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A Guide to the Modern Housewife · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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  Speaker 1: I feel so happy!
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  Speaker 2: We're excited, we're excited. We're the friends.
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  Speaker 1: We're the friend family, that's our last name is friend.
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  Speaker 2: We're friends too, but we're also the friend family.
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  Speaker 3: Kevin was definitely more organized, so I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: came in and just.
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  Speaker 2: Wrecked that ship. Right, babe?
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  Speaker 3: But there's so much good that.
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  Speaker 2: Came with that bad, right?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We got two kids out of it, that's the answer
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  Speaker 1: for everything.
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  Speaker 5: When you tell a story, and I mean every story,
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  Speaker 5: you need three things. A main character or the protagonist,
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  Speaker 5: a goal, and an antagonist or villain who tries to
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  Speaker 5: stop the main character from achieving his goal. If you
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  Speaker 5: don't have these elements, your story will be boring and
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  Speaker 5: people won't listen or watch. Recently I've been focusing on
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  Speaker 5: that last part though, the antagonist or the villain. But
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  Speaker 5: more specifically, stories that do a good job of incorporating
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  Speaker 5: multiple villains into the plot, like the first Harry Potter
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  Speaker 5: book or even Ozark, Because real life isn't linear and simple,
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  Speaker 5: it's complex. Usually when bad things happen, they all happen
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  Speaker 5: at the same time. Usually when you have a goal,
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  Speaker 5: multiple things or people try to prevent you from achieving
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  Speaker 5: that goal. So when we talk about the issue of marriage,
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  Speaker 5: it seems to me that people want to simplify their
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  Speaker 5: problem to just one thing, which I believe Karen Strong
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  Speaker 5: says it best. It's not that every woman will ruin
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  Speaker 5: your life, it's that every woman can. Certainly a good perception,
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  Speaker 5: but that idea by itself is not good enough. Because
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  Speaker 5: if that was the only problem, then we would all
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  Speaker 5: still be getting married. All you would have to do
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  Speaker 5: is just find a woman who will never do that,
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  Speaker 5: and the problem would be solved, even with the bad laws.
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  Speaker 5: But that's not how it is. There's at least one
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  Speaker 5: more problem. Women have all the power in the relationship,
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  Speaker 5: and at the same time, they have zero idea of
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  Speaker 5: what men value. The feminist propaganda was highly effective. They
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  Speaker 5: took what men value, told women to do the exact opposite,
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  Speaker 5: and it worked. The reason it worked is because every
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  Speaker 5: relationship is based on value whether they are sexual or not.
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  Speaker 5: If one or both sides are not providing value, then
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  Speaker 5: the relationship becomes toxic or gets destroyed. And yes, feminists
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  Speaker 5: did pull the same trick on men, but to a
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  Speaker 5: much lesser degree because men can't survive without having earned
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  Speaker 5: value like women can. So what often happens in the
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  Speaker 5: case where men retain value but women don't is you
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  Speaker 5: get a relationship like this. A husband provides value by
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  Speaker 5: working his ass off while the lazy wife stays at home.
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  Speaker 5: A perfect example of this comes from the Friend family
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  Speaker 5: on the first episode of Tidying Up with Marie Kondo.
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  Speaker 5: If you've never seen this show before, it's basically like
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  Speaker 5: a Japanese Netflix version of Hoarders. People have dirty houses,
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  Speaker 5: and Marie helps them tidy up.
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  Speaker 1: So both of you work?
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  Speaker 2: Well, he mostly works.
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  Speaker 4: I teach intercultural communication a few days a week, but
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  Speaker 4: I'm mostly home.
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  Speaker 1: I'm 50, 60 hours a week, yeah, and then sometimes
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  Speaker 1: on the weekends, I'm a sales manager for a restaurant
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  Speaker 1: supply company.
