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Pandemic PTA Mom to Social Media Sensation: Pinky Patel · Inside The Moms Club

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Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a mom is the
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private destination for all things mom. Welcome, Moms, Welcome inside the Mom's
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Club. I'm Monica Samuel with your host, and I'm here with my co
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host Julie or no. Well, you know I have to be probably start.
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I have to share something because you know, I'm terribly paranoid. So
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here's here's what happened to a couple of days ago, and I'm really struggling
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with it. Okay, my family has a group tell me everything. I
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will. My family has a group text and my husband put a little sticker
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on one of the little boxes and ad a sticker. Yeah, he added
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a sticker. It was of him, this a little huh bit moji thing,
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you know, smiling or right. So I thought, okay, I
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want to do that because the kids liked it. So he showed me how
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to do it. So I thought, I'm gonna do it now. So
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I started to do it, and I did the right thing, but then
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my fat finger hit the flag of North Korea. Oh Monica, it appeared
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in the box. And then I'd been taught by my son, if you
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hit something again, a little ex will show up. Maybe you can exit
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up. Yeah, so I had it again, and I hit it again,
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and then the flag kept getting bigger and bigger, and it's blowing up
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and it's blowing up, and my son finally said, very interesting choice,
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mom, And so then I put a bunch of American flags up there because
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I thought, well, maybe you're trying to redeem yourself or I am.
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Yeah. I'm always telling my kids, look, be careful what you put
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in a text, be careful what you put on social media, because somebody
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is going to come back to haunt you, for sure. And I just
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feel like that someday when I'm trying to get admitted to the villages in Florida,
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they're gonna check me out and they're going to look and say, we
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can let that communist. Yeah, fear Like, how is that? Yeah,
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how is that going to be a thing? I mean, I don't
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know how you're going to redeem yourself from that. I mean, your kids
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are probably trying to wonder what you were trying to say to them, But
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I told him it was an as I mean to be fair. First of
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all, why did my fat finger at did the flag of North Korea?
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I don't even know why? It's you know, yeah, let's do it.
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I mean, we need a class. I personally feel we need a
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class on emojis, you know, being able to properly use Instagram. TikTok,
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I'm quite lost and I feel like a total amateur. But I know
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it's possible to be able to do this and you know, get the message
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across. But we know it was a mistake. You didn't mean it.
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You were trying to be you know, on the record. So I'll have
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a record here of everybody, Well this is that's what really happened. People
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want to know what happened. Well, we need someone who knows what they're
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doing to teach us. Like TikTok, we're a little lost. We try
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our best, our reels, our sizzle reels. You know, we do
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good jobs. A mom we need somehow moms who understand social media and really
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get it. That is why we are so lucky today that we have a
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real, true expert who's gonna tell us all about Well, she's an expert
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at many things, for sure, that's what I've seen. She is a
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native of or not it Well, she's hails currently from Chicago. That's right.
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She is not your average PTA mom. She was PTA Mom who had
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a viral video on TikTok, and now she is a queen of comedy,
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a creator extraordinary, and an Internet sensation with a fan base of over five
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million followers. Sorry, how many five millillion n followers? That is unbelievable.
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It's incredibly impressive. Yeah, she's going to be taking her comedy to
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the streets with her highly anticipated hashtag. I said what I said, tour
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please Mom's Club. Welcome Peaky Patel, Welcome to the Monks Club. Hello,
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way free in and did totally good. Welcome to your channel. This
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is yes, we subbing in for you to say that it's not my joveling.
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You have to think that, well right right right now, our channel.
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Welcome Pimpky to our Yeah, so tell us how the how you did
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that? Like, how is a PTA mom? So you were you were
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just a regular mom and the PTA. I kind of heard somewhere that you
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were kind of you were running the PTA, or you had a higher position
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in the group. I mean, you were a highly respected PTA member and
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probably probably not respective because but definitely running it because you know, when it's
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a volunteer job, everybody wants to put their opinion in, but no one
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wants to help out. And that's all right, because we didn't want the
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kids to have to suffer because lack of volunteerism. Me and one of my
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best friends have been doing it for so long. But it was double whammy.
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It wasn't only PTA, it was also a corporate career woman. It
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was all the things that I was taught that I needed to be and the
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parama hit and I was just, just like everybody else, fed up with
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the situation we were in. You know that thing where if someone tells me
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I can't do something, then I don't want to do it, even if
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I never wanted to leave my house anyways in the first place. But as
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soon as you say don't leave your house, everybody's like, but I need
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to go outside. It's like, exactly, Joel, You're fine. I
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think we never realized, yeah that we love staying home. And then everyone's
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like, I need to leave. No you don't, Yeah, yeah,
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you actually don't, you know. And so it was just the frustration of
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the situation. And I like to I like to describe it as I'm an
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equal opportunity Deully Shamer. And so if you were doing something that you probably
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shouldn't be posting online, like you should have thought twice before you said yes,
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post the lot of clicks before you post. Nobody accidentally posts anything.
