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Can an empath defeat a narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people today we want
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  to be answering the age-old question.
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  Kevin, can an impact defeat a narcissist?
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  If you do hear, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Welcome back, welcome back,
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  welcome back folks. I made it seem at the beginning,
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  I made it seem like there's a the battle, the age-old battle
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  between good and evil. You see what I'm saying?
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  The age-old battle between good and evil.
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  Who Will Win the impact for the narcissist?
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  Who Will Win the age-old battle? The battle is old.
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  A battle is old as time. It is a battle, but it's not
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  necessarily a you know, it is a battle.
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  It could be a battle for life or death.
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  If you get, if you get down to the nitty gritty of things, it
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  could absolutely be a battle between life and death.
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  This is one of the things that happens right here.
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  Y'all narcissistic people absolutely could absolutely in
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  this space be defeated by an empath, an empathetic person,
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  'cause I say empath, you know, is one of these terms.
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  A lot of people, you know, just like the word narcissist, a lot
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  of people use the word empath and whatnot.
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  Narcissists and empaths are two sides of the different, two
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  different sides of the coin, right?
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  I don't necessarily necessarily think it's a battle between good
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  and evil. It's a battle between, you know,
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  empathy and lack of empathy in highly empathetic and lack of no
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  empathy at all sometimes. But I will say this, your
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  empathy, if you're dealing with a narcissist, right?
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  Narcissists like to use your empathy against you.
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  Too much empathy, too much compassion given to the wrong
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  person can lead to you getting manipulated, can lead to you
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  getting abused and abused. And I say, I say this to people
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  all the time. Too much empathy, too much
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  compassion is not necessarily a good thing when it's given to
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  the wrong person. It just makes you more, it makes
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  you more vulnerable to this person.
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  Like narcissists love people that are highly empathetic.
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  They love it. I'm not saying that they're
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  attracted to them. Like not highly empathetic
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  people don't give off or don't give off a certain pheromone.
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  You don't smell like delicious soy sauce.
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  Like what's that? That's not, that's not the
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  choice soy sauce. That's an empath.
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  I'm gonna go get it. No, no, it's not like that.
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  You know, it's not like that in that space right there.
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  Y'all narcissistic people, toxic people.
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  Like they look when they realize, when they get to know
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  you and they see that you're highly empathetic.
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  They try to use it against you. Sometimes they'll dump a sob
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  story on your head. Sometimes they're like they'll
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  tell your sob story, Your, your their their sob story.
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  They'll use it against you. They'll tell you straight up,
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  hey, look, I'm, I've been hurt in the past.
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  I'm so hurt. I've been taken advantage of for
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  years. I, you know, my mom used to beat
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  me. My dad used to beat me.
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  I grew up this, I grew up this. I had, I didn't, I had, I didn't
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  have this, I didn't have that. They will give you the sob story
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  of a lifetime in order to take advantage of you.
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  They absolutely will In these spaces, in these relationship
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  dynamics, they absolutely will take advantage of you.
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  They will use the things that you love against you.
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  Your empathy, your compassion, You'll, you know, they'll take
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  your sadness, use it against you.
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  So the way to defeat a narcissist is to, yeah,
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  withdraw. Not all your empathy.
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  I'm just saying, I'm not telling you to become a narcissist, but
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  you have to start withdrawing empathy.
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  Start being selective with your empathy towards this person.
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  Like narcissistic people can get narcissistic supply from your
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  compassion, from your empathy. They can use that against you.
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  They get the validation from you because you're highly
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  empathetic, right? So in order to defeat a
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  narcissist, you have to drain them of their that you have to
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  drain them of their source of supply.
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  Well, whatever source of supply that they're getting from you,
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  you have to cut it off. You know you have to cut off the
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  supply. Whether it's your empathy, your
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  compassion, your financial contribution to their lives,
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  your housing contribution if they had nowhere else to go your
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  your vehicle contribution if they had nowheres to go.
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  Like you have to cut off whatever form of supply they get
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  from you. Emotional supply, financial
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  supply, bedroom supply. Y'all just clapping cheeks and
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  you just ugly. I just can't get enough of it.
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  I just like it is the best I've ever had.
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  I don't know if I can find it anywhere else.
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  Y'all, if you have no sexual discipline, you're going to lose
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  100% of the time. You can't heal from somebody
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  that you that you sleeping with it just to me, they don't make
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  sense. You see what I'm saying, but
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  could could. Hey, this is me just being
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  objective with my own my own objective over here.
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  But like to me it just like you can't you just you, you clapping
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  cheeks on a daily basis once twice a day and somehow you can
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  disconnect from the person. I just don't see.
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  I just don't see they're boding well for you, you know, so you
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  have to cut off whatever form of supply, figure out what type of
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  supply that they're getting from you and then cut it off, cut it
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  off, slice it off. So there's a very cut it off.
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  Whatever you get it, they're getting from you, cut it off
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  because that's how you defeat them.
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  That's how you get them to leave you alone a lot of the time
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  because you withdraw your supply from them.
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  You withdraw your empathy, your compassion from them.
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  You withdraw it from them and you let them.
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  Sometimes you got to let them go.
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  I know people just like, well, I don't want to let them go.
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  I love them. I get that.
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  When I tell y'all, I understand it.
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  Believe me, I do understand it. I get it that you love them.
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  I get it that you care about them like you're, you're a human
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  being with a lot of empathy. Of course you're going to care
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  about them. Of course you're going to love
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  them. That makes sense to me.
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  You know, it makes sense to me that you love and care about
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  this person. That makes complete sense.
