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LIVE YOUR DIAMOND LIFE: Authentic Q&A for Women Chapter 6: Why Does Money Come & Go? · Rock My Finances

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  Speaker 3: about the zeros, So what is it all about? Let's
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  Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, welcome back to Rock My finances. This has
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  Speaker 2: you can relate to some of these questions that I've
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  Speaker 2: received over the years. This is Live your Diamond Life,
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  Speaker 2: Authentic Q and A for women. This is chapter six.
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  Speaker 2: Why does money come and go? Right? Like we feel
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  Speaker 2: like we're doing a really good and we pay off
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  Speaker 2: all our debt and we like last year, I bought
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  Speaker 2: my house, I had to buy a new car on
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  Speaker 2: which I love her. Her name's Diamond. Bought a Genesis
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  Speaker 2: like she's adorbed. I love her so much. She's white,
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  Speaker 2: white interior. I love all of that. And then it's like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: now I've got my daughter's wedding to go to. We're
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  Speaker 2: going to Iceland. It's like, okay oooh, money is coming
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  Speaker 2: and going for sure, right, So why does that feel
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  Speaker 2: unstable and crazy? So we're gonna ask a lot of
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  Speaker 2: questions around this, right, here's question number one. Why does
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  Speaker 2: money come in and then it disappears so quickly? So
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  Speaker 2: what's underneath that? We know? It's never about the zeros, right,
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  Speaker 2: that's our tagline, It's never about the zeros in the bank,
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  Speaker 2: because I can have somebody with six zeros in the
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  Speaker 2: bank and they feel the exact same as I have
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  Speaker 2: one zero in the bank. Like it doesn't even matter.
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  Speaker 2: You can have one thousand or one hundred thousand, and
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  Speaker 2: I have people my clients that feel exactly the same.
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  Speaker 2: So it doesn't matter. The zeros do not matter. We
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  Speaker 2: have to take care of the underlining beliefs. So what's
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  Speaker 2: underneath that is it disappears so quickly. Your nervous system
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  Speaker 2: is calibrated to a certain normal I call it a temperature.
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  Speaker 2: You have a money wealth temperature, So you're calibrated to
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  Speaker 2: that normal feeling of those zeros in the account, and
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  Speaker 2: that's just normal for you. Like I made a certain
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  Speaker 2: amount of money forever and ever in the beginning of
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  Speaker 2: my industry, right, I don't even know what it was like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe eighty thousand. Then it was like one hundred thousand.
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  Speaker 2: Then I made like one hundred and fifty thousand for
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  Speaker 2: many years and it was just, you know, it was normal.
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  Speaker 2: And then it went up to two hundred thousand, it
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  Speaker 2: was two fifty, like, it just kept increasing, but it
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  Speaker 2: increased slowly so that I could raise my temperature of
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  Speaker 2: my normal of money coming in. Does that make sense?
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  Speaker 2: And we all kind of do that, I think so
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  Speaker 2: if you're used to used to a specific level of money,
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  Speaker 2: instability or anything above that feels unfamiliar, unsafe, it could
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  Speaker 2: feel downright scary. So if you were too like I did,
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  Speaker 2: one year, I doubled my income. I made one hundred
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  Speaker 2: and twenty five thousand avels a sudden, I made two
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  Speaker 2: to fifty, like boom, right off the bat. That was
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  Speaker 2: weird because then I had so much extra money. Which
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  Speaker 2: bucket am I going to fill?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 2: I'm a financial advisor. It was so fun to pick
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  Speaker 2: a bucket that I wanted to put my own money in.
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  Speaker 2: It was so fun. So it can feel unsettling at
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  Speaker 2: that point. So what we normally do is if we
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  Speaker 2: are feeling unsettled. It's our energy. It's about how we
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  Speaker 2: feel about it. So what happens we create an circumstance
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  Speaker 2: or an experience to spend that money to get a
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  Speaker 2: back down to the normal level that's in our bank accounts.
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  Speaker 2: So that's what I work with people in the coaching
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  Speaker 2: sector when they make Let's say I have everybody have
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  Speaker 2: a magic number. What do you want in your savings
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  Speaker 2: account when you open up your app on your phone.