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Oh I liked it that except ver Monica. My wait, I do I
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really did? Maybe not you wah. So I tuned the following and you
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see that they have like upwards to a higher following count, right, see
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that everything they post is on purpose, and so it's like, come on
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now, okay, So were you an expert pinky, Like, were you
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an expert? Like when you first did it and you posted something, were
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you like, this is no idea what I was doing? Oh I love
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that. Yeah I didn't. I wasn't on social but I started my Instagram
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account in twenty twenty and it was because of TikTok. So I never had
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an Instagram before that. I was on Facebook, but I only had Facebook
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because I was posting pictures of my roommates for my mom, who lives in
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Connecticut. It because I didn't want to snail mail pictures to her and have
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them get ruined. But I was always a mom behind the camera because I
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was never comfortable with how I looked. I was never comfortable with how I
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sounded because I've had way too many people, family friends, et cetera,
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tell me that I have a very deep voice for a girl, and I
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have I don't look like a truth like I'm not pretty enough for my skin's
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not light enough, or just just yeah, and you know bs that you
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here all the time. And then I hit forty, which is the same
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year that the panorama hit, and I was I realized, if if you're
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not doing a few things and benefiting me in my life, then bye,
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I'm not gonna care about you. So you cleaned house basically, you know,
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yeah, in a different kind of way. I went through my I
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went through my Facebook account as colvid like as we were all figuring out about
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COVID, like you know, they told us to stay home on March thirteenth
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and twenty twenty. And then because I was bored with work. Like working
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from home, you get your work done so much faster than when you're in
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the office because no one's harassing you, right, no one's talking you over
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the wall, no one's coming to have a chit chat with you because they're
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bored. They don't realize you have like a buttload of stuff to do and
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you don't have time to chit chat. Like, go get your coffee and
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sit down, Rachel, It's fine, okay, And I remember this well.
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Yeah, and I went through my Facebook and I just cut people out.
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Yeah, I was, I, you know, December, in twenty
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nineteen. December, I started posting more on Facebook and I would post random
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thoughts of the day because I always my friends always laughed at these random things.
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I would tell them and they're like, you should post these, these
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are funny. I was like, okay, fine, And then COVID hit
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clean house. I said, who doesn't like my videos or who didn't like
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my comments? Not even a simple double tap, which we all know is
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mindless, and do it all day every day while we're doing scrolling. Okay
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scrolling, I mean, and so I know that a double tap is the
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middleum you could do. But they didn't want to do it, so I
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was like un friend I know and s friend. So you cut all those
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people out of your life. I'm out of your Facebook. And now you've
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accepted five million people to follow you didn'ty of you heard those people? Yeah,
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that's your friends, I know. But your friends that they ever come
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back and said, well you're okay with five million people, but you cut
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me out? Did they or did they ever apologize and say, really,
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I really did think you were amazing. I can guarantee you the people that
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I cut out like these were people. And we all do this. We
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all do this. We could all deny it, but we all do.
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We're human beings. These are people that we went to high school with and
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we want to see where they are now because they were was in high school
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or whatever, and we want to see them not succeed now. So we
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want to see what need become. Now. This is ultimate payment. Like
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my people believe in karma and this is karma like and is I think?
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And that was on my personal Facebook page right the way private personal I had
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to accept you for you to see pictures of my kids. But then when
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I went public, like my Instagram is all public I've posted pictures of my
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kids once in a while, but not too much. And then I create
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a private like Facebook page or public Facebook page off like stem stemming off of
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my private So all these people come back and they ask for my private entrance.
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They're like, I want to be friends with you on your private page,
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and I'm like, oh my rest a guy lost and all. I
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don't know what's happening, but I mean, I think the coolest thing is
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pinky that. So a lot of most of our watchers are moms, and
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I think it takes a lot of courage to do what you're doing. And
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like, I would love to know how you looked like fear in the face
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and said I'm going to go do this. What finally kicked you over to
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edge to take a chance? I mean, that's a big deal. That's
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a that's a really good question. The thing that made me go even further
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just kind of think about this when we were talking, you guys are asking
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me where am I am? I whole? Am I in my glam cave
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whatever we want to call it? Right right? A lot of people they
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call it my mom cave. And it drives me crazy because and this is
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one of the main reasons why I never out of the gate used hashtag mom
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or this is why I insist on calling my family members my kids. Anybody
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who lives and breathes under this roof with me, my roommates, is because
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once people find out that you are a mother, you are no longer allowed
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to be anything else. You are no longer allowed to have your own identity,
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So you are no longer allowed to have your own interests and your own
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hobbies and your own like mental state, like you have to be so children
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centric. It's all about the kids. It's all about self sacrifice. It's
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all about things that we can do to make other people's lives easier and better.
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And when I got on social media, I was like, eh,
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yeahff no, this is me. I am doing this, I am making
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these videos, I'm roasting these people, I'm putting these I'm dummy, shaming
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these idiots and putting them in their place because they're parents aren't around to do
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it for them. And it's it's what I would one hundred percent say to
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my children, and I've said it to my my seventeen year old roommate number
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two. He as soon as I heard him start swearing playing video games in
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the basement. I was like, gay bame, Like, I can talk
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to you like how I would talk to one of my good friends, Like
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I can be honest with you, I can be blunt with you. And
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if you're like that's the type of person I am, like, I'm not
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what you think of when you think of a mother. I'm not the squishy,
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lovable Let's let's have our children climb all over. So I like the
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I've said to my children numerous times when they were younger. I'm like,
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mommy is out a jungle gym. I can play with you, but not
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right now. And I can relate to that. Yeah, but like family
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members would hear that or friends would either they're like, oh my god,
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but you're a mother. Else post let them climb all over. I'm like,
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no, my body is mine. It's like their body is theirs,
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right, Like we have all these rules for don't talk to don't talk to
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a little girls in a negative way because that will ruin their self esteem.
