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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: How Would It Feel To Ask For Help? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey Hurdlers, Emily o badi Here Season seventeen, What's Good
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  Speaker 1: Loved kicking off a new season with Lindsay Horan earlier
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  Speaker 1: this week. If you haven't listened to that episode, I
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  Speaker 1: would encourage you to do so, because there may or
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  Speaker 1: may not be a shoe giveaway in the intro and
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  Speaker 1: you have until if you're listening to this in real
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  Speaker 1: time twelve pm Eastern on Friday, May tenth to enter,
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  Speaker 1: So go on and check out that episode and maybe
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  Speaker 1: you could win a fresh pair of kicks.
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  Speaker 2: But it's five Minute Friday.
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  Speaker 1: And let me tell you, y'all, don't message me about
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  Speaker 1: anything during the season break aside from the fact that
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  Speaker 1: you miss five Minute Friday, and I adore you for that.
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  Speaker 1: I love that you want me to check in, and
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  Speaker 1: it feels good for me to check in too. This
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  Speaker 1: week I want to talk about asking for what you need.
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  Speaker 1: I am entirely guilty of wanting to do everything myself.
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  Speaker 1: I think that is a characteristic that many both women
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  Speaker 1: and entrepreneurs can really relate to. And this week is
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  Speaker 1: kind of the beginning of a crazy time for me
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  Speaker 1: in that I announced and launched a campaign with Birkenstock
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  Speaker 1: on Thursday last night.
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  Speaker 2: It actually the video and the entirety of.
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  Speaker 1: The campaign comes out at the end of the month,
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  Speaker 1: but we had an event for that, and then next
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  Speaker 1: week I'm heading to la and I'm hosting this huge
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  Speaker 1: event for Strava that I'm so excited about. And then
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the month, I'm heading to Denver
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  Speaker 1: to do some more hosting alongside a big climbate athlete
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  Speaker 1: for the debut of her new documentary.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot going on right and in.
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  Speaker 1: The chaos, I have realized that I need to ask
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  Speaker 1: for help. And it's not necessarily with really large things.
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  Speaker 1: It's something simple like, hey, I could use another twenty
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  Speaker 1: four hours on this deadline, or hey, I could really
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  Speaker 1: use an accountability buddy in the morning. How would you
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  Speaker 1: feel if we went on a run together, knowing that
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  Speaker 1: I want to get in a run, and the two
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  Speaker 1: examples I gave just now there.
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  Speaker 2: It's really small stuff, right.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like, hey, I would love it if you
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  Speaker 1: could help me write this speech, or it would mean
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  Speaker 1: a lot to me if you would do Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I almost just set a book report for me. But
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  Speaker 1: you get the idea, and I realize that I'm so
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  Speaker 1: worried about being a burden on others. But the reality
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  Speaker 1: is is that you don't know until you try. And
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  Speaker 1: the people that really care about you, you are not
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  Speaker 1: a burden to them. They assume the best in you.
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  Speaker 1: They want to help you, and they wouldn't do so
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  Speaker 1: if they didn't want to. And so I am really
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  Speaker 1: working on this idea lately of asking for help, letting go,
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  Speaker 1: giving up control. Not all that long ago I finally
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  Speaker 1: hired an editor for the show and the bandwidth that
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  Speaker 1: that has given me the opportunity I have now to
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  Speaker 1: focus on the things that I know that I'm truly
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  Speaker 1: good at. Not that I wasn't good at editing. I
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  Speaker 1: did it for six plus years of this thing. But
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  Speaker 1: you get what I'm saying. If you relinquish control, if
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  Speaker 1: you ask for help, trust me when I say that
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  Speaker 1: good things will happen for you. It just really is
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  Speaker 1: getting over that initial hurdle. And again, like I just said,
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  Speaker 1: the people that love you, the people that care for you,
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  Speaker 1: they want to show up for you. So enable them
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  Speaker 1: to do that. Enable them to give you a lending
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  Speaker 1: hand when you really need it. My prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, what's something you need help right now with
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  Speaker 1: and who can you ask What is one thing that
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  Speaker 1: you need help with right now? And who can you
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  Speaker 1: ask for help? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hey m, I've been seeing on Instagram that you're in
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  Speaker 3: the gym more doing a lot of weightlifting, and I'm
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  Speaker 3: super inspired. So where would you recommend somebody start on
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  Speaker 3: the beginning of their strength training journey.
