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6 Questions a Narcissist can't answer in great detail · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So 6 questions. Six.
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  We're at number right? That narcissist cannot answer
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  with any specificity or in in great detail.
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  If you're new here in my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back, Welcome back. Welcome back folks.
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  Seriously, 6 questions that a narcissist Cannot answer in
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  Great Detail. They give you vague answers or
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  answers that really tell you how they feel.
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  The egotistical nature of a lot of narcissistic people kick like
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  kicks into play. So question number one is going
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  to be, what would you do if your son or daughter or a family
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  member was in this situation? Like, I tell this to people all
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  the time right here. Like narcissistic people
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  struggle to put themselves in the shoes of other people, like
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  and they can't imagine a scenario where their son or
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  daughter will be in a situation that you are trying to put them
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  in like they it just can't. They won't answer that question
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  with any specificity. They'll tell you things like,
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  well, what what did my son or daughter do to get it in this
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  situation? What did they do wrong?
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  Like, how did they get there? Or they'll say something like,
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  well, my son or daughter wouldn't be stupid enough to get
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  themselves in that situation because I'm their father and I
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  would guide them along the right direction.
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  Or they will come at you and ask you why you are speaking
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  hypotheticals. Speak in a moment.
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  Right now. Very rarely would they give you
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  an authentic answer and an authentic, vulnerable answer to
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  that question. They can't.
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  It's them. They're like they almost like
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  they can't do it. Like really like they truly
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  cannot do it. Like they don't know how to put
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  themselves in the shoes of other people, so they cannot put them
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  their own children or their own family members in the shoes of
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  other people either, if that makes any sense.
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  That happens quite a bit in these toxic relationship
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  dynamics. Like that's one of the tell tale
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  signs they won't be able to do it.
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  Like this is the question you can ask that you can.
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  This is a question you can ask them.
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  Or what would you do if your sister was?
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  What would you do if your sister was in this situation?
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  Or your brother, or your mom, or your dad?
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  Boom. You'll get some type of vague
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  answer of like here. Like a lot of times the
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  narcissistic person's superiority complex will kick in
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  and they'll just put their family members or their or their
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  people above you in this situation.
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  Because a lot of times when you're asking that question,
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  it's pertaining to something that they are doing to you,
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  right? Or something that they're doing
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  to a family member close to yours.
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  So that happens in quite a bit. So that's one question that they
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  cannot answer with very much specificity at all or in great
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  detail, or they'll refuse to answer it.
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  Like I said, they're just like, why are you speaking the
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  hypotheticals? They might refuse to answer that
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  question because they know it's like you, you got them dead to
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  rights. So they don't want to answer it
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  because they it will take them. It'll take them to a different
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  place. Let's just say it like that.
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  Question #2 Why can't you just tell the truth?
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  That's a deep one right there, isn't it?
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  That's a deep question right there.
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  I know. Y'all just, like, damn.
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  But that's right. Right there, lady.
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  Why? Why can't they just tell the
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  truth? Why can't they just be real?
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  Because, like, if you ask them that question, why can't you
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  just tell the truth? They will give you some type of
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  vague, weird answer. They'll gaslight you.
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  They'll manipulate you. They'll say something.
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  All right? You don't deserve the truth.
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  You know you can't help. They'll they'll hit you with a
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  Jack Nicholson. You can't help with the truth.
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  Did you order the code red? Did you order the code Red?
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  You that man, Right, I did. That was a powerful scene.
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  You know what? It But that happens.
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  They can't answer that question with very much specificity.
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  They'll keep that vague. Why can't you just tell the
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  truth? I know the truth.
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  Or they're just out. Yeah.
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  They'll just outright lie to you and just say that is the truth.
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  I'm telling you the truth. You can.
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  Yeah. You can have proof.
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  You can have a video recording. Y'all you can have.
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  You can have a signed affidavit by them admitting to being wrong
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  and they still will deny it. The truth doesn't serve them
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  y'all. If the truth doesn't serve me,
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  I'm not going to tell the truth. So very rarely would they be
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  able to answer that question right there with the truth.
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  Why can't you just tell the truth?
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  They won't be able to give it to you.
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  They won't be able to ask that. They won't be able to give it to
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  you with any type of fire or any type of specificity, so be
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  prepared for that to happen all the time.
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  Y'all that happens all the time in these relationship spaces.
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  Question #3, what is your greatest weakness or
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  vulnerability? Yes, in their face because they
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  when you ask a narcissistic person this question, which is
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  like it's kind of like in a job interview, you might remember
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  the job interviews back in the day.
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  I don't know if they still do that nowadays, but when they ask
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  you tell me one time when you failed, tell me one, tell me
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  your greatest weakness. Typically they'll try to make it
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  seem like their strength is a weakness, like their greatest
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  weakness is somehow a strength. My greatest weakness is that I
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  care too much. My greatest weakness.
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  I don't have any weaknesses. My greatest weakness.
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  I'm too empathetic, I'm too kind.
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  It's something like, y'all. Very rarely would they just say
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  my greatest weakness is that I haven't dealt with my childhood
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  trauma and I'm triggered very easily by criticism.
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  Very rarely are you going to hear that.
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  You might not ever hear that listen.
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  You might not ever hear that. Very rarely, when you hear that,
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  we hear them be real with that right there.
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  Because why would they? Why would they?
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  They want to Narcissistic people care about their image so much
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  that they're very rarely going to make their image look bad by
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  telling you a weakness. Because you know another reason
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  why they won't give you a direct answer?
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  Because they know that they use their your weaknesses and other
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  people's weaknesses against them.
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  Like if somebody told me their weakness, that's that's Canon,
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  That's Canon, That's a Canon. Father.
