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Quieting the Inner Critic and Leading from Self-Trust with Tal Fagin · #WisdomOfWomen Show

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  Welcome
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  to
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  the
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  Wisdom
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  of
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  Women
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  show.
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  We
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  are
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  dedicated
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  to
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  amplifying
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  the
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  voice
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  of
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  women
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  in
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  business.
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  A
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  new
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  model
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  of
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  leadership
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  is
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  emerging
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  and
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  we
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  are
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  here
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  to
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  amplify
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  the
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  voices
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  of
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  women
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  leading
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  the
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  way.
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  I
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  am
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  your
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  host,
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  Coco
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  Selman,
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  five
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  time
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  founder,
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  impact
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  investor
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  and
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  creator
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  of
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  the
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  Force
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  for
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  Good
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  system.
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  Thank
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  you
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  for
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  joining
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  us
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  today
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  as
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  we
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  illuminate
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  the
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  path
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  to
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  unlocking
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  opportunities
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  and
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  prosperity
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  for
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  women
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  led
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  enterprises
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  by
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  amplifying
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  the
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  voice
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  and
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  wisdom
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  of
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  women.
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  So
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  today
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  we
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  have
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  the
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  inner
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  critic
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  tamer
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  in
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  our
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  midst.
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  Tal
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  Fagan,
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  a
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  dear
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  friend
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  for
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  many
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  years,
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  is
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  a
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  former
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  attorney
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  turned
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  certified
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  life
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  coach
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  and
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  the
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  author
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  of
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  get
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  this
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  folks,
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  Sometimes
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  I
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  think
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  I
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  Suck.
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  Life
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  Changing
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  Strategies
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  for
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  Self
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  Critical
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  People.
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  After
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  years
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  as
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  a
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  high
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  achieving,
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  hard
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  driving
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  lawyer,
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  battling
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  perfectionism
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  and
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  relentless
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  self
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  criticism,
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  she
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  transformed
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  her
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  own
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  inner
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  dialogue
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  and
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  redirected
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  her
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  career
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  toward
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  helping
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  other
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  accomplished
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  professionals
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  do
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  the
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  same.
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  Today
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  she
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  works
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  with
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  mentally
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  healthy,
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  high
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  functioning
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  leaders
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  who
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  want
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  more
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  clarity,
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  confidence
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  and
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  fulfillment.
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  Using
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  practical
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  science
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  informed
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  tools
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  grounded
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  in
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  neuroplasticity
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  and
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  deliberate
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  living.
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  Through
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  private
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  coaching,
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  corporate
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  coaching
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  workshops
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  and
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  her
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  book
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  Tahl
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  equips
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  ambitious
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  women
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  to
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  quiet
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  self
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  doubt,
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  reconnect
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  with
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  their
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  inner
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  knowing.
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  Tal
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  equips
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  ambitious
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  women
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  to
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  lead
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  the
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  lives
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  and
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  businesses
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  from
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  grounded
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  self
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  trust
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  rather
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  than
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  perfectionism.
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  Welcome
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  Tal.
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  Thank
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  you
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  so
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  much,
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  Coco.
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  It's
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  so
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  good
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  to
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  be
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  here
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  with
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  you
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  and
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  so
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  excited
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  for
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  this
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  conversation.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Yes.
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  I'm
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  so
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  excited
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  to
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  be
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  here
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  with
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  you
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  and
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  for
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  our
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  listeners.
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  I've
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  known
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  Tal
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  for,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  at
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  least
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  15
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  years.
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  Right.
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  We're
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  getting
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  there.
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  Yeah.
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  We
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  start
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  kids
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  side
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  by
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  side
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  up
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  in
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  Litchfield,
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  Connecticut
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  and
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  it's
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  just
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  a
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  pleasure
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  to
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  get
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  to
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  be
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  next
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  to
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  you
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  and
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  have
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  gone
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  through
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  this
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  journey
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  of
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  life
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  and
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  motherhood
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  and
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  business
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  alongside
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  each
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  other.
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  Right.
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  You
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  were
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  a
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  treasure
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  to
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  find
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  in
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  this
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  transition
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  from
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  city
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  lawyer
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  to
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  country
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  life
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  coach
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  and
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  I'm
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  grateful
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  for
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  you
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  and
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  so
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  much
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  that
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  came
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  with
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  that
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  move.
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  So
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  it's
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  so
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  nice
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  to
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  see
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  you.
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  It's
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  so
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  nice
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  to
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  see
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  you.
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  So
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  Tal,
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  tell
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  us
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  about
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  a
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  book
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  written
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  by
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  a
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  woman
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  that
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  has
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  significantly
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  influenced
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  your
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  life.
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  Okay,
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  first
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  of
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  all,
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  I
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  love
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  that
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  you
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  ask
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  everyone
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  this
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  question
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  because
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  I
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  love
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  books
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  and
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  I
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  love
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  talking
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  about
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  books.
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  There's
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  a
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  long
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  list
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  of
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  books
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  that
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  have
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  influenced
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  me
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  in
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  the
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  back
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  of
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  my
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  book,
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  but
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  I
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  had
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  to
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  just
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  pick
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  one
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  for
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  you
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  today.
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  So
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  I'm
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  gonna
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  go
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  with
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  Loving
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  what
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  Is
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  by
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  Byron
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  Katie.
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  And
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  we
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  could
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  talk
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  about
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  the
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  book
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  or
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  we
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  could
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  just
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  recommend
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  it
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  to
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  everyone,
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  but
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  it
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  was
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  a
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  total
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  game
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  changer.
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  For
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  me
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  because
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  it
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  was
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  probably
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  one
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  of
• 3:29
  the
• 3:29
  first
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  self
• 3:30
  help
• 3:30
  books,
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  I
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  guess,
• 3:31
  if
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  you
• 3:31
  want
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  to
• 3:32
  put
• 3:32
  it
• 3:32
  in
• 3:32
  that
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  category
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  that
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  I
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  ever
• 3:34
  read.
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  And
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  at
• 3:36
  the
• 3:36
  time
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  I
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  was
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  still
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  very
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  much
• 3:37
  in
• 3:37
  my
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  legal,
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  analytical,
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  very
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  cognitive
• 3:43
  mindset,
• 3:43
  my
• 3:44
  approach
• 3:44
  to
• 3:45
  spreadsheets
• 3:45
  and
• 3:46
  weighing
• 3:46
  pros
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  cons
• 3:47
  and
• 3:47
  things
• 3:47
  like
• 3:48
  that.
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  And
• 3:48
  it
• 3:48
  was
• 3:49
  before
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  got
• 3:50
  into
• 3:50
  coaching
• 3:51
  and
• 3:51
  learned
• 3:52
  so
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  much
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  about
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  using
• 3:55
  other
• 3:55
  skills
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  and
• 3:56
  really
• 3:57
  checking
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  in
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  with
• 3:58
  the
• 3:59
  body.
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  But
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  this
• 4:00
  book,
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  even
• 4:01
  before
• 4:01
  I
• 4:02
  got
• 4:02
  to
• 4:02
  that,
• 4:03
  just
• 4:03
  taught
• 4:04
  me
• 4:04
  about
• 4:04
  pausing
• 4:05
  and
• 4:06
  looking
• 4:06
  at
• 4:07
  my
• 4:08
  situation
• 4:08
  or
• 4:08
  helping
• 4:09
  others
• 4:09
  look
• 4:09
  at
• 4:09
  their
• 4:10
  situation
• 4:11
  and
• 4:12
  realizing
• 4:13
  how
• 4:13
  much
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  of
• 4:14
  what
• 4:14
  we
• 4:15
  think
• 4:15
  is
• 4:16
  bothering
• 4:16
  us
• 4:16
  in
• 4:17
  life
• 4:17
  is
• 4:17
  really,
• 4:17
  really
• 4:18
  coming
• 4:18
  from
• 4:18
  within.
• 4:19
  It's
• 4:19
  not
• 4:20
  necessarily
• 4:20
  those
• 4:21
  external
• 4:21
  circumstances.
• 4:23
  And
• 4:23
  so
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  was
• 4:24
  a
• 4:24
  total
• 4:24
  game
• 4:25
  changer
• 4:25
  for
• 4:25
  me.
• 4:27
  I
• 4:27
  love
• 4:28
  her
• 4:28
  book
• 4:28
  too.
• 4:29
  And
• 4:29
  it
• 4:29
  reminds
• 4:30
  me
• 4:31
  it's
• 4:31
  a
• 4:32
  simple
• 4:32
  technology
• 4:33
  that
• 4:33
  she
• 4:33
  writes
• 4:34
  about.
• 4:34
  She
• 4:34
  has
• 4:34
  such
• 4:35
  a
• 4:35
  wonderful
• 4:36
  technology
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  help
• 4:37
  us
• 4:38
  change
• 4:38
  how
• 4:39
  we're
• 4:39
  thinking,
• 4:39
  which
• 4:40
  changes
• 4:40
  how
• 4:41
  we
• 4:41
  see
• 4:41
  things
• 4:41
  and
• 4:42
  changes
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  world.
• 4:43
  And
• 4:44
  it's
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  transformation
• 4:45
  word
• 4:45
  that
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  talk
• 4:46
  about
• 4:46
  in
• 4:47
  your
• 4:47
  book.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:49
  like
• 4:49
  your
• 4:49
  book,
• 4:50
  your
• 4:50
  book
• 4:50
  is
• 4:51
  filled
• 4:51
  with
• 4:51
  tools.
• 4:53
  And
• 4:53
  I
• 4:53
  do
• 4:53
  think
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  for
• 4:55
  many
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  us,
• 4:56
  especially
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  us
• 4:57
  that
• 4:57
  are
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  analytical,
• 4:59
  more
• 4:59
  linear
• 5:00
  types,
• 5:01
  we
• 5:01
  like
• 5:01
  a
• 5:01
  tool.
• 5:02
  A
• 5:02
  tool
• 5:02
  is
• 5:02
  helpful,
• 5:04
  right?
• 5:05
  I
• 5:06
  feel
• 5:06
  like
• 5:06
  she
• 5:06
  said
• 5:08
  the
• 5:08
  definition
• 5:09
  of
• 5:09
  hell
• 5:10
  is
• 5:10
  believing
• 5:10
  your
• 5:10
  thoughts
• 5:11
  are
• 5:11
  true.
• 5:12
  The
• 5:12
  one
• 5:13
  I
• 5:13
  always
• 5:13
  turn
• 5:13
  to
• 5:14
  is
• 5:14
  when
• 5:15
  you
• 5:15
  argue
• 5:15
  with
• 5:16
  reality,
• 5:16
  you
• 5:17
  lose,
• 5:18
  but
• 5:18
  only
• 5:19
  100%
• 5:20
  of
• 5:20
  the
• 5:20
  time
• 5:20
  which
• 5:21
  such
• 5:22
  a
• 5:22
  go
• 5:22
  to
• 5:23
  line
• 5:24
  summarizing
• 5:25
  just
• 5:25
  how
• 5:25
  much
• 5:27
  we.
• 5:28
  And
• 5:28
  look,
• 5:28
  don't
• 5:29
  get
• 5:29
  me
• 5:29
  wrong,
• 5:29
  life
• 5:30
  happens.
• 5:31
  Things
• 5:31
  happen
• 5:31
  that
• 5:32
  are
• 5:32
  challenging.
• 5:33
  We've
• 5:34
  all
• 5:35
  been
• 5:35
  there
• 5:36
  sometimes
• 5:36
  on
• 5:37
  the
• 5:37
  daily,
• 5:37
  right.
• 5:38
  But
• 5:39
  there's
• 5:39
  this
• 5:40
  added
• 5:40
  layer
• 5:41
  of
• 5:41
  suffering
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  comes
• 5:42
  from
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  way
• 5:43
  we're
• 5:43
  thinking
• 5:44
  about
• 5:44
  things.
• 5:45
  And
• 5:45
  so
• 5:47
  learning
• 5:47
  how
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  pause,
• 5:49
  check
• 5:49
  in,
• 5:50
  and
• 5:50
  then
• 5:50
  ask
• 5:51
  yourself
• 5:52
  the
• 5:52
  right
• 5:52
  questions
• 5:53
  changes
• 5:54
  everything.
• 5:54
  Okay,
• 5:55
  so
• 5:55
  we're
• 5:55
  going
• 5:55
  to
• 5:56
  get
• 5:56
  to
• 5:56
  your
• 5:56
  book,
• 5:56
  but
• 5:57
  before
• 5:57
  we
• 5:57
  do
• 5:57
  that,
• 5:58
  I
• 5:59
  would
• 5:59
  love
• 5:59
  for
• 5:59
  you
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  tell
• 6:00
  us
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  little
• 6:01
  more
• 6:01
  about
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  and
• 6:02
  share
• 6:03
  some
• 6:03
  moments,
• 6:04
  three
• 6:04
  moments
• 6:05
  of
• 6:06
  your
• 6:06
  life
• 6:06
  that
• 6:07
  have
• 6:07
  somewhat
• 6:08
  defined
• 6:08
  who
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  are.
• 6:09
  Three
• 6:10
  transformational
• 6:11
  moments
• 6:12
  could
• 6:12
  be
• 6:13
  moments
• 6:13
  of
• 6:13
  loss,
• 6:14
  moments
• 6:14
  of
• 6:14
  discovery,
• 6:15
  moments
• 6:15
  of
• 6:16
  courage,
• 6:18
  accomplishment.
• 6:19
  Share
• 6:19
  us
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  little.
• 6:20
  Let
• 6:20
  us
• 6:21
  understand
• 6:21
  who
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  are
• 6:22
  through
• 6:22
  these
• 6:22
  important
• 6:22
  moments
• 6:23
  of
• 6:23
  your
• 6:23
  life.
• 6:25
  Again,
• 6:26
  so
• 6:26
  many.
• 6:27
  And
• 6:28
  at
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  risk
• 6:28
  of
• 6:29
  turning
• 6:29
  this
• 6:29
  into
• 6:30
  all
• 6:30
  about
• 6:32
  and
• 6:32
  my
• 6:32
  entire
• 6:33
  background,
• 6:34
  I'm
• 6:34
  going
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  start
• 6:35
  with
• 6:35
  the
• 6:35
  moments
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  have
• 6:36
  really
• 6:37
  shaped
• 6:38
  me
• 6:38
  more
• 6:39
  recently.
• 6:40
  Great.
• 6:40
  Great.
• 6:41
  When
• 6:41
  I
• 6:42
  was
• 6:42
  practicing
• 6:42
  law,
• 6:43
  it
• 6:44
  was
• 6:44
  challenging.
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  was
• 6:46
  at
• 6:46
  Scadden,
• 6:47
  one
• 6:47
  of
• 6:47
  the
• 6:47
  biggest
• 6:47
  firms
• 6:48
  in
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  world.
• 6:48
  It
• 6:49
  was
• 6:49
  high
• 6:49
  stakes,
• 6:50
  high
• 6:50
  pressure,
• 6:51
  everybody
• 6:52
  was
• 6:52
  brilliant.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:54
  I
• 6:55
  often
• 6:55
  felt
• 6:56
  like
• 6:56
  I
• 6:56
  thought
• 6:57
  I
• 6:57
  was
• 6:57
  fairly
• 6:57
  confident,
• 6:59
  but
• 6:59
  when
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  got
• 6:59
  there,
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  realized
• 7:01
  how
• 7:02
  insecure
• 7:03
  I
• 7:03
  really
• 7:04
  was
• 7:04
  underneath
• 7:05
  all
• 7:05
  that
• 7:05
  confidence,
• 7:06
  if
• 7:06
  that
• 7:07
  makes
• 7:07
  sense.
• 7:08
  And
• 7:08
  not
• 7:09
  insecure
• 7:10
  like
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  can't
• 7:11
  do
• 7:11
  this,
• 7:11
  but
• 7:12
  more
• 7:12
  of
• 7:13
  holding
• 7:14
  myself
• 7:14
  back.
• 7:15
  More,
• 7:16
  Let
• 7:17
  me
• 7:17
  wait
• 7:17
  and
• 7:17
  see.
• 7:18
  What
• 7:18
  are
• 7:18
  people
• 7:19
  saying
• 7:19
  here?
• 7:19
  You
• 7:20
  know,
• 7:20
  always
• 7:20
  taking
• 7:20
  the
• 7:21
  temperature
• 7:21
  of
• 7:21
  every
• 7:22
  room
• 7:22
  that
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  was
• 7:23
  in
• 7:23
  before,
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  was
• 7:24
  willing
• 7:24
  to
• 7:25
  really
• 7:25
  put
• 7:25
  myself
• 7:26
  and
• 7:26
  my
• 7:26
  own
• 7:27
  ideas
• 7:27
  forward.
• 7:28
  Now,
• 7:28
  I
• 7:29
  have
• 7:29
  since
• 7:29
  learned
• 7:29
  that
• 7:30
  this
• 7:30
  is
• 7:30
  fairly
• 7:31
  common,
• 7:32
  and
• 7:33
  almost
• 7:33
  everyone
• 7:33
  I
• 7:34
  work
• 7:34
  with
• 7:34
  has
• 7:34
  some
• 7:35
  version
• 7:35
  of
• 7:36
  this.
• 7:37
  But
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  do
• 7:38
  remember
• 7:38
  needing
• 7:39
  to
• 7:39
  learn
• 7:39
  this
• 7:39
  lesson
• 7:40
  where
• 7:40
  I
• 7:41
  would
• 7:41
  be
• 7:41
  holding
• 7:41
  back
• 7:42
  and
• 7:42
  then
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  would
• 7:42
  have
• 7:43
  no
• 7:43
  choice
• 7:43
  but
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  step
• 7:45
  into
• 7:45
  my
• 7:45
  own
• 7:46
  voice,
• 7:47
  my
• 7:47
  own
• 7:47
  ideas,
• 7:48
  whatever
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  was
• 7:49
  that
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  had
• 7:49
  to
• 7:49
  contribute.
• 7:51
  And
• 7:51
  every
• 7:51
  time,
• 7:52
  it
• 7:52
  was
• 7:52
  so
• 7:53
  valuable
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  whoever
• 7:54
  was
• 7:54
  in
• 7:55
  the
• 7:55
  room,
• 7:55
  whether
• 7:55
  it
• 7:55
  was
• 7:56
  clients,
• 7:56
  partners,
• 7:57
  colleagues,
• 7:57
  whatever.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:58
  so
• 7:59
  I
• 7:59
  just
• 8:00
  had
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  learn
• 8:01
  really
• 8:01
  how
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  trust
• 8:03
  myself
• 8:03
  and
• 8:04
  how
• 8:04
  to
• 8:05
  first
• 8:06
  of
• 8:06
  all
• 8:06
  be
• 8:06
  okay
• 8:07
  with
• 8:07
  not
• 8:07
  knowing
• 8:08
  everything.
• 8:09
  Right.
• 8:09
  That's
• 8:09
  something
• 8:10
  no
• 8:10
  one
• 8:10
  really
• 8:10
  teaches
• 8:11
  you
• 8:11
  when
• 8:11
  you're
• 8:12
  starting
• 8:12
  out.
• 8:12
  And
• 8:13
  there's
• 8:13
  that
• 8:13
  fake
• 8:13
  it
• 8:13
  to
• 8:14
  make
• 8:14
  it
• 8:14
  approach
• 8:15
  that
• 8:15
  so
• 8:15
  many
• 8:16
  of
• 8:16
  these
• 8:16
  hard
• 8:17
  driving
• 8:17
  environments
• 8:18
  have.