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  Speaker 2: You want to be able to see this amount of
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  Speaker 2: money every day. What is it? Let's say it's five thousand,
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  Speaker 2: and you're checking in ten thousand in your savings, so
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  Speaker 2: you always want to see fifteen thousand dollars and you
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  Speaker 2: open up your checking account, and when it starts to
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  Speaker 2: dip below that, your stomach starts to rumble, your heart
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  Speaker 2: might get some palpitations, like it just doesn't feel good.
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  Speaker 2: And so it doesn't matter about the zero's whatever your
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  Speaker 2: number is. At your magic number, I get that. So
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  Speaker 2: when we get used to that number, I ask them
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  Speaker 2: to add a zero to it. Add a zero instead
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  Speaker 2: of five thousand, right, I want you to be used
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  Speaker 2: to fifty thousand. How does that feel? You want fifty
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  Speaker 2: thousand in your savings account. Well that just sounds astronomical, right,
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  Speaker 2: But if you keep practicing that thought and adding a
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  Speaker 2: zero to that, you're going to raise your temperature. Now,
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  Speaker 2: we can play lots of little silly games to help
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  Speaker 2: you raise your temperature. Here's another game to help you
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  Speaker 2: raise your temperature. On being worthy of money, being worthy
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  Speaker 2: of wealth. I want all women in this world, starting
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  Speaker 2: with our country first, to be worthy of wealth because
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  Speaker 2: we will change the world. I don't know any women
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  Speaker 2: at all that do not want to help someone else.
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  Speaker 2: We usually want to make more money because we're going
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  Speaker 2: to help either our family or friends or a nonprofit.
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  Speaker 2: We all have something else in mind. So we could
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  Speaker 2: create such an amazing society if women felt worthy of wealth,
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  Speaker 2: because then guess what we will attract it. It will
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  Speaker 2: come and we will make changes. So that's my mission
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  Speaker 2: in my little soapbox on this earth right now. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: back to my little game. So it's a I think
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  Speaker 2: it's an Abraham Hicks game, and I get it from
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  Speaker 2: Abraham Hicks. I can't remember. But you have to spend
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  Speaker 2: and it's so fun. You could either do one hundred
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  Speaker 2: dollars a day or one thousand dollars a day, But
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  Speaker 2: you do this in your brain. You could do it
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  Speaker 2: every day if you wanted to, to get a group
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  Speaker 2: of friends together and text each other what you're going
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  Speaker 2: to buy. Every morning you wake up and you get
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  Speaker 2: a new thousand dollars or a new one hundred dollars,
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  Speaker 2: whatever works for you, and you have to spend it.
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  Speaker 2: You can't donate it, you can't save it. You have
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  Speaker 2: to spend it, and you literally shop, like what am
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  Speaker 2: I going to buy my first thousand dollars? You can't
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  Speaker 2: pay off debt, you can't buy You can buy a house,
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  Speaker 2: but you can't save it save it up to buy
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  Speaker 2: a house. So you have to spend it every day.
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  Speaker 2: And it really tricks our brain and our subconscious that
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  Speaker 2: we have this money. Our subconscious does not know that
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  Speaker 2: we don't have this money. So we're changing our new
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  Speaker 2: normal because then when we get up to like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, it increases one thousand dollars a day, so
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  Speaker 2: then the next day's two thousand dollars, then it's three
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  Speaker 2: thousand dollars, then it's four thousand dollars, and it's like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I don't even know how to spend
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  Speaker 2: ten thousand dollars a day or fifteen thousand dollars a day.
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  Speaker 2: Now I'm buying you know what am I buying? Like?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, there's so much things. Right, So it's
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  Speaker 2: kind of fun because then you really got a shop
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  Speaker 2: for it. So now you're shopping in these thousands of
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  Speaker 2: dollars that you've never done before, and it tricks your subconscious.
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  Speaker 2: It's really kind of fun. So if you want to
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  Speaker 2: raise your temperature, raise your normal that your brain is
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  Speaker 2: used to add a zero to everything that you do.
