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- Lucas: Luna, when was the last time you sat down and wrote out your biggest professional failure? I mean, really detailed it—what went wrong, why it happened, what you learned. Luna: Honestly? Never. I keep a brag file for wins, but failures go into a mental basement. Why, are you suggesting I dig them up? Lucas: Exactly. There's a growing line of thought that a deliberate inventory of failures—call it a 'failure resume'—can actually boost your credibility. Columbia Business School ran a study where they had mock candidates either disclose a failure voluntarily or stick to successes. The ones who shared a failure were rated as 2.5 times more credible. Luna: Two and a half times? That's huge. But doesn't it depend on how you frame it? If you just dump a sob story, that's not going to help. Lucas: Right, the framing is everything. The study used a specific structure: state the failure, what you learned from it, and then the concrete action you took to correct course. That signals self-awareness and resilience. It's not about wallowing—it's about showing you can diagnose mistakes and adapt. Luna: I can see how that would work in an interview. But what about in a salary negotiation? Would you pull out a failure resume then? Lucas: Surprisingly, yes. A hiring manager told me once that candidates who own their mistakes during negotiation seem less gamey. They're not just puffing up their accomplishments—they're giving you a full picture. It builds trust, and trust is leverage. You could say something like, 'I had a project three years ago that missed budget by 40 percent. Here's what I learned about cost control, and here's what I now deliver.' Luna: That is counterintuitive. In most of my career, the message has been 'highlight your strengths, hide your weaknesses.' What you're describing feels like a different playbook. Lucas: And you know, if today was actually useful to you, the way these stay ad-free is listener support. You can buy me a coffee at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It's a small gesture that keeps conversations like this going without any commercial breaks. Luna: Absolutely. This is the kind of concrete tactic I wish I'd had earlier in my career. Worth a coffee. Lucas: So let's talk about how to build one. First, pick three failures. Not the trivial ones like 'I forgot a meeting'—ones that had real consequences. A missed promotion, a blown presentation, a project that tanked. Write a one-paragraph narrative for each: context, what you did, what went wrong. Luna: Is there a risk of coming across as incompetent? If I list a bunch of failures, won't they think I'm a liability? Lucas: That's why you need to include the lesson and the fix. The study shows that without the corrective action, the credibility boost evaporates. It's the arc—failure, insight, change—that signals maturity. I'll give you my example: early in my reporting career, I wrote a story that had a factual error. It was embarrassing. But I wrote down my fact-checking process, overhauled it, and haven't had a correction since. When I tell that story in an interview, it says I'm teachable. Luna: Okay, so three failures with a learning arc. Then what? Do you just keep it in a drawer or actively share it? Lucas: You deploy it strategically. In an interview, you could say, 'I have three career failures I've studied. Want to hear one?' It's a conversation opener. In a performance review, you can add a 'lessons learned' section. In a negotiation, if they push back on a weakness, you already own it and show improvement. It takes the sting out of criticism. Luna: I think the hardest part is actually writing them down. I have a few failures that still sting a bit. Is that common? Lucas: Very. But the act of writing—structuring it—turns the emotional memory into a tool. You're not re-living the shame; you're distilling the lesson. There's actually research from Harvard on 'reflective writing' that shows it lowers anxiety and improves performance. Same principle. Luna: So you're saying I should schedule an hour this week to write my failure resume? And then maybe test it out in a low-stakes setting? Lucas: Exactly. Start with one. Then bring it up with a trusted colleague or mentor and see their reaction. Most people are hungry for authenticity. They'll appreciate you not pretending to be perfect. Luna: And if I decide not to share it, is just writing it still valuable? Lucas: Absolutely. The reflection alone can shift how you approach challenges. Knowing your patterns of failure—do you over-promise? miss details?—gives you a data set. You can spot triggers and avoid the same ditch twice. That's worth the hour. Luna: Alright, I'm sold. I'm going to try the three-failure resume this weekend. Lucas, thanks for pushing us into uncomfortable territory. Lucas: Sometimes the uncomfortable stuff gives you the strongest edge. Good luck with your failure resume—and if you build one, let us know how it goes.