• 8:20
  And
• 8:20
  I
• 8:20
  realized
• 8:21
  that
• 8:21
  fake
• 8:21
  it
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  make
• 8:22
  it
• 8:22
  is
• 8:22
  one
• 8:22
  thing,
• 8:23
  but
• 8:23
  taking
• 8:23
  the
• 8:24
  time
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  really
• 8:25
  be
• 8:25
  honest
• 8:25
  with
• 8:25
  yourself
• 8:26
  about
• 8:27
  what
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  know,
• 8:29
  what
• 8:29
  you
• 8:30
  bring
• 8:30
  to
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  table,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:31
  even
• 8:32
  what
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  don't
• 8:32
  know
• 8:33
  and
• 8:33
  where
• 8:33
  your
• 8:33
  questions
• 8:34
  may
• 8:34
  be
• 8:35
  helpful,
• 8:36
  having
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  confidence
• 8:37
  to
• 8:37
  bring
• 8:38
  all
• 8:38
  of
• 8:38
  that,
• 8:39
  to
• 8:39
  bring
• 8:39
  your
• 8:40
  whole
• 8:40
  self
• 8:40
  into
• 8:40
  the
• 8:41
  situation
• 8:42
  is
• 8:43
  so
• 8:43
  much
• 8:43
  more
• 8:44
  important
• 8:44
  than
• 8:45
  sitting
• 8:46
  there
• 8:46
  quietly
• 8:46
  pretending.
• 8:50
  That
• 8:50
  I
• 8:51
  love
• 8:51
  that.
• 8:51
  And
• 8:51
  so
• 8:52
  often
• 8:52
  that's
• 8:52
  what
• 8:52
  I
• 8:52
  see
• 8:53
  is,
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  know,
• 8:54
  when
• 8:54
  we
• 8:54
  endeavor
• 8:54
  to
• 8:54
  try
• 8:55
  something
• 8:55
  new,
• 8:56
  and
• 8:56
  it's
• 8:57
  that
• 8:57
  fear
• 8:58
  of
• 8:59
  just
• 8:59
  showing
• 9:00
  up
• 9:00
  fully.
• 9:01
  And
• 9:01
  I
• 9:02
  love
• 9:02
  the
• 9:02
  idea
• 9:02
  of
• 9:03
  you,
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  know,
• 9:04
  and
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  your
• 9:04
  book,
• 9:04
  you
• 9:04
  talk
• 9:05
  about
• 9:05
  your
• 9:06
  decision
• 9:06
  to
• 9:07
  become
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  lawyer
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  then
• 9:08
  go
• 9:08
  to
• 9:08
  law
• 9:09
  school
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  then
• 9:09
  end
• 9:10
  up
• 9:10
  at
• 9:10
  this
• 9:11
  highfalutin
• 9:13
  place
• 9:14
  and
• 9:14
  how
• 9:15
  it
• 9:15
  was
• 9:17
  probably
• 9:17
  very
• 9:17
  hard
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  bring
• 9:18
  your
• 9:18
  whole
• 9:18
  self
• 9:18
  because
• 9:18
  you
• 9:19
  never
• 9:19
  really
• 9:19
  loved
• 9:19
  it.
• 9:20
  Right?
• 9:22
  Right.
• 9:22
  And
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  be
• 9:23
  honest,
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  loved
• 9:25
  the
• 9:25
  place.
• 9:25
  I
• 9:26
  didn't
• 9:26
  love
• 9:26
  the
• 9:26
  work.
• 9:28
  Interesting.
• 9:28
  Say
• 9:29
  more
• 9:29
  about
• 9:29
  that.
• 9:29
  I
• 9:30
  loved
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  people
• 9:32
  I
• 9:32
  met.
• 9:33
  My
• 9:33
  husband
• 9:33
  there,
• 9:33
  as
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  know,
• 9:34
  but
• 9:34
  also
• 9:35
  many
• 9:35
  of
• 9:35
  my
• 9:36
  lifelong
• 9:37
  friends,
• 9:37
  people
• 9:37
  I
• 9:38
  still
• 9:38
  keep
• 9:38
  in
• 9:38
  touch
• 9:39
  with.
• 9:39
  There's
• 9:40
  nothing
• 9:40
  more
• 9:40
  fun
• 9:40
  than
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  Scadden
• 9:41
  alumni
• 9:42
  get
• 9:42
  together.
• 9:43
  So
• 9:44
  loved
• 9:45
  the
• 9:45
  environment,
• 9:46
  loved
• 9:47
  that
• 9:47
  it
• 9:47
  was
• 9:47
  challenging,
• 9:48
  even
• 9:48
  though
• 9:48
  it
• 9:48
  was
• 9:49
  stressful.
• 9:50
  But
• 9:50
  it
• 9:50
  was
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  work
• 9:50
  itself,
• 9:51
  like
• 9:51
  corporate
• 9:52
  law,
• 9:52
  that
• 9:52
  just
• 9:53
  didn't
• 9:53
  really
• 9:54
  make
• 9:54
  my
• 9:55
  heart
• 9:55
  sing.
• 9:56
  But
• 9:57
  it
• 9:57
  was
• 9:57
  my
• 9:57
  time
• 9:57
  there
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  actually
• 9:58
  opportunities
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  do
• 9:59
  pro
• 10:00
  bono
• 10:00
  work
• 10:00
  that
• 10:01
  set
• 10:01
  me
• 10:01
  on
• 10:02
  the
• 10:02
  right
• 10:02
  track.
• 10:03
  There
• 10:03
  was
• 10:03
  one
• 10:04
  night
• 10:04
  I
• 10:04
  was
• 10:04
  there
• 10:05
  really
• 10:05
  late
• 10:05
  Working
• 10:06
  on
• 10:06
  a
• 10:07
  pro
• 10:07
  bono
• 10:07
  case.
• 10:08
  It
• 10:08
  was
• 10:08
  a
• 10:08
  petition
• 10:09
  for
• 10:09
  a
• 10:09
  woman
• 10:09
  who
• 10:09
  was
• 10:10
  a
• 10:10
  victim
• 10:10
  of
• 10:10
  domestic
• 10:11
  violence.
• 10:12
  And
• 10:12
  I
• 10:13
  looked
• 10:13
  up
• 10:14
  and
• 10:14
  realized
• 10:14
  it
• 10:15
  was
• 10:15
  like
• 10:15
  midnight
• 10:15
  and
• 10:16
  I
• 10:16
  had
• 10:16
  no
• 10:16
  idea.
• 10:16
  Like,
• 10:17
  I
• 10:17
  was
• 10:17
  just
• 10:17
  working
• 10:17
  away.
• 10:18
  And
• 10:18
  when
• 10:18
  I
• 10:18
  was
• 10:18
  doing
• 10:19
  the
• 10:19
  corporate
• 10:19
  work,
• 10:19
  I
• 10:19
  didn't
• 10:20
  feel
• 10:20
  that
• 10:20
  way.
• 10:20
  I
• 10:20
  felt
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  little
• 10:21
  grumpy
• 10:22
  when
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  was
• 10:22
  there
• 10:23
  late
• 10:23
  and
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  little
• 10:25
  like,
• 10:25
  why
• 10:25
  am
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  doing
• 10:26
  this
• 10:26
  so
• 10:27
  suddenly?
• 10:28
  It
• 10:29
  occurred
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  me
• 10:29
  in
• 10:30
  that
• 10:30
  moment
• 10:30
  that
• 10:31
  there
• 10:31
  was
• 10:31
  another
• 10:32
  path
• 10:32
  and
• 10:32
  another
• 10:33
  way
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  use
• 10:34
  my
• 10:35
  legal
• 10:35
  skills.
• 10:36
  And
• 10:36
  I
• 10:36
  did
• 10:36
  ultimately
• 10:37
  transition
• 10:37
  to.
• 10:38
  To
• 10:38
  the
• 10:38
  DA's
• 10:39
  office
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  do
• 10:40
  specifically
• 10:40
  domestic
• 10:41
  violence
• 10:41
  work.
• 10:42
  So
• 10:42
  I
• 10:43
  was
• 10:43
  grateful
• 10:43
  for
• 10:43
  that.
• 10:44
  Yeah.
• 10:44
  Well,
• 10:45
  how
• 10:45
  was
• 10:45
  that,
• 10:45
  though,
• 10:46
  once
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  got
• 10:47
  there?
• 10:48
  That's.
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  mean,
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  love
• 10:50
  that
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  made
• 10:50
  that
• 10:50
  step.
• 10:51
  Right.
• 10:51
  You
• 10:51
  leave
• 10:52
  the
• 10:54
  high
• 10:55
  paying,
• 10:56
  very
• 10:56
  respected,
• 10:57
  you
• 10:58
  know,
• 10:58
  kind
• 10:58
  of
• 10:59
  sky's
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  limit,
• 11:00
  and
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  now
• 11:01
  go
• 11:01
  and
• 11:01
  you're
• 11:02
  taking
• 11:02
  a
• 11:02
  totally
• 11:03
  different
• 11:03
  kind
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  role.
• 11:05
  How.
• 11:05
  What
• 11:06
  was
• 11:06
  that
• 11:06
  like
• 11:06
  for
• 11:07
  you
• 11:07
  and.
• 11:08
  What
• 11:08
  did
• 11:08
  that
• 11:09
  lead
• 11:09
  you
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  discover
• 11:11
  in
• 11:12
  the.
• 11:12
  Overall,
• 11:12
  it
• 11:12
  was
• 11:13
  wonderful,
• 11:13
  but
• 11:14
  again,
• 11:14
  it
• 11:14
  was
• 11:14
  very
• 11:15
  challenging
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  I
• 11:17
  will
• 11:17
  say
• 11:17
  that
• 11:18
  the
• 11:18
  timing
• 11:18
  was
• 11:19
  unfortunate.
• 11:19
  I.
• 11:20
  In
• 11:20
  between
• 11:21
  the
• 11:21
  time
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  accepted
• 11:22
  that
• 11:22
  job
• 11:23
  and
• 11:23
  then
• 11:23
  started,
• 11:24
  I
• 11:26
  was
• 11:26
  pregnant
• 11:26
  with
• 11:27
  my
• 11:27
  oldest.
• 11:28
  I
• 11:28
  became
• 11:28
  pregnant
• 11:29
  and,
• 11:29
  you
• 11:30
  know,
• 11:30
  not
• 11:30
  to
• 11:30
  go
• 11:30
  into
• 11:31
  too
• 11:31
  many
• 11:31
  details,
• 11:32
  but
• 11:32
  that
• 11:32
  wasn't
• 11:32
  my
• 11:33
  first
• 11:33
  pregnancy.
• 11:34
  The
• 11:34
  first
• 11:34
  one
• 11:34
  didn't
• 11:35
  make
• 11:35
  it.
• 11:36
  And
• 11:36
  so
• 11:37
  I
• 11:37
  was
• 11:37
  a
• 11:37
  little
• 11:38
  stressed
• 11:39
  and
• 11:39
  also
• 11:39
  stressed
• 11:40
  about
• 11:40
  being
• 11:41
  in
• 11:41
  a
• 11:41
  brand
• 11:41
  new
• 11:41
  place
• 11:42
  and
• 11:42
  wanting
• 11:42
  to
• 11:43
  really
• 11:43
  prove
• 11:43
  myself
• 11:44
  there.
• 11:45
  So
• 11:45
  it
• 11:46
  was
• 11:46
  difficult.
• 11:46
  But
• 11:47
  I
• 11:47
  loved
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  work.
• 11:48
  So
• 11:48
  again,
• 11:48
  it
• 11:48
  was
• 11:49
  sort
• 11:49
  of
• 11:49
  this
• 11:49
  total
• 11:50
  opposite
• 11:50
  where
• 11:52
  all
• 11:52
  the
• 11:52
  trappings
• 11:53
  of
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  job
• 11:53
  that
• 11:54
  I
• 11:54
  had
• 11:54
  loved,
• 11:54
  the
• 11:55
  paycheck,
• 11:55
  you
• 11:55
  know,
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  people,
• 11:56
  all
• 11:56
  of
• 11:57
  that.
• 11:57
  So
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  bells
• 11:58
  and
• 11:58
  whistles
• 11:59
  were
• 11:59
  gone,
• 11:59
  but
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  work
• 12:01
  itself
• 12:01
  was
• 12:02
  amazing.
• 12:03
  Loved
• 12:03
  it.
• 12:03
  Yeah.
• 12:04
  And
• 12:05
  then.
• 12:05
  So
• 12:05
  then
• 12:05
  what
• 12:06
  happened
• 12:06
  next?
• 12:08
  Ah,
• 12:09
  Coco.
• 12:10
  So.
• 12:13
  So
• 12:13
  when
• 12:14
  Leila
• 12:14
  arrived
• 12:15
  and
• 12:15
  Layla's
• 12:16
  20.
• 12:17
  20.
• 12:17
  Layla's
• 12:18
  20
• 12:18
  now.
• 12:18
  Oh,
• 12:19
  going
• 12:19
  back
• 12:20
  a
• 12:20
  bit.
• 12:20
  I
• 12:21
  grew
• 12:21
  up
• 12:22
  super
• 12:22
  ambitious
• 12:23
  and
• 12:23
  planning
• 12:24
  only
• 12:24
  on
• 12:24
  being
• 12:25
  this
• 12:25
  big
• 12:26
  career
• 12:26
  woman.
• 12:27
  And
• 12:27
  I
• 12:27
  thought,
• 12:28
  the
• 12:28
  family,
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  kids,
• 12:29
  sure,
• 12:29
  I'll
• 12:30
  have
• 12:30
  them
• 12:30
  and
• 12:30
  they'll
• 12:30
  be
• 12:31
  over
• 12:31
  there
• 12:31
  on
• 12:31
  the
• 12:31
  side
• 12:33
  while
• 12:33
  I'm
• 12:34
  plugging
• 12:34
  away
• 12:34
  at
• 12:35
  work.
• 12:35
  And
• 12:35
  as
• 12:36
  soon
• 12:36
  as
• 12:36
  I
• 12:36
  had
• 12:37
  her
• 12:38
  and
• 12:38
  I
• 12:38
  had
• 12:38
  lost
• 12:38
  my
• 12:39
  mother
• 12:39
  just
• 12:39
  a
• 12:40
  little
• 12:40
  while
• 12:40
  before
• 12:41
  having
• 12:41
  her,
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  so
• 12:43
  I
• 12:43
  was
• 12:43
  in
• 12:43
  a
• 12:43
  different
• 12:44
  place
• 12:44
  and
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  felt
• 12:45
  like
• 12:46
  it
• 12:46
  was.
• 12:47
  The
• 12:48
  universe
• 12:48
  was
• 12:48
  telling
• 12:49
  me
• 12:49
  to
• 12:49
  focus
• 12:49
  on
• 12:50
  my
• 12:50
  family,
• 12:51
  let's
• 12:51
  put
• 12:51
  it
• 12:51
  that
• 12:52
  way.
• 12:53
  And
• 12:53
  how
• 12:54
  did
• 12:54
  that
• 12:54
  go
• 12:54
  for
• 12:54
  you?
• 12:55
  It
• 12:56
  was
• 12:56
  tough.
• 12:56
  I
• 12:56
  felt
• 12:57
  super
• 12:57
  fortunate
• 12:58
  that
• 12:58
  I
• 12:58
  was
• 12:58
  able
• 12:59
  to
• 12:59
  do
• 12:59
  it
• 12:59
  in
• 13:00
  terms
• 13:00
  of
• 13:00
  financially.
• 13:02
  But
• 13:02
  if
• 13:02
  I'm
• 13:02
  being
• 13:03
  very
• 13:03
  honest,
• 13:04
  I
• 13:04
  also
• 13:04
  felt
• 13:05
  a
• 13:05
  little
• 13:06
  stuck
• 13:07
  because
• 13:07
  of
• 13:07
  that
• 13:09
  if
• 13:09
  I
• 13:09
  went
• 13:10
  back
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  DA's
• 13:11
  office
• 13:11
  and
• 13:12
  hired
• 13:12
  a
• 13:13
  full
• 13:13
  time
• 13:13
  nanny,
• 13:14
  then
• 13:14
  I
• 13:14
  was
• 13:15
  going
• 13:15
  to
• 13:15
  be
• 13:15
  paying
• 13:15
  out
• 13:16
  more
• 13:16
  than
• 13:16
  I
• 13:16
  was
• 13:16
  earning
• 13:17
  and
• 13:18
  I
• 13:18
  wasn't
• 13:19
  going
• 13:19
  to
• 13:19
  see
• 13:19
  my
• 13:20
  daughter
• 13:20
  while
• 13:21
  she
• 13:21
  was
• 13:21
  awake
• 13:22
  during
• 13:23
  the
• 13:23
  week.
• 13:24
  So
• 13:24
  this
• 13:24
  was
• 13:25
  a
• 13:25
  total
• 13:25
  conundrum
• 13:26
  I
• 13:26
  never
• 13:26
  expected
• 13:27
  to
• 13:27
  find
• 13:28
  myself
• 13:28
  in.
• 13:28
  And
• 13:29
  when
• 13:29
  I
• 13:29
  did,
• 13:30
  I
• 13:31
  made
• 13:31
  a
• 13:31
  decision.
• 13:32
  So
• 13:32
  I
• 13:32
  stayed
• 13:33
  home
• 13:33
  and
• 13:33
  I
• 13:34
  thought,
• 13:34
  okay,
• 13:34
  I'm
• 13:35
  going
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  find
• 13:35
  a
• 13:35
  different
• 13:36
  job
• 13:37
  that
• 13:37
  is
• 13:38
  a
• 13:38
  little
• 13:38
  bit.
• 13:39
  Has
• 13:39
  a
• 13:39
  little
• 13:39
  bit
• 13:39
  more
• 13:40
  balance.
• 13:40
  Took
• 13:41
  me
• 13:41
  a
• 13:41
  while
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  do
• 13:41
  that,
• 13:42
  but
• 13:42
  ultimately
• 13:43
  I
• 13:43
  did.
• 13:44
  Here
• 13:44
  I
• 13:44
  am.
• 13:45
  I
• 13:45
  love
• 13:46
  your
• 13:46
  story
• 13:46
  because
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  think
• 13:47
  it
• 13:47
  reflects
• 13:49
  the
• 13:49
  journey
• 13:49
  of
• 13:50
  ambitious
• 13:50
  women.
• 13:51
  The
• 13:51
  journey
• 13:52
  of
• 13:52
  ambitious
• 13:52
  women.
• 13:53
  We
• 13:53
  usually
• 13:54
  don't
• 13:54
  pick
• 13:55
  exactly
• 13:55
  what
• 13:55
  we're
• 13:56
  meant
• 13:56
  to
• 13:56
  do
• 13:56
  the
• 13:56
  first
• 13:57
  time.
• 13:57
  Right.
• 13:58
  And
• 13:58
  we
• 13:58
  have
• 13:58
  to
• 13:59
  navigate
• 14:00
  that.
• 14:01
  And
• 14:01
  at
• 14:01
  least
• 14:01
  if
• 14:02
  we
• 14:02
  have,
• 14:03
  if
• 14:03
  there's
• 14:03
  a
• 14:04
  part
• 14:04
  of
• 14:04
  us
• 14:04
  that
• 14:05
  really
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  ambition
• 14:06
  and
• 14:06
  the
• 14:06
  success,
• 14:08
  for
• 14:08
  some
• 14:08
  people
• 14:08
  it
• 14:09
  can
• 14:09
  be
• 14:09
  enough,
• 14:09
  maybe.
