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- 0:01Okay, good morning, she responsive Ashley.
- 0:04My fervency invention, do just a real quick recap on early minion
- 0:10on Shabbos afternoon. So Famous Grouse is a star Bali
- 0:14crime to make people wait Friday night.
- 0:19So there's what have to wait? So ideally one should not start
- 0:23the meal within or start Kiddush within the real problem is
- 0:27starting the meal within the 30 minutes of safe long as one
- 0:32started Kiddush though, before say it's not a problem that's
- 0:36already considered eating the meal and we mentioned a couple
- 0:39reasons why it might be okay. First of all, the real problem
- 0:44is only for about 15-20 minutes or so because What is Sate?
- 0:50You can easily play with 13 minutes, 25. 30 minutes also
- 0:53depends where you live. Okay.
- 0:55Also there's more room to be of ha.
- 0:59Some say, if you already did sake reattachment, at least
- 1:01after plug them in a car, at least two years, according to
- 1:04Urban you, Tom, maybe taste is 72 minutes.
- 1:08There's also the concept of being 0 Sigma Mitzvah or dealing
- 1:12with the family are Bachata. Talk where you have, it's not
- 1:16just for yourself, you have to worry about the other people go.
- 1:19Crazy around you waiting. So that's another issue to
- 1:22factor and One can also set up a reminder for himself to say
- 1:26create drama. Okay, food for thought but that
- 1:31is one of the reasons why one of the reasons why some people are
- 1:34not in favor of early Shabbos all together, okay?
- 1:39We are on racial Ahmad Zayn. See, that's real darvid.
- 1:45Olive, a chilly at silver. Angel asleep, were Hozier, XP
- 1:49lab. It's Felix Arvid.
- 1:51There is no hazardous shots for Margaret at nighttime, right?
- 1:57Main reason is feel it arviat. Originally is a rich shoot.
- 2:00We don't hold it too Hova. Even though nowadays we consider
- 2:04it a They know Finn open am a car RV.
- 2:16And we do not say We do not do, talk on at night, shh, Lola, or
- 2:23are adenine, right? So we don't want to wake up
- 2:27judgment on us at night, okay? Especially the first half, the
- 2:30night rage Longmeadow set like Bowie team are terrible Ila.
- 2:35Olive seriously, zaheer believed would allow you turn your visual
- 2:39young learning at night times. Even more important than
- 2:43learning, or we have to be more careful with it learning a
- 2:45nighttime than during the day, the amavasya own show.
- 2:49Show me Ruben a four person doesn't learn at night.
- 2:52His punishment is great. Okay, just a couple quick liners
- 2:57from that the mesh number of quotes from Hazel.
- 3:00First one is everything. He says Lavery Lila, a little
- 3:03gear so the night was created in order for us to learn.
- 3:06That was the purpose. The whole night night doesn't
- 3:13says and say ìwhat. Is that a colorless liquid
- 3:15terrible? A Lakota Sparkle Masha, Allah
- 3:17who choked acid biome Is that night Forest Park, who gives
- 3:21them a good Hazard on him at kindness throughout the whole
- 3:25day because also say a person who learns night it's as if he
- 3:29was McCain Cabanas and a person who wants to be Zohar to the
- 3:34crown of Torah. You must be careful to learn at
- 3:38night and not to waste a moment with even with unnecessary
- 3:43sleep, eating drinking and just idle conversation, unless it's
- 3:48needed. I don't um Aruba cool by
- 3:52changing very tarnish my mobile Ila.
- 3:54H0. Celtic Maura says if a person in
- 4:01Sanhedrin for person doesn't, there's no learning Torah at
- 4:04night in someone's house cause for Shalom.
- 4:07Fire eats it. Okay, Ethan bet.
- 4:13See if. But English low Hook cover auto
- 4:17mode, costly costly, young person has every day is daily.
- 4:22Regimen of what he learns, whether it's a time allotment or
- 4:26a specific number of accomplishment, a certain amount
- 4:29of something, you should work hard, to make sure you finish
- 4:33during the day the higher. But if the iata, rude, by angle
- 4:36of the law is Reema. But if you're busy during the
- 4:38day, before after work, people have other issues that come up.