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Don't tell little girls what you can and can eat, don't tell little girls
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what they can and can't wear. Why are we doing it to ourselves?
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They're allowed, I mean great to respectfully do what you want to do.
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As long as you're out hurting yourself for other people, you can't lase your
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complete identity. And I think the pivot is strong, and so that's why
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I bring up courage to do it. I also feel like you say a
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lot of things when you're talking about dummy shaming, you say a lot of
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things that a lot of us are thinking, especially when it relates to our
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our roommates or our friend's roommate. Like I pretty much say what I'm thinking,
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but yes, these days it's hard to talk to them. It's like
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you're afraid to say the wrong thing. And I know with my kids.
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With one of my children, every once in a while, he'd threaten to
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call CPS because I said something that he found, you know, like I
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said, look, no word. He for sure try, but he needs
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to have proof of what is actual going on exactly well exactly, But I
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told him, you you go right and call and they'll be on my side.
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But these days I'm not even sure they would be on my side because
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maybe I use the wrong word or whatever. I mean, you have to
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be careful and but you call that out and you call out some of the
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things, which is what I appreciate. And your humor is you know,
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you're not afraid to say things now you will go ahead. I mean the
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thing is like they you know, we're we're all on social media. Yeah,
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it's no matter how old you are. Think of all the the TikTok
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grandmas that are out there, and the TikTok grandpas that we love that we
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go to to see constantly, or like the TikTok dogs you know, Tucker
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and whatever that we go to because we don't have a dog like that,
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Like these are people that we go to. So so so social media is
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for everybody. Now, It's not just for you know, the zoomers and
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the alphonauts and anybody who's younger than us and all that bs. It's it's
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for everybody and anybody. And so my thing is you don't want to be
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judged zoomers and alphaats, So then why are you judging us? Right?
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Right? Anniels and gen zers and boomers and granted there's there's there's pluses and
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minuses of every generation, right, Like I'm gonna say one generation is superior
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another, but you're saying you want us to make sure that we're we're being
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inclusive of everybody and accepting of everybody, whatever size they are, whatever disability
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they have, whatever. But then they're okay pooping on us because we told
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them they had to go clean their room. It's like, no, are
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you hid? Like you your room is king right now? Like it's infiltrating
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my nose that I'm in my own bedroom, Like, go clean that.
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See, I greciate this. You're at this point. Yeah, I know
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that you do, because I heard a conversation this morning you had with a
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certain roommate that ya listen, when we prep for a show, there's a
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lot of realness going on. I'm like sometimes I'm like Monica closeure years.
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I know this is not how you would do it or handle it, but
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I have a lot to say about her tardiness to school and dynegi oh my
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god, Julie, don't even give me sa tardiness to school? Pinky oh,
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have no idea out. I don't do it anymore. I I stopped.
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I was like, why am I getting up an hour early than I
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grabbed to to wake you up? Because you're being mister lazy pants and you
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can't get your ish together going in college next year. A mom's I gonna
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call you, Dad's I gotta call you? Yeah, that's I'm right here,
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Like, and that's not the word I used missus lazy pants this morning.
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That so anyway, But I think that you've been thrust into the limelight,
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Pinky, and I've seen a lot of your stuff, and I know
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that can be intimidating or you know, just stressful. Do you have a
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hard time trusting new people? Do you have a hard time like saying who
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wants to be your new friend? Who wants to be your real friend?
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Or that, like just the genuine you know. I mean it's really hard
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to have somebody that you can trust, which you can say what you want,
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you know what won't be repeated. I mean, where are you with
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that in your life right now? I mean this has only been a little
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less than four years, and so much in your world has changed. You're
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not working in a corporate place anymore. You're doing this and you're traveling,
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Like, who can you trust? I am? I don't know if it's
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a cultural thing or or what. Book right, I've always been very hard
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on trusting new people, just because I've gotten way too burned, way too
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quickly, way too fast by trusting you people, and so definitely learned my
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lesson. Yeah, it takes a long time for me to get Like what
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you see on social media is me pretending that we are in my backyard and
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we're having ladies' night and we're just it's all a bunch of people that I
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know. That's me pretending, because otherwise I would never be able to do
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that, right, Like, but if I met like I when I get
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recognized in the wild, sometimes it is yeah, sorry, I was funny.
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Sorry. Sometimes it scares me because like like they're so excited to see
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me, and and I'm one hundred percent sure it's because they just saw a
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video of me a wait in the airport security, so it's fresh in their
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mind. Like, if they saw the video of me last night, they're
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probably not gonna remember the next day at the airport because there's so much that
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happened between them and those two time periods. But if they just saw me
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and now I'm in front of them, they get really like enthusiastic. Yeah,
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and sometimes to the point where they get really close to my face and
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I'm just like, hey, I like the two feet ar I'm flying like
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it's not COVID distance, but it's pinky distance. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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I will talk to you. I will, you know, because I
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I know like if I if it wasn't for my followers, I wouldn't be
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able to have this life that I do now, right, Like I actually
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enjoy doing stand up comedy, like I love going to all these cities and
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making people laugh, like I mean, I mean, I've traveled so much
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in the past two years or yeah, two three years that I've been doing
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these two tours then in my whole entire life, and I moved here from
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India. Yeah, so it's like so much traveling, getting to see so
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many different people. It is very scary. However, I have I have
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a good support system at home and that my friends that I call them my
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bs, my before social media friends so bsm BSM yeah before social media,
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but there was before social media friends. And they, you know, they
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they ground me when I need it, and they when I'm home, they'll
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be like, hey, are you free, Like right now, after this,
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I'm heading to a PTA meeting and then going down like downtown and they
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know that. I mean, so you're still part of the PTA. I
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am. I am this is my last year. A couple more weeks left.
