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The Spiritual Welfare of Our Children | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 132 · The Torah Sparks Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, Hevra Peleoites Day 132.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's Monday, the 19th of October.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are continuing the topic of immaturity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: For all these reasons, it will be fitting to provide supervision to youth.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about, let's say, parents aren't present, a father's not present to guide his child.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there needs to be appointed people to take care of the spiritual welfare of the children.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we said, there needs to be these appointed representatives in every city to watch over the communities.
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  SPEAKER_00: Youth, Techilo Alimot.
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  SPEAKER_00: First and foremost, they have to be vigilant regarding their progress each and every week in terms of learning, Torah study.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yanu Alemi Deh Shivu Bishavu, and they should scrutinize and be ma'in and analyze, look into the progress each week.
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  SPEAKER_00: To ascertain are they succeeding?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if not, what are we going to do about it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yuri Bishel Miharo, whose fault?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it because of the laxadaisical effort of the teachers, or is it because of the lack of interest shown by the student?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get to the bottom of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need people in charge to f to find this ouch, Anois and Leev Womod.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um maybe they're not seeing their minds to the study, they're not putting their hearts into the yasul is uh cura also.
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  SPEAKER_00: These people should be given the authority to then give rebuke to those who have to those who are in error.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that way they could write the ship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each one in the manner that's appropriate.
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  SPEAKER_00: To the teachers, these appointed supervisors of the children's spiritual welfare, they should tell the ch the teachers and converse with them to show them love and respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: It should be a criticism that's in the realm of a veil.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then you should say to them, Achino Atem, Hello Yi Datem, Kimalachduchem, give them musr, give them a pump-up speech, huddle them around a circle and tell them, Do you khap what you're doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: You have this tremendous holy work.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have the children here of Atim Shira Yom, you're paid for your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell them the story about Abu Khilkiya, Aba Khilkiya Shalh Heshulam, Kishnah Sulh Shalom, Hatao, Middi Khacham.
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  SPEAKER_00: He took his job so seriously when he would study that even when other scholars were to greet him with blessings of peace, he maybn he wouldn't he wouldn't hear them, he wouldn't respond back, maybn, because he was being hired for the day to teach, and he didn't want to take away even the slightest amount of attention from the job that he was paid to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Teach them the story about Rabbi Shmuel Barshila, Savush Loshistri, Shun of the Holy Roskin also.
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  SPEAKER_00: He went for 13 years straight of learning without attending to his personal gardens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because this was his preoccupation with the children.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just required a certain level of focus and attention to what's at stake, to what's at hand.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you, my friends, indeed, itchem, hemisitchem, you're correct.
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  SPEAKER_00: She is the chemiki rabah.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not an easy task to teach children.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember the reward is in relation to the exertion.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a tremendous khizak the Palaeoitz is giving for anybody who's in this realm of Khenak.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Khaina Rutvaram Tayima Yojitzman Alev and the Kness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's important for these supervisors, these attendants, to be able to portray positive ideas because when it comes from the real place, when it comes from the heart, it penetrates deeply into the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is a way for them to motivate the teachers to make sure they have uh more of an effort in putting into their students.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's say the issue comes from the students and it was the students at fault.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then these authoritative figures should rebuke the students, each one according to their um what they can take.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bidvaram abako, some with words, sometimes it's with punishment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Yachlu covetim, he should also show honor to those who are fluent, to those who are doing good, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like I saw a meme once about a catcher who goes to visit the mount, and the pitcher says, Why do you only come to visit me when you know I'm pitching wrong?
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  SPEAKER_00: Come to me and after I threw an amazing bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like sometimes the catcher only visits the pitcher when something's wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: But no, no, you can't just go to your students when something when something is wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um he also has to be giving them chizik when they do something right.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's important for us to work you know in our own selves as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like give yourself like you're good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um those students when they're when they're capable of X and they're being too laxadaisical and they're only hitting Y.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um again, that has to be nuanced.
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  SPEAKER_00: That has to be, you know, if so you could say the wrong thing to the student, and he could go even worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: It has to be done bachachma, obviously.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ensure that these students aren't just chilling in the streets and the thoroughfares.
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  SPEAKER_00: They shouldn't be engaged in idle games on Chavez and Youngtif, and they shouldn't be talking and shool during Davenin, Vish Yavolis, Balbaves Aknes, Shah Res Mincha Arvis, guide them, um, encourage them to come pray and shoal three times a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shah Resmincha Mahvish Balamitha Sefer and that they should learn and so they should Daven from the actual sitter of you say him knows, and that their mouth should actually be moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's incumbent upon these administrative um figures to ensure and supervise the children regarding all of their spiritual related activities, says the Paleoites like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: This might sound a little bit um intense, but the Paleoites is saying that when these people, these individuals in the city who are given the responsibility to be the administrators over the youth, you have to give them full reign.
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  SPEAKER_00: And therefore, you have to give them that ability.
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  SPEAKER_00: When they're in charge, their Muhammad is in charge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes they're gonna strike a hit a student.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're in charge, that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know, shallah yimcha bide, don't protest their actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um says, but no, if a person comes forward to complain that you one of these communal representatives hit his son, Yashtiku Hafilim Nirloh Sheko Shlokadin, they should silence him.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that way there needs to be continuity, there needs to be support, sub revision for the young children who are studying with their teachers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's the practice of a person, Shaitan Rushus to Kodam Yom Bifat Mole, that he should give um and he should discipline properly.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's somebody who's he thinks who he deems necessary to uh give rebuke, so then this had been straight.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what you pay him the big bucks for.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what his role is for.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is you gotta trust him, trust the process, trust the people in the positions that they're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Call me Shiaka Yases Yodai Kirena, Akirena Lua.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anybody, anyone who's in authority, who strikes or punishes my children when they're in need of correction, I will recognize it as an act of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not that they're trying to harm, but they're trying to improve and cultivate.
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  SPEAKER_00: You only do that out of love.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no greater love than this because they're doing it for the sake of the children's future, their legacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you find that if two children are fighting lo isasko of fathers don't get involved because they're just gonna like end up forgiving each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't come to fight their children's fight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fathers don't come to fight their children's like kyriva yodam inohisaparis.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it what are they fighting for?
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  SPEAKER_00: There's not really a lasting impact.
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  SPEAKER_00: The kids fight one moment and the next minute, their friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't endure.
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  SPEAKER_00: They fight and then they make peace right away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Aval riva, avo se seration, who pareva.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the fight of between two fathers, that actually leaves a mark on their lives, and um that wouldn't be a good thing for them to engage in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ubushalahimuchlim alam shiasu machis, and it would be uh shameful and disgraceful for a full-fledged feud to be created.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh Sonny Mushukats, it would be hated and disgusted.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll rev hayodim.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if if there's a fight between fathers that's created because they were fighting for the sake of their children, that wouldn't be a good thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, that um will be all for for today.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll continue with this topic of immaturity.
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  SPEAKER_00: All the best.