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Season 3 - Episode 136 - What happens when your intentions & outcomes don’t align · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today I want to talk to you
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  about the fact that sometimes our intentions and our outcomes
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  don't actually arrive on time. We love that when we're like, Oh
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  no, I had planned that it was going to work by this time and
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  how much that spins us out of control.
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  And the moment we start to spin out of control, we start to have
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  even more problems because ultimately our emotions create
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  more of the situation that we're experiencing and cannot stress
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  this enough. I know we talk about it a lot,
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  but when you're focused on a large outcome, it's a it's
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  inherently an opportunity for stress to arrive.
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  And when you have stress arrive, it's just supposed to come to
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  you as information. When we take it on as more than
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  the information and we start living in that state of stress
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  and we start acting in that state of anxiety, we ultimately
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  are giving way more power than we should.
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  Because all of a sudden that's the point that we're attracting
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  from. That's the point where all the
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  energy is going to and we know like attracts like science, not
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  woo, woo, It's definitely the case.
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  So we have to make sure that when we put our intentions on an
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  outcome, and the outcome is arriving slower than we want it
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  to, or not quite in the way that we want it to, rather than
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  getting into that state of frustration, irritation, anger,
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  fear, whatever you want to call it or whatever you're
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  experiencing it to be, we have to stop and say, I gotta hang on
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  here for a second. I got to look at this and say
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  this is just information. And I can't allow myself to stay
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  in that state because that state attracts more of itself.
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  And maybe the information it's providing to me means I need to
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  change my approach. I need to look at something and
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  shift. I need to try something
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  different. Because often when we get into
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  those states, we become blinded by the path that we've been
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  doing, as opposed to looking and saying, OK, is there something
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  else I can do? Is there another way I can look
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  at this? Is there another person I can
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  involve? How can I participate in my own
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  rescue rather than drowning myself in unresourceful
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  emotions? And this probably is one of the
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  hardest things to do because typically when your emotions are
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  high, we don't become the brightest people.
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  You know, I've heard, you've probably heard me say before
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  when emotions go up, intelligence goes down.
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  But this is definitely one of those cases.
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  Because when you're in it and you're trying to evaluate things
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  and you're in a heightened state of emotion, God knows that that
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  is a just difficult place to be thoughtful about your reactions
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  and taking action to move forward to something.
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  You know, I have myself when I I know when I panic.
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  It is not a good thing. And I don't always think
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  clearly. I always mired my husband
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  immensely for his ability to have this sense of peace.
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  When things get really intense, he has this ability to pull
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  himself down and get into this very centered place and be
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  thoughtful about it and you know, change his approach if
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  necessary. I've seen him do this in life
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  threatening situations where we all almost drown in kayaks and
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  had to. He had to save my son.
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  He's in the ice cold water up to his chest, over his head,
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  hanging onto a kayak and he's talking to me as calmly as he
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  would saying can you please pass the milk?
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  And that's the ability to be able to do that is such a
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  presence and such a gift because it helps you to make smart
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  decisions, because he was capable of doing that in those
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  moments when we were in trouble, he saved us and he made sure
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  that we were all walking away from that without a disaster.
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  And that was predicated on the ability to be able to do this.
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  So think about the fact that you might be doing something right
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  now and it's super intense and there's a lot happening around
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  you, whether you're, you know, people or business is happening.
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  You're waiting for clients, you're working on a project and
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  it's not going the way you thought.
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  Your boss is upset with you, whatever it might be.
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  Your emotional reaction to it has to be thought out.
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  If you're having an emotional reaction and it's not
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  resourceful, say to yourself, OK, is this trying to teach me
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  something or is this unnecessary right now?
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  Really debrief yourself. Ask yourself, is this
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  resourceful? Is this the emotion I need to be
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  in? And then figure out if there's
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  information you need. Change your approach and you
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  don't have to come up with this all by yourself.
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  Ask if you need help, ask someone else and say, OK, how
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  would you approach this? But go make sure you go to a
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  good resource, of course. But always check in with
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  yourself and realize then in those moments when it's not
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  working out the way you intended it to be, is there something you
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  can learn from it? Is there a way you can change
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  your approach? Is there.
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  You can definitely change your emotion and that can't be done
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  by anybody but you. You are the person that changes
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  that emotion. So please be aware, no one can
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  help you change your emotion, but but you can change your
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  emotion. So you need to go in there and
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  do that work. Hold yourself to that, like very
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  strict line. I'm in charge of my emotion.
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  I don't choose this one. I choose to be this way.
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  I choose to look at this differently.
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  And I choose to focus on what I can learn and move forward so
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  that I can get to my outcome and I can get to what my intention
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  was. All right, my friends, I hope
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  this was helpful and I hope you have a very blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.