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New Year, Not New You: A Spiritual Reflection on Resolutions & Looking Back 🔮 · The Psychic Explorer

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  Hello, my wonderful listeners and welcome to
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  another episode of the Psychic Explorer. Happy
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  New Year. Can you believe it is 2026 already?
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  I'm not sure I can. It seems like the older I
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  get, the quicker time goes by. I really hope
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  you have enjoyed your festive period. No matter
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  what you have or haven't done, I hope... It has
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  left you feeling full, satisfied, and if anything
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  like me, a couple of kilos heavier. I can't quite
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  believe the amount of food I have gotten through
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  and still need to get through. We were gifted
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  very generous gifts this year, including three
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  separate hampers, plus I came home from New England
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  with a lot of wine, a lot of cheese, and a lot
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  of chutneys and pates, and my word, my other
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  half is... My other half has said, right, we
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  need to get ourselves sorted out for the new
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  year. And I'm like, well, we've got to eat all
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  this stuff first because you can't let it go
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  to waste. So I think I might get a bit fatter
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  or at least put on a couple of more kilos before
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  I even think about getting back into some sort
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  of shape. But still, what a time it has been.
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  And I want to say thank you to all of you lot
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  who are listening and who have listened. It's
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  a small community that we have here. I said this
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  in previous episodes in the weeks gone by. It
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  is a small community, but I really feel like
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  I'm talking to friends and I feel like I am getting
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  more confident with this podcasting and I hope
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  that is coming across to you. I am very conscious
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  that since Halloween and the festive period,
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  my episodes... have grown a little bit off -kilter
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  than what they normally do. I've not spoken as
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  much about my mediumship, my psychic journey,
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  as I usually do. Instead, it's been focused on
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  guests, paranormal investigations, your wonderful
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  stories, which I've really enjoyed, but I am
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  conscious that the point of this podcast is that
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  it's a true reflection on the experiences that
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  I have as I've stepped down this path. and hopefully
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  answer questions that you might have if you are
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  yourself stepping onto this path. So I was a
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  bit unsure as to how to approach this episode
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  because in January, there are actually three
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  release dates. So my episodes, if you're a regular
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  listener, you will know that my episodes go out
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  every other Thursday, every two weeks on a Thursday
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  morning, or if you're in the US, a Wednesday
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  afternoon, stroke evening. And I thought to myself,
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  well, we've had quite a few special episodes
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  already. What do I do for New Year's? Do I do
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  like a meditation, New Year's meditation? Do
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  I do an episode focused on resolutions? Do I
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  do an episode on something that I have experienced
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  recently? Or do I just not put something out
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  at all? And I thought, no, I'm going to do something.
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  So this episode is about looking forward. However,
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  in order to look forward, we need to look back.
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  Resolutions. I'm personally not a fan of New
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  Year's resolutions. I think we are setting ourselves
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  up for failure. Mostly because most resolutions
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  are something which are unrealistic. They are
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  goal -orientated. And New Year's can be about
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  making a change, wiping the slate clean. But
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  we all know that no matter how much we clean
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  that slate, stuff from... the previous year from
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  previous years still comes through. And it's
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  important to address that. And they say 90 %
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  of mediumship is personal work, working through
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  your own traumas, working through your own shadow.
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  And I think that is the same with New Year's.
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  We need to reflect back on what we have come
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  through in order to look forward to the new challenges,
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  to the new excitement, to whatever it might be.
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  This is not a resolutions episode, however. This
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  is not about fixing or improving. This is a pause.
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  It is a reflection. It is a soft landing into
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  the new year. I think the new year is full of
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  pressure. I remember growing up and my mum always
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  used to say it's so anti -climatic, so she just
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  used to go to bed. I always used to go out and
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  I used to try and have such a good time. And
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  it was almost like I had so much expectation
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  that New Year's Eve was going to be magical and
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  fascinating and interesting and so much stuff
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  was going to happen. And then when midnight came,
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  it was like, oh... Is that it? It almost feels
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  like when it's your birthday, when you hit midnight
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  on your birthday and you think, oh, I'm a year
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  older and you feel exactly the same as you did
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  30 seconds before. There's so much pressure for
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  New Year's to be something it is not. People
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  see it differently as well. And I feel that sometimes
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  we can be made to feel a bit guilty about not
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  seeing it the same way as other people. people
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  absolutely love it. They go out and have an amazing
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  time. They set off fireworks, they sing, they
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  dance. For others, it marks another year, another
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  year of grief, another year of emotional heaviness,
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  another year of exhaustion. And so although I'm
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  not going to do a meditation for this episode,
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  I do want you to use this as an opportunity to
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  reset your energy, and just for the moment, slow
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  down. I invite you, my wonderful listeners, if
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  it's safe for you to do so, just close your eyes
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  just for a moment or two, and I invite you to
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  pause, breathe slowly, and settle into yourself.
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  If it feels right to you, you might want to take
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  a pen and paper. There's absolutely no pressure
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  to write anything down. So if nothing comes to
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  mind, then don't worry. Or if you don't want
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  to, that's absolutely fine. Just have a think
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  about these prompts that I'm going to suggest
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  you have a reflection on. But feel free to pause
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  this episode if you need to. These prompts are
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  not about analyzing your life. There are invitations.
