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FOCUS: Rest in order to grow · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: What I want to talk to you guys about is
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  Speaker 1: rest and it being as important as growth when things
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  Speaker 1: slow down. So sometimes you're going to feel that when
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  Speaker 1: things slow down, they're going to feel like they're plateauing.
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  Speaker 1: And often we feel like we have done something wrong,
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  Speaker 1: like we get this surge of imposter syndrome come over us.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you're working really hard on something, you're seeing all
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  Speaker 1: this momentum, and then it either slows down or it
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  Speaker 1: starts to go backwards for a little bit, and then
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  Speaker 1: you might feel like you are the reason that things
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  Speaker 1: were going wrong. And because of that, you think that
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  Speaker 1: the reason things went well is due to luck, and
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  Speaker 1: that luck has come to an end. And you're thinking,
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  Speaker 1: now that that luck has come to an end, I
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  Speaker 1: now have to scramble. That flow that I was in
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  Speaker 1: wasn't a flow. It was just luck, and I'm an impostor.
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  Speaker 1: The truth is that it was a flow, and you've
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  Speaker 1: now just changed course a little bit. But this is
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  Speaker 1: not a bad thing. Don't be looking at this as
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  Speaker 1: being something to avoid, because this then causes us to resist.
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  Speaker 1: When you resist something like when you're resisting change, or
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  Speaker 1: when you're resisting something not going well, or when you
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  Speaker 1: feel like your flow has broken and you're trying to
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  Speaker 1: scramble to get it back, you actually make it worse.
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  Speaker 1: You're struggling and struggling, and that struggle is causing more
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  Speaker 1: and more resistance, and you're pulling yourself more and more
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  Speaker 1: out of that flow, when in reality, what can actually
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  Speaker 1: happen is that this regression or this slowing down, or
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  Speaker 1: this feeling of plateauing could actually be an indicator that
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  Speaker 1: we need to pause and pivot. It's often, if not always,
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  Speaker 1: it ends up being a good thing. You need to
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself that nothing grows all year round, at least
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  Speaker 1: not at the same pace. Nothing. Most things in nature,
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  Speaker 1: and most animals have their slow periods, or their periods
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  Speaker 1: where they're recovering, or their periods where they're kind of
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  Speaker 1: doing a rebuild. Even your own muscles can't be worked
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  Speaker 1: that hard all week long. If you don't rest your muscles,
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  Speaker 1: they can't then rebuild, regroup and grow more. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't sleep and slow down, you don't get smarter then,
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  Speaker 1: and you become forgetful. Right Whenever you're hit with the downtime,
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  Speaker 1: the most destructive thing you can do is to beat
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  Speaker 1: down on yourself and resist a push and push and
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  Speaker 1: push and push. This whole idea that you've got a
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  Speaker 1: hussle twenty four seven is a hoax. You can't be
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  Speaker 1: doing that to yourself. You need to cut the cycle
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  Speaker 1: and ask yourself, is this a time where I need
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  Speaker 1: to regroup? Do I need to crack something open? And
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  Speaker 1: is this my opportunity to throw something out, throw what's
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  Speaker 1: not working and regroup or possibly pivot and keep going.
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  Speaker 1: What can I do right now so I'm ready for
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  Speaker 1: my next phase? Or do I need a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of a break here so I can feel really replenished?
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  Speaker 1: Am I fatigued? Am I tired? Have I been wanting
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  Speaker 1: to shake up what I'm doing and this is now
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  Speaker 1: the time to do it because I'm reaching Like a
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  Speaker 1: slow period, you right now can turn around how you're
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  Speaker 1: feeling about something anything by changing how you approach it.
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  Speaker 1: If you change how you interpret it and how you
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  Speaker 1: deal with it, you can change how you feel about it,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's career, relationship, fitness, mental health, or your own
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  Speaker 1: journey of healing, healing from an injury, healing from a
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  Speaker 1: broken heart, or healing from burnout or defeat. You have
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  Speaker 1: done so much to get to where you are and
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  Speaker 1: be who you are. Fuck off the negative thoughts telling
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  Speaker 1: you that it was all luck and that it's all over.
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  Speaker 1: What a fucking lie, What a fucking lie.
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  Speaker 2: It was you.
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  Speaker 1: It was all you, and it's always been you. This
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  Speaker 1: is just a reset, and a reseset is the most
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  Speaker 1: beautiful thing. A reset is what takes you to the
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  Speaker 1: next level. You can't get to the next level without
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  Speaker 1: having a little pause. Even look at steps. Every time
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  Speaker 1: you step level there's that kind of end bit, and
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  Speaker 1: then there's the lift end bit and a lift. Everything
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  Speaker 1: has pauses in it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, remember when COVID hit and a lot of us
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  Speaker 2: had the opportunity, While we didn't want to, we had
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  Speaker 2: the opportunity to reassess what we were doing with our lives.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't ask for it, we definitely didn't want to.
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  Speaker 1: But it was a forced slow down and reset, and
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  Speaker 1: for so many people, changes were made and things were learnt,
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  Speaker 1: and people grew so much. They learned what they wanted,
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  Speaker 1: they learned what they could leave behind, they learned what
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  Speaker 1: they could do with their lives, and now they're more
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  Speaker 1: stronger because of it. You are now stronger because of
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  Speaker 1: these plateaus and quote unquote setbacks. This is your re
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  Speaker 1: set this is your building phase. This is your healing,
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  Speaker 1: recovery and build phase. Then you grow. Okay, never look
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  Speaker 1: at this slowing down period or something not going the
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  Speaker 1: way that it's going as you being an impostor or
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  Speaker 1: as the reason things worked out in the past was
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  Speaker 1: because of luck. The reason they worked out was because
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  Speaker 1: of you, and because of that, things are going to
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  Speaker 1: continue to work out for you. Don't worry about the
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  Speaker 1: pace and don't worry about the exact deadlines. Just know
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  Speaker 1: what you're doing right now and listen to your body
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  Speaker 1: when you need to rest and regroup. The most creative
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  Speaker 1: times are when you're resting. Okay, love you so much,
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  Speaker 1: Love you, and always remember be kind to yourself, be
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  Speaker 1: kind to your brain. Don't take shit from anyone, fucking
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  Speaker 1: don't take fucking shit from anyone, and especially don't take
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  Speaker 1: shit from yourself. I want you to have your back.
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  Speaker 1: No matter what, I've got your back, You're going to
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  Speaker 1: have your back.