- 4:42So, you shall Men Who I love me odd.
- 4:44You shall do your best to complete it that night and not
- 4:49to push it off to the next day. Racial on met Dean creates
- 4:54Muhammad, O, create some at night when we go to sleep, Olive
- 4:59Curry, almita taupe Irish, Arizona show.
- 5:02Smart person should read the first part of Korea Chima at
- 5:08nighttime when he goes to sleep, we're assuming we already read
- 5:11the three party, oats at Mars. After it states.
- 5:14Otherwise of course you have to repeat all three.
- 5:16Some prefer to repeat all three anyway, but creates drama
- 5:21perhaps, they feel gives them a better level of Shamira, with
- 5:24248 words. Can I get our 248 limbs, boom.
- 5:29Avaricum appeal, right? So if you didn't, like I said,
- 5:34whenever I come up your heavily Shana all 89 and if a person a
- 5:39person should say, the bracha of how MA feel real familiar.
- 5:44It doesn't the postgame say there's different mean hugging,
- 5:47do you think creates my first or how Mark peel first, really?
- 5:50It makes no difference. You can say, either one, first,
- 5:52different mean hugging, they're both.
- 5:53Okay. It is certainly not a have sick
- 5:58because I feel is we're going to see again.
- 6:01As we read, there are not a mop, you'll is primarily a bracha of
- 6:04shovels and of the crush of a prayer.
- 6:06It's not shirk additional limits of its Revenue to fall asleep.
- 6:11It's not to say, create drama. It's It's a brock Obama filled
- 6:15by itself. Okay.
- 6:17How God vikre creates my son Mohammed.
- 6:20Oh you should say creation Mama, right.
- 6:23And the broker right before you go to sleep and then not have
- 6:26Helo. The ideal is VA nor claim the
- 6:29show team. Viloma debris, Mak are creating
- 6:31Michelle me Toto, once you say the brahe and creates my were
- 6:35not supposed to eat, drink talk and do other things.
- 6:38Allah, you shot me. You should fall asleep right
- 6:40away? Shamari mughals a moment.
- 6:43Okay. We do mustela based on a
- 6:45password. We speaking of Hearts creates
- 6:47them on our beds and then we are quiet and fall asleep.
- 6:53However it's not a real have said afterwards the postgame say
- 6:58if you need to speak if you someone calls and you need to
- 7:02answer a child needs you, your wife needs you, you're not
- 7:06falling asleep and you want to go do something.
- 7:08Everyone says, it's not a have sec.
- 7:10You are allowed to, to speak to what you need.
- 7:14If you and your wife, as we're going to learn ways, ma'am?
- 7:16If you and your wife want to do something together and you real
- 7:21and you already said you already said Korea.
- 7:23Tamara mop you. It's not a problem.
- 7:24You can be with your wife and then afterwards ideally to say,
- 7:29Creator my gun. But you do not repeat how much
- 7:31popular. Again, I Mafia was not a brothel
- 7:33of a dollar, so there's any of my hook it, according to the
- 7:38Passat, and most post game, including Rob ovadia, Yosef you
- 7:43say how much people with a brock ashamed of the malkhut all night
- 7:47long up until I lost a shocker. There is an opinion.
- 7:51Venetia is coded for it to ew. It's ideally not to say ever a
- 7:55mop You'll wish a market was, he's afraid you're not going to
- 7:57fall asleep, there is a more. There is a common sporadic
- 8:03opinion but down by or elección and the Ariza based on their
- 8:06resale, not to say a brock Obama feel shame for motherhood after
- 8:10Head Start, so different Customs, but Okay, I don't know.
- 8:23Okay. Let's see, fine, let's continue
- 8:29even with all the hot cashier who shall have talks about lying
- 8:33down, when you read it, incorrect creation of value
- 8:36called has shown me, odd person Recreation when you can't fall
- 8:39asleep right away as Hozier Valkyrie come up, um, user has
- 8:43their artistic a Obsession of you creators, some of which
- 8:46Naruto. So if you can't fall asleep
- 8:48right away, no problem. Say, as many took him as you
- 8:50want seek re-election as much times as you want, okay?