• 14:10
  But
• 14:11
  for
• 14:12
  me,
• 14:12
  I
• 14:12
  know
• 14:13
  for
• 14:13
  you
• 14:13
  and
• 14:14
  I
• 14:14
  know
• 14:14
  for
• 14:14
  most
• 14:14
  of
• 14:15
  the
• 14:15
  women
• 14:16
  that
• 14:16
  I
• 14:16
  work
• 14:16
  with
• 14:17
  and
• 14:17
  the
• 14:17
  founders
• 14:18
  that
• 14:18
  I
• 14:18
  know,
• 14:20
  it's
• 14:21
  just
• 14:21
  not
• 14:21
  worth
• 14:21
  it.
• 14:22
  Right.
• 14:23
  We
• 14:23
  need
• 14:24
  more.
• 14:25
  And
• 14:26
  that
• 14:27
  discovery
• 14:27
  of
• 14:28
  who
• 14:28
  we
• 14:28
  are
• 14:28
  and
• 14:29
  what
• 14:29
  brings
• 14:30
  us
• 14:30
  meaning
• 14:31
  and
• 14:32
  what
• 14:32
  really
• 14:33
  matters
• 14:33
  to
• 14:33
  us
• 14:33
  isn't
• 14:34
  something
• 14:34
  that
• 14:34
  we
• 14:35
  know
• 14:36
  off
• 14:36
  the
• 14:36
  bat.
• 14:38
  Can
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  say
• 14:38
  some
• 14:38
  more
• 14:39
  about
• 14:39
  that?
• 14:40
  Because
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  know
• 14:40
  you.
• 14:41
  So
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  talk
• 14:41
  about
• 14:42
  this
• 14:43
  in
• 14:43
  your
• 14:43
  book.
• 14:44
  Yeah,
• 14:44
  and
• 14:44
  I
• 14:45
  talk
• 14:45
  about
• 14:45
  this
• 14:45
  with
• 14:46
  many
• 14:46
  clients
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  especially
• 14:47
  when
• 14:48
  I'm
• 14:48
  talking
• 14:48
  to
• 14:48
  younger
• 14:49
  people,
• 14:49
  because
• 14:50
  there's
• 14:51
  this
• 14:51
  idea
• 14:52
  still
• 14:52
  to
• 14:53
  this
• 14:53
  day,
• 14:53
  even
• 14:53
  though
• 14:54
  things
• 14:54
  have
• 14:54
  changed
• 14:54
  a
• 14:55
  lot
• 14:55
  since
• 14:55
  we
• 14:55
  were
• 14:56
  in
• 14:56
  college,
• 14:57
  let's
• 14:57
  say
• 14:58
  that
• 14:58
  you
• 14:58
  have
• 14:58
  to
• 14:59
  figure
• 14:59
  it
• 14:59
  out.
• 15:00
  And
• 15:00
  it's
• 15:01
  a
• 15:01
  lot
• 15:01
  of
• 15:01
  stress
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
  lot
• 15:02
  of
• 15:02
  pressure
• 15:04
  when
• 15:04
  not
• 15:05
  only.
• 15:05
  And
• 15:06
  this
• 15:06
  is
• 15:06
  the
• 15:06
  theme
• 15:07
  of
• 15:07
  all
• 15:07
  of
• 15:07
  my
• 15:07
  work
• 15:08
  is
• 15:08
  it's
• 15:09
  kind
• 15:09
  of.
• 15:09
  It's
• 15:09
  hard
• 15:09
  enough
• 15:10
  out
• 15:10
  there,
• 15:11
  don't
• 15:11
  make
• 15:11
  it
• 15:11
  harder
• 15:12
  for
• 15:12
  yourself.
• 15:13
  Right?
• 15:14
  So
• 15:14
  being
• 15:15
  young
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  coming
• 15:15
  up
• 15:16
  in
• 15:16
  the
• 15:16
  world
• 15:16
  and
• 15:16
  trying
• 15:17
  to
• 15:17
  figure
• 15:17
  out,
• 15:17
  or
• 15:18
  even
• 15:18
  if
• 15:18
  you're
• 15:18
  not
• 15:18
  so
• 15:18
  young,
• 15:19
  even
• 15:19
  if
• 15:19
  you're
• 15:19
  just
• 15:19
  trying
• 15:19
  to
• 15:20
  figure
• 15:20
  out
• 15:20
  your
• 15:20
  next
• 15:20
  move
• 15:21
  and
• 15:21
  you've
• 15:21
  already
• 15:21
  had
• 15:22
  a
• 15:22
  few
• 15:22
  great
• 15:22
  moves,
• 15:22
  right?
• 15:23
  We
• 15:23
  think
• 15:23
  we
• 15:23
  have
• 15:24
  to
• 15:24
  have
• 15:24
  the
• 15:24
  answers.
• 15:25
  We
• 15:25
  think
• 15:25
  we
• 15:26
  have
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  know
• 15:26
  this
• 15:26
  is
• 15:27
  what
• 15:27
  I
• 15:27
  want
• 15:27
  to
• 15:27
  do
• 15:27
  and
• 15:28
  this
• 15:28
  is
• 15:28
  how
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  do
• 15:28
  it,
• 15:28
  and
• 15:29
  this
• 15:29
  is
• 15:29
  how
• 15:29
  you
• 15:29
  get
• 15:29
  from
• 15:30
  point
• 15:30
  A
• 15:30
  to
• 15:30
  point
• 15:30
  B.
• 15:31
  And
• 15:31
  these
• 15:31
  are
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  steps
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  implement.
• 15:33
  And
• 15:33
  it's
• 15:34
  not
• 15:34
  always
• 15:34
  that
• 15:34
  linear.
• 15:36
  It
• 15:36
  can
• 15:36
  be
• 15:37
  cyclical.
• 15:38
  It
• 15:38
  can
• 15:39
  look
• 15:39
  like
• 15:39
  a
• 15:39
  detour
• 15:40
  sometimes,
• 15:40
  but
• 15:41
  really
• 15:41
  it's
• 15:41
  exactly
• 15:42
  where
• 15:42
  you
• 15:42
  need
• 15:42
  to
• 15:42
  be
• 15:43
  going
• 15:43
  to
• 15:43
  get
• 15:43
  you
• 15:43
  where
• 15:43
  you
• 15:44
  want
• 15:44
  to
• 15:44
  go.
• 15:45
  So
• 15:45
  I
• 15:45
  try
• 15:46
  and
• 15:47
  encourage
• 15:48
  people
• 15:48
  just
• 15:49
  to
• 15:49
  hold
• 15:50
  on.
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  don't
• 15:52
  want
• 15:52
  to
• 15:52
  be
• 15:52
  Pollyanna
• 15:53
  about
• 15:53
  things.
• 15:53
  If
• 15:54
  you're
• 15:54
  out
• 15:54
  there
• 15:54
  and
• 15:54
  you're
• 15:55
  trying
• 15:55
  to
• 15:55
  figure
• 15:55
  out
• 15:55
  your
• 15:56
  next
• 15:56
  move
• 15:56
  or
• 15:56
  a
• 15:57
  job
• 15:57
  transition
• 15:57
  or
• 15:57
  whatever
• 15:58
  it
• 15:58
  is,
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  is
• 15:58
  serious
• 15:59
  work.
• 15:59
  And
• 16:00
  we
• 16:00
  get
• 16:00
  into
• 16:00
  it
• 16:01
  from
• 16:01
  a
• 16:01
  serious
• 16:02
  place.
• 16:03
  But
• 16:03
  there's
• 16:04
  also
• 16:05
  often
• 16:07
  more
• 16:08
  happening
• 16:08
  than
• 16:08
  we
• 16:09
  realize
• 16:09
  beneath
• 16:10
  the
• 16:10
  surface
• 16:11
  and
• 16:11
  more
• 16:12
  possibilities
• 16:13
  than
• 16:13
  we're
• 16:14
  aware
• 16:14
  of.
• 16:14
  And
• 16:15
  so
• 16:15
  a
• 16:15
  certain
• 16:16
  open
• 16:16
  mindedness,
• 16:17
  a
• 16:17
  certain
• 16:17
  confidence
• 16:19
  and
• 16:19
  a
• 16:19
  willingness
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  try
• 16:20
  and
• 16:20
  fail,
• 16:21
  that
• 16:21
  is
• 16:21
  something
• 16:22
  I
• 16:22
  didn't
• 16:22
  have
• 16:22
  when
• 16:23
  I
• 16:23
  was
• 16:23
  younger,
• 16:24
  but
• 16:24
  I
• 16:24
  definitely
• 16:25
  have
• 16:25
  it
• 16:25
  now.
• 16:28
  So
• 16:29
  that's
• 16:29
  huge.
• 16:30
  It
• 16:30
  is.
• 16:30
  And
• 16:31
  you
• 16:31
  know,
• 16:31
  when
• 16:31
  you're.
• 16:31
  It
• 16:31
  makes
• 16:32
  me
• 16:32
  think
• 16:32
  about
• 16:33
  just
• 16:33
  the
• 16:34
  title
• 16:34
  of
• 16:34
  your
• 16:34
  book.
• 16:35
  Right.
• 16:35
  Is
• 16:35
  like,
• 16:36
  of
• 16:36
  course,
• 16:37
  when
• 16:37
  we're
• 16:37
  young
• 16:38
  or
• 16:39
  when
• 16:39
  we
• 16:40
  believe
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  Inner
• 16:40
  critic,
• 16:41
  of
• 16:41
  course
• 16:42
  we
• 16:42
  think
• 16:42
  we
• 16:42
  suck.
• 16:44
  Like,
• 16:45
  how
• 16:45
  could
• 16:45
  you
• 16:46
  possibly
• 16:46
  think
• 16:46
  anything
• 16:47
  else?
• 16:47
  Right.
• 16:47
  I
• 16:48
  love
• 16:48
  the
• 16:48
  name.
• 16:49
  Sometimes
• 16:49
  I
• 16:50
  think
• 16:50
  I
• 16:50
  suck
• 16:50
  because
• 16:51
  it
• 16:51
  really
• 16:52
  slaps
• 16:52
  me
• 16:53
  in
• 16:53
  the
• 16:53
  face
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  say,
• 16:55
  oh
• 16:55
  boy,
• 16:56
  I
• 16:56
  don't
• 16:56
  want
• 16:56
  to
• 16:56
  think
• 16:56
  that.
• 16:57
  Right.
• 16:58
  And
• 16:58
  how
• 16:58
  am
• 16:58
  I
• 16:59
  doing
• 16:59
  that?
• 16:59
  And
• 17:00
  what
• 17:00
  are
• 17:00
  the
• 17:00
  ways
• 17:01
  that's
• 17:01
  holding.
• 17:01
  Me
• 17:01
  back
• 17:03
  on
• 17:03
  that
• 17:04
  part?
• 17:04
  Right.
• 17:04
  There
• 17:05
  is
• 17:05
  key
• 17:05
  because
• 17:07
  as
• 17:07
  much
• 17:07
  as
• 17:07
  I
• 17:07
  love
• 17:08
  the
• 17:08
  title
• 17:09
  and
• 17:09
  it
• 17:09
  was
• 17:09
  catchy
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  a
• 17:10
  lot
• 17:10
  of
• 17:10
  people,
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  know,
• 17:11
  just
• 17:12
  are
• 17:12
  drawn
• 17:12
  to
• 17:12
  it,
• 17:14
  some
• 17:14
  of
• 17:14
  us
• 17:15
  don't
• 17:16
  necessarily
• 17:16
  frame
• 17:17
  it
• 17:17
  that
• 17:17
  way.
• 17:18
  It's
• 17:18
  not
• 17:18
  that
• 17:19
  I
• 17:19
  walk
• 17:19
  around
• 17:19
  thinking
• 17:20
  I
• 17:20
  suck,
• 17:20
  it's
• 17:21
  that
• 17:21
  there
• 17:21
  are
• 17:22
  these
• 17:23
  nagging
• 17:24
  thoughts
• 17:24
  or
• 17:25
  nagging
• 17:25
  insecurities
• 17:26
  and
• 17:27
  sometimes
• 17:27
  we're
• 17:27
  not
• 17:27
  even
• 17:28
  fully
• 17:28
  aware
• 17:28
  of
• 17:29
  them.
• 17:30
  So
• 17:31
  the
• 17:31
  work
• 17:31
  is
• 17:31
  really
• 17:32
  about.
• 17:33
  The
• 17:33
  thing
• 17:33
  I
• 17:33
  talk
• 17:34
  most
• 17:34
  about
• 17:34
  with
• 17:35
  everybody
• 17:35
  is
• 17:36
  pausing.
• 17:36
  Pausing
• 17:37
  and
• 17:37
  checking
• 17:38
  in
• 17:38
  and
• 17:39
  getting
• 17:39
  really
• 17:40
  clear
• 17:40
  on
• 17:41
  what
• 17:42
  is
• 17:42
  happening
• 17:42
  to
• 17:43
  you.
• 17:43
  Like
• 17:43
  right
• 17:43
  now,
• 17:44
  do
• 17:44
  you
• 17:44
  feel
• 17:44
  hot?
• 17:45
  Do
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  feel
• 17:45
  cold?
• 17:46
  Are
• 17:46
  you
• 17:46
  comfortable?
• 17:48
  Would
• 17:48
  I
• 17:48
  be
• 17:48
  happier
• 17:49
  if
• 17:49
  I
• 17:49
  sat
• 17:49
  back
• 17:50
  a
• 17:50
  little
• 17:50
  bit?
• 17:50
  Or
• 17:51
  am
• 17:51
  I
• 17:51
  all
• 17:51
  revved
• 17:52
  up
• 17:52
  from
• 17:52
  coffee
• 17:53
  and.
• 17:54
  Right.
• 17:55
  And
• 17:55
  just.
• 17:59
  Just
• 17:59
  taking
• 18:00
  that
• 18:00
  moment,
• 18:01
  whatever
• 18:01
  it
• 18:02
  is,
• 18:02
  wherever
• 18:02
  you
• 18:03
  are,
• 18:03
  and
• 18:03
  really
• 18:03
  checking
• 18:04
  in
• 18:04
  and
• 18:05
  learning
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  do
• 18:06
  that
• 18:06
  as
• 18:06
  a
• 18:06
  practice
• 18:08
  so
• 18:08
  that
• 18:09
  you
• 18:09
  are
• 18:10
  moving
• 18:11
  through
• 18:11
  life
• 18:11
  with
• 18:12
  a
• 18:12
  little
• 18:12
  bit
• 18:12
  more
• 18:13
  intention
• 18:14
  and
• 18:14
  a
• 18:14
  sense
• 18:15
  of,
• 18:15
  oh,
• 18:16
  yeah,
• 18:16
  I
• 18:16
  am
• 18:18
  responding
• 18:19
  to
• 18:20
  my
• 18:20
  world,
• 18:21
  but
• 18:21
  I'm
• 18:21
  also
• 18:21
  driving
• 18:22
  the
• 18:23
  bus
• 18:23
  here.
• 18:23
  Right.
• 18:24
  As
• 18:24
  opposed
• 18:25
  to
• 18:25
  just
• 18:25
  constantly
• 18:26
  reacting
• 18:27
  and
• 18:27
  being
• 18:28
  thrown
• 18:29
  about.
• 18:29
  There's
• 18:29
  so
• 18:29
  much
• 18:30
  coming
• 18:30
  at
• 18:31
  us
• 18:31
  all
• 18:31
  day,
• 18:32
  every
• 18:33
  day.
• 18:34
  And
• 18:34
  these
• 18:35
  are
• 18:35
  ancient
• 18:35
  practices.
• 18:37
  Right.
• 18:38
  I
• 18:38
  think
• 18:39
  one
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  think
• 18:39
  of
• 18:39
  often
• 18:40
  is
• 18:40
  a
• 18:41
  back
• 18:41
  injury
• 18:42
  that
• 18:42
  I
• 18:42
  had
• 18:42
  that
• 18:43
  led
• 18:43
  me
• 18:45
  to
• 18:45
  discover
• 18:46
  meditation.
• 18:48
  Wow.
• 18:49
  Because
• 18:49
  at
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  time
• 18:50
  my
• 18:50
  self
• 18:51
  care
• 18:51
  routine
• 18:52
  was
• 18:52
  like
• 18:52
  vigorous
• 18:53
  exercise,
• 18:54
  punishing
• 18:55
  vigorous
• 18:56
  exercise,
• 18:57
  which
• 18:57
  is
• 18:57
  why
• 18:57
  I
• 18:58
  think
• 18:58
  I
• 18:58
  had
• 18:58
  the
• 18:58
  back
• 18:59
  injury.
• 18:59
  And
• 18:59
  then
• 19:00
  suddenly
• 19:01
  I
• 19:02
  was
• 19:02
  forced
• 19:02
  to
• 19:03
  be
• 19:03
  a
• 19:03
  little
• 19:03
  bit
• 19:03
  more
• 19:04
  still.
• 19:05
  Yeah.
• 19:05
  And
• 19:06
  it
• 19:06
  changed
• 19:06
  everything.
• 19:07
  Yeah.
• 19:08
  What
• 19:09
  did
• 19:09
  it
• 19:09
  change?
• 19:11
  The
• 19:11
  whole
• 19:12
  way
• 19:12
  that
• 19:12
  I
• 19:13
  move
• 19:13
  through
• 19:13
  the
• 19:13
  world,
• 19:15
  the
• 19:16
  way
• 19:16
  that
• 19:16
  I
• 19:17
  have
• 19:17
  a
• 19:17
  conversation.
• 19:19
  So
• 19:19
  a
• 19:19
  lot
• 19:19
  of
• 19:20
  our
• 19:20
  listeners
• 19:21
  or
• 19:21
  founders
• 19:22
  and
• 19:24
  we're
• 19:24
  scaling
• 19:25
  our
• 19:25
  companies,
• 19:26
  we're
• 19:27
  dealing
• 19:28
  with
• 19:29
  loving
• 19:29
  what
• 19:29
  is
• 19:29
  a
• 19:30
  certain
• 19:30
  amount
• 19:30
  of
• 19:30
  Runway
• 19:31
  cash,
• 19:32
  perhaps,
• 19:33
  and
• 19:36
  knowing
• 19:36
  that
• 19:37
  there's
• 19:37
  a
• 19:38
  number
• 19:38
  of
• 19:38
  clients
• 19:39
  they
• 19:39
  need
• 19:39
  to
• 19:41
  sell
• 19:42
  to
• 19:42
  or
• 19:43
  a
• 19:43
  new
• 19:44
  product
• 19:44
  line
• 19:44
  that
• 19:45
  needs
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  launch
• 19:46
  and
• 19:48
  things
• 19:48
  aren't
• 19:48
  all
• 19:48
  going
• 19:49
  their
• 19:49
  way.
• 19:50
  And
• 19:52
  that
• 19:53
  voice
• 19:53
  of
• 19:53
  self
• 19:54
  doubt,
• 19:54
  the
• 19:54
  critic,
• 19:55
  the
• 19:55
  part
• 19:55
  of
• 19:56
  you
• 19:56
  that
• 19:57
  just
• 19:57
  wants
• 19:57
  to
• 19:58
  run
• 19:58
  faster,
• 19:59
  do
• 19:59
  more,
• 20:01
  right?
• 20:01
  Like,
• 20:02
  help
• 20:02
  us
• 20:02
  with
• 20:03
  this.