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  But what I will say is that you have to start withdrawing this
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  from them, you know, because it allows you to heal, allows you
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  to grow and it helps you. Hopefully it'll get them to
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  leave you alone. Will all of them leave you alone
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  in this situation? No, Some of them will try to,
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  you know, drain you or whatever supply they can get from you.
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  They'll still try to come back. They'll still try to drain you
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  of their supply. They'll still be steep.
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  They'll still continue to mess with you.
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  They just will. This is how they, this is how
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  they empower themselves. This is how they keep moving
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  forward. They just will continue to do
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  the same things over and over again until they, you know,
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  their knees get mad until they get done with you or until you
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  cut them all off completely. You know, how else can you
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  defeat a narcissist? Go no contact with him.
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  Go no contact with him. Can that?
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  Yeah, I'll just tell you. Go No contact with a narcissist
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  can drive them crazy. It it really, really, it really,
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  really can. You know, it really, really can.
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  It can drive them crazy it because not only are you cutting
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  off access to you, which helps you cutting off the former
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  supply you cutting off communication.
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  You stay. You're you're standing in your
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  truth. You're standing what, what the
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  kids say, but not the kid, not not necessarily kids.
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  The the young folks you're standing on.
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  You're you're standing on business.
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  You know, you're standing on Mr. Business President business,
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  whatever it is from the crackle from Lego movie.
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  You're standing on that business.
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  You're taking back your power. So you do it like that.
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  You know what I mean? You withdraw, you cut off
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  access, you go no contact with them.
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  That's how you defeat them. Go no contact with them.
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  Cut them off. Not worry about what?
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  Like not worry about what they're doing, not reach out to
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  them, not giving them your reactions because narcissists
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  feed off your reactions. As long as you're reacting to
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  me, as long as you're responding to me, as long as I still have
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  some type of access to you, I'm I feel like I'm good.
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  I feel like I have a chance. I feel like we are still
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  connected and I can still control you in some way, shape
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  or form. I feel like that's what happens
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  in these situations. That's what happens in these
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  spaces. It just does.
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  So you have to empower yourself in these situations in order to
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  just move forward, in order to empower yourself in order to
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  stay as safe as you possibly can.
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  This helps you heal, this helps you grow, this helps you move
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  forward. It just really, really does, you
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  know? So staying safe in these spaces
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  when you decide to do that. No access, no nothing.
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  You know another way y'all that to defeat a narcissist, that
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  impact and defeat a narcissist is by exposing them for who they
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  are. Y'all?
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  Y'all know damn well that narcissist.
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  One of the things the narcissist value most on this planet is
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  their reputation. And how is is their reputation
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  and how other people view them. They love to be viewed by other
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  people as having a having a good reputation.
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  They love having a good reputation like it empowers them
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  to just to get over on so many people and they have so many
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  people thinking that they are a good person like damn, so many
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  people believe that I'm a good person even though I'm horrible.
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  I got it. Look how many people I'm
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  tricking. It empowers them.
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  So it of course use discretion. I'm not telling you to just hop
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  off this video like Lee said expose them.
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  Lee did not say expose them. Lee said you can feed them this
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  way. But again, y'all, any way that
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  you can defeat a narcissist could result in them losing a
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  damn mind you say, any way that you can defeat them, you can
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  Gray rock them, you know, withdraw access to them, go no
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  contact with them like any expose them like any way that
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  you can defeat them could result in them having having a
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  narcissistic collapse where their ego is completely
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  shattered and fractured. When they lose their damn minds
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  and they try to hurt you and harm you because now they've
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  been exposed. What else?
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  If they feel like, well, I've been exposed, what else do I
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  have to lose? You see, so you have to be
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  careful in these situations right here, like if you choose
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  to expose them to defeat them, they could lose their minds
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  because now their reputation is now their reputation is out
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  there for the world to see, you know, maybe not the world to
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  see. I don't know if they're, if
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  they're a content creator with a big platform or something like
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  that, or they have a, they're the pastor at the church or
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  they're, you know, the, the, the, the lead, the, the chief
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  firefighter or they work for the Police Department.
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  Whoever they are, if they have a good reputation in the community
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  and you expose them or threaten to expose them, they can lose
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  their damn minds. They really can.
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  That's how you defeat them. You can expose them or whatnot
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  as well. But I would say the the last way
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  that you can probably defeat the narcissist and like y'all, y'all
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  can drop some in the comment section because the more ideas
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  y'all drop, the more we help people, the more people get
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  helped and grow and whatnot. I would say one of the last ways
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  that you can defeat the narcissist y'all is by moving
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  on. Just living, living your best
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  life and we'll leave with this living, living our best life,
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  requiring us to unblock them. No leave them blocked and live
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  your best life. Taking your power back is how
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  you defeat them. Living your best life.
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  Going out and doing the things that they told you that you
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  couldn't do. Living the life that they took.
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  They try to restrict you from being friends with the people
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  they told you couldn't be friends with, going to your
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  family events that they told you you couldn't go to doing the
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  things that they try to withhold you from you to stop you from
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  doing. Doing that type of stuff is how
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  you take your power back. How you taking your power back
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  one O 1 doing these things right here.
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  You see what I'm saying? These things help you in the
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  end. These things absolutely help
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  empower you in the end. They just do.
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  It's one of those things that that you can bring you a lot of
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  peace because you get you become a better version of you.
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  You have your glow up journey and you heal, you grow and you
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  move forward. That's how you defeat a
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  narcissist. OK, in in conclusion,
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  information can an impact defeating narcissist.
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  Absolutely yes you can do it. I believe in you and all the
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  other good jazz y'all. Anyway, y'all let me hop off
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