- 8:54They say not to repeat. Something not to repeat the
- 8:56first pasta could create Chima again and again because it looks
- 9:00like Shay ratios, the aim of arcing all creation will meet at
- 9:040. There is no bracha itself on
- 9:06creating Muhammad O homem appeals, not on Korea, China.
- 9:09And there is no circulation 1770 and create drama for just
- 9:13regarding he writes over here, if a person admission number of
- 9:20points out, Okay. And if a person is with his
- 9:27wife, so afterwards, we're going to see that a person shouldn't
- 9:32get up immediately right after he's attachment.
- 9:35Tosh with his wife, not to make her feel used to have to make
- 9:39her feel loved and then you should wash yourself.
- 9:42If your dirty from the shifflett, Sera, and then you
- 9:45wash your hands and then you save your code to my appeal and
- 9:48then sh'ma afterwards. Okay?
- 9:53Mike and Abram also writes that if you're saying create schema
- 9:59for a Hova at night time, let's say you said it before face and
- 10:03now you're saying the three-part Shield as a and when you read
- 10:28creation a line down to though, it should be on your side, not
- 10:32with your back. Blind, straight back on your
- 10:35back. Okay, the oh Mario, Sheba set to
- 10:38elyan. Other people came to say mean
- 10:42hugging we have our city during the whole marichal.
- 10:44Marmots are I add? Le Chemin schwabe O'Meara,
- 10:47Baruch Hashem biyombo Campbell Isle of uros, ambitious, a new
- 10:50profession become a new biome. Rationalist attorney are a sham
- 10:55Bahasa time, Gomer assumption Rahab, bomber material on and
- 11:00this is one of the most important scheme.
- 11:02Be a durha of kid who he the governor in some severe Hashem
- 11:08Boomer, obviously, Homer has given you at 7:00.
- 11:12Some say again the Brock has given you but not with the
- 11:17bracket and you don't say with hashem's name, Baruch Hashem at
- 11:21the end fresh bonobos. You already said it during the
- 11:25already said it when you dive in mark, Okay, so I'm right there
- 11:31on that. When you go to bed one, should
- 11:33spend a moment before they go to sleep, to be more kill, anyone
- 11:37who's insulted, you or hurt. You look at your own beads, if
- 11:41you did anything wrong to improve yourself and just as a a
- 11:46seat over, they say that. I mean, the gemara says a
- 11:50megillah' that a person who forgives everybody is gets,
- 11:56should be zoca to have a longer life.
- 11:58And we know that if a person Has less stress.
- 12:02It's healthier. And if a person is mocha and
- 12:05forgives other people forgive and forget, it's healthier for
- 12:09yourself as well. There is an Indian to not be
- 12:14asleep. Come not to go to sleep all
- 12:15night by yourself and your own room or your own house if you so
- 12:20ideally, if you're by yourself in your own room, at least, if
- 12:23you have your own room to have the room a little bit open and
- 12:27then everyone's able to, it's not a, he'll just an ideal and
- 12:33that there should a, some right there.
- 12:34Should at least be a little bit of light on in the house and it
- 12:36shouldn't be completely pitch. Black and the entire house Okay
- 12:41Bet. Cash you showed how Luke oh
- 12:43Laurie of Konomi model. Amala, when one gets undressed
- 12:47to go to sleep in the assumption is often.
- 12:51They went to bed without wearing any clothing without pajamas and
- 12:54they just went underneath the covers.
- 12:56So the idea is you should not get undressed when you're
- 12:59standing by your bed and make yourself completely naked before
- 13:03you get under the covers. But you should do it in a way
- 13:05where you're partially taking off your clothes and partially.
- 13:09Underneath the covers as you're doing it, so you're not
- 13:12completely standing completely naked.
- 13:15It's goes on to our one of the First's ammonium of serious
- 13:20because she is short callooh callay of clean water.
- 13:22Analogy in can him, sagu for our room, how you do it Ela?
- 13:25You should tell you their horosho.
- 13:27Take it off through your head because I had some abusive, you
- 13:30know, mitaka and start covering yourself are covering yourself
- 13:35with your covers. At the same time, we connect we
- 13:37meet at 0 and get underneath the covers.