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  Speaker 2: That's one thing. The next thing is, next time money
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  Speaker 2: comes in, pause, don't move it, don't do anything for
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  Speaker 2: at least twenty four hours. Let it sit in a
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  Speaker 2: bank account. Keep looking at it. See that money come in.
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  Speaker 2: If it's cash, hold it, feel it, keep it visible.
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  Speaker 2: I have cash dashed all around my house. It could
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  Speaker 2: be a dollar or five dollars, twenty dollars. Every time
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  Speaker 2: I open up a drawer or look at them, Oh
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  Speaker 2: there's no more money, Oh there's more money, a purse, pockets, anything.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay because one of my mantras is money is everywhere.
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  Speaker 2: Money is everywhere. Money is everywhere, and it comes to
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  Speaker 2: me easily and effortlessly. That's my friend Denise's motto that
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  Speaker 2: she always has. I love it. Okay, we want to
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  Speaker 2: retrain our brain around take in our time to spend
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  Speaker 2: the money. So keep that in your account for a
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  Speaker 2: while and retrain that all right. Question number two, why
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  Speaker 2: do I feel an urgency to spend or move money
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  Speaker 2: as soon as I get it? Because we feel like
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  Speaker 2: we've got to do something with it now, right it's
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  Speaker 2: in the bank account, it's you got a big fat
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  Speaker 2: bonus check, or you got married and now you've got
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  Speaker 2: a dual income. It could be anything. The urgency is
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  Speaker 2: often tied to past instability. If money didn't feel consistent
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  Speaker 2: growing up, then your system learned use it now before
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  Speaker 2: it's gone. This creates a subtle panic response. So even
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  Speaker 2: when there's no actual threat at all and has nothing
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  Speaker 2: to do with your childhood, you could still feel that.
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  Speaker 2: So we want to calm our nervous system down. We
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  Speaker 2: want this money to be allowed to stay because we,
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  Speaker 2: most of us want more savings. I think almost every
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  Speaker 2: person I ever always wants to increase their savings. So
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  Speaker 2: we want to say this money is allowed to stay.
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  Speaker 2: Take a breath, put our hand on our heart, put
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  Speaker 2: our hand on our chest. When we're teaching our system.
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  Speaker 2: There's no emergency. Everything is fine. I said in my
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  Speaker 2: last chapter. I go out and touch the soil every morning.
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  Speaker 2: It could be the sunset. You could see the sunset
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  Speaker 2: every night and say everything is fine. This money is
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  Speaker 2: allowed to stay. Then the next step would be my
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  Speaker 2: money makes money while I sleep. So even if it's
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  Speaker 2: in a money market making point zero one percent or like,
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  Speaker 2: I have a great money market right now, whatever it
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  Speaker 2: might be, right, our interest rates always change. So even
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  Speaker 2: if it's in something simple making a little bit of money,
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  Speaker 2: it's still making money. So you can still say your mantra,
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  Speaker 2: my money makes money while I sleep. That's amazing. So
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  Speaker 2: that savings account is going to make you feel good
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  Speaker 2: to keep it there and keep it, and you're going
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  Speaker 2: to have more stability than more times you do this. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: number three, Why do I make good money but I
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  Speaker 2: still don't keep it? What's underneath of this Earning and
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  Speaker 2: holding on to money is absolutely completely two different identities,
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  Speaker 2: two different energy fields, two different feelings. Right, so you
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  Speaker 2: may have learned how to achieve, produce, perform, earn, work
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  Speaker 2: your butt off seven days a week three to six
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  Speaker 2: five days a year. You know, do you are you
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  Speaker 2: that type A Like I was came in with my
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  Speaker 2: list every morning, looked at my list at my desk,
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  Speaker 2: my to do's. When I didn't finish those, that's my
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  Speaker 2: to dos for tomorrow. Like I am regimented, I'm rigid,
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  Speaker 2: and nothing gets in the way of my schedule. This
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  Speaker 2: is this, and I'm going to do this, this, and this.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to make ten calls before ten I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to get through all of my all of my to do's.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to talk to all my people. Like very rigid,
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  Speaker 2: very getting things done. But you didn't learn how to receive,
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  Speaker 2: hold or sustain receive allah oh, relaugh open, allow the
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  Speaker 2: manifestations to come to you. Allow great ideas. If we
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  Speaker 2: don't have space between the rain drops, as I always
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  Speaker 2: hear from my friend Peter Land, if we don't have
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  Speaker 2: stre space between the rain drops, then it's just consistent.