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  Father. For me to fire at them later on.
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  Man, you told me your weakness. I'm going to use it against you.
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  Why? You told it to you.
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  You offered it up. I'm going to use it against you.
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  So I if I know I use other people with weaknesses against
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  them. Of course I'm going to use your
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  witnesses against like I'm expecting you to use my
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  weaknesses against me. So they're not going to tell you
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  their greatest weakness or they're going to make it seem
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  like their greatest weakness is somehow a positive or strength.
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  You know, very rarely are they going to be able to answer that
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  question right there. Question number 41234, how does
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  that make you feel? I saw this on Cora.
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  Somebody asked this question on Cora.
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  How does that make you feel now? So, so imagine like the the
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  reason I pause, I get it, Like dramatic acting pause after
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  every question is because I want y'all to take the moment to
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  think about asking the narcissistic person in your
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  life, how does that make them feel?
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  How does something make them feel?
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  How does something make them feel?
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  Because very rarely are you going to see a narcissist.
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  Maybe they're vulnerable narcissist, but very rarely are
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  you going to see a narcissist or a very toxic person be open to
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  tell you telling you how something made them feel.
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  Feelings are feelings in giving you vulnerability.
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  Don't work. Don't serve a lot of
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  narcissists. So they're not going to give
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  that to you. They they like they're not going
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  to OfferUp their weaknesses to you, so to speak.
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  You know, they don't want to seem weak in front of you.
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  They don't want to seem vulnerable in front of you.
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  How does it make you feel? Well, make me feel.
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  I don't know how it makes me feel really.
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  I don't really feel anything right now.
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  I don't I don't know how to feel.
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  Do you need answers like that? Can they can they give you an in
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  depth answer yet? Sometimes they will.
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  Sometimes they'll give you an in depth answer and come at you
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  like that. But most times they're going to
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  say something like they're not going to be able to describe
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  their feelings. Narcissistic people will have a
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  hard time describing in detail their true feelings.
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  How does they make you feel? They're not going to be able to
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  go into great detail about how something makes them feel
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  because very they don't tap into their feelings.
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  Like, I don't. It took me a long time, as a
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  diagnosed narcissist myself, to be able to tap into my feelings.
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  You know, I'm still working on that right now.
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  So it took me a very long time to be able to tap into my own
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  feelings, into my own mindset, into my own mindscape.
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  So I'm still battling that right now, you know?
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  So question #5 what is What did they say?
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  5th What are your deepest pains? What are your deepest pains?
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  Pretty much asking them what is their what?
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  What what what hurt you the most.
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  You know it's not your greatest weakness.
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  What is your what is your deepest pain?
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  Greatest weakness and deepest pain.
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  Could they be the same thing? Yeah, absolutely.
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  But your greatest pain is something that's hidden down
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  deep, child. Some childhood trauma, some
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  something bad that happened to something to do, something bad
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  that happened to them. They're they're not willing to
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  deal with something that they're repressing.
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  They don't want to express their pain.
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  That's why a lot of narcissists don't go to therapy right there.
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  Y'all because telling expressing their pain verbally hurts.
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  Expressing pain out loud causes pain.
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  I'll say it like that. Expressing pain verbally causes
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  more pain. That's one of the things that
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  happens all the time. Being able expressing my pain
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  verbally has caused me more pain.
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  I'll say it like that in therapy.
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  It hurts. That's why narcissistic people,
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  you ask them what their greatest pain is.
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  They probably going to avoid. They might avoid the question.
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  They might not be. I don't really have.
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  I don't really have any. I can't think of a time why.
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  Greatest pain. I broke my leg.
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  They'll give you a physical pain, you know, They'll give you
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  some type, some type of physical effect, some type of physical
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  pain. Not any type of emotional.
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  You can ask them what their greatest emotional pain is.
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  What's your deepest emotional pain?
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  They don't need something physical.
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  Oh, man, I broke my arm. I fell off the monkey bars when
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  I was in 4th grade. I was trying to do a back flip
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  and I slipped and fell and broke my arm.
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  And I remember that hurt like head hurt like hell.
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  I had a toothache very recently and I've never experienced pain
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  like that. You're like, you cannot get rid
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  of tooth pain. That just I this that's the
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  greatest probably the greatest pain is that you know probably
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  have to get the wisdom tooth out you know something like that
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  very rarely or they'll be able to give you a deep emotional
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  pain because that that takes tapping into a different space.
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  Right. Deep emotional pain.
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  They don't want to share that trauma with.
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  They don't want to share that trauma with you because why they
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  think you will use it against them because they would use your
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  deepest emotional pain against you that's why.
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  And last but not least, y'all. I did a live on this very
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  recently. But another question.
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  This is a bonus question. Number six, what do you love
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  about me? Ask the narcissistic person in
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  your life, what do they love about you?
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  What do they love about you? Ask them what do you love about
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  you? And typically when they were in
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  the response to this question, they're going to give you things
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  that serve them. They're going to give you things
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  that they love about you, that affect them.
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  I love your smile. I love the way you.
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  I love you, love your existence. Your existence is blessed.
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  I love. I just love you.
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  You complete me. They're going to go on and say
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  they're going to say something. Like I love the way you You're
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  there for me. I love the way you cook for me.
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  I love the way you pay the bills.
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  I love the way you take care of me.
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  I love the way you make me smile.
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  I love the way you do this for me.
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  I love the way you benefit me. I love the way you do.
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  They're going to say something about how it benefits them.
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  The love for you. What a narcissist loves about
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  you is typically going to be in some type of benefit to them,
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  you know? Anyways, y'all, if y'all got
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  some more questions that a narcissist can't answer, you
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