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  Speaker 5: This situation with Rachel and Kevin is something I often
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  Speaker 5: see with women who say, but I work too. The
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  Speaker 5: husband works all day, seven days a week with a
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  Speaker 5: real job, and she works a fun job for a
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  Speaker 5: few hours a week. Notice how he specifically gave how
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  Speaker 5: many hours he works, and she didn't. There's a reason
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  Speaker 5: for that. She wants to make her job look more
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  Speaker 5: demanding than it is. So let's figure out just how
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  Speaker 5: much she works through the power of math. She said
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  Speaker 5: she teaches a humanities class a few days a week.
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  Speaker 5: We can assume that's maybe two to four days a week.
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  Speaker 5: A humanities course usually runs for about an hour and
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  Speaker 5: a half, meaning that Rachel is working anywhere from three
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  Speaker 5: to six hours per week versus Kevin, who works 50
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  Speaker 5: to 60 hours on the weekdays and then sometimes throws
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  Speaker 5: in extra hours on the weekend as a sales manager.
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  Speaker 5: So Kevin is putting in 70 to 80 hours a
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  Speaker 5: week And then he comes home and helps with the
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  Speaker 5: housework while she works at most six hours a week
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  Speaker 5: and feels overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 1: Rachel always has one thing on her mind and that's
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  Speaker 1: enjoying her life.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think we can all see that. This is
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  Speaker 5: what I mean when I say women don't understand value.
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  Speaker 5: For one, if she's working six hours a week teaching humanities,
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  Speaker 5: then she probably is not making a significant contribution to
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  Speaker 5: the finances and therefore doesn't need to work for the money.
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  Speaker 5: if she's saying that her job is so stressful that
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  Speaker 5: she can't keep it together at home where she's more valuable,
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  Speaker 5: then she should quit her job. That's really what this
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  Speaker 5: entire episode is about. They aren't fixing Kevin's problems, they're
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  Speaker 5: fixing Rachel's. If you watch the show, you'll see that
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  Speaker 5: all the problems in the house, including their arguments, stem
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  Speaker 5: from the job that she is supposed to be handling.
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  Speaker 5: She can't get it done, even though he helps her
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  Speaker 5: after being at work for 12 hours. Imagine how mad
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  Speaker 5: you would be if you had worked your ass off
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  Speaker 5: all day and then had to come home and do
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  Speaker 5: your wife's job, too.
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  Speaker 2: He's definitely cleaner than I am, okay?
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  Speaker 4: I'm not a super dirty person, but when it comes
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  Speaker 4: to throwing my clothes over here and letting them pile
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  Speaker 4: up and leaving the.
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  Speaker 2: Laundry for a while, that's me.
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  Speaker 3: Kevin was definitely more organized, so I feel like I.
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  Speaker 2: Came in and just wrecked that ship.
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  Speaker 3: Right, babe? But there's so much good that came with that.
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  Speaker 2: Bad, right? Yeah. We got two kids out of it.
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  Speaker 2: That's the answer for everything.
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  Speaker 5: Just look at that. She is so unaware of how
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  Speaker 5: much of a problem her behavior is that she doesn't
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  Speaker 5: realize he insulted her by saying that she has literally
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  Speaker 5: no value outside of her biology. In fact, Rachel even
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  Speaker 5: stated that she has negative value because she claimed that
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  Speaker 5: she took Kevin's clean environment and made it dirty. I mean,
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  Speaker 5: it's not like this stuff takes forever. They live in
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  Speaker 5: a small one-story three-bedroom house in Lakewood, California. She could
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  Speaker 5: get most of the important cleaning done in about two
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  Speaker 5: or three hours a day. That leaves her plenty of
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  Speaker 5: time to have fun with the kids and cook the meals.
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  Speaker 5: Staying at home is not an excuse to be lazy.