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Yeah, and I'm done because I don't. I tried middle school and
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dinner. I was like, what is this garbage? And then entering high
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school, I was like, what is this? Yeah, aliens have taken
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over bodies? Yeah, did you find you were making new friends within the
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PTA, Like oh I never gave Pinky the time of day, but now
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Pinky is have you found Oh no that yeah? No, my seasoned friends
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that I've made from PTA before all this started, right. They they come
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in like when we if we're out in town and we go to dinner,
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like let's say Ladies Night night or something, and one of them here is
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like or one of them sees other like restaurant goers start like doing the meerkat
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thing, you know, like popping up. You're like, oh no.
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They they immediately they will get into protective mode and they will about like forming
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a circle around like there's so good. I don't have to worry about anything.
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And even when I travel, my assistant is amazing, Like she's i'd
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say, the bad guy. She has high sleep pulled me away from meet
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and greets because people just want to talk. They want to like you know,
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and I definitely appreciate it, but there's only so much time I can
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give sir the line before the staff want to go home. You know.
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It's yeah, sureing to balance all that. So so for your family,
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like when we started doing Inside the Mom's Club, we thought, oh,
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our kids aren't watching, so we would talk about our dad every once in
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a while. And then one of their attorneys sent us a cease's assist letter
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and so we're like, well, A can't do that anymore. So what
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do you do? You ever say anything about your kids? I mean,
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if you keep that separate or just kind of you're in their roommate number two
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and three, and I guess you even have a dog that's one of the
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roommates, so you yeah, yeah, I'm not chosen before the dog is
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number four? Not show Yeah he No. I try to not bring anything
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regarding the kids into my social media unless it's the only time I really do
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it is my younger son loves this for us. He thinks it's an US
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journey and I'm like, Bobby did this on her own, so what thank
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you? But what he wants to be in videos, I make him like
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wear sunglasses and a mask. Yeah, and I know it's overkill, but
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you hear too many stories about creastures online and I don't want Yeah to have
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associated with him, my older son. If I do post pictures of them,
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I will put it on my stories Instagram stories because it goes away after
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twenty four hours. Yeah, and so you know, I feel a little
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bit dad, and I feel a little bit more comfortable doing that. If
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I do post them, it's really a quick like family picture something with stickers
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on their face on my Instagram, so you can't quite tell. Yeah,
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yeah, well I love the protection mode. I really do. Glad you
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know how to make the stickers because mine, mine wouldn't burn my children's lives
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and suddenly they wouldn't be yeah North Korey and whatever. No, But like
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I mean, when I post, and I didn't know that my remain number
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two, my seven, he's a senior in high school about to finish,
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and I didn't know that his friends also follow me. Oh yeah, yeah,
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I didn't know that until he had them come over last June or May
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or something at that of school year and they did a bonfire and I come
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out home after being out at Ladies' night. So definitely had a lot of
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green juice. You get right, and so you yeah, you like the
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Gordon as well, and so they got to know you really well. Yeah.
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So maybe I was like, what, like I light the hands,
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like making myself big as if I'm attacked by a bear or something like oh
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here I am, Yeah, and one a little like freaks out one of
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his friends like literally freaks out and he is hyperventilating it. I'm like,
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oh my god, do you need an like? And then I have to
22:47
go into mom mode right away. I was like, dude, you like
22:48
yield my bottles? Man? I was coasting. I was coasting so nice,
22:52
and then you piper ventilated? What is wrong with you? You made
22:56
my mom had on and I was having fun and like yeah, going a
23:02
different direction, he just hes just like he's like fangirly right now. It
23:07
was a great kiddy, Well boy, why is he fangirly? W I
23:11
have forty old woman fangirl over me that I can handle. Okay, I
23:15
can handle like I can't handle this. Well, wait till they go to
23:18
college if that's what he's gonna do, because then you got another whole thing
23:22
of how how that they want to be friends with you on Instagram. They
23:25
want to be like, yeah, it's it's got some followers of our sure
23:30
sure do, we sure do Yeah. And they all want to be in
23:33
the pictures and the videos and they want to be part of the whole thing.
