and what to return.
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  Listen, it's Monday. We have things to do,
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  purpose to pursue, people to love, goals to reach, peace to protect,
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  and absolutely no room in the emotional mailbox for packages we did not order.
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  So check the label, check the source, check the cost, and if it doesn't belong
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  to you, you already know what we're doing.
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  Return to ascender. Now go live fearless.
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  Keep learning. Keep living.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one. Thank you.