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  Take what resonates. Leave the rest. I would
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  like you to reflect without judgement. Think
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  back on 2025. What made you happy? What made
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  you sad? What made you laugh? What made you cry?
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  What moments from 2025 still feel emotionally
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  loud to you? What landed in your lap that you
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  did not expect? Where did you show up even when
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  it was hard? I want you to think about what you
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  learned about yourself. in 2025. What patterns
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  did you start to notice? What are you more aware
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  of now than a year ago? For me, this year has
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  been challenging. I know I said this at the end
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  of last year, but it has been challenging. My
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  family life has shifted quite dramatically. Someone
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  that was in the forefront of my family is no
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  longer with taking a step back from one another.
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  And as painful as that was, as it is, I have
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  had to reflect on my actions, on my words, as
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  well as hold grace for their feelings and accept
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  that as valid as their feelings are, There's
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  also validity in where I feel they are wrong.
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  I used to be very much of the mindset that if
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  somebody had done me wrong, then it was them,
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  it was all them. I didn't have to look at myself.
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  I now know different. I now know better. I now
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  know that we are both to blame for this upset.
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  I don't know if that person has come to the same
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  conclusion. I doubt it. but I also have, again,
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  using that word again, that grace, I have grace
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  that time is a healer. But actually, at the moment,
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  we probably just need time away from each other.
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  With everything that you have thought about just
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  there, with everything you have journaled about,
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  have a think about moving forward. Without goals,
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  these are not goal -orientated and these are
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  not resolutions. but just holding what you have
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  just been thinking about. What do you want to
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  carry forward into the new year? What are you
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  ready to leave behind? And what would it look
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  like to trust yourself a little more this year?
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  However, think about those because if you know
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  your history, you will know that the Roman god
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  Janus, which is where we get the word January,
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  Jane has had two faces, one was looking forward
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  and one was looking back and that very much resonates
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  with me. For me it almost feels counterintuitive
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  to say oh we are on the 1st of January therefore
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  it's a new year therefore it's a new beginning
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  because that's ignoring the past year, stroke
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  years that we have just lived through. It's not
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  humanly possible to be able to just wipe the
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  slate clean. If we don't tackle the things that
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  have troubled us in the past, then they're going
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  to crop up again in the future. Think of the
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  sweeping under the carpet analogy. It might be
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  out of sight for the moment, but you will trip
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  up on it at some point in the future. I'm going
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  to do one more thing in this episode, and that's
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  pull a card. This card is not a prediction. This
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  is a theme. that I'm going to try and take forward
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  for the rest of this year. And I'm using the
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  Inner Child deck of cards. These are large cards.
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  If you haven't got these or if you haven't heard
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  of these, have a little Google. They're lovely
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  cards. They're sort of based on nursery rhyme.
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  I love how these cards just work out. I think
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  every time I pull a card I'm always blown away
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  with the symbolism and the relevance of it. I
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  will post a picture of this card on my Instagram
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  so look out for that at the .psychic .explorer.
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  But this card around the edge of it features
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  many symbols and I interpret these symbols to
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  be one of slowness, one of just slowing down.
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  There's no need to rush. We can take things in
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  our stride with the knowledge that from small
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  acorns to big oak trees grow, and that does not
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  happen overnight. The oak tree is a tree that
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  takes its time, but as it does grow slowly, it
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  grows strong. And I wonder if we were able to
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  ask a fully grown oak tree and as I say this
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  to you I am looking out of my back bedroom window
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  onto a row of huge old English oak trees and
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  I wonder what they have witnessed. If we were
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  to go back when that oak tree was planted or
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  when the oak tree sprouted from its shell of
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  an acorn what the world was like. This card is
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  also lined on the left and right with mushrooms.
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  To me, mushrooms are something to be enjoyed,
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  they are something natural, something to be savoured.
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  But they thrive on decay, they thrive on what
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  was. And again, as I reflect on this, I look
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  back on the situations I have found myself in
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  that have not been pleasant, but that I have
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  grown from, that have taught me lessons to be
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  able to go forward and be a better person. This
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  card features a Christmas tree it features a
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  hearth with an open a fire with stockings and
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  a garland over it and again, I Just the relevance
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  of it for this time of year I can't believe I'm
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  pulling it this card of all the cards in this
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  pack I can't believe I have pulled this card
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  for this time of year for this reading you know,
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  I've had to pause this recording a couple of
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  times because This card really stumped me. I
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  didn't know what it was saying I couldn't read
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  anything into it. It was just this card that
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  featured a Christmas tree, children opening presents,
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  parents preparing a fire and putting it stocking
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  up. And I was like, what is this? I got the outside
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  bit but couldn't get the inside. I was like,
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  what was it trying to say to me? And it just
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  suddenly struck me that Christmas is a time of...
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  giving and receiving. As we go forward into the
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  new year, prepare to accumulate. Prepare to accumulate
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  more wisdom. Prepare to accumulate more things.