23:37
Well. One of the things that I love though, in all of
23:38
your videos, you also to do some kind of empowering videos like yeah,
23:41
you'll have some fan little say you know, my mother I saw one the
23:45
other day. My mother hated this dress and thought I looked hideous, and
23:48
you like, let the mother have it. Yeah, but but but rostnity
23:53
that so for her? Yeah, to bring her up, so to help
23:56
her, so help So what do you do if you really is a hideous
24:00
dress? I mean, I have girls, so sometimes they pick out dresses
24:03
and I was like, oh, heck no, that's not happening, July,
24:06
No, no, d I mean it, Julie. Oh, it
24:08
makes them feel good, Julie, listen, listen, okay, listen,
24:12
don't make me dumby shamee you don't ye right now? Okay, Yeah,
24:17
And it makes them feel good and it's clean and there's no holes on it,
24:21
or it's that doesn't look like it's been eaten by bugs. You let
24:23
him wear because it will rock their confidence so hot? Do you know how
24:26
many Hawaiian shirts roommate number two has worn to school? And I'm like,
24:30
what what is wrong with you? Yeah, but you don't have your roommate
24:34
being like shorter or tighter, Yeah, like her shorts copperwise, you have
24:41
to make her care so right, you're so right where you go? See,
24:44
all right, all right, I'm glad of that. Glad you didn't
24:45
have to be dummy shamed here on your own show. Oh I wanted to
24:48
do that, So I get what you're saying. It's really forward as a
24:52
parent, as a mom, because I mean, I have all boys,
24:56
so right, it's different. However, they still have confidence issues like we
25:00
always we don't think of that when we think of we're always like, oh
25:03
my daughter has confidence issues. But no, boys also have to be taught
25:07
the same things as worlds need to be taught. It's not a gender thing.
25:11
They need to be talk confidence. They need to be taught to esteem.
25:14
How then we leaders right, they need to just we just need to
25:17
encourage them and motivate them. And as long as they're not hurting themselves or
25:21
hurting other people and you know as well as my eyeballs. Let's conquer went
25:26
right, right? I mean I think that's really really good advice for all
25:29
of us moms because sometimes we really need to hear it from other people,
25:33
like how do we build our kid up? How do we give them confidence?
25:36
And you know, that's what I was talking about, was like where
25:38
did you get the confidence? And so your message message is super strong.
25:42
But I mean before we go to zoomer moms, I want some of our
25:47
audience to get to know you a little bit. So I have a couple
25:49
questions for you. Let's go ready you ready? Kayso? Or goat cheese?
25:56
Wa? What was it? Kay? So? Now keep in mind
25:59
I'm from Texas keeso or goat cheese? Okay? So all the way awesome
26:03
podcasting or a Netflix series? Who's doing all the work? I don't know?
26:11
This is rapid fire, pinky come on, no, no, no,
26:12
no no, I because I have a podcast as well with my friend
26:15
and roll Out in Indian centric Elas and so and so do we So yeah,
26:22
that's ahead. But like I you know, I'm I do all the
26:25
editing, so be on a Netflix series and I just get to like show
26:30
up say my lines in peace out than that? Okay, However, I
26:33
like the talking aspect of podcasts. Okay, now listen, I think you
26:37
just put out your next adventure out online Netflix series, and then my last
26:42
one kindergarten teacher or college professor, go your garden teacher? WHOA all right?
26:48
You do know they need help with the bathroom, right? Yeah?
26:51
Okay? Just what would I be? What would I support? No,
26:56
no, no, no, it wasn't support. What would you rather be?
26:59
A kindergarten teacher or a college professor? College professor at all? See?
27:03
I thought you might take that back? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
27:06
your appreciation. So I thought you were like, oh yeah, kuntergarten
27:10
teacher, you're in pta. No, we're in Pinky mode. Like what
27:14
do you want to be? Would you rather be there you go pay?
27:18
Yeah? Or high school health teacher? Can you imagine? Oh now,
27:19
oh wow, No, I would never take that job. I would get
27:22
fire. Oh totally. We have some moms here who want to ask you
27:26
some questions themselves, So let's welcome our zoomer moms. Welcomed in. Okay,
27:38
ladies, we're here with Pinky today, and I'm just gonna go around
27:42
and introduce each one of you and you can ask Pinky a question. I'll
27:45
start with Linda, Welcome to the Mom's Club. Do you have a question
27:49
for Pinky? Hi? What a great show and it's really great to learn
27:53
more about you. And I see you're on tour and I can't wait to
27:56
see you. But tell me more about what it's like to be out on
28:02
tour as a mom with roommates at home. What is it like to be
28:06
out on tour? Good question. There's a lot of prep work that happens
28:11
on the days that I'm home. So the first year I was probably home,
28:17
I would be gone six weekends in a row, and then I would
28:19
be home for maybe one or two weekends and then out again. But the
28:23
thing is I didn't stay continuously traveling. I would leave the day before a
28:27
show and then come back the day after a show. So I would always
28:32
come home. Sometimes I'm home for twenty four hours, sometimes I'm home for
28:36
three days. And so it was always kind of juggling of what's most important
28:41
right now? What does Dad need help with so that he doesn't have to
28:45
go and do something like groceries or laundry or little things like that, right,
28:49
because we can think like that, like as moms, as the ones
28:53
that have always had to take care of making sure the fridge and pantry is
28:56
full, making sure there's clean clothes, so that no one's screaming that they
29:00
don't have their favorite T shirt for Wackey Wednesdays on the end. So Dad
29:04
can't handle that, Like Dad is not He's not really good under like rapid
29:08
fire pressure like that. He's more of an Internet processor. I'm like a
29:11
Safari things like that. And so I had to make sure that I had
29:18
a lot of food prep, which I started posting when I'm doing food prep
29:22
so people can see what my daily life looks like. I don't know if
29:23
anybody's interested, but they told me to do it. Yeah, I started
29:26
doing it. But it's a lot of prep. It's a lot of making
29:30
sure the Google calendar is updated and color corded correctly based on the calendar of
29:34
the fridge. Oh boy, that no one is miscommunication miscommunicating with anybody else
29:41
a lot of organization. Do we do it well? Absolutely not, Because
29:45
there have been numerous times where I've forgotten to have a backup bag of chicken
29:48
Tendy's in the basement freezer. But it is what it is like There's only
29:52
so much I can do because I'm only human, right, and so yeah,
29:56
we do the best we can. I'm impressed with everything. Your address.