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  Speaker 5: If you want to retain value and have a good relationship,
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  Speaker 5: then if he is putting in 12 hours a day
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  Speaker 5: at work, then you put in 12 hours a day
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  Speaker 5: at home. You should be putting in so much work
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  Speaker 5: that by the time he gets home, all he has
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  Speaker 5: to do is spend time with the family and go
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  Speaker 5: to sleep. When the nuclear family was at its peak,
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  Speaker 5: that's what women did, instead of using staying at home
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  Speaker 5: as an excuse to sit in front of the TV
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  Speaker 5: all day. But it gets worse than that, because not
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  Speaker 5: only is Rachel not holding up her end of the deal,
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  Speaker 5: but she also wastes her husband's money on hiring someone
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  Speaker 5: else to do her job.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you separate them?
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  Speaker 2: In categories? I think, so I don't do it.
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  Speaker 4: We have someone help us do it, like a laundry person.
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  Speaker 3: Because I hate doing laundry.
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  Speaker 1: We fight about laundry, and it seems silly when I
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  Speaker 1: say it, but really... It pisses me off, like, a lot.
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  Speaker 1: It's not because she doesn't do the laundry. It's because
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  Speaker 1: we hire somebody to come do it. It's not like
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, hey, you do the laundry, you watch the kids,
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  Speaker 1: you do the dishes. I'm saying, no, we got to
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  Speaker 1: do this, but let's do this as a family.
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  Speaker 2: Hold on. No, I'm done. Okay, hold on a second.
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  Speaker 2: With him working more, I'm home with the kids more.
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  Speaker 2: And it's freaking chaos.
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  Speaker 3: My kids are just like running around and being crazy.
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  Speaker 2: And we'd never get anything done.
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  Speaker 4: So I think to myself, what's an easy resolution? If
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  Speaker 4: we don't have enough time, then maybe we can pay
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  Speaker 4: somebody to do these things and that way we have
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  Speaker 4: more time.
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  Speaker 5: Man, look at those eyes she makes at the end.
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  Speaker 5: You can also see her trying to avoid eye contact
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  Speaker 5: with the camera because she knows what she's saying is
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  Speaker 5: complete bullshit. Her body movements show that too. So basically,
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  Speaker 5: the monetary value she brings in by teaching classes is
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  Speaker 5: being destroyed because she hires someone to do laundry for her.
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  Speaker 5: And what's worse is she hired someone to do something
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  Speaker 5: that mostly involves you waiting for a machine to do
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  Speaker 5: it for you, which means she's paying her maid for
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  Speaker 5: idle time. This is what's driving her husband insane. And
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  Speaker 5: I know people like to make it look like it's
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  Speaker 5: not a big deal. Oh, it's just cleaning, get over it.
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  Speaker 5: But it's a huge deal. Men don't want to come
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  Speaker 5: home to a dirty house and have to make their
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  Speaker 5: own food after working all day while you were at
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  Speaker 5: home not answering to a boss and doing whatever you wanted.
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  Speaker 5: This is a massive deal. If you don't think so,
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  Speaker 5: then look at Rachel's husband's reaction to the change.
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  Speaker 1: Rachel and I are, it's like, it gives me chills
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  Speaker 1: a little bit. It's like, we're like happier. We're more
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  Speaker 1: at ease. There's less, like there's less tension. When we're
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  Speaker 1: doing things in the kitchen or when we're doing the laundry,
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  Speaker 1: we're talking, we're having a conversation about our day and
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  Speaker 1: et cetera. It's not something that takes away Take a
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  Speaker 1: look at that. He even says that she is more
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  Speaker 1: attractive now that she.
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  Speaker 2: Adds actual value to the household. The intervention wasn't for
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  Speaker 2: the Friend family. It was for Rachel. I'm just going
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  Speaker 2: to say it. I hate laundry, okay? That actually gives
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  Speaker 2: me anxiety.
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  Speaker 4: But I know that if Kevin and I continue our habits,
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  Speaker 4: my kids are going to be the exact same.
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  Speaker 5: It's statements like this that reveal what the problem is.