• 20:04
  Help
• 20:04
  us
• 20:04
  with
• 20:04
  this,
• 20:05
  unpack
• 20:05
  how
• 20:05
  we
• 20:06
  can
• 20:07
  live
• 20:07
  in
• 20:07
  a
• 20:07
  world
• 20:08
  that
• 20:08
  is
• 20:08
  like
• 20:09
  this
• 20:09
  and
• 20:10
  hopefully
• 20:11
  be
• 20:11
  in
• 20:11
  a
• 20:11
  business
• 20:11
  we
• 20:12
  care
• 20:12
  enough
• 20:12
  about
• 20:12
  that
• 20:12
  it
• 20:13
  gives
• 20:13
  us
• 20:13
  meaning.
• 20:14
  But
• 20:15
  proceed.
• 20:16
  One
• 20:17
  thing
• 20:17
  I
• 20:17
  talk
• 20:17
  about
• 20:17
  with
• 20:18
  almost
• 20:18
  every
• 20:18
  client
• 20:19
  who
• 20:19
  is
• 20:19
  in,
• 20:20
  whether
• 20:21
  it's
• 20:21
  a
• 20:21
  startup,
• 20:22
  whether
• 20:22
  it's,
• 20:23
  you
• 20:24
  know,
• 20:24
  finance,
• 20:25
  whatever
• 20:25
  it
• 20:25
  may
• 20:25
  be,
• 20:25
  but
• 20:26
  the
• 20:26
  law,
• 20:26
  like
• 20:27
  these
• 20:27
  professions,
• 20:28
  there
• 20:28
  is
• 20:28
  a
• 20:28
  certain
• 20:29
  amount
• 20:29
  of
• 20:29
  accepting
• 20:30
  what
• 20:30
  is
• 20:31
  that
• 20:31
  people
• 20:32
  don't
• 20:32
  do,
• 20:33
  right?
• 20:33
  Where
• 20:34
  on
• 20:35
  the
• 20:35
  one
• 20:35
  hand
• 20:36
  you've
• 20:36
  chosen
• 20:37
  this
• 20:37
  and
• 20:38
  you're
• 20:38
  doing
• 20:38
  it
• 20:39
  and
• 20:39
  the
• 20:39
  stress
• 20:39
  is
• 20:40
  there
• 20:40
  and
• 20:40
  you're
• 20:40
  doing
• 20:41
  all
• 20:41
  the
• 20:41
  things.
• 20:42
  But
• 20:42
  there's
• 20:43
  some
• 20:43
  belief
• 20:44
  somewhere
• 20:45
  down
• 20:45
  deep
• 20:45
  inside
• 20:46
  that
• 20:47
  it
• 20:47
  should
• 20:47
  be
• 20:48
  easier
• 20:49
  or
• 20:49
  it
• 20:50
  shouldn't
• 20:50
  be
• 20:51
  this
• 20:51
  way,
• 20:51
  or
• 20:52
  I
• 20:53
  shouldn't
• 20:53
  feel
• 20:54
  this
• 20:54
  overwhelmed
• 20:55
  or
• 20:57
  I
• 20:57
  should
• 20:58
  be
• 20:58
  more
• 20:58
  organized
• 20:59
  or
• 20:59
  more
• 21:00
  on
• 21:00
  top
• 21:00
  of
• 21:00
  this
• 21:00
  or
• 21:01
  more
• 21:01
  whatever
• 21:01
  it
• 21:02
  may
• 21:02
  be,
• 21:02
  right?
• 21:02
  So
• 21:02
  there's
• 21:03
  usually
• 21:04
  something
• 21:04
  going
• 21:04
  on
• 21:05
  underneath
• 21:05
  the
• 21:06
  surface
• 21:06
  that
• 21:07
  again,
• 21:07
  is
• 21:07
  causing
• 21:09
  that
• 21:09
  added
• 21:10
  level
• 21:11
  of
• 21:11
  stress.
• 21:12
  Just
• 21:12
  helping
• 21:13
  people
• 21:13
  initially,
• 21:14
  really.
• 21:15
  Look
• 21:15
  at
• 21:16
  physicians.
• 21:17
  I
• 21:18
  work
• 21:18
  with
• 21:18
  a
• 21:18
  lot
• 21:18
  of
• 21:18
  physicians.
• 21:20
  What
• 21:20
  could
• 21:20
  be
• 21:21
  more
• 21:21
  stressful?
• 21:21
  People's
• 21:22
  lives
• 21:22
  are
• 21:22
  in
• 21:23
  your
• 21:23
  hands,
• 21:23
  right?
• 21:24
  So
• 21:25
  developing
• 21:26
  that
• 21:26
  muscle
• 21:27
  of
• 21:27
  accepting
• 21:28
  what
• 21:29
  really
• 21:29
  is
• 21:30
  unchangeable
• 21:31
  in
• 21:31
  this
• 21:32
  university
• 21:32
  you've
• 21:33
  chosen,
• 21:33
  right.
• 21:34
  And
• 21:35
  then
• 21:36
  looking
• 21:36
  at
• 21:37
  what
• 21:37
  you're
• 21:38
  bringing
• 21:38
  into
• 21:38
  it,
• 21:39
  that
• 21:39
  maybe
• 21:40
  is
• 21:40
  causing
• 21:41
  unnecessary
• 21:42
  stress
• 21:43
  or
• 21:43
  struggle.
• 21:44
  And
• 21:44
  then
• 21:45
  we
• 21:45
  work
• 21:45
  from
• 21:45
  there.
• 21:46
  I
• 21:47
  love
• 21:47
  that.
• 21:47
  It
• 21:48
  makes
• 21:48
  me
• 21:48
  think
• 21:48
  about
• 21:49
  in
• 21:50
  my
• 21:50
  founder
• 21:51
  circle,
• 21:51
  one
• 21:52
  of
• 21:52
  the
• 21:52
  things
• 21:52
  we
• 21:52
  do,
• 21:53
  we
• 21:53
  set
• 21:53
  a
• 21:53
  goal
• 21:53
  for
• 21:54
  the
• 21:54
  year
• 21:54
  and
• 21:54
  then
• 21:55
  you
• 21:55
  have
• 21:55
  your
• 21:55
  milestones
• 21:56
  and
• 21:56
  you
• 21:56
  have
• 21:56
  your
• 21:57
  KPIs
• 21:57
  that
• 21:57
  you
• 21:58
  track
• 21:58
  weekly
• 21:58
  and
• 21:58
  you
• 21:59
  have
• 21:59
  your
• 21:59
  goal,
• 21:59
  how
• 22:00
  many
• 22:00
  this
• 22:00
  or
• 22:00
  how
• 22:00
  many
• 22:01
  that
• 22:01
  you
• 22:01
  want
• 22:01
  to
• 22:02
  achieve
• 22:02
  each
• 22:02
  week.
• 22:03
  And
• 22:07
  whenever
• 22:07
  I've
• 22:07
  implemented
• 22:08
  this
• 22:08
  as
• 22:09
  well
• 22:09
  with
• 22:09
  my
• 22:10
  teams
• 22:10
  within
• 22:10
  my
• 22:11
  companies
• 22:12
  is
• 22:12
  the
• 22:13
  first
• 22:13
  thing
• 22:13
  that
• 22:13
  happens
• 22:14
  is
• 22:14
  people
• 22:14
  shrink
• 22:14
  up
• 22:15
  when
• 22:15
  they
• 22:15
  see
• 22:15
  the
• 22:15
  numbers.
• 22:16
  It's.
• 22:16
  Well,
• 22:16
  there's
• 22:17
  a
• 22:17
  number
• 22:18
  is
• 22:18
  supposed
• 22:19
  to
• 22:19
  be
• 22:19
  X,
• 22:21
  but
• 22:21
  it's
• 22:22
  Y,
• 22:24
  right?
• 22:24
  So
• 22:25
  like
• 22:25
  that
• 22:25
  idea.
• 22:26
  Okay.
• 22:26
  Would
• 22:26
  have
• 22:27
  liked
• 22:27
  to
• 22:27
  have
• 22:27
  done
• 22:28
  X
• 22:28
  number
• 22:29
  this
• 22:29
  week,
• 22:30
  but
• 22:30
  we
• 22:30
  didn't.
• 22:30
  We
• 22:31
  did
• 22:31
  a
• 22:31
  few
• 22:31
  Less.
• 22:33
  Right.
• 22:33
  So
• 22:33
  walk
• 22:34
  us
• 22:34
  through
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  practicality
• 22:36
  of
• 22:37
  being
• 22:37
  able
• 22:37
  to
• 22:38
  look
• 22:38
  at
• 22:39
  what
• 22:39
  is,
• 22:40
  say,
• 22:41
  you
• 22:41
  know,
• 22:41
  sales
• 22:42
  goal
• 22:42
  or
• 22:42
  something
• 22:42
  like
• 22:43
  that
• 22:43
  and
• 22:44
  have
• 22:45
  it
• 22:45
  be
• 22:45
  less
• 22:45
  than
• 22:46
  what
• 22:46
  it's
• 22:46
  supposed
• 22:46
  to
• 22:47
  be
• 22:47
  and
• 22:48
  still
• 22:48
  find
• 22:48
  a
• 22:48
  way
• 22:49
  to
• 22:49
  move
• 22:49
  forward
• 22:49
  but
• 22:49
  not
• 22:50
  have
• 22:50
  to
• 22:50
  make
• 22:50
  it
• 22:51
  so
• 22:51
  hard.
• 22:52
  Right.
• 22:53
  Well,
• 22:53
  notice
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  use
• 22:54
  the
• 22:55
  term
• 22:55
  shrink
• 22:55
  up.
• 22:58
  So
• 22:58
  something
• 22:59
  has
• 22:59
  happened.
• 23:01
  A
• 23:01
  number
• 23:01
  isn't
• 23:02
  as
• 23:02
  high
• 23:02
  as
• 23:02
  you'd
• 23:03
  like
• 23:03
  it
• 23:03
  to
• 23:03
  be.
• 23:04
  That's
• 23:04
  a
• 23:05
  fact.
• 23:06
  Right.
• 23:07
  Okay.
• 23:08
  You're
• 23:08
  allowed
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  be
• 23:09
  upset
• 23:09
  about
• 23:09
  it.
• 23:10
  I'm
• 23:10
  not
• 23:10
  saying
• 23:11
  you're
• 23:11
  never
• 23:11
  going
• 23:12
  to
• 23:12
  react
• 23:12
  to
• 23:13
  anything.
• 23:13
  In
• 23:14
  fact,
• 23:14
  it's
• 23:14
  really
• 23:15
  important
• 23:16
  that
• 23:16
  you
• 23:16
  do
• 23:17
  give
• 23:17
  yourself
• 23:17
  the
• 23:18
  space
• 23:18
  to
• 23:19
  have
• 23:20
  whatever
• 23:20
  initial
• 23:21
  reaction
• 23:22
  and
• 23:22
  feelings
• 23:23
  that
• 23:23
  you
• 23:23
  have,
• 23:24
  whether
• 23:24
  it's
• 23:26
  anger,
• 23:26
  whether
• 23:27
  it's
• 23:27
  fear,
• 23:28
  whether
• 23:28
  it's
• 23:29
  sadness,
• 23:29
  whatever
• 23:30
  it
• 23:30
  may
• 23:30
  be.
• 23:30
  It's
• 23:31
  actually
• 23:31
  really
• 23:31
  important
• 23:32
  to
• 23:32
  take
• 23:32
  that
• 23:33
  pause
• 23:34
  to
• 23:34
  say,
• 23:36
  we
• 23:36
  wanted
• 23:36
  it
• 23:36
  to
• 23:36
  be
• 23:37
  X,
• 23:37
  but
• 23:37
  it's
• 23:37
  Y.
• 23:38
  I
• 23:38
  am
• 23:39
  therefore
• 23:41
  worried.
• 23:42
  Okay?
• 23:42
  Feel
• 23:43
  worried.
• 23:44
  It's
• 23:45
  okay.
• 23:46
  Now
• 23:46
  what
• 23:46
  are
• 23:46
  we
• 23:47
  going
• 23:47
  to
• 23:47
  do
• 23:47
  about
• 23:47
  it?
• 23:48
  Right?
• 23:48
  And
• 23:48
  from
• 23:48
  this
• 23:49
  clearer,
• 23:51
  more
• 23:52
  capable
• 23:53
  place,
• 23:53
  because
• 23:53
  now
• 23:54
  you're
• 23:54
  not
• 23:54
  shrinking
• 23:55
  up
• 23:55
  right
• 23:55
  now.
• 23:56
  You're
• 23:56
  not
• 23:56
  saying,
• 23:57
  I
• 23:57
  suck.
• 23:57
  I
• 23:58
  never
• 23:58
  should
• 23:58
  have
• 23:59
  done
• 23:59
  this
• 23:59
  to
• 23:59
  begin
• 23:59
  with.
• 24:00
  Who
• 24:00
  do
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  think
• 24:01
  I
• 24:01
  am
• 24:02
  that
• 24:02
  I
• 24:02
  think
• 24:02
  I
• 24:02
  can
• 24:03
  pull
• 24:03
  this
• 24:03
  off?
• 24:05
  They
• 24:05
  were
• 24:05
  all
• 24:05
  right
• 24:06
  about
• 24:06
  me,
• 24:06
  those
• 24:07
  horrible
• 24:07
  people
• 24:07
  I
• 24:08
  knew
• 24:08
  back
• 24:08
  in,
• 24:09
  earlier
• 24:09
  in
• 24:09
  my
• 24:09
  life
• 24:09
  who
• 24:10
  said
• 24:10
  I'd
• 24:10
  never
• 24:10
  amount
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  anything.
• 24:11
  Whatever
• 24:12
  the
• 24:12
  dialogue
• 24:13
  is
• 24:13
  that
• 24:14
  you're
• 24:14
  having
• 24:15
  tends
• 24:16
  to
• 24:16
  be
• 24:17
  unhelpful.
• 24:18
  Right.
• 24:19
  And
• 24:20
  you
• 24:20
  don't
• 24:20
  want
• 24:21
  to
• 24:21
  be
• 24:21
  in
• 24:21
  that
• 24:22
  situation
• 24:22
  when
• 24:23
  you've
• 24:23
  got
• 24:23
  a
• 24:23
  big
• 24:23
  job
• 24:24
  to
• 24:24
  do.
• 24:24
  You
• 24:25
  want
• 24:25
  to
• 24:25
  be
• 24:25
  able
• 24:25
  to
• 24:25
  say,
• 24:26
  okay,
• 24:26
  this
• 24:27
  didn't
• 24:27
  go
• 24:27
  as
• 24:28
  planned.
• 24:28
  I'm
• 24:29
  going
• 24:29
  to
• 24:29
  be
• 24:29
  upset
• 24:29
  about
• 24:29
  it
• 24:30
  for
• 24:30
  a
• 24:30
  moment.
• 24:31
  Then
• 24:31
  I'm
• 24:31
  going
• 24:32
  to
• 24:33
  get
• 24:33
  clear,
• 24:34
  get
• 24:34
  grounded
• 24:35
  and
• 24:36
  ask
• 24:36
  myself
• 24:37
  some
• 24:37
  hard
• 24:37
  questions.
• 24:38
  What
• 24:38
  could
• 24:38
  I
• 24:38
  do
• 24:39
  differently?
• 24:39
  Yep.
• 24:40
  Yeah.
• 24:41
  Why
• 24:41
  do
• 24:41
  I
• 24:41
  think
• 24:42
  we
• 24:42
  didn't
• 24:42
  meet
• 24:42
  our
• 24:42
  numbers?
• 24:43
  And
• 24:44
  where
• 24:44
  might
• 24:44
  the
• 24:44
  problems
• 24:45
  lie
• 24:45
  and
• 24:45
  where
• 24:46
  might
• 24:46
  the
• 24:46
  solutions
• 24:47
  lie?
• 24:47
  So
• 24:47
  there's
• 24:48
  all
• 24:48
  kinds
• 24:48
  of
• 24:49
  ways
• 24:49
  to
• 24:49
  go
• 24:49
  about
• 24:50
  correcting
• 24:52
  a
• 24:52
  situation.
• 24:53
  And
• 24:53
  this
• 24:54
  happened.
• 24:54
  This
• 24:54
  is
• 24:54
  true
• 24:54
  in
• 24:55
  your
• 24:55
  personal
• 24:55
  light,
• 24:55
  right?
• 24:56
  Like,
• 24:56
  totally.
• 24:57
  You
• 24:57
  know,
• 24:57
  this
• 24:58
  is
• 24:58
  true.
• 24:58
  So
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  talk
• 24:59
  about
• 25:00
  in
• 25:00
  your
• 25:00
  book,
• 25:00
  you
• 25:01
  say,
• 25:01
  meet
• 25:01
  your
• 25:02
  Lola.
• 25:04
  Right?
• 25:05
  So
• 25:05
  talk
• 25:06
  to
• 25:06
  us
• 25:06
  about
• 25:06
  Lola.
• 25:07
  Because
• 25:07
  what
• 25:08
  I
• 25:08
  love
• 25:08
  about
• 25:08
  this
• 25:09
  is
• 25:09
  that
• 25:11
  when
• 25:11
  we
• 25:11
  can
• 25:11
  start
• 25:12
  to
• 25:12
  identify
• 25:13
  our
• 25:13
  Lola,
• 25:14
  and
• 25:14
  I
• 25:15
  have
• 25:15
  one,
• 25:15
  and
• 25:15
  I
• 25:15
  love
• 25:16
  that
• 25:16
  yours
• 25:16
  is
• 25:16
  Lola.
• 25:17
  I'll
• 25:17
  call
• 25:17
  mine
• 25:18
  Francine.
• 25:18
  I
• 25:18
  was
• 25:18
  going
• 25:19
  to
• 25:19
  ask
• 25:19
  you,
• 25:19
  you.
• 25:20
  Know,
• 25:20
  like
• 25:20
  mine
• 25:21
  is
• 25:21
  going
• 25:21
  to,
• 25:21
  you
• 25:21
  know,
• 25:22
  whenever
• 25:22
  I'm
• 25:22
  down,
• 25:23
  will
• 25:23
  tell
• 25:23
  me
• 25:23
  to
• 25:23
  work
• 25:23
  harder.
• 25:24
  It's
• 25:25
  my
• 25:25
  fault.
• 25:26
  Yes.
• 25:26
  I
• 25:27
  am
• 25:27
  ashamed
• 25:27
  of
• 25:27
  always
• 25:28
  my
• 25:28
  fault.
• 25:29
  That's
• 25:29
  one
• 25:29
  of
• 25:29
  mine.
• 25:29
  It's
• 25:30
  always
• 25:30
  my
• 25:30
  fault.
• 25:31
  Right.
• 25:31
  And
• 25:31
  it.
• 25:31
  For
• 25:32
  me,
• 25:32
  it
• 25:32
  all
• 25:32
  kind
• 25:32
  of
• 25:33
  boils
• 25:33
  down
• 25:33
  to
• 25:33
  this.
• 25:34
  I'm
• 25:34
  not
• 25:34
  good
• 25:34
  enough
• 25:34
  or
• 25:35
  I'm
• 25:35
  not
• 25:35
  enough
• 25:35
  or
• 25:36
  something
• 25:36
  isn't
• 25:36
  enough.
• 25:37
  And.
• 25:39
  And
• 25:40
  so
• 25:40
  talk
• 25:40
  to
• 25:40
  us
• 25:41
  about
• 25:41
  the
• 25:41
  inner
• 25:41
  critic
• 25:42
  and
• 25:42
  how
• 25:42
  she
• 25:42
  shows
• 25:42
  up
• 25:43
  in
• 25:44
  all
• 25:44
  the
• 25:44
  different
• 25:44
  places
• 25:45
  and
• 25:45
  how
• 25:46
  she's
• 25:46
  shaping
• 25:46
  us
• 25:47
  as
• 25:47
  founders,
• 25:48
  as
• 25:48
  leaders,
• 25:49
  as
• 25:51
  business
• 25:51
  women,
• 25:52
  and
• 25:52
  as
• 25:52
  moms
• 25:53
  and
• 25:54
  partners.