30:00
Yeah, that's like you're a mom. It's like, I got it.
30:03
I get it. Today I woke up and I had a multiple lot
30:07
of crises hint to handle from home. So yeah, yeah, uh,
30:11
Janine, tell us a little bit about yourself, and you have a question
30:15
for peaking. Hi, it's a pleasure to be here. I am Janine,
30:18
and I live in Austin, Texas, and I'm the mother of a
30:22
thirty three year old thirty three year old daughter, and I have a question
30:27
from maybe your mother's perspective when you were growing up. I'm interested in knowing
30:34
what life was like having someone with your personality in the home and duptail that
30:41
in with what it was like for your family and for you as a student
30:47
as a young person. What was it like being the one with the humor
30:52
in the classroom? How was that? It's funny that you asked that,
30:56
because when I do these like interviews and podcasts, that's one of the questions
31:03
is have you always been like this and I've only been like this, like
31:07
how I am on social media and how I am in my comedy tour with
31:11
really close friends. So like you had to really like I had to get
31:14
to know you for a long time and make sure that you can handle my
31:18
dark humor. And I would throw things out once in a while just to
31:21
see how it was received. And so growing up being South Indian, South
31:26
Asian, it was it was very difficult because I could only let it out
31:30
with my close friends. I couldn't really let it out with my mom or
31:34
even people in the community unless they were my close friends, unless the two,
31:38
like you know, crossed over. And just because of the fact that
31:41
I'm sarcastic, I like to swear, I like to talk about dark humor,
31:47
like you know, I'm all about like vampires and were wolves, you
31:49
know, things like that, like things that you don't think a good Indian
31:53
girl should be into. And it's like that's just you put me in front
31:57
of the TV and that's what I can still that's what happens, you know,
32:00
we are like you can't let me watch Bluffy the Vampire Slayer, not
32:04
I think that's not gonna affect me somehow, you know, right, right,
32:07
So this this has been like you know, a lot of men when
32:12
they go through midlife crisis, they like because they like, you know,
32:15
their whole style changes and they think they're becoming like twenty year old men or
32:20
something and they're slicking their hair back. Yeah, down right, yeah,
32:22
yeah, Like this is my second coming, if you will, Like,
32:25
I'm now able to be myself with everybody, regardless of who you are.
32:30
Like I had to tamper it down for my Indian community. I had to
32:35
tamplate down for you know, school, I had to tamper it down for
32:38
college. I had to tamper it down for my husband's family that I moved
32:43
in with, you know, like the other aspect of being Indian. I
32:46
had to tamper it down for corporate because you can't have a sense of humor
32:50
if you're in corporate, otherwise you're not taking it seriously. It's like no,
32:53
actually, we're probably people trust us more because we're more approachable than the
32:58
manager, you know. Sure, So this is me being able to just
33:02
be myself now. And is it sad that I had to hit forty to
33:07
be able to be myself? Yeah? But better late than ever, because
33:09
I don't think I'm dying at eighty, so I still got a long way
33:13
to go. But that leads to me. I know, we're in the
33:15
middle of asking zoomer mom questions, but people are gonna want to know,
33:19
like where do your parents stand today? What did they think? You know
33:22
what I mean, because like culturally, like you're not a lawyer, you're
33:27
not a doctor, you're not an engineer, So like, where do we
33:29
think? What are they saying? Now, I've even seen you impersonate them,
33:32
Yeah, on your they well, my dad is no longer with us,
33:38
but my mom. You know, that was one of the things that
33:40
I was worried about when I started this, because I didn't want my videos
33:45
to get on her radar because a she wouldn't understand it. English is a
33:49
second language. And but the thing is, all the Indian aunties in town
33:52
would tell her of all my videos and be like, oh my god,
33:55
Binko's video, It's so funny, you have to see it. And she
33:59
didn't have so from media, so she would then when she came to visit
34:01
me, which she comes to visit once a year, and I go there
34:04
to visit once a year, She's like asking me to download Facebook and Instagram
34:08
and tech. I was like, no, I know me. I you
34:12
know, you were the last person that should be on social media right now.
34:15
Okay, So but she's like, but I really want to see your
34:17
video. So I logged her into TikTok. I'm the only person that she
34:22
followed. Like, I like her being on TikTok is as if my eleven
34:27
year old room and number three would have been on TikTok like parental controls and
34:30
everything now. But like that was a big mistake because then she thought that
34:37
she had a vested interest in this. And so she tells me all that
34:39
She's like, pink that crown was not good to put in your head that
34:44
wall, and You're like, this is exactly why I didn't want you to
34:47
get on and follow me, right yeah. And then when she saw like
34:52
you know, she wanted to see my show obviously, yeah, the comedy
34:54
the first tour, and I was like, mom, I talk about sex,
34:58
I talk about that, Okay, Like I'm so done with having subjects
35:01
that are taboo, Like why are they taboo? Because they make you more
35:05
comfortable. We'll get over it. Unclench your booty bawl and let's move on.