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  Speaker 1: Just like being a beginner at anything, strength training especially
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  Speaker 1: can feel really intimidating. There's a lot of options from
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  Speaker 1: dumbbells to kettlebells to bar bells. And I know I
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  Speaker 1: remember too what it felt like when I first really
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  Speaker 1: started lifting weights back when oh my gosh, I did
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  Speaker 1: CrossFit like eight or nine years ago. I love where
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  Speaker 1: I'm at right now in my strength journey. I have
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  Speaker 1: been lifting a lot more bar bells, getting back into
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  Speaker 1: doing Olympic lifting. And so for someone that is a beginner,
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  Speaker 1: I will say two things. One, it's okay to be
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  Speaker 1: a beginner, and actually it's an opportunity. You only get
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  Speaker 1: to be a beginner once. So harness that excite, do
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of a reframe and you will be
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  Speaker 1: able to garner the same excitement that you feel about
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  Speaker 1: other things that you're already doing.
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  Speaker 2: And the second thing is talk to a professional.
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  Speaker 1: I know that not everyone has the capacity to work
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  Speaker 1: one on one with a trainer, but it could be
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  Speaker 1: in your best interest just one time to work with
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  Speaker 1: someone to get down the basics. I want to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that you are living a safe and healthy life.
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  Speaker 1: I want you, if you want to lift weights, to
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  Speaker 1: be able to consistently do it, to get into a
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  Speaker 1: routine and stick with it. So when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: getting down the basement, nailing those movement patterns, making sure
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  Speaker 1: that you're doing things in a safe way, it can
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  Speaker 1: be so so helpful and worthy of the investment to
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  Speaker 1: book one session with a trainer at a gym. Again,
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  Speaker 1: I understand that this is in everybody's cup of tea
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  Speaker 1: or not within your wheelhouse. So with that said, if
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  Speaker 1: you are going to get into this on your own,
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  Speaker 1: start with body weight movements. I'm talking squats, I'm talking
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  Speaker 1: even something like an overhead press. Make sure that you're
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  Speaker 1: getting the movement patterns down before you add loads, so
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  Speaker 1: that you're taking care of your body. You only get
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  Speaker 1: one body. I want to make sure that you're treating
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  Speaker 1: it right. And I said two things. But I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to add one more thing. There are a number of
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  Speaker 1: different plans that you can add in or work with
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to strength training. I myself use the
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  Speaker 1: Future App. I've talked about it so many times here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to link it in the show notes and
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  Speaker 1: you can get fifty percent off your first month. I
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  Speaker 1: love it because I get customized programming that does progress,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm not just doing a bunch of random overhead
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  Speaker 1: presses and biceps curls and tricep dips and whatnot. I
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  Speaker 1: have a program that I'm following that's getting me to
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  Speaker 1: where I want to be and in accordance with my goals.
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  Speaker 1: But if the Future app isn't your thing, there are
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  Speaker 1: so many different plans that you can lean into, whether
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  Speaker 1: they come from Woman's Health Mag, Self Mag, if you're
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  Speaker 1: looking at Peloton, I would encourage you to find something
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  Speaker 1: that makes you excited, channel that excitement into building a
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  Speaker 1: better and stronger you, and trust me again, strength training.
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  Speaker 1: It's something that's really really resonating with me right now.
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  Speaker 1: I love lifting heavy, I love feeling strong in my body,
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  Speaker 1: and I really do want that for everyone. That's it
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  Speaker 1: for this week. Again, don't forget that shoe giveaway. I'm
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  Speaker 1: over at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcasts. Another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.