• 25:55
  Yeah.
• 25:56
  So
• 25:56
  Lola
• 25:57
  is
• 25:57
  the
• 25:57
  name
• 25:58
  that
• 25:58
  I
• 25:58
  gave
• 25:58
  to
• 25:59
  my
• 25:59
  inner
• 25:59
  critic.
• 26:00
  And
• 26:00
  there's
• 26:01
  another
• 26:01
  book
• 26:02
  that
• 26:02
  I
• 26:02
  love,
• 26:03
  something
• 26:03
  about
• 26:04
  taming
• 26:04
  your
• 26:05
  inner
• 26:05
  mean
• 26:05
  girl.
• 26:06
  And
• 26:07
  that
• 26:07
  was
• 26:07
  where
• 26:08
  I
• 26:08
  got
• 26:08
  the
• 26:08
  idea,
• 26:10
  which
• 26:10
  I
• 26:10
  then
• 26:11
  read
• 26:11
  all
• 26:11
  kinds
• 26:12
  of
• 26:12
  things
• 26:12
  that
• 26:12
  sort
• 26:13
  of
• 26:13
  backed
• 26:13
  this
• 26:13
  up
• 26:14
  in
• 26:14
  terms
• 26:14
  of
• 26:14
  the
• 26:14
  science
• 26:15
  of
• 26:16
  naming
• 26:17
  your
• 26:17
  inner
• 26:17
  critic
• 26:18
  and
• 26:18
  giving
• 26:19
  her
• 26:20
  a
• 26:21
  Persona,
• 26:21
  giving
• 26:22
  her
• 26:22
  a
• 26:23
  look
• 26:23
  and
• 26:23
  a
• 26:23
  style
• 26:24
  and,
• 26:25
  you
• 26:25
  know,
• 26:25
  a
• 26:25
  whole
• 26:26
  personality,
• 26:27
  and
• 26:28
  separating
• 26:28
  yourself
• 26:29
  from
• 26:30
  her.
• 26:30
  Right.
• 26:31
  Accepting
• 26:32
  that
• 26:32
  she
• 26:33
  is
• 26:33
  a
• 26:33
  part
• 26:33
  of
• 26:34
  you,
• 26:34
  but
• 26:34
  she's
• 26:35
  not
• 26:35
  you.
• 26:36
  Right.
• 26:37
  And
• 26:37
  so
• 26:37
  just
• 26:37
  having
• 26:38
  a
• 26:38
  little
• 26:38
  bit
• 26:38
  of
• 26:39
  that
• 26:39
  distance
• 26:39
  is
• 26:40
  super
• 26:40
  helpful
• 26:41
  and
• 26:42
  having
• 26:42
  the
• 26:42
  framework
• 26:43
  of
• 26:45
  really
• 26:46
  getting
• 26:46
  to
• 26:46
  know
• 26:46
  her.
• 26:46
  So
• 26:47
  I
• 26:47
  spend
• 26:47
  time
• 26:47
  in
• 26:48
  the
• 26:48
  book
• 26:48
  saying,
• 26:48
  like,
• 26:48
  get
• 26:49
  acquainted
• 26:49
  with
• 26:49
  your
• 26:49
  inner
• 26:50
  critic.
• 26:50
  And
• 26:50
  then
• 26:50
  a
• 26:51
  few
• 26:51
  chapters
• 26:51
  later,
• 26:51
  it's
• 26:52
  like,
• 26:52
  let's
• 26:52
  get
• 26:52
  better
• 26:53
  acquainted
• 26:53
  with
• 26:53
  your
• 26:54
  inner
• 26:54
  critic.
• 26:54
  Because
• 26:55
  the
• 26:55
  more
• 26:56
  you
• 26:56
  really
• 26:56
  know
• 26:57
  who
• 26:58
  she
• 26:58
  is,
• 26:59
  what
• 26:59
  she
• 27:00
  says,
• 27:01
  when
• 27:01
  she
• 27:02
  tends
• 27:02
  to
• 27:02
  show
• 27:02
  up,
• 27:03
  you
• 27:03
  know
• 27:03
  what
• 27:03
  your
• 27:04
  triggers
• 27:04
  are
• 27:05
  and
• 27:05
  what
• 27:05
  your
• 27:07
  reactions
• 27:07
  are,
• 27:08
  Right?
• 27:08
  The
• 27:08
  impact
• 27:09
  that
• 27:09
  this
• 27:09
  has
• 27:10
  in
• 27:10
  your
• 27:10
  life,
• 27:11
  the
• 27:11
  more
• 27:11
  you
• 27:11
  really
• 27:11
  understand
• 27:12
  those
• 27:12
  patterns,
• 27:14
  the
• 27:15
  more
• 27:15
  equipped
• 27:15
  you
• 27:16
  are
• 27:16
  to
• 27:17
  recognize
• 27:17
  them
• 27:18
  a
• 27:18
  lot
• 27:19
  sooner
• 27:20
  and
• 27:21
  diffuse
• 27:22
  the
• 27:22
  situation
• 27:23
  much
• 27:23
  more
• 27:24
  quickly.
• 27:24
  Right.
• 27:25
  So
• 27:25
  rather
• 27:25
  than
• 27:26
  spending
• 27:26
  an
• 27:26
  entire
• 27:27
  day
• 27:28
  kind
• 27:28
  of
• 27:28
  spiraling
• 27:29
  and
• 27:29
  reacting
• 27:30
  in
• 27:30
  ways
• 27:32
  that
• 27:32
  are
• 27:32
  unhelpful,
• 27:33
  you
• 27:34
  can
• 27:34
  sort
• 27:34
  of
• 27:34
  pause,
• 27:35
  notice
• 27:36
  what's
• 27:36
  happening
• 27:36
  up.
• 27:37
  My
• 27:37
  inner
• 27:37
  critic's
• 27:38
  on
• 27:38
  the
• 27:38
  scene.
• 27:39
  She's
• 27:39
  telling
• 27:39
  me
• 27:40
  I
• 27:40
  didn't
• 27:40
  meet
• 27:40
  my
• 27:40
  numbers,
• 27:41
  and
• 27:41
  therefore
• 27:43
  I'm
• 27:43
  destined
• 27:43
  for
• 27:44
  failure.
• 27:45
  And
• 27:45
  now
• 27:46
  I
• 27:46
  have
• 27:46
  felt
• 27:47
  very
• 27:47
  irritable
• 27:48
  all
• 27:48
  day.
• 27:49
  I've
• 27:49
  been
• 27:49
  snapping
• 27:50
  at
• 27:50
  everyone
• 27:51
  on
• 27:51
  my
• 27:52
  team
• 27:52
  and
• 27:52
  in
• 27:53
  my
• 27:53
  life.
• 27:54
  Some
• 27:54
  people
• 27:55
  get
• 27:55
  aggressive
• 27:56
  like
• 27:56
  that.
• 27:56
  Other
• 27:57
  people,
• 27:57
  like,
• 27:57
  crawl
• 27:58
  into
• 27:58
  bed,
• 27:58
  and
• 27:59
  they're
• 27:59
  just
• 27:59
  like,
• 27:59
  I
• 28:00
  can't
• 28:00
  do
• 28:00
  this.
• 28:00
  And
• 28:01
  they,
• 28:01
  you
• 28:01
  know,
• 28:01
  I
• 28:01
  doubt
• 28:01
  that
• 28:02
  that's
• 28:02
  your
• 28:03
  people,
• 28:03
  because
• 28:04
  they're
• 28:04
  not.
• 28:04
  But,
• 28:05
  you
• 28:05
  know,
• 28:06
  everyone's
• 28:06
  are.
• 28:07
  So
• 28:07
  learning
• 28:07
  how
• 28:08
  to
• 28:08
  understand
• 28:09
  how
• 28:09
  it
• 28:10
  impacts
• 28:10
  you
• 28:11
  as
• 28:11
  an
• 28:11
  individual,
• 28:12
  and
• 28:12
  then
• 28:14
  what
• 28:14
  tools
• 28:15
  you
• 28:15
  want
• 28:15
  to
• 28:16
  pull
• 28:16
  out
• 28:16
  of
• 28:16
  the
• 28:17
  toolkit
• 28:17
  to
• 28:17
  deal
• 28:18
  with
• 28:18
  it
• 28:18
  in
• 28:18
  that
• 28:18
  moment,
• 28:20
  just
• 28:20
  to
• 28:20
  say,
• 28:21
  okay,
• 28:21
  Lola.
• 28:22
  So
• 28:22
  for
• 28:22
  me,
• 28:23
  let's
• 28:23
  say,
• 28:25
  when
• 28:25
  has
• 28:25
  she
• 28:25
  shown
• 28:26
  up
• 28:26
  recently?
• 28:26
  She
• 28:26
  doesn't
• 28:27
  show
• 28:27
  up
• 28:27
  as
• 28:27
  much
• 28:27
  as
• 28:28
  she
• 28:28
  used
• 28:28
  to,
• 28:29
  which
• 28:29
  is
• 28:29
  great,
• 28:30
  right?
• 28:31
  She
• 28:31
  doesn't.
• 28:32
  Hijack
• 28:32
  the
• 28:32
  whole
• 28:33
  show
• 28:33
  anymore,
• 28:34
  right?
• 28:34
  No,
• 28:35
  but,
• 28:35
  like,
• 28:35
  I
• 28:36
  might
• 28:36
  notice
• 28:36
  that
• 28:37
  I'm
• 28:37
  being
• 28:37
  a
• 28:37
  little
• 28:38
  frenetic,
• 28:38
  right?
• 28:38
  I'm
• 28:39
  doing
• 28:39
  one
• 28:39
  thing
• 28:39
  and
• 28:39
  then
• 28:40
  I'm
• 28:40
  doing
• 28:40
  another
• 28:40
  thing,
• 28:41
  and
• 28:41
  then
• 28:41
  I'm
• 28:41
  dropping
• 28:42
  that
• 28:42
  and
• 28:42
  I'm
• 28:42
  turning
• 28:43
  to
• 28:43
  something
• 28:43
  else.
• 28:44
  And
• 28:44
  that
• 28:44
  usually
• 28:45
  means,
• 28:45
  like,
• 28:45
  there's
• 28:46
  a
• 28:46
  lack
• 28:46
  of
• 28:46
  clarity
• 28:47
  and
• 28:47
  maybe
• 28:47
  a
• 28:48
  lack
• 28:48
  of
• 28:48
  confidence
• 28:49
  about,
• 28:50
  you
• 28:50
  know,
• 28:50
  the
• 28:51
  thing
• 28:51
  I
• 28:51
  really
• 28:52
  want
• 28:52
  to
• 28:52
  be
• 28:52
  doing.
• 28:53
  And
• 28:54
  so
• 28:54
  I've
• 28:54
  learned
• 28:54
  that
• 28:55
  over
• 28:55
  the
• 28:56
  years
• 28:56
  by
• 28:56
  getting
• 28:57
  very
• 28:57
  acquainted
• 28:58
  with
• 28:58
  my
• 28:59
  own
• 28:59
  patterns
• 28:59
  and
• 29:00
  with
• 29:00
  the
• 29:00
  way
• 29:00
  my
• 29:00
  critic
• 29:01
  shows
• 29:01
  up.
• 29:02
  Right?
• 29:02
  So
• 29:02
  then
• 29:02
  I
• 29:02
  might
• 29:03
  pause
• 29:03
  and
• 29:03
  say,
• 29:04
  hmm,
• 29:04
  I'm
• 29:05
  doing
• 29:05
  that
• 29:05
  frenetic
• 29:06
  thing
• 29:06
  again.
• 29:07
  Right.
• 29:08
  Oh,
• 29:08
  my
• 29:08
  God.
• 29:08
  I
• 29:08
  just
• 29:09
  have
• 29:09
  to
• 29:09
  stop
• 29:09
  you
• 29:09
  for
• 29:09
  a
• 29:09
  second
• 29:10
  because
• 29:10
  I
• 29:11
  see
• 29:11
  this.
• 29:11
  I
• 29:11
  see
• 29:12
  it
• 29:12
  in
• 29:12
  myself,
• 29:12
  but
• 29:13
  I
• 29:13
  also
• 29:13
  see
• 29:13
  it
• 29:14
  so
• 29:14
  clearly
• 29:15
  when
• 29:16
  a
• 29:17
  founder
• 29:18
  is
• 29:20
  trying
• 29:20
  to
• 29:20
  break
• 29:21
  through
• 29:21
  on
• 29:21
  something
• 29:22
  and
• 29:22
  will
• 29:23
  go
• 29:24
  look
• 29:24
  around
• 29:24
  at
• 29:24
  all
• 29:25
  the
• 29:25
  other
• 29:25
  places
• 29:26
  other
• 29:27
  than
• 29:27
  the
• 29:27
  place,
• 29:28
  because
• 29:28
  the
• 29:29
  thing
• 29:29
  you
• 29:29
  gotta
• 29:29
  go
• 29:29
  do
• 29:30
  that's
• 29:30
  more
• 29:30
  important
• 29:31
  that
• 29:31
  she's
• 29:32
  wanting
• 29:32
  to
• 29:33
  do.
• 29:33
  There's
• 29:34
  something
• 29:34
  about
• 29:34
  it
• 29:34
  that's
• 29:35
  still
• 29:35
  scary,
• 29:36
  right?
• 29:37
  It's
• 29:37
  scary.
• 29:38
  And
• 29:39
  oftentimes
• 29:40
  again,
• 29:40
  it
• 29:40
  can
• 29:41
  be
• 29:41
  masked,
• 29:42
  like
• 29:42
  the
• 29:42
  fear.
• 29:43
  You
• 29:43
  don't
• 29:43
  know
• 29:43
  it's
• 29:44
  fear,
• 29:44
  Right.
• 29:45
  It
• 29:45
  shows
• 29:45
  up
• 29:45
  as
• 29:46
  procrastination.
• 29:47
  It
• 29:47
  shows
• 29:48
  up
• 29:48
  as,
• 29:49
  oh,
• 29:49
  but
• 29:49
  I
• 29:49
  still
• 29:50
  have
• 29:50
  to,
• 29:50
  you
• 29:50
  know,
• 29:51
  sign
• 29:51
  my
• 29:51
  kids
• 29:51
  up
• 29:51
  for
• 29:52
  the
• 29:52
  thing
• 29:52
  and
• 29:53
  call
• 29:53
  this
• 29:54
  doctor.
• 29:54
  All
• 29:54
  of
• 29:54
  a
• 29:54
  sudden
• 29:55
  you're
• 29:55
  doing
• 29:55
  all
• 29:55
  these
• 29:55
  other
• 29:55
  things.
• 29:57
  So
• 29:57
  understanding
• 29:58
  that
• 29:58
  that
• 29:59
  can
• 29:59
  be
• 30:00
  a
• 30:00
  coping
• 30:01
  strategy
• 30:02
  that
• 30:03
  is
• 30:03
  there
• 30:04
  because
• 30:04
  remember,
• 30:05
  the
• 30:05
  inner
• 30:05
  critic,
• 30:06
  as
• 30:06
  cruel
• 30:07
  or
• 30:07
  harsh
• 30:08
  as
• 30:08
  she
• 30:08
  may
• 30:08
  be,
• 30:09
  and
• 30:10
  sometimes
• 30:10
  she's
• 30:10
  not
• 30:11
  mine
• 30:11
  is.
• 30:12
  Some
• 30:12
  of
• 30:12
  them
• 30:13
  are.
• 30:13
  But
• 30:14
  she's
• 30:14
  there
• 30:15
  to
• 30:15
  protect
• 30:15
  you.
• 30:16
  Yes.
• 30:16
  To
• 30:17
  keep
• 30:17
  you
• 30:17
  safe.
• 30:18
  Yes.
• 30:18
  And
• 30:19
  so
• 30:19
  there
• 30:19
  is
• 30:19
  usually
• 30:20
  something
• 30:20
  you
• 30:21
  might
• 30:21
  be
• 30:21
  avoiding.
• 30:22
  Right.
• 30:22
  If
• 30:23
  you're
• 30:23
  getting
• 30:23
  into
• 30:23
  that
• 30:24
  pattern.
• 30:25
  And
• 30:25
  it
• 30:25
  doesn't
• 30:25
  have
• 30:26
  to
• 30:26
  be
• 30:26
  like,
• 30:26
  I'm
• 30:27
  terrified.
• 30:27
  It's
• 30:28
  just
• 30:28
  something
• 30:29
  that,
• 30:29
  you
• 30:30
  know,
• 30:31
  on
• 30:31
  a
• 30:31
  subtle
• 30:31
  level,
• 30:32
  you're
• 30:33
  avoiding.
• 30:33
  And
• 30:34
  so
• 30:34
  to
• 30:34
  know
• 30:35
  that
• 30:35
  about
• 30:35
  yourself,
• 30:36
  right.
• 30:36
  To
• 30:36
  be
• 30:37
  equipped
• 30:37
  with
• 30:37
  this
• 30:38
  information,
• 30:39
  Information
• 30:40
  is
• 30:40
  power,
• 30:41
  right?
• 30:41
  Now,
• 30:41
  you
• 30:42
  know,
• 30:42
  you
• 30:42
  can
• 30:42
  do
• 30:42
  something
• 30:43
  about
• 30:43
  it,
• 30:44
  and
• 30:44
  you
• 30:45
  don't
• 30:45
  have
• 30:45
  to
• 30:45
  waste
• 30:45
  the
• 30:46
  entire
• 30:46
  day.
• 30:46
  You
• 30:47
  can
• 30:47
  get
• 30:47
  to
• 30:47
  it
• 30:48
  a
• 30:48
  lot
• 30:48
  sooner.
• 30:49
  And
• 30:50
  with
• 30:50
  that
• 30:50
  calm,
• 30:51
  clear,
• 30:53
  capable
• 30:53
  energy
• 30:54
  that
• 30:54
  you
• 30:55
  have
• 30:55
  underneath
• 30:56
  all
• 30:56
  the
• 30:56
  other.
• 30:56
  Stuff,
• 30:58
  totally
• 30:59
  the
• 30:59
  inner
• 31:00
  voice,
• 31:00
  knowing
• 31:01
  voice.
• 31:02
  And
• 31:03
  tell
• 31:03
  us
• 31:04
  about
• 31:04
  her.
• 31:06
  So
• 31:07
  the
• 31:08
  inner
• 31:08
  knowing.
• 31:09
  I've
• 31:09
  named
• 31:09
  mine
• 31:10
  Leia,
• 31:10
  who
• 31:11
  I
• 31:11
  named
• 31:11
  after
• 31:11
  my
• 31:12
  mother,
• 31:12
  who's
• 31:12
  the
• 31:13
  best
• 31:13
  person
• 31:13
  ever.
• 31:14
  I
• 31:15
  miss
• 31:15
  her.
• 31:15
  She's
• 31:16
  been
• 31:16
  gone
• 31:16
  a
• 31:17
  long
• 31:17
  time
• 31:17
  now,
• 31:17
  but
• 31:18
  she's
• 31:18
  very
• 31:18
  much
• 31:19
  here
• 31:20
  with
• 31:20
  me.