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  Speaker 2: Can you feel that a minute, we want to feel
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  Speaker 2: the space between the rain drops. I just love that.
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  Speaker 2: I love that it helps us breathe more, It helps
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  Speaker 2: us relax because there's things that are coming to us
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  Speaker 2: all the time. The universe is always giving us little
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  Speaker 2: heat secrets and hints. Remember when Oprah used to say,
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  Speaker 2: you always get a whisper, and then you might get
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  Speaker 2: a tap on your shoulder and then you're gonna get
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  Speaker 2: a slam into the cement wall if you didn't hear
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  Speaker 2: it yet. So we're always receiving great gifts from the universe,
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  Speaker 2: from God, from our angels, from those who've passed before us,
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  Speaker 2: whatever your belief is. We are always getting messages on
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  Speaker 2: the right thing to do. But we have to slow
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  Speaker 2: down to receive it, to allow it, and to trust it.
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  Speaker 2: And I know that's one of the hardest things for
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  Speaker 2: us to do, is trust. So I want money to
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  Speaker 2: be able to come through more than just effort. I
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  Speaker 2: wanted to come through good feelings. I don't want it
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  Speaker 2: to be leaving just because you want to get rid
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  Speaker 2: of it. Now. If you're going to pay off debt,
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  Speaker 2: that feels amazing. So I want you to celebrate. We
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  Speaker 2: do not celebrate enough. First of all, I want you
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  Speaker 2: to celebrate when you get it. Everybody has to have
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  Speaker 2: a money dance. If you're on video, you're gonna see
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  Speaker 2: my money dance right now. I look so crazy, but
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  Speaker 2: this is my money dance. I want you to be
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  Speaker 2: able to have a money dance and celebrate when you
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  Speaker 2: receive money, when you pay off debt, when it feels
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  Speaker 2: really good, when you maybe did something. I had a
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  Speaker 2: lot of my clients either go on their Amazon basket
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  Speaker 2: or their online baskets, or their instacarts, or just shopping
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  Speaker 2: around what they wanted to do, and hang on to
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  Speaker 2: it for three days. You can't buy it yet, so
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  Speaker 2: that money I wanted to stay there, And I want
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  Speaker 2: you to go window shopping and dreaming and desiring, and
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  Speaker 2: then you're going to hang onto it for three days.
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  Speaker 2: So now you're telling your body and your subconscious that
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  Speaker 2: you are wealthy. It's a little bit of a trick.
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  Speaker 2: I think I got it from Prosperity Consciousness. It's a book,
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  Speaker 2: really really good book, Prosperity Consciousness. And it's a trick
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  Speaker 2: that we're tricking our subconscious And so we're telling our body,
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  Speaker 2: our nervous system, that we're wealthy, we've got money, we
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  Speaker 2: are on it, we're good, and now we get to
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  Speaker 2: choose where we're going to spend this money. So now
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  Speaker 2: we're going to take our time. Where am I going
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  Speaker 2: to go out to dinner? We're going to check out
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  Speaker 2: all these restaurants. If I want this blazer or these shoes,
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  Speaker 2: where do I want to buy it from? Now? Only
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  Speaker 2: when it feels good. I don't want you to be
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  Speaker 2: stressed trying to get the best deal, running around, you know,
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  Speaker 2: getting all crazy. I want it to feel good. If
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't feel good, walk away. Here's a writing exercise
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  Speaker 2: for this. Rite down. I am someone who keeps and
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  Speaker 2: grows money, and repeat this daily. I am someone who
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  Speaker 2: keeps and grows money. I am expanding my identity. I'm
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  Speaker 2: expanding my wealth and this is going to happen if
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  Speaker 2: you do this every day. It is a money muscle.