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  But also hold that feeling of Christmas in your
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  heart the whole year round. Without sounding
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  too muppet's Christmas carer about this, but
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  go forward into the year with Christmas in your
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  heart. and give and love and be prepared to receive
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  and be prepared to give at various moments throughout
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  the year, whether that be knowledge, whether
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  that be materialistic things, whether that be
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  family or friends or people. At Christmas we
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  are taught to at least... It's in the culture
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  that we should have more grace for people, have
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  more patience for people, be kinder to people,
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  give to charity. And I feel like the more we
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  seem to go on, I don't know if it's just because
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  I'm getting older or not, but the more we seem
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  to go... on the less that is a thing is becoming
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  Christmas is becoming more of a an insular thing
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  we look inwards we look towards our immediate
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  circle we don't necessarily look outwards I think
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  for me that's how I'm going to interpret this
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  card to try and live my life throughout 2026
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  to try and have more grace to try and give more,
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  to be more generous, to try and receive. When
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  people give me a compliment, when people tell
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  me that they enjoy my podcast, when people tell
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  me that my readings are good, to take that and
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  to not try and dismantle it or make excuses for
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  it or try and do those very British things that
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  we do or that I do, because to receive praise
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  is not something... that I and I'm sure many
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  of my fellow country people find easy to do.
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  Try to live comfortably. Try to live in a way
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  that invites others to join you, that compels,
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  that makes other people want to participate in
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  your life, or at least in the way that you live
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  your life. I'm going to leave that one there.
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  Yeah, I struggled a bit with that one. And maybe
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  it's because... I'm still full of cheese and
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  chutney and pate, so my brain is not working
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  as much. It's a bit bogged down by all this amazing
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  Christmas food. So I'm going to leave that one
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  there. Thank you so much for listening to this
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  New Year's Day edition. It's not quite what I
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  had in mind, but I'm hoping that that reading
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  left you feeling soothed. I don't want you to...
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  Try and go searching for answers. If it resonated
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  with you, great. If it doesn't, just see what
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  happens going forward. You don't need clarity
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  today. What I suggest you may need is rest, gentleness,
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  patience and kindness to yourself. If all you
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  take away from this episode today is permission
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  to move slowly, then that is enough. If you are
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  the type of person who has gone out and got razzled
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  and enjoyed the New Year's evening, then I congratulate
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  you. Happy New Year to you. If you are the type
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  of person that raises a glass to the midnight
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  hour and acknowledges it quietly, then I raise
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  a glass to you in return. Or if you are the type
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  of person who would rather go to bed and wake
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  up to a new year, a new beginning, then absolutely.
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  as my mum used to do, go and fill your house
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  with freshly cut flowers on New Year's Day to
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  celebrate the New Year's. Just a note for going
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  forward with the PsychiExplorer. I just want
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  to let you know that we'll be returning back
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  to the old format of solo episodes where I share
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  with you my experiences. I have got something
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  Very exciting, slightly terrifying happening
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  in January. Nicola Gigi, who runs the Norfolk
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  Spiritual Centre, she has invited me to run my
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  very first, I don't like using the word service
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  because it implies religion, which is not me
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  at all, but to hold a mediumship platform event
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  at her centre in Norwich. And that will be happening
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  on Tuesday the 13th of January. So I think that's
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  just in time for my solo episode. So I'm going
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  to try and talk about that for that episode.
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  And then, at the end of January, we have got
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  Robert Lomax speaking about, well, what will
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  Robert be speaking about? He will be speaking
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  about the beings which he channels, the beings
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  which he takes inspiration, takes guidance from,
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  and as much as Robert is interested in spirituality
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  and mediumship, I think it's fair to say his
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  main passion is sharing the information he receives
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  from benevolent beings on other planes of existence.
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  I know it sounds really woo -woo and I was a
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  little bit unsure as to how I was going to approach
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  this one, but it's an interesting one and I do
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  think it's another facet in this whole... world
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  I'm exploring. So we will be going back to the
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  more traditional in future months. But Robert's
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  episode is a really interesting one. So wherever
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  you sit on that spectrum of belief, I encourage
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  you to have a listen to it. It's really interesting.
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  It's interesting. And I recorded that with him
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  face to face. It's my very first face to face
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  recording of an interview with a guest rather
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  than doing it over the internet. So it has a
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  slightly different feel. So I'm looking forward
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  to sharing that with you. In February for the
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  Valentine's episode I also have Kim Charlson.
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  Kim Charlson is a voice channeler she is able
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  to channel her guide and I have a conversation
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  with not only Kim but also her guide Monty. Then
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  in March we have Anne -Marie Pisano and she talks
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  to me about her discovery and exploration of
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  her psychic and mediumship gifts. I've got a
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  few people lined up for interviews for the new
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  year as well. So if you would like to share your
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  experiences, if you would like to talk to me
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  about how you started on this road, your honest
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  experiences, your doubts, your concerns, the
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  joys. let me know reach out to me you can find
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  me at the .psychic .explorer you can find me
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  at instagram threads and facebook so i look forward
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  to hopefully hearing from some of you i'm sending
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  you all my love and again happy new year take
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  care guys bye