• 31:21
  And
• 31:22
  when
• 31:22
  I
• 31:23
  really
• 31:23
  need
• 31:24
  that
• 31:24
  kind
• 31:24
  of
• 31:24
  support,
• 31:26
  that's
• 31:26
  where
• 31:26
  I
• 31:26
  go.
• 31:27
  So
• 31:27
  my
• 31:27
  inner
• 31:28
  knowing
• 31:28
  is
• 31:28
  like
• 31:29
  my
• 31:29
  own
• 31:29
  little
• 31:29
  version
• 31:31
  of
• 31:31
  my
• 31:31
  mom.
• 31:32
  Yours
• 31:32
  can
• 31:33
  be.
• 31:34
  It
• 31:34
  can
• 31:34
  be
• 31:34
  anyone.
• 31:35
  It
• 31:35
  can
• 31:35
  be
• 31:35
  anything.
• 31:36
  It's
• 31:36
  a
• 31:36
  spirit,
• 31:37
  it's
• 31:37
  a
• 31:37
  force.
• 31:38
  It's
• 31:38
  intuition.
• 31:39
  It's,
• 31:40
  you
• 31:40
  know,
• 31:41
  nature.
• 31:41
  It's
• 31:41
  all
• 31:42
  kinds
• 31:42
  of
• 31:42
  things,
• 31:42
  right?
• 31:43
  But
• 31:43
  the
• 31:43
  good
• 31:44
  stuff,
• 31:44
  the
• 31:44
  loving,
• 31:45
  caring,
• 31:47
  the
• 31:47
  wise,
• 31:49
  the
• 31:50
  unbothered
• 31:51
  by
• 31:51
  all
• 31:52
  the
• 31:52
  noise,
• 31:52
  right?
• 31:53
  There's
• 31:53
  a
• 31:53
  stillness.
• 31:54
  There's
• 31:54
  an
• 31:55
  essence
• 31:55
  there,
• 31:56
  and
• 31:56
  we
• 31:56
  all
• 31:57
  have
• 31:57
  it,
• 31:57
  right?
• 31:58
  So
• 31:59
  just,
• 31:59
  like,
• 31:59
  it's
• 32:00
  easier,
• 32:00
  I
• 32:01
  think,
• 32:01
  to
• 32:01
  interact
• 32:02
  with
• 32:02
  the
• 32:02
  inner
• 32:03
  critic
• 32:03
  when
• 32:03
  she's
• 32:04
  someone
• 32:04
  else.
• 32:05
  For
• 32:05
  me,
• 32:05
  it
• 32:05
  was
• 32:05
  easier
• 32:06
  to
• 32:06
  make
• 32:06
  that
• 32:06
  inner
• 32:07
  knowing
• 32:08
  an
• 32:08
  older,
• 32:09
  wiser
• 32:09
  version
• 32:09
  of
• 32:10
  my
• 32:10
  mother.
• 32:11
  But
• 32:12
  that
• 32:12
  voice
• 32:13
  is
• 32:13
  so
• 32:14
  much
• 32:14
  quieter
• 32:15
  and
• 32:16
  can
• 32:17
  be
• 32:17
  much
• 32:17
  harder
• 32:18
  to
• 32:18
  access.
• 32:19
  So
• 32:20
  it
• 32:20
  does
• 32:20
  take
• 32:21
  practice,
• 32:23
  it
• 32:23
  takes
• 32:24
  patience,
• 32:25
  but
• 32:25
  we've
• 32:25
  all
• 32:25
  got
• 32:26
  it.
• 32:26
  Like,
• 32:26
  you've
• 32:27
  had
• 32:27
  those
• 32:27
  moments
• 32:28
  where
• 32:29
  you
• 32:29
  just
• 32:30
  know
• 32:31
  something.
• 32:33
  You
• 32:33
  just
• 32:33
  know
• 32:34
  it.
• 32:36
  And
• 32:37
  it
• 32:37
  could
• 32:37
  be
• 32:37
  a
• 32:37
  vision,
• 32:38
  it
• 32:38
  could
• 32:39
  be
• 32:39
  a
• 32:39
  phrase
• 32:39
  that
• 32:40
  erupts
• 32:41
  some
• 32:41
  out
• 32:41
  of
• 32:41
  nowhere
• 32:42
  in
• 32:42
  your
• 32:42
  mind.
• 32:43
  It
• 32:43
  could
• 32:44
  be
• 32:44
  a
• 32:44
  moment
• 32:44
  that,
• 32:45
  you
• 32:45
  know,
• 32:45
  you're
• 32:45
  walking
• 32:46
  and
• 32:46
  the
• 32:46
  breeze
• 32:47
  hits
• 32:47
  you
• 32:47
  a
• 32:47
  certain
• 32:47
  way,
• 32:48
  and
• 32:48
  suddenly
• 32:48
  it
• 32:48
  feels
• 32:49
  like
• 32:49
  a
• 32:49
  message.
• 32:49
  You're
• 32:50
  like.
• 32:50
  And
• 32:51
  you
• 32:51
  might
• 32:51
  be
• 32:51
  quick
• 32:51
  to
• 32:52
  dismiss
• 32:52
  it,
• 32:52
  too,
• 32:53
  because
• 32:53
  it's
• 32:53
  not
• 32:53
  very
• 32:54
  Western,
• 32:55
  you
• 32:56
  know,
• 32:56
  it's
• 32:56
  not
• 32:56
  the
• 32:57
  way
• 32:57
  we
• 32:57
  were
• 32:58
  all
• 32:58
  raised,
• 32:59
  but
• 33:00
  it's
• 33:01
  powerful.
• 33:02
  I
• 33:03
  couldn't
• 33:03
  agree
• 33:03
  with
• 33:03
  you
• 33:04
  more.
• 33:04
  I
• 33:04
  mean,
• 33:04
  maybe
• 33:05
  it's
• 33:05
  part
• 33:05
  of
• 33:05
  why
• 33:05
  we've
• 33:06
  always
• 33:07
  been
• 33:07
  attracted
• 33:08
  to
• 33:08
  each
• 33:08
  other.
• 33:09
  Tall.
• 33:09
  Because
• 33:10
  we're
• 33:10
  both.
• 33:11
  We're
• 33:12
  both,
• 33:12
  you
• 33:12
  know,
• 33:13
  analytical,
• 33:13
  intelligent,
• 33:15
  ambitious.
• 33:17
  We,
• 33:17
  you
• 33:18
  know,
• 33:18
  and
• 33:18
  at
• 33:18
  the
• 33:19
  same
• 33:19
  time,
• 33:20
  we
• 33:20
  have
• 33:20
  a
• 33:20
  deep
• 33:21
  connection
• 33:21
  to
• 33:22
  our
• 33:22
  spirit,
• 33:23
  to
• 33:23
  our
• 33:23
  inner
• 33:23
  knowing.
• 33:24
  And,
• 33:25
  you
• 33:25
  know,
• 33:25
  this
• 33:25
  is
• 33:25
  why
• 33:26
  I
• 33:26
  started
• 33:26
  the
• 33:26
  Wisdom
• 33:26
  of
• 33:27
  Women
• 33:27
  show.
• 33:27
  Because
• 33:27
  I
• 33:28
  believe
• 33:28
  that
• 33:29
  what
• 33:29
  the.
• 33:29
  What.
• 33:29
  What.
• 33:30
  What
• 33:30
  businesses
• 33:31
  need
• 33:31
  most
• 33:32
  is
• 33:32
  wisdom.
• 33:33
  And
• 33:34
  that
• 33:34
  idea
• 33:35
  of
• 33:35
  moving
• 33:35
  out
• 33:36
  of
• 33:36
  the
• 33:36
  head
• 33:37
  and
• 33:37
  into
• 33:37
  the
• 33:38
  body,
• 33:38
  into
• 33:38
  the
• 33:39
  spirit,
• 33:39
  into
• 33:39
  the
• 33:40
  heart,
• 33:41
  where
• 33:41
  we
• 33:41
  make
• 33:41
  our
• 33:41
  big
• 33:41
  decisions
• 33:42
  and
• 33:42
  then
• 33:42
  use
• 33:42
  the
• 33:43
  brain
• 33:44
  right
• 33:44
  when
• 33:44
  we
• 33:45
  need
• 33:45
  to.
• 33:45
  To.
• 33:45
  To,
• 33:46
  like,
• 33:46
  you
• 33:47
  know.
• 33:48
  Yeah,
• 33:48
  right.
• 33:49
  The
• 33:49
  world
• 33:50
  can
• 33:50
  be
• 33:50
  rather
• 33:51
  imbalanced,
• 33:52
  and
• 33:52
  our
• 33:52
  lives
• 33:53
  can
• 33:53
  get
• 33:53
  very
• 33:54
  imbalanced.
• 33:55
  And
• 33:56
  so
• 33:56
  it
• 33:56
  helps
• 33:57
  to
• 33:57
  have
• 33:57
  these
• 33:57
  reminders.
• 33:58
  And
• 33:58
  I'll
• 33:58
  be
• 33:58
  honest
• 33:59
  with
• 33:59
  you,
• 33:59
  when
• 33:59
  I
• 33:59
  started
• 34:00
  writing
• 34:00
  the
• 34:00
  book,
• 34:01
  it
• 34:01
  was
• 34:01
  all
• 34:01
  Lola.
• 34:02
  There
• 34:02
  was
• 34:02
  no
• 34:03
  Leia.
• 34:03
  It
• 34:03
  took
• 34:03
  me
• 34:03
  a
• 34:04
  while
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  remember.
• 34:05
  Oh,
• 34:05
  wait
• 34:05
  a
• 34:05
  minute.
• 34:06
  Yeah,
• 34:06
  there's
• 34:07
  this
• 34:07
  counterbalance.
• 34:08
  And
• 34:09
  so
• 34:09
  how
• 34:09
  do
• 34:09
  you
• 34:09
  develop
• 34:10
  a
• 34:10
  connection
• 34:12
  to
• 34:12
  Leia?
• 34:13
  How
• 34:13
  do
• 34:13
  you
• 34:14
  create
• 34:14
  that
• 34:15
  so
• 34:15
  that
• 34:15
  you
• 34:15
  can
• 34:15
  start
• 34:16
  to
• 34:16
  become
• 34:16
  more
• 34:16
  familiar
• 34:18
  with
• 34:19
  her?
• 34:20
  It's
• 34:21
  trial
• 34:21
  and
• 34:21
  error
• 34:22
  for
• 34:22
  you
• 34:22
  as
• 34:22
  an
• 34:22
  individual.
• 34:23
  But
• 34:24
  I
• 34:25
  find
• 34:25
  that
• 34:27
  quiet
• 34:27
  time,
• 34:28
  slow,
• 34:29
  quiet
• 34:29
  time
• 34:30
  often
• 34:30
  in
• 34:30
  nature,
• 34:31
  is
• 34:31
  the
• 34:32
  best
• 34:32
  place
• 34:32
  for
• 34:33
  me
• 34:33
  to
• 34:34
  be
• 34:34
  able
• 34:34
  to
• 34:34
  do
• 34:34
  that.
• 34:35
  I
• 34:36
  know
• 34:37
  others
• 34:37
  who
• 34:38
  feel
• 34:38
  it's
• 34:38
  journaling.
• 34:39
  Yeah.
• 34:40
  Meditation
• 34:41
  again.
• 34:41
  Or
• 34:42
  yoga
• 34:42
  or
• 34:43
  any
• 34:43
  of
• 34:43
  those
• 34:43
  kinds
• 34:44
  of
• 34:44
  practices
• 34:45
  that
• 34:45
  are
• 34:45
  really
• 34:46
  there
• 34:46
  to
• 34:47
  quiet
• 34:47
  the
• 34:48
  noise
• 34:48
  and
• 34:48
  help
• 34:49
  you
• 34:49
  get
• 34:49
  more
• 34:49
  in
• 34:50
  touch
• 34:50
  with
• 34:50
  your
• 34:51
  essence
• 34:51
  and
• 34:52
  your
• 34:52
  physical
• 34:52
  body
• 34:53
  can
• 34:53
  be
• 34:54
  helpful.
• 34:54
  Listening
• 34:55
  to
• 34:55
  music.
• 34:56
  Right.
• 34:57
  Anything
• 34:58
  that
• 34:58
  just
• 34:58
  gets
• 34:59
  you
• 34:59
  out
• 34:59
  of
• 34:59
  the
• 34:59
  doing,
• 35:00
  doing,
• 35:00
  doing,
• 35:01
  doing,
• 35:01
  doing
• 35:02
  more
• 35:02
  always
• 35:02
  do,
• 35:02
  you
• 35:03
  know,
• 35:03
  and
• 35:03
  allows
• 35:04
  you
• 35:04
  to
• 35:05
  slow
• 35:05
  down
• 35:06
  and
• 35:08
  really
• 35:08
  check
• 35:08
  in
• 35:09
  with
• 35:09
  yourself.
• 35:10
  And
• 35:11
  then
• 35:11
  once
• 35:12
  you
• 35:12
  maybe
• 35:13
  have
• 35:13
  it
• 35:13
  once.
• 35:14
  Right.
• 35:14
  Noticing
• 35:15
  what
• 35:16
  it
• 35:16
  feels
• 35:16
  like.
• 35:17
  Right.
• 35:18
  For
• 35:18
  me.
• 35:18
  And
• 35:19
  I
• 35:19
  talk
• 35:19
  about
• 35:19
  this
• 35:19
  in
• 35:20
  the
• 35:20
  book,
• 35:20
  but
• 35:20
  it's
• 35:20
  a
• 35:20
  big
• 35:21
  smile
• 35:22
  and
• 35:22
  it's
• 35:22
  this
• 35:23
  smile
• 35:23
  of
• 35:24
  knowing
• 35:25
  that
• 35:25
  is
• 35:25
  like
• 35:26
  I'll
• 35:26
  be
• 35:27
  thinking
• 35:27
  about
• 35:27
  something
• 35:28
  and
• 35:28
  puzzling
• 35:28
  over
• 35:29
  it
• 35:29
  and
• 35:29
  problem
• 35:30
  solving
• 35:30
  in
• 35:30
  my
• 35:30
  mind.
• 35:31
  And
• 35:31
  then
• 35:32
  I'll
• 35:33
  have
• 35:33
  a
• 35:33
  thought
• 35:33
  that.
• 35:34
  Then
• 35:34
  there's
• 35:35
  this
• 35:35
  bit
• 35:35
  and
• 35:35
  it's
• 35:35
  like,
• 35:36
  oh,
• 35:36
  it
• 35:37
  was
• 35:37
  there
• 35:37
  all
• 35:38
  along.
• 35:38
  Yeah.
• 35:40
  And
• 35:40
  it
• 35:41
  seems
• 35:41
  so
• 35:41
  obvious
• 35:42
  when
• 35:42
  it
• 35:42
  happened,
• 35:43
  you
• 35:43
  know,
• 35:43
  and
• 35:43
  it's
• 35:44
  just
• 35:44
  like,
• 35:44
  there
• 35:45
  I
• 35:45
  am
• 35:45
  again.
• 35:46
  Like,
• 35:46
  you
• 35:47
  know,
• 35:47
  and
• 35:47
  so
• 35:48
  that's
• 35:48
  my
• 35:48
  version.
• 35:49
  Everyone's
• 35:50
  a
• 35:50
  little
• 35:50
  different.
• 35:51
  So
• 35:51
  it's
• 35:51
  part
• 35:51
  of
• 35:51
  our.
• 35:52
  I
• 35:52
  mean,
• 35:52
  I
• 35:53
  believe
• 35:53
  and
• 35:53
  I.
• 35:54
  It's
• 35:54
  why
• 35:54
  I
• 35:55
  wanted
• 35:55
  you
• 35:55
  to
• 35:56
  be
• 35:56
  on
• 35:56
  the
• 35:56
  show
• 35:56
  is
• 35:57
  that
• 36:00
  we
• 36:00
  all,
• 36:01
  like.
• 36:01
  There's
• 36:02
  so
• 36:02
  much
• 36:02
  more
• 36:02
  to
• 36:03
  creating
• 36:04
  success,
• 36:05
  money,
• 36:06
  manifestation
• 36:07
  in
• 36:07
  the
• 36:07
  world
• 36:08
  of
• 36:08
  a
• 36:08
  business.
• 36:08
  I
• 36:08
  see
• 36:09
  building
• 36:09
  business
• 36:10
  as
• 36:10
  a
• 36:10
  creative
• 36:10
  endeavor.
• 36:11
  It's
• 36:11
  just.
• 36:12
  It
• 36:12
  could
• 36:12
  be
• 36:13
  painting,
• 36:14
  it
• 36:14
  could
• 36:14
  be
• 36:15
  plays,
• 36:15
  it
• 36:16
  could,
• 36:16
  you
• 36:16
  know,
• 36:16
  it
• 36:16
  could
• 36:16
  be
• 36:17
  music.
• 36:18
  For
• 36:18
  me,
• 36:18
  I
• 36:19
  just.
• 36:19
  What
• 36:19
  I
• 36:19
  like
• 36:19
  to
• 36:20
  create
• 36:20
  is
• 36:20
  business.
• 36:21
  I
• 36:21
  just
• 36:21
  like
• 36:21
  it.
• 36:21
  And
• 36:22
  part
• 36:22
  of
• 36:22
  it
• 36:23
  is
• 36:23
  the
• 36:23
  journey
• 36:23
  and
• 36:24
  the
• 36:24
  joy
• 36:24
  of
• 36:24
  the
• 36:25
  game
• 36:25
  and
• 36:26
  the
• 36:26
  making
• 36:26
  the
• 36:26
  money
• 36:27
  and
• 36:27
  like,
• 36:28
  all
• 36:28
  of
• 36:28
  that
• 36:28
  is
• 36:29
  part
• 36:29
  of
• 36:30
  the
• 36:30
  joy.
• 36:31
  So
• 36:32
  it's
• 36:32
  like
• 36:33
  how
• 36:33
  you
• 36:33
  can
• 36:34
  be
• 36:34
  in
• 36:34
  the
• 36:34
  game
• 36:34
  and
• 36:35
  realize
• 36:35
  you're
• 36:35
  in
• 36:35
  the
• 36:36
  game
• 36:37
  and.
• 36:37
  Right.
• 36:38
  And
• 36:38
  know
• 36:38
  and
• 36:39
  have
• 36:39
  your
• 36:39
  critics
• 36:40
  show
• 36:40
  up
• 36:41
  and
• 36:41
  the
• 36:42
  inner
• 36:42
  knowing
• 36:42
  be
• 36:43
  there.
• 36:43
  It's.
• 36:43
  It's.
• 36:44
  I
• 36:44
  find
• 36:44
  that
• 36:44
  your
• 36:45
  book
• 36:45
  is
• 36:45
  so
• 36:46
  helpful
• 36:46
  for
• 36:46
  women
• 36:47
  because
• 36:47
  it
• 36:47
  helps
• 36:48
  you
• 36:49
  deal
• 36:49
  with
• 36:49
  the
• 36:49
  part
• 36:50
  of
• 36:50
  success
• 36:51
  that
• 36:53
  isn't
• 36:54
  the
• 36:54
  business
• 36:54
  plan.
• 36:58
  I
• 36:58
  like
• 36:58
  that.
• 36:59
  Right.
• 37:00
  Thank
• 37:00
  you
• 37:01
  for
• 37:01
  saying
• 37:01
  that.
• 37:01
  It's
• 37:02
  because
• 37:02
  it's
• 37:02
  everything.
• 37:02
  I
• 37:03
  always
• 37:03
  use
• 37:03
  the
• 37:03
  example.