35:07
I was like, it's not a big deal. We have to talk
35:10
about it because if we don't talk about these subjects, then we're never gonna
35:15
feel comfortable. But you know, figuring out could it be better? Can
35:17
it not? Like? And we all want to have a good experience in
35:21
life, whatever it is, right, And so she was like, bing,
35:24
it's okay, it does not matter if I don't understand. If everybody
35:28
else did that ping, then I would laugh. That's a great fake laugh
35:32
lom thing. All right, So she's seen your show, is what you're
35:35
saying. Do you have seen both of the excellent? Excellent? Well,
35:39
Lisa, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little bit about yourself,
35:43
and you have a question for Pinky. Hi. Yes, my name
35:46
is Lisa and I live in Dallas, Texas. Pinky, I think you're
35:50
hilarious, super super funny. So I'm really curious about historically, how did
35:58
you get started? Did you did you know you were funny? You talked
36:00
about kind of holding back a little bit, and how did you parlay this?
36:06
Is it the fact that one of your videos went viral? And where
36:09
are you going? I would like to see you want to sit Have I
36:16
okay, you asked three questions. I'm sorry, but the first one,
36:22
have I what was? I'm sorry, You're gonna have to say the first
36:24
part again? Which one was the first question? Son? How did you
36:29
parlay into where you are now? How did you? How did you get
36:32
started? I heard you talk about your first video that went viral? Where
36:36
how did that happen? Where did it go? Well? I just it
36:40
was it was kind of like I said, it was me just letting out
36:44
my frustrations with the cameboy turned on and then I had stitched this one guy
36:47
who was like, why do women run to the restroom after doing and and
36:52
I was I was mad. I was mad and he was in the right
36:57
place at the right wrong tide, like we're so mad about that question?
37:01
I was like are you? And I had to, like I just hamper
37:05
my anger down. I was like, are you f in kidding me that
37:07
you're asking them? And I knew why he was doing it. He was
37:09
doing it for the view. So I was like, I'll neve you the
37:12
views. And I said, what our truth is? Right, like what
37:14
we have to go through and it's it's not like it's not like other things
37:19
that you see online. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, we're not
37:22
the cop. Let's just it's not like you get what I'm saying, Lisa
37:28
late, Lisa got it. Yes, So it's and it's not. And
37:31
the thing is, but that's where all these boys learned everything, right,
37:36
they learned from each other, and they learned from from that. And then
37:39
it's like, no, this is you're doing with a real life human being
37:42
here, not an actress, not somebody who was paid to do this,
37:45
like and so I just I let him have it. I dummy, shamed
37:49
the f out of him. And then that way crazy because so many women
37:52
were like, yes, girl, yes, yet like they were so excited
37:55
because like Monica's I was, I speak, yeah the truth everybody's thinking,
38:00
but they just they're too scared to say it. And I'm like, what
38:02
have I got to lose? I'm doing it just social media. I have
38:05
never seen these people. I didn't know who was following me, who wasn't
38:08
because I, in hindsight, which is twenty twenty, I'm swarted enough not
38:14
to start social media with my legal name, I use it. I started
38:17
with my nickname that everybody has called me my whole entire life, and so
38:22
I was kind of flying under the radar. You know, I could say
38:24
the things I wanted to. I never talked about work, so they can't
38:28
yell at me. I never wore work merch, so they can't fire me.
38:30
Right. I was dotting my eyes, crossing my teeth, and I
38:34
was just let like I was just letting those yeah yeah. In my cave,
38:38
were no no audiences. And then somebody reached out and they were like,
38:44
oh, I think this translates well to stand up comedy. And I
38:46
was like, what hold on again, frog people? No, No,
38:51
I get nervous diarrhea. I can't do that, okay, And then no,
38:54
I think you'd be good. So I was like, okay, like
38:57
how many minutes are we talking? Five ten minutes? Like I can ramble
39:00
for five to ten minutes. So if you laugh, you laugh, if
39:01
you don't, whatever, I have nothing to lose. I didn't see her
39:04
face. And then she's like, no, no, I think you've been
39:07
headlining tour. You can tour. You could do a tour. And I
39:08
was like, what's gonna buy? Says that's crazy cow, and so well
39:15
they kind of now, oh, there you go. I'm incentive to be
39:17
myself and so I don't have to. I might be quiet if I can't
39:22
be myself, but I'm not going to be somebody else anyway. And love
39:24
that and look at look at you now, Leslie welcome. Tell us a
39:30
little bit about yourself and do you have a quick question for Peaky Oh yeah,
39:34
Leslie Harrell. I'm in Austin, Texas, and I have two kids
39:37
and have a senior at University of Texas graduating and a freshman in college.
39:42
I think Mike Kristen would be primarily like in a comedic world. I saw
39:49
something from Jerry Seinfeld the other day about just how he's like, it's hard
39:52
to be funny anymore because there's so many boundaries to what you can say.