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  Speaker 5: Not only do women have the choice to be a
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  Speaker 5: complete detriment to their relationship and still get what they want,
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  Speaker 5: but even if they wanted to be a good wife,
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  Speaker 5: they don't know how. They're supposed to learn these skills
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  Speaker 5: in childhood. By the time she is an adult, she
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  Speaker 5: should already know how to do laundry quickly so it
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  Speaker 5: doesn't give her anxiety. She should know how to cook
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  Speaker 5: amazing food. She should know how to manage kids from
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  Speaker 5: experiences like babysitting. If you don't know that stuff by
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  Speaker 5: the time you are married, then you are at a
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  Speaker 5: significant disadvantage. A disadvantage that is probably only going to
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  Speaker 5: be made up with lost sleep, and how many modern
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  Speaker 5: women are willing to do that? How many modern women
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  Speaker 5: are willing to sacrifice and put themselves through extreme stress
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  Speaker 5: to learn skills they should have learned in childhood? How
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  Speaker 5: many single mothers, who are already victims to their bad decisions,
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  Speaker 5: are going to put in the work so that men
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  Speaker 5: will stay around? The single mothers aren't going to do that.
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  Speaker 5: They're too content with welfare and the other free stuff
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  Speaker 5: they get. The rest of the women aren't going to
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  Speaker 5: do that either. Everyone already does everything for them and
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  Speaker 5: appeases them when they make bad decisions. Why bother with
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  Speaker 5: all the stress when it's perfectly acceptable and encouraged to
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  Speaker 5: live vastly below your potential? Now, I'm bringing this up
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  Speaker 5: because that's what quite a lot of us were given
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  Speaker 5: from the previous generation. That's what the millennials and Gen
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  Speaker 5: Z inherited, an adult pool full of parents and teachers
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  Speaker 5: and single mothers who didn't teach us anything about how
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  Speaker 5: to be valuable to ourselves or other people. They didn't
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  Speaker 5: pass down any of the important knowledge they were given
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  Speaker 5: from their parents, and that's caused our generations to have
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  Speaker 5: quite a few problems that we shouldn't have.
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 5: If you want to defeat that neglect and the propaganda
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  Speaker 5: you were taught as a kid while at the same
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  Speaker 5: time harming the people who harmed you when you were young,
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  Speaker 5: then become valuable. Your best revenge is always success. There
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  Speaker 5: is nothing horrible people hate more than to see their
• 11:01
  Speaker 5: ideas failing while their enemy's ideas succeed. Now, I've already
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  Speaker 5: made a lot of videos on building value, so I'm
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  Speaker 5: not going to bore people by repeating old material, but
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  Speaker 5: I will say this. If you want to be valuable,
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  Speaker 5: then you can never be finished improving. And I know
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  Speaker 5: that sounds obvious, but a lot of people don't act
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  Speaker 5: that way. You can see it here right on YouTube.
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  Speaker 5: There are many channels out there complaining that the algorithm
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  Speaker 5: killed their channel, when in reality, the reason their channels
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  Speaker 5: are dying is because they haven't improved at all since
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  Speaker 5: they started. There are many YouTubers out there that you
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  Speaker 5: can look at and say, wow, you produced the exact
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  Speaker 5: same content in the exact same way that you did
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  Speaker 5: five years ago. Well, I guess there's no point in
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  Speaker 5: watching you anymore because you haven't really grown and I
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  Speaker 5: can already predict everything you're going to say. Many YouTubers,
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  Speaker 5: as well as people in other professions, get complacent and stagnant.
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  Speaker 5: As the old saying goes, if you aren't getting better,
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  Speaker 5: then you're getting worse. The way you get better is
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  Speaker 5: by putting lots of effort into learning new things about
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  Speaker 5: a valuable skill. You get worse by being okay with
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  Speaker 5: the way you are, or by wasting time building skills
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  Speaker 5: that are worthless. It's really that simple. All you have
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  Speaker 5: to do is consistently put time into learning new things,
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  Speaker 5: and then put those new things you learned into practice
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  Speaker 5: after you learn them. But with that said, I think
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