• 37:04
  Shoot.
• 37:04
  We
• 37:04
  can
• 37:05
  all
• 37:05
  decide
• 37:05
  we
• 37:05
  want
• 37:05
  to
• 37:06
  be
• 37:06
  more
• 37:06
  healthy
• 37:06
  and
• 37:06
  we
• 37:07
  know
• 37:07
  what
• 37:07
  to
• 37:07
  do.
• 37:08
  It's
• 37:08
  just
• 37:08
  a
• 37:09
  whole
• 37:09
  other
• 37:09
  thing
• 37:09
  to
• 37:10
  do
• 37:10
  it.
• 37:10
  It's
• 37:10
  like
• 37:11
  when
• 37:11
  you're
• 37:11
  not
• 37:12
  doing
• 37:12
  the
• 37:12
  thing
• 37:13
  you
• 37:13
  wish
• 37:13
  you
• 37:13
  would
• 37:13
  do,
• 37:14
  it's
• 37:14
  because
• 37:14
  something
• 37:15
  is
• 37:15
  going
• 37:15
  on.
• 37:16
  Right.
• 37:16
  Your
• 37:17
  Lola
• 37:17
  is
• 37:18
  acting
• 37:19
  and
• 37:19
  needs
• 37:19
  love,
• 37:20
  maybe,
• 37:20
  or
• 37:20
  attention
• 37:21
  or
• 37:22
  just,
• 37:22
  you
• 37:23
  know,
• 37:23
  redirection.
• 37:24
  And
• 37:25
  probably
• 37:25
  Leah's
• 37:26
  just
• 37:26
  hanging
• 37:26
  out
• 37:27
  there
• 37:27
  going,
• 37:27
  please
• 37:28
  listen
• 37:28
  to
• 37:28
  me.
• 37:31
  So
• 37:31
  talk
• 37:32
  to
• 37:32
  me
• 37:32
  about
• 37:32
  this
• 37:33
  and
• 37:33
  share
• 37:33
  with
• 37:34
  me
• 37:34
  some
• 37:34
  ways
• 37:34
  that
• 37:35
  we
• 37:35
  can
• 37:35
  do
• 37:35
  more
• 37:35
  of
• 37:36
  this,
• 37:36
  as
• 37:37
  in
• 37:37
  our
• 37:37
  daily
• 37:37
  lives
• 37:38
  as
• 37:39
  ambitious
• 37:40
  women.
• 37:41
  Permission
• 37:42
  is
• 37:42
  the
• 37:43
  first
• 37:43
  word
• 37:43
  that
• 37:43
  comes
• 37:43
  to
• 37:44
  mind
• 37:44
  when
• 37:44
  you
• 37:45
  say
• 37:45
  that.
• 37:45
  Right.
• 37:46
  And
• 37:47
  permission
• 37:48
  to
• 37:49
  take
• 37:49
  care
• 37:49
  of
• 37:49
  yourself.
• 37:50
  Permission
• 37:51
  to
• 37:52
  prioritize
• 37:53
  yourself.
• 37:54
  Yeah,
• 37:55
  you
• 37:55
  have
• 37:55
  all
• 37:55
  these
• 37:55
  goals.
• 37:56
  But
• 37:56
  I
• 37:56
  guess
• 37:57
  it's
• 37:57
  interesting,
• 37:58
  no
• 37:58
  one
• 37:58
  likes
• 37:59
  the
• 37:59
  term
• 37:59
  life
• 37:59
  coach.
• 38:00
  I
• 38:00
  still
• 38:01
  don't
• 38:01
  really
• 38:01
  like
• 38:01
  it,
• 38:02
  but
• 38:04
  what
• 38:05
  I
• 38:05
  do
• 38:05
  like
• 38:05
  about
• 38:05
  it
• 38:06
  is
• 38:07
  this
• 38:07
  is
• 38:08
  about
• 38:08
  your
• 38:08
  life.
• 38:09
  Yes.
• 38:10
  Right?
• 38:11
  Yes.
• 38:11
  It's
• 38:11
  not
• 38:11
  only
• 38:12
  about
• 38:12
  your
• 38:12
  business,
• 38:13
  it's
• 38:13
  not
• 38:13
  only
• 38:14
  about
• 38:15
  your
• 38:16
  marriage,
• 38:16
  your
• 38:17
  children,
• 38:17
  your
• 38:18
  friendships.
• 38:19
  It's
• 38:19
  the
• 38:20
  whole
• 38:20
  thing.
• 38:21
  It's
• 38:21
  your
• 38:21
  life.
• 38:22
  And
• 38:23
  sometimes
• 38:24
  when
• 38:25
  we're
• 38:25
  really
• 38:26
  driven
• 38:26
  and
• 38:27
  really
• 38:27
  ambitious
• 38:27
  and
• 38:28
  focused
• 38:28
  on
• 38:28
  the
• 38:29
  big
• 38:29
  goal,
• 38:30
  that
• 38:30
  gets
• 38:30
  lost
• 38:31
  in
• 38:31
  the
• 38:31
  shuffle
• 38:32
  a
• 38:32
  little
• 38:32
  bit
• 38:33
  and
• 38:34
  to
• 38:34
  our
• 38:34
  detriment,
• 38:35
  because
• 38:35
  that's
• 38:36
  what
• 38:36
  can
• 38:36
  lead
• 38:37
  to
• 38:37
  burnout
• 38:38
  or
• 38:38
  just
• 38:38
  other
• 38:40
  self
• 38:40
  sabotaging,
• 38:42
  unhealthy,
• 38:42
  unhelpful
• 38:43
  habits.
• 38:46
  Again,
• 38:47
  maintaining
• 38:48
  that
• 38:48
  balance,
• 38:50
  checking
• 38:50
  in
• 38:50
  with
• 38:50
  yourself,
• 38:51
  taking
• 38:52
  care
• 38:52
  of
• 38:52
  yourself.
• 38:53
  Some
• 38:54
  of
• 38:54
  the
• 38:54
  things
• 38:54
  that
• 38:55
  I
• 38:55
  talk
• 38:55
  about
• 38:55
  with
• 38:55
  clients,
• 38:57
  you
• 38:57
  know,
• 38:57
  it's
• 38:58
  the
• 38:58
  boring
• 38:58
  stuff
• 38:59
  that
• 38:59
  no
• 38:59
  one
• 38:59
  really
• 38:59
  wants
• 39:00
  to
• 39:00
  talk
• 39:00
  about,
• 39:00
  but
• 39:01
  it
• 39:01
  is
• 39:02
  the
• 39:02
  most
• 39:02
  important
• 39:03
  stuff.
• 39:04
  If
• 39:04
  you're
• 39:04
  not
• 39:05
  getting
• 39:05
  enough
• 39:05
  rest,
• 39:06
  if
• 39:06
  you're
• 39:07
  not
• 39:08
  ever
• 39:09
  exercising,
• 39:10
  if
• 39:10
  you're
• 39:10
  just
• 39:10
  eating
• 39:11
  on
• 39:11
  the
• 39:11
  go
• 39:11
  or
• 39:12
  eating
• 39:12
  garbage
• 39:13
  or
• 39:13
  whatever
• 39:13
  it
• 39:13
  is,
• 39:15
  first
• 39:16
  of
• 39:16
  all,
• 39:16
  you're
• 39:17
  probably
• 39:17
  not
• 39:17
  going
• 39:18
  to
• 39:18
  be
• 39:18
  as
• 39:18
  successful
• 39:19
  as
• 39:20
  you
• 39:20
  want
• 39:20
  to
• 39:20
  be.
• 39:21
  And
• 39:21
  even
• 39:21
  if
• 39:21
  you
• 39:21
  are,
• 39:22
  you
• 39:22
  might
• 39:22
  not
• 39:22
  get
• 39:22
  to
• 39:23
  enjoy
• 39:23
  it.
• 39:24
  Right.
• 39:25
  And
• 39:26
  that's
• 39:26
  just
• 39:26
  the
• 39:26
  basic
• 39:27
  basics,
• 39:27
  those
• 39:28
  foundations.
• 39:29
  Then
• 39:30
  there
• 39:30
  are
• 39:30
  just
• 39:30
  things
• 39:31
  like
• 39:31
  doing
• 39:31
  things
• 39:32
  you
• 39:32
  love
• 39:32
  to
• 39:32
  do,
• 39:33
  things
• 39:33
  that
• 39:33
  feed
• 39:34
  your
• 39:34
  soul,
• 39:34
  whether
• 39:35
  that's
• 39:35
  time
• 39:35
  with
• 39:36
  friends
• 39:36
  or
• 39:37
  checking
• 39:37
  out
• 39:37
  an
• 39:38
  art
• 39:38
  exhibit
• 39:39
  once
• 39:39
  in
• 39:39
  a
• 39:39
  while
• 39:39
  or
• 39:39
  a
• 39:40
  Broadway
• 39:40
  show
• 39:41
  or
• 39:41
  a
• 39:41
  hike
• 39:41
  in
• 39:42
  the
• 39:42
  woods,
• 39:42
  whatever.
• 39:42
  It
• 39:43
  may
• 39:43
  be
• 39:43
  like
• 39:44
  all
• 39:44
  of
• 39:44
  these
• 39:45
  things
• 39:45
  that
• 39:45
  we
• 39:45
  sort
• 39:46
  of
• 39:46
  push
• 39:46
  off
• 39:46
  or
• 39:47
  we
• 39:47
  think
• 39:47
  we
• 39:47
  don't
• 39:47
  have
• 39:48
  time
• 39:48
  for,
• 39:48
  or,
• 39:49
  you
• 39:50
  know,
• 39:50
  they're
• 39:51
  pretty
• 39:51
  important.
• 39:52
  And
• 39:52
  so
• 39:53
  that
• 39:53
  sort
• 39:53
  of
• 39:54
  rest,
• 39:54
  the
• 39:55
  resting
• 39:55
  part
• 39:56
  of
• 39:56
  the
• 39:56
  work
• 39:56
  rest
• 39:57
  cycle,
• 39:57
  gets
• 39:58
  lost
• 39:59
  sometimes.
• 40:00
  And
• 40:00
  rest,
• 40:01
  it
• 40:01
  can
• 40:01
  be
• 40:01
  a
• 40:01
  nap
• 40:02
  or
• 40:02
  it
• 40:02
  can
• 40:02
  be
• 40:02
  a
• 40:02
  hike,
• 40:03
  or
• 40:03
  it
• 40:03
  can
• 40:03
  be
• 40:03
  all
• 40:04
  kinds
• 40:04
  of
• 40:04
  things,
• 40:04
  right.
• 40:05
  I
• 40:06
  can't
• 40:06
  tell
• 40:06
  you
• 40:06
  how
• 40:06
  many
• 40:06
  clients
• 40:07
  I've
• 40:07
  had
• 40:07
  who
• 40:07
  think
• 40:08
  what
• 40:08
  they
• 40:08
  need
• 40:09
  is
• 40:09
  to
• 40:09
  quit
• 40:10
  their
• 40:10
  job,
• 40:10
  right?
• 40:11
  And
• 40:11
  then
• 40:11
  they
• 40:12
  take
• 40:12
  a
• 40:12
  vacation
• 40:13
  and
• 40:13
  they
• 40:13
  come
• 40:14
  back
• 40:14
  and
• 40:15
  they're
• 40:15
  like,
• 40:15
  oh,
• 40:17
  right,
• 40:17
  I'm
• 40:18
  a
• 40:18
  whole
• 40:18
  new
• 40:18
  person
• 40:19
  with
• 40:19
  a
• 40:19
  whole
• 40:19
  new
• 40:19
  perspective.
• 40:21
  And
• 40:21
  they're.
• 40:22
  They're
• 40:23
  resourced
• 40:24
  in
• 40:24
  a
• 40:24
  way,
• 40:25
  right?
• 40:25
  Resources.
• 40:26
  They're
• 40:27
  resourced
• 40:27
  again.
• 40:28
  They
• 40:28
  have
• 40:29
  the
• 40:29
  ability
• 40:29
  to
• 40:30
  do
• 40:30
  the
• 40:30
  hard
• 40:30
  things
• 40:31
  so
• 40:32
  that,
• 40:33
  you
• 40:33
  know,
• 40:33
  can
• 40:34
  be
• 40:34
  the
• 40:34
  big
• 40:34
  vacation
• 40:35
  or
• 40:35
  it
• 40:35
  can
• 40:35
  just
• 40:35
  Be
• 40:36
  on,
• 40:36
  on
• 40:36
  a
• 40:36
  daily
• 40:37
  basis.
• 40:37
  What
• 40:38
  are
• 40:38
  you
• 40:38
  doing
• 40:39
  to
• 40:40
  make
• 40:40
  sure
• 40:41
  you're
• 40:41
  really
• 40:42
  at
• 40:43
  your
• 40:43
  best
• 40:44
  and
• 40:45
  not
• 40:45
  only
• 40:45
  to
• 40:46
  be
• 40:46
  successful,
• 40:46
  I
• 40:46
  mean.
• 40:46
  Yes,
• 40:47
  that's.
• 40:47
  Yes.
• 40:47
  Right.
• 40:49
  Well,
• 40:49
  and
• 40:49
  that's.
• 40:50
  Yeah.
• 40:50
  And
• 40:50
  that's
• 40:50
  also
• 40:51
  why
• 40:51
  you
• 40:51
  talk
• 40:52
  about
• 40:52
  what
• 40:52
  truly
• 40:53
  matters.
• 40:53
  Right.
• 40:54
  You're
• 40:54
  the
• 40:54
  deeper.
• 40:55
  Why.
• 40:55
  Because
• 40:56
  when.
• 40:57
  And
• 40:57
  I've
• 40:58
  had
• 40:58
  many
• 40:58
  stages,
• 40:58
  many
• 40:59
  moments
• 40:59
  in
• 40:59
  my
• 41:00
  life
• 41:00
  where
• 41:00
  it's
• 41:00
  like
• 41:01
  you're
• 41:01
  talking
• 41:01
  about.
• 41:01
  It's
• 41:02
  like
• 41:02
  this,
• 41:02
  this
• 41:03
  one
• 41:03
  focus,
• 41:04
  I
• 41:04
  become
• 41:04
  focused
• 41:05
  on
• 41:05
  my
• 41:05
  career,
• 41:06
  my
• 41:06
  business.
• 41:07
  And
• 41:08
  yes,
• 41:08
  my
• 41:08
  family's
• 41:09
  there.
• 41:09
  Right.
• 41:10
  Yes,
• 41:10
  my
• 41:10
  health
• 41:10
  is
• 41:11
  there.
• 41:11
  You
• 41:11
  know,
• 41:12
  and,
• 41:12
  and
• 41:13
  that
• 41:13
  always
• 41:14
  leads
• 41:14
  to
• 41:15
  patterns
• 41:16
  of
• 41:17
  overwork
• 41:18
  and
• 41:20
  relationship
• 41:21
  disconnect
• 41:22
  and
• 41:22
  you
• 41:23
  know,
• 41:23
  burnout.
• 41:24
  And
• 41:24
  it
• 41:24
  just
• 41:24
  like
• 41:25
  to
• 41:25
  not
• 41:25
  have
• 41:26
  that
• 41:26
  balance
• 41:27
  isn't.
• 41:28
  And
• 41:28
  it
• 41:28
  doesn't
• 41:28
  work
• 41:29
  in
• 41:29
  the
• 41:29
  business
• 41:29
  either,
• 41:30
  by
• 41:30
  the
• 41:30
  way.
• 41:30
  Right.
• 41:31
  It's.
• 41:31
  It
• 41:31
  all
• 41:32
  fuels
• 41:32
  each
• 41:32
  other.
• 41:33
  And
• 41:33
  you
• 41:33
  know,
• 41:34
  one
• 41:34
  of
• 41:34
  the
• 41:34
  things
• 41:34
  you
• 41:34
  said
• 41:35
  was
• 41:35
  around
• 41:36
  permission.
• 41:37
  And
• 41:38
  this
• 41:38
  is
• 41:38
  one
• 41:38
  of
• 41:38
  the
• 41:39
  things,
• 41:39
  all
• 41:39
  of
• 41:40
  your,
• 41:40
  everything
• 41:40
  we're
• 41:41
  talking
• 41:41
  about
• 41:41
  here,
• 41:41
  knowing
• 41:41
  your
• 41:42
  inner
• 41:42
  critic,
• 41:42
  knowing
• 41:43
  what
• 41:43
  your
• 41:44
  knowing
• 41:44
  self
• 41:45
  feels
• 41:45
  like,
• 41:46
  looks
• 41:46
  like
• 41:46
  how
• 41:47
  she
• 41:47
  presents
• 41:47
  herself.
• 41:49
  It's
• 41:49
  just
• 41:49
  knowing
• 41:50
  oneself.
• 41:50
  Right.
• 41:51
  Like,
• 41:54
  if
• 41:54
  I
• 41:54
  know
• 41:55
  that
• 41:55
  what
• 41:55
  brings
• 41:56
  me
• 41:56
  joy
• 41:57
  isn't
• 41:58
  having
• 41:58
  back
• 41:59
  to
• 41:59
  back
• 41:59
  phone
• 41:59
  calls
• 41:59
  all
• 42:00
  day,
• 42:02
  then
• 42:02
  hopefully
• 42:03
  I
• 42:03
  set
• 42:03
  my
• 42:03
  life
• 42:04
  up
• 42:04
  to
• 42:04
  not
• 42:04
  have.
• 42:05
  Back
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  back
• 42:05
  phone
• 42:05
  calls
• 42:06
  all
• 42:06
  day.
• 42:07
  And
• 42:07
  hopefully
• 42:07
  I
• 42:08
  give
• 42:08
  myself
• 42:08
  permission
• 42:09
  to
• 42:09
  say,
• 42:09
  well,
• 42:10
  even
• 42:11
  though
• 42:11
  I
• 42:11
  think
• 42:11
  the
• 42:12
  only
• 42:12
  way
• 42:12
  I
• 42:12
  can
• 42:12
  do
• 42:12
  my
• 42:12
  job
• 42:13
  is
• 42:13
  to
• 42:13
  have
• 42:14
  back
• 42:14
  to
• 42:14
  back
• 42:14
  phone
• 42:14
  calls
• 42:15
  every
• 42:15
  way
• 42:15
  there
• 42:15
  is
• 42:16
  another
• 42:16
  way
• 42:17
  or
• 42:17
  I
• 42:17
  need
• 42:18
  to
• 42:18
  make
• 42:18
  some
• 42:18
  kind
• 42:18
  of
• 42:19
  change.
• 42:20
  Talk
• 42:20
  about
• 42:21
  that.
• 42:21
  When
• 42:21
  we're
• 42:21
  in
• 42:21
  the
• 42:22
  situation,
• 42:22
  we
• 42:22
  think
• 42:22
  we
• 42:23
  don't
• 42:23
  have
• 42:23
  a
• 42:23
  choice.
• 42:24
  So
• 42:25
  there's
• 42:25
  a
• 42:25
  tool
• 42:25
  for
• 42:25
  this.
• 42:26
  It's
• 42:26
  almost
• 42:27
  everyone's
• 42:27
  favorite.
• 42:28
  I
• 42:28
  call
• 42:28
  it
• 42:29
  the
• 42:29
  3DS.
• 42:30
  It's
• 42:30
  a
• 42:30
  slight
• 42:31
  moderation
• 42:32
  on
• 42:32
  a
• 42:33
  hardly
• 42:34
  modified
• 42:34
  at
• 42:34
  all
• 42:35
  version
• 42:35
  of
• 42:35
  a
• 42:35
  Martha
• 42:36
  Beck
• 42:36
  tool.