- 13:39As you get undressed. That's more of a video by versus
- 13:50time. So, visually we want to, we want
- 13:53to improve ourselves. And so that's a good thing to
- 13:55do, and to forgive each other, but the actual top layer of talk
- 13:59on in the nest of talking, and we avoid.
- 14:02Okay, Richmond Hill, hot snoot. Okay, I'll go.
- 14:09I'll give a short intro or outside once we start race.
- 14:13Um, a hit man. Hey, guard on the Tosh.
- 14:16M, tell how should a person do touch me shemitah with his wife,
- 14:21Olive Emi Anna. So if a person is married lawyer
- 14:24here, ago, Bo Terry Mustafa person should not be too much
- 14:28with his wife record. It has all do not want to Sham.
- 14:31Also doesn't want us to be like, roosters constantly hanging out
- 14:34with their wives. That's why we had the whole
- 14:37Indian of the made it to confirm it.
- 14:39To be totally, okay. To be to be laughter, one's wife
- 14:43being with one's wife to in order to prevent us from
- 14:45constantly, hanging around our lives era, but own amaravati,
- 14:50Rob Ritchie do, we should only be we should be with our wives.
- 14:54Ideally, when it's the proper time, according to a specified
- 14:59by the Torah, Okay, so what are these times?
- 15:03So at I really should learn a certain material have inquiry in
- 15:07Mass. So these are people who are very
- 15:10well off to do in business. They don't have to work very
- 15:13hard, they don't have to pay taxes, they don't have any
- 15:15stress in life. Oh, no, turnbuckle young.
- 15:18So their time to be with your wife is every day.
- 15:21Now, again, these are not necessarily recommended times
- 15:24These are times that if a primarily it's referring to your
- 15:28wife but if the if If your wife wants you at these times.
- 15:33So these are the these are the appropriate times.
- 15:36A polling shows, the amalaki, the ear, a carrot, people who
- 15:40have to work outside the city, the La Nina, mikhailova time.
- 15:43But this is my home every night. So Paul McCartney Shibuya once a
- 15:47week because they're working hard, they don't have so much
- 15:50energy and his all don't want to obligate the man to ruin his
- 15:55health, or to work too hard with his wife since he's already
- 15:58working out in the field. The emo scene below.
- 16:00Of Iran, but if you work in your city, if I am, I am but Shibuya.
- 16:04So the appropriate time that a wife can expect you is twice a
- 16:08week. Aha, Maryam al-haj chavala.
- 16:10If you work in traveling you travel with the donkeys.
- 16:16So then it's one city, Himalayan people, who have delivery
- 16:20services, they work with, and they work with camels.
- 16:23It's Akash soshim. They travel longer farther, and
- 16:26so it's once a month as toponym, those who go on ships, and they
- 16:30Product that lets you shop for the same once in six months, the
- 16:34owner told me day economy and the time of fertile media coming
- 16:39is because they're learning and they get weak from learning.
- 16:43So it's once a week, Malaysia bottle, Shabbat and they say
- 16:47let's all say that Friday night is the best time and it's also
- 16:53part of oneg Shabbat the Khalid Ansari.
- 16:56We've got it installed the layout Violetta and there's a
- 17:00pretty Straightforward obligation to be with one's
- 17:02wife, on lail to Villa, that's the night when she comes back
- 17:06after for, after Tara from coming back, from the Mikvah
- 17:11will be Shah, she would say Le Derek.
- 17:14And whenever they travel, when a man is going to leave her
- 17:16husband and her white, his wife. So then, when he leaves a woman,
- 17:21has certain feelings of anxiety sometimes or certain it's a
- 17:29little bit emotional. So, then When he travels, it's
- 17:32always the night before is the proper time and we'll see a
- 17:36caveat on that Dobby shush. It's a Ladera when a person goes
- 17:39out, is traveling in a hole, a Clif Bar Mitzvah.
- 17:42Unless it's for a department for environmental Affairs.