39:58
And you claim that you you know, you're you can just kind of say
40:00
what you want, do what you want, but you know, do you
40:05
feel that pressure of kind of like there's so much stuff that's still kind of
40:07
on you know, that's so sort of stuff you can't say, or do
40:12
you really feel like truly, you know, truly, truly that you really
40:15
have full license to say kind of whatever you feel and how much backlass do
40:21
you get if any I mean, I feel like for me, I'm always
40:25
talking about my own experiences and my own world, like I'm not latching onto
40:31
other people's experiences, and so I feel like, as long as you're talking
40:37
about your own stuff, it's okay. You could say what you want to.
40:40
You can have your own opinions and your own outlook on your own life.
40:45
The the reason he says that is because old school stand up comedians are
40:49
used to like saying our word, you know, they're used to like all
40:52
of these things where or making fun of gay people like they're used to doing
40:57
these things. They're used to roast he we're yeah stage and calling a stand
41:01
up comedy. I was like, there's being a stained and saying mean things,
41:05
and it's like, you don't, bro, you don't have to always
41:07
be mean like. You can be funny in an ironic way, but you
41:09
don't always have to be mean like. And a lot of the times those
41:14
are that's low hanging cru right, Like see seeing somebody who has a funny
41:19
like who has a facial disability or or whatever because of an accident stitching up
41:22
and be like yo, oh my god, it's throwing up like that's cheap
41:27
humor, that's that's low hanging frugh, Like nobody should be laughing at that,
41:30
and you should be dumby shamed for that, like you were making somebody
41:32
else feel bad like you can. I mean, if that's if it's the
41:37
case where things are off limit, then I wouldn't be almost going into my
41:40
third tour right like I wouldn't be writing a third hour of comedy like twenty
41:45
like fifteen minutes is me and my hysterecte to me if you didn't tell me
41:49
I can't talk about my own defective like uterists, Like you got another thing
41:52
comment? Okay, Like i'f I hear it. You know, I will
41:55
say what I want about yeah, yeah, Like as long as you stick
42:00
to things that you have experience and and like don't talk about things you have
42:05
no experience in, which is another thing that hates me, Like I hate
42:07
that about social media, these people who are putting input in and giving their
42:13
opinion on things and they have no experience. It's like, ma'am, are
42:15
you are you a mother? Yeah? Do you have children? No?
42:19
Then you don't have You don't get to have an opinion on how I raised
42:22
my child, because I can guarantee you as soon as you have children,
42:25
your tune is gonna change and you're gonna see what it's really like. Right,
42:29
same thing, like I can I can mean an ally to the LGBT
42:32
plus community, but I can't pick up their fight for them because I don't
42:36
know what it's like to be discriminated like them, just like they don't know
42:38
what it's like to be discriminated for being South Asian. Like I grew up
42:43
in the eighties here in America when we had to stay quiet and be in
42:47
the background, and we're young being in the background. So yeah, I
42:52
really was for Lisa, I forgot your I'd love to be in a serious
42:58
I just can't memorize lines, so they would have to be okay with me
43:00
ad living thing. As long as they're okay with that, I'll go anywhere
43:05
I would love to do be in movies being serious. Yeah like that.
43:08
She asked that question, like what do you want to do next? We
43:10
want to know. I want to do it all, You want to do
43:14
it all? Sky's the limit? Yeah, right now we're focusing on just
43:19
the tour obviously. You know you usually need to like have three good hours
43:22
under your belt to make one good like hour to sell play streaming service or
43:29
something right. And so right now that's been the focus. And I'm not
43:32
one of those people that believes in like hustle culture where you have to constantly
43:36
go, go, go, because it's like do you remember what you did?
43:38
Yeah? Yeah, remember going and you're ever being tired and you remember
43:42
eating like crap, But did you actually enjoy the journey? Yeah? No,
43:45
I mean that's like an overscheduling mom, like you have to do it
43:47
all like that is exhausting in itself. I mean and usually with the mom,
43:52
you're taking pictures the whole time, you're not even experiencing it. So
43:54
yeah, I mean I feel like I feel like there's a couple things about
44:00
you that I think that I can relate to late like propelling you forward.
44:05
I mean, do you feel like you have really good RBF? And do
44:07
you you know? And that is sad hell PS person will approach me at
44:13
all, which is the ultimate RBF. Tok, right, walk all and
44:16
see if any MALKF person approaches you, like I can, I can go
44:20
by the chea hair straighter with my hair down, say, they still won't
44:22
come up to me. They're like, no, no, you're fun.
44:24
We're good, We're good right right, Well, Pinky, this has been
44:28
so much fun. I can't even tell you we can I we could go
44:30
on all day I have. Yeah, the Sun's looking out for your tour.
44:36
Where can they find you on social media? Which you know you need
44:37
another million followers? Yeah, so share a million? Sure with the moms
44:40
where they could follow I want them all. There's eight billion people on this
44:43
time exactly, So where can the rest the other three million? Finder?
44:46
You're more than halfway there, Let's get away. Yeah, no, Pinky
44:50
put tele official everywhere I kept we kept it easy. Okay, great,
44:54
great, great, Well, thank you so much, Weed. This has
44:57
been so much fun and having it was great. Yeah. I was talking
45:00
to ladies. Oh love of fun. Love that well. And mom's out
45:04
there and Pinky, you should hear this too. We love New Calm and
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