• 42:36
  But
• 42:37
  language
• 42:37
  is
• 42:38
  important
• 42:38
  in
• 42:38
  terms
• 42:38
  of
• 42:39
  the
• 42:39
  people
• 42:39
  that
• 42:39
  I
• 42:40
  work
• 42:40
  with.
• 42:40
  Right.
• 42:41
  You
• 42:41
  want
• 42:41
  them
• 42:41
  to
• 42:42
  hear
• 42:43
  what
• 42:43
  you're
• 42:43
  saying
• 42:44
  and
• 42:44
  receive
• 42:44
  it.
• 42:45
  And
• 42:45
  so
• 42:45
  you
• 42:46
  don't
• 42:46
  want
• 42:46
  to
• 42:46
  sound
• 42:48
  a
• 42:48
  little
• 42:48
  out
• 42:48
  there.
• 42:48
  You
• 42:49
  want
• 42:49
  to
• 42:49
  sound
• 42:49
  professional.
• 42:50
  So
• 42:50
  in
• 42:50
  any
• 42:50
  event,
• 42:51
  the
• 42:51
  3DS,
• 42:52
  without
• 42:52
  further
• 42:53
  ado.
• 42:53
  Yeah,
• 42:54
  ditch
• 42:54
  it,
• 42:55
  delegate
• 42:56
  it,
• 42:56
  do
• 42:57
  it
• 42:57
  up.
• 42:57
  Okay.
• 42:58
  So
• 42:58
  if
• 42:59
  you're
• 42:59
  in
• 42:59
  that
• 42:59
  place
• 43:00
  where
• 43:00
  you
• 43:00
  think
• 43:00
  you
• 43:00
  don't
• 43:01
  have
• 43:01
  a
• 43:01
  choice.
• 43:02
  I
• 43:02
  don't
• 43:02
  want
• 43:03
  to
• 43:03
  do
• 43:03
  this
• 43:03
  thing,
• 43:03
  but
• 43:04
  I
• 43:04
  have
• 43:04
  to.
• 43:05
  Yeah,
• 43:05
  I
• 43:06
  want
• 43:06
  you
• 43:06
  to
• 43:06
  pause.
• 43:07
  I
• 43:07
  want
• 43:07
  you
• 43:07
  to
• 43:07
  check
• 43:08
  in.
• 43:08
  I
• 43:08
  want
• 43:08
  you
• 43:08
  to
• 43:09
  say,
• 43:09
  okay,
• 43:09
  just
• 43:10
  for
• 43:10
  fun,
• 43:10
  let's
• 43:11
  pull
• 43:11
  out
• 43:11
  the
• 43:11
  3Ds
• 43:12
  here.
• 43:12
  Can
• 43:13
  I
• 43:13
  ditch
• 43:13
  it?
• 43:14
  Can
• 43:14
  I
• 43:14
  ditch
• 43:14
  these
• 43:15
  phone
• 43:15
  calls?
• 43:17
  Most
• 43:17
  people
• 43:17
  will
• 43:17
  Be
• 43:18
  like,
• 43:18
  no,
• 43:18
  I
• 43:18
  can't.
• 43:19
  I
• 43:19
  have
• 43:19
  to.
• 43:20
  I
• 43:20
  have
• 43:20
  to
• 43:20
  do
• 43:20
  these
• 43:21
  phone
• 43:21
  calls.
• 43:21
  I'll
• 43:21
  say,
• 43:21
  okay,
• 43:22
  well,
• 43:22
  what
• 43:22
  do
• 43:22
  you
• 43:23
  mean
• 43:23
  by
• 43:23
  have
• 43:23
  to?
• 43:24
  Like,
• 43:24
  are
• 43:24
  you
• 43:25
  going
• 43:25
  to
• 43:26
  die
• 43:26
  on
• 43:26
  the
• 43:26
  spot
• 43:27
  if
• 43:27
  you
• 43:27
  don't
• 43:28
  like?
• 43:28
  What
• 43:28
  are
• 43:28
  the
• 43:29
  consequences
• 43:30
  if
• 43:30
  you
• 43:30
  choose
• 43:31
  to
• 43:32
  ditch
• 43:32
  these
• 43:32
  calls?
• 43:33
  What
• 43:33
  consequences
• 43:34
  are
• 43:34
  you
• 43:35
  facing
• 43:36
  now?
• 43:36
  We're
• 43:36
  looking
• 43:36
  at
• 43:36
  it
• 43:37
  a
• 43:37
  little
• 43:37
  bit
• 43:37
  differently.
• 43:38
  Yeah,
• 43:38
  right,
• 43:38
  right.
• 43:39
  I
• 43:39
  think
• 43:39
  I
• 43:39
  have
• 43:40
  to
• 43:40
  because
• 43:40
  I
• 43:41
  don't
• 43:41
  want
• 43:41
  to
• 43:41
  deal
• 43:41
  with
• 43:41
  the
• 43:41
  consequences.
• 43:43
  Exactly.
• 43:43
  That's
• 43:44
  okay.
• 43:44
  You
• 43:45
  look
• 43:45
  at
• 43:45
  the
• 43:45
  consequences
• 43:46
  and
• 43:46
  then
• 43:47
  ask
• 43:47
  yourself
• 43:47
  again,
• 43:48
  do
• 43:48
  I
• 43:48
  have
• 43:48
  to?
• 43:49
  Now
• 43:49
  the
• 43:49
  answer
• 43:50
  is
• 43:51
  actually
• 43:51
  maybe
• 43:51
  I
• 43:52
  can
• 43:52
  accept
• 43:53
  some
• 43:53
  of
• 43:53
  that
• 43:54
  and
• 43:54
  I
• 43:54
  can
• 43:54
  move
• 43:54
  on
• 43:55
  without
• 43:55
  these
• 43:55
  calls
• 43:56
  or
• 43:57
  and
• 43:58
  this
• 43:58
  happens,
• 44:00
  I
• 44:01
  don't
• 44:01
  have
• 44:01
  to,
• 44:02
  I
• 44:02
  can
• 44:02
  skip
• 44:03
  it.
• 44:03
  But
• 44:03
  if
• 44:03
  I
• 44:04
  skip
• 44:04
  it,
• 44:05
  this
• 44:05
  person
• 44:05
  will
• 44:06
  be
• 44:06
  disappointed
• 44:07
  or
• 44:07
  my
• 44:07
  numbers
• 44:08
  will
• 44:08
  be
• 44:08
  Y
• 44:08
  instead
• 44:09
  of
• 44:09
  X,
• 44:09
  whatever
• 44:10
  the
• 44:10
  consequence
• 44:11
  is.
• 44:12
  So
• 44:12
  I'm
• 44:12
  going
• 44:13
  to
• 44:13
  choose
• 44:14
  to
• 44:14
  stick
• 44:15
  with
• 44:15
  the
• 44:15
  calls.
• 44:17
  Now,
• 44:17
  you're
• 44:17
  operating
• 44:18
  from
• 44:18
  a
• 44:18
  very
• 44:19
  different
• 44:20
  place
• 44:20
  now.
• 44:20
  You
• 44:21
  have
• 44:21
  agency
• 44:22
  now.
• 44:22
  You're
• 44:22
  not
• 44:22
  trapped,
• 44:23
  you're
• 44:24
  not
• 44:24
  a
• 44:24
  victim
• 44:24
  of
• 44:25
  your
• 44:25
  life.
• 44:25
  You're
• 44:26
  making
• 44:26
  a
• 44:26
  choice.
• 44:27
  Yeah.
• 44:27
  So
• 44:28
  that's
• 44:28
  the
• 44:28
  first
• 44:29
  step.
• 44:29
  Yeah.
• 44:31
  The
• 44:31
  second
• 44:32
  D
• 44:32
  is
• 44:33
  delegate.
• 44:34
  Sometimes
• 44:34
  it's
• 44:34
  hard
• 44:35
  for
• 44:35
  us
• 44:35
  to
• 44:35
  do
• 44:35
  it.
• 44:37
  So
• 44:37
  having
• 44:38
  this
• 44:38
  framework
• 44:38
  and
• 44:39
  saying,
• 44:39
  I
• 44:39
  don't
• 44:40
  want
• 44:40
  to
• 44:40
  do
• 44:40
  all
• 44:40
  these
• 44:40
  calls,
• 44:41
  is
• 44:41
  there
• 44:41
  anyone
• 44:42
  else
• 44:42
  who
• 44:42
  can
• 44:43
  do
• 44:43
  this?
• 44:45
  Again,
• 44:46
  the
• 44:46
  knee
• 44:47
  jerk
• 44:47
  reaction
• 44:47
  is
• 44:47
  often,.
• 44:48
  No,
• 44:48
  no
• 44:48
  one
• 44:49
  can
• 44:49
  do
• 44:49
  this.
• 44:49
  Only
• 44:50
  I
• 44:50
  can
• 44:50
  do
• 44:50
  it.
• 44:50
  And
• 44:51
  then
• 44:51
  finally
• 44:52
  is
• 44:52
  the
• 44:52
  do
• 44:52
  it
• 44:52
  up
• 44:53
  piece,
• 44:53
  which
• 44:53
  is
• 44:54
  if
• 44:54
  you
• 44:55
  have
• 44:55
  decided
• 44:56
  you're
• 44:56
  not
• 44:56
  going
• 44:56
  to
• 44:56
  ditch
• 44:57
  or
• 44:57
  delegate,
• 44:58
  then
• 44:59
  how
• 44:59
  can
• 44:59
  you
• 44:59
  do
• 45:00
  this
• 45:00
  in
• 45:00
  a
• 45:00
  way
• 45:01
  that
• 45:02
  feels
• 45:02
  better?
• 45:03
  Yeah.
• 45:03
  That
• 45:04
  isn't
• 45:04
  like
• 45:05
  me
• 45:06
  forced
• 45:06
  to
• 45:07
  trudge
• 45:07
  through
• 45:08
  the
• 45:08
  burdens
• 45:09
  of
• 45:09
  my
• 45:09
  life,
• 45:10
  but
• 45:10
  is
• 45:10
  much
• 45:11
  more
• 45:11
  like,
• 45:12
  here
• 45:12
  I
• 45:12
  am
• 45:12
  and
• 45:13
  here's
• 45:13
  why
• 45:13
  I'm
• 45:13
  doing
• 45:14
  it
• 45:14
  and
• 45:14
  I'm
• 45:14
  bringing.
• 45:15
  And
• 45:15
  how
• 45:15
  do
• 45:15
  I
• 45:16
  make
• 45:16
  it
• 45:16
  rewarding
• 45:18
  or
• 45:18
  fun
• 45:19
  or
• 45:19
  just
• 45:19
  more
• 45:20
  tolerable,
• 45:20
  whatever
• 45:21
  it
• 45:21
  may
• 45:21
  be.
• 45:22
  Right.
• 45:22
  And
• 45:23
  so
• 45:23
  how
• 45:23
  might
• 45:23
  we
• 45:23
  do
• 45:24
  it?
• 45:24
  Let's
• 45:24
  take
• 45:24
  the
• 45:25
  phone
• 45:25
  calls
• 45:25
  as
• 45:25
  an
• 45:26
  example.
• 45:26
  So
• 45:27
  I
• 45:27
  decide
• 45:28
  that
• 45:28
  in
• 45:28
  fact
• 45:30
  the
• 45:30
  phone
• 45:30
  calls
• 45:30
  are
• 45:30
  really
• 45:31
  important.
• 45:31
  It's
• 45:31
  how
• 45:31
  I
• 45:32
  connect
• 45:32
  with
• 45:32
  people.
• 45:33
  It's
• 45:33
  how
• 45:33
  I
• 45:34
  help
• 45:35
  convey
• 45:35
  the
• 45:36
  results
• 45:36
  that
• 45:37
  I
• 45:37
  so
• 45:37
  care
• 45:37
  about.
• 45:38
  It's
• 45:39
  also
• 45:39
  how
• 45:39
  I
• 45:40
  generate
• 45:40
  the
• 45:41
  next
• 45:41
  customer.
• 45:42
  I
• 45:42
  decide
• 45:43
  this
• 45:43
  is
• 45:43
  important.
• 45:44
  So
• 45:44
  how
• 45:44
  do
• 45:45
  I
• 45:45
  do
• 45:45
  this
• 45:45
  up?
• 45:48
  We
• 45:48
  start
• 45:48
  talking
• 45:49
  about
• 45:49
  what
• 45:49
  would
• 45:50
  make
• 45:50
  it
• 45:50
  feel
• 45:51
  more
• 45:51
  meaningful
• 45:52
  to
• 45:52
  you,
• 45:53
  what
• 45:53
  would
• 45:53
  make
• 45:54
  it
• 45:54
  feel
• 45:55
  more
• 45:55
  fun
• 45:55
  for
• 45:56
  you.
• 45:56
  I
• 45:56
  think
• 45:56
  the
• 45:57
  example
• 45:58
  I
• 45:58
  use
• 45:58
  in
• 45:59
  the
• 45:59
  book
• 45:59
  or
• 45:59
  often
• 45:59
  with
• 46:00
  friends
• 46:00
  is
• 46:00
  tasks
• 46:01
  for
• 46:01
  my
• 46:01
  family
• 46:02
  that
• 46:02
  I
• 46:02
  feel
• 46:02
  like
• 46:04
  this
• 46:04
  is
• 46:04
  not
• 46:04
  why
• 46:04
  I
• 46:04
  went
• 46:05
  to
• 46:05
  law
• 46:05
  school.
• 46:05
  I
• 46:05
  do
• 46:06
  not
• 46:06
  want
• 46:06
  to
• 46:06
  be
• 46:06
  Doing
• 46:07
  this,
• 46:07
  when
• 46:07
  I
• 46:07
  can
• 46:08
  get
• 46:08
  really
• 46:09
  pissy
• 46:10
  and
• 46:11
  unpleasant
• 46:12
  around
• 46:13
  some
• 46:13
  of
• 46:13
  that
• 46:13
  stuff,
• 46:14
  I
• 46:15
  can
• 46:15
  do
• 46:15
  it
• 46:16
  up
• 46:16
  either
• 46:17
  by
• 46:17
  reminding
• 46:18
  myself
• 46:18
  that
• 46:18
  it's
• 46:19
  not
• 46:19
  about
• 46:19
  the
• 46:19
  task.
• 46:20
  It's
• 46:20
  about
• 46:20
  like
• 46:21
  the
• 46:22
  caring
• 46:22
  and
• 46:23
  the
• 46:23
  loving
• 46:24
  and
• 46:24
  the
• 46:24
  tending
• 46:25
  to
• 46:25
  people
• 46:26
  in
• 46:26
  my
• 46:26
  life.
• 46:27
  That
• 46:27
  is
• 46:28
  what
• 46:28
  I'm
• 46:28
  really
• 46:28
  doing.
• 46:29
  Right.
• 46:29
  So
• 46:29
  I
• 46:29
  can
• 46:29
  be
• 46:29
  like,
• 46:31
  you
• 46:31
  don't
• 46:31
  want
• 46:31
  to
• 46:31
  fold
• 46:32
  laundry,
• 46:32
  but
• 46:32
  you
• 46:32
  get
• 46:32
  to
• 46:32
  watch
• 46:33
  Bridgerton
• 46:33
  while
• 46:34
  you're
• 46:34
  doing
• 46:34
  it.
• 46:34
  So
• 46:34
  let's
• 46:35
  do
• 46:35
  it
• 46:35
  up
• 46:36
  and
• 46:36
  make
• 46:36
  it
• 46:36
  more
• 46:36
  fun.
• 46:37
  You
• 46:37
  know,
• 46:38
  it
• 46:38
  could
• 46:38
  be
• 46:38
  any
• 46:39
  combination
• 46:39
  of
• 46:39
  things.
• 46:40
  So
• 46:40
  for
• 46:41
  you,
• 46:41
  in
• 46:41
  terms
• 46:41
  of
• 46:42
  the
• 46:42
  calls,
• 46:42
  you
• 46:43
  know,
• 46:43
  what
• 46:43
  might
• 46:44
  it
• 46:44
  make
• 46:44
  it
• 46:44
  feel
• 46:45
  less
• 46:46
  onerous
• 46:46
  to
• 46:46
  you?
• 46:47
  What
• 46:47
  might
• 46:47
  make
• 46:48
  it
• 46:48
  feel
• 46:48
  even
• 46:49
  more
• 46:49
  fun
• 46:50
  for
• 46:50
  you?
• 46:50
  Like,
• 46:50
  could
• 46:51
  you
• 46:51
  turn
• 46:51
  it
• 46:51
  into
• 46:51
  a
• 46:51
  game?
• 46:52
  After
• 46:52
  I
• 46:52
  do
• 46:52
  five
• 46:53
  of
• 46:53
  them,
• 46:53
  I
• 46:53
  get
• 46:53
  to.
• 46:55
  I
• 46:55
  don't
• 46:55
  know.
• 46:56
  Right,
• 46:56
  Right.
• 46:56
  I
• 46:56
  could.
• 46:57
  I
• 46:57
  might
• 46:57
  have
• 46:58
  a
• 46:58
  dance,
• 46:58
  right?
• 46:59
  Yeah,
• 46:59
  I
• 46:59
  could
• 46:59
  take
• 46:59
  a
• 47:00
  dance.
• 47:00
  Well,
• 47:01
  and
• 47:01
  it
• 47:01
  also
• 47:01
  makes
• 47:01
  me
• 47:02
  think
• 47:02
  about.
• 47:02
  Because
• 47:02
  this
• 47:02
  is
• 47:03
  an
• 47:03
  area
• 47:03
  that
• 47:03
  I
• 47:03
  have
• 47:04
  had
• 47:04
  to
• 47:04
  transform.
• 47:04
  Right.
• 47:05
  As
• 47:05
  I
• 47:05
  have
• 47:06
  had
• 47:06
  to
• 47:06
  stop
• 47:06
  saying
• 47:07
  yes
• 47:07
  to
• 47:07
  all
• 47:07
  the
• 47:08
  calls.
• 47:09
  I'm
• 47:09
  just
• 47:09
  sharing
• 47:09
  this
• 47:10
  examples
• 47:10
  because
• 47:10
  sometimes
• 47:11
  you
• 47:11
  realize
• 47:12
  maybe
• 47:12
  I
• 47:12
  can't
• 47:12
  ditch
• 47:13
  all
• 47:13
  the
• 47:13
  calls,
• 47:14
  but
• 47:14
  maybe
• 47:15
  there
• 47:15
  really
• 47:15
  are
• 47:15
  some
• 47:16
  that
• 47:16
  I'm
• 47:16
  doing
• 47:16
  that
• 47:17
  I'm
• 47:17
  doing
• 47:17
  to
• 47:17
  be
• 47:17
  a
• 47:17
  nice
• 47:18
  girl.
• 47:19
  I'm
• 47:19
  doing
• 47:19
  to
• 47:20
  have
• 47:20
  people
• 47:20
  like
• 47:21
  me,
• 47:22
  I'm
• 47:22
  doing.
• 47:22
  But
• 47:22
  I
• 47:23
  really
• 47:23
  need
• 47:24
  to
• 47:24
  stop
• 47:25
  doing
• 47:25
  them
• 47:25
  because
• 47:26
  they're
• 47:26
  taking
• 47:26
  up
• 47:26
  too
• 47:26
  time,
• 47:27
  too
• 47:27
  much
• 47:27
  time
• 47:27
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• 50:53
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• 50:53
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• 50:54
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• 51:47
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