- 17:45Bar Mitzvah, you're not high enough to be with your wife, but
- 17:48if it's for yourself or for business, then you are, the
- 17:52honeymoon is Dominica. And also, for women is, is
- 17:58nursing again with a whether a woman is Nursing or pregnant
- 18:01makes no difference. All your obligations are the
- 18:08same. The whom Akira Bosch is really,
- 18:13they don't exactly go together, but let's keep reading the Houma
- 18:16kurbashi. He missed it, missed, Miss
- 18:19Adele, totally Murat, Votto that's not a fan of Kadesh.
- 18:23Eat invite aleeya, have the fucked up.
- 18:27Another time in one is obligated is when he sees his wife wants
- 18:30her, she's gonna put some perfume, takes a shower or make
- 18:34up whatever she does or she just behaves in any manner at the
- 18:37husband knows that she wants that she wants him.
- 18:40Him. So then it's a he of to make her
- 18:42happy with. Okay.
- 18:43With the mitzvot vona, the of cash who Matsui.
- 18:47It's La Playa have been aha. No toe.
- 18:50And also when he is when he is, this is okay.
- 18:54So the rock the show, runner continues that when he finds
- 19:00himself as purpose of being with her, is ideally not supposed to
- 19:06be for his own personal Hannah, Alec Adam shop area, Over Shi
- 19:11hoo hoo. Yeah, but he should feel helmet.
- 19:14I'm beside myself. I don't think so.
- 19:17But ahead of time. One should feel like he is
- 19:21fulfilling his obligation to take care of her with the
- 19:24mitzvot gonna look like. I am, it's about burrow and he's
- 19:27fulfilling the mitzvot, she you go bunny, mm or scheme butter
- 19:31and said that he should have children, who make I Meats with
- 19:33resale and to be kindly mrs. A strong and Erica Shelton says,
- 19:38the real we have this. Tybo is an order to make
- 19:41children the canyon Machiavelli have lat he wants to to to make
- 19:48it a good child. So before I should be shocked or
- 19:52the she meconium your fellow healthy for a man and woman to
- 19:57be together for the last six months of pregnancy.
- 20:04It helps it helps the child to become a healthier and look
- 20:07better. Jimmy takaaki, it's similar.
- 20:10On una's Horas Shepherd, Ami, it's good.
- 20:13The first three months, it's not good.
- 20:15And it's also not comfortable for the, for the women because
- 20:18also say the middle three months is not so good for the woman,
- 20:22but it is for the it is good. For the child view Machiavelli.
- 20:25Doris MOBA Today's show, loyalty availa Avira, Kira editor,
- 20:30Guevara meet a very relative are.
- 20:33Now if a person knows that he has a strong Kaiba and his, uh,
- 20:38sir is because Is increasing and he has a strong desire for his
- 20:42wife. So then Gambas.
- 20:47A yes, que buscar akiyu akiyu. Territory of hollowly taught at
- 20:53its early closure. So then it's also.
- 20:56Okay, to be with your wife. However, it's ideal to to push
- 21:01away into the concrete your desire to ever cut initiation,
- 21:05but Adam Murray. Vo, severe is a small little
- 21:10limb raver in in in our body, when you are evil, Sevilla must
- 21:16be 0, right? Dave.
- 21:17So if you starve it, it gets satisfied.
- 21:20If you use it less, it's less than eating nice to be over 8.
- 21:24But if you constantly feed it, then it gets more hungry.
- 21:27And the desire grows. Oh, Misha, a note, sorry for
- 21:30Devar. For person doesn't need it.
- 21:32I will show Merit about took a deal on my laptop, .o e, aw, eat
- 21:36Sahara. So this is bad if a person needs
- 21:40it, so then it's okay. But if a person really has no
- 21:44strong desire, but it just makes himself have the desire.
- 21:48He arouses himself. So this is the eighth of the
- 21:51Yates are hará una. Ha.
- 21:53Yes! Eternal!
- 21:54I'll let you sir and it can lead to bad things because they are
- 21:57more about China's economy. Versa.
- 21:58America shot small a DOT. You have been you do if a person
- 22:01has no need no desire and his wife doesn't desire but he makes
- 22:06himself have it has a desire so that's what's inappropriate.
- 22:10There's a few nights. That's because that's because
- 22:12I'll say, are better not to be went with one's wife.
- 22:15Again, one is allowed to mean a dim and there's a Mitzvah to be
- 22:19with her if it's little tequila a couple nights such as the
- 22:22first night of Paisa night of Shavuot.
- 22:25Russia Hashanah. And she mini-hats Earth.
- 22:29The only times it's really a sore at all is Yom Kippur and
- 22:32Tisha b'av and if either one of them, are they less?
- 22:38if one of them are mourners if a Okay, when a person is traveling
- 22:48on a road, he doesn't have to be with his wife.
- 22:51If she's Moco, if she doesn't want your as we vet Lily's, dad
- 22:57down, because they're V10 in a because after I finished a
- 23:00Amnesia, a person is not allowed to drink from one cup and have
- 23:05his eyes, and another cup, even if they're both of them are his
- 23:08wives. So, if a person has two, wives
- 23:10are Kosher can, if he doesn't have two wives, whenever a man
- 23:14is with his wife, he He must be completely focused and thinking
- 23:18about only his wife. He's not allowed to be thinking
- 23:21about anybody else. Kimmo who borrow team, became a
- 23:24more DMV Outpost him be that the curse mark who says he's going
- 23:29to select out people who are rebellious and has all up.
- 23:35Fix on to this /. Suk nine types of scenarios are
- 23:40beneath a shemitah lat. Delta 1 is assumed to be with
- 23:45his wife. At least look at.
- 23:47Gila been a, it depends on the category but in general, a story
- 23:52vinay, a Noosa, you're not allowed and clearly to Force
- 23:56One's wife. If she doesn't want, you're not
- 23:58allowed to. And if they're angry, you have
- 24:00to be, they have to make up and make sure that each one is
- 24:03comfortable and happy with each other and okay, Banacek Nua, you
- 24:08cannot, you cannot be. You cannot hit.
- 24:11Your wife would be They need Joy if one of them is a need white
- 24:16and I like to be together banana tempura.
- 24:19So this is let's say you are planning to be with.
- 24:23This is a case of having two wives.
- 24:25If a person was planning to be with one and the other one
- 24:27showed up he's he's not allowed the name or edit or should not
- 24:33be if she says I do not want to be with you then also you're not
- 24:39allowed to be with her Benicia hoot.
- 24:41If either one of them is Is drunk and that's if they're
- 24:45drunk, not just a little tipsy, the nation when a du chatelet.
- 24:50If a person himself decided that he wants to divorce his wife,
- 24:53but he still wants to use her as sort to be with her Binet.
- 24:57Your boo via, this is if you have, if one is thinking about
- 25:01another wife at this, another woman or a wife at the same time
- 25:04and not on this wife who is with Actually, just to take a quick
- 25:09step back these nine meters so there's actually is a debate if
- 25:16these are a sore or not may or may not be technical or
- 25:20semantic. Certainly all these nine things
- 25:23is against the Red Sun Hashem, according to his already, shown
- 25:27him and postgame that's not debatable.
- 25:31It's just it is a question if it's technically called a sewer
- 25:35or not. Okay.
- 25:37Now, just to get to the last case of b'nai zuffa.
- 25:43So this is referring to a woman who inappropriately or
- 25:48immodestly directly asks her husband to sleep with her.
- 25:55Did You Tasha meet with her? So that's considered immodest
- 26:00and inappropriate. Really a woman should hinter
- 26:04husband Now, she could hint through a physical aspects, or
- 26:10she can actually verbally hit in fact, that the Mara and the
- 26:14dharam cuff. I'm an olive, I'm going to be is
- 26:17on the bottom. It says a woman called I'm sure
- 26:21Easter to Votto have you learned by name Sheffield with erosion
- 26:25maschera be new, you come out on one deserves to have children,
- 26:30they're even greater than a generation of motion Rubino.
- 26:33That's a woman asks of the remarks planes.
- 26:35That's it. Woman, hence in a modest
- 26:38fashion. And then it's a good thing for
- 26:40the woman to invite her husband, she can say something like, come
- 26:44to my tent like Leia did so yaakov, or she can say, I'm
- 26:48going upstairs to take a shower. I'm getting ready for bed or any
- 26:53of those other words, a hint in expression, and that's actually
- 26:57a good thing. And if a woman does ask
- 27:00inappropriately, they are still allowed to meet together.