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  Speaker 2: You have homework here. This is not just a one
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  Speaker 2: and done. Sorry, which is why I have a job. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Question number four? Why do I feel uncomfortable seeing money
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  Speaker 2: sit in my account? Why is that hard for it
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  Speaker 2: to just sit there? Well? What's underneath of that? Stillness
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  Speaker 2: can feel very unsafe when you're used to constant motion.
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  Speaker 2: If like your life is being about solving, fixing, or
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  Speaker 2: reacting constantly, right, We're always doing something, and then when
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  Speaker 2: nothing's happening, it feels kind of wrong. Now. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know about you, but I used to create a very
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  Speaker 2: busy calendar. I didn't know that what I was doing
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  Speaker 2: was running from my feelings. I stayed busy. I'm very social,
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  Speaker 2: I'm an extrovert, and I would just stay very busy,
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  Speaker 2: and I felt like I was a better person the
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  Speaker 2: more busy I was. If my phone was always ringing
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  Speaker 2: off the hook, if I was always busy, I felt
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  Speaker 2: like I was doing what I was supposed to be doing.
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  Speaker 2: When actuality, what I was doing was running from the
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  Speaker 2: space between the rain drops to feel my feelings. So
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  Speaker 2: make sure that in our calendars. If you're type A
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  Speaker 2: like me and you're scheduling, schedule your money date thirty
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  Speaker 2: minutes a week minimum, and schedule the space between the
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  Speaker 2: rain drops. I want you to have time. I want
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  Speaker 2: you to have feeling time. I call it a feminine
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  Speaker 2: financial freedom time. We have to have that freedom time
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  Speaker 2: to feel the way we do when we are growing
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  Speaker 2: our wealth and we're growing our identity as becoming a
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  Speaker 2: wealthy woman or a woman of wealth. We want to
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  Speaker 2: be able to grow that, if that makes sense, we
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  Speaker 2: have to have space. Okay, So we're going to create
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  Speaker 2: a movement by spending or shifting our energy around money
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  Speaker 2: So we're going to open up our accounts and our
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  Speaker 2: money date. Open up your app on your phone, open
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  Speaker 2: up your spreadsheet, like I have a Excel spreadsheet and
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  Speaker 2: a Google spreadsheet. It's so pretty. It's got pink and purple.
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  Speaker 2: When I finish it, it's green. When the money's coming in.
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  Speaker 2: Yellow needs attention, Red means past due. I need to
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  Speaker 2: get it done today.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I have all these colors, and it makes me feel
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  Speaker 2: so good. So when we're doing that, we're going to
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  Speaker 2: do nothing. Just sit there, do nothing. Just observe. Observe
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  Speaker 2: your bank account, observe the check. Maybe you get a check,
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  Speaker 2: just observe it. Don't act on it right away, especially
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  Speaker 2: now with our online deposits, we sign the back, take
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  Speaker 2: the camera picture, do it right away, right because now
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  Speaker 2: that money's in the bank, which I agree with that
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  Speaker 2: day would be fine. But let's just hold that for
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  Speaker 2: a minute. Ah, Let's breathe into that income. Look at
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  Speaker 2: your paycheck and if everything's just automatically deposited, make sure
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  Speaker 2: you get a copy of that paycheck, and look at
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: that I did that. I'm worthy of this wealth. Just
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  Speaker 2: observe it. Let your body feel the discomfort of bringing
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  Speaker 2: this wealth in without acting on it, and just do
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  Speaker 2: that so every often. Okay, Number five, Why do I
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  Speaker 2: tend to overspend or overgive when I have money? Well,
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: what's underneath money may be tied to emotional regulation, spending
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  Speaker 2: my equal relief, giving my equal approval, and releasing my
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  Speaker 2: equal control. Does anybody want relief, approval or control out there?
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  Speaker 2: So if you didn't feel in control emotionally growing up
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  Speaker 2: like me, money becomes a way to create temporary control
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: or connection. So giving that's always feels good, right and
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: I do recommend giving it feels good and it tells
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: money that we love it and respect it. So here's
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: our exercise. We want to pause before we release it.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: So before we spend it or give it, I want
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: to say what am I feeling right now? If it's
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: emotional weight like, we want to find that emotion, separate
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: the feeling from the action. Just see if you can
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: separate that. So I just want to feel the way
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: I feel around my relationship to money right now, and
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: then when I can separate the feeling that feeling from
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: my action, then it's okay to move forward with that action,
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  Speaker 2: which would be paying down your debt. I know, there's
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: a lot of people that have spenders to get relief
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  Speaker 2: from a yucky feeling. Some people go have a cocktail.
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  Speaker 2: Some people, I mean, I know marijuana is very prevalent
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  Speaker 2: around these days. It could be that. It could be exercise,
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: it could be going for a run, it could be
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: a hot tub, or it could be retail therapy. How
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: many times have we heard the retail therapy? Okay, I'm
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: going to warn you against that because that is very
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: short and it's fleeting, and it's not going to make
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: ever long lasting good relationship with money. You're telling money
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: that you're using it, you're not respecting it, So it's
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: not going to withstand a good, long relationship with money.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: And we want money to come in forever. So if
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: you're spending to get relief on a bad feeling, hire
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: a money coach right now. Hey, y'all ROCKETMF dot com.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just saying you want to not do that. I
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  Speaker 2: know it feels good, but it's very fleeting and a
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: lot of times you feel guilty after which all only
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  Speaker 2: just brings in another relation and brings in another feeling. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: Number six, why do I feel like money creates more
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  Speaker 2: responsibility than freedom, right, especially if it's gobs of money,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: like if you don't know what to do with all
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: that extra money. In fact, I've had people very nervous
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: about this coming to me because that's what I'm going
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: to talk about, is how much more money you're going
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: to make next year or the year after. And they're like,
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I wouldn't even know what to do
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  Speaker 2: with that. That makes it And I'm like, dude, I
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: got all the buckets you could put money into. Don't
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: even worry. You go make that money and I will
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: help you put it away for you I want, and
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: I'll help you spend it because we all have to
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: have a fun bucket always. So what's underneath of money
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: creates more responsibility than freedom. Well, if you were taught
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: that money comes from pressure, stress, obligation, then more money
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: is going to feel like a bird. Right. If your
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: system avoids holding onto it, and it avoids it will
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: avoid feeling trapped, it's gonna feel constricted. We don't want it.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: We want this to be freedom. We want it to
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: feel amazing. So here's our exercise. We're gonna write down
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  Speaker 2: in our money journal. Money supports me buy dot dot
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: dot dot dot. Money supports me buy. Okay, it could
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  Speaker 2: be anything. Money supports me by paying for my housing,
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: paying for my food, paying for my medical Money supports
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  Speaker 2: me by helping me enjoy my life, buying my new house,
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: buying my new car. Money supports me by coming in
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: every month. Money supports me my growing in my savings account.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: We can come up with anything, but just write that
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  Speaker 2: down money supports me, and then list all the ways
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  Speaker 2: that money creates ease and joy with you, not the
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: pressure part, but just the ease and the joy. You
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: are rewiring the meaning of money. So the more time
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: you spend with that in your money journal, the faster
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: and quicker it's going to rewire. So when why don't
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: I feel like money creates more responsibility than freedom.
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  Speaker 1: It can.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: If you make a lot more money, you're going to
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: need a CPA, You're going to need a trust to
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: redo when you buy things. There's things that you're going
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: to do, but it's fun. So we want to rewire
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  Speaker 2: that thought of money supports me buy, and then list
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: all the ways that money creates ease, non pressure. We're
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: just rewiring that. I hope that makes sense for y'all.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Now I do know that when you make a lot
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: more money. Yes, you're right, things change, your relationship with
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: money change, and things to do change. And I can
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: tell you right now it's fun. It's really fun. So
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: if you're worried about more money coming in, then you
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: better jump on a money coach call or something, because
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: we really need to switch that wiring. Because it's fun.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: Money is fun, It rocks, it's a blast, and it's
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: so great. So let's change our beliefs because I want
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: you all to be women of wealth and I want
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: you all to be able to say I rock my